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A few weeks ago, I did something big, something bold and courageous. In my eyes, I was triumphant because I had accomplished something I always wanted to accomplish; the launch of a magazine that had been lying dormant for years. This launch was more than some business goal, or something else to scratch off my to-do list. No, this launch was a divine appointment. This launch was the pathway to my purpose. On April 18, 2015 at 12:01 am, I connected to my purpose and made a decision to be driven by it in everything I did from that moment on. As soon as I clicked the publish button that allowed Purpose Driven Women magazine to become live to the world, I could feel fear trying to submerge me. “What have you done?” “You’re not good enough for this!” “Who do you think you are?” All these thoughts flooded my mind, and I was faced with the most challenging decision I had been faced with for years: What do I do now? Do I fold to the rushing thoughts in my mind or do I take a stand and face my fears of failing. I chose to stand. I chose to look fear square in the eyes and ask fear a serious yet rhetorical question, “If God be for me, who can be against me?” I share this with you not to get a pat on the back or build up kudos for me. I share this with you to encourage you to take a leap of faith and do what God has called you to do. Sure the journey may be scary. There will be times you will want to give up, you will feel inadequate, as if you are not good enough. In those times I implore you to be reminded of the scripture that says “I can do all things through Jesus Christ who gives me strength.” See, the truth is, you may not be strong enough but in Jesus Christ you are! It is through Christ that we are victorious. So, as you connect to your purpose remember, you are a helper of God, working for God. Trust Him to be your strength! Make up your mind that you will not give up. Life will happen, but be confident in knowing you have the authority and “greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world!” Face your fears and keep pushing! The theme of this issue is defeating fears and stepping out on faith. As you read the articles in this issue, my prayer is that you will experience a mental shift equipping you to overcome fear and take a leap of faith as you connect to your purpose. No one can hold you back but you. You deserve the life God has for you. So I challenge you to face your fears, step out on faith, and become the woman you were created to be!

Features: On the Cover: Lisa McClendon: I am a Overcomer In the Spotlight: Vickie Gordon

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Vol. 2 June/July 2015 Publisher: Virtuosity Publishing House Writers:

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Shatia Miller Larzhee Pinder Dr. Lorneka S. Joseph Denny Clark

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In This Issue Good Reads 7 WHAT’S BEHIND YOUR FACE 10 DUST OFF YOUR DREAMS 12 FAITH WITHOUT RESERVATION

Love 22 OVERCOMING DIFFICULTIES IN YOUR MARRIAGE 25 TIPS TO BECOMING ONE

Success 26 LET GO AND FREE FALL IN FAITH 36 ON THE RIGHT TRACK

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19 THE WOMEN WHO MADE ME A MAN

30 DO NOT FEAR THEM

IN EVERY ISSUE 3 LETTER FROM FOUNDER 6 ABOUT THE FOUNDER 14 COVER FEATURE LISA MCCLENDON “OVERCOMING YOUR TRIALS”

Fitness 30 GET IT TIGHT AND RIGHT

Family 32 BLENDED FAMILIES

37 TRADING SECRETS

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“Life is so much more fun when you are connected to your purpose!”

Purpose Driven Women Magazine’s founder Kimi Johnson was originally led by the Lord to become a publisher when she was a single mom with her six-week old son. She says, “I was at a really low place in my life. The last thing I thought I was good enough to do was publish a magazine. I had been a licensed cosmetologist for 10 years and had absolutely no experience in the magazine industry. I thought, ‘Me? Do a magazine? But how Lord? I'm not good enough.’ I started thinking about everything I didn’t have that I thought I needed. Well, those thoughts carried on for years until one day my pastor walked into my office and said, ‘I’m not sure why I’m showing you these but…’ and he placed a stack of magazines that he had published on my desk. That’s right you heard me! The Holy Spirit knows how to get your attention. I burst in tears and that was the day I connected to my PURPOSE! It wasn’t long before I found out I was more than enough to operate in my purpose. All I needed to do was step out on faith and God would do the rest. Now I have embarked on a movement to let women all around the world know they are more than enough!” Kimi launched the first issue of Purpose Driven Women Magazine in April 2015. 6

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Sound the Alarm

What’s Behind Your Face? By Kimi Johnson Bonk! Bonk! Bonk! Bonk! Is it 5 am already? It seems like I just went to sleep. As I reach over to hit the snooze button I think to myself, I’ll just lay here for 15 more minutes. Bonk! Bonk! Bonk! Okay, okay, okay I’m up! Another day to face the world. Lord I don’t think I can do this another day. Bills overdue, baby acting up in school, me and my husband aren’t seeing eye to eye and if that’s not enough the mechanic said its gonna cost $1500 to get our car repaired. As if I need anything else on my plate right now.

Despite the circumstances I climb out of bed following the same routine: Prayer..check Fix breakfast…check

Wake up the family…check, check, check Get dress and out the door we go, rushing to make it to our destinations on time. Good morning Mrs. Johnson. You sure look good today. “Thank you,” I say with a smile as I strut my stuff down the hallway to my www.pdwmag.com

office. Taking a seat at my desk my eyes and the mirror meet, and I am greeted by a reflection of a flawless made up face with long curly hair. Fiercely I stare at the mirror as if I was having some kind of staring match, taking a deep look into my eyes. My thoughts are flooded with one question…”What’s behind your face?” Behind the soft pink mac lipstick, the chestnut foundation, and the eyebrows that are laid to the gods was hurt, pain, insecurities, dried up tears, and fears. That day, as I stared at myself in the mirror I couldn’t see the face that was so perfectly painted. No, that day I saw behind the face into my soul. All at once everything that I had tried so hard to tuck away festered up as if there was no Purpose Driven Women Magazine

more room to hide, as if the burdens I had been carrying got tired themselves and cried out for help. That day was the start of my break through. The chains that had kept me in bondage for so long began to unwrap themselves as I whispered the most powerful three words I had ever said “Help me Lord.” That day I let go of the un -forgiveness, the bitterness, and the strong will to do things on my own and traded them for God’s will for my life. Everyday has been a journey but I made up my mind that I wasn’t going back. My continual yes to the Lord has been the strength that carries me from day to day, breaking through all 7


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the filth that was behind my face. Now that my transparency has given you a peak into my life I would like to pose a question to you… What is behind your face?

