A Year of Exponential Growth
In Pursuit of God, Discovering Purpose, Maximising Potential
C o n t e n ts 4 | In The Crucible with Pastor Agu Irukwu 5 | A Tribute to Mandela (1918-2013) 6 | Stories @ Jesus House
21 | A Closer Walk With God by Khadijat Akpata
Impact – the CSR Magazine
• ACTs Week
• Mandate Men’s Conference 2013 (pg6)
• The Colindale Foodbank
• Jesus House Launches Recording Studio (pg9)
• Ignite Empowerment Series
• Summerfresh 2013 (pg10)
• Raised Up In Christ Sunday (pg12)
• O rdinary People, Extraordinary Things: Shade Olutobi
• 100 Church leaders at Lambeth Palace (pg14)
• Eradicating Extreme Hunger
• Jesus House Francophonie's 'Kingdom Men and Women' Conference (pg15)
• Meeting Healthcare Needs
• Supporting the Oji-River Leprosy Colony
• Uncommon Woman 2013 (pg16)
• Donation of toiletries, toys and gifts
• Synergy: Go Harder (pg18)
• Football Academy 2013
• The Colindale Foodbank (pg20)
• Lifetime Achiever Award
• The Butterfly Effect
10 Editorial Board Lanre Iroche, Jumoke Fawibe, Otty Warmann, Naomi Durodola, Tinuke Akinbulumo, Edel Meremikwu, Ezinne Edomobi, Tayo Arewa, Kunle Oyetayo, Ima Jackson-Obot, Imoleayo Oseni, Ayoola Bandele, Keisha Aimiuwu, Edith Ogundeji
Contributors Pastor Bajo Akisanya, Borelia Kaneza, Jummi Sekoni, Linda Ejimadu, Kemi Olutunbi, Lola Adedoyin, Itunu Onafadeji, Adenike Adenitire, Fola Agbede, Dr Okeys Ejims, Kemi Taylor, Khadijat Akpata, Abiola Obileye, 'Tiffany Jones'
Editor-in-Chief Agu Irukwu
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'Created to be Godlike'
od’s intent was clear: “ A n d G o d said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.” - Genesis 1:26 (King James Version) He went on to do just that: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” Genesis 1:27(King James Version) The next verse tells us, “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” Genesis 1:28 (King James Version) The Message Bible in more contemporary language says, ‘God spoke: “Let us make human beings in our image, make them reflecting our nature. So they can be responsible for the fish in the sea, the birds in the air, the cattle, and, yes, Earth itself, and every animal that moves on the face of Earth.” God created human beings; he created them godlike, Reflecting God’s nature....’ Genesis 1:26-28 I think it is important to note that the blessing came upon His creation made in His image and likeness.
We were created to be godlike, reflecting God’s nature. Stop and reflect on this for a moment. Simply put, we are supposed to be gods. Isn’t that what Jesus says in John 10: 34-36? We carry some part of the divine in us. What does that mean? Well, if we reflect His nature, we should exhibit His traits, character and personality. We should be kind, compassionate, loving, patient, just to mention a few godly characteristics. Of course we should be holy, for does Apostle Peter not say, quoting what God Himself said in the book of Leviticus to the children of Israel, ‘But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do for it is written “Be holy because I am holy”.’ If we are godlike, reflecting God’s nature, and if God is all powerful, should we not “reflect” that power? The possibilities are literally mind-boggling. The reality, however, is sobering. Starting with the fall of man and the introduction of sin, the enemy and his army have worked hard to rob us of our identity. The result of his effort is a human race that is broken, wounded, emotionally scarred, maybe angry, frustrated, cynical, unbelieving and dysfunctional...definitely not godlike or reflecting God’s nature. That was really why Christ came, to pay the price for our sin and give us a chance to go back to who we are. It is not a walk in the park though; it’s going to take some dedicated pursuit of God. However, the results can be amazing. This is an account of the early church who committed themselves to this pursuit: “And with great power gave the apostles witness of the resurrection of the Lord Jesus: and great grace was upon them all.” Acts 4:33 (King James Version) You were created to be godlike, His representatives on earth.
mandela (1918 -2013)
t will become one of those “Where were you when...?” questions, where were you when you heard the news that a man who represented virtues which seem to belong to a long-forgotten era – virtues such as courage under fire, forgiveness and giving yourself to a cause that benefits others more than it benefits you – had breathed his last and begun the next phase of his journey. You would doubtless have been one of millions around the world united in sadness at the passing of a man considered by many to be the true African statesman, anti-apartheid activist Nelson Mandela, who died in a Pretoria hospital on Thursday 5th December at the age of 95. Born in the Cape Province, Mandela was a simple country boy who rose to prominence as a revolutionary leader fighting the struggle against apartheid, a system of racial segregation enforced through legislation by the National Party governments in South Africa. His struggle against apartheid, which loosely translates as ‘the state of being apart’ and curtailed the rights of the majority black inhabitants of the country while maintaining the rule of the Afrikaner minority, resulted in a period of over 27 years spent in prison, before he was set free like the biblical Joseph and ultimately elected president in the country’s first fully representative democratic election in 1994. A dynamic leader; he eschewed the opportunity to harbour resentment, choosing instead to forgive and reconcile with those who had imprisoned him. Perhaps his biggest contribution to humanity was that he strived for something bigger than himself.
Tributes pouring in from world leaders included those of our Prime Minister, David Cameron, who noted in Mandela’s passing that “A great light has gone out.” South Africa’s current President, Jacob Zuma, lamented that “Our nation has lost its greatest son. Our people have lost a father.” US President Barrack Obama said, “It took a man like [Mandela] to free not just the prisoner, but the jailer as well; to show that you must trust others so that they may trust you; to teach that reconciliation is not a matter of ignoring a cruel past, but a means of confronting it with inclusion, generosity and truth. He changed laws, but also hearts.” In his speech at Mandela’s memorial service, South Africa’s Archbishop Desmond Tutu asked whether Mandela was a saint, before going on to answer his own question: “Not if a saint is entirely flawless. I believe he was saintly because he inspired others powerfully and revealed in his character, transparently, many of God's attributes of goodness: compassion, concern for others, and a desire for peace, forgiveness and reconciliation.” BBC World News described him as a “gentle warrior” dignified in his fight for freedom, and the global response to his passing gave credence to the claim that “he was loved all over the world.” Throughout his life – both in the prison and in the seat of power; both as a champion of equality and latterly of reconciliation – Mandela made us understand that we can each change the world no matter where we find ourselves in life, and even in his passing, he remains a beacon of light to the world. Summer issue 2013 | 5
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Re-Ignite: The Mandate Menâ€™s Conference 2013
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2013 saw the return of the Mandate Men’s conference, after a brief hiatus, with the charge to ‘Rediscover Manhood’ central to this year’s “Re-Ignite” theme. The event promised to be even more impactful, relevant and life-changing than before, as Mandate Men’s Ministries continued to pursue its commitment to empower men for this century and beyond, furnishing them with the tools and resources to help them on the journey to becoming the role models that God intended them to be, at home, at work and in society. The four-day programme kicked off at 7pm on Wednesday 4th September with a free concert, which was open to both men and women. This concert arguably trumped previous incarnations, with three generations of Mandate men, four award-winning artistes, five feature performances and an amazing night out with friends. The concert featured singer-songwriter and guitarist, Jonathan Butler, a Grammy-nominated performer whose albums have graced the top of the Billboard Gospel and Classical Crossover charts (peaking at #2 and #3 respectively); Guvna B, an urban gospel rapper and composer who has occupied the top spot of the MySpace Gospel & Christian Rap charts, and received the Gospel Music Award for “Best Gospel Artist”, and Urban Music Award for “Best Gospel”, before crowning all that with the prestigious MOBO award for Best Gospel Act; S.O., who has been propelled to the frontline of Christian rap since the 2010 release of his “The 5 Solas” mixtape; and Jesus House (and Outflow’s) own Otty, whose sound has drawn comparisons with luminaries such as John Legend and Luther Vandross, and whose single, ‘Words’ was recently nominated for ‘Best Unsigned Song’ by the Unsigned Music Awards panel. Supporting these artistes on the night were DJ Solva and the Mandate Men’s choir.
On Thursday evening, the men were treated to the first exposition of the “Re-ignite” theme by the Founder and General Overseer of the International Central Gospel Church, Dr Mensa Otabil who, as is his custom, challenged them to higher thinking. Leaning on Genesis 1:26-28 as his key text, he explained the original intention of God as He created mankind and went on to describe how this governed His expectation of us. Worship on the night was led by Jonathan Butler and Epitome Magazine’s ‘2011 Artist of the Year’, and the Gospel Music Workshop of America’s ‘Musician of the Year’ Michael Norman. The daytime sessions on Friday saw Action Jackson energise his listeners’ passion for success, while Paul Szkiler challenged the men to live out their faith in the marketplace and become transformational, rather than just surviving. “Action” Jackson Ogunyemi is a motivational speaker and life coach who has worked with a vast range of people including students, management teams of recognised corporations such as Morgan Stanley, the NHS, schools, colleges, universities and individuals from different walks of life, while Mr Szkiler is the Chairman of the Truestone Group, a 25-year old asset management business in London, which currently manages over £400 million on behalf of clients. Dr Otabil returned during the evening session to conclude on his exposition, which was preceded by one of the highlights of the conference, in which Pastor Agu took to the stage to interview retired football player Fabrice Muamba, who spoke candidly about the horrific incident that caused his heart to stop beating for 78 minutes and how the nation united in prayer for his recovery. A former professional footballer who represented Arsenal FC, Birmingham City FC and Bolton Wanderers FC, Mr Muamba shocked the world on 17 March 2012 when he ‘died’ and came back to life during an away match
1: Jonathan Butler at the Mandate Concert 2: Pastor Kofi Banful of Praise Christian Centre and Pastor Sola Irukwu 3: Pastor Agu Irukwu 4: Paul Szkiler 5: Pastor Bajo Akisanya, Bosun Sadare and Otty Warmann
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"Mandate Ministries continued to pursue its commitment to empower men, furnishing them with the tools and resources to help them on the journey to becoming the role models that God intended them to be." 7: Fabrice Muamba 8: Major General (Rtd) Tim Cross CBE in conversation with Mandate men at the breakfast
against London-based Tottenham Hotspur. Two days later, his heart was beating without medication, and he has since made an astounding recovery and serves as an ambassador for the Arrithmia Allianceâ€™s Heart and Goals campaign. Responding to Pastor Aguâ€™s inquiry about how he copes with the premature end to his career, Mr Muamba responded with outstanding maturity that he had accepted that one chapter of his life had closed, and another opened, and was grateful enough that he was alive and could still make a positive contribution to the world. As always, the conference closed with a Breakfast meeting on Saturday 7th at The Millennium Hotel Mayfair London. This proved a fitting conclusion to an inspiring week, as Major General (Retired) Tim Cross CBE talked about his faith journey and how his biblical
foundation motivated his actions in the course of his military career. Major General Cross was commissioned into the British Army in 1971 and commanded at every level, from leading a small Bomb Disposal Team in Northern Ireland in the 1970s to commanding a Division of 30,000 from 2004 to 2007. Retiring in January 2007, he was the Army Adviser to the UK House of Commons Defence Committee for 5 years, and today serves as a Defence Adviser to a number of UK and international companies and a Visiting Professor at three UK-based Universities.
