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Hell o, beautiful souls! January is here with the excitement to the start of a New Year with endless possibilities. Although January is cold here in Wisconsin, the coolness has a cleansing feeling to it. There is something about taking a deep breath of cool air and letting it out. Turn to the sky letting the winter sun hit your face or witness the beauty of the snowﬂakes coming down as they kiss your cheeks. Either way it is cold, but there is beauty to be found in the air every day. This is the time of year where many goals are set from health and ﬁtness to personal, ﬁnancial, business, and beyond. These goals are often known as the great “New Year’s Resolutions”. Everyone’s feelings on resolutions are different. I personally do not make New Year’s Resolutions, but I love making vision boards. There is no right or wrong way to make a vision board. It’s all about you and what you want to send out into the universe by cutting out words and pictures from magazines and putting them on your very own board. It’s your vision. No matter what your feelings are on New Year’s resolutions, a vision board or wherever your beliefs may fall, the New Year is a new chapter in your life to make of it what you want it to be.
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The January issue of Queen of the Castle Magazine is appropriately themed, “New Year New Chapter”. As you take in all the incredible energy that surrounds us with the beginning of the New Year, ﬁnd time to enjoy your favorite hot beverage and sit back and soak up the uplifting articles and tips throughout the January issue. Keep warm through your January and ﬁnd beauty in the coolness of every day as you beautiful souls begin your new chapter.
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Finding Your Happee
Abby Marie Photography
By: Rachel Funk-Johnson
ere we are! 2017 is right in front of us and I couldn’t be more excited. Truly. I just simply love this time of year. Coming off of the holiday season means we potentially have spent a massive amount of time with family, friends and some self-reflection. Many of us will look back at 2016 with a sense of completion and peace while others of us will look at it with guilt, regret or shame. My mom used to call this the distinction of the “haves” and the “have-nots”. Sounds simple enough and we have all heard it time and time again. Be thankful. Be helpful. Be happy. If there were just a button that we could press to make thankful, helpful and happy instantly appear then we would all be living our lives joyously every day. Each of us internally has the ability to make up our minds in deciding what we embrace, what we let go and where we move forward. The tricky part in fully understanding this journey is that the map and route is different for everyone. Five years ago, I was only one year into a new decade of my life at the age of 31. 2011 was an epic year. It was complete with misery, failure, regret and the realization that I had been carrying an extra 20-30 pounds on my body for almost 10 years. Yikes. Time seemed to be racing into adulthood faster than I could manage with a husband, a corporate career and building my own business on nights and weekends. It seemed that it was just a blink of the eye and I was “old”. At least that is what my mind and body kept telling me and that is what I kept repeating to myself over and over again. So what’s a girl to do? Eat, drink wine, and be merry! Well, I had tried all of that and it just wasn’t working for me any longer. My pants didn’t fit, I had zero energy and while smiling on the outside, I was crumbling within. This was the year that I also cried every day as I drove to my job. Ever been there? It’s hard. Really hard. I should be grateful that I had a job, I should love all of my co-workers and I should just be happy. Notice all of the “shoulds” in the last sentence. Should equals control. When we tell ourselves that we should do this or should be that, we are trying to cast regulation over our lives. I was “shoulding” all over myself, all day, every day because I was trying to find some kind of control to explain the chaos I was really feeling but not quite ready to face.
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At this point in my life, I was a master in disguise. Once, I actually had a co-worker stop me in the hallway and ask, “Are you always happy?” I replied “Yes”, and made my way to my afternoon meeting. In my head I thought, “If he only knew.” We can be incredible at playing this game. Telling others what they want to hear or see because the sadness and shame is too unbearable to admit. We fear that it will scare others away and they don’t want to hear about our hurt, so it’s easier to just stuff it. What happens when you just can’t stuff it anymore? You take action. Taking action looks different for everyone who has been in this situation. If happy were a destination on a map then action would be the route or path that was made specifically just for you. It can start at any time from any location when you are lonely, frustrated, triggered or you are just plain ready. For me, it came in the form of gathering up all of my courage and stopping at the front desk of the YMCA and asking for a brochure about their personal training services. Gulp. I will NEVER forget that day as the bronzed, buff, size four goddess behind the desk floated the perfectly folded information toward me and told me to contact them if I had any questions or was ready to get started. Get Started? I sprinted out of there at a rate that would have earned me a gold medal. I felt all of it at once, fear, frustration and inadequacy but something was different. Inside of me, I had a desire, a hunger, I wanted to be happy, to feel better and I knew that exercise was going to be the first step. Call it intuition but the key to my happiness was literally in my hand inside that brochure. I made the call and decided to hire a personal trainer. Never, would I had imagined that this would be a defining moment in my life. I would love to tell you that the next year was easy and it all just feel into place. This is the part in the movie that jumps to the end where I am thin and happy and everything is perfect. That year was literally the start of my route, the first pit stop on my way to happy. Healing happened in that gym. Excitement of accomplishment realizing I can sprint. The agony of defeat on leg day. Connection with new people who thought differently. A mass dose of endorphins were created that literally got my mind feeling better and happier. But many other things had to shift and move, not just my body. There was a complete overhaul on my diet. Arby’s and frozen pizzas just weren’t cutting it. My mind had to grasp different ways of thinking. I found myself seeking out new books and thought processes above and beyond the lessons that my mom had handed down. I had to change jobs. This was huge. It wasn’t just changing a job, for me it was changing a career. Why? Because I had changed. A little over a year of fearing the personal trainer, I had become one and it continued to evolve from there. In the midst of my sadness, I was so wrapped up in myself but not in a way that was helping me move forward or get better. Once I started moving (literally) on my route toward happy, I found my passion. That passion is people. Individuals who are struggling just like I was or who have found their very January 2017
Photographer: Abby Marie Photography
Venue: Excite! Wellness Studio Chippewa Falls, WI
About the shoot: Both Rachel and the Wellness Studio were so inviting that I immediately felt comfortable. Her personality was so upbeat and personable that it is hard not to smile around her!
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own route on the map and are rocking it every day. Once this passion was unveiled it was like a freight train had come into my life and was ready to push through any obstacle. Four years later, registered yoga instructor, health/life coach and national speaker have been added to the career arsenal. The side business that I had been growing as a massage therapist was exploding. Everything was coming together because I had taken action and moved, pushed, plowed, lifted and launched myself. We have an opportunity every day to listen. Listen to our minds and what we are telling ourselves. Are we ‘shoulding’ or are we being? Here is a great way to dive into hearing yourself. Go back to your kid self. Take a moment and think about being in third grade. At that moment of your life what did you want to be when you grew up? Have you achieved some form of this? I guarantee if you do, you will ﬁnd yourself closer to destination happy. For me, my third grade hopes and dreams were to be a teacher. Obviously in the mind of an eight year old, it was a traditional sense of standing at the front of the classroom. Changing careers has allowed me to teach everyday even though the classroom looks a little differently than I had anticipated. Finding happy is something that I hope we all continue to strive for every day. Checking our map and route to push ourselves a little bit closer. It’s amazing what we can achieve when we drive forward and try. We might fall down or we might fail. The cool part in failing is that we are trying, not sitting or ‘shoulding’. We are out there risking failure in hopes of success. Now, as a teacher helping others get on their route toward happy, I LOVE seeing hope and watching it all unfold. The best part for me, is that the journey has moved beyond the body and the gym. Mental health is a serious component of working toward our happiness daily. We have to be ready and willing to talk about where we are at, whether it’s in good or bad place.
As friends and family, we need to let others talk and stop ‘shoulding’. Allow others to open up. Also referring them to professionals is huge and so needed. These conversations are some of the bravest that I have ever heard. As a listener, they can be scary, but holding the space for someone will help. Sometimes we truly understand what it means to be happy because we have felt the opposite. We have been courageous enough in the dark to try to ﬁnd or ﬁght for the light. One of my favorite songs has the lyric, “The world exploded into love all around me.” Whenever I am faced with a story or concern from someone else that doesn’t feel good, I come back to that. Surrounding others with love is needed so that they feel comfortable in revealing where they are hurting, sad or scared. Releasing these into the world allows us to be honest with ourselves and for the healing to begin. Each day I put my acronym of H.A.P.P.E.E. to work to see if I’m in alignment of my destination. Health, Attitude, Positivity, Participation, Evolution and Excitement. This is the formula that I come back to and check in on. If one of theses is missing, I immediately look to where I can ﬁll the void. Trial and error brought me to this way of matching my needs to reality. In addition, it was respecting the process. The journey is not always easy but if we can honor the hard times as a piece of the process we have a clearer understanding and respect for what we have accomplished. Be bold and brave in ﬁnding your happy. Grab your map, know that your route will be uniquely brilliant, and get ready for some truly awesome moments along the way.
Dreams Don't Work Unless You Do By: Jenn Chapman
he month of January is synonymous with words and phrases like resolutions, fresh start, and new beginnings. For Mallory Weggemann, it’s the anniversary of her paralysis, a reminder of a life altering event and yet how far she has come.
University of Missouri to study journalism, and get back into swimming on some level once she was pain free. That plan disappeared the day she became paralyzed, but perhaps not all of it.
On January 21st, 2008, just a freshman in college, Mallory went in for her third and final epidural injection to treat back pain.
“I had to settle into my new normal and yet I was still in denial that it would be permanent. I always thought some day I will walk again, no way this is forever. I felt different. I felt like a deer in headlights and everyone was staring at me,” she says.
“I walked in but I never walked out,” she shares. Things didn’t go according to plan that day. The numbness experienced when you receive an injection never wore off. Mallory was transferred to a hospital and returned home six weeks later having to adjust to life in a wheelchair. “The accident, injury, however you want to call it, changed me from this stubbornly independent girl to needing help with the simplest of tasks. My dad would carry me upstairs so I could take a shower,” Mallory says. The Eagan, Minnesota native grew up a competitive swimmer but tremendous back pain her senior year of high school forced her to take a break. The plan was get treated while attending community college, apply to out of state schools like the
Call it fate but that spring the Paralympic swimming trials for the 2008 Games in Beijing were being held in Minneapolis. Mallory didn’t know anyone with a physical impairment growing up. She didn’t know there was such a thing as disability sports, let alone the Paralympics. So the first weekend of April, less than 3 months after her paralysis, she found herself in her wheelchair in the stands watching athletes just like her. Two days later Mallory and her dad met with a local club coach Jim Anderson who was coaching at the University of Minnesota. Mallory purposely didn’t bring a swimsuit with her. “I wasn’t completely convinced I would get back in the water. The Gophers were just wrapping up practice and Jim’s team about to start and he tells me to put my suit on and get in. A
friend I grew up with who was currently swimming for the University of Minnesota came up to talk to me. After catching up she was like ‘hey let me go get you a suit from my locker’ and out she comes with a suit, goggles, cap and a towel,” shares Mallory. So Mallory found herself there in the locker room just staring at the suit for a few minutes. So many thoughts swirling through her head. How could she get back in the place that she once loved but now seemed so frightening? “I didn’t bring my suit because I was so terrified of water. I had done pool therapy and it was just awful. I kept telling myself I would love the water again and every time I went back to pool therapy I couldn’t shake that feeling of fear. Something that used to be second nature to me was now my greatest fear,” Mallory says candidly. Mallory reluctantly put the suit on, made her way to the pool, and slipped in a lane. “I remember popping up when I slid in and thinking this isn’t my body. Jim looked at me and probably saw my look of terror and told me to just swim. I started swimming and my legs just dragged behind me but after four or five strokes it felt like me again. It was the first time I felt myself moving forward on my own free will,” she pauses. In that pause you can tell she’s reflecting on a moment that is forever engrained in her memory.
“The wheelchair felt so unnatural to me,” she continued, “but swimming was so natural, so as scared as I was that day, I was so glad I did it.” Every day for the next two weeks Mallory did a full two-hour work out with the team. She had a goal in mind. She wanted to make it to the next Paralympic trials. Getting back in the water became a game, a mix of bringing out Mallory’s competitive nature and finding herself again. Memorial day weekend Mallory entered her first meet. “I raced little kids and they beat me. Every one of them. It was humbling but it didn’t really matter because I was racing again and I realized I still had a competitive drive,” Mallory says. That summer she raced in her first para meet. March of 2009 she was officially classified as a para athlete and that same weekend, Mallory not only celebrated her 20th birthday, but she swam fast enough to make the USA national team. That August Mallory broke three world records at the PanAm Championships in Edmonton. And that’s when reality struck, Mallory needed bigger goals than just qualify for the Paralympic trials. She went on to represent Team USA in the Short Course World Championships in Rio where she won five gold medals. And thus the journey began to the 2012 London Paralympic Games.
“It’s so surreal. You think, you dream, you plan, you work your tail off day in and day out but nothing prepares you for when you wheel, or step, or whatever you do to get on that pool deck for the Games,” she says. “London will be such a special part of my memories because it was four year journey to see where I was able to take my life. London symbolized the ‘moving on’ aspect because as hard as January 2008 was, I had moved on. It’s ok to enjoy my life moving forward. There are still things I’m going to grieve, but it’s ok to move on,” she adds. And move on she did. At the London Games Mallory won the gold medal in record setting fashion in the 50 freestyle and added a bronze medal as part of the 4x100 medley relay. Like most athletes, she wanted more. In addition to setting her sights on the 2016 games in Rio, Mallory began motivational speaking around the country. Feeling like she finally got her identity back, Mallory experienced something she says felt worse than the initial paralysis. While using a wheelchair accessible shower in a hotel in New York in 2014, Mallory fell and landed on her arm. This time she found herself with permanent nerve damage. She couldn’t return to the pool. “I honestly felt like I was relearning how to be paralyzed again. My arm injury almost seemed to rock me more than my paralysis did. There were some things I couldn’t do. We didn’t know if I would be able to swim competitively again with that much time out of the water. I was strongly considering retirement,” she shares. After six months out of the water, Mallory reached out to Steve Van Dyne, the long time Eagan High School swim coach who coached Mallory and her two sisters. The two began meeting at the Lifetime Fitness in Lakeville, what they call Mallory’s own little Olympic training center. She had overcome so much, the thought of letting go of her Rio dreams was unbearable. So for 30 minutes, twice a week Mallory and Steve practiced. Eight months before the games she was able to increase the training to four to five times a week.
“There were a lot of naysayers thinking I wouldn’t make a comeback after another permanent injury. You know, as painful as training through an injury was, I knew that if I went to trials in 2016 and had any doubt that I hadn’t given my all in training and I didn’t make the Games, than that would be more painful,” adds Mallory. So she refused to let what happened in that shower in New York hold her down. Mallory describes the trials in June 2016 as an emotional rollercoaster. Three days of events and the team named on the following day. She doesn’t remember ever crying when she made a team, she was usually just excited. After all she was the world record holder in multiple events. This time though the team was told in dramatic fashion. Only the athletes were allowed in the conference room in Charlotte, North Carolina where a coach read out the roster in alphabetical order. With a last name like Weggemann, Mallory knew the wait would be long. She could see people’s reactions when their letter was passed without the mention of their name. She held her breath…
crazy like I won the gold medal. My coach had both arms in the air with tears in his eyes and I realized that no medal could make that moment any better than it was,” her voice trails off. Listening to her describe the moment, I felt tears welling up in my eyes and told her she was making me cry. Quickly Mallory responds “Reliving that, I’m making myself cry…that was a very emotional race for me. It was no longer about the medal but that I put my heart into it.” Her passion, her determination, and her strength resonate through her message to youth…to dream. Dream big and don’t be afraid to do so. “January is the anniversary of my paralysis. We celebrate the injury, because we are moving forward. You could look at what you lost or you could look at what you gain. January is personally a big month in my own life,” Mallory says with a smile.
“I wheeled out of the room and over to my coach, family, and ﬁancé. They see in my hand is the t-shirt and bear they give us when we make the team. We all started crying,” Mallory says. How could they not? She was the deﬁnition of resilient. Paralyzed at 18 turned gold medalist, record holder, and now with a second permanent injury she was on her way to do it again. Yet, she knew these Paralympics would be different. Her training had been drastically changed and her ability a little more limited than before. “I vividly remember the last event of Rio. I was swimming the 200 IM. It was my dads’ birthday. I was in lane 2, which is my lucky lane. When they said my name at the start, my family went nuts. I swam a personal best, the last time I swam that fast was in 2010. I hit the wall and see my time but then see my place. I was 5th,” she says with a sense of disappointment. She was leaving Rio without a medal.
And in case this upbeat, positive light hasn’t made you reach for the tissues yet perhaps this part of her story will. Closing out 2016, Mallory marries the love her life, her agent Jeremy, which she met on this crazy journey after signing with his sports agency in 2011. For the last few months, Mallory and her father have been at Mayo Clinic in Rochester twice a week. Mallory is learning to use long leg braces so she can walk down the aisle, with her dad holding on to her injured left arm, as Cannon-D plays. On their drive to Mayo they listen to music choices for their father-daughter dance, because in addition to walking down the aisle with dad, and walking out with Jeremy, she will dance the ﬁrst dance at the reception with her husband, and dance the father-daughter dance too.
“I realized that it didn’t matter. I looked up and those nine people decked out in USA gear were standing on their feet going January 2017
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ometimes it’s the things we can’t even imagine ourselves doing that become the adventure of our lifetime. After all, how many could picture themselves trekking the Grand Canyon from rim to rim? Certainly not Debbie Callif, that is until she heard about Project Athena.
How it All Began Debbie’s husband Howard attended an underwriters conference where Project Athena’s founder Robyn Benincasa was the keynote speaker. She’s a CNN hero, a Guinness Book of World Record Holder, a San Diego firefighter, a 10x Ironman finisher, the list could go on and on, but this story isn’t about her (although she certainly made it possible). The end of Robyn’s adventure career gave way to her creation, Project Athena. “My husband came back and told me stories of Robyn and as he was telling them I got all choked up. To this day I don’t know why,” she says as tears well up in her eyes. “That night we watched all these videos about Project Athena and then
went out to walk our dog. During that walk we said to each other, “This is crazy, who would do this? By the end of the walk we said let’s do this’,” shares Debbie. “This” meant becoming a part of the Project Athena journey. The non-profit’s mission is to help women survivors of medical or traumatic setbacks achieve adventurous dreams. Those survivors are the “Athenas” on the adventure. They receive free travel, coaching, equipment, and encouragement. It’s made possible by the fundraisers, known as “Gods” and “Goddesses”, who also share in the adventure and help cover the cost. That night Debbie and Howard applied to be a God and Goddess on the Grand Canyon trip. After what Debbie says was three sleepless nights, they found out their 30 years of marriage was about to enter unfamiliar territory. Debbie’s equally long career as a therapist, 31 to be exact, the last 21 years helping women with severe pelvic pain, was going to parallel her own personal journey, helping women feel alive again.
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The Training Straight from Debbie’s mouth, she will tell you that by no means does she consider herself an athlete, at least not the kind that hikes over 43 miles on one of the nation’s most visited National Parks. Although Debbie once completed a 100-mile bike ride and is a self-described frequent neighborhood walker, she knew this training would be unlike anything she had ever done in her life. After officially signing on, the Callifs received their training plan. In order to participate they had to GPS their treks. They had to log what they ate and drank during their workouts. This meant eating 300 calories and drinking 20 ounces every hour. Their guidance was provided by Project Athena adventure coach Vanessa Spiller.
Vividly she remembers the day they walked up and down stairs at a public venue for 3 hours straight, a requirement in the training. Perhaps she remembers it so well because of the many onlookers that stopped to ask what they were doing. “It was so cool the people we met even through our training. Our dedication made people take notice and we could share about Project Athena’s purpose. We woke up early to not skip our workouts and people would say they were being inspired in their own walks because of what we were doing with Project Athena,” Debbie says. Each step along the way the Callifs reminded themselves it was a step towards funding a survivors’ opportunity to become an athlete again.
“Debbie embraced the training and the challenge with open arms and an open heart,” says Vanessa, who joined Project Athena in 2012 as an Athena during a Rim to Rim to Rim challenge, now she’s one of their leaders.
“My husband said we would run out of things to say to each other. We would just be walking together. There were times I was so tired in the training that I would end up walking 3 steps behind him for an hour,” she says.
“She worked hard. Honestly, she always did a little extra. Our Grand Canyon adventure training is rigorous to say the least. I think Debbie uncovered a piece of herself that she didn’t even know existed. If it’s possible it made her shine even brighter,” Vanessa added.
Physically they were tired and mentally they grew weary when Debbie sought some extra guidance.
“I did everything she said because I knew on my own I wouldn’t make it. During the training I would sometimes get discouraged and I would call Vanessa and just say ‘I can’t do this’. And she was so encouraging. She would remind me this wasn’t about me. I was helping others to live out their adventurous dreams,” says Debbie. There was something about Wisconsin that made their training a bit of a challenge. The goal was to train with about 7,000 feet of elevation gain. Wisconsin isn’t exactly known for it’s mountainous environment. “We would do steps. I mean over and over with 30 pound backpacks on,” shares Debbie.
“Our son had a friend who just got out of the military. I asked him with all the marching he did, how did he stay focused. He told me he would pick a song and sing the song in his head over and over. That day I picked the Mama Mia song and when I got discouraged Howard would say ‘Put Mama Mia on’,” Debbie said with great laughter.
The Trek The Callifs had never been to the Grand Canyon before, but beginning at 3am at the end of September with a group of 38 hikers plus 6 trail angels (these are the Project Athena staff who takes great care of the group, they began their trek from rim to rim, and oh yes to rim. It called for hiking down across the canyon, then back up to see the north rim, spending the night there, then down the north rim and then up another trail on the south rim. January 2017
The ﬁrst day called for 14 ½ hours of hiking before camping out. On that trip there were 2 Athenas who had overcome medical setbacks that shared their story with the group. “The next day we woke up and my husband was like ‘we can’t do it’ because we were so tired. But just like our training we got out of ourselves and made it not about us,” remembers Debbie. On the second day Debbie says there was a woman in the group who became terriﬁed at how high up they were. We opted to stay back with her. With a half hour left in the hike, and motivation and energy at an all time minimum, Howard told Debbie to put Mama Mia on. Instantly she shot ahead of the entire group, a sudden burst of energy that reminded her of all the work and training she put into this trip. As the hike was coming to its ﬁnal steps Debbie decided she didn’t want to lead the ﬁnish. Instead she turned to the woman who had been overcome with the fear of height. “I told her to exit the canyon ﬁrst. Afterwards she kept thanking me over and over. She told me how important it was for her to be the ﬁrst one out of the canyon. I truly learned that it’s so not about me. I had nothing to prove but I helped instead,” she humbly explained.
The lesson That day it was reinforced to Debbie that if you’re feeling sad or scared the best thing to do is help another person out. “We all have to ﬁnish together. It’s unbelievable how people will rely on each other when they see how working together does work. Whether it be that someone carried a backpack, or a water bottle, the world would be better if we all just did what
we did in the canyon,” says Debbie. “It’s always fun to have couples join our adventure. Debbie and Howard were no exception. One was right there with the other. I think they found a new level to their relationship by doing this together. We’re stronger together,” says Vanessa. What Debbie thought was going to just be a neat adventure for she and her husband to grow closer turned into a trip that would help in her life’s greatest struggle. Six months after their Grand Canyon adventure Debbie’s mother got really sick. Debbie moved her from Chicago to Milwaukee. “Before you go on the hike, Robyn gives a pep talk. She tells us ‘whatever it takes we are going to help each other get out of the canyon’, and she gave us all a bracelet that says. “whatever it takes”. I had put that on my mirror when I returned from the expedition. When my mom got sick, I put that bracelet on,” she pauses as the tears well in her eyes, “My mom gets sick and I think how in the world will I get through this? I wore that bracelet every day until she passed. That reminder of the trip gave me the strength.” A strength that Debbie believes is felt from other women and men that get to experience a Project Athena trip. Want to know more about Project Athena? Think you qualify as an Athena or would like to be a God or Goddess? Check out projectathena.org
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By: Kim Larson
he New Year is upon us and it’s time to consider switching up your regular workout routine. What? You don’t have one? Then this is also a perfect time to start. Maybe you’ve found yourself losing interest in your current exercise ritual. Maybe you’ve plateaued with your fitness goals. Or perhaps you have just lost your zip. Don’t worry! This is absolutely normal and it happens to all of us at one time or another. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, has times in their life where healthy habits seem more like a chore than a blessing. It can be a struggle to fit a healthy routine into our hectic lives. Whether its nutrition or fitness goals there’s no better time than now to revisit your plan or start a new one. If you’ve already been working out, the good news is that shaking up your routine is actually beneficial for you! It seems that your body can become accustomed to a workout over time so the effects of that workout diminish. Your body is smart and it learns to compensate. If you’ve been working out for a while you may need to get out of your comfort zone to break through that plateau. Think about it this way. The more you do a particular exercise the easier it becomes for your body. The easier it becomes the
less your body has to work to perform the exercise. Since you aren’t working as hard, you may burn less calories. When you begin to burn less calories you can plateau. And then, well, many of us become frustrated from a lack of results.
Yes, there are things you can do! There are small changes that can make a huge difference. Begin by changing the frequency that you perform a particular exercise. That means if you don’t work out at all; start! If you exercise three times a week move up to four or five days. Try increasing the intensity by adding to the weight you are lifting or increasing the speed or incline if you are running or walking. You can also increase the time of your workout by just adding 5 to 15 more minutes. Interval training could also be incorporated to increase time and intensity. If you walk consider adding intervals of running. As you get better, add longer lengths of running and shorter time frames of walking. Changing the type of exercise you participate in can shake things up as well. Try a completely different type of exercise such as rowing, swimming or bicycling.
“If you want things to change you have to change what you’re doing.” 7 Reasons to Shake Things Up » If you change up your workout routine your body will respond! Variety is the spice of life. » Switching up your workout routines throughout the week allows your body to have time to heal and recover. Rest Days are important! » Varying your workout will possibly prevent injuries from overusing the same muscles. » Change helps prevent your body from the dreaded “Plateau”. This includes plateaus in weight loss or your goals in your fitness routine. » Variety helps prevent boredom and loss of interest. » It’s good for your brain to try something new. » There are many ways to shake things up.
Is It Exercise or Fun? Exercise can mean different things to different people but no matter what, exercise should be FUN! If you’re just beginning maybe walking will be your new routine. Enlist a friend to walk with you and enjoy their company. Many times it’s all about perception. If you go on a Saturday hike through a park you’ve never visited before is the hiking exercise or is it an enjoyable experience in a beautiful park?
Take advantage of the seasonal changes to allow you to do something different instead of thinking of it as strictly exercise. During the winter months, you can still enjoy the outdoors by snowshoeing, downhill skiing, skating, or cross country skiing. There are many places that will rent equipment so that you can attempt the sport first. Additionally, make it a family outing. These are excellent ways to burn calories, enjoy nature, incorporate a new exercise into your week and make memories with loved ones.
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t’s a new year, 2017, and you’ve already been making plans to lose weight, save more money, finally start that business you’ve been thinking about, or begin work on the addition on the house.. Right?
We live in a pro consumerist society that tells us we need “stuff” and “things” to fulfill our need for happiness. Ringing a bell??? Riddle me this – is your happiness ever sustained for a long period of time after you buy that something? Likely not. Most buys are simply instant gratification. It sustains us for the time being, until we see something that the Jones’s have. We assume that their life is much “better” than our own, and think it must be because they have that new car, or that new phone, or whatever the latest trend is at that time. Do you seek self-love and true happiness?Then look no further. Go within. Stuff and things will never make you happy. Nor will another person. Happiness comes from within and radiates outward. You are responsible for your own happiness – so start 2017 off with you! Have you ever looked, I mean really looked, at a child at play? They haven’t
By: Michelle Huczek
a care in the world and they always have the BIGGEST smile on their face. Do you know why? Ignorance is Bliss. They have not yet been tarnished with the trials of “adulthood.” They get to live from their soul and do what they want, because they can. Why does that have to stop as an adult? I’m here to remind you, it doesn’t! In 2017, live your life for that inner child that is still inside you!
Here’s a quick activity to get you started: When you’ve got some quiet time for yourself, grab a journal and start to remember, and write down all of the things you used to love to do when you were young. Remember as far back into your childhood as you can. Go back before grade school…what was your favorite toy? In grade school, what was your favorite subject? In high school? In college? Who was your best friend? What games did you play? Did you play a sport? Remember those times when you felt you were in your element. Those times where everything just felt right in the world. Those times you were connected with who you really are, your soul.