Is it something that happened to you when you were a child? Is it a heart shattered into a million pieces because they hurt you? Is it un-forgiveness? Insecurities? Low selfesteem? What’s behind your face? Whatever it is you have covered it up long enough. Now is the time to deal with those things that have been holding you captive, hindering the move that God desires to do in

your life. Today is the day for you to sound the alarm, declaring that no longer will you go day by day hiding behind your face. Today is the day for you to deal with those things that have been holding you back for so long and finally be FREE! Take a stand today. Pray and ask the Lord to help you. Your life will never be the same. Let’s pray: Father God, I pray for the person that’s reading this today. For you know what lies behind their face. Father God, I pray that you touch them Lord and make them whole.

Have you thought about receiving Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior? He loves you very much. You can receive Jesus Christ as your Lord today. Dear God , I come to you now. I believe that you sent Jesus Christ to die for me and my sins. I believe that Jesus is the only hope for salvation. I want to receive Jesus as my personal Lord and Savior. I give you my life today come and live in my heart today. I trust you. In Jesus Name.

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Dust Off Your Dreams By Pastor William Alexander

On evening after work, I went in my room to change clothes so I could go outside and wash my car. I kicked my shoes off, and proceeded to put on my short pants and a t-shirt. As I search for the other tennis shoe, I got on my knees and looked under my bed. I did not see the other shoe, but I did see an unfinished piece of manuscript collecting dust. And the sprit of the Lord said to me, “When are you going to finish this manuscript, it’s been under this bed for years?” I hesitated to reply because I knew I had just been lazy, and let some other things get in the way and discourage me. That evening I made up my mind that 10

I was going to complete the project come hell or high water.

It’s amazing how fast the hell and the high water came to discourage me. I needed a Graphic Designer to design a full color cover for the book. Everyone I talked to was either over priced or not dependable. To make matters worse my computer was acting up, it would shut-down for no reason. It seemed like nothing was going right but that’s when I had to speak God’s word and move the mountain. Purpose Driven Women Magazine

The scripture says: “And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God. For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. (Mark 11: 23)

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Spiritual graphic designer that would design my cover. About a month later, my wife and I went to Panera Bread to have breakfast. While eating, we began to make small conversation with a young man that worked there. This went on for a few weeks, when my wife felt led of the Lord to invite Allen over for dinner. We just wanted to be a blessing to him. Well we got to know him and saw him on a regular basis. About fifteen months later, my wife and I were invited to attend a community choral concert at a local Baptist church. During intermission, there was an announcement made for everyone to step into the lobby and view the winning art work that was chosen to be used for the Choir’s performance season. The art work was submitted by graphic designers on a college and Jr College level. The winner of the contest was our friend that worked at Panera Bread. We did not know he was in graphic design. Needless to say, Allen designed my book cover and has been working with me every since.

tain, command it to move in the name of Jesus. God’s Word works and it will work if you dare to declare it out of your mouth. What dream do you have that is hidden in your heart collecting dust? What dream have you put on hold? I challenge you to get the dream from the shadows, dust it off and see the dream come to completion. You can do it! The scripture say “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” (Philippians 4: 13)

Don’t let discouragement and disappointment stand in your way. Fight for what you want. You can’t give up. You can’t faint. You have got to hold fast. In I Timothy 6:12, the scripture says to “fight the good fight of faith.” Do not succumb to the blows of the enemy. He will bring the weapon of disappointment, lack and weariness to hinder you. But you have the stamina of the Holy Ghost inside you.

If we would just wait on the Lord he will move in a mighty way. If you have a problem in your life speak to the moun-

Don’t give up hope. The scripture says “Hope deferred makes the heart sick: but when the desire comes it’s a tree of life.” (Proverbs 13: 12) In

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other words, when it looks like your dream is not coming to pass and being held up by circumstances, hold on to your dream, and stay in faith with God. Speak to the mountain and command it to move. God will bring the desire to pass and it will be life to you. You will be so glade you hung in there; because the blessing, the prize will be worth the fight.

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Faith Without Reservation By Trasetta Alexander

God requires us to trust Him in all things. He doesn’t want part of our lives, while we reserve certain parts for us to handle on our own. Yet this is exactly what we do. We trust that God will bless us with a job, but we don’t have that same faith towards healing. We get a bad report from the doctor and we believe that the doctor’s report is too much for God to handle. But the Word declares “is there anything too hard for God?” We serve the Almighty God, the Great I Am. There is nothing that you will face that He cannot handle. There is nothing and no one greater than Him. Nothing can compare to Him. This is the Most High God! How dare we think that a headache, high blood pressure or even cancer is any match for God? He is not like you and I. We are limited in strength, resources, and power, but God is unlimited in these same things. We cannot exhaust God! Even if we could, He would just turn back around and make more. We have that same creative power in us. Just as God spoke in the beginning and created all thins in the earth, He created us in His image and in His likeness. We are a reflection of Him. Just as our children have our DNA in them and look, talk, walk, and act like us, so are we with our Heavenly Father. Because He breathed His spirit in us, we too should look, talk, walk, and act like God. In Genesis, God gave Adam dominion and authority over the earth. Then Jesus came and gave that same power back to us that Adam lost as a result of the fall. If God would go through so much trouble to redeem the gift He gave us back from the enemy, should we not trust that He is for us? Shouldn’t we believe that He will keep His promises to us? We have allowed the devil to infiltrate our 12 Purpose Driven Women Magazine thoughts with seeds of doubt, fear, and unbelief.

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Success Tools We fail to realize that his job is to keep us from fulfilling our destiny in Christ Jesus. Why? Because in doing so we take territory back from him. When we get to the place where we believe God in all things, we become a threat to the kingdom of darkness. How many times has God really blessed you and you kept it to yourself and didn’t tell a soul. I would venture to say none. When God blesses us we want to tell everyone we come in contact with about His goodness. In doing so, we generally inspire others to trust God more. Their faith is increased. Why? Because faith comes by hearing. The devil doesn’t want you to have a testimony. He wants you to be defeated all the days of your life. But thank God for Jesus. He came that we “might have life, and have it more abundantly.” The amplified version of the bible states “to have and enjoy life, in abundance, to the full, until it overflows.” Jesus wants us to live the good life. I don’t know about you but I prefer the life Jesus died that I might have. So often we are the ones who place limits on what God can do in our lives. We look at where we are in life, what our resources are, our education level, or our status in society and decide based on these things how much God can bless us. However, the Word declares that “He is able to do exceeding, abundantly, above all we can even ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.” What is this power the Word is referring to? It is the power of faith! If our faith is at the level that we can believe God can bless us with a new car but that we have to make a down payment and make monthly payments, then that’s what we will get. However, God is able to go above and beyond that. He may lay it on the heart of someone to buy you a car and give it to you as a gift. I have seen it happen. God can do it, but you have to believe it.

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Anointed, talented, and determined are just a few words that describe gospel artist Lisa McClendon. An overcomer to say the least, this singer and song writer is definitely true to who she was created to be. Born and raised in Jacksonville, FL, Lisa began singing in the church at the age of 12. Known all over the world for her soulful, anointed tunes, she has proven herself to be more than a conqueror. With five albums under her belt and one in the making, it’s no secret that she has truly connected to her purpose. PDW had the opportunity to sit and chat with Lisa about her career as a gospel artist and how she maintains her relationship with God. During the interview, Lisa shared how she experienced some dark moments in her life and overcame them all through her relationship with 14

God. Okay PDW readers are you ready? Go get your favorite snack, sit back, relax, and enjoy because this is about to be good! PDW: Hi Lisa, I am so excited about our interview and I have been looking forward to meeting this talented gospel artist named Lisa McClendon. This issue of Purpose Driven Women will focus on overcoming fear and stepping out on faith. When I read your story, I felt that you could empower Christian women to pursue their dreams. From my research on you, I realized that you are not a woman who will sacriPurpose Driven Women Magazine

fice your walk with God for fame, money or recognition and I love that about you. You definitely know who you are in God. I know that the pressures of the industry can sometimes be challenging for a gospel artist. So, that brings me to my first question, can you tell the readers of PDW who may not be familiar with you yet, how the Lord called you into the singing or music ministry? LM: I have always been a writer and a singer so it just made sense. Even if I failed at having a regular conversation, I always succeeded when I wrote. I just knew I was supposed to be in the music industry. You know, like a fish in the water, you www.pdwmag.com


Cover Feature are just supposed to be there? I was always surrounded by music so I knew that’s where I was supposed to be. When you are surrounded by certain things it’s almost a clear indication that’s where you are supposed to be. PDW: Were there any gospel artists that influenced your career? LM: Ear lier I listened to a lot of Cortex music, my dad played in a cortex when I was growing up so I listened to a lot of Willie Mills, Willie Johnson and the Gospel Keynotes, the William Brothers, a lot of that stuff. And I remember the A track, listening to the old Clark Sisters, and Darly Coley. As I got a bit older, Yolanda Adams came on the scene and I remember singing every last song she wrote in church. So I’ve had a lot of influence with gospel music. My biggest influence was in jazz and gospel. PDW: Sometimes it is easy for us to not go after what God has for us because it causes us to leave our comfort zone. How did you push pass this zone and take a leap of faith? LM: I just think it’s my personality. I can be stubborn. Sometimes the negative traits in our character can work for our good. I think it’s the fact that I’m www.pdwmag.com

stubborn. Because of the things I’ve gone through in life, a part of me is telling me I can’t but I’m going to try it anyway. You’re not going to control me, I am in control. So I think that kinda ties into the scripture that says “All things work together for the good.” It works for my good to be stubborn, to get me to do what I want to do even when it seems like a challenge. I want it, I want it so bad that I’m not going to stop until I get it and I think it just helps me out a lot. (laughing) It’s funny to say but it’s true.

PDW: Whenever you set out on a journey to connect to God’s purpose, sometimes the road has bumps along the way. You often find out who is really for you when God’s purpose for you is not clear to others. Have you experienced this within your career? LM: Yeah, (laughing) I have. I‘ve had several situations. For example, I’ve had friends that were with me before I was “Lisa McClendon” and then as time went by they seemed to not grow with me or they seemed to be uncomfortable with my success. They were comfortable as long as they were a part of it but when it was time for me to keep going they didn’t know how to wish me well. Then, there were other instances where people came along because I was Lisa McClendon and I genuinely Purpose Driven Women Magazine

thought they were there for me, they loved me as a person and appreciated what God had called me to do but then I just realized soon that they didn’t and it just reminds me of Jesus. Everybody has a purpose in your life whether their outcome is positive or negative it’s always positive, they have a purpose. They played a part in me being where I am today because for a long time I was bitter and angry with those people in life. I thought how you dare portray/betray me, how dare you not be as good of a friend to me as I was to you. But then I think about the Lisa that I am today, I’m not as naïve, I’m not as “green”. Oh my God, I wanted to love everybody, of course you want to love everybody, but I wanted to let everyone all the way into my life because I just wanted to be connected and I had to learn from those situations and experiences that everybody doesn’t mean you well. You just can’t dive into a relationship. You have to be wise and love everyone. But everybody don’t get the red carpet you know what I’m saying? Everybody don’t get the red carpet into my life. You may get a welcome as a brother and sister in Christ, but you know, everyone don’t get the VIP section to my performance, the performance of my life and sometimes we do that. Just be15


cause we are creatures that are made to connect, sometimes we just give people positions in our lives that they not ready to handle. I’ve learned to make boundaries and I didn’t know how to do that before I had my music, so I thank God for them. PDW: Has there ever been moments in your singing career that challenged your walk with God?

LM: Yeah, I was challenged more so in the place of not trusting God because you get so busy and you don’t think that you’re doing life on your own but you really are. You’re doing it aside from Him until life really taps you on the shoulder and you just lose it. So a season came when I was going into a depot (Not sure what that means) but I didn’t realize it until I was all the way to the bottom. That was the first morning I realized I was dealing with the spirit of depression, which is something that a lot of the women in my family have dealt with. Throughout the history of my family some were on medication and some are still on medication, so I didn’t realize it because you know, you think oh, I’m good. But I didn’t realize I was not good. The industry will keep you busy and if you’re not careful you don’t schedule God and I don’t want to say schedule because I used to schedule God, but if you don’t make God your number 16

