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The Queer Agenda of Holiday Happenings

November 28, 2019

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Give to GET Generosity is the best gift we can give ourselves all year

AS THANKSGIVING GIVES way to a full-court press on the holidays, Q magazine makes a list and checks it twice — for queer gift ideas, yes, but for an even more important LGBTQ spirit. Love it or loathe, it, giving is a priority for many people this time of year, but it’s also a privilege. Even if material resources aren’t plentiful, what everyone can afford is to give of ourselves. Show interest in another person. Flatter an aspect of their personality or taste that you genuinely admire. What you get back comes ten-fold, and spoiler alert: This holds true all year long.

MIKE FLEMING EDITOR & PUBLISHER

Yep. We receive by giving. Good karma also sets off a year-round effect for us and those around us, from our inner circles to our larger networks of queers depending on each other for support and for advancing the movement one change at a time.

Sometimes moving forward means looking back to those we lost, especially as we get winsome this time of year. Q Voices columnist Ian Aber thinks that dying LGBTQ icons signal his own advance into queer middle age. Here at home, our end-of-year series continues with what we’ll miss from last two decades as we head into the ‘20s. This time, it’s 10 of the people who left a lasting legacy on queer life. In the Q advice column, giving of ourselves can mean holding back — on the urge to control everything and everyone. And you’d have nothing to give if life was all work and no play, so give freely from this week’s packed Queer Agenda calendar of LGBTQ events. Now about that Q Gift Guide? It’s massive, y’all. Dozens of options in Home, Fashion, Jewelry, Tech, Stocking Stuffers and even Sexy Adult stuff await from local retailers as well as international queer and queer-friendly outlets. To expand the options even more, our advertisers pepper you with their suggestions as well. So from Project Q Atlanta and Q magazine, welcome to the holidays in LGBTQ Atlanta. May your generosity of spirit be the best thing you give — and get back — this year. theQatl.com

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VOICES

When Heroes

DIE

How Diahann Carroll honed one man’s queer vengeance vibe IN 2016, I STARTED NOTICING THAT WE ARE NOT forever young and that no one, no matter how beloved, is beyond death’s snatching hands. David Bowie died early in the year, and that was devastating for me. He was a bastion of prolific creativity, androgyny and bisexuality, and we celebrated and emulated him for it.

propping up a silly hetero story in the way we always do, but that is a rant for another day. Two days later, Carrie Fisher died to round out an epic year in celebrity deaths. While there have been plenty more stars that have faded from the sky since 2016, none have made me take more pause to reflect than the recent passing of Diahann Carroll. I watched her through the original run of Dynasty as the cunning and beautiful Dominique Deveraux. I was so fascinated with how the character was brought in to take down the main family, the Carringtons, something I had been waiting for on the show since its beginning. Very early on in the show, we learned that brother Steven Carrington is a homosexual (cue dramatic music) when his father Blake catches him hugging his friend Ted. In a fit of rage that defines “gay panic,” Blake breaks up the two men hugging and pushes Ted violently. He falls, hits his head, and in true soap opera fashion, immediately dies. As a closted teen, this was terrifying and ultimately infuriating as the Blake character would be found guilty but have his sentence suspended and essentially never pay for his crime. I literally only watched the show after that to see the character of Blake suffer. He represented the epitome of the evil straight white man to me, and I was invested in seeing some semblance of justice.