Here’s a page from my life – Some of my joy in my past involves creating through art (paint, colored pencil, clay) and dance. In those mediums, I am free. I can make anything with my hands. When it comes to music and dance, I can feel the beat and rhythm in my body. I can see in my mind a complete choreographed dance before it’s even performed. Soooo…I’m adding more painting and coloring, and as soon as my body is healed, I will be adding dance back into my life! When you finish your journaling assignment, pick a few of those activities you wrote down that you can START to dabble into again…AND DO IT! Thoughts are the start but we must also ACT to generate change and move forward. Following your own rhythm is allowing your pure essence to come out. In other words, let go of “what other people may think.” Do it for you because when it comes down to it, we’re all we’ve got. So, dig in and let your freak flag fly sista!
Going By: Tracy Hougum
aving a fresh start in the New Year is a great concept. However, the biggest question I have as a Life Coach is why wait for January 1, 2017? Lasting resolutions happen when you are motivated internally to make a change. Many people jump on the January 1st bandwagon because society is saying this is the prime time to do it. Let’s face it: starting something new in January can be an obstacle due to weather, post-holiday exhaustion, or lack of funds. If you want to increase your chances for success think about these obstacles ahead of time. The most lasting changes happen when several things are in place.
Before you even proclaim a resolution, do it from a place of resonant choice. Saying I should really lose some weight, get in shape, or give up smoking isn’t enough. “Should” statements are usually spurred from negative inner voices telling you what society values. Ask yourself, what do I value about losing weight, being in shape, or paying off debt? What does it internally give you? How would it feel to be at that weight; what activities could you envision yourself doing from this new place? Life coaching is essential in this process. A trained coach can evoke what transformation looks like, feels like, and also has the skills to recognize what the inner voices are saying that might stand in your way.
Resolutions need to be specific and measurable. Saying I am going to lose weight isn’t enough. You need to set a specific weight with a time line. Losing more than 1-2 pounds a week isn’t healthy or realistic in the long run. If fitness is your goal, set a goal around minutes running without stopping or steps per day using a step counter. There are so many great apps out there that integrate with your phone or other devices. There are apps for calorie counting that have very comprehensive food data bases or the ability to scan labels.
Research by the University of Scranton shows that 25% of resolvers don’t stick with a resolution by the seventh day. If you want to stay in the other 75% get your team assembled. Try a diverse group rather than your standby friends who might let you slide based on your history of good times and comfort with each other. Accountability is huge. As a Life Coach, my clients know I am following up with them. I’m asking the tough questions, what are you doing? By when? And how will you let me know you did it?
If you’re setting a fitness goal, do activities that bring you joy. If you have never been a runner try spinning; if you have two left feet, try yoga or a kettle bell class. Too many people assume that fitness can only be accomplished through their old standby methods. What worked in your 20’s might not work so well in your 50’s. Think about weight training. I personally have gone down over three dress sizes and have only lost about 10 pounds. Many people put too much emphasis on pounds lost rather than muscle gained. So let your clothes be your guide, not the scale.
A different way to stay committed is to throw some cold hard cash into it. I have had fellow coaches challenge clients to give money to them to pass along to their most disliked cause if they don’t follow through by a given date. Nothing screams motivation more than the thought of that one. If happiness is your goal for 2017, you are not alone. As a Life Coach, I caution people who think “happy” is some end point though. Do collect moments of gratitude and happiness, do what you love, or choose to love what you do, take care of your body, grow yourself inside, and learn ways to handle conflict and emotion. The biggest skill I grow in clients is their ability to shift perspective. When people understand that negative perspectives are a choice, it can be life changing. Learning ways to actively hold a different perspective is a skill that can be used for the rest of your life. Structure and accountability give people support to do the work to change how they think about a situation. Not all choices in life are easy, but if you choose because of a value you hold, goal you have, or vision you have for a healthier more joyful new year, you will make changes for a lifetime. Dig deep into things that get in your way. Is it really about the weight, or is it relationships or how you handle stress? Emotional eating, unhappiness in your job, or relationships impact your life more than just your waistline. Think about the whole you in 2017.
By: Jenn Chapman
Julie Thomson, Fall Creek
Simply put, confidence is rooted in trust. Trust that has the ability to infuse belief or assurance in an individual or situation. Confidence is a continuous focus for those who work in youth development. A 2016 study conducted by the health care product company, Dove, found that only 11% of girls globally are comfortable describing themselves as ‘beautiful’ and yet 72% of girls responded that they feel pressure to be beautiful. This is just one small example of the gap between perceived expectations and actual self-esteem that exist in our female culture today. Kim Gillett, who is entering her 4th year as council director for the Girls on the Run Program in the Chippewa Valley, sees this disparity first hand. However, it’s something her program is combating on a regular basis by giving girls the correct tools to facilitate positive thinking and self- awareness. Julie Thomson, Fall Creek
“We are empowering them by teaching them life skills. As parents you want to talk to them about body image, self confidence, and relationships, but sometimes we just don’t get to do that,” says Kim. “This program does it by getting them moving, creating discussion about what a healthy lifestyle looks like, but also teaching them how important it is to have a healthy mind as well,” Kim adds. GOTR is a national organization that opened its first chapter in 1996 in Charlotte, North Carolina. It was first introduced to the Eau Claire area in 2006 beginning with just 8 young runners. The GOTR Chippewa Valley celebrated its 10th year in 2016 with 340 members from grades 3 through 5 and 120 volunteer coaches at 26 different locations across the Chippewa Valley. The organization puts together a 10-week program that begins in February and ends in May. There are 2 sessions a week where the girls meet to run and learn life skills. The conclusion of the program has each girl finish a 5k race in Eau Claire.
The volunteer coaches go through free training where they learn how to create a non-competitive and safe environment for their athletes. This aids the conversations that develop where the girls learn how to handle different scenarios or struggles. “We teach the girls that there are some statements that are necessary to get their sentiment across. “I feel... when you...” statements are something they can articulate if a conflict were to arise in their life,” shares Kim. When children understand how they can address an uncomfortable or unwelcomed situation their confidence is boosted. The ability to have a constructive approach to a difficult circumstance let’s them feel more control over the outcome and therefore allow them the freedom to express themselves in a positive way. “We also talk to them about the ‘pressing the pause button’. What we try to do is give the girls tools to use when they need to stop an action that isn’t positive,” says Kim. Julie Thomson, Fall Creek
And with a glowing endorsement like that, it’s easy to see why the program’s numbers have risen in the last decade. It’s not just the coaches that are taking notice. The testimonies of girls that have gone through the program have let Kim and her staff know that GOTR has tremendous value. “One girl, whose parents were going through a divorce, wrote an essay at school that she was struggling but Girls on the Run helped her realize she was strong, she was important, and she could get through it because of her teammates,” says Kim. Julie Thomson, Fall Creek
More Than Numbers “Just this last week a coach from a middle school track team talked to me at the school. He has been coaching girl’s and boy’s track for years. He told me that in the years that GOTR has been at his school there is a notable difference in the girls attitudes and behaviors,” Kim says with great pride.
Kim’s success stories could go on and on. One young girl who seemed to have absent parents was generally quiet throughout much of the program. The coaches became concerned about her. On the day of the 5k she crossed the finish line and told her coaches that it was her best day ever. Another little girl who was described as very bright but very shy, finished the program and ended up standing in front of her entire school of 300 kids to share a story. January 2017
Major Points of Emphasis Much of the curriculum remains the same from year to year as the diverse group of girls are taught to build each other up through friendship and encouragement. The coaches teach about what it means to use your words and conversations to be uplifting to others. They share how to spread gratitude instead of gossip. Of course, with all of the running, the group learns how to build healthy habits along the way.
advises Kim. In addition to that, she says, focus on them learning a skill, not perfecting it. The focus should remain on personal performance rather than outperforming others. This can apply to academics, the arts, sports, basically any activity where your child can be compared to another. Let them base their achievement off how far they have come and what they are learning, not where their peers are at. A similar approach could be made for adults as well. “We all have different goals. Set a reachable goal, not an unrealistic one,” says Kim. And it’s not just moms that need to be building up their daughters. Dads play a vital role in this as well. “Dads, don’t ever stop hugging your daughter. Even when they are a teen and they are not as willing to hug back. Positive male role models are amazing. And secondly, show respect by living it,” Kim says.
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One of the biggest changes to the program came last year. Thanks to the increase use of social media, GOTR had to address online presence. “Bullying has changed from not just words, but to what’s happening online. It totally changed how we look at different aspects of the program. The coaches had to talk about it quite a bit. It was one of my biggest eye openers in the program. We have to be teaching our kids how to recognize healthy habits online as well,” says Kim. How to help foster conﬁdence at home While programs like GOTR are great for building up character and strength, moms and dads can help too. Kim says that even though most parents lead busy lives, the best thing they can do for their growing girl is be present. “Actually stop to listen to them. It can be priceless,”
With the program’s success has come a demand for continuation. In 2017 a new program, Heart and Soul, will be working with girls in grades 6 through 8. Heart and Soul’s emphasis will be to reach middle school students on not just what to do in situations, but how to be leaders in those situations. Interested in sponsoring Girls on the Run? Want to register your daughter for the program? Or would you like to coach? Check out Girls on the Run at gotrchippewavalley.org
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Materials 3 Large rubber bands Baking tray White paint
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Snowball Fight Painting This activity is great for little fingers to practice fine motor skills! Put a sheet of black paper on your baking sheet. Stretch the 3 rubber band around the baking sheet and spread them out so there is at least a few inches between each rubber band. Have your little one paint slowly and carefully on one of the rubber bands. Before the paint dries on the rubber band, hold down the try and have your little one pinch the rubber band, pull it up andâ€Śâ€Ślet it go with a SMACK! Watch a snow ball fight appear on the paper! Have your little one paint the other rubber bands and try the snow ball fight again. You can move the rubber bands to different spots on the tray to fill up the whole paper or try other colors of paint and paper to create different colorful snow storms.