one priority for your whole day then you’ll get so busy that you will look up and you will feel really distant. So when I woke up that morning, I realized I was losing it. I was in a deep, deep hole and I realized I was connected to everything else but God. I had to stop everything and take a step back. For the next 6 months to a year, I was just connecting with God getting up early in the morning just getting my mind right. From that point on, I said I don’t ever want to go back to where I was. Just being distant from God reminds me of Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane. The Bible says that He was sweating drops of blood, blood vessels were actually bursting. He was sweating blood, and He was in anguish about being separated from the Father. One morning, I woke up and said, Oh God, I get it. He never had been separated from God in his life. You know of course for that moment the bible talks about God turning away from him because He had taken on our sins. God can’t look at our sins and so when He had to turn away from Jesus I believe that’s what caused Jesus to break down in the garden because I experienced Purpose Driven Women Magazine

that. I didn’t sweat blood or drops of blood or whatever the scripture translated but that fear of getting that far from God again when you are so close to Him, it’s a scary thing to not be that close because you realize you can’t live without Him. So now that I understand I cannot live without Him, there is not a reason, there is not an industry that can ever make me want to go back there again. PDW: I just recently closed the chapter of being a hairstylist and in the salon I was working in your music was heavily played in the rotation of music. That’s when I first heard your song “Pause” on your Reality album, which is one of my favorite songs because it explains how busy and hectic life can get. Sometimes as a woman we play multiple roles which can make us feel we have to everywhere at the same time. I know for you having a demanding schedule, being a mother, a wife, and handling other engagements, how do you handle all of these things without getting overwhelmed? LM: Absolutely, hands down. I was telling my husband, I said “Look,” because at first he was not used to me not being accessible for so long because I would get up at 5 AM and I would just be before the Lord for like 2 www.pdwmag.com


hours. Well now it’s like an hour but it used to be like two hours. At first he was like “I feel like I’m not getting no time in the morning.” And I looked at him and said “Dude, look here, you want me to be in God’s face, you want me to be in God’s face so you can be sane!” So, when my whole family realized how different I had become my daughter said to me one day, “Mom, I’m so proud of you.” And I said “Why?” She said “You changed, a lot.” I said “Really?” She said, “You’re nothing like you used to be.” Because I was a basket case. I was a shattered brain, I was all over the place. I had kids to deal with, I had my step kids at the time so there was a lot of kids in the house and then music. Plus, my husband had a church, there was just so much going on and now I just hold on to that scripture that says when I’m overwhelmed you know the way that I should go. And I got that scripture in my morning time with God and I hold on to that scripture when there’s a lot going on because I can hear his voice, and I believe God is always speaking. Sometimes we just can’t hear Him but He’s always talking so I believe that when you spend that time with God it makes you sensitive to His www.pdwmag.com

voice. SO when I have a lot on my plate I can hear Him say, “Okay, stop that, don’t do that right now, this isn’t the season for that. Put that down, okay do that, change that, save that for later.” I can literally hear Him telling me what to do now, what to do later, and what to just get rid of all together. I’m able to maintain balance because I’m connected to His voice but when I’m not connected yeah, I’m overwhelmed. PDW: After taking a long break from the music industry you released your new album 5 AM. Tell us a little bit about this album and what 5 AM means to you. LM: 5 AM, that’s actually the album I was writing when I started waking up at 5 AM in the morning. This album took me 3 years to write. I started getting up early in the morning for the sake of sanity and the album is actually called 5 AM The Sound of Waking up to Him and so the album is actually my way of showing the rest of the world what my morning sounded like waking up to Him. There was a time when God was singing to me. Every situation I was dealing with was expressed on that album. The song “You” is about me coming out of depression. I remember God telling me He whose mind is stayed on me Purpose Driven Women Magazine

would have prefect peace and that’s how the Lord gave me that song. “Fly,” that song indicates that I felt trapped. I felt like I was on the ground with pigeons but I had wings that said that I could do more but I wasn’t doing more. There were just so many songs on that album. “Hold my world,” I felt like my world was falling apart and I remember one morning the Lord said I’m holding your world. I’m taking everything that you feel is broken and I’m using it. I’m putting the pieces together. “Good morning,” that was a song pointing out, the first thing I do is talk to You every single morning so that album is actually me replaying what I was going through and what I was sharing during my devotional time with the lord. It’s my favorite album. It really is.

PDW: What advice would you give to upcoming aspiring gospel artists? LM: Hmm, I think the greatest advice I could give an inspiring artist would be to trust God. When you don’t trust God you can get frustrated by what everybody else is doing and think that you’re not doing something right. You may think your music doesn’t matter, your voice doesn’t matter. If I’m not on the award shows I don’t matter, if I’m not winning an award I don’t matter. 17


If I’m not being invited to churches I don’t matter. My philosophy to this for every artist is you were a singer before the industry and if you need the industry to validate who you are then you probably shouldn’t be singing. Don’t ever need the industry. You will see for yourself. If you need anybody or any outside thing to validate that you are a singer, then you need to go back and find your passion to really be a singer, because that’s not the passion to be a singer. I always watch those singing shows like the Voice, I love the Voice and American Idol and I always hear them say before they go to the audition, “Oh my God, I don’t know what I’m going to do if I don’t make it. This is my only opportunity to be a singer.” And I’m thinking, but you’re already singing that’s why you’re here. You mean to tell me you’re going to stop singing if you don’t make it on the show? I understand the opportunity to be in front of more people yeah, but to say out of your mouth you know, “I don’t know what I’m going to do if I don’t get on this show. This is my dream.” What is your dream? Is your dream to be a singer and for the Christian world is your dream to be a vessel? Because you don’t need a stage to be a vessel.

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like to share with the readers of Purpose Driven Women Magazine? LM: The fact that it’s for women I definitely would like to encourage everyone that is a supporter of this magazine and that read the magazine to practice balance. I have an empowering group for women called briefcase and aprons where I share empowering words to the ladies to remind them of how to balance their life. The most important thing in our lives especially as moms and wives is our family. And if anything else comes before family you are out of order. No matter what you do, you will never have peace. You could be the most successful woman in the world but you will still fail if there is no balance. So I will just always encourage myself. I’m a briefcase and an apron because I work outside the home and in the home and that is sometimes the hardest thing because you have to balance both. You just have to find the balance. We always talk about other things that are an abomination to the Lord but the Bible clearly says that a false balance is an abomination to the Lord. So I just want to encourage the women to just find balance. Write everything down that you’re doing and see what you can continue to do and see what must be eliminated or put off for another time. Find some time to enjoy your Purpose Driven Women Magazine

life. Right now we’re just running after success but the main part of success is enjoying the earth that God is giving us. That’s what He told Adam and Eve. He created the earth and said now go enjoy it, do it, own it. And what we’re doing is, we’re just running, not even being able to enjoy it so just balance and enjoy life!