1: Pastor Agu familiarises himself with the studio equipment
2: Flanked by representatives of the Tribe of Judah (l-r) Lekan Solanke, David Ellevique, Simeon Otung & Ibukun Adeeyinwo 3: Pastor Agu blesses the studio, supported by Rev Yemi Adedeji and Pastor Dupe Afolabi, Administrator of RCCG Central Office
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Jesus House now has its very own state-of-the-art recording studio, and produced its first studio album, a Christmas CD for recipients of Christmas Lunch on Jesus (CLOJ) hampers. Situated on the Jesus House premises, the purpose-built studio is equipped for music & sound recording, mixing and engineering. Studio manager, Simeon Otung, said: “The main services include production, engineering, mixing, voice-overs, audio and visual overdubbing, song-writing as well as music composition for TV adverts, films and training in any interest field.” Pastor Ayo Adedoyin, Head of Communications & Community, said: “This is a fantastic opportunity for local youngsters to access a service that would normally cost an arm and a leg.” The Christmas album, titled White Christmas, featured talent-
ed musicians and vocalists from the church, including recording artistes Arinola and Otty, as well as the multi-talented Chibundu Onuzo and the Tribe of Judah choir. On opening the studio, Pastor Agu encouraged the use of the studio to engage young people: “The hope is that people will avail themselves of the opportunity here for them. We particularly hope that we can engage and train up young, vulnerable and disadvantaged youngsters. I firmly believe that it is only a matter of time before world-class gospel albums emanate from the four walls of Jesus House.” The Christmas CD is available to purchase on iTunes. To find out more about the studio visit Jesus House website. Tinuke Akinbulumo, Kunle Oyetayo and Edel Meremikw
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s part of the church’s summer activity drive, more than two tonnes of green waste was disposed of and 500kg of household waste collected in Barnet borough during Acts Week from 12th-16th August. Multiple streets were rejuvenated: volunteers helped six households on Brent Terrace with front and back garden clearouts. One disabled resident, Diane, received help with gardening and de-cluttering. Fences were given a new lick of paint and, in another home, a senior citizen in New Southgate was helped with weeding and heavy lifting. The project was led by the Jesus House Community Action team, with heavy duty gardening and labourious tasks spearheaded by some of the Mandate ministry (ordinary men rediscovering manhood as God intended), Pastor Ayo Adedoyin, Job Onuh, Graeme Sokari and Chukwuemeka Eziakonwa, with women, young people and children assisting with lighter tasks. Weeks before, volunteers had paired up and put their hand to the plough as door to door knockers, posting flyers to houses on both sides of Claremont Road and Brent Terrace. Pastor Ayo Adedoyin, Head of Communications and Community, said, “this giving was part of the SummerFRESH 2013 season of taking the church into the local community”.
He added: “The week traditionally takes place around the school holiday period, to encourage young people to get involved in giving back to their community and making a difference before they go back to school, college or university.” The origin of the ‘Week of Serving’ is rooted in the biblical commandment to “love thy neighbour,” and was first initiated two years ago to encourage Christ-like love and service in the community in the aftermath of the 2011 riots in London which left thousands of people homeless and hopeless. One of the local volunteers for Acts Week thoroughly enjoyed it, saying, “People were amazed that we were here to help for free. It was a great week and people really appreciated what we were able to do for them.” The team also helped to revive the spirits of residents through prayer and they were invited to the summer picnic in the park. Jummi Sekoni Other activities which took place during the SummerFRESH 2013 season included the annual Football Academy, where youngsters were coached in the beautiful game by FAqualified football coaches, as well as taught several life lessons, and the annual Church in Park event, where hundreds from the local community mixed with the Jesus House congregation in the spacious Clitter House Playing Fields.
1: The ACTS Week team 2: A snapshot of the SummerFresh picnic 3: Fun and games at the picnic 4: Andrew Cooley and Pastor Chieme Okuzo during the ACTS week 5: Snapshots of the Football Academy
People were amazed that we were here to help for free. It was a great week and people really appreciated what we were able to do for them 4
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Raised in Christ (RUC) Su Up Stories @ Jesus House
1: The RUC choir
2: Scene from drama performance
3: RUC Squad's Deacon Yemi Olanrewaju with his wife, Wunmi
4: The RUC dance troupe
5: Jesus House's Director of Youth, Pastor Bajo Akisanya 6: RUC Squad's Sophia Thakur during her spoken word performance All photos by: Alex Sakutu
n 15th September, the church came alive as its youth ministry, Raised Up in Christ (RUC), took over the running of the services during the annual RUC Sunday. RUC is a vibrant youth ministry that meets every Sunday in Jesus House, and each RUC Sunday is set aside to showcase the gifts and unique spiritual expressions present in the youth, with an explosion of music, drama, poetry and dance usually filling the atmosphere. Spearheaded by Pastor Bajo Akisanya, who oversees the ministry in his office as Director of Youth, RUC is made up of two groups: TM4:12 (taken from 1st Timothy 4:12), which is led by Deacon Nkem Nwani and caters to teenagers aged 13â€“16, and RUC Squad, where college and university students between the ages of 16 and 21 learn under the tutelage of Deacon Yemi Olanrewaju. Both deacons are assisted by a team of individuals who have dedicated themselves to giving this generation of young people the best chance to make a positive mark on the word they are preparing to go into. As well as performances by the RUC Choir, and drama skits and dance routines put together and performed by members of the youth ministry, the congregation was also treated to a thought-provoking display of the spoken word by the gifted Sophia Thakur, before Deacons Nwani and Olanrewaju brought an exhortation in each of the services designed to challenge the thinking of all who listened.
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1: The Archbishop of Canterbury, Rev Justin Welby, flanked by (l-r) Pastor Agu Irukwu, HOPE Director Roy Crowne, Nicky Gumbel of Holy Trinity Brompton and the Alpha Course, and HOPE Associate Director Rev Yemi Adedeji 2: A cross-section of the leaders present at the meeting
church leaders pray for the nation at Lambeth Palace
hristian leaders are preparing to bring lasting spiritual change to the UK through the HOPE 2014 initiative, which starts in January. The Archbishop of Canterbury, the Most Rev Justin Welby, spoke prophetically about the Church when he urged one hundred Christian leaders at Lambeth Palace to be “united, forgiving, sacrificial, risk-taking, spreading and being good news, with a renewed emphasis on prayer, evangelism and reconciliation.” The Archbishop described the Church of the future as one with a church-planting and prayer movement; with people prepared to sell up and move to places where life isn’t easy, where jobs are scarce and salaries are low; an era when “foodbank” was a forgotten word; where churches work together to end human trafficking, set up credit unions, created wonderful works of art and music, stories and fantastic films; where “the watching world saw that following Jesus was the best way to live”; a time when “there was no part of the world that we were not prepared to go into. That was when we became a risk-taking church [because] individually and collectively we said every part of this world belongs to Christ.” Roy Crowne, HOPE’s director said, “We are stronger together than apart,” adding that “HOPE brings churches together to transform communities by putting faith into words and action.” “In the last three years we have seen an authentic integration and partnership between HOPE, the Black Majority churches and other ethnic churches in UK,” said Reverend Yemi Adedeji, Associate Director of HOPE. Pastor Agu described it as “a partnership made in heaven.” The Archbishop closed in prayer using the words of Psalm 71:16-18. “I will come and proclaim your mighty acts, Sovereign Lord; I will proclaim your righteous deeds, yours alone.
Since my youth, God, you have taught me, and to this day I declare your marvellous deeds. Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, my God, till I declare your power to the next generation, your mighty acts to all who are to come.” He urged the church to “show Christ’s love to those with whom we differ, to love people even when they hate us – even when they threaten us.” “The most effective evangelistic strategy is a [commitment] to prayer,” he added. “The work of conversion is a work that only God can do - a work that is only realised in prayer.” Each of the leaders received a Bag of HOPE, which included HOPE’s Season of Prayer booklet with daily prayers from 18 October 2013 to 31 January 2014, and a copy of Who? - The Story of Jesus – a special HOPE edition of Jesus’ life as recorded by the Gospel writers Matthew, Mark and Luke. Find out more about HOPE – www.hopetogether.org.uk”. Edel Meremikwu
Jesus House Francophonie's
'Kingdom Men and Women' Conference M id-year 2013 saw Jesus House’s French ministry gather the church’s French-speaking members, together with representatives of other local French ministries and the French community at large in London, for its annual men and women’s conference. Sizable numbers of French-speaking members from as far as France, the Republic of Congo, Morocco, Madagascar, Cameroon, Ivory Coast, Burkina Faso, Niger, Burundi and Togo (to name a few) were in attendance. The theme of the conference was ‘Kingdom Men and Women,’ and conference host Pastor Mark Menda told Outflow that “the conference was very rich in information and was an opportunity for whomever so desired to mature in their walk with Christ.” Key speakers came from France, in the shapes of Pastors David and Jocelyn Goma, with two guest minstrels visiting from Switzerland and the UK, Toussaint Mbaki and Blandine Webber, each sharing messages of encouragement and life-principles for both men and women, challenging them into a deeper love for God and humanity. 2
The ministry believes that people were blessed and given the necessary tools to live a victorious Christian life as men and women of valour in the Kingdom of God here on earth. Towards the end of the three-day conference testimonies were shared of how people were impacted, out of which many people made lasting resolutions to change their lives in light of what they had heard. Pastors Mark and Marceline would like to thank everyone for their contributions and prayers in making the conference a success, and are praying that God will reward their labour of love.
1: Jesus House Francophonie's Pastor Mark Menda with the church band and choir
2: Pastor Maurice Alamba of The Prince of Peace Reigns Ministry
3: Pastors Mark & Marceline Menda with Pastor Alamba 4: Papy Kaninda leading the conference in prayer
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1: Pastor Funke Adeaga 2: Volunteers manning a registration desk 3: A cross-section of the conference speakers and Jesus House female leadership (l-r) Pastors Abby Olufeyimi and Chizor Akisanya, Baroness Elizabeth Berridge, Pastors Vera Omonedo and Sola Irukwu 4: Worship leader Moji Osifeso 5: Pastor Abby Olufeyimi of The Builder's House 6: The Uncommon Woman conference pack 7: Tribe of Judah's Tosin Hassan leads the women in worship 8: Copies of the Summer 2013 edition of Adivah, the Esthers magazine
id-year, the Esthers’ women’s ministry hosted the second women’s conference on the 26th and 27th July, and from the anticipation over the preceding weeks it was clear that this was an
event not to be missed! As female guests entered the foyer they were greeted with a heart-warming welcome of freshly ground Starbucks coffee and nibbles. Hundreds of women of all ages were in attendance, dressed radiantly to compliment the warm summer weather. The conference, themed ‘The Walk of Grace,’ featured a powerful line up of female speakers and musicians encouraging women in their everyday walk of grace. Pastor Abby Olufeyimi of the Builder’s House Croydon introduced Grace as “the ability of God to do in you what you cannot do for yourself.” In our Walk of Grace, Grace was identified as a companion, broken down in Greek – Com and pan – to mean “to break bread with,” as living without it means we live without God (Eph 2:4-6, Romans 9:11). Grace is the enabler, flowing through us to be able to pray for the land and intercede on behalf of nations.
Baroness Elizabeth Berridge of the Vale of Catmose in the County of Rutland, Executive Director of the Conservative Party Christian Fellowship and the second youngest female member of the House of Lords, gave a talk based on Esther titled ‘The Grace to Influence’. She explained that the Uncommon Woman can be the person to influence outcomes – which is dependent on the right timing; when we rush ahead without checking that the time is right, we tend to lose out, which was why Esther did not immediately put her request to the king but asked twice for a banquet. She reminded us that even if you have a bad start God is the ultimate restorer. Dr Rosalyn Murphy is a female priest of many firsts – including being the first ordained female in St Nicholas in Durham, the first female PHD holder in Bible Studies from the Universi4
ty of Durham, and the first female to preach in the Muhammed Ali mosque in Cairo. Her talk reflected on God’s All-Sufficient Grace – from ‘A’ type of grace to the ‘Z’ type of grace – paid by Jesus Christ; one example being “Grace upon Grace,” where the free gift of righteousness allows us to exercise dominion. We can extend our gifts in building one another, in turn building others, and the Grace builds the body of Christ like a builder laying blocks to build a wall. Pastor Sola Irukwu of Jesus House reminded us that Grace breaks the chains of bondage by setting you free and refuses all limitations, stating that it was given to us in order to touch other lives. We have a mandate to serve through grace. The question she posed was “who do we serve with this Grace?”We are to serve the body of Christ (people who declare Jesus Christ as Lord). We serve our neighbour, which the dictionary defines as a person or persons who are closely affected by our actions. Last but not least she taught us that we serve God through humility because it is by Grace that we are here, and we serve with passion and without expectation (2 Cor 9:8-12). In addition, Funlola Abe, head of Jesus House’s Young Adults Ministry, ReConnect, and Stephané Alexandre, founder of Milk & Honey – an online hub for young women bringing the sweet-
est entertainment and inspirational news, shared their touching and motivational life experiences, while Yolanda Brown, a MOBO jazz saxophonist, provided good vibes to dance to alongside the Tribe of Judah. Linda Ejimadu and Kemi Taylor
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t the start of the year, the church was urged by Pastor Agu to press forward, and Synergy, the Jesus House dance troupe, built on the theme during all three services on September 8th to a backing track of Michelle Bonilla’s ‘Go Harder’, encouraging the church to “push harder” whenever life pushed hard against them. With the song’s lyrics pointing to the life of a Christian as a place of spiritual battle - #I'm in the battle field...I'm on the front line, I'm a soldier...I'm pressing on, I'll win the race, till
the battle is won...so I’ll keep on fighting# Synergy’s routine was suitably energetic and aggressive, and rounded off by the combat gear sported by its members. The highlight of the event was undoubtedly the participation in the routine – in attire and in dance – by Pastors Agu, Shola (Doc) and Bajo, who drew a new batch of admirers for their keenness to step out of their comfort zones and their ability to not take themselves too seriously. In addition to this, the congregation was also treated to a live performance by MOBO Award winner Rachel Kerr.