Motherhood & Happiness By: April
f happiness is such a simple concept, why is it so hard to obtain once you become a mother? Is it because our days start to blend together, the to-do lists keep getting longer or that everything seems dirty all the time? Don’t get me wrong, I cannot imagine my life without my son, but something changes when you become a parent. For me that something was happiness. I was a tired, overly busy and stressed out new mom. I felt like I needed two more arms and a 25th hour in my day. I thought to myself, “Is this what life is supposed to be like when you have kids?”. I was unhappy and didn’t realize it right away. Happiness was something I felt I just didn’t have time for in-between the diaper changes, feedings, and everything else I normally did prior to having a child. Then at a meeting last summer someone posed the question “What is your why?”. I immediately thought to myself - family. Over the next couple of months, I realized my need to tackle the to-do lists and strive to reach the unobtainable “superwoman” status had forced me to lose sight of my true goal of spending time with my family. Nowhere in the definition of superwoman does it say we as mothers need to get everything done or that everything needs to be perfect. Actually, superwoman is defined as a woman who succeeds in having a career and raising a family. In a weird sense, motherhood and my thought of what superwoman actually meant distracted me from what was really important. Prior to this epiphany, I was just doing things because I felt they had to be done and done perfectly or I was failing. Every moment I was distracted I missed out on something great and missed out on my “why”.
My perception of motherhood changed after reading Hands Free Life, by Rachel Macy Stafford; a book about overcoming distraction as a mother. The first chapter talked about moments, and how even the smallest of moments could make a big difference. From that point forward I vowed to embrace as many moments with my family as I could, even if those moments only lasted 5 minutes. Living my “why” by recognizing moments to stop and spend time with my family started bringing me happiness almost immediately. Time with my family and my overall happiness should not be determined by how much I get done in a day or how perfect I get something to look. It finally dawned on me - happiness was simple as long as I allow it to happen. Distractions (whatever they may be) eat us up and rob us of our time. The more distractions we have the more we lose sight of ourselves and our happiness. As mothers we will always have a lot going on around us and learning to focus on what is important is key to maintaining our happiness. Is having all of the laundry done, a super clean house and everything checked off the to-do list really important if we are sacrificing the reason we wanted to become a mother in the first place? I still struggle with distractions on a daily basis (as most mothers do), but now I am more aware of them and how they affect my overall happiness. Now, more than ever, I feel like I am living my “why” and that makes me very happy!
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By: Stacey Whaley By: Stacey Whaley
We spend a significant amount of our time working. We spend time getting ready for work, driving to work, and then we have the hours spent actually doing the work. Now think about adding in the amount of time spent distracted by our work, mentally preoccupied as we mull through our work projects, challenges, and team relationships. In order to keep up with the increasing personal and professional demands, we use technology to help us “get it all done.” Now the work boundaries are getting fuzzier and fuzzier and our working hours getting longer and longer. When you love your career, feel supported and appreciated by your leaders, and are working with great team members, it makes it easier to balance these ever-increasing demands. So, the question is, do you even like the work you do much less love your career? I’m not asking if you love every detail of your day-to-day tasks and activities, I’m talking about how you feel about the work you do. Are you frequently complaining to friends and family members about how miserable you are? Or maybe, you feel stuck because you know there is no future at the company. Do you secretly wish you could start your own business? Are you being treated poorly? Maybe you do not feel valued, or even, are aware of unethical behavior that is happening. You know you are unhappy and miserable but just don’t know what to do, so you just keep getting up every day just doing the same thing, feeling stuck and powerless. My challenge to you is that you CAN do something about it, you can stand up, take the leap and change your career!
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If you knew you wouldn’t fail, what would you do? Would you apply for that promotion? Quit the 9 to 5 and launch your own business venture? If you are anything less than ecstatic to jump out of bed each morning to grasp your day, here are steps to take in order to navigate your new career adventure!
What do you value most in life? Take time to reﬂect on what you value most in life. This helps to create a ﬁlter you can “bump” your decisions against. If you value rules and structure, then you know you’ll want to avoid a company that is known for being wacky and lax. If you value staying close to your family, you know that you need to pursue passions that will allow you to maintain that closeness in proximity and/or time.
Reﬂect on the roles you’ve loved the most. When trying to ﬁgure out what your next career step should be, look backwards ﬁrst! Think back to all the different jobs you’ve had, the different teams you’ve been a part of. Think about the volunteering you’ve done and the hobbies that you have enjoyed the most. What was it about that role, that team, that task that you loved? From this reﬂection, you gain clarity and where you want to spend your time going forward!
Have faith in yourself and your abilities. It matters how you speak to yourself. Knowing what you value most in life, reﬂecting on the roles you’ve loved, and gaining clarity on where your natural strengths and abilities lie will mean nothing if you do not have faith in yourself. You need to have faith in your ability to persevere, have faith in your ability to take on a new adventure, faith in your ability to be successful. If you are telling yourself that you are not capable enough, then you’re right. If you tell yourself that you’re worthy and able then you are right. What you think is what you become!
Strive for progress, not perfection. As you identify what your next career path should be, it’s time to plan. Put pen to paper and get strategic on what steps you’ll need to take to make your dream a reality. Set a goal date and then take daily action on that plan. Understand that there will never be the perfect time, or a straight path from A to Z, the path to your ultimate career will have many left and right turns. You can take these twists and turns in stride when you use your values compass to keep you on track.
Identify your strengths, and make them stronger! Ask yourself what your weaknesses are and you are likely able to quickly rattle off all the nit-picky things you don’t like about yourself. But on the ﬂip side, ask yourself what your strengths are and there is a tendency to get shy, and struggle to conﬁdentially share. Knowing where your natural abilities lie, and looking for a career change or business venture that allows you to use those natural gifts, means spending hours and hours of your day feeling successful!
When embarking on any career change, make sure you are not running away from something but rather are running towards something, your goals! You own your life, if you don’t like it, you can change it! It takes more than just saying you want something different, it will take planned actions to move you towards your goals. So, what do you want to be when you grow up?
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By: Jenn Chapman Nobody can quite remember how the name “Dream Drive” came about but Hannah Walsh and Julie Stunkel vividly remember how the concept came to fruition.
“We feel that we are blessed in so many ways and so when you are given much, much is expected. We were just looking for opportunities to pay it forward but at the same time keep it anonymous,” explains Julie.
The two met through Polka Dot Powerhouse and were looking for ways to contribute to families in need during the holiday season. “Julie and I met for coffee one day and we just started brainstorming,” Hannah recalls of the coffee date meeting in the fall of 2015. ���How do we grant someone a wish for the holidays, without them even wishing it? We really want to give to a family that would potentially be going without.” What came from that brainstorming session, aside from shared laughter and tears, was the idea to begin a Dream Drive in the Chippewa Valley. They knew they would need to enlist the help of their Polka Dot Powerhouse network. PDP in the Chippewa Valley is made up of close to 200 women who either own or work for women owned businesses.
The idea was to have people in the community nominate women or families that may have fallen on hard times. With the help of PDP, groceries, frozen meals, toys, and necessities would be purchased and given to these families without their information being revealed. Only the deliverer would know the family’s location. Immediately the Dream Drive came to life with different women jumping on board. Denise Bender, who has worked as a Tastefully Simple consultant for years, donated ten frozen meals for every family. Other PDP members bought gas cards, groceries, diapers and gifts for the children.
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After a successful ﬁrst year, 2016 saw a jump in nominations. The duo received 12 total nominations via social media. Julie and Hannah sought prayer while deciding which three families to pick. They settled on families in Elk Mound, Chippewa Falls, and Eau Claire. Their stories all unique in details but the common denominator the same. A local food pantry nominated a family they saw frequently that they felt could beneﬁt from the gifts. A single mom facing breast cancer and in need of a double mastectomy was selected. And then there were two single moms, that had moved in together with all their children, in order to make ends meet. “We truly were embracing the essence of we are a group of women trying to help our community. We really wanted to focus the Dream Drive on families that life just threw them a curve ball and needed the community to step in and help,” says Julie. A couple of the other nominations were ﬁlled because of a few individuals that stepped up and said they could take on the entire donation process. So on the second weekend of December about 30 women from Polka Dot Powerhouse met to wrap gifts and prepare the deliveries. The ladies value deeply that the process is kept conﬁdential. The names of the families are never given out but their reactions to the gifts are relayed to the group from the deliverer. It’s a humble reminder to both Julie and Hannah that community is at the heart of anyone moving forward during hardship. However, they don’t have to listen to the stories of others receiving love and generosity at the hands of strangers, for they too have been on the receiving end before. “This is so very near and dear to my heart. My dad is a two time cancer survivor and when I was in middle school he had to have throat surgery. He had to be fed through a tube,” Hannah shares. Her father was a single dad raising two daughters in Pepin, Wisconsin. He was born and raised in Minneapolis but that didn’t matter to his community in small town Pepin, population 800.
“He hadn’t even lived there long and here are people showing up at our door bringing hot dishes, prayers, and cards. We eventually had to call the church and say ‘Stop! The freezer has no space,’” laughs Hannah. “That compassion and love is now what I remember. We were in survival mode. Now looking back I can see that the community of Pepin rallied around us,” she says proudly. At that young age, Hannah didn’t quite grasp the impact the community was having on her family. Julie, however, felt it immediately two years ago. “My husband Lloyd was diagnosed with cancer and I looked out into my backyard one day and all these men were back there with ﬁre wood. Not only that, but woman after woman showed up with food. Then there were the people helping take us to treatments,” Julie says. “You see, you’ve either been shared with in the past or your time might be coming and that is why I love paying it forward,” she adds.
As the New Year is just underway, perhaps the emotions of holiday giving are drifting far away. But according to these two women it doesn’t need to be December to reach out to those in need. “We would love to see this not just happen at Christmas. It’s really the essence of the Polka Dot Powerhouse, women helping women in our communities. Whether that be the sisterhood of getting one through cancer, switching jobs, going through a divorce, how can we help each other is at the core of that. If there is a family going through a struggle, how can we help you? So if there’s an opportunity we could do this throughout the year, then we will work to make that happen,” says Hannah.