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Share My Story took me to my first baseball tryouts and she was the first, believe it or not, to take me to Burger King “home of the Whopper”. With all of her family at her graveside, she had made it clear that I was to be the main speaker at her funeral. I learned that love has no boundaries, not even blood. Nana

THE WOMEN WHO MADE ME A MAN By Denny Clark I am honored and excited to write this article for this great new magazine. A little about me: I am a 54 year old man in a leadership position with the state. I have children who love me and are successful in their respective lives. I wanted to write this article to give a man’s perspective of how instrumental a woman can be. Sounds intuitive doesn’t it? But sometimes things can get lost on a man and we have to remind ourselves, some times it takes more than once. So it is my dream that not only females read this, but males too. I hope it makes a difference. Here I go. www.pdwmag.com

She was the most influential person in my life. When My Mother my mom died, I had no father (or he didn’t connect It is a little funny to write about Mom, because she died with me), no mother, only Nana. My sister Dennise when I was ten. I knew that and I used to joke about not she loved me, as she was alhaving any food in our reways taking me somewhere with her. My fondest memory frigerator- but we never went hungry. Nana would of Barbara Ann Suarez was always find a way to beg, one night when we two were in the apartment alone and she borrow, but not steal to get put on a record. To this day, I us a fresh hot meal. The love to hear Nancy Wilson and thing I remember most I have developed a keen inter- about Nana was her ability est and love in the art of Jazz. to sacrifice herself for the well being of the rest the This is something that I have four children Mom left bepassed on to my kids and it hind. In those days, when will always be a part of my Mom died Nana, as the life. main caregiver for Mom’s Delores kids, received a Social SeDelores is hard to explain. curity check for about $300 She was a special friend to a month, to buy us kids Mom years before she died. some food. When I turned Delores developed a love for 18 and was ready to go to me that was unsurpassed. She college, I needed this check Purpose Driven Women Magazine

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in order to survive. Although I know this was a challenge for Nana, she sacrificed to see me off to a good education. I know I could never be that giving, but I learned to try. Dennise

She is my sister and has probably been the second most influential person in my life. I can put it succinctly to say that she saved me. I was down and out, had lost revenue in my business, I was heavily drinking, I was going through a divorce and had to sell the home I had once purchased with over $300,000 down. Dennise came and got when no one else wanted to talk to me. She gave me a place to stay, food to eat and introduced me to an executive recruiter which lead to my getting the job I am in today. What I learned from Dennise was to be eternally grateful, that I had talent and skills given to me by God, I only had to leave my past behind and look forward to the new. My Current Love I won’t tell you her name, but the person I am involved with now is selfless, loving and patient. I am still hurting from my divorce so I am not always the most affectionate person in the world, but I think she knows I am a good person. I pray that I will stay in her good hands for a long, long time. Well, now you know probably more about me than you wanted to know. I feel like this story was one that needed to be told, so I feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. For all who read this, I wish you love, happiness and a long life. Thanks for letting me tell my story.

SHARE YOUR STORY Purpose Driven Women publishes true stories about people who have attained a goal, overcame an obstacle or connected to their purpose by trusting God and standing in faith. We typical accept stories that are written in first-person narrative from a spiritual perspective that other women can apply to their own life. The story may be your own or someone else’s but it must be true. The emphasis should be on one specific event rather than an entire life story. The story should only include as many people needed to tell the story. The story must be based on facts and be written in a way the reader can clearly understand. Stories should be written with a personal feel so the reader feels like they were there. Focus on the positive outcome so readers can be encouraged and motivated. To share your story visit our website or email us at pdwmailus@gmail.com

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OVERCOMING DIFFICULITES IN YOUR MARRIAGE By Rhoda Whitfield

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife and the two shall be one flesh Genesis 2:24 (KJV) The scripture says that the two shall be one flesh. Not just one in purpose alone, but one in soul, spirit, physical intimacy, goals, mindset, and as one goes forward together in love and life. To be rebellious of this scripture will begin irreparable consequences for the union of a husband and wife. When the two of them are trying to function with separate dreams and goals, this can sometimes tear a marriage apart. It is sometimes okay to have things that you want to accomplish if your spouse supports you in it. However, if you continually have separate goals, they can lead you in separate directions. It is very helpful when you can share a

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Love and Relationship vision together. Then you can both work hard to get it done. It will be extra hard to fulfill that vision if your spouse is not with you or is fighting you on it. Therefore, it is very important to make sure you are "on the same page" as your spouse, and are working together to achieve your common goals. A major focus a husband and wife must maintain now, is that they are married and need to act differently than a single person. Everything that you do will not just affect you but also your spouse because you are one. When you are a single person, you can have your own goals, ambitions, visions, etc. When you get married, you need to mesh those visions and goals with the visions and goals of your spouse. Now you need to have a vision for you as a couple, and not just as an individual. Ask yourselves these questions, where do we want to be in our lives as we grow together in 5, 10, 15, and 20 years? What do we want to accomplish as a couple? Marriage is not a pastime that you can pick and choose if you desire to work at it or not. Your marriage will require work daily. No one told us www.pdwmag.com

the work that it would entail to holding our marriage together. I often tell people that, “Cinderella” sends a false message out to people that marriage is a fairy tale with a happy ever after ending. It’s quite the opposite. If you aren’t careful, at the first sign of a disagreement, things can begin to spiral out of control, and you will feel as though you were in A Nightmare on Elm Street. Is your marriage going to be free of disagreements? Absolutely not. Becoming one will require some bumps and bruises because we are now on the potter’s wheel as a couple being molded and meshed into one mind, body and soul. Yet, through all of the challenges we may experience during our marriage, continue to be mindful that God ordained marriage. He is not the author of confusion, He is about unity, and He doesn’t expect your marriage to end in divorce. God said, only death will part us. Satan, our enemy, has no concern for your marriage. He gets pleasure when there is discord in your home, and his major focus is division. I can’t begin to stress the importance to a husband and Purpose Driven Women Magazine