Just when we were collectively coming to terms with the loss of Bowie, Prince passed away very suddenly and too soon of an accidental drug overdose. Again, he was a giant in terms of his creativity and volume of work he left IAN behind, and he was truly an original in everyABER Enter Diahann Carroll as Dominique Deveraux, thing he did. If Bowie shocked you, Prince’s an international businesswoman and jazz singer (it’s a soap) passing made you take pause and take stock of your life with who also is secretly Blake Carrinton’s half-sister who has come his music and movies as a soundtrack to it. to take everything from him. In short, I am here for every Before 2016 ended, another shocking death would come. No, minute of it. not the death of the American experiment with the election Where Blake was impetuous and hot-headed, Dominique was of the Cheeto Voldemort. On Christmas Day, we lost George calculating and cool. When she finally revealed her plan and Michael, and gay men and the women who try to date them Blake’s face was fully cracked, I danced with joy in my living were devastated. George was this complicated creature who room because somebody had finally taken that homophobic hid his sexuality from the public but also was ostentatiously prick down a notch. flamboyant throughout the ‘80s and ‘90s until his unfortunate incarceration for trying to blow an undercover cop in a That was the beginning of a lifetime of chasing that feeling Beverly Hills park restroom. and often emulating the character of Dominique without apThrough that embarrassing moment, he was reborn an out proud gay man. His death was the icing on the shit cake that was 2016 for certain but his legacy will live on through his music. A film called Last Christmas is out now that features much of his songbook — another example of queer excellence 6

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propriating the behavior or mannerisms outright. I was given a lot of strength at a time I needed it by Diahann Carroll, and I carry that memory and feeling with me now and always. Ian Aber is a queer comic and comedy showrunner in Atlanta. Visit abercomedian.com.


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ROARIN 10 QUEER THINGS

Look back at a few faces we’ll miss in the new decade By Mike Fleming

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or the end of 2019, we’ll look back at gone-but-not-forgotten icons of the last 20 years as we head into the next. Next up, 10 of the people we lost who were icons in community, nightlife, activism and industry. Cheryl Courtney-Evans Trans Icon and Advocate

Berl Boykin

Pride Co-founder

Allen Thornell

Georgia Equality Director

Tim Wilkerson

Community Photographer

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NG ’20s Durand Robinson

Traxx and Black Gay Pride

Lateasha Shuntel

Trans Woman, Bartender and Drag Performer

Alan Penrod

Mr. Atlanta Eagle 2009, Atlanta Leather Pride Co-founder

Philip Rush

Activist, Rush Center Namesake

The Lady Shabazz Drag Performer, Pride Cabaret Host

Diamond Lil

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THE QUEER AGENDA WEDNESDAY, DEC. 4

The Best Queer Things To Do in Atlanta

Bedpost Confessions

November 29 – December 13

A queer-inclusive collection of writ-

ers, performers and comics like Rewop

FRIDAY, NOV. 29

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Puddles Pity Party & Friends

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The singing-clown national sen-

and shared on stage @ Highland Inn, 8 p.m.

sation with all the cool, queer

local ties serves a holiday jubilee like only he can do @ Fox

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THURSDAY, DEC. 5 Out in the Kitchen

Theatre, 8 p.m. foxtheatre.org

Out Georgia Business Alliance throws its annual chef tastings for the holi-

days @ W Atlanta Midtown, 6 p.m. atlantagaychamber.org

FRIDAY, DEC. 6 — SATURDAY, DEC. 7

SATURDAY, NOV. 30

Atlanta Gay Men’s Chorus

Michelle Malone

The 39th annual holiday concert from the

Celebrate the release of the queer

venerable chorus raises 100 voices

blues rocker’s holiday band album.

@ Cathedral of St. Philip, 6 p.m.

The Hot Toddies perform during

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SATURDAY, DEC. 7

Furball XXX

Bear Invasion

Paulo takes the helm as the big boys bump @ Heretic, 10 p.m.

DJ Dan De Leon corrals the queers with a scandalous theme and

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Beefyboy, Bearskin and BWM in tow @ Heretic, 10 p.m. hereticatlanta.com

SUNDAY, DEC. 8 All Stripes End

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Make a week of it with AHF and AID Atlanta. Commemoration on Monday

the 2nd at Tavern Pointe, 6 p.m. Testing on Tuesday the 3rd at Clarke Atlanta

Student Health Center and Friday the 6th

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12.01 Ball: We Declare War

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of Season Celebration

THURSDAY, DEC. 12

Free cider and snacks plus plans

John Waters Christmas

for next year with the LGBTQ fan

The King of Trash returns with his

group of Atlanta United @ Urban

Filthier & Merrier show @ Variety

Playhouse, 8 p.m. varietyplayhouse.com

Tree Cidery, 6 p.m. allstripesatl.com

THURSDAY, DEC. 12 Holy Sh!t

The comedy night curated by Q’s own Ian Aber in the queer-

run halls @ Sister Louisa’s Church of the Living Room, 10 p.m.