All photos by: Alex Sakutu
1: Guest artiste Rachel Kerr
2-5: The Synergy dance troupe 'going harder' 6: Generals Bajo Akisanya, Shola 'Doc' Adeaga and Agu Irukwu get in on the act, displaying surprising dexterity
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Conservative MP for Hendon Matthew Offord visits The Colindale Foodbank
hursday, August 8th marked the one-year anniversary of the Colindale Foodbank partnership with The Trussell Trust, a national charity that provides emergency food cover across the UK. To mark this significant moment, Conservative MP for Hendon, Matthew Offord visited the initiative to find out how giving is transforming the community. Pastor Chieme Okuzu told him: “Each voucher entitles a family to three days worth of food such as dried pasta, rice, soups and tinned food,” and added: “It is encouraging to know that there is a strong sense of community spirit alive in Colindale ensuring that everyone in the local area has access to food. “The Foodbank has been growing from strength to strength with community support from volunteers who recently collected over a ton of food during a two-day supermarket drive at Tesco, Brent Cross with caring shoppers donating items during their weekly shopping trip.” Run exclusively by volunteers, the Foodbank has provided food items to thousands of individuals and families in Barnet through a referral system and a walk-in service for emergency food shortages. As a charity that champions generosity, the project was originally birthed by Jesus House as part of a desire to “love thy neighbour” in a practical way. It has seen the church lend much-needed support to families and individ-
uals and has served to bridge the gap between those who have sufficient to meet their needs and those who have very little. In addition to this, the Foodbank located at the Novo Centre gives a holistic approach to helping local people through working in partnership with Citizens Advice Bureau, Job Centre Plus, housing association Affinity Sutton and other local organisations to ensure that people are helped to get out of debt and back into employment. Mr Offord MP said: “Well done for supporting those in need in the community, I’m very impressed, this is a very holistic approach [to giving food to those who need it the most] and signposting them to services in the community to get back into employment. Long may it continue.” One mother from Grahame Park said: “It’s been a huge relief to know that when my budget is really tight, I can receive food for free.” More than 13 million people live below the poverty line in the UK due to rising costs of food and fuel, combined with financial and social challenges such as high unemployment, redundancy, illness, debt and recent changes to benefits. This has meant that people have increasingly turned to local Foodbanks for help in times of need. Future plans for the Colindale Foodbank include partnering with local churches to become distribution centres across Barnet. Edel Meremikwu
closer with walk God Outflow Features
By Khadijat Akpata
re you the kind of person who makes plans, then draws up a Plan B and sometimes C, just in case? You believe that God will deliver Plan A for you, but there is a nagging doubt somewhere in your mind that asks “what if it doesn’t happen?” so you go ahead and put together Plan B and C in your head. I used to be this person. The last year has taught me over and above anything that there is no plan A, B or C. There is only God’s plan and, because He may not disclose that plan to you, you just have to trust and believe that it will come to pass. As Deuteronomy 31:8 tells us “It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.” This time last year, I was pregnant with our first child. I trusted God that all will go to plan, but I didn’t realise how much I had to lean on Him. Twelve months on, I realise I wasn’t leaning on Him. He was propping my full body weight up. Without Him, I would literally have crashed. Lets just say it was a bumpy pregnancy, where each appointment with hospital consultants knocked us back for six. At 10 weeks, there was unexplained bleeding. We thought a miscarriage was happening, but the baby was fine. It still remains unexplained. I think that was God’s first warning shot. He was saying, this was something I promised you. Stop worrying and questioning, just trust in Me that all will be well.
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I learnt not only to pray at a deeper level, but to be thankful
At 12 weeks, I got a call at work saying the consultant would like to see my husband and I. The baby scored high probability for chromosomal abnormality. Without fail, I went online, researched and scared myself silly. I’m sure my Father in heaven was shaking His head at me. Clearly I still wasn’t completely trusting. We had an amniocentesis and it came back fine. Baby had all the right chromosomes. At 20 weeks, we were told the baby had a leg deformity. I thought, “ah God, what is it now?” Is this punishment for something I did or did not do? The resounding answer was no! This walk you are taking with Me is to learn ultimate surrender of self and to trust in faith. At this point, different consultants were jumping over themselves to tell us how rare this condition was etc. They even sent us for counselling at Great Ormond Street. Something told me they were wrong, but I could not articulate it. My back was against the wall. Physically there was nothing I could do to change the situation. The only thing I had left was to trust in God, with all my faith and might. Some might even say with reckless abandonment. All notions of plan A, B and C disappeared and all I could see was God’s plan. However, this pregnancy turned out to be God’s plan. We were seeing consultants and having scans to monitor the baby’s leg every 3 weeks. And every 3 weeks my walk with God deepened some more. As the song goes, He was drawing me closer to Him and He was not going to let me go. During this time, I learnt not only to pray at a deeper level, but to be thankful. It was a challenge, but I even said thanks for the challenge, because it was sharpening my faith and my trust in God. I finally understood what it meant to have a personal relationship with God. Although I still questioned why this was happening, I knew that God had a plan and this was going to be a lesson, once learnt, that would never be forgotten. The only answer my spirit was giving me was that God wanted me by His side. By His side, everything is well and you have nothing to be afraid of or fear. “What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee. In God I will praise his word, in God I have put my trust. Psalm 56:3,4 When our daughter arrived, she was perfect in every way. Yes, there was a problem with her leg, but nowhere as dire as all the consultants had predicted. In fact it is a temporary problem that requires no medical intervention and will sort itself out in time. I was so glad I had put my trust in God and not in man. “It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man” Psalm 118:8 I know that whenever I look at my daughter, I am reminded about God’s love for me and how in Him I have complete trust. Throughout this entire process God taught me that one can make as many plans as they want, but only He can deliver. Our trust in Him has to be wholehearted. Our faith in Him complete without wavering. We will encounter situations where we have to acknowledge that we cannot deal with it on our own strength, but to depend on His strength and listen for His command. So, as we approach the start of 2014, for everything I desire to achieve, I acknowledge and believe just like King David did. “The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.” Psalm 18:2 I hope you will too.
The Jesus House Church Social Responsibility magazine
Showing the Love of God in a Practical Way In Our Local Community and Around the World
â€˜INSIDE: Ignite Empowerment Series 2013 | Eradicating Extreme Hunger | One Person Making a Difference
Happy New Year!! I pray that this is a memorable year for all of us, one filled with all God has ordained for us. In this edition of Impact, you will read about some of the projects that Jesus House engaged in during 2013. We formed a number of exciting new strategic partnerships in the course of the year, which enabled us to have an impact in new areas. We hope you enjoy reading about the impact your donations, time, support and prayers have had in the lives of numerous people in our local and global community. Thank you!! We are trusting that in 2014, Jesus House will do a lot more in our God assigned communities and truly overflow in good works in the lives of the marginalized, less privileged and disadvantaged. I stumbled on a poem by Walter E. Isenhour a few days ago called, "A Little Boost". It was quite encouraging as it reminded me that everything we
do as a Church in the lives of these people does make a difference. It is like throwing a stone into a pond and watching the ripple effect. The poem reads: A little push when the road is steep, may take one up the hill A little prayer when the clouds hang low, may bring the soul a thrill A little lift when the load bears down, may help one succeed A little pull when the will slows down, may help one gain his speed. A little clasp from a hand that's kind, may lift from crushing care A little word from a voice that's sweet, may save one from despair A little smile when the heart is sad, may bring a sunbeam in. A loving word when the spirit droops, may help one rise and win. A little love for a soul that's lost, may help him seek Gods grace. A little tear and a "God bless you," may brighten someone's face. A little deed from a Christian's heart, may bless a weary soul.
A little boost when the battle's hard, may take one to his goal." I hope the poem encourages you to do a bit more this year for someone who you may never meet, yet whose world could be changed by your actions. We can do and achieve so much if we all work hand in hand together. Wishing you a terrific 2014.
God bless you, Sola Irukwu Head of Church Social Responsibility
Contents 3 | ACTs Week 5 | The Colindale Foodbank 6 | Ignite Empowerment Series 9 | Ordinary People, Extraordinary Things: Shade Olutobi 12 | Eradicating Extreme Hunger 13 | Meeting Healthcare Needs 14 | Supporting the Oji-River Leprosy Colony 15 | Donation of toiletries, toys and gifts 16 | Football Academy 2013 18 | Lifetime Achiever Award 19 | The Butterfly Effect
We would like to say a big â€œthank youâ€? to members of the church and a number of people who do not attend Jesus House, but joined forces to go out into the community. From the 12th-16th August we visited several homes in Barnet to do some gardening, painting and D.I.Y. Why? Again it always comes back to love. We talk about being the hands and feet. This was probably the best and simplest way for us to show that.
Supported by the evangelism team, we were also able to speak and engage more with the people we visited. Relationships have carried on beyond ACTs week as we are in regular contact with a number of these residents, who have also attended the church. We would also like to share with you a note from one of our volunteers who took part in ACTS week for the first time. Please be encouraged.
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Colindale Food Bank
This year we have run two food drives. On Friday 5th and Saturday 6th July, we collected over a tonne in food donations from outside Tesco in Brent Cross. The amount of food donated (plus ÂŁ153 in cash) surpassed the amount donated during the food drive at the same supermarket held last December by 400 kilograms. And on Saturday and Sunday, the 7th and 8th September, we were supported by young people from the Challenge Youth Network, to collect food items from kind shoppers at Asda supermarket in Colindale. As we are told almost every week in the news the demand for foodbank is spiralling, these food collections are going a long, long way to give emergency food assistance to struggling individuals and families. The Colindale Foodbank, located inside the Novo Centre, is also here to work with other statutory and voluntary organisations to support people out of a cycle of debt. Your continuous food donations and financial support are helping to do just that as we strive to remain relevant in the community that we are here to serve.
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Ignite Empowerment Series 2013 Spa Day For the second year running the Ignite Empowerment Series took place over the months of June and August on the Grahame Park Estate, in Colindale. The programme aimed at developing the skills of women, children and fathers on the estate, took place on subsequent Saturdays during this period. The first event, a spa treatment for well-deserving women and mothers on the estate took place on June 1st. Grahame Park Community Centre, which is at the heart of the estate, was turned into a beauty parlour for women to receive various treatments, such as massages, makeovers and hair styling. Members of the church were also on hand to chat with and look after the women before and after their treatments. One of the women who received a treatment remarked: â€œWhy are you guys doing such a thing for us?â€? The answer was really simple - love.
Makeover On June 8th, residents from in and around the estate visited the community centre once again, to be photographed with their families in their Sunday best. Their hair was styled, their face made up, their necks adorned with jewellery, which was then followed with a photo shoot.
Father’s Day On June 15th we joined the community fun day on the estate which happened to fall on Father’s Day. We ran a stand in one of the tents attracting fathers and their children to take part in a ‘guess the famous celebrity father caricature’ competition.
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Zumba and Fitness day On June 22nd, ladies, old and young from the estate visited the Novo Centre and the community centre to take part in Zumba and fitness classes. It was an opportunity for the women to take some free time to meet up and bond with other women in their neighbourhood.
Ignite TalentQuest Our Ignite series was capped off with a talent quest on Saturday August 17, a day where young people were invited to showcase their talents to an audience of their peers at the community centre. The talents displayed ranged from singing, rapping to dancing and stand-up comedy. At the end of the competition a winner was voted by the judges. She won a cash prize to help her develop her gift and talent, with studio and recording sessions, while being supported by the Jesus House community team.
What has been our impact you might ask? Well - the most important thing is that we are getting to know a good selection of the community whom we say we want to engage with. We have formed relationships with a number of the women on the estate who regularly come into the Novo Centre. From the talent show a number of attendees at the event have also started attending Jesus House after forming some new relationships with church members.