wife team, of developing the ability to recognize the enemy when he is trying to infiltrate your home and destroy your marriage. He is capable of taking the smallest disagreement and making you feel there is no hope for your marriage. The next thing you know, you and your spouse are in divorce court with irreconcilable differences. In your marital walk, you and your spouse have to learn how to merge your two hearts into one. One heart beat should be your continuous goal. Becoming one is not accomplished overnight; it’s a process that needs to be attended to daily. To develop oneness in our marriages, God has to be the foundation, and we have to walk together in His Spirit. In order to understand God’s purpose for marriage, we have to look to the beginning when He instituted marriage between a man and woman, and why. There are three main ingredients in His plan for marriage. They are that we should leave, cleave, and become one flesh. When we cleave to our spouses, we develop bonds that will 23


eventually glue us together mentally, physically, and spiritually. When we cleave to our spouses, we become inseparable. Leaving and cleaving merely develops a sense of loyalty to our spouses; being faithful at all times, keeping ourselves only unto them, and loving them unconditionally. Cleaving to our spouses does not leave any openings to run away at the sight of trouble. God did not promise us marriages free of problems or misunderstandings. This is because marriage includes two imperfect people trying to blend their imperfect imperfections. When we join in holy matrimony, we can no longer

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maintain the lifestyles we once lived. By that, we have to recognize that we are now someone’s husband or wife, and we can’t live a socalled married, single life. Marriage is a sacred covenant in the sight of God. Developing a spirit of oneness with your spouse requires you to involve every aspect of your life (your whole being). You and your spouse have to be connected physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. As with those things, one should be passionate about the success of one’s marriage. These attributes are not obtained instantly. My husband and I have been married for thirty-five years, and we still have to work every day to maintain what God ordained for us as a couple to fulfill. God has placed a charge upon your Purpose Driven Women Magazine

marriage that is not to be compromised. The ultimate fulfillment of this charge is until death do us part. I pose this question quite frequently when I speak with people regarding marriage. What determines the fate of one’s marriage? The answer is quite simple. It boils down to your relationship with God. If there is no connection with the one who made you, how can you connect with someone else for a lifetime? Having a true connection with God allows us to be led by the Holy Spirit and not our carnal minds. God serves as the glue that holds us together through whatever and sustains the covenant made between us.

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Let Go and Free Fall in Faith by Larzhee Pinder

There will be times when we fall and have absolutely no control over the fact that we have fallen. We're pushed or dropped and on the way down all we can see is the unintended descend, the short, sure journey to the ground and the injuries that follow. What if falling, in all actuality, doesn't have to be a bad thing?

When life drops us and falling is inevitable, somehow, we find our faith on the way down. When we fall faithfully, we will either land safely in the desires of our hearts, as it accords to His will, or we'll learn to fly; and if not, He's right there to catch us. The best thing we can do is let go and free fall in faith. What are you holding on to? Isaiah 40:31 - But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles. 26

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Wait upon the Lord will require a great deal of faith from you. To wait on God we have to have an assurance that He will show up, and that He will be right on time. Waiting on God is requires exercising your faith.. So, while you're exercising your faith, you may have to let go. You may have to jump. You may have to fall.

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Know that you have wings like eagles. Don't be afraid to let go of the things that you know you should have never taken hold of, the things that you have already been commanded to turn lose, the things that no longer serve a purpose in your life. Let them go and no matter how hard it is, how accustomed to and comfortable with them you have become, trust God when he says that season is through and just let go.

Eagles are majestic birds, known for strength and their ability to survive. They stand as a representation of greatness and achievement. Having taken some time to study the eagle's first flight, I learned that before that flight comes the FALL. Unlike most birds, they aren't gently nudged from the nest. The eaglet must free fall from his mother's nest, not because he's daring or wants to, but because it is a choice he must make in order to survive. They are lured from their nests by hunger, and provoking parents who withhold food. When we free fall in faith it is never just for fun. We free fall in faith because we understand that where we are, we can no longer be sustained. We free fall because we realize that if we don't move we might die! Like the eagles, we move because we must. Don't be afraid to fall from the nest, from your place of comfort, from your zone of familiarity. Your greatness may be completely dependent on the depth of your faith and your willingness to let go. So, I'll ask again. What are you holding on to? Only you know the answer to that.

Now that you've got your answer. Here's another question. Is that thing you're holding on to any good for you? When God is luring you out of that situation, with a glimpse of the greatness that awaits, you have to trust him enough to get out of your nest and fall into his promises, knowing that the greatest promise is a safe landing in the manifestation of the glory he has prepared just for you, in his purpose for your life. Whether you let go or were dropped, free fall, knowing that no matter how or why, God's got it and He has you. He promises you a safe landing.

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Do Not Fear Them By LaShae Roberts

This is how Numbers 14:9 ended the verse. The story was simple. Moses sent twelve men to spy out the land of Caanan. All but two returned fearful saying Israel would not be able to overtake the inhabitants because they were bigger and mightier. The ten spent more time focusing on what they perceived they could not do, instead of believing what God could do through them. I would be untruthful if I said I never had issues making a clear distinction between the two. I’m sure you may have heard the acronym for FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real. Yes, that sounds pretty accurate to

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me. If you have been diagnosed with fear, you have been experiencing some of its symptoms. While the evidence of this illness can range, the most common manifestations are hesitancy, paralysis, and doubt. Fear will cause you to act out of character. Fear will make you question yourself, doubt yourself, and in some cases, hate yourself because you’ll begin to feel as if you do not and cannot measure up. God has given you everything you need to meet the need He’s called you to meet. Has He told you to prophesy? Dance? Start a business? Purchase a home? Write? Volunteer? Did you know that there are people connected to your vision?