As for the Dream Drive, the ladies intend for it to be an annual event with the goal of growing it so they can fulﬁll more nomination requests. Something for our readers to keep in mind as we experience 2017.
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Dreams Change I’ve become quite used to writing about other people’s lives. It’s how I’ve made a living. Since high school I have felt it’s my calling. As my siblings and I got ready for school, my mom would always have the Today Show on the TV. I would watch host Katie Couric in amazement with the way she handled her interviews. People shared their stories with her because she was genuine and compassionate in her approach. I began saying I want to be the next Katie Couric. I want to share stories like her. Isn’t that sometimes how we set our goals, based off the success or style of another? My high school guidance counselor, Ross Goldman, arranged for a phone call with Katie Couric. Incredibly nervous, I hung up when it started ringing. When I tried again I got through to her assistant. I asked all sorts of questions about Katie’s route to national television. I wanted to follow her footsteps. Then Mr. Goldman and I began working on scholarship and college applications to begin my process. My heart became set on attending the University of Virginia, just like Katie Couric. I was crushed when I didn’t get accepted. At my high school graduation I received an award voted on by my classmates. They concluded the award presentation with “The next Katie Couric, Jennifer Chapman”. My dream was no secret.
By: Jenn Chapman
I went on to James Madison University as a walk on for the cross-country and track and field team. I began my studies in broadcast journalism with a minor in sport communication. I wrote for the school newspaper, I had my own radio show on the student run station, and I was the president of the Student Athlete Advisory Council. My senior year I interned at the local news station, WHSV in Harrisonburg, and I began to have second thoughts. First there was covering murders and fires. Then the massacre at Virginia Tech happened. As the stations in Virginia began their continuous coverage, I was tasked with asking high school classmates attending Tech to give us interviews. Two of the 32 victims were from my high school, from my community, girls who grew up in neighborhoods just outside mine. This story hit too close to home. I remember being in the newsroom watching coverage about the shooter. I knew him. We had gone to middle school and high school together. We sat next to each other in classes as our last names alphabetically were beside one another. National talk shows called me asking if I would come on their show and give insight. I couldn’t do it. This is covering news and in the thick of it, I was overcome with emotion. I knew I wanted to share stories but I didn’t think I could share these ones. January 2017
That same year JMU announced they would be cutting ten sports team from their athletic program. I watched as teammates and friends had their college athletic dreams taken from them. I had a coach approach me, wasn’t I the girl that wanted to be the next Katie Couric? Here’s my start. Research why JMU was cutting the programs, see if the truth was being shared, and what could be done to prevent the cuts? That weekend I learned what it meant to “investigate”. I stayed up late learning about Title IX and talking to alumni and coaches. I invited 600+ athletes and coaches to the basketball complex for a power-point presentation I put together. There I stood in front of hundreds of athletes explaining about the abuse of Title IX. I believed we could fight for their sport and I was willing to lead the charge. We needed to rally on campus and get our alumni base involved. Little did I know, someone had invited a writer from the New York Times. He was impressed with my presentation, perhaps because my sport wasn’t one of the ones on the chopping block and yet I was helping the cause. I like to think it was because I showed some amateur sense of journalism that night. He said they wanted to feature it in the NYT sports section. I gave him an interview and the next day he was at my practice taking pictures of us running. He interviewed athletes facing the cuts and low and behold on the front page of the sports section of one of the biggest national papers was our story. I was suddenly a spokesperson for male and female college athletes. I spoke at a rally on JMU’s campus. We took buses to Washington D.C. and I gave a speech on the steps of the Office of Civil Rights. I made a presentation to the JMU Board of Visitors asking for a reversal of their vote. I backed up my plea with facts and solutions but was met with a firm no. As the 35th anniversary of Title IX approached I appeared on the front page of another sports section, USA Today. I was a female athlete fighting for the rights of her male counterparts. ESPN sent a crew from Outside the Lines to my parents’ house and interviewed me in the kitchen. They had me go for a run in my neighborhood as they filmed me from a truck. Our cause had so much national attention but in the end I didn’t save the sports teams.
As I left the board meeting, I realized allowing me to speak was just a formality to appease the students. They were never genuinely considering reversing the decision. I was young, passionate, and a bit naïve. My coach was waiting to take me to our indoor track meet; the team had already left on the bus. We were quiet for the first few minutes and then I began to cry. I had put in months of work, had halted my training, and ultimately I felt like I failed the athletes. I didn’t save anything. There are a lot of talks Coach Rinker gave me throughout my time with him and this one always stuck. He said perhaps we didn’t win that day but he was proud of my fight. He told me I became a journalist. I could look at how my running career had fallen apart because I made a sacrifice or I could see that I laid the groundwork for my future. It didn’t take the hurt away but I realized something that day. Dreams change. Sorry Katie Couric, I want to cover sports. In all my speeches and presentations I always mentioned the positive impact sports and fitness play in the lives of Americans; the skills learned, the friendships made, and the direction given. I realized I could still cover great stories that had impact and inspire people, and even better, they could be about sports. The majority of my college career was spent in news so I decided to keep learning and get my master’s degree at Central Michigan University. There I was able to shoot my own documentary on the Chippewa’s nationally ranked wrestling team. I worked on a show for the athletic department and began producing and reporting stories that I felt could leave people smiling, crying, or at least thinking. After leaving CMU I became a media director for Revolution 3 Triathlon. I interviewed professional and amateur triathletes at the Rev 3 races across the country. Feeling that wasn’t enough, I began applying to local news station’s sports anchor and reporter openings. I was relentless. I drove to TV stations and hand delivered my resume and reel. I showed up unannounced and waited in lobbies. I emailed stations that didn’t even have openings. I’m not ashamed to say I got rejected over 80 times. After 8 months of this I received a call from WEAU in Eau Claire, Wisconsin. I had secretly hoped with my love for swimming and running I would end up in Florida but instead bring on the Cheeseheads. I signed my two-year contract for a whopping $25,000 salary and made the 18 hour drive up north.
It was my ﬁrst real TV gig and I had a blast. I loved covering the Packers and the Badgers, producing my Athlete of the Week segment, and seeing the viewers in the grocery store, but I didn’t love the schedule. Working nights, weekends, and holidays meant I wasn’t seeing much of my family. In order to survive in the business (and make more money) you have to keep moving. So after two plus years in Wisconsin, I moved on to be a weekend sports anchor in Tuscaloosa, Alabama, smack in the heart of college football. Two weeks after starting in Tuscaloosa, I ﬂew up to Chicago to race the marathon. My spirits were down and I was really questioning my career path. The man who had encouraged my dream when it ﬁrst began happened to be racing Chicago too. It felt like such a blessing that of all the people for me to see that weekend, it was Ross Goldman. I was able to spend time with him and his family and share my concerns. He did what he does best. He didn’t tell me what to do or offer advice. He simply asked me a couple of questions. Why did you want to do reporting all these years? Easy, because I wanted to make a difference by sharing peoples stories. I want to help people. Could you do this without doing local news? Sure, but I told everyone I was going to make it. What is ‘make it’? I don’t know. I said I was going to be the next Katie Couric, or cover the Olympics. I put all my education into this. I have to do it, right?
I left Chicago more confused. Was I chasing a dream I really wanted anymore or was I chasing a dream because of expectations? For the next year and a half I covered Alabama athletics, interviewing top of the line coaches and athletes, covering the Crimson Tide football program during a National Championship winning season, and anchoring every weekend. But then something else happened. I started getting approached at games and events by other TV stations, would I like to join their team? I would be climbing the ladder but I was also going to have to move again and more nights, weekends, and holidays. I went back to Mr. Goldman’s questions, could I help people if I wasn’t on TV? I knew the answer is yes. Then what am I doing? I followed my dream and the reality was different than what I envisioned. It’s ok to let it go. Perhaps the path I need to be taking is different than those before me. I left my TV job in March 2016. It wasn’t easy not having a plan and taking on multiple part time jobs to make ends meet. I don’t know what’s next but I’m not stuck on one route or one plan. Perhaps I’ll go into coaching, teaching, writing a blog, politics, I don’t know. I’m leaving room for God to do his work and trusting that no matter what position I’m in, I can serve others. Dreams help set our goals, but they don’t have to be our only goal. It’s ok to allow your dreams to change as you change, as your values change, as your heart changes. Whatever you want to be when you grow up, just make sure you choose to be you!