However, the engagement doesnâ€™t just stop with the event, it follows on after wards and this is where we ask for your involvement. Do you think you can be a be-friender or part of a follow up team to make and form bonds with some of the people that have already started to engage with us, please do not hesitate to get in touch at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Ordinary people doing extraordinary things (Shade Olutobi in Zambia with Tearfund)
I had the opportunity to travel to Zambia to do some voluntary work with children in some communities in Kitwe, which is 360 km north of Zambia’s capital, Lusaka from 23rd March to 7th April 2013. The Zambia Creative Trip team was put together by Transform, a department within Tearfund which provides opportunities for Christians to work on various projects abroad (more about Transform can be found at www.tearfund.org/en/get_involved/go_overseas/). The Creative Trip allows team members to use their creative skills in a local community, running or assisting in the running of workshops for young people. This was first time Tearfund Transform had put together a creative trip, so it was exciting and daunting at the same time, as there are no ‘creatives abroad’ experiences to draw from. There was some vagueness about how exactly we were going to run our workshops. We knew we would be working with youth, however ‘youth’ was the term given to a wide range of young people – from age three to about 24(ish) – and a lot of people leave school later than is the norm in the UK. We therefore prayed for much wisdom and guidance, and God was faithful! We were able to find something creative to do with all the youth we came into contact with! Our creative team was made up of Carolyn, a photographer who was on a gap year; Laura, an artist and market researcher; Steve, an engineer (working with planes at the moment) who has a wealth of experience, including teaching and running life skills/leadership sessions. I work as a Human Resources Manager and a freelance photographer, so I brought my photography skills to the team! We flew on a special charity flight, which allowed us to
take three suitcases each; so apart from my camera gear, which including studio lighting equipment, some disposable cameras and a little photo printer, I decided to take some extra things that I thought might come in handy: a football, a rounders kit, lots of crayons, (colour) pencils and drawing paper, and beads and string (for making jewellery). Tearfund’s partner in Kitwe was Scripture Union (SU) Zambia. The National Director, Amos Mwasapa, our host, met us at the airport on the morning we arrived and drove us to Kitwe, which took about seven and a half hours, including a couple of stops along the way. Amos was such a gracious host; we had dinner, a lovely spread of authentic Zambian cuisine, at his home (which is also the SU office in Kitwe) with his family that first evening. We stayed at a guesthouse near the SU office, so every morning we ‘reported for duty’ at the office. Amos worked with three or four other SU staff and a group of about 15 volunteers, young adults who ran classes on life skills and bible teachings in the schools in local communities, or ‘compounds’ as they are called. While we were at Kitwe, Amos also had a young Scottish man, Jonathan, volunteering with SU. He had been on a Tearfund volunteer trip a few years before and decided to return for a longer period to do more voluntary work. During our induction meeting, we learnt that most of our work would be with the volunteers in the schools and that our creative classes were to replace the ones they ran at the schools. I must commend the dedication of the volunteers; we could not have been able to get our classes done without them. They helped with interpreting in some of the primary schools we went to and assisted in the classrooms.
All images courtesy of Shade Olutobi Shade in a drawing class
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Although we had hoped that we would do more photography work with the youth, as there were two photographers in the team, the team spent most of its time running art and craft classes for primary school children. We all helped with this and it was quite rewarding to see how happy the children were to do some creative work. During some of the classes, we were able to give a Christian theme; for instance, we read the scripture Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things,” and asked the pupils to draw something along these lines. At one of the schools, Steve, after giving a mini lecture on salvation, got the children he was with to make paper planes which they were able to colour in. Laura was also able to hold an embroidery class, which was well-received by participants. As it was the Easter period, the team put together a skit about the resurrection of Christ at one of the secondary schools. It was great to be able to communicate the Easter story in a dramatised way. We always had the opportunity for a sing-along everywhere we went; there was one particular song, led by Steve, ‘C-LA-P, clap your hands,’ which was a favourite. It involved a lot of body movements, which the younger children loved. On Saturday 30th March, Carolyn and I ran a photography ‘masterclass’, Laura ran a fine art class, and Steven did a series of talks around rescue helicopters. He linked this to how we are rescued by God, and also got the participants to make paper helicopters. Carolyn and I thoroughly enjoyed running the photography class, which involved showing the students how to use an SLR camera and how to compose a picture effectively; and we gave them the opportunity to practice their skills with some disposable cameras. Later in the week, we ran another practical photography class for the team of SU secondary school fellowship leaders and got them to practice picture composition with the leftover disposable cameras. We developed the prints when we got back to England and chose overall winning photographs from each session. We were able to send the images back a few months later, along with prizes for the winning photos.
Team Zambia also had the opportunity to visit an orphanage which housed about 12 children, where we had a session drawing pictures they put up on their living room wall. There was one particular girl there, about six or seven years old, who could not speak; she mainly communicated by pointing and nodding or shaking her head. It was great to see how happy she was while she drew. The team left a box of colouring pencils and paper at the orphanage so that the children could use them after we had left. I would love the opportunity to go on a trip like this again and use the skills I have. I was truly blessed, and humbled, by the whole experience: working with other Christians in the Zambia Creative Team, working with Scripture Union Zambia staff and wonderful SU volunteers. It is inspiring to see such young people sold out for God. The feedback we got was positive; the children/students we worked with enjoyed our classes and the teachers and SU staff and volunteers valued our contribution. I feel that I gained more from the whole experience. The Zambia Creative Trip experience has been an eye-opener. It makes me appreciate even more the opportunities I have in the United Kingdom. Some of the schools we visited are so lacking in basic amenities, I feel that my going there was opportunity to highlight this to others who might be able and willing to help make a difference in these schools and these communities. One particular school had about 90 children in one big classroom which ran two different classes at the same time. So there were two teachers teaching different levels of pupils in the same room. I hope that I will have the opportunity to do more for this and similar communities and I hope other Christians will go out into less-privileged communities and offer their skills and time and resources. I am grateful to God that He made it possible for me to be part of the team of four which went to Zambia and for the people who have encouraged me to use my creative skills over the years and who made a financial contribution to my trip. As this was a creative trip, a friend raided her son’s room and found a 102-piece fine art set which was pretty intact. I also thank God for my church, Jesus House for all the Nations, which made a significant contribution to my trip and also prayed for me while I was in Zambia. It was very much appreciated!
Carolyn in a photography class
Laura taking a fine art class
Steve teaching the CLAP song at the assembly
Zambia Creative Team - Shade, Steve, Laura and Carolyn
Carolyn in a painting class
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Eradicating Extreme Hunger (Partnering with House of Shalom, Uganda)
children and all the people the foundation is involved with as community builders, and to demonstrate their faith in action. The foundation supports over 30 children in a village in Mpigi District, which is 30 miles from the capital Kampala. It also provides food for 40â€“60 children each week in a ghetto in Kampala. Recently, the team was able to rescue 9 children from prison and get them into small businesses. Jesus House CSR gave a grant of ÂŁ1000 to the foundation, which was used to buy farm equipment, seed and start-up funds for small businesses for youth still living in the ghetto.
All images courtesy of House of Shalom
House of Shalom Foundation is a community-based organisation in the Mpigi district of Uganda, co-founded by Sue Paton in July 2011 for the purpose of rescuing and rehabilitating homeless street children and empowering them with skills to succeed in life. A typical story is that of Charles, who is 13 years-old and has no parents; he ended up on the streets of Kampala picking food leftovers from garbage heaps and engaging in petty crime to survive. The foundation provides residential care, education, vocational training, music and sports activities under the care of Christian leaders and volunteers. A core part of this ministry is to share the good news of Jesus Christ with the
Meeting Healthcare needs Jesus House CSR has sponsored or provided gifts to a few individuals and organisations, including but not restricted to:
The Teenage Cancer Trust has opened its first specialist outpatient facility for young cancer patients. Known as the Teenage Cancer Trust Hub, and situated in University College Hospitals New Cancer Centre, this groundbreaking facility provides revolutionary ambulatory care, treatment and consultation for patients aged 13-24 from across London and the surrounding areas. The Trust, and the plan for the Teenage Cancer Trust Hub, was brought to Jesus House’s attention by a member of the Church, Adelaide Aba Ansah, who is also the founder of Life Line, an NGO which reaches out to homeless children in Ghana. The Teenage Cancer Trust was her university’s charity of choice when she was a student at Coventry University. Jesus House gave a grant towards the hub, which is now completed and in use.
All images courtesy of Teenage Cancer Trust Hub
Okiki Olawuyi was born in Ibadan, Nigeria with a Congenital Cranial deficiency, a rare medical condition resulting in a child being born without most of the skull. The treatment of this rare condition is by a series of surgeries which will be performed by Dr Ben Carson, the renowned Paediatric Neurosurgeon at John Hopkins Hospital in the US. Through the joint efforts of a Nigeriabased NGO, The Global initiative for Peace, Love and Care (GIPLC) and generous Nigerians, the total of $234,000.00 was raised. Jesus House gave a grant towards Okiki’s post-surgery recovery expenses and living costs over a yearlong period in the US.
Teenage Cancer Trust Hub
Okiki Olawuyi, being cradled by her mother, with her family and Dr Ben Carson
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Oji-River Leprosy Colony
including an optician, a doctor, nurse, children and young people team manager - who regularly visit and treat the residents a few days each month. Many of the residents have not seen a doctor, nurse or similar medical personnel in years. All images courtesy of Strong Voices
The Oji-River Leprosy colony in Enugu state, in the Eastern Part of Nigeria, was started in the1950s by the Church Mission Society (CMS) who unfortunately had to leave the colony during the Nigerian-Biafra war period, leaving the colony more or less abandoned by Church and Community. The colony still houses 250 residents and 75 children, many of whom do not have leprosy, and many are in dire need of medical attention, care, treatment and holistic support as they have been ostracized and isolated from the rest of the Nigerian society. In June 2008, Ms Anne Davies, CEO and founder of Strong Voices, a UKbased charity, travelled to Oji to visit the colony. Ms Davies founded Strong Voices in 1997 to work with children and young people affected by wars, disasters and abuse, and the charity has a vision to ensure that the people living in the colony are educated, rehabilitated and reintegrated back into society, receiving the necessary basic medical care and learning life skills to do so. Jesus House gave a grant towards the costs of dedicated medical staff -
Anne Davies, the founder of Strong Voices, who is fondly called â€˜Aunty Anneâ€™ at the colony
Donation of toiletries, toys and gifts being given to CSR team The CSR team has been able to put together a variety of items – such as toys and toiletries – which have either been donations from individuals or organisations, or resources left over from various projects i.e. Operation Christmas Child. These resources have been passed on to: • The Honeypot children’s charity, Southampton • The Simon Community, Camden Town, London • St Mungo’s, Finsbury Park, London
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Lifetime achiever award – Chief (Mrs) Yemisi Sanusi In September 2013 Chief (Mrs) Yemisi Sanusi was honoured with a Lifetime Achievement Award for her services to her community by the Nigerian UK Based Achiever Achievers (NUBAA). In 1979, Chief (Mrs) Sanusi pioneered the establishment of the Department of Social Welfare at the World Health Organisation Centre for Training and Research in Abeokuta, Nigeria, and was latterly employed as Chief Psychiatric Social Worker until her emigration to the United Kingdom in 1997 to work for the National Health Service (NHS). Five years ago, Chief (Mrs) Sanusi set up the International Day for African Youth UK (IDAY-UK) and continues to organise charity educational events for the benefit of African youth and children. This is coupled with her passion for, amongst other things, the prevention of HIV/AIDS, reduction of maternal and infant mortality, the prevention of child abuse, the empowerment of African women, and promoting the rights of African widows. She also serves on the management board of several Nigerian and African organisations, including the Nigerian Diaspora Women Leaders Forum, Nigerian Widows and Children Welfare Organisation. In response to the 2012 Nigerian
floods which affected millions and resulted in a loss of life in excess of 300, she initiated the collection of over 500 bags of clothing items in aid of the flood victims alongside others and in collaboration with the Nigeria High Commission, London. She frequently attends African Committee Events at the House of Commons, where she advocates better services for African communities, notably free anti-malaria prescription. (source information culled from the ‘Nigerian Achievers in Diaspora’ blog)
The Butterfly Effect On Premier Radio A radio show highlighting the projects that Jesus House has been involved in over the past few years was broadcasted on Premier Radio earlier this year. The 12-week ‘Butterfly Effect’ series draws on the key learning experiences that Jesus House has overcome to build the church in the community. 400,000 listeners tune in every week to Premier aged between mid-thirties to middle-age, including church leaders from across the UK. Since its first broadcast, 120,000 listeners have listened and have been encouraged to be change makers in their community. The 12-week radio show in partnership with Premier Radio was hosted by our very own Pastor Ayo Adedoyin and highlighted the life changing community projects which the church has been able to pioneer, thus sharing Kingdom practices for all churches to learn from. Over the period of several weeks, staff and volunteers from the church and organisational leaders shared their thoughts with the show’s host,
Pastor Ayo Adedoyin. Speaking on the show he said, “From small and seemingly insignificant beginnings, mighty works have been achieved.” Topics have included lively debates about handing our community back to God, working with other churches, The Barnet Youth Business Incubator (BaYBI) and keeping up with trends like social media that actively increase the spread of good news. The name ‘Butterfly Effect’ comes from the chaos theory or metaphor of ‘a tiny act setting off a chain of events to cause a cataclysmic or catastrophic event.’ In this case we refer to the Butterfly Effect as a series of tiny positive acts that can lead to a major change in the community. In this way the theme relates to the desire of the church to share its heart for people and its Kingdom practices, similar to The Heart and Soul conference held in 2012, the radio show sought to support the collective growth of church and community development nationwide. The desire to impact lives is rooted
in the prayer life of the church which sees its weekly prayer meetings, services and lifegroup meetings dedicated to praying for revival in the local community and the nation. The effect of the show has been that it has highlighted the need to work in unity, and has prompted more churches to come together across denominational divides. Pastor Ayo said: “As we look to see a change in our communities we are hoping this show will act as a catalyst to encourage individuals and churches to step out into their community to try and tackle the prevalent issues.” He added: “As [Jesus House] stands all the projects that we do cannot be done by our physical hands. We need to work together”. “We also hope that those who listen in, both Christian and non-Christians alike will be encouraged by what the church is doing, without walls or divides, exhibiting that love of Christ in a genuine and practical way.” You can still catch the show if you visit www.premier.org.uk/butterfly
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Keeping The Flames Of Our Love Alive
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm. For love is as strong as death, its jealousy as enduring as the grave. Love flashes like fire, the brightest kind of flame. Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it. If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned. Songs of Solomon 8:6-7
hat is it with our generation that we seem to have lost the joys of savouring moments and building beautiful memories? Today’s microwave mentality seems to incline everyone to live life in such a hurry, with all manner of ‘drive thru’s and quick fix solutions provided to meet our ever shortening desire for patience. As I reflect on today’s frenetic pace of life, I think about how, in marriage, it is so easy to get caught up in the demands of life that we fail to invest in our love where it matters the most. In a marriage, there are different seasons, which means that we will not always have the same romantic feelings, or the same degree of opportunity to do or say things that leave a positive deposit on our love and affection
for each other. Three Greek words convey the message of the dimensions of love which need to exist in marriage if it is to remain healthy and wholesome. They are agape, philio and eros. Agape is Gods unconditional love, philio is a love borne out of a deep friendship, and eros is a love borne out of a deep passion for each other. A marriage without all three will not survive in a healthy manner. Now, there may be seasons in our marriage where one dimension of love is more prevalent than the others but all three must exist in some degree all through our married lives. Consider for a moment what a marriage without eros (passion and romance) would look and feel like? Clearly, it would soon succumb to a boring existence. God has created us all with a desire to be intimate, and romance has a way of making what could have been a humdrum existence very exciting for everyone involved.