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FRIDAY, DEC. 13 DJ Mister Richard

Take a disco nap, because it’s going to be a bumpy night @ Atlanta Eagle, 10 p.m. atlantaeagle.com

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GIFT GUIDE Q

We’re here, we’re queer and we’ve got holiday gift ideas

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Compiled by Mike Fleming

rom family to fr-amily, sweeties to frenemies, your shopping list just got easier with Q ideas for giving — and maybe a little something for yourself. 

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Home for the

HOLIDAYS

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Tea Towels Cute Sayings $12 facebook.com/brushstrokesatlanta 14

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HOLIDAYS

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World AIDS Day Testing December 3, 10am-3pm

AHF World AIDS Day Concert December 5, 2019 from 6pm-9pm Center State Atlanta 1374 W Peachtree St. NW Atlanta, Ga 30309

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The problem with trying to direct how others act

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I love my boyfriend as is, so let me start with that. Among so many characteristics I truly cherish is his intelligence

and grace at expressing himself. From art to politics to social justice and beyond, he is so observant and articulate.

He has a great education and lots of success, and it shows, but I’m afraid exactly what I like about him will be the thing that

completely turns off my best friends. They are self-built business owners, and they are leery of anyone they see as “showing off.” They deem intellectuals as privileged elitists.

I want everyone to get along, so is it OK to have my boyfriend tone it down a bit? I think if he avoids big vocabulary words,

speaks plainly and tries not to go into elaborate descriptions of

nuanced concepts, my friends can get to know him instead of his style. I can also ask my friends to open their hearts in advance and explain that he can sound a bit haughty.

I’m afraid my friends will distrust him and discount everything he’s accomplished if they view him as privileged. For his part, my boyfriend is as populist as can be and would never insult them on purpose.

Which side do I take if my plan goes awry and I have to choose one? Dear Stage Director: People cannot act like someone they aren’t for very long, and

definitely not when trying to do so at your behest. Controlling

them and your expectations is the wrong approach from the start. You can’t stage-manage this scene. Instead, let’s look at what you can control: You. Look at your preconceived notions and deal with those.

You don’t trust your friends to see through the vocabulary to the person, and you don’t trust your boyfriend to find ways to communicate. What may be worse, you don’t trust yourself.

With emotion invested in the outcome of this meeting, you

forget to trust that you are good at choosing the people in your

life. Chances are that they feel the same way about you, so while

you can’t make them like each other, you can probably trust them to make the most of the meeting for your sake.

Whatever you do, stop trying to determine what happens in

advance. When the time comes, resist the urge to jump in and

cheerlead each side to the other. The more real you keep it, the

more at ease everyone will feel and therefore the more likely they are not to choke.

As for which “side to take,” choose your own side. If things

go sour, align yourself with the people who are being the least

obnoxious. If your friends are so fake-woke that they can’t look for the good in others, that’s one sign. If your boyfriend is so

self-absorbed that he won’t try to build bridges, there’s another. Trust yourself and everyone involved to figure it out. Imagine

them behaving as their best selves instead of their worst, and you can concentrate on representing yourself in the same way.

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Q Magazine Atlanta | November 28, 2019  

Queer Atlanta Holiday Gift Guide, the death of icon Diahann Carroll and other LGBTQ icons, 10 Atlantans we lost in the last decade as we hea...

Q Magazine Atlanta | November 28, 2019  

Queer Atlanta Holiday Gift Guide, the death of icon Diahann Carroll and other LGBTQ icons, 10 Atlantans we lost in the last decade as we hea...