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‘The Art of Living Your Style’
Through the Holiday Season Written by Lori Mollan
Casual and comfortable’ is your mantra. Your goal is to dress as simply and effortlessly as possible. Separates that mix and match well are your go to. Dressing for the holiday season may seem a bit fussy, however, a few simple adjustments can inject your outfit with holiday flair; add a festive plaid scarf, choose a pair of dark dress pants or jeans rather than faded or lighter denim. For evening, pair a sequin shell and a pair of heels with your dark jeans and a blazer. Identify a few other easy add-ons to your wardrobe that help you step into the season with YOUR style! As a Classic woman with timeless elegance, you prefer beautiful, but simple cuts in clothing, as well as fine natural fabrics, leather shoes and handbags. Dressing for the holiday season is quite likely a delight for you. Fine wools, silk, cashmere, even velvet all add the touch of elegance that the holidays seem to call to for a woman of your style. Strands of pearls, dashes of red accessories such as gloves, and patent leather are just examples of simple, yet elegant accessories; all a true classic needs to look and feel festive. Romantic style speaks of your love for everything soft and pretty. You value femininity, and may also be a hopeless romantic. Ruffles, lace, and pleats are just a few of the whimsical, feminine details that tend to make your heart smile. The holiday season, being a somewhat nostalgic time of year, is a perfect time to reveal your romantic self. Hats, loosely knit scarves, sparkly vintage jewelry, as well as velvet, satin and lace can be beautifully woven into evening and every day wear, infusing your outfits with the beauty and elegance of the holidays, past and present! The Dramatic’s look is a bold, sophisticated and confident style. You love extreme looks in fashion, and you feel boring in anything too conservative. You are the woman who can walk into a room and stun everyone with your poise, confidence and individuality. The holiday season is an opportunity to showcase your unique style, both in the realm of evening wear and every day wear. Bold and modern lines in garments and accessories are highly desirable for this season. Black, the color of choice. Statement pieces of jewelry, shoes, glasses, handbags are also exciting to show off during this time of year. As a Creative, you are the type who refuses a packaged look. In regard to clothes, you abide by two main principles: they have to be individual, and they must be interesting; color wise, style wise, texture wise. You can’t bear to look like anybody else. You aim for interest rather than chic combinations. You have an eye for your own style. You’d rather “do it yourself” and create your own one of a kind look; nothing predictable! You go, girl! The holidays are a perfect time for some new creativity! Sexy Style is unmistakably glamorous and feminine. With a sexy style, you are confident, alluring, most likely curvaceous, and conscious of it. Those with a sexy style tend to like glamorous and eye-catching apparel, make-up, jewelry and accessories; which include sparkle, flamboyant color and body conscious silhouettes designed to flatter and accentuate. For winter time and for the holidays, knit dressing, such as cashmere, is warm, soft to the touch and body conscious. Fur, sequins, true red lip color, diamonds and other jewels add to your look. Picture Marilyn Monroe at Christmas time. Copyright Expressions of Style, LLC – 2016 January 2017
Fresh Fashion Trends for2017 “Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself”
Written by: Broadway of Stanley Employee Each New Year begins with self- evaluation, resolutions,
work out regimens and dietary restructuring (aka diets). The most important fashion advice that has ever been received, or shared, is to love you for yourself and enjoy where you are at in this moment. Celebrate your unique self. Nothing is more beautiful than someone who has self-confidence, a smile on her face and joy in her heart. With that being said, the fashion trends for 2017 offer a variety of styles to make you smile. Broadway buyers have picked up on some major trends at markets across the nation. Some of these trends began making an appearance in 2016 and are continuing to have a strong influence. The pantone for 2017- Pinks and Blues are the hues! The pinks are warm, sandy, blushes that transport us to beautiful beaches. The lovely blues invoke images of the sea. Soft and peaceful, these tones are fresh. This is the color palette to incorporate into your wardrobe. Not your color? Add touches of this trend to your wardrobe with accessories. We love to style women to wear a color they love simply by coordinating or combining it with a color that flatters them. Everything is coming up roses! Florals: big, bold and sassy or delicate, flirty and feminine-all fresh from the fashion garden. Floral patterns will be seen embellishing apparel head to toe, although it is generally advised to pick one statement piece per outfit. 2016 saw the beginning of this trend and it continues to grow well into 2017. What girl doesn’t love her flowers?! Suedes and faux suedes continue to be a strong element in the style department. The texture and feel of this fabric make such a great fashion statement. There are amazing statement pieces, such as jackets and dresses, but a Broadway favorite has been the faux suede tee. It’s a great layering piece and instantly takes an outfit to the next level.
The subtle, sexy cold shoulder is another trend we see that is flirting with spring. We love this trend. It tends to be flattering on women and is a peek of skin that most women are comfortable with-everyone has amazing shoulders! Cold shoulder popped up late summer and has evolved into cozy cold shoulder sweaters that are here to stay. Peace, baby. The Bohemian trend of 2016 is riding the peace train into 2017. It’s a casual, fun relaxed vibe that can be brought into any wardrobe. A lot of times women question whether or not they can pull off the bohemian look. We’ve all heard the old adage, ‘if you’ve been around for the trend the first time’. An entire outfit may not be for everyone, but anyone can have a little free spirit, boho fun in her wardrobe. Simply add a little fringed bootie or handbag to an outfit. Accessories and jewelry are an easy way to bring a little funkiness to the day. Raw edged denim in today’s denim looks fun and contemporary on everyone. No matter what the fashion trend forecast for 2017 predicts, the personal stylists at Broadway are here to help you choose apparel that looks amazing on you, makes you feel like you can conquer the day, brings a smile to your face, and brings joy to your heart. Don’t be afraid to have fun with your wardrobe and try something new. The New Year is all about new beginnings and a fresh start!
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Clean Up or Break Up. .
ars W h s u r B Written by: Alice Rothbauer
If December is the month of love and togetherness then I would argue that January is the month of break up and awkward new beginnings. My past January break ups include sugar, cocktails, snacks before bed and my favorite stretchy jeans. Awkward new beginnings bring back memories of a plan to get up earlier, spin on my bike in the living room and learn Portuguese. Figuring out how to get up two hours earlier actually felt harder than childbirth. Four changes at once was SO painfully ambitious it NEVER once happened. So let’s start with something more of a baby step toward a new beginning. Take a look at the contents and favorites in your cosmetic bag or drawer. In my 20 years in cosmetic direct sales with Mary Kay, I’ve seen it ALL. Some proudly display makeup that has “lasted” 20 years while others have reluctant confessions of products and tools that just haven’t been parted with despite heavy use and abuse. What does the inside of your makeup bag or drawer say? Is it time for a break up and a purge or can you salvage your favorites with some TLC? There are three basic categories of brushes (those tools that we use to both apply and remove the magical cleansing and makeup products we apply daily): cleansing, natural and synthetic. Cleansing brushes or brush heads have bristles like your toothbrush and need to be replaced every three to six months. Like most plastic bristles they will lose their shape, flatten, and are no longer effective at working the cleanser into your skin. How to remember it’s time to discard and replace? I use the spring ahead or fall back time change to evaluate my brush. Another suggestion is when you visit the dentist and receive your new toothbrush then it’s time to replace your cleansing makeup brush too.
Natural bristles are found on the brushes you use to apply powder, cheek and eye color. They are typically deep brown and soft to the touch and are made from animal hair. Brushes in this category, can range in price from a couple dollars to over $50. Your investment may have some impact on this New Year cleaning purge. In general, brushes that are so loved that they have flattened or are starting to leave stray hairs on your face (YIKES!), need to go. Those that remain may just need a good washing and they will be as good as new again. I use a gentle low suds cleanser, like a baby shampoo to deep clean the brush. Depending on when or if you’ve ever cleaned them before, you may need to clean, rinse, and repeat. Once water runs through the brush, squeeze out excess water with a towel, reshape the brush and allow to air dry over a ledge horizontally. Do not dry upright as water can seep in and weaken the handle. I’ve had the head of a brush fall off because of a damaged handle. Like your newly organized closet take a couple minutes each week to maintain this new level of clean and wash again. Extra motivation may come from knowing this will help prevent bacteria build up. Synthetic brushes are used for foundation, concealer, and applying liquid makeup products. These also have a man made head, usually of nylon, and do not have a cuticle to trap makeup. This allows for a great smooth application. I need to say the B word again-bacteria. These brushes need a label on them that says, ‘Wash daily’ and your face will love you. My recommendation is a fragrance free anti bacterial soap that you can grab a squirt of and wash the bristles with after each uses. Squeeze out excess water and they’ll dry quickly even in your makeup bag. The time has come in a bathroom you know so well to boldly go where you may not have before. It’s ok to call a friend or cast a lifeline for support. Embrace the break up and enjoy the new because here is what awaits you. To quote a customer who broke up with an old brush, “Apparently the brush makes all the difference with the powder. I remember now what I had before. My skin is flawless with this stuff now! I love it!”
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Find your freedom Written by Nancy Rothwell
Wouldn’t you agree that the New Year offers us a chance to regroup, start fresh and begin a new chapter in our life for the better? We’ve just come through the fury of the holidays and our homes, nerves, and bank accounts reflect it. The New Year is a perfect time for new beginnings; a time to get a grip and do it right. Anything is possible with the right intentions! Getting organized is INTENTIONAL much like losing weight; it just doesn’t happen while we are sleeping!
Intention #1: DOWNSIZE Consider instituting a post-holiday rule for getting rid of clutter: for every new item (bathrobe, earrings, slippers) that is received, three things have to go. Call it the get organized, one-for-three rule. Before anyone puts away presents, he or she must fill a minimum of three bags for donations to desired charities. Statistics show we only use 20% of what we have. Now is the time to get rid of the other 80%! What decorations didn’t you use? Chances are you won’t use them next year either. Go through your drawers & your closets. Add to the donation pile. There shouldn’t be anything left in your home other than what you need & USE!!! This is the MOST IMPORTANT step.
Intention #2: SORT & LABEL I know getting organized has been on your to-do list for a while now. Are you ready to cross it off? The perfect time to get organized is NOW. By getting rid of what you no longer need or use and organizing what you do need or use, you’ll be well on your way to an organized New Year. The most important step in getting organized is DOWNSIZING but the second most important step is SORTING. Sort “like” items together. I am a bin organizer. I like “binning” like things together. I think about where items are located in a store and organize my house or houses I’m working in, accordingly. Health and beauty belong in the bathroom. Lawn and garden tools go in the garage. Clothing and shoes go in the bedroom, and so on. Nothing is better than making homes for every item in your home and being able to locate them whenever you need. Wouldn’t you agree? When is the last time you just went out and bought something you knew you already had because it was easier than looking for it anymore?? Sort like things together and bin them up. Find a home for each bin. Labeling is the next step. It makes is easier for your family to put things back in their new places. For example: When you take down your tree and your Christmas decorations, take the time to label each box. Label according to what is in the box. Items used sporadically should be placed separately from items you use daily. Find a corner of the garage, basement, or attic to keep “storage item” boxes, things like seasonal decorations, children mementoes, etc. Apply that same method to your whole house, starting with closets and drawers, ending with your neatly labeled storage boxes and bins in the garage.
