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The importance of learning through play How technology can affect your parenting Happy, healthy, thriving babies

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Become an Educator with us P27 Features The importance of learning through play ................... 2

Amazing au pair ................................................................ 26

Keeping safe around dogs .............................................. 6

Become an Educator with us ....................................... 27

Tongue-tied ............................................................................ 8

Children's feet and when to step-in ............................ 28

Technoference .................................................................... 10

Supporting parents on their journey ......................... 30

Self-care isn't selfish - it's necessary .......................... 12

The magic of books........................................................... 31

Mindfulness........................................................................... 14

Great ideas and inspiring teaching resources ......... 32

Healing your skin the natural way .............................. 16 Extend your learning with the new Level 4 ............ 18 Less stress for this working mum ............................... 20 Building my career around my children ................... 22 Happy, healthy, thriving babies .................................. 24 Let’s PORSE is published twice per year. Forty thousand copies of each issue are distributed free throughout New Zealand. You can also see what's happening at PORSE on our social media channels and website. Dorothy Waide - book and tutorial ............................................................ 1

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Love to Sing - music .................................................................................. 29

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As a busy working mum, I love this edition of our Let’s PORSE magazine. Some of the articles really resonated with me, especially the one about how important it is for mothers to take time to look after themselves. We are all time-poor these days and many mums and dads feel they need to work full time to make ends meet. Working, cooking, cleaning and dealing with mummy guilt (we covered this topic in our last edition) means we’re often not focusing on ourselves enough. It seems too often that we’re stressed and physically and emotionally drained. So, ask yourself: when was the last time you did something on your own purely for your own pleasure? We’re

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back to warmer weather and longer days, so I encourage you to take some time out and do

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something for you. Trust me – it’ll make the world of difference to you and the relationships

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and connections with your loved ones. I love that Dorothy Waide, New Zealand’s top sleep

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around dogs, dealing with eczema and keeping toddler’s feet neat.

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So, make a cup of tea, sit back with your feet up and happy reading!

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"The most intelligent child will be the one who has had the most free-play." Nathan Wallis

Te nui o te ako mai i te Takaro

The importance of A child rolls a handful of dirt into a ball, places a stick in the top and stands back to admire her creation. It’s a birthday cake, she tells the adult nearby. Chocolate mud cake – because it's her mummy’s favourite. This three-year-old is building her skills and knowledge

consultancy service provides support to teachers

through creative play. Children learn through playful,

and Educators wanting to create student-centred

hands-on experiences with the encouragement of a

learning environments. Sarah has watched children

supportive adult.

flourish with their learning when they are given a choice

The most intelligent child will be the one who has had the

in what they do.

most free-play, Nathan Wallis, a trained early childhood

“Playing gives children a great sense of joy and passion,

Educator, lecturer and child counsellor says.

when they experience those positive emotions they’re

Longworth Education co-director Sarah Aiono is another

more likely to remember what they’re learning than when

advocate for play-based learning. The Hawke’s Bay-based

they’re not feeling so good.”


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Sarah worked with children with learning and behavioural

Sarah says many people are unaware of how intricate

needs for more than 10 years. During that time, children

children’s learning through play really is.

were often referred to her who were off-task and struggling to concentrate while sitting on the mat.

“Through play, children develop sophisticated oral language skills through rich conversation, which in

“They couldn’t fit into the mainstream school model. It

turn builds key literacy knowledge, important for

just wasn’t working for them.”

communicating through a range of reading and

A few years back, Sarah’s mother and teacher Linda

writing genre.

Cheer started running a forest school for five-year-olds

Mathematically, play is rich with opportunities for children

who weren’t ready for school. The plan was that children

to apply their knowledge to a vast array of everyday

would learn through play until they were six and then

mathematical problems and ideas."

they would go into the school system. The only downside

Play has been seen to boost reading and writing levels and

was that no-one wanted to leave when they turned

increase vocabulary scores of 'at-risk' student populations,”

six! The children still learnt to read, write and count,

she says.

but a significant part of their day was spent exploring and playing in the forest.

Children are driven by their curiosity, which allows them to wonder and explore.

About 18 months ago, the mother

Children also have a playful drive which

and daughter came together to

encourages them to test things out.

form Longworth Education and

“Children need to move to learn -

started running professional

their brain wires-up when they’re

learning workshops on play-

moving – when they’re sitting

based learning for teachers

only a small part of the brain is

and Educators.


“There seems to be a

Sarah says children also

movement, a groundswell

develop a can-do attitude

of teachers saying what

and learn how

they’re doing, with more

to negotiate with

structured and guided

play their playmates.

learning, is not working.”


“Free-play provides opportunities to develop high-order cognitive skills that no amount of direct teaching can do.” Adults still play an important part in progressing children’s learning, giving them knowledge and perspective. They provide scaffolding to their learning. New Zealand’s Early Childhood Education Curriculum, Te Whāriki includes five areas of learning, supporting children to develop into confident and competent learners. One of the strands is exploration - where the child learns through active exploration of the environment. The goal is that children experience an environment where their play is valued as meaningful learning.

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is alive and well

He ora, he pai hoki te Takaro

When PORSE visits Parkvale School in Hastings, a group of Year Two children are enthusiastically working on their dinosaur museum. The idea for the museum came from a piece of driftwood that

Gail has been with her Year Two class since they started school

teacher Gail Kelly brought into the classroom. The children

and watched their passion for learning flourish.

thought it was a fossil and soon their discussion turned to dinosaurs. With only a little guidance from the teachers, the children have cut out a dinosaur skeleton that has been stuck on the classroom wall, which doubles as the back of their museum. The children have created a museum sign for their doorway and a stand of exhibits. Small balls of tinfoil sit inside a glass jar, labelled “dinosaur DNA”. In another jar “dinosaur bones” are being sold for $10 each.

“Children are arriving early because they want to be at school. Some parents bring their children in saying they are a little unwell but the child insisted they come.” Assessments have revealed that this group of children are about on par, in terms of their reading and writing level, as previous groups were, before the play-led learning was introduced. Gail expects this to rise in the near future. Back at Longworth Education, Sarah says teachers and educators have a responsibility to equip children for the changing world and workforce and they need to be adaptable and resilient.

When children are engaged in dramatic, creative play of their own choosing, they are operating at a high level of cognitive and social development. Dramatic play allows space for the development of executive functioning skills, identified now as key skills for the modern adult world, says Sarah.

Gail says all of these ideas came from the children. Through their play, they are learning about dinosaurs and money transactions, as well as learning how to co-operate with, and work alongside, each other on a joint project. Parkvale School has implemented a play-based learning policy in their Year One and Two classes. Children arrive in the morning, get into groups and start on an activity of their own choice. Opposite the dinosaur museum, children are cutting out stars for a Matariki display while others are in the art corner. One boy is sitting quietly doing subtractions – because he wants to. They are learning core skills through their play without realising it and some children, like the boy practicing subtraction, just naturally progress their own development. The children still have literacy and numeracy lessons but they are done in smaller groups at different times of the day.


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Why play matters more than ABC's and 123's

How you can encourage child-led play Trust the children in their play.

There is no evidence that learning to read younger has any advantage, in fact, creative play uses much more of the brain

Allow children the time and the space to explore without telling them or directing them in what they should be

than teacher-led learning. Teaching children to read from five is not likely to make that child any more successful at reading than a child who learns to

doing. Children need to be a little bored, in order to be able to work out how to entertain themselves and to develop and build on their curiosities.

read from seven. Otago University researcher Dr Sebastian Suggate conducted national and international studies that backed up the conclusion

From there, adults need to notice and watch for their child's signals about what interests them and what drives

that there is no difference between the reading ability of early

their curiosities. If they enjoy getting all the pots and pans

and late readers by the time those children reach their last year

out to bang and crash - this is great - make pots and pans available to them and comment on what they are doing.

at primary school. Dr Suggate said the research emphasises the importance of early

This is gifting them language and knowledge in order to make connections between their

language and learning, while putting less emphasises on the

curiosity and new learning.

importance of early reading.

Allow children to get dirty!

He concluded that there was no solid evidence showing long-term gains for children who are taught to read in an early childhood education setting.

In this era of automatic washing machines, dirt should not prevent children from the joy of playing.

Nathan Wallis agrees, saying there is no benefit from trying to teach a three-year-old skills a seven-year-old should learn. “You do not get better outcomes by practicing to be seven

It’s about seeing when a child needs help to connect the dots between what they are exploring and new knowledge (without taking over the play) - and knowing

when you’re three,” he says.

when an adult is not needed in the play at all.

“Australia and New Zealand are raising a generation of children

You don't need commercial toys!

with no resilience. Resilience comes from creativity and we’re obsessed with getting them ready for school,” Nathan says. The widely held view in New Zealand that children should learn to read from five, now looks contestable. Those who are late learning to read are still learning through play, language and interactions with adults, so their long-term

Children's play does not need to be resourced with expensive store-bought toys. The best kind of play children have is with absolute junk and broken 'bits'; items that can be repurposed into imaginative machines, gadgets, rocket-ships, cars and so on. Play looks messy when it is produced from a lot of junk, but through the lens of a child these items

learning is not disadvantaged.

are absolute gold. Finding new and interesting things to add to a toy box that allow a child

multiple types of interaction with them, will


create opportunities for creative

and imaginative


play which is the


highest form of play children can engage in.

Learn to foster

play & creativity in the early years

We deliver an online webinar workshop that shares the importance of imaginative play in childhood for overall development. Rich with practical strategies and activities, it teaches you more about how play develops in childhood and how imaginative play acts as a pathway to self-regulation and higher level learning. Register your interest now to find out how to be the best ‘playmaker’ for your children.

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Research shows that having a dog is good for children as it increases their attentiveness, decreases anxiety and improves their emotional intelligence. Having a dog gives children a sense of responsibility and helps them grow compassion and understanding of living things. Animal psychologist Mark Vette has been studying and training dogs for more than 40 years. He has seen - and solved - every behavioural issue imaginable and is known as the star of the TV show 'Purina Pound Pups to Dog Stars'. He shares his tips in order to raise a dog that’s great with kids. Puppies are ripe for learning and new experiences from eightweeks-old. Everything your puppy absorbs at this time forms the basis for its future behaviour as an adult dog. The more you socialise your puppy in a positive way with children at this age, the better it will be, so take your pup to meet lots of children in lots of different circumstances.

can be hard to fix. Start slowly and gradually expose your pup to increasingly difficult situations with children. You can use a training clicker (small clicking device) to click and reward your dog while it’s being hugged, or its tail is being pulled, or while baby is screaming or scooters are whizzing past. A clicker marks the exact behaviour that you want your dog to do. Think of the clicker as like a camera, where the photo you take when you click is exactly what you are rewarding and therefore helps to create a shared language between you and your dog. The clicker becomes a positive switch that moves your dog into a learning state - a happy, relaxed, focused state - perfect for learning. Using treats can also make even rough handling a good experience.

When you bring your puppy home, expose and de-sensitise them to anything that might happen with children around, such as their tail being pulled or them being accidentally stepped on. It is important to teach children to be kind and respectful to dogs but it’s safest to teach your dog to accept anything children might do so you don’t end up with a child being hurt by a scared dog.

Teach your children to be kind and respectful to their new pet. Dogs should be left alone when they’re eating, chewing a toy, sleeping or showing signs of distress. Most dogs do not like being hugged, climbed on, having their collar pulled, or shouting, so even if we do train our dog to accept these things - don’t make a habit of doing them.

Be careful not to make this a negative experience. If your dog has been involved in a traumatic incident involving a child, it

Make sure children know to always ask a dog’s owner what it does and doesn’t like and how to treat it. It’s also important to ensure


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children (and you!) always ask a dog’s owner if you can pat their dog, then hold out the back of your hand for the dog to sniff. Dogs are happier if they can approach you. It’s best not to rush right up to them and never stand over them. It is best to pat a dog under the chin or on the chest. Children need to understand that not all dogs are the same and just because your dog likes hugs and playing, it doesn’t mean that every other dog does too.

Dog safety It’s really important that both you and your children know how to read the warning signs that a dog is stressed, scared or aggressive and know how to handle the situation to best avoid getting hurt. When dogs are feeling stressed, they might pant, shake, have their tail tucked between their legs, lower their body, turn away from you, or they might whine. A dog that is on the verge of being aggressive might stiffen up, stare at you, growl or bark, stand tall, have its ears standing up straight on its head, have its tail high, and its hackles might stand up (these are the hairs along the back of a dog’s neck and back, which can stand up on end if the dog is feeling aggressive or frightened). If you see any of these warning signs, stay quiet and remove yourself from the dog’s area calmly and quickly.

Prepare your pooch for the new arrival There’s so much to think about when you’re getting ready for a baby, but if you have a dog it’s worthwhile preparing early to ensure a safe and happy start to the relationship between your babies. When you find out you’re having a baby, begin socialising your dog with lots of babies and children, rewarding it for any positive interactions with them. Solve any existing behavioural issues before the baby arrives. Behaviour that seems harmless now - like your dog jumping up on you - may become dangerous if you are heavily pregnant or holding a new baby in your arms. If your dog has seriously problematic behaviours, such as aggression, you may wish to consult a professional behaviourist. Make sure your dog walks well on a lead, without pulling, tugging you or lunging unexpectedly. This will make it easier for you to keep taking your dog out on walks if you have a pram to manage as well. You may like to do some practise walks with the

Tiaki i nga kuri

pram before baby arrives to help your dog get used to it. You can de-sensitise your

Children should never approach a dog they don’t know. It’s advisable not to enter a property over a fence or through a back gate, or to reach through a fence to pat a dog. Always call out before entering a property to check if a dog is there and never enter without the owner’s knowledge. Don’t sneak up on sleeping dogs and don’t startle a dog or act in an unexpected way. If you can see that a dog might be aggressive, don’t try and scare or threaten the dog - it could make things worse. We want to be as non-threatening as possible. Don’t turn your back on the dog or run away. Instead, stay standing with a relaxed posture, arms by your side. Turn slightly sideways so you are not facing the dog head on and don’t stare at the dog. Instead, look off to the side or glimpse at the dog briefly. Back away slowly and calmly without turning around and if you need to talk, speak in highpitched, friendly tones. If there are other people around, call out for help - but try not to sound scared. Speak calmly with a nice voice. Slowly retreat into a car or building. It may help for you to practise this technique with your children so if the situation ever occurs they know how to handle it best.

dog to baby noises beforehand

Mark Vette

so they are unfazed by the real thing when it comes along. Find recordings of babies crying, laughing and screaming, then play these sounds to your dog on a regular basis at all times of the day. Start at a low volume, then increase the volume slowly in small increments, only when your dog is acting calmly and not stressed. Reward your dog for calm behaviour. Installing safety gates creates separate areas in your home so you can allow your baby to have some free floor time without being in the dog’s space or making the dog uncomfortable. Installing these ahead of time will help your dog get used to being restricted to certain areas of the house sometimes. Make sure the first introduction between your baby is calm, positive and peaceful. Take your dog for a walk first, greet your dog before bringing in the baby (especially if you’ve been in hospital for a few days), and reward your dog for nice, calm

There is no need to be scared of dogs - just have some

behaviour throughout.

knowledge about their behaviour and remember to treat them

Always supervise all interactions between a dog and a baby or

with love, care and respect. Give your children some fantastic

young child. Even if your dog is extremely friendly and docile,

experiences with dogs, that way they’ll know that a dog can be

babies and young kids do unexpected things and any dog can

your best friend and you’ll never have a friend that loves and cares about you more. For more information about Mark's online training program, go to

react in a negative way if it feels scared or threatened. If your dog gives any indication that it is frightened of or aggressive to a child, immediately separate the two and consult a qualified animal behaviourist.

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Tongue -tied New mothers are often told “breastfeeding is best”. However, sometimes the milk just doesn’t flow and more mothers believe that tongue-tie might be to blame. But what is it and what does it mean for mothers and babies? Jodi Field was naturally overjoyed when a healthy baby girl was

“I see so many tongue-tied babies. Undiagnosed tongue-tie can

placed in her arms. However, she was soon feeling overwhelmed

lead to the mother battling on with sore nipples, mastitis, and an

as she struggled to breastfeed her newborn.

unhappy baby.”

Baby Brianna just couldn’t latch on. Nurses checked her over,

Tongue-tie (ankyloglossia), is when the fraenum linguae is short,

gave her the all-clear and told Jodi to keep trying.

tight and often fan-shaped and the tongue is bound down to the

“I had her on the breast for six hours and it wasn’t working, yet

floor of the mouth. It alters how babies latch on to the breast and

the nurses told me to keep trying,” she says.

affects sucking mechanics, making it harder to get milk from the

Jodi persevered at home but Brianna kept slipping off and suffered from wind. She had no option but to express her milk and feed her with a bottle. “Essentially I expressed until my fatigue outweighed the benefits of breast milk,” she says. “I felt like a complete failure. I was in tears because I couldn’t breastfeed my baby.” Jodi’s story is similar to that of the hundreds of women who seek Jackie Wheeler’s help. The Manawatu Lactation Consultant sees mothers and babies from all around the central North Island.

breast, resulting in poor weight gain and contributing to a lower milk supply. Babies’ symptoms are both many and varied, including choking on milk, dribbling milk out of their mouth while feeding, making clicking noises while sucking and reflux or colic. Mothers can experience sore breasts, bleeding nipples, thrush, staph infections, mastisis, and reduced milk supply. Jackie sees a lot of mothers struggling with these issues. Mothers often believe it’s the cracked nipples or mastisis that is affecting breastfeeding, however, Jackie says these symptoms are often just masking the underlying cause, which is a tongue-tied baby.


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There’s a lot of pressure to breastfeed, we all know it’s the best and there are mothers who want to but can’t and it’s hard. You feel like a failure, says Jodi. She sees about 25 mothers and babies a week who have been

Jodi says she felt a lot of pressure to breastfeed despite her

referred to her because the baby has a possible tongue-tie. Most

ongoing difficulties.

of these mothers are opting to have the tongue released. Jackie believes the so called “rise” in tongue-tie is thanks to better diagnosis.

“I felt it was my biggest failure as a human being, not to be able to breastfeed.” It wasn’t until Brianna was six-weeks-old that they were referred

Ministry of Health figures reveal that the number of tongue-tie diagnosis has increased by more than 500 in the last five years. And the 2,137 diagnosed in the 2016 financial year is likely to still be short of the actual number as many cases are diagnosed in the community setting. Medical experts differ on whether tongue-tie should be released. Some say it is an

to a dentist and she was diagnosed with tongue-tie. At that time, Jodi didn’t know anything about the condition. After doing her research and taking medical advice, she chose to get Brianna’s tongue-tie released. Recent findings suggest that surgical release of tongue-tie results in significant improvement in breastfeeding outcomes. The authors of the US study also noticed babies had more stamina to feed on the breast when the tongue motion drives the

over-diagnosed and over-

milk extraction rather than other muscles compensating.

treated fad as some babies

Continued over page.

can breastfeed successfully with a tongue-tie and some tongue-tied babies show no real benefit from the surgical release. But Jackie believes it makes a big difference to mothers and babies struggling with breastfeeding. This is backed up by an American study investigating the impact of surgical tonguetie release on breastfeeding impairment. The rate of mothers who choose to breastfeed in the United States has been rising during the last 20 years but so too has the number or mothers who fail to breastfeed their babies. There seems to be a similar trend in New Zealand. The benefits of breastfeeding have been well publicised in recent years, which has likely encouraged more women to breastfeed their babies. The longer a baby is breastfed the more maternal benefits there are and less chance baby has of contracting a number of health conditions. The study led by Doctor Bobby Ghaheri MD, claims the United States could save $13 billion a year if mothers followed recommendations to exclusively breastfeed for six months. However, studies such as this are like a double-edged sword for mothers who want to breastfeed but for whatever reason cannot.

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With the use of anaesthetics, Jackie says the pain for babies is minimal and compares the procedure to that of a heel prick test. “The expectation is a lot worse than the procedure. A lot of people ask: “is that it?” However, it’s not always as simple as snipping the tie to improve breastfeeding. Babies who have been struggling to feed are often already on the bottle when Jackie sees them, so it can be hard getting them back on to the breast successfully, which was the case for Jodi.

“Because it took so long to detect the tongue-tie it was too late to rectify attempts at breastfeeding,” she says. Jodi was all too aware of the difficulties that tongue-tie could cause when her second daughter Sophie was born. Despite reassurances from medical staff, she again had difficulty breastfeeding. Sophie was diagnosed with a tongue-tie when she was two-weeks-old and had the snip a week later. Unfortunately, Jodi didn’t manage to successfully breastfeed

Ever heard of Technoference? It’s the term used to describe interference in your personal relationships due to the over-use of technology such as smartphones, tablets, computers, and other devices.

Sophie either as she simply ran out of energy, trying to care for a newborn and a toddler. She believes there needs to be more support for mothers after a baby has had their tie cut. Jackie feels for mothers who are frustrated because they don’t know the root of the problem and feel guilty because they aren’t able to breastfeed. The most important thing is that you’re meeting your baby’s needs, no matter how you choose to feed. “It’s not fair to judge a mother because you don’t know what they’ve been through,” she says.

Read the research at: Questions are starting to be asked if some problem

How to spot if your baby may have tongue-tie Babies: Low weight gain, reflux or colic, makes clicking noises while sucking, difficulty latching on and off the breast, choking on milk, dribbling milk out of the mouth while feeding, feeding takes a long time, falling asleep early on during a feed, passive feeding. Mothers: Sore breasts, cracked, sore, bleeding nipples, blocked ducts, thrush/staph infections, mastitis, reduced supply, nipple blanching/vasospasm, misshaped nipples,

behaviours in childhood could be to do with parents spending too much time on their smartphones or tablets. And at least one study in the States found ‘heavy digital technology use by parents could be associated with child behaviour issues. Researchers analysed surveys completed separately by both mothers and fathers from 170 two-parent households. Mums and dads were asked about their use of smartphones, tablets, laptops and other technology - and how the devices disrupted family time. Interruptions could be as simple as checking phone messages during mealtime, playtime and routine activities or conversations with their children.

frequent feeds.

While more research is needed, the study suggests there is a

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link. Even low or seemingly normal amounts of tech-related

interruption were associated with greater child behaviour problems, such as oversensitivity, hot-tempers, hyperactivity and whining.


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"The ability of children to sustain attention is known as a strong indicator for later success in areas such as language acquisition, problem-solving and other key cognitive development milestones," said Chen Yu, who led the study. "Caregivers who appear distracted or whose eyes wander a lot while their children play appear to negatively impact infants' burgeoning attention spans during a key stage of development." So what can we do to lessen the heavy impact of our own device use on our children? The researchers advise parents to try to carve out designated times to put away the devices and focus all attention on their children. And respected organisations such as Zero To Three recommend daily ‘unplugged’ time. This might be best at typical family times like mealtimes and bathtimes, or it might be a set time just for play. The important part is that the device goes away, not tucked behind a cushion and glanced at from time to time. To finish, the last word goes to one researcher who (thankfully) said, “It may not be realistic, nor is it necessary, to ban technology use all together at home. But setting boundaries can help parents keep smartphones and other

Jenny Radesky, a child behaviour expert and paediatrician

mobile technology from interrupting quality time with their

reported, “We know that parents' responsiveness to their

kids." And given this can affect not only their behaviour but

kids changes when they are using mobile technology and

their attention span and longer term life outcomes too,

that their device use may be associated with less-than-ideal

this seems to make a lot of sense.

interactions with their children. It's really difficult to toggle attention between all of the important and attentiongrabbing information contained in these devices, with the

An article by Science Daily

social and emotional needs of our children, and process them both effectively at the same time. Another study reported on by Science Daily last year showed a correlation between how long a caregiver looks at an object and how long an infant's attention remains focused on that same object. This is important because it suggests that caregivers whose eyes wander during playtime, due to distractions such as smartphones or other technology, for example may raise children with shorter attention spans.

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Tiaki whaiaro

isn't selfish - it's necessary

You’re overwhelmed with work, your family needs you, you’ve got deadlines, and there’s an ever-increasing list of things to do. You fall into bed each night exhausted only to wake in the morning with your first thought being about what you’ve got to get done today. Leanne Mulcahy is the founder of Stand Out Women, host of

Many still hold the belief that putting their needs before others

Stand Out Radio and an international mentor for women. She

(yes even their children) is a selfish act. And it’s not surprising

shares some tips on how to take back your life and live it as it

given the way many of us have been conditioned, to think that

was intended - fully and joyfully.

self-care is only appropriate when everyone else’s needs have

Imagine for a moment, waking up feeling more refreshed, more

been met first.

energised and instead of a to-do list running through your head,

I had this same belief until I realised that living this way was

you take a few brief moments to revel in the beauty of your life.

self-destructive for me and my family. My relationships suffered,

If this seems like a faraway fantasy, I want to invite you to grab a cuppa and join me for a moment…maybe even put your feet up. Women are experiencing more anxiety, stress, depression, burn-out and physical illness than ever before and much of it is

my child suffered and my health suffered. One question I always ask when speaking to groups of women is “When was the last time you did something on your own, purely for your own enjoyment?”

attributed to attempting to be everything to everyone else, with little attention to our own needs and desires.


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One question I always ask when speaking to groups of women is “When was the last time you did something on your own, purely for your own enjoyment?” Their answers tend to be some version of “I don’t have time,” or “I used to before I had children." Then there’s the realisation that they’ve not ever given themselves time to think about what they want. They’ve spent their time and energy on everyone else and

Move your body Our body is designed for movement so take any opportunity you can to get up, stretch, walk, run, dance or whatever feels good for you.

forgotten about themselves. They then connect the dots between

Ask for help

how they feel (no energy, always tired, always busy, resentful,

The goddess of all self-care practices is being able to ask for

stressed), and things click into place.

help. Help with the children, help at work, help around the house

When you learn to refuel yourself through love and nurturing, you have the opportunity to give with a full heart and you’ll

or help from your partner, friends or family to make the time and space to allow you to practice self-care.

be happier, more satisfied, more energised and everyone and

Know that consistent practice creates new beliefs and that you

everything that matters to you will benefit.

are worthy of love, and deserving of happiness and of living a life

Fitting self-care into your life takes practice So be gentle when you’re starting out. By that I mean, start

that fills you with joy.

out slowly, just do one thing each day and remember when life happens (because it will) you get to start over the next day. You are creating a new habit, not another chore to add to your to-do list. A great way to create time and space for self-care is to schedule it in your calendar and make it a non-negotiable commitment to show up, just like you would for a meeting with your boss,

IMPERFECTLY PERFECT 21 Ways to Love Yourself More

your board, or your best friend. That means that nobody gets

For most of her life, Leanne struggled with

to encroach on that time or space (real emergencies are an

self-doubt and self-loathing and it wasn't until her life was

exception). This sends a powerful message out into the world

turned upside down that she made a choice to take it back

that you matter and are worthy.

and live it like it was intend - fully and joyfully.

Here are five simple ways to help you start a daily self-care

This book has been written with the hope that you find one

practice and they don’t cost a cent!

nugget of gold that you can use to rediscover that you can

Make a list of things that bring you joy

be and have, whatever you desire - if you choose. Labels you're given in life, do not define who you are.

Write as many things as you can think of and then put your list in

We are all unique. Your imperfections, or at least what you

a place where you see it each day. It will act as a reminder when

perceive as imperfections, are the things that make you

you’re stuck for ideas of what to do.

perfectly you. There is no-one else who compares.

Breathe in life Is your breathing up in your chest or down in your belly? Place your hands on your belly and breathe in deeply (so your belly expands), hold for three seconds, then exhale all the way up from your belly and out through your nose until there’s no more air left. Repeat three times. This is an instant stress reliever and can help ground you when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

Eat well

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You can't stop the waves but you can learn to surf. John Kabat-Zinn

Mindfulness What is mindfulness? There are a ton of definitions out there but for pure ‘get-ability’ and simplicity, Jon Kabat-Zinn, the man credited with bringing mindfulness to the western world says this - mindfulness is paying attention in a particular way - on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally! What this means is that being mindful is more than just being aware; the non-judgemental element is crucial. This means being kind to yourself and others, as well as staying open to what is happening in the now without labelling it.

Why all the hype about mindfulness? Despite the fact there hasn’t been a world war for over 70 years, life on planet earth feels anything but easy and peaceful right now. In fact for many

is rising. Mark Epstein, psychiatrist and author, says mindfulness directly benefits our brains and explains that instead of being driven by your reactions, mindfulness provides a little bit of room where you can choose to respond differently.

In order to be really clear about what

of us it can feel overwhelmingly busy

mindfulness is, it can be helpful to

and stressful. An increase in workloads

“Mindfulness basically helps us tolerate

know what it is not. It’s not just about

and work-place-stress, the global

the aspects of the external world and

meditation, it's not to do with religion or

financial crisis, terrorist threats and

the internal world that otherwise are

politics and it’s not a theory - it can only

our increasing dependence on devices

hard to face,” he says. “Sometimes

be experienced through practice. And,

means many people are now living close

things happen, instead of letting them

crucially, it’s not about zoning out or not

to or in a state of chronic stress.

become the thorn stuck in your mind

thinking at all. In fact, it’s the opposite:

In the midst of all this stress and

that keeps annoying you, you can try

being in charge of your thoughts and

multimedia overload it’s perhaps not

some mindful awareness or meditation

directing your attention to where you

surprising that the importance of

to help you work with accepting them

want it at any given moment.

mindfulness and focused attention

and letting them go.”


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Sometimes things happen, instead of letting them become the thorn stuck in your mind that keeps annoying you, you can try some mindful awareness or meditation to help you work with accepting them and letting them go. The now considerable body of research on mindfulness shows that practicing it on a regular basis can reduce stress, anxiety, emotional reactivity, rumination,

Try managing your stress using the STOP method S - STOP Become aware of stress or imbalance, then stop and pause in awareness.

psychological distress and time spent

T - TAKE A BREATH Bring your awareness to your breath, letting the sensations of

off-task. It enables you to increase:

the breath move into the forefront.

the ability to cope self-regulation memory capacity decision making skills

O - OBSERVE Notice how the breath begins to naturally bring balance to the systems of the body. Let this be felt. Also, look around. What is really happening at the moment? P - PROCEED Having shifted to a more mindfully responsive mode, proceed with more skilful, appropriate and best attuned actions to your situation.

relationship satisfaction self-insight immune function. In addition to these benefits it is thought to increase the length of telomeres (telomeres predict how long your life span will be, and were previously thought to be fixed).

Make a mindfulness-jar with your kids

Help children ‘settle their glitter’ by making their own version of a snow globe. Shake it up and breathe slowly in and out until the glitter settles. Surprising soothing for children and adults! Mind-jar-instructions-FINAL.pdf

Finding calm and connection in the digital age How do I learn mindfulness?

Good old fashioned reads:

Like with any new skill, mindfulness

Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work

Mindfulness workshop

takes time and practice to develop. But

of Mindful Parenting.

Learn about how your brain

the great news is that even just a little

By Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn

operates when stressed or

bit each day can have benefits. Take a

Sitting Still Like A Frog: Mindfulness

overwhelmed and the one thing

look at the following ways you might include some mindfulness in your life and the lives of your children: Mindful breathing: spend several minutes each day just focusing on your breath. When your mind wanders, bring it back to the breath.

Exercises for Kids (and Their Parents). By Elin Snel

that helps to calm it down. Contact For Life Education &

10 Mindful Minutes: Giving our Children and Ourselves the Social and Emotional Skills to Reduce Stress and Anxiety for

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Healthier, Happy Lives. By Goldie Hawn

Mindful sensing: take a moment to focus on one of your five senses and simply notice, notice, notice.

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Healing your skin the Whakaora

By Ben Warren, clinical nutritionalist and founder and clinical director of BePure.

Eczema is a catch all term to describe a medical condition in which patches of skin become rough and inflamed, which can cause itching and bleeding. There is debate amongst the medical profession as to what causes eczema. Some doctors simply say it’s a case of sensitive skin, while others are now understanding and investigating the link between eczema and other inflammatory or gut conditions. Eczema among children is becoming incredibly common in

usually points to the individual eating something that does

our modern-day environment. For some it is a mildly annoying

not agree with them. The most common culprit we see is

patch of dermatitis that hints at other health concerns, while

gluten. Gluten is a protein found in wheat, barley, and rye and

for others it is painful, raw, prone to infection, itchy, and in

its consumption stimulates the production of a protein called

extreme cases covers the entire body.

zonulin in everyone who eats it.

Many parents tell me their young children are kept awake at

Zonulin is currently the only known regulator of the tight

night by the itching and pain of their eczema. Living with that

junctions between the cell walls of the digestive tract. The wall

level of discomfort is hard enough, but you can also imagine

of the digestive tract is meant to serve as a barrier between us

the toll this loss of sleep plays on both the child and their

and the outside world. However, zonulin can loosen these tight

parents, so it's worth working on a solution.

junctions, allowing undigested food and other inflammatory

What causes eczema?

particles to pass into the bloodstream.

At the BePure Clinic we have found eczema and other skin

These undigested foods (particularly proteins) can then pass

conditions are related to systemic inflammation. Inflammation

through the intestinal barrier and into our bloodstream, where

in young children is often linked to an exaggerated immune

they are tagged as an invader by our immune system. This can

response within the body, especially within the gut.

cause increased inflammation across the whole body and is

Inflammation occurs in the gut for a couple of reasons, but

known as ‘leaky gut syndrome’.

one of the most common ones is a food intolerance. This


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natural way

What might be causing your child's eczema? If you are susceptible to the proteins and lectins in gluten, this

It’s essential to acknowledge that babies will inherit their

can lead to an immune response, contributing to a whole host

gut microflora from their mother too - which means that a

of immune conditions, including eczema.

mother’s gut health is extremely important! This is something

The number one thing we recommend at BePure in this instance is to eat a clean diet, free of gluten and pro-

to consider if your child was born by caesarean, as they may have missed out on a big dose of their first good probiotics.

inflammatory foods, such as damaged fats, sugar, alcohol,

To ensure that your baby or child’s gut microflora is as well

preservatives and highly refined grains. This is important to

balanced as possible, it’s important to first of all focus on your

think of for your child and for yourself if you are breastfeeding.

own gut health. If you are breastfeeding, it is a good idea to

The number one thing we recommend at BePure is to eat a clean diet, free of gluten and pro-inflammatory foods, such as damaged fats, sugar, alcohol, preservatives and highly refined grains, says Ben. For many children, eczema can also be a sign that they do not tolerate dairy very well. Dairy contains some complex proteins which are difficult to breakdown and therefore can also initiate inflammation. When trying to tackle eczema I recommend removing both dairy and gluten for a time period of at least 30 days to notice an improvement. If you do notice an improvement, it is important to keep going with this way of eating too!

How can I treat, prevent or improve eczema? If you or your kids are experiencing eczema as a result of inflammation or a food intolerance, taking a quality Omega 3 fish oil to balance the ratio of Omega 3s to Omega 6s in your body will be beneficial due to its high anti-inflammatory properties.

take a probiotic daily and look to include fermented foods such as sauerkraut, kefir and kombucha as much as possible. If you child is a little older, feel free to include fermented foods in their diet and even mix a probiotic capsule into their food. Bone and chicken broth is also our favourite gut healing food. The amino acids in bone and chicken broth help to nourish and heal the gut lining, providing more of a barrier against inflammatory foods, meaning your child is less likely to react to food intolerances in the first place. Eczema is a very difficult condition to experience, especially for young kids and babies and the symptom of eczema itself sometimes needs managing. Epsom salts baths can provide welcome relief from the itching, as well as boosting your body's magnesium levels. When choosing a soothing topical cream, it’s also important to choose a product that doesn’t

If taking gluten and dairy out of your child’s diet (or your

add additional strain on the liver with unnecessary chemicals,

own diet if you are breastfeeding) has not resulted in

steroids or parabens.

improvements - it may be worth getting them tested to see if there is another food that is the culprit. Other common allergens include eggs and nuts. Another reason that children may have inflammation in the gut, which can then manifest as eczema, is due to a dysbiotic microflora. Microflora is the term to describe the living bacteria inside our gut. Dysbiotic means there is an imbalance of the good bacteria compared with unfriendly, sometimes

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an dose of antibiotics which can whip out all the good guys. This article does not negate medical treatments for eczema, but aims to provide overarching direction and ideas for those struggling with this condition. As with all health concerns, each case of eczema is unique and working closely with a healthcare provider can be helpful in finding a tailored solution.

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NEW qualification

Whakawhanui atu i to akoranga

Following a review by the New Zealand Qualifications Authority (NZQA), 2018 will see the rollout of a streamlined range of new early childhood education qualification pathways that will be useful and relevant to current and future learners and employers. PORSE is excited to be introducing an online New Zealand

Being online is now a must for tertiary education

Certificate in Early Childhood Education & Care (Level 4) to

organisations like us and we’re proud to be breaking

the range of training programmes and courses on offer in

new ground with the online learning platforms and video


conferencing technology that we’re using to engage learners

Erin Maloney, General Manager of PORSE Education & Training, says, “we’ve been transitioning into the online

and make PORSE learning accessible to anyone, anywhere, at any time.”

environment for over a year now and the new Level 4

The New Zealand Certificate in Early Childhood Education

qualification is an opportunity for us to put an education

& Care (Level 4) is a new qualification focused on practice-

pathway out there that’s accessible and unique in its design

based education that equips learners with the skills that they

and delivery. It will be a real point of difference for us.

need to become an Educator in any early childhood education service.


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It is also seen as a pathway qualification to higher level study

“The Level 4 certificate is an exciting design development

for those wanting to become qualified teachers.

for us as we get to engage with current theory and practice

Made up of eight learning modules, the Level 4 certificate allows learners to adopt a project-based learning approach to their studies.

The Level 4 certificate covers the following early childhood topics: Theories of children’s learning and development, including

in the early childhood education field to provide a new qualification pathway. Creating something new is always a great opportunity as you get to work with the latest research, and support learners to gain an authentic understanding of the early childhood education sector as it is right now. “This is cutting edge and an online offering that we think learners will love.”

neuroscience, attachment relationships and transitions. Multiculturalism, family diversity and the bicultural nature of the early childhood curriculum, Te Whāriki.

Contact PORSE now to register your interest to enrol in the New Zealand Certificate in Early Childhood Education & Care (Level 4) in 2018 by calling 0800 136 776.

Planning, providing and reviewing rich learning experiences. Providing an environment that strengthens the health, wellbeing, care and safety of children. Effective communication and engaging in respectful, reciprocal and responsive relationships. Personal health, wellbeing and professional development. Legislation and regulatory requirements. Diverse philosophical and cultural contexts and approaches informing early childhood education in Aotearoa New Zealand, including a personal philosophy of practice. Erin says that designing and delivering the qualification is

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Nanny Internship

Eva Turfrey wanted to employ a PORSE Nanny Intern to help her get through the first few months of being a mother to a newborn and a toddler. She never expected that an extra pair of hands would help her become a better mother and wife. Eva is a busy working mother as one of Hawke’s Bay’s leading

Nanny-Intern Donna Mends, 19, joined the family when James

wedding photographers.

was just two months old and developed a real bond with him

She started thinking about childcare options when she

and two-and-half-year-old Edward.

realised her second son was due in the middle of the wedding

“At the bare minimum, I thought an extra pair of hands would


be handy, but it really exceeded my expectations,” Eva says.

“I was starting to get anxious about how I was going to cope

“When I was with the baby I didn't have to put my toddler in

with my workload and be a mum to a toddler and a baby.”

front of the TV, he was with his nanny who was fully engaged

Eva felt she couldn’t justify the expense of a fully qualified

with his needs.”

nanny. The Nanny Intern Programme really appealed to her

Eva says she joined the programme to help her, but the

because of the low cost and support she would get in her own

support and extra pair of hands helped the whole family.

home, which would help her maintain family routines.

“Donna would be here during the witching hours of 5-7pm, so instead of my husband walking through the door and


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When I was with the baby I didn't have to put my toddler in front of the TV, he was with his nanny who was fully engaged with his needs, says Eva. having domestic jobs thrown at him from a stressed-out mother, he was able to unwind and play with the kids because the kids had been bathed and had their dinner.” The Turfreys paid the equivalent of $5 an hour, which covered Donna’s course fees, and Eva provided guidance to Donna. “Having to articulate what makes a good parent to Donna made me think about how I approach parenting,” Eva says. And Donna enjoyed learning on the job. “I learnt a lot from Eva. It’s really helpful to put what I’m learning in the course book into practice with the

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education and care.

Over the 21-week course, Donna gained a National Certificate in

Benefits include:

Early Childhood Education and Care (Level 3) as well as First Aid training. And Eva got some invaluable help. “I hoped to get someone to help me through the difficult first few months but instead it’s enabled me to be a better mother than I could be on my own.”

A FREE 21-week qualification. Gain a New Zealand Certificate in Early Childhood Education & Care (Level 4) valued at $2,400. A FREE First Aid course. Workplace visits, training and teacher support. Access to the PORSE Programme including fun outings, events and ongoing learning and training opportunities. Future work opportunities with PORSE.

Nanny Intern testimonial "Donna handled having both children at once with an ease that

First intake for 2018 begins in February.

I found, as their sometimes-frazzled mother, quite spectacular. She was excited by the children's developmental milestones and provided them with new activities. As a family, we feel incredibly lucky to have had her as part of our


lives during her internship, and she has undoubtedly made what I feared would be an incredibly difficult time a really enjoyable one. She enabled me to juggle the children with my work commitments and became a great sounding board for those times when you just need another opinion on 'what's up' with the little people." Eva Turfrey

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Building my career around Tears welled up in Grace Drollèt’s eyes as she watched her son take his first steps. Seeing his milestone first-hand was all the confirmation she needed that she’d made the right choice to leave her corporate career to become a PORSE Educator. When she got pregnant with her second

“It was a struggle going back to work

Ruby-Lee loved being with her PORSE

child, Rangimaoateatua, known by his

after maternity leave, I was missing out

Educator but since being in her own

middle name Elias, she started re-

on seeing all of Ruby-Lee’s firsts. It was

home environment with mum around she

assessing what was important in her life –

hard seeing her just for story time before

has really grown into herself and is a lot

and spending more time with her children


more confident.”

was at the top of the list.

So, Grace signed up to become a PORSE

Grace and the children spend their days

After more than 10 years working in

Educator herself. After having Elias she

building obstacle courses around the

banking, she decided she wanted to

came off maternity leave and began

house, creating crafts and being out and

stay at home with her children. She

caring for her children and a three-year-

about in their community such as regular

had become a PORSE parent when

old girl who had previously been in

visits to the Auckland Botanical Gardens.

she returned to work after having her

PORSE care with her daughter.

daughter Ruby-Lee, two.

To get the most out of her career change,

“There’s nothing like it. Just being able

Grace signed up to do the Level 3

While Ruby-Lee flourished in the home-

to be there for my children, it has really

National Certificate in Early Childhood

based care environment, Grace just didn’t

made a difference, to myself and the

Education and Care through PORSE.

want to miss out on anymore milestones.



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It was a struggle going back to work after maternity leave. I was missing out on seeing all of Ruby-Lee’s firsts. It was hard seeing her just for story time before bed, says Grace. “I’ve always been interested in early

with that, I thought my chance of ever

childhood care and now I'm backing up

learning her mother tongue was gone.

what I do every day with a qualification.”

Choose a career that warms your heart and sparks their future.

"Luckily the father of my children speaks

Grace is also passionate about

Cook Island Māori and is teaching the

introducing her children to other

three of us so we incorporate that with

languages and is teaching them sign

our daily signing – the children are my


driving force to learn and teach them more.”

“We are now a signing family. I encourage my children daily to sign and

While Grace admits life is busy with

speak. This has greatly improved the

two under fives, working as a PORSE

communication barrier between myself

Educator and studying, she wouldn’t have

and my children.”

it any other way.

Ruby-Lee and Elias are also being

“Making cupcakes together

spoken to in Cook Island Māori by their

is the best downtime,


although I know my daughter

“My mother spoke it to me as a child, but when I was eight she passed away and

would disagree, she says "water painting Mami!"

Grace has not looked back since becoming a PORSE Educator, so If you want to enjoy all the same benefits of working from your own home, caring for your children and others, then contact us today to discuss how this could work for you or a family member.

We have families looking for a special Educator or Nanny to care for their child right now. If you think that could be you, contact us today to find out how you can earn an income while growing little minds at home.

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Expert insight



There is nothing quite like holding a newborn in your arms. You’re almost glowing with love and admiration for this beautiful little bundle.


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, Leading sleep consultant and Karitane mothercraft nurse Dorothy Waide, aka ‘the baby whisperer’ and holistic pregnancy and family wellness chiropractor Dr Adeela Afiz are working together to support parents and babies affected by stress. It can be daunting settling back home

them. Many think they are the only one

with your newborn. Those first few weeks

dealing with a certain issue, but that

are physically and emotionally draining.

is often not the case.

You may feel overwhelmed when you

“If you think something is wrong, then

have a baby that won’t stop crying and you’re so tired that you can’t remember when you last washed your hair. Babies soak up the environment around them, which sometimes includes worried and stressed-out parents who can’t quite pinpoint what is upsetting their newborn. Chiropractor Dr Adeela Afiz is seeing the impact of stress on children, with a rise in anxious babies. These babies are struggling with reflux, colic, poor digestion or are slow to gain weight. These physical symptoms are often linked to the child’s emotional wellbeing. “While it may be hard to fathom that babies could have such a drastic response to stress, we must remember that babies and children use non-verbal communication for the first few years of life,” she says. It’s not as simple as pretending that everything is fine, as a mother’s stress will rub off on a newborn.

find someone to listen to you.”

over-ambitious. What doesn’t get done

Adeela has treated babies as young

today can always wait until tomorrow.

as three-weeks-old who have had a

“Gone are the days when just hopping in

traumatic birth or seem to be distressed

the car and driving to the shops takes 20

a lot of the time. She has also seen

minutes - it will take you all that time just

toddlers that seem to be carrying the

to get into the car.”

weight of the world on their shoulders.

mothers cope with the challenges of

Craniosacral Therapy and Neuro

parenting a newborn.

Emotional Technique. It is a very gentle treatment with little or no manual adjustment. It is very different from what adults may have experienced when seeking treatment from a chiropractor.

Resist falling into the trap of ‘I’ll just do the washing/mop the floors, etc' and then have a lie down. In the first few weeks there is no guarantee how long your baby will sleep. Rest first, chores

cranial work and soft tissue. She often

second. A nap can do wonders.”

starts looking after a baby and ends up treating mum as well, to help her clear her emotional blocks and stress responses. Dorothy recommends that mothers spend less time trying to do things the “right way”. The author of “You Simply Can’t Spoil a Newborn” says the fewer expectations you place on yourself and your baby, the better the experience

babies who don’t feed or sleep well, are

will be.

is stressed. This is made even worse

"Try to rest when your baby sleeps.

Adeela focuses on three areas: the spine,

“There’s a cycle of stress – stressed out highly dependent on mum, who in turn

Getting rest when possible will help

She uses techniques like Kinesiology,

Dorothy insists mothers should ask for help when they need it – ask your partner for help settling the baby, or a friend to pop a load of washing on. “Parenting isn’t about achievement. Don’t feel you need to present yourself as a ‘perfect mother’ - she doesn’t exist!” It may be beneficial to seek help from a holistic practitioner if your baby: •

is constantly upset, appears worried despite having no reason to be

“Practice, trial and error, and don’t expect perfection from yourself or

is underweight

your baby.”

has high levels of separation anxiety

to eat well) and increased feelings of

Often the biggest challenge to new

does not sleep well

anxiousness and, at times, depression.

mothers is adjusting to the pace at

This causes a cycle where baby picks up

which they now live life. Try not to be

when mothers are surviving on little sleep, poor diets (due to a lack of time

on mum’s anxiety, which reinforces to

has experienced stress in the home post-birth or throughout pregnancy.

them that something is wrong.” Mothers are often told that it’s just a

Dorothy and Adeela are running a series of workshops called

phase but they don’t have to settle with

Essential Baby Help throughout New Zealand.

that, Adeela says. Mothers need to listen to their gut instinct and find someone to listen to

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Amazing au pair! Congratulations Samira,

winner of au pair of the year!

Mornings used to be madness in the Weingarth household. Janelle and Mark Weingarth would have to wake their two boys at 6am to get them fed, dressed, out the door and dropped off to day care before they started work. But that all changed when 19-yearold Samira Haas joined the family as their German au pair. “Samira fitted into our lives so easily - it's like we'd always

She described Samira as an “angel” from Germany, taking the

known her. She was part of our family, our friend and

stress out of mornings.

importantly part of our parenting team," Janelle says.

Having Samira living with the family, Mark and Janelle could kiss

The couple were so impressed with how she cared for Cooper,

the children goodbye each morning while the boys were still

4 and Fletcher, 21 months, that they nominated her for the Au

sitting at the table happily eating breakfast with Samira.

Pair of the Year Competition run by PORSE partner company,

“Samira is kind, caring and patient. It made it much easier to

Au Pair Link.

leave for work in the morning knowing that the boys would be

There were tears all around when they found out Samira had

well cared for,” Janelle says.

won. “I was so surprised and really pleased," Samira says.

As the boys no longer had to get up as early, they could stay up

Samira was awarded an STA travel voucher worth $1,000 and a

an hour later at the end of the day giving the Weingarths more

Certificate of Excellence. She used the voucher to upgrade her

precious time with their children.

accommodation on her trip to Samoa on her way home.

Samira loved her time with the family, developing a deep bond

Au Pair Link General Manager, Casey Muraahi, says entries were judged based on their passion, the differences made to the lives of the children and parents, and the evident bond developed

with the boys and their parents. She also made the most of her days off travelling to different parts of the country, walking the Tongariro Crossing and trying white water rafting.

between the au pair and the family. The Weingarths compiled a video of Samira having fun with the boys, in which Cooper holds up signs saying: "I love my Samira," and "She is caring, kind, fun and beautiful". Cooper idolised Samira, Janelle says. The boys couldn't wait to read stories and climb all over her. Samira also encouraged the boys’ development, writing out the alphabet with corresponding pictures.

A partnership between PORSE and Au Pair Link enables au pairs to work in more New Zealand communities. Find out how we provide more flexible childcare solutions for Kiwi families.

“It’s the little things like this that make Samira not only an au pair but a nurturer and educator," Janelle says.

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Become an

with us

It takes a special kind of person to be able to encourage children to realise their full potential. You have to be loving, you have to be very patient and you have to have a passion for working with children. Teresa Fridd is one of these people and has been a PORSE Educator for seven years and just loves it! "When the children arrive, we normally have some settling in

children in my care, she gives me ideas to extend the children’s

time where the children choose what they want to do engaging

learning through their interests. She’s very supportive - if there’s

in one of the many activities I’ve set up for them.

anything that I need, I know I can ask.

We might go to a PORSE PlaySchool, to the library, for a walk

When I first started working with PORSE I decided to undertake

to one of the local parks, or the bee farm. During our travels, we

the Level 3 Certificate in Early Childhood Education which they

socialise with lots of children and adults.

offer. Even though I have three of my own children there’s always

Communication is important with the families because what I’m

something to learn, and that’s been very valuable to me.

doing here is an extension of what would be done at home. I let

As soon as I started, I knew it was the right job for me. Not

families know what’s happening through an online journaling

only do I have the flexibility of working from home but I can

platform called Storypark. During the day, I’ll take photos of

tap into the extensive resources that PORSE offer. I have had

the children, detail anything spectacular they do, and then load

the opportunity to further my professional development by

that story and send it straight to mum and dad. I can share their

attending workshops covering key topics, such as behaviour,

feedback with the children so everyone is included. Families tell

sleep, communication and supporting a positive transition to

me they just love getting photos during the day. Despite being at


work they can still share in what their child is doing by sending a quick reply. I link those stories to Te Whāriki, the Early Childhood Curriculum, so parents and families can see how I’m building the foundation for their child’s learning and development. My Programme Tutor,

Watch our video and see what a day in the life of a PORSE Educator looks like. in-home-education/day-in-the-life

who is a trained ECE teacher, regularly comes to visit each of the

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Children's feet and when to step-in By Amber Morrison of Functional Podiatry

The nerves in the feet are highly sensitive for a reason. They enable us to be more aware and careful as we navigate our way. Letting our kids go barefoot allows their feet to develop naturally so they become stable, confident movers!

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Have you ever looked at your child’s feet and wondered if they looked 'right' or thought “that can’t be normal"? Well, you're not alone but the good news is many conditions can be easily treated or corrected. Children’s feet go through many developmental stages. In some instances, children’s feet do need intervention and possibly correction, while others just need regular monitoring and assessing along the growth continuum that every child experiences. Here are three conditions to keep an eye out for in children aged 0-6 years old and some ideas on what to do about them.

Low arch or flat feet As many as 13% of children have a low arch or flat feet and to a degree it is considered normal up until the age of eight or nine. If you notice that your child’s low arch or flat feet is affecting their walking or sport, or if they are tripping up a lot, then make an appointment with your podiatrist. What to do: Be sure to monitor this as your child is growing and

Toe walking

make sure they wear appropriate, supportive footwear.

If your child is still walking on their toes after two years, you

If you are at all concerned about your child's feet contact your GP or a podiatrist for an assessment.

should talk to your podiatrist. Make an appointment sooner if the toe walking is accompanied by tight leg muscles, stiffness in the ankles, achilles tendon or a lack of muscle coordination. What to do: Show your child how to march on the spot on flat feet or create an obstacle course where they have to walk over different surfaces to encourage full use of the foot.


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Supporting parents on their journey Many of you will have heard of Parents Centre – you may have attended their childbirth or parent education classes run throughout the country, or perhaps you belonged to a Parents Centre coffee group where you shared the milestones with other mums and dads. In fact, because they’ve been around for more than sixty years

to spend time with other mums and dads whose children are

there’s a good chance that you are a Parents Centre baby

going through the same stages, enabling you to share ideas and


coping strategies.

What you may not realise though is Parents Centre offers more

Parents Centre members receive a bi-monthly copy of Kiwiparent,

than just education programmes. They provide crucial support

a high-quality magazine filled cover-to-cover with stories,

and networks at a time when new parents need it most -

anecdotes and information on all topics relating to parenthood.

throughout pregnancy and through the early months and years

On top of this, there are giveaways and samples as well as special

of parenting, with all the joys and challenges this time brings.

discount shopping days, discounted products and services

At all stages throughout the antenatal and postnatal periods, their 47 centres throughout New Zealand deliver information and advocacy for parents in a range of areas: childbirth


child development

infant sleep and feeding

special needs

SUDI (cot deaths)

teenage parenting

miscarriage support.

exclusive to Parents Centre members, via their vibrant social media platform. Many Parents Centre members gain so much from being a member that they want to ‘give back’ and become volunteers themselves for their local centre, ensuring that new parents can continue to benefit from the skills, knowledge, friendships and support they received. The skills and experience that volunteers gain have proven to be a real asset when they decide to re-join the workforce.

They also run toy libraries; playgroups; crèches and peer support

Parents Centres are always excited to welcome new families into

sessions - or more lovingly referred to as coffee groups!

their parenting community and to provide support throughout

Many centres offer playgroups and music classes and these are

your parenting journey.

a great way to learn alongside your children, with the added

PORSE is proud to be partnered with Parents Centre as a

advantage that you get to socialise with other parents. It is great

National Strategic Partner.


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magic books The


Book reviews by Louise at Wardini Books, Havelock North




Where's Mr Owl




Waiting for Goliath


The Legend of Rock Paper Scissors

Rants in the Dark

This is not a ‘how to parent’

Emily Writes Penguin Books $35

Ingela Arrhenius

Antje Damm

Allen & Unwin $15

Gecko Press $30

Drew Daywalt

This series of books for babies

Bear is waiting on the bus stop

Harper Collins $30

and toddlers is pure genius. Lift

bench for his friend, Goliath.

Ever wondered why we make

the flap books can be tricky for

He explains to the animals who

decisions by battling rock, paper

little fingers and often end up

flit around them that Goliath is

and scissors? Find out in this

ruined from being over loved.

brave and strong, the best friend

hugely engaging origin story

The flaps in this book are made

anyone could ever have. Bear

by the author of The Day the

from lovely, soft, grabbable

displays patience as he waits,

Crayons Quit. Jam packed with

felt –why has no one thought of

through all weathers, and, we

rich vocabulary, entertaining

this before? In addition to the

are subtly informed, through all

text layout and Adam Rex’s vivid

miracle of felt flaps, this range of

seasons as he feels the urge to

illustrations, this is the perfect

board books also has the classic

hibernate. Through all this, his

read aloud for kids who like

combination of repetition and

faith in his friend never wavers.

audience participation perfect

When we eventually meet

who like to show off a bit.

for the very young: “Where’s Mr

Goliath, it’s well worth the wait!

Rock is sick of being the

honest; after years of failing to

champion and is desperate for

get pregnant she then hates

a worthy adversary. He smashes

everything about being so

clothes peg and smooshes an

and is quite horrifyingly ill. Her

old fighting apricot but feels no

youngest is dangerously sick in

joy in these victories. There’s

infancy and toddlerhood and

a similar theme when we meet

there are passages that are

Paper (think paper jam when

hard to read as she genuinely

facing Computer Printer), and

considers hurling herself under

Scissors (sticky tape doesn’t

a bus.

Owl? (grab flap without ruining book), “There he is!” There are five spreads culminating in a mirror behind the last flap for baby to see their adorable self. Just gorgeous.

The text in this beautifully produced picture book succinctly tells the reader a tale of friendship and loyalty. The illustrations are vivid mixed media - props made and photographed, crayon drawn

Books can be ordered

figures – and this fills the pages

online from Wardini Books

with depth, life and movement.

for nationwide delivery at

It’s delightful to wait with our

friend Bear, and this lovely book will bear many repeat readings.

action and parents or caregivers

stand a chance). Opportunities for enthusiastic reading aloud are numerous: “I will battle you, and I will leave you beaten and confused with my adhesive tangling powers!” Cue booming supervillain voice! When the three meet, the ‘joyous struggle,’ of the most ‘epic three-way battle of all time,’ ensues.

book. It’s a book that rails against the raft of parenting books seemingly designed to make young mothers (and fathers, but Emily is primarily concerned with mamas) feel like they are failing. This is a fresh, irreverent, kind and loving look at what it’s like to be up at 4am, exhausted, with a wide awake and fretful baby. Emily recounts incidents from her experience as the mother of two little boys. She is brutally

Emily is straight up. Her politics are out there for the world to see; she hedges no bets with her opinion on vaccination (pro) and is delightfully sweary. She is also full of love – for her children, her husband, and most endearingly of all, for all mothers trying to raise their babies whilst dangerously, deliriously sleep

If you need a rip-roaring book

deprived and bombarded with

to entertain the whole family

conflicting and ill-timed advice.

this is the one. It really taps in

This book made me laugh, read

Let’s PORSE is giving away The Legend of Rock Paper

to the superhero/villain idea

bits out to my husband, and cry

Scissors book thanks to Wardini Books, Havelock North.

of good versus evil that is so

in solidarity with all mums trying

popular with children and has

their best. Emily tells it like it is:

a fun resolution without any

parenting isn’t pretty, but it’s

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unresolved dark themes.

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beautiful and rewarding.


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Never run short of great ideas or inspiring teaching resources At PORSE we provide our Educators and families with loads of quality resources sheets, so they’re never short of creative craft ideas, health and safety information and fun ideas to encourage children’s learning. Get a taste of the inspiration available to you if you join the PORSE family by checking out the resources sheets available to everyone on our website.

Let's get our kids off those devices!

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Planning your childcare starts here Research tells us that the first 1,000 days of a child’s life are instrumental in shaping their long-term development and potential. At PORSE we believe that if a child can’t be cared for by a parent, then the next best option is home-based care.

In-Home Educator Nanny or Nanny Share Option Au Pair With a focus on the importance of building relationships, sustaining friendships and growing minds in a safe, secure home environment, there is a PORSE childcare option to suit your needs.

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