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People who are waiting on you to manifest so they can be blessed and get to their step in life? The enemy’s job is to entice you with fear so you do not experience the fullness that has been promised to you! Before we can talk about how to overcome fear, we first must highlight what invites fear: rejection. We all have experienced some type of rejection in our life. Be it big or small, it still hurts and leaves a lasting impression. What rejection have you experienced that has caused you to open the door to fear? When you strive to fulfill destiny, whose voice is it in your head saying you cannot do it? There is a difference between blatant rejection (you did not receive the job

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you interviewed for) and subtle rejection (your family/ friends do not celebrate your accomplishments). And believe it or not, it’s usually the subtle rejection that impacts us most. Why? Because it’s not objective, we tend to read into and interpret it based on our past experiences. Fear causes you to set emotional and mental traps. Fear takes a paint brush and creates a masterpiece that you will never be able to emulate. Fear also gives it some of your attributes as a way to say you can attempt to be it, but will never be. This masterpiece is meant to frustrate you and invites self-doubt. This is not of God! He knows that we are not perfect and doesn’t expect us to be. If it were that simple, He would not have given us grace and mercy. When Joshua and Caleb returned from Caanan, they gave this report to Israel: “The land we passed through to spy out is an exceedingly good land. If the Lord delights in us, then He will bring us into this land and give it to us, ‘a land which flows with milk and honey’. Only do not rebel against the Lord, nor fear the people of www.pdwmag.com

the land, for they are our bread; their protection has departed from them, and the Lord is with us. Do not fear them.” (Numbers 14:7-9) The Lord is with you! His ear is not too heavy that He cannot hear, neither is his arm to short that He cannot reach. Fear does not have to linger because the remedy for it is simple, but powerful – love. I know you’re asking, could it really be that simple? “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment” (1 John 4:18), and “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7). God’s love is perfect, and along with His love comes power, because you recognize it’s in His strength that you perform, and you have a sound mind, knowing that He is the one leading and guiding you along the way. Remember, you do not have to be perfect, just available.

So, what’s next? Pray the scriptures above so you can empower your spirit man, and then get to work! There is a land flowing with milk and honey waiting for you!

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Peace is what I leave with you; it is my own peace that I give you. I do not give to you as the world does. Do not be worried and upset; do not be afraid. Psalm 56:3 When I am afraid I put my trust in you. Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you: do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you: I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

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Get it Tight and Right By Lorneka Joseph

Watching an episode of one of my favorite television shows, The Dr.Oz Show, I asked myself, “How many women sitting in the audience actually went home and practiced what they learned?” Shows such as the one aforementioned, is one of many ways people can be enthused about their health. There are so many resources on how women can become healthy. But if there are many resources, gym memberships, and the internet at our fingertips, then what is the reason we are not living healthier and longer? In order to enjoy the great things in life that God has in store for you, you must be healthy and whole. The year is not over which means you can still make some adjustments if you’re desperate for change. Conditions that commonly affect women are hypertension, diabetes, obesity and heart diseases. While women wear many hats, waiting until later to care for yourself is a dangerous thing because later may be --- too late. For example, hypertension which is also called a “silent killer” for a reason. This means that one cannot always determine if their blood pressure is high based on signs and symptoms. Diabetes on the other hand, is a disease that can be prevented just by making lifestyle modifications.

There are very few health conditions that are not preventable. For the most part, God has given women the intelligence and the tools to fight sickness and disease. When it was time for me to add an exercise regimen to my busy schedule while in pharmacy school, it was a challenge so I understand the defeated-thoughts that may arise and I am here to help. If you are having challenges on how to get started on the road to health and wellness, here are some tips to help you overcome 30

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Before you start, pray about the sacrifice because you will need God’s strength to bring your body subject to discipline. Identify your struggles. For example, if you’re having headaches or hypertension more often, take inventory of the things in your fridge that are triggers and toss them out. Find a committed and motivated girlfriend or ask your spouse to work out with you. Create a practical plan, buy healthy foods and cook your meals at home. Everyone likes to eat out, but do so in moderation. Drink lots of water. It is recommended that one drinks 6-8 ounce glasses of water daily. While at work or running errands, walk the stairs and park as far from the mall entrance. Walking 15-30 minutes a day does wonders for your heart. Stay away from quick fixes. Quality takes time to produce. Last but not least. Do NOT quit when you make mistakes. Try and try again!

Our goal for you here at Purpose Driven Women magazine is to not give you another diet plan. We want you to eat in moderation and enjoy life. So this summer, get fit, fine and fabulous because greatness is in YOU to live healthier and longer.

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What are some topics of discussions couples should have with each other before or even after they make it official concerning blended families? What I have learned from being a part of a blended family growing up as a child and now being married into a blended family is that couples should definitely discuss parenting styles. It is very important to understand each other’s expectations when it comes to raising children. If a husband and wife have different parenting styles this can affect both the children and the marriage. I am actually guilty of this but boy did I learn fast. What are some of the hardest issues to overcome within blended families?

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I would say some of the hardest issues to overcome are parenting styles and being in two different places in life. Let me explain the being in two different places in life thing because did I learn some things on this topic. (laughing) When I married my husband, he did not have any children. On the other hand, I had two children. I had my first child at 19, so I did not have the chance to do some of the things that I wanted to do because I was always with my child or children. My husband on the other hand had already enjoyed life and traveled the world and was ready to settle down and have children. At that stage of our lives, we wanted different things, and it caused conflict and resentment. I did not thinking about this before we got married. When I met my husband, I was overjoyed and filled with relief that I had finally found a man to partner with me, love me the way I wanted to be loved, and help me raise my children. There are a lot of single mothers who can relate to how hard it is to raise children on their own, so when they finally meet men who 32

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How should families address their different parenting styles? I feel that a husband and wife should be honest about how they view parenting. Being honest about it in the beginning will definitely eliminate issues later on in the marriage. I also feel that it would be a good idea to even go to family and couples counseling before getting married. We tend to raise our children the way we were raised. I am not saying this is always the case but the majority of the time we tend to mock how our own parents raised us. For example, I grew up as an only child and my mom and stepdad pretty much gave me what I wanted and were more lenient and relaxed when it came to parenting me. On the other hand, my husband had a totally different experience. He grew up with siblings and they were all raised by his dad in a single parent household. His dad was on the stricter side because he had to raise 3 children. So when it comes to parenting, my husband tends to be stricter than me. Actually, this can be a good thing but in the beginning that was hard for me. For example, I never had to ask to get something out of the kitchen. As a child, my mom believed in me having a voice. My husband wanted to raise our children in what I would call the old fashioned way. (Laughing) In the beginning, I was against his method of parenting, but we have learned from each other and ended up merging our parenting styles. This is why it’s very important to be very truthful about your parenting style from the very beginning

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child is accustomed to being raised a certain way and then another parent steps in with different rules and ways of doing things, it can cause the child to go into defense mode. I have experienced not having any issues with one child to having extreme issues with the other child. My son was 10 months when I met my husband, so he was okay with our parenting style, but my daughter on the other hand had issues with the new parenting style since I was more lenient with her. I must confess that I would get upset when my husband would be strict towards my daughter. However, little did I know, she was playing devil’s advocate and playing us against each other. This is why it is very important for both parents to communicate well with each other.