Intention #3: A ORGANIZED, CLEANER HOME. Would you agree that it’s difficult to clean an unorganized home? Once you’ve de-cluttered, organized, and downsized, cleaning becomes a breeze. Almost always, clutter is what makes cleaning impossible. 80% of cleaning is picking up stuff and returning it to its “home” so you have surface area to clean. I’m a scheduler. I find if I’ve committed something to a specific day- it GETS DONE. If you schedule in cleaning, it makes the job easier. Make certain nights designated for certain things. Laundry is done on a particular evening; bathrooms are cleaned Saturday mornings; trash is taken out Sunday nights, etc. That makes sure that nothing gets forgotten and spreads the work out into manageable portions throughout the week. Then clean room by room. Don’t allow yourself to dart all over the house. When I clean the living room, for example, first, I pull everything moveable off to the side: rugs, knickknacks, throws, plants. Now I have clean surfaces to dust and vacuum. Then I return the accessories, cleaning each one as I replace it. If there is still a pile of stuff left in the hall (stuff that didn’t belong in the living room in the first place) return these to their proper homes. And voila! One room is ready! Repeat the process in all your other rooms.
Intention #4: SIMPLER LIVES. Who doesn’t want a simpler life?? We not only ricochet through the house as we clean, we ricochet through life just as madly and inefficiently. Maybe it’s time to downsize and organize your family activities as well? What about family breakfasts and dinners? We rush Blake to soccer, Brittany to ballet, ourselves to meetings. We race around town getting dry cleaning, manicures, groceries, pet supplies. Breakfasts are a free-for-all-mad-dash most mornings. Dinners are endangered. Homework goes on into the wee hours of the night. We didn’t grow up like this. What happened? We veer into the fast lane of family life and get stuck there. It is fixable in 2017. Keeping a schedule is a must. Allow everyone in the family a maximum number of hobbies, not to exceed a specific number of commitments (practices, meetings, etc.) per week. If you have more than two kids, the limit might be two hobbies. Interests may change with the season. Then, look at your own hobbies and interests. A little tougher, huh? Parents not only have hobbies they love to do but also commitments they should do (PTA, volleyball team booster club, etc.). Save at least two time slots per week for something you love to do. Limit volunteering, at least while your kids are young. 2017 is the year to learn to say ‘No’ and mean it. It’s a crucial part of the success of your INTENTION for an organized new year. Finally, make your outings more efficient by grouping errands geographically. Write down or map out all the places you have to drive each week (basketball, volleyball, preschool) and then write down all the errands you have to do each week (groceries, dry cleaning, gas). Then assign at least one errand to each outing so you can accomp lish a minimum of two things with each trip.
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Intention #5: ORGANIZE YOUR FINANCES & SAVE MONEY. If you faithfully adhere to INTENTIONS 1 & 4, this intention will wonderfully take care of itself. We waste money on things we don’t need and on too many expensive extracurricular activities. If you cut them out, you’re halfway there. Make a couple more lists & organize your ﬁnances. Resolve to save money this year for the things you really want and need. List necessary expenses with ﬂuctuating costs: gas bills, electric bills, phone bills, groceries, etc. List bills that have a ﬁxed amount you pay monthly: mortgage or rent, health insurance, car payments, tuition, etc. Set up a budget for each and try to cut back on usage. Finally, list the fun-only expenses: golﬁng fees, lessons, clothes, coffee, movies, dining out, etc. Set a budget for each. And for best results, include the kids in the process for this one. Tell them how much is budgeted for family entertainment and let each kid vote on how part of the money should be spent.
Intention#6: TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF All of the above resolutions will help you take care of yourself. If your home is clean, efﬁcient, and organized, you are taking care of yourself. If your time and money are well-managed, you are taking care of yourself. How? Because when your life and home are in chaos, you’re stressed out, right? If your home is well organized, you should also have time to eat healthy, exercise, and get plenty of sleep. And remember those time slots to allow yourself? Don’t cut corners there. Your slot could be as extravagant as an occasional day at the spa or as simple as taking a long tub bath. You choose. But do it!
Intention #7: BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE Again, if you have accomplished INTENTION 1 through 6, this one will take care of itself. If you ﬁnd time to be good to yourself, you will ﬁnd the time, energy, and patience to be good to your loved ones. One just ﬂows from one to the other. But you cannot go directly to INTENTION 7. These intentions are like building blocks. If the bottom layer is unstable, you can’t build on top of it. So take a deep breath and start with No. 1. Don’t expect to ﬁnish the resolutions in a day, week, or even a month. Organizing is a continuous process, but one that will pay off for you in the year ahead. If you need assistance, reach out and ask for it. The only way to discover our true potential is to clear the clutter and focus on what matters. You can’t reach out for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday’s junk. Cheers to a Happy Organized New Year!
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Time to turn the page Written by Haley Wright
The start of the New Year is a great time to think about putting the past behind you and getting a fresh start. For many, that means acknowledging their current debt has become insurmountable and it is time to file for bankruptcy. Howard White, a local bankruptcy attorney with 35 years of experience, helped clarify how the process works. He explained people wait far too long and therefore struggle unnecessarily before filing bankruptcy. The best thing anyone can do for themselves and their family is to become informed on what is involved in the process. There are benefits
of filing for bankruptcy in terms of what is discharged and what one can keep. He notes that the stigma associated with bankruptcy just isn’t what it used to be. When is someone a good candidate to file for bankruptcy? How do they know they are at that point? Attorney White says you know it is time to consider filing for bankruptcy (or at least talking with someone about it) when you find yourself having to use your credit card for a regular expense like groceries. Or per-
haps you find yourself getting a cash advance to pay rent or fill up your gas tank while fully knowing there is no way you can pay it back in the next 30, 60, or even 120 days. That should be the first sign that you need to start looking at where you are going in your finances. If you’re looking at invading savings or retirement, selling assets, or using your kid’s college fund to pay bills, it is time to talk to someone about handling your debts. It may not be time to file bankruptcy, but it could be an early indication that you are heading in that direction. The best thing to do is to ask for
advice, whether from an attorney or credit counselor. White says either an attorney or a credit counselor can give someone ideas to help them avoid filing for bankruptcy. They can also inform someone that bankruptcy is a good option for them, but putting off asking for advice generally results in falling deeper in debt.
ruptcy court itself. The bankruptcy will end and the case is marked as finished. What debts can be discharged, and what debts generally cannot? What can you keep? Secured debts (like homes, cars, or furniture) you have the options to: a) buy out
How does the Chapter 7 process work generally? Attorney White said a Chapter 7 bankruptcy starts with meeting with an attorney. Following that, the client will be required to provide information about assets and debts to the attorney. Once that information is provided to the attorney the bank-
(and keep) if you can afford it, b) give it back to the lender, or c) reaffirm the debt (contact the lender and let them know you will continue to pay as originally promised, and keep the asset). Unsecured debts like credit cards and medical bills can typically be discharged. Student loans, obligations arising out of family court orders (for child support, maintenance, or equalization
ruptcy can be filed. Generally speaking this goes to a first meeting of creditors with a bankruptcy trustee (not a judge) within 30 days of the filing. The bankruptcy trustee will hold a meeting and ask about the documents just filed, assets and debts, and see what the bankruptcy is about. If everything goes as planned, 60-70 days later you will receive a discharge notice from the bank-
payments), restitution ordered as part of a criminal case, and taxes (amongst other things) are not generally discharged. There are different exemptions depending on whether the bankruptcy is filed under state or federal law to allow a debtor to keep certain assets like home, car, furniture, and other things, like retirement
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accounts or personal injury settlements. Attorney White says people are often surprised about how much and what they can keep after ﬁling for bankruptcy. How are assets monitored and is one ensured all debts will be discharged and assets preserved once a bankruptcy is ﬁled? Generally speaking when you sign the bankruptcy paperwork and ﬁle it with a court, you are saying “I won’t do anything with assets or debts until you tell me I can.” Technically speaking, when you ﬁle, everything you own no longer belongs to you—its belongs to the bankruptcy trustee until he or she says you can keep it because you can exempt it (which usually happens at the ﬁrst 30 days meeting). All debts discharged and all assets preserved once bankruptcy is ﬁled. Does one continue to pay on debts while a bankruptcy proceeding is pending?
The only debts you continue to pay on are those you want to keep once the bankruptcy is over. If you want to keep your car loan, keep making payments. Want your electricity? Keep paying electric bill. Rent is not a debt, it’s an expense, a living expense. Will wages be garnished or liens put on assets during this process? What happens to garnishments and liens if they are already in place and a bankruptcy is initiated? There is an automatic stay or stoppage on most garnishments once the bankruptcy is ﬁled. For garnishments that are already in place, if anyone has garnished within 90 days of the date the bankruptcy is ﬁled then you have the right to get the funds to be returned if the funds exceed $600.00. Judgments can be discharged with proof that a bankruptcy was ﬁled and the judgment was included in the list of debts along with a small fee payable to the Clerk of Court in the County where the judgement was ﬁled.
Once someone has ﬁled bankruptcy, can they ﬁle again? What are the options for ﬁling the second time around, and how is it different in terms of process, requirements? Once you have ﬁled for a Chapter 7 bankruptcy, you cannot ﬁle another Chapter 7 bankruptcy for eight years. However, you can ﬁle a Chapter 13 bankruptcy immediately after ﬁling a Chapter 7 (without waiting eight years), which would require you to set up payment plans to pay off debt over a 3-5 year period, but would allow you to keep assets, like a home, which may otherwise be at risk.
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