When I reflect back on our marriage, the times that we have set apart doing romantic things have gone a long way in helping us build intimacy in our marriage, especially as we find that we are apart from each other more than we ever anticipated. The times when we have inadvertently failed to carve out exclusive time to fan the flames of our romance, we have found ourselves feeling remote and distant from each other, even when we are together 24/7. Investing time in romantic experiences makes the times that we are together now even more special, and planning those romantic journeys makes for something to look forward to. Your marriage is in need of romance, so give it your time. You'll find its one of the best investments you will ever make. Please email us your thoughts on this article, whether you agree or not, to firstname.lastname@example.org You can also follow us on twitter @tightknots
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The Case of the Walking Wardrobe By Naomi Durodola
any years ago my family played host to a friend’s daughter for a couple of months. Her mother was critically ill and her father had his hands full nursing her. On the day her mother died, we took her home under the guise of going to visit her dad, as we often did while she was with us. My mum had called me aside earlier and asked me to secretly pack up her belongings and put them in the boot of the car. I will never forget the paranormal sounds that pierced the air when her dad broke the news to her. Till this day, I have never heard anything like it. I sat with her for hours while she wailed and I shed a few tears myself. My tears weren’t for her mother, they were for her. Her pain was palpable and I shared in it. In the following weeks, we were constant visitors at their house; my mother, to help with the funeral arrangements, and myself, as a companion for my new friend. New because the few times I’d met her prior to her stay with us, I’d established that I didn’t like her. Her abrasive personality grated on my nerves. I groaned inwardly when I heard she was coming to stay but smiled and made her feel welcome. I knew better than to be ungracious, my mother expected nothing less from me, and rightly so. But seeing her breakdown and holding as she wept inconsolably changed all that. Her shared pain drew us together. I had just turned 13, she was 17. I remember being concerned about her. I knew what it was like to lose a parent and I worried constantly about how she was dealing with it. Having her turn up unannounced one afternoon was a surprise as she lived an hour’s drive away. I was in the middle of a piano lesson so I told her she had to wait a while before
I’d be free to hang out with her. She said she couldn’t stay, she’d only come to collect a few things I’d forgotten to pack for her. I couldn’t remember seeing any of her property lying around but I told her to feel free to head up to my room and grab whatever she forgot. She left before my lesson was over. The Sunday after her visit, I decided to wear a new dress my mum had bought me a couple of months before. I tore my room apart trying to find it. Running late for church, I decided to reach for my favourite cream brocade skirt with the black floral embroidery instead. That too was nowhere to be found. As I rummaged through my wardrobe perplexed, I realised there were quite a few items missing. I sat on the floor, confused, and it was there my mother found me. Before she could scream at me for not being dressed, I told her half my wardrobe was missing. At first, she thought I was being silly, surely, my clothes couldn’t have developed legs and done a runner? Perhaps if I tidied up my wardrobe like she’d asked me to umpteen times, I’d be able to find things more easily? It wasn’t till I mentioned that my favourite skirt was missing that she took me seriously. “The cream one with the black flowers? Didn’t you give it to Anita*? She was wearing it the last time I went to her house.” I didn’t need to be a graduate of the police academy to realise what had happened to my missing clothes. Many of the clothes that were missing were new and I was determined to reclaim them. I needed to confirm my theory so we took a trip to her house. Under strict instruction not to utter a word, I sat quietly while my mum calmly asked if she’d helped herself to my clothes. At first she vehemently denied it but after my mum gently reminded her she’d seen her wearing my skirt, she came clean. She went
off to her room and returned with a suitcase full of my property; underwear, clothes, jewellery, books, shoes and some random bits and bobs. The look of furious shame on her father’s face is beyond description. He made several attempts to hit her but my mum stood in his way. After calming him down, she encouraged Anita to apologise to me and her father, which she did. What happened next shocked me to my core. As we made to leave, I reached for the suitcase of clothes but was halted by the sound of my mother’s voice saying, “leave it.” Leave it?! How could I leave it?! Some of my favourite possessions were in that case! Besides, most of the clothes wouldn’t fit Anita (who was two sizes bigger) so what was the point?! I knew better than to argue though so tears running down my face I walked away from my belongings. I’ll never forget how hurt I was. I felt betrayed not only by Anita who, in spite of my reservations, I had embraced, but also by my mother who had taken the side of a thief over her own daughter. On the journey home, my mother tried, unsuccessfully, to console me. My anger raged on. Whatever happened to justice? Didn’t I deserve to have the things that had been unlawfully taken from me returned? Surely that WAS the right thing to do?! Understanding didn’t come till many years later. My mother’s actions were a lesson in mercy; compassion or forgiveness shown toward someone whom it is within one's power to punish or harm. “Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back.” - Luke 6:30*Name changed Waila Caan www.wailacaan.com
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So You Want To Be An…
ou may not instantly recognise the name, but it is highly likely that you would have seen the face and statuesque 6’ 6 “ frame of Nonso Anozie somewhere before. The north-west London raised actor has already built up an enviable CV as a thespian, having appeared in respected projects across TV (Stolen, Occupation, Prime Suspect), film (Cass, RocknRolla, Atonement), and theatre (King Lear, Othello, Death and the King’s Horseman). His biggest role to date is undoubtedly appearing in the second season of mega hit US HBO show Game of Thrones, in 2012, where he played Qartheen merchant prince Xaro Xhoan Daxos. Now, having spent the last three years based in Hollywood, he has been making even more moves and from November has been seen on cinema screens across the country appearing in mega-budget sci-fi thriller Ender’s Game. Based on the popular Orson Scott Card novel, Nonso stars as Sergeant Dap, co-starring alongside Harrison Ford, Viola Davis, and Sir Ben Kingsley. The talented star will also be seen playing Samson in the Emmy-Award-winning US TV miniseries, The Bible, which will be shown on Channel 5 in December 2013. Both the show and his role won critical acclaim in America with a whopping 13 million viewers tuning in when it was broadcast there at Easter. It even led Oprah Winfrey and Bishop T.D Jakes to comment positively on his performance via Twitter. Nonso, 34, who attends the Prevailing Power Ministry in Hendon when he is in the UK, and also visits Jesus House from time to time, recently spoke to Outflow to offer budding young actors advice, and to reveal how his own faith guides his career and life. What advice would you give to aspiring actors out there? Acting is something that you really have to be sure that you want to do, because for the most part it is not a straightforward or easy career. For example it is worth taking into serious consideration that at any one time only 15 per cent of actors are working, and the other 85 per cent are either unemployed, looking for work or working in other jobs – which is a startling number, but totally true. For me personally, I’ve always been of the mindset that this is what I was supposed to do. I prayed on it a lot when I was a child and I challenged myself, as often when you are not sure about the full facts of something it makes you ask yourself if
By Adenike Adenitire
this is what you really want. But if you come to the conclusion that this is where your heart and passion lies, then don’t give up, don’t look back, and have faith that at some point you will be blessed with an opportunity. It’s something that you learn to do over time and that goes for any career you are in.
How did you make the transition from the UK to Hollywood? It’s something that I prepared myself for from the start, as growing up in England in the 80s, I only really had the Taverniers on Eastenders and Desmonds, which was a comedy show, to look at for black representation, so I kind of knew instinctively that that if I wanted to work consistently as an actor I would have to work both here and abroad. So when I went to drama school. I went with a knowledge that said: ‘I’m going to learn to do on an American accent’, so I could make myself versatile. I knew I had to hone my needs and talents to suit both markets. So now the transition has been much easier. But to start with it wasn’t. I’ve been going out to meet people in America since 2004, spending a few months there each time, and it’s only now it has really started to bear fruit so it gives you an idea of how long and how much effort this takes to build. It doesn’t happen over night. How has your faith impacted your career? If it wasn’t for my faith, I don’t know where I would be. I’ve had so many disappointments in this career. For every success there are at least 10 disappointments and that’s in a very good career within the acting world. I’ve had so many times when I’ve really wanted to be involved in a project – I know it is perfect for me, but it just hasn’t happened. There can be a multitude of reasons why you won’t get a job and, whether you like it or not, it is rejection and you will feel down.
There may even be times when you may even get the job, start working on the job and then you lose the job. This happens all the time and has happened to me. Sometimes I’ve been so down and I don’t know how I would have gotten over those down times if it wasn’t for my faith in God. How do you handle the many temptations of the industry? Straight and wide is the path to iniquity. They call it sex, drugs and rock and roll – that’s what the entertainment industry is, and the higher up you go, the more of that you see, in terms of temptation but if you keep strong in your faith, there is no way you will fall into that. Even up until now, no matter where I am in the world, since I travel a lot for work, I always make sure I find a church to go to whether I’m in Budapest or in LA. Praying on my own is good, but as God says whenever ‘three or more are gathered their voices will be heard’ and that’s why I always attend church. I keep my faith with me at all times and this had been the guide on my journey. Ender’s Game is out in cinemas across the UK now. The Bible will be screened on Channel 5 this December, 2013 (www.channel5.com)
For me personally, I’ve always been of the mindset that this is what I was supposed to do. I prayed on it a lot when I was a child and I challenged myself
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few weeks ago I picked
health, lowers self-esteem and confidence,
After all, they say communication is 80% of
up a movie to keep my-
leading to depression, social isolation, and the
what is seen and only 20% of what is read. If
self entertained whilst
inability to react appropriately to unjust situa-
virtual content is devoid of physical presence,
down with a cold. Un-
tions. It affects reputations and relationships.
a lot more caution needs to be employed when
beknown to me, I was
about to enter a world I knew existed but had
What can you do?
never paid attention to.
