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>THE JOURNEY of Phi Kappa Theta Fraternity


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>Seventeenth Edition

Written by Anita Kerlin, Tim Clark & Gretchen Stahl Edited by Anita Kerlin, Greg Stein, & Tim Clark Published By Phi Kappa Theta Fraternity 9640 N. Augusta Drive, Suite #420 Carmel, IN 46032 www.phikaps.org Revised 9/2011


>Dedication

To the gentlemen of Phi Kappa ThetaPast, Present and Future.


>Preface

Collegiate societies such as ours took Greek names in homage to classical Greece, the seat of learning and culture in the ancient world. At the time of Alexander the Great, young men had to finish two years of education, physical, and military training in order to become citizens of Athens. They were called Ephebes (E-feebs), and in the course of their training, they took the Ephebic Oath. “We will never bring disgrace to this, our city, by any act of dishonesty or cowardice, nor ever desert our suffering comrades in the ranks; we will fight for the ideals and sacred things of the city, both alone and with many; we will revere and obey the city’s laws and do our best to incite a like respect in those above us who are prone to annul or set them at naught; we will strive unceasingly to quicken the public sense of civic duty. Thus, in all these ways, we will transmit this city, not only not less, but far greater and more beautiful than it was transmitted to us.” It is with this pride and passion we wish for you to begin your journey of brotherhood. Welcome to Phi Kappa Theta.


>Table of Contents

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The History of Phi Kappa Theta • Phi Kappa Theta’s Heritage • Early Days of Phi Kappa • Early Days of Theta Kappa Phi • Phi Kappa Theta Today

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Chapter 2:

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The History of Greek Life • Your Campus and Chapter History

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Fraternal Development • The (iServe) Network • Board of Trustees • UGAC • Regional Support Network • PKT Foundation • PKT Properties •National Organization Flow Chart • Social Networking + Bloomfire • Chapter Organizational Structure • Parliamentary Procedure • Alumni Involvement

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Leadership Development • Leadership Development Opportunities • Through Phi Kappa Theta • On Campus • Servant Leadership • Credible Leadership • The Five Exemplary Leadership Styles • Communication and Conflict Chapter 6:

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Social Development • Being a Gentleman • Etiquette • Philanthropy • Community Service • Risk Management & Safety

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Spiritual Development • Spirituality vs. Religion • Morality & Ethics

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CHAPTER 01 >The History of Phi Kappa Theta

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Phi Kappa Theta represents the union of two older fraternities: Phi Kappa and Theta Kappa Phi. Phi Kappa began on April 29, 1889 in Room 3 of Hope Hall at Brown University. Theta Kappa Phi was founded later, at Lehigh University on October 1, 1919. The two fraternities had 63 chapters between them when they joined forces to form Phi Kappa Theta on April 29, 1959, the seventieth anniversary of the founding of the original Phi Kappa Fraternity. The uniqueness of the union lies not in the fact that two fraternal societies had pooled their membership, chapters and resources. Mergers of collegiate fraternities have occurred before and will no doubt continue. The uniqueness lies in the very nature of the consolidation of Phi Kappa and Theta Kappa Phi. To Phi Kappa Theta’s knowledge this is the first true ‘union’ of two Greek letter societies in the fullest sense of the word. In the Phi Kappa - Theta Kappa Phi consolidation, neither group was merged into the other. On an equal footing, both chose to be united together under a new name- Phi Kappa Theta. This name included Greek letters of both organizations involved in the unification, without the necessity of either group conceding to the acceptance of the other’s name and motto. Just as in the selection of the name, the other details of the consolidation represented a synthesis of the best features of both organizations. The badge of Phi Kappa Theta is a combination of the pins of the two societies: the quatrefoil badge of Phi Kappa forms the base of the new pin on which is super-imposed the black face shield of the Theta Kappa Phi badge. The coat of arms of the Phi Kappa Theta Fraternity is a new design that combines the principal features of the shields of the united groups. The associate member pin is a combination of the former Phi Kappa and Theta Kappa Phi associate member insignia. This is also true of the Ritual, colors, flag and all internals and externals of the united organization.

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Phi Kappa Theta’s 1st Convention held in French Lick, IN 1961 Nothing essential was lost by either group, rather, each was enriched by the traditional insignia and ritualistic work of the other. Meticulous care to such details resulted in a true unification; it is with justifiable pride that this fraternal consolidation calls itself the Phi Kappa Theta Fraternity. Individual chapters cherish their own designations (Iowa Delta, Ohio Alpha Beta) almost as much as they do the fraternity’s national name. All chapters in the unification retained their own chapter Greek letters merely by adding the name of the state in which the chapter is located to the chapter name. Phi Kappa’s Alpha chapter at Brown became Rhode Island Alpha, and Theta Kappa Phi’s Alpha chapter at Lehigh became Pennsylvania Alpha. Where both fraternities existed at the same university, the merged chapter adopted the Greek letters of both chapters. At Penn State, the Theta Kappa Phi chapter was Beta and the Phi Kappa Chapter was Gamma, hence Phi Kappa Theta’s chapter at Penn State is now known as Pennsylvania Beta Gamma, and likewise at other ‘dual campuses’. Both Phi Kappa and Theta Kappa Phi were founded upon the unifying principle of a Fellowship of Faith. The two fraternities drew their members from among Catholic university students. History shows that the two fraternities had extensive interaction before the creation of Phi Kappa Theta. In 1921, Phi Kappa sought to merge with a newly formed Theta Kappa Phi. But the latter group instead joined with Kappa Theta at Penn State in 1922. Afterward, a period of intense rivalry began between the two organizations that would eventually bond to form Phi Kappa Theta, which lasted until 1938, when the first joint committee of the two fraternities met to discuss the possibility of a merger. This was the first officially sanctioned

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meeting between representatives of the two fraternities. The minutes of a Theta Kappa Phi National Council meeting in 1939 records ‘cautious approaches’ between the fraternities. Was the true intent ‘marriage’? This is what the conventions of 1937, 1939, and 1941 tried to find out. But it was not until the Penn State Conclave of 1955 that definite authorization was given to explore the possible union further. Finally, at Ohio State in 1957, the two fraternities approved negotiations toward a possible merger. Prior to the opening of school in the fall of 1958, separate national conventions of Phi Kappa and Theta Kappa Phi took place simultaneously at Ohio State University in Columbus. On September 8, the two fraternities reached an agreement. Each national convention ratified the unification and authorized their respective national councils to implement the terms of the consolidation agreement. The next eight months were busy ones indeed: the drafting of the unified Ritual, the designing of the new insignia, the consolidation of alumni supervisory boards, the planning of Charter Day celebrations, and the adoption of new procedures. Finally on April 29, on the 70th anniversary of Phi Kappa’s founding in 1889, all was ready for the nationwide celebration of Charter Day: the day in which all Theta Kappa Phi and Phi Kappa chapters officially became chapters of the consolidated Phi Kappa Theta Fraternity. New charters for each chapter were not issued. Transition documents, which amended the original charter, were presented. Each chapter now dates its foundation from the day it was originally chartered by either of the parent fraternities of Phi Kappa Theta. Likewise, the founders of each individual chapter of the two original fraternities are considered the founders of the local units, not the members of the chapter as of April, 1959. The unification agreement provided for automatic membership in Phi Kappa Theta of all Theