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Couple does battle over who handles household bill-paying Tell your husband he needs to find something else to do -- mow the lawn, paint the garage, volunteer his time -- but not the bill paying because it makes you uncomfortable. A compromise might be for him to pay some of the bills online and Abigail Van Buren you pay the rest. However, if something unexpected happens to your husband (illness, death, murder?), you absolutely must know how the online system works so you can assume the task seamlessly. DEAR ABBY: I met my husband 22 years ago and decided to move in with him. I was 21. My mother has never approved of him. He is a blue-collar, hardworking, huge-hearted man. We fell hard for each other, and I didn’t care that he wasn’t rich. I know Mom was disappointed that I didn’t marry a doctor or a lawyer. Instead, I married the man I fell in love with. The last 22 years haven’t been easy. She acts like she accepts him, but then she says horrible things about him. We both have helped my parents during some difficult times, but she still

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Rubes

By Leigh Rubin

the better. Tonight: TGIF. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) HHHHH Take off as soon as you can. First, you’ll need to make and complete an important call that could define some of your weekend plans. A child or new friend could be remote but hoping that you’ll know he or she wants more time! The unexpected puts a charge into the day. Tonight: Be spontaneous. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) HHHHH Defer to another person. You know what you want, and you know when you’ve pushed too far. You’d be well-advised to let another person take the lead. You could be happier with the end results as well. Tonight: Go for the moment. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) HHHHH Your popularity soars, but the people who come toward you might be confrontational. You don’t need to respond; just listen. The priority is not feeling pushed. If you agree, say so. Tonight: So many invitations. You decide who, where and when. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) HHH Reach out for a co-worker or friend you encounter in your day-to-day life. Invite him or her to join you after work or sometime during the weekend. Spending time with this person could have a surprising twist. Tonight: TGIF. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) HHHHH As you make plans for the next few days, your creativity emerges. You give up the serious demeanor and become more playful and fun. Others notice and clearly gravitate toward you. Tonight: Be a wild thing. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) HHH Curb an innate possessiveness. You want to have certain things and people around you. What becomes evident is that you have no control over others; you just control yourself. An unexpected call or insight jazzes up your day. Tonight: Home is where the action is. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) HHHH You might be taken aback by another person’s call or action. On some level, once you settle in, you could be delighted by the action. A friend who could be older or demanding might lighten up when you least anticipate. Tonight: At your favorite spot. BORN TODAY Actor John Cusack (1966), pop singer/ actor Chayanne (1968), basketball player Bradley Beal (1993)

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MYTH OF THE CHEAP FLIGHT Dear Heloise: Travel by air is expensive these days. Gone is the free luggage, complimentary pillows and blankets and other perks. Travelers are looking to save on airfare when they can, but far too many people are confused by rumors. First, it’s NOT cheaper to fly on Tuesdays or Thursdays. Next, fly budget carriers but be sure to ask about additional fees, and don’t expect any perks, but your ticket will probably be cheaper. Don’t fly direct if it’s more expensive. Be sure to take advantage of frequent flyer programs where possible. Book early, about five to six weeks ahead of your flight. Look for a price you can live with rather than the very lowest price. -- Ellen E., Newark, N.J. FLOUR POWER Dear Heloise: Should I store my flour in the refrigerator? -- Savannah W., Batesville, Miss. Savannah, flour should be stored in airtight containers. Whole-wheat flour, especially, is best stored in the refrigerator or freezer to maintain the best quality. -- Heloise LOST AND FOUND Dear Heloise: Going to a remote location? Hiking in the mountains or desert? I strongly recommend taking a PLB (personal locator beacon) with you. These gadgets are used to alert emergency personnel if you should need help. A PLB or satellite messenger is a lifesaver if you have an accident or are lost. This is especially important if you’re in an area where your cellphone can’t function. -- Thomas Y., Medford, Ore.

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Jacqueline Bigar’s Stars HAPPY BIRTHDAY for Friday, June 28, 2019: This year, your words are in sync with your actions. Many people find you easy to relate to because your messages and responses are clear. If single, you could meet someone through a friend, or a friendship could play a role in encountering this person. You draw many admirers. If you’re attached, you and your partner work together to manifest a long-term goal. With any luck, you’ll make this desire real. Celebrate your relationship. Take time off together. Feed the romance between you. TAURUS means well but can get a little too nosey. The Stars Show the Kind of Day You’ll Have: 5-Dynamic; 4-Positive; 3-Average; 2-So-so; 1-Difficult ARIES (March 21-April 19) HHHH Deal with an overdue hassle even if doing so means that you cannot start your weekend as early as you’d like. Due to your attentiveness, you’ll probably gain during the next day in a most unexpected manner. Tonight: Make it your treat. TAURUS (April 20-May 20) HHHHH A call could drag you down. You have a lot to consider, but the situation might not be as negative as you think it is. Remain direct throughout your dealings with others. Someone close to you could find you exciting but unpredictable. Tonight: Just be you. GEMINI (May 21-June 20) HHH Say little; absorb more information. People might not be aware that they’re spilling the beans, especially if you react in a nonchalant manner. You might want to slow down and consider all that you’ve heard. Tonight: Go for mystery. Vanish. CANCER (June 21-July 22) HHHH You could be overwhelmed by all that you need to do. Stay upbeat and positive when dealing with changing plans and an unpredictable friend. A close loved one might hold a very different opinion about an important person in your life. Tonight: Zero in on what you want. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) HHHH You might notice that others are looking at you. A boss might approve of the way that you handle a problem. A loved one simply enjoys watching you. Know that you’re onstage. Be discreet about a problem. The less others know,

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says things that hurt like, “I’m glad you two never had kids.” Well, lo and behold, I ended up getting pregnant at 40, and we have an amazing son together. I keep trying to start over with Mom, especially since my son was born, but she has continued her evil ways. I’m finally done with her, and my husband and I have decided to move to another state where my husband’s family lives so our son can grow up surrounded by loving people. I feel sad, but my mother is not willing to accept us. Am I doing the right thing by moving? (My father passed away, and we hung in through her verbal abuse just to make sure Dad was well taken care of.) -- ANXIOUS IN ARIZONA DEAR ANXIOUS: I’m sorry for what you and your husband have been put through. You have clearly tried to make the relationship with your mother work. Because YOU are a mother now, focus on creating a happy life for your son, your husband and yourself. You are doing the right thing for the right reasons. Your mother is toxic. Bon voyage! Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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DEAR ABBY: My newly retired husband and I lead a nice life and are in good health. Our two girls are grown and established. Our battle is over my husband “taking back” some of the duties I have performed for years, like paying and mailing out our monthly bills, some of which I pay in person. This task is easy for me and never a hardship. We have excellent credit. He now wants all the bills to come to him online, and he’ll pay them online, leaving me out of the process. He knows I enjoyed doing it and considered it my purview. I want to continue to handle bill paying as I always have, occasionally taking a statement to a department store or whatever. Paying for checks is not a problem for us. I use a debit card for regular shopping and a credit card in certain stores. I am not a spend-a-holic. My husband paying bills online cuts me out of the process, and I don’t like it. I prefer the method I have used for decades. Is this more of a control issue than anything else? Any ideas? -- STIFLED IN WASHINGTON DEAR STIFLED: Yes, it is a control issue. It is also an indication that your husband doesn’t have enough to do. Because the bill paying is partly a social outlet for you, you should not allow the task to be taken over.

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June 28, 2019 edition of the Peninsula Clarion

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June 28, 2019 edition of the Peninsula Clarion