Cyber bullying most often is a violation of the
What was it?
you think needs to be communicated. As Christians we can take it one step further.
Cyber bullying, a growing trend you may
type of bullying can be evidenced, keep abreast
The Christian's Virtual World Communication Etiquette Guide
have noticed or perhaps contributed to,
of how to report it so you don't become a vic-
Here are a few qualifiers built from bible scrip-
whether deliberately or inadvertently. It's
tim and can help other victims. Both the root
tures that you can use to deem the appropriate-
when an individual (referred to as the bully)
cause of the issue and the act need address-
ness of your messages:
uses electronic technology (through medi-
ing. Parents, along with being cognisant of
ums like Facebook, Blog sites, YouTube etc.)
your children's activities in the virtual world
right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent,
to disseminate threatening/hurtful/embar-
(e.g. text, online etc.), should establish rules
and praiseworthy? (Philippians 4:8 en-
rassing information about another individual
about the appropriate use of their technology
(referred to as the bullied).
gadgets. Make your children aware of its pow-
Why is it so important?
sites and Internet Service Providers. As this
Is the content you are sending noble,
courages us to think on these things) 2.
Are the words you are writing giving life
er, drawing out the gravity of cyber bullying.
or poisoning? (Proverbs 18:21 states we
There are vast resources online, at schools,
choose what we want to achieve)
It's an important topic because bullying is an
in libraries available to enlighten you. Adults
oppressive reproducing killer. Bullies give
alike must be mindful that there are ways of
the person being referred to as Christ
birth to bullies, destroy dreams, de-motivate
expressing an opinion respectfully.
loved us? (John 13:34 shows this is Je-
Does your content portray that you love
and stagnate one's progress. Cyber-bullies just
When sending virtual content, a useful rule
use words. Electronic gadgets empower you
of thumb is to always consider using more
Just because someone is famous, a celebrity,
with freedom of speech in the virtual word.
graceful language when expressing yourself;
or appears confident, doesn't mean they are de-
Your written words exercise the power of death
consider whether you are building or tearing
void of emotions. Your Christian values should
and life in any area of an individual's life any-
down someone. We can re-evaluate visiting
shine through in all you do, even through the
where at anytime - a scary awakening eh?
websites that spread rumours, rate celebrities
cloak of anonymity the virtual world offers.
Why do they do it?
(e.g. clothing, behaviour), post embarrassing photos or sites where fake profiles are created
Bullies exist for the same reason people who
to mock another individual. If your message is
do bad things to other people exist; they lack
fuelled by jealousy, envy, hate, anger, insecurity
empathy for their targeted individual or group,
or peer pressure, don't click the 'Send' button.
except cyber bullies have an added bonus anonymity. By hiding their own identity, the virtual world provides a public channel of communication many assume is consequentially immune to punishment. It's an enticing chance to get noticed by millions, which feels empowering. Anonymity encourages a relaxed attitude when expressing oneself on the net or via text and it is a contagious feeling.
What happens next? This is the silent part the public domain doesn't see - till it's too late and makes headline news for the wrong reason (e.g. suicide). The emotional and mental wounds, combined with the social pressures on the bullied have an effect that could lingers well into adulthood, psychologists have confirmed. It affects oneâ€™s
terms of service established by social media
expressing yourself. Perhaps, not everything
sus's commandment to us)
May our words and thoughts be acceptable in His sight.
IT'S NOT FUNNY ANYMORE By Kemi Taylor
Presents or presence? By Tinuke Akinbulumo
e are coming up to that time of year when a lot of us exchange gifts. We often hear that it is better to give than to receive and that giving is a good thing...but what do we give? I overheard my nine year-old confidently having this conversation with her friend: “Yes I am getting an iPad for Christmas. Well it should have been for my birthday but it wasn’t so now it is for Christmas.” One would have thought, from the conversation, that her parents were well aware of this and had agreed to it... “Not an iPad, silly!” Her brother butted in, “an iPod!” Still, as the one giving the present, iPod or iPad, I would have liked to know. Somehow, my children were aware of this impending gift and neither my husband nor I had a clue about it. Had she asked for an iPod? Yes! But I hadn’t realised asking translated to receiving...having said that I do believe they may have been going Biblical on me. What does it say in Matthew 7? Ask and you shall receive. Oh well! Now, I am one of those parents who really isn’t into giving my children things just because their peers have them or because it is the latest craze or even because I can afford it...I know it’s not
popular but I think that there is one gift, apart from our love, obviously, that we must give. And like it or not, it is often one of the hardest gifts to give. A friend of mine who is separated from her husband found that as a result of the separation her son was being showered with every gadget going by his father. They had shared custody but her ex still felt it necessary to prove his love with gifts. My friend chose instead to take her son on holiday, to dinner, to the museum and bike riding, yes! Did one spend more than the other? Probably not, but one invested in memories while the other invested in gadgets. Creating memories requires time, and time, we all know, is hard to give. Memories, however, last a lifetime. Long after the iPod is broken and the iPad is out of date, the memory of mummy falling off her bike will linger on... I am making a choice to give my time, to actively create memories with my children... It could be a walk in the park, a cinema date, an arts and crafts day, a baking day, a football game, a spa day, a day at the hairdressers, a shopping day! It could be anything as long as it means I will be spending quality time with them...why don’t you join me? Go on...give it a go! Follow us on twitter @JHparenting
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A Strange way to save the world A fictional adaptation of Matthew 1:18-25 by Keisha Aimiuwu
ibola stared bleakly out of the window, unable to stop the tears from streaming down his face. He wondered over and over again in his mind how things could have gone so badly wrong. Surely he had done all the right things, or at least tried to? He had loved her, truly loved her, even now in spite of it all, he still loved her. He’d gone against the advice of some of his closest friends, even his own mother. Their concerns had seemed shallow to him at the time, even a little ignorant. He had never held such prejudices; a person’s tribe didn’t seem to matter when you were doing business with them, why should it be any different in your choice of who to marry? He had said as much at the time and his father had agreed. Then the real reason unveiled itself; she wasn’t rich. Years of scraping by must have taken their toll on his mother. Maybe she had hoped her only son would marry one of Chief Ajayi’s daughters and get a head start in life. After all, his daughters had made it embarrassingly clear that they were interested in him, almost fighting over him when he would go to their
family home to do repairs. He remembered feeling amused yet slightly irritated at the time. He had never been one to be swayed by overt charms. He liked a woman to be quietly confident, shy even…like Muna. Oh God, Muna! The thought of her name made the tears fall faster. How could she do this to him? He could still hear the voice of his mother screaming at him, “Love! Love! Love! Where has love gotten you now? Your beloved Muna is pregnant with another man’s child!” He still couldn’t believe it, understand it. When? How? Why?! Who??? He had hoped in vain that there was some sort of mistake, a misunderstanding perhaps. Maybe it was another Muna, or some sort of cruel lie created to tear them apart. But Muna had confirmed it herself. With her own mouth she had told him, quietly but firmly, she was pregnant. There was no doubt it wasn’t his. He had never touched her. They had been clear about boundaries from the start. She was a virgin, and wanted to remain that way until they were married. He had understood that, respected her all the more for it. Her love for God had been the very thing that drew him to her in
the first place. It was their uniting bond. For years he had prayed for a godly woman, an equal match, and God had answered, or so he had thought. God! Where was God in all of this? Hadn’t he prayed? Hadn’t he honoured her? Hadn’t he followed God’s Word to the very letter? Now some other man had come to reap where he had lovingly sown! Few people knew as yet, only their parents in fact. He had toyed with the idea of exposing her to the world for what she was; a cheat, a liar and a hypocrite! But even now with her infidelity staring him in the face, he couldn’t bring himself to hurt her that way. He would only be hurting himself further. “Oh Jibola, what a fool you are! She doesn’t love you, never did, you were just a convenient distraction. Man up and kick her to the curb!” The voices in his head grew louder and louder, screaming for justice, for revenge. “Make her pay! Expose her!” His head was pounding, spinning; despair and anger threatened to overwhelm him…. and then suddenly, silence. A sound, a still small voice. Instantly, it was clear what he must do.
Real Issues, Ice Cold
Choices Choices are like plants; they are always rooted somewhere nobody else can see. by Pastor Bajo Akisanya
ometimes events stick in your mind for a variety of random reasons, only for you to later realise that there was a lot more to be learnt than meets the eye. It was an ordinary day and I am not sure where I was heading to; home, the office or church seem the most likely candidates. I had got on the underground with the intention of disappearing into a book or a game on my phone and letting the rush hour crowd quietly pass me by. This was achieved quite easily, only being interrupted by my necessity to change trains. We had arrived at a station that serviced the airport so the presence of people lugging suitcases was not unusual. But this day one particular lady stood out. She had the terrified look that comes from being in a country where you are not conversant with anything, except the time of your flight and that if things didn't work out you were definitely going to miss it. Along with a heavy suitcase she was managing a young child and her sense of achievement was obvious as she finally stood on the platform waiting for the advertised train. The only problem was that she was going to get on a train going the wrong way. I found myself standing next to her and she happened to show me her now crumpled tube map, pointing to the well-thumbed spot that used to say Heathrow. Explaining the reality of her situation to her was a moment I will never forget, for she glanced at her child and suitcase with the look of a crestfallen football fan after their team has just lost a major game. To compound the issue, she was at a station which had steps and not escalators so the thought of facing what had been a veritable obstacle course all over again would have disheartened anyone. I had already felt that undeniable urge in my heart to help her but at the same time was totally conversant with the impact a detour would have on my plans. Suffice it to say the urge won and I duly picked up the suitcase while she coaxed cum dragged the oblivious child towards the exit; my original intention was to get her to the top of the stairs and bid her farewell because anything else would have ensured my late arrival. It all happened as we climbed the last step, for it then dawned on me that there was an equivalent flight of steps menacingly standing between her and the right platform. Relief, confusion and gratitude combined to make up her facial expression as I motioned to her that I was not turning round at that point but would stick with her. She was quite bemused as I led her to the right platform, she had by now scooped up her tiring daughter and we made great progress. The phrase “in for a penny, in for a pound” now described the situation, so I waited with them, making sure they got the right train. My part
in this saga ended with a wave as she disappeared down the tunnel on her way to the airport. No words were pronounced but volumes were spoken. That day my choices, at first glance, were fuelled by the unforgettable cold sting of all the times when I felt genuinely alone and no one stepped in to help, leading to a quiet but unswerving determination that no one in my vicinity would ever feel that way again. But on closer scrutiny it is rare that such a persistent negative would produce a positive every time. So I wondered on and quickly concluded that something much deeper must have been at work, its roots logically in the near incomprehensible fact that Someone had taken the full weight of everything I have ever or would ever do wrong and then went on to provide everything needed for me to have a successful life capping that He had decided to walk with me just to make sure. But the clincher for me is that He did it all by choice! So what about choices? The nature and subsequent impact of a choice is determined not necessarily by the action that advertises it but rather the depth and quality of information that gives rise to it. For Christ, that was love in its purest form. For more ‘Real Issues, Ice Cold’ follow on realissuesicecold.blogspot. co.uk or twitter @DWordMonger
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Written by Itunu Onafadeji
Dear Dau 32 |
ow did you sleep? I need not ask; I was there with you all through the night. You woke up quite late this morning and rushed out without as much as a good morning. That hurt a little. I watched over you all through the night, protecting you, and waited for you to wake up and say thank you. You see that dream you had where you were being chased by those people and someone miraculously appeared and saved you? That was me, your shield, protecting and fighting for you, just like I said I would. As you rushed out of the house, you realized you might be a bit late catching the bus and muttered a few words asking me to help you make the bus. It would have been nice if your first words of the day were to thank me; for the night gone by, for a good night sleep, for the grace to wake up, for your health, for your life and those of your loved ones, but no, it was a request! Who does that?! Being the merciful Father that I am, I granted your desire and you made it to the bus stop right on time. You were happy and it warmed my heart to see that. You see, I love you more than you can ever imagine, and the things that hurt you, hurt me. I only wish it were mutual. I feel your pain, in every way you do. I am not sure you understand the full import of that statement, but I do feel your pain. I am the friend that sticks closer than a brother, remember? I am the High Priest that is touched by the feelings of your infirmity. I was tempted in the same way just as you are, yet I was without sin. When I convict you of sin, you tell me I am Jesus, as though I was completely supernatural, without human emotions and passions. I felt pain! When Peter denied me, it hurt me so much. Even though I knew, long before he did it, that he would, it still hurt. It hurt because I loved Peter. I love just like you do and was hurt a few times too.
Judas betrayed me, one of my very own disciples. When I say that a man's enemies are those of his own household, I know what it means because I experienced it firsthand. So the times your heart was broken, I knew how that felt, because I felt it too. Remember my death on the cross? That was brutal! My heart and body were broken for the very same people who rejected me. Do you have any idea what that felt like? I guess you have a vague idea given the number of times youâ€™ve had your heart broken (but believe me, it doesn't come close!). Even then, I was there for you, held you, comforted you and gave you the strength to carry on. If only you knew how much I loved you. You are the apple of my eye, I have tattooed you on the palm of my hands. I must say, some of the pain was unnecessary; some of the heartbreak could have been averted, had you consulted and followed my lead. Nonetheless, I stayed with you, I did not judge you. I provided succor and answered some of your prayers. Looking back, some of your prayers were quite funny; many times I shook my head. I knew you were talking out a place of anger and deep hurt. I knew because Iâ€™ve been there. So those prayers I did not answer. Instead, I helped you heal, gave you what you needed. Back to my feelings, I wish the things that hurt me hurt you, and the things that warm my heart did the same to yours. But it is hardly true. To be fair, you pray for the nation when you attend services in church, but that's where it ends. Your heart is tender enough to be disturbed and pained when you see or hear of disasters in other nations, stabbings, bomb blasts, plane crashes that could have been averted, child abuse right where you live, children dying of poverty, rape cases and the likes. But you rarely pray about those things. It never grieves you to the point where you take it upon yourself to intercede on behalf of these victims. You are content if your basic
needs are met and your family and loved ones are protected. You feel sorry for these victims, but because you are not directly affected, you do nothing. You forget that whatever you do for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you do for me. These are some of the things that grieve me. That endless forms of perversion are taking root in the very city you live in and you do nothing? That hurts me! What you do not know is that somehow someday, in some way, you will be affected if you let things continue this way. And by then, it may be too late to pray... You arrive at work just in time, and are seated a few minutes before your resumption time. Even then, I wait to hear a little word of prayer from you. But nothing. Just like on the train ride to work, you could have said a few words to hallow and exhort my name. It need not be long or eloquent, just basic, but even that I did not get. Instead, you spent the time reading the Metro. Metro?! I have no problem with you reading the dailies. Actually, I expect you to be informed about the goings on in your community and the world at large (so you can know where your intercession is needed). But where I have a problem is where reading Metro is put ahead of me. And you know I am a jealous God! You need to see what you are like, when for whatever reason you do not have a copy of your beloved Metro. I wish you felt that way anytime you missed communing with me, anytime you failed or forgot to say a word of prayer. But you don't. It is a different kind of feeling to missing your morning Metro. You think because I am merciful, it's okay. No it's not. Yes, I am merciful and long-suffering. Long-suffering, yes, but not forever-suffering. Besides, when I ask that you fellowship with me, it is for your own good. I delight in your praises, I love to commune with you, but you are the greatest beneficiary of this relationship. It is some sort of symbiotic relationship. Have you not noticed how more at peace and relaxed you are when we commune? Your issues are still there but you trust Me to sort them out in my own time. You are full of joy, hope and peace. That kind of peace I talked about in my word that passes all understanding. Yep, that's right! You feel like you can take on the world. It's only a feeling, mind you, you can do nothing without Me...but I know you already know that. Your Heavenly Father, JC (a.k.a Mr Fix-it)
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Jesus House FC
he 2012/2013 Season was the 14th consecutive season that Jesus House Football Club (JHFC) participated in the Football for Christ Championship League (FFCC) since its inception in 1998. At the start of the season it was agreed by the team that, to be successful that year, we needed to be fitter than the other teams, so we introduced more intense training drills. The league started with a five-match winning streak for JHFC. This gave the club confidence that we could end the season claiming a treble, which involves winning the League Championship, the League Cup and the League Super Cup established by the FFCC. The club would in fact end the season claiming a quadruple, which included the 9-aside tournament. JHFC are the first club in the history of FFCC to achieve a quadruple. Usually, winning doubles and trebles are longstanding achievements but, by contrast, winning four trophies in one season is exceptionally rare. The club’s success in this occasion came with a lot of hard work and dedication from the manager and players. On the match day before the club’s potentially league-winning fixture, the manager took the opportunity to remind the team of the “magnificent” achievement they stood on the brink of completing by winning all the trophies at stake. In the manager’s eyes the other teams in league had started to take JHFC’s performances for granted, as the 34 |
JESUS HOUSE FOOtBALL CLUB (2012-2013) A summary of a successful season Written by Dr Okeys Ejims
team limped to a fourth place finish in the League Championship barely a year before. Many had predicted more of the same when the season kicked off in October 2012. Buoyed by the confidence of a fresh impetus on the training ground and dressing room, JHFC shook off their ‘underdogs’ title to push the defending champions, New Life Assembly, all the way in an absorbing title race. At exactly the midway point of the season, JHFC (from the point of view of the team) dropped two points away against New Life Assembly. This galvanised the team, which with renewed confidence produced nine wins from the last nine league matches to lift the League Championship in a manner that even the team would have struggled to envisage. Fast
forward a year and the elegant JHFC were awash with grey shirts celebrating a JHFC title triumph. Plenty of memories from the 2012/2013 campaign will linger long in the hearts of the JHFC team. And, despite this year’s triumph in relation to the League Championship, JHFC refused to let the initial success derail their charge to be victorious in all competitions in the FFCC, embarking on an incredible victorious streak which became 21 games unbeaten in all competitions. With a competitive first team squad and unquestionable talents, the club has every reason to believe that the success of this season could be the start of a golden era at the club. A “magnificent era,” as the manager would say....
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‘BACK TO SCHOOL’ BLUES
by Edith Ogundeji
ummer is but a distant memory for parents with school aged children as we tackle the challenges ahead, going back to school. The early mornings dragging them out of bed, preparing packed lunches, joining the unavoidable school run traffic, before the frenzied scramble for parking spaces... Going back to school after a long holiday is probably more of a relief for the parents than it is for the children, as we secretly welcome the orderliness getting back into a routine brings. For children, holidays are times of endless fun, games and late nights, as bedtimes are abandoned and rules are relaxed...then, suddenly, the long break is over and you have to readjust to reality. As routines must be followed once again, boundaries must be put back in place, bedtimes observed and attitudes renewed. The question one might ask is how we as parents can help our children to settle back to school with much ease and less fuss. Whether your child is starting secondary school for the first time, going away to board-
ing school or to university, as parents our prayers for our children is that this period of transition will be a successful and positive one.
Communication key to Successful Transition
For instance, the changes primary school-aged children will experience moving from one year to another with children from the same class will be relatively different to those faced by ones starting new schools. A study carried out on pupils going from primary to secondary school in England found that the key to a successful transition was communication, between parents and child, between child and teachers, and between parents and school. Engaging your child in conversation about school regularly will help to keep you informed as well as position you to give advice if need be. This simple but fundamental key ensures that your child’s firsttime experience at a new school is enjoyable. As a parent with a child just starting secondary school, I’ve already had to communicate to the school via email about a particular concern. The misunderstanding was dealt with immediately,
thereby preventing what could otherwise have become a period of worry for my child as well as a hindrance to settling into school.
As a parent, how can I help?
The most important thing for parents is not to pass on worries and anxiety to their children. We want them to be happy, to enjoy school and doing school work, make good friends and not encounter bullying. We don’t want the excitement of starting a new school to turn into worry. That’s why it’s important that we remain calm, address any worries they might have about making friends and bullying. Encourage them, be positive, and remember constant reassurance will go a long way to boost their confidence and self-esteem. Always give advice and tips that are practical, bearing in mind that our children’s current school culture is slightly different from our own experiences at school. Every child is different and some may take longer to adjust and settle than others, but eventually they all make that transition successfully by the grace of God.
Conference Season 2013
e have just come to the end of the conference season for political parties in the United Kingdom, and unlike many in recent years, they were more interesting this year. Perhaps it's the fact that it's the last but one before the next General Election, or the emergence of the United Kingdom Independence Party (UKIP) as a force to be reckoned with (never mind the shenanigans of one of their MEPs, the notorious Godfrey Bloom - just Google his name!) has added a bit of flavour to British politics. Many citizens continue to be wary of the political class, disappointed in not only the conduct, but the competence of those who lead and ultimately determine the way this country goes. Conference is always a time for the political parties to rally the troops and outline policies which should make our life that much
by Lola Adedoyin
better and maybe help us believe in them a little bit more, and of course vote for them. Nick Clegg, with the introduction of a new universal benefit - free meals for school children; Ed Miliband promising to cut our energy bills by forcing the private companies to comply; and David Cameron painting a picture of a land of opportunity for the 'hardworking people' of Britain, are just some of the examples of promises we have heard over the last few weeks. While I am loathe to dismiss Nick Clegg (I laughed out loud, when, before the 2010 General Election, he said he wanted to be PM - lo and behold, only a few months after that, the new Prime Minister David Cameron was on holiday and Mr Clegg, as Deputy Prime Minister was put in charge - acting as Prime Minister!), it is almost certain that the next Prime Minister of this country will be either Mr Miliband or Mr Cameron. Both party leaders, judging by their speeches, have gone back to their party's political
roots - Miliband rebranding Labour as socialist (to the chagrin of the few Blairites left in the party), drawing the battle line for the election by promising to tackle the standard of living; and Cameron fighting from the right and offering people the conservative model - smaller government, enterprise, responsibility for self. They sounded like they believed it too. Who knows, this may signal a change in the way in which politicians conduct themselves in this country - less of the gimmicky stuff and more conviction politics. Clear messages from believable leaders. Okay, maybe we are not there yet, but the parties have laid out their messages - all available on their respective websites - it is never too early, or indeed late, to consider their policies and determine where you want to cast your support. It appears they are trying to tell us they are not all the same, and that can only be good for the United Kingdom.
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THE UNENDING METAMORPHOSIS OF TIFFANY JONES ...Be ye not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind...
This series reflects the thought-life of a fictional character who is going through the process of maturing in her walk with God. As is to be expected in any case of genuine Christian conversion, the way she thinks changes as she makes the transition from being a carnal Christian to becoming a more spiritual one.
Bubbling Over 6 YEARS AGO...
...4 YEARS LATER
Last night was epic. I got a bit tipsy in the club.
Today, Remi teased me about the bottle of champagne that’s been in my wine rack for over a year. She must have read my mind because I was just thinking to myself that it’s been there for ages and I still don’t feel like drinking it. I guess there’s not been anything major to celebrate in a while.
Err, who am I kidding? I was drunk – again! No one can blame me though. The big spenders were out, so champagne was flowing. The DJ wasn’t bad either. Not that I could really judge; music always sounds better when you’re drunk. I can’t even believe I made it to church this morning. It’s a good thing I did though, because the guy that was too shy to ask for my number last night accosted me in the foyer today. I was leaving my details for something at front of house and he just copied the number from the paper as I was writing. E-V-E-R-Y-B-O-D-Y comes to this Jesus House! Sometimes, I even see Ade, the club promoter, here. Our lives are balanced. Saturday nights, we go clubbing. Sunday mornings, we do church. It’s all good. I just hope that guy calls this week. The new Chinese restaurant on Finchley Road looks like a good spot to check out.
I love my life!.
But, what am I even hoping will happen before I pop it open? Doesn’t the Bible say to rejoice always? I shouldn’t really have to wait for anything special to happen before I rejoice. Being alive in itself is enough cause for celebration. I’m going to celebrate being alive with my bottle of champagne! Then again, why do I need champagne to celebrate? How it is that champagne has become synonymous with celebration in my subconscious? Who is responsible for making me believe that celebrations are incomplete without a little bit of bubbly? I know it’s not the Bible. In fact, the more I think about it, the more it seems to me like it’s just a smart marketing move by people involved in the business of manufacturing and peddling champagne. Back in the day, I used to enjoy getting drunk on the stuff all in the name of ‘celebration’. Now I can’t even figure out why! Hangovers were never fun – and the number of times I embarrassed myself while under the influence of alcohol is not even a subject I’d want to go into. Hmmm...
Ignorance is not bliss. “See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than on Christ.” – Colossians 2:8
3 YEARS AGO...
This Cancer Thing ...2 YEARS LATER
My biggest fear right now is this disease called cancer. It's getting everybody!
Uncle Henry passed away this morning. His battle with cancer has been tough on the family in more ways than I could have ever imagined.
Uncle Henry just got diagnosed. Deji’s cousin, who is only in his twenties, had surgery last month for tumours in his liver. And now, the Pastor’s wife has passed on and they say it was cancer.
Auntie Cynthia keeps agonising over the fact that there’s now cancer in our family history. She’s worried that it means that other members of the family will now be seen as having a greater chance of developing the disease also. As much as I respect my aunt, I wish she would keep her opinion to herself on this occasion. I can’t even start entertaining those types of thoughts! They will only introduce fear, and one thing I cannot afford to do right now is live in fear.
The way this thing is going, can anybody escape it? I’m so paranoid now that I examine myself every day. My mind has even started playing tricks on me. Whenever I feel anything odd in my body, I start wondering if it’s early signs of the disease. Something keeps telling me that someday, I too will have the disease. It’s so bad that I received a letter from the GP the other day, inviting me for a routine smear test and I’ve been too afraid to go. Perhaps I should. Apparently, there’s a higher chance of survival if you catch it early.
God help me!
I admit that what Uncle Henry went through makes little sense to me. In my eyes, he was the godliest person in the family. I never expected him to die this way. All I know is that nothing happens without God’s permission. He alone knows all things and someday, when I meet Him, hopefully everything will become clear. In the mean time, the Bible says that we were healed by the stripes that Jesus bore. I choose to hold on to that. Gone are the days of believing that I will someday have cancer because so many people are getting it. God is a healer and even on a day like today, I celebrate Him as that.
None of these things move me.
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” - 2 Timothy 1:7
Puzzles & Solutions
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Lifestyle & Culture
Career and motherhood: can a woman have it all? By Uchenna Izundu
t is now almost two years since my traditional marriage in eastern Nigeria: I sashayed across the sun burnt grassy school playground to give my prospective hubby palm wine to drink, which showed friends and family that the deal was sealed. Nigerians are not time wasters in perpetuating the circle of life; the minute they say “I do” – bam – out comes the baby within the first year. Ah-ah, sensing the underlying urgency from others on “When am I going to become an uncle, aunt, godparent?” I get the impression I should have been impregnated the second I was whisked back to hubby’s place. Ephesians 6:1-3 states how important motherhood is as God commands honour your parents so that you may have long life. I want to be a mother, but reading the statistics on costs and listening to my friends' struggles on juggling multiple mum duties - housekeeper, day-care centre teacher, cook, computer operator, Ambassador of Peace/Referee, washing machine operator, janitor, chief executive officer and psychologist - leaves me worried about whether I can cope and advance my career. Today, women are marrying later and delaying motherhood to their 30s with improved education, contraception, and climbing the career ladder. Due to feminism’s mantra that we can achieve equality with men, my generation has been seduced into thinking we can “have it all”: raise children and have successful careers. But this chronology belies a frantic juggling act – we’re competing for access to resources such as good schools, networks, well paid jobs, and partners against an ever clicking female reproductive clock that is at its prime in our early 20s. Unless you have savings or a generous maternity policy with your employer, statutory maternity pay is pittance at £135.45 for 33 weeks when on maternity leave. “Can a woman have it all? Don't make me laugh!” says Krystyna who has a 6 month old son and points out that working provides a good role model. Anne Marie Slaughter, the first woman director of policy planning at the US State Department, wrote last year in the New York Times it’s time to stop fooling ourselves: the women who have managed to be both mothers and top professionals are superhuman, rich, or self-employed. She has quit her job to be with her teenage boys. The figure for raising a child to 21 is intimidating: UK insurer LV= calculates that it is £222,458, with parents paying 58% more than a decade ago. The biggest expenditures are childcare and education. Childcare in London is extortionate, costing up to £1000 month a month in the early years. On the one hand, women work because we have no choice – either as breadwinners or because our income is necessary to help our husbands pay the bills. Research shows women reduce their working hours to cope with childcare costs and postpone career devel-
opment, leaving them with meagre pensions when they retire. Krystyna blames government for the high cost and many regulations related to childcare. “We want to raise our child with ambition, but the more we work, the more we earn therefore the higher the cost of childcare, a point that makes me furious is that if I didn't work, I would get financial help.” One friend who commutes two hours to work each day told me she struggles with the guilt of doing so as it means hardly seeing her seven year old son during the week. “The only way to make it up is to make sure quality time with him is just that; when I’m at home, my full attention is just on him.” For Yolande whose daughter just turned 14, it is a tough call being a working mum and a parent. “The media do their best to rubber stamp you as failing as a parent if you do because your child is missing out on so much. I think the majority of working parents are now both cash and time poor due to the actions taken for economic recovery.” Three out of four new mothers would stay at home to bring up their child if they could afford to, according to uSwitch. Beatrice, who has two children under the age of four and sells art from home, says children need the emotional connection in their first five years. “I don't just mean being in the room. Involve them and interact. Working from home is even more necessary than ever before. More companies are working online. People need to be forward thinking.” The study by uSwitch concluded that the traditional family – with a breadwinning father and a full-time mother – is preferred by most women, suggesting that perhaps politicians have got it wrong that mothers wish to work with more subsidised childcare. Balancing a family and progressing a career requires flexibility around parental roles, career trajectories, and working patterns, and quality, affordable childcare. I agree with Tovah Klein, director of the Barnard College Center for Toddler Development, who argues that these changes will be hard to accomplish until society recognizes the value of raising children and their need for their parents' emotional and physical connection. Sacrifice and compromise are the key themes that mothers tell me as I grapple with how to prepare for a family, being a successful employee, improving household finances, and providing a better future for my imaginary kids. It requires money, a great support network, and if you have a supportive spouse, all the better. Ultimately, it is for every mother to define what “having it all” means to her, advises Francesca who has a six month old daughter. “Most won't say I have it all because I'm not a millionaire yet. But to me all is complete contentment and happiness in knowing that your security is assured because I trust in God.”
‘Lean In: Women, Work and the will to lead’
Author: Sheryl Sandberg
Too often, social pressures become the driving force of female behaviour and, although in the short-run it’s easier to fall in line with “expected behaviours” rather than broaching an awkward discussion about ‘expectations”, in the long-run the trade-off for women who wish to pursue their careers is not worth it. A father standing in the playground may look suspicious, or a woman leading a group of men at work may seem unconventional, but stepping outside of convention is the avenue by which progress can be made in this area. Importantly, Sandberg acknowledges the myth of ‘having it all’ as just that - a myth. Rather than ‘having’ it all, women should ask themselves whether they can realistically ‘do’ it all. It’s imperative that women define for themselves what their personal ‘all’ actually entails. Should they fail to do this, they risk reinforcing feelings of inadequacy which can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Excerpt: ‘I don’t know of one woman in a leadership position whose life partner is not fully – and I mean fully – supportive of her career. No exceptions. And contrary to the popular notion that only unmarried women can make it to the top, the majority of the most successful female business leaders have partners. Of the 28 women who have served as CEO’s of Fortune 500 companies, 26 were married, one divorced and only one had never married. Many of these CEO’S said they “could not have succeeded without the support of their husbands”, helping with the children, the household chores and showing a willingness to [relocate].’
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Children's Bible Club Free Bible club for children aged 7 to 15 years. Sheryl Sandberg, current Chief Operating Officer of Facebook, and one of Fortune magazine's Most Powerful Women in Business, recently gave a TEDtalk about women in the boardroom, the talk becoming an instant hit and gaining millions of online views. It was the driving force behind Sandberg’s subsequent book ‘Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead’, a book which made even the typically solemn-faced Condoleezza Rice “laugh out loud” as Sandberg’s life experiences resonated with her own. Throughout the book, Sandberg encourages women to “sit at the table,” to engage in the conversation and lean in. During her rise to the top, she made the observation that, from the moment female employees began to think seriously about having children, they traditionally slowed things down at work, even before a potential partner was in the picture. Currently, women who actively take on both career and motherhood end up carrying the associated guilt as well as the vast majority of domestic and child-rearing duties. In reality this means she has two full-time jobs and he has one. This, to her, is not a partnership; it’s voluntary servitude.
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Spot light on...
On October 19th Lurine Cato walked away with the award for Best Gospel Act the MOBO Awards, a feat she followed by taking home the same award at the BEFFTAs (Black Entertainment Film Fashion Television and Arts), crowning what had been a phenomenal year for Cato, who’d already won International 'Song of the Year' at the Gospel Music Award Italy in May. Cato is currently working on her debut album, which is due for release in early 2014, but found some time to fill in a few blanks for Outflow’s Ayoola Bandele. I can't get through the day without: My lip-gloss (Laughs!!!) Definitely without Prayer.
I believe in: Jesus.
I'm currently reading: The Bible.
Favourite discovery: My self-worth.
I'm a little captivated by: (Oh my God am I allowed to say this?) TV Show called Scandal.
Best advice you’ve been given: Don’t make decisions when you are emotional.
My favourite music artists are: Kimberwell, Marvin Winnans, Karen Clark.
At the moment you are: Very busy, extremely busy and happy.
My dream vacation would be: to go back to Tobago, I love it there.
It’s important to balance: Your natural and spiritual life.
Last music you heard: Amazing by Darwin Hobbs. Most romantic thing someone’s done for you is: Sent a saxophone player outside my parents’ house to woo me back. Shops you rely on: River Island, I could always find an outfit in that place. Most memorable moment: Singing at a concert where the singer didn’t turn up and I ended up headlining the concert. It was my very first gig as well. Last album you bought: Charles Jenkins. Who do you call when you want to have some fun? My friend Leo. What’s your biggest extravagance? When I gave all my family money when I had a big pay-out and my dream was to spoil my family.
Home is: Edmonton with my kids.
Social Media Week Lagos: Africa’s Biggest Social Media Event
Social Media Week (SMW) is a leading media event with a global reach across five continents. Twice a year (in February & September) SMW explores the social, cultural and economic impact of social media, the weeklong festival is held in multiple cities across the globe, simultaneously. After a hugely successful inaugural event in 2013, SMW Lagos saw 110 hosted events garner over 31 million online impressions and the 2014 instalment is set to be bigger, bolder and more well-connected. The Lagos arm of this global festival takes place in Lagos, Nigeria 17th – 21stFebruary, 2014 at the Volkswagen Centre in Victoria Island and is produced by Dragon Africa and AFRIKA21. New for 2014 SMW Lagos Satellite venues... This year SMW Lagos has enlisted smaller venues throughout Lagos that will host engaging programming in a more intimate setting. These satellite venues will host a variety crowd sourced masterclasses, workshops and dynamic programming produced by local and international event partners. Ikeja’s new Enterprise Creative HotHouse - a creative co-working space for digital entrepreneurs will serve as one of several SMW satellite venues and Victoria Island’s Terra Kulture will return as the Music, Arts, Culture & Entertainment Hub. ...SMW Lagos After Hours. Lagos is known around the world for its nightlife and as a supplement to the daytime programming, SMW Lagos will curate a week of memorable post-conference evening events. The After Hours Hub at Club Pravada will host a variety of night time activities and complementary programming. Ultimately the SMW mission is to help individuals and organisations connect through collaboration, learning and the sharing of ideas and information. Please visit http://socialmediaweek.org/lagos for further information.
SMW’s 5 Travel Apps to Help You Navigate [Lagos] Nigeria TripIt: 1. Before you even step foot in Lagos, get yourself organized using this app. TripIt allows you to add your flight, ground travel, hotel and sight-seeing info to keep you on track for your trip. You can also share your itinerary among friends if travelling in a group. .Fascinating Nigeria: 2. This app is also helpful in the planning stages, but is just as helpful when you land. The free app lets you find attractions, restaurants and events in major cities. It also gives cultural and historic information about the country. Easy Taxi: Order a taxi from the convenience of your smartphone with this app. 3. Easy Taxi finds you a registered driver. You can even see the name and picture of your driver and know when your taxi is arriving by tracking your driver in real-time. igeria Essential Travel Guide: N 4. Similar to Fascinating Nigeria but not as sleek, the app does have a map, translator and world clock. And to really satisfy your wanderlust, it offers basic info on neighbouring countries like Niger, Chad & Benin. iConverter: H 5.
The app not only converts currency, but temperature, measurements and even shoe size.
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