I see is that being raised in a blended family helps the children learn problem-solving skills. Since there are challenges that blended families have to overcome, children learn how to cope and solve issues effectively, which can help them in their adulthood. Another thing that I see is when you combine families, there is a lot more love to go around and children can really benefit from that. The children gain more siblings, grandparents and other family members, which can be very helpful and healthy for the children. We all know that it takes a village to raise a child. Can you share a funny experience you and your husband have had within your blended family?

There are several benefits to being a part of a blended family. The first benefit I would say is that the merging of the two families can create financial support, taking the stress off one parent. Another benefit that

Okay, I have several but I know that I only have time for one. As I said earlier in our interview, my husband did not have any children of his own, so he always wanted his own children. After trying for three years, we were blessed with twin girls. Well, my husband became this over protective dad. I kind of knew that he would be that parent. (laughing). Well, fast forward to after having the babies. The babies had to go for their first check-up at their pediatrician and my husband was driving me crazy before we even made it to the appointment. He was trying to make sure everything was perfect and ended up leaving the baby bag home with the bottles and diapers, but that’s another story. (laughing)… So, we pull up to the doctor’s office, which was full that day. We couldn’t find a park close to the building and it was really cold. I had the twins in December, so you can imagine

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What parenting advice would you offer to those in blended families? My advice to couples who marry into blended families would be to communicate with each other and be truthful about how they are feeling. It’s not good for the marriage or the children for the parents to suppress their feeling as this will lead to resentment. Also, a couple should never let the children hear discussions concerning them. Children are so smart and they will use that to their advantage. Are there any benefits to blended families?


how the weather was. After finally finding a park, I heard my husband saying out of nowhere, “I know this heffa is not outside smoking in front of a pediatrician’s office”. So, I looked out the window and saw this lady puffing away on a cigarette. I’m thinking to myself, all we have to do is cover the babies up and walk into the doctor’s office. They are not going to be affected by second hand smoke from just walking pass someone. Now, my husband is the type who never really gets mad and I had never heard him say a cuss word in the 5 years that I had known him. So, my husband quickly pulled out of the parking space to go look for another parking space. Now, we were already late. He then got really mad after realizing that there were no other parking spaces available but the one beside the lady who was smoking. So, he goes back to that parking space, mad and talking under his breath. He then got out of the car and walked to the back of the car and wrapped the babies up really tight. I was thinking to myself, those babies are going to die from not being able to get any air before the cigarette smoke does anything to them, but whatever. I didn’t say anything. So, after wrapping the babies up and passing the lady who was smoking to go into the doctor’s office, we sat down and waited to be called. Well, while waiting, this snotty nose little boy started to walk up to the baby carriers. My husband started to give the little boy the eye and started to scoot the car seats back. Every time the little boy came closer, my husband started to pull the car seats back even further. I’m thinking to myself, run little boy run. (laughing) So, after the little boy finally realized that he couldn’t touch the twins, guess who walked in? The lady who was smoking outside! Come to find out, the little snotty nose boy was her child. (laughing)… My husband really got mad. He then looked at me and said that he should have known that he was her child and now he saw why the little boy has a snotty nose. Finally, after going through all of that, my husband told the lady who checked us out after the appointment that she needed to put a no smoking sign outside because people should not be outside smoking. I was just flustered by then, because I was thinking, how are you going to tell these people what to do with their doctor’s office. That is just one of the many funny stories that I have. My husband is not as bad today but he still has his moments where I am like - Really? (laughing)

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ON THE RIGHT TRACK: 4 SIMPLES STEPS TO LIVING A FULFILLED LIFE by Tanitra McMillon

So many people struggle with self-fulfillment every day. This can be a completely suffocating issue to deal with. Many feel that they aren’t fulfilled in their jobs. Others just want to be the best they can be at whatever they are pursuing, personally and professionally. If you follow the four steps provided below, you’ll be on your way to total selffulfillment in all you do. Step 1. The absolute fir st step, and in my opinion, the most important, is Self-Evaluation. This involves a complete, detailed internal audit. Ask yourself open ended questions like, “What do I want to be? What kind of person am I striving to become? What do I enjoy? What effect do I want to have on others; the world, my community?” Get to know your36

self. It is important to invest in you! After all, aren’t you worth it? The time, the money, and hard work that you put into developing yourself, you will reap more benefits than any other investment opportunity you could ever be presented with. Step 2. Once you become more aware of yourself as an individual, you can begin to Construct a Plan. This plan should take some time, because it has to be very detailed. It must include both short term and long term goals. This plan should include what strategies you will use to reach these goals. This should bring a sense of accomplishment and help you feel like your life has direction. Constructing a plan for your life is one way to begin Purpose Driven Women Magazine

your journey to a state of contentment and happiness. Step 3. In or der to ensur e that you stay on the path set by your plan, Keep a Journal. This will serve as a tool for reevaluation and a method to track your progress. It also enhances your relationship with you. Your entries should include what you did to reach the short term goals you have set as well as how you’re feeling about what you’ve accomplished. It should include any obstacles you have encountered and solutions regarding overcoming them. Keeping this journal will help you focused on your plan while limiting distractions you face as you move towards successfully completing your goals. Step 4. If you’re serious about all you have set out as your aspirations and dreams, and you really want to achieve them, now you must Eliminate negativity. It is absolutely imperative to your success that this step be performed as completely and thoroughly as possible. Negativity harvests more negativity. Start with yourself. Everyday spend some time preparing yourself by stating all the positive things that you will accomplish that day. Throughout the day, as soon as the “I can’t do this,” thought comes, counteract it with “I will do this.” You must stay positive. Surround yourself with positive people who will reinforce the type of inspiration that you provide for yourself daily. This step is ongoing. Be persistent.

If you stick to these four simple steps you will have no problem getting your life on the right track!

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Follow up with Design Essentials Stimulating Conditioner. (Be sure to rinse with luke warm water to seal the conditioner into the hair shaft).

Mist your tresses with Design Essentials HCO leave in conditioner. Blow Dry or set your tresses as usual.

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Q. How often should I shampoo my hair? A. At least every two weeks. Q. How often should I get a relaxer? A. Every 6 to 8 weeks depending on the amount of new growth. You should have at least 1/2 inch of new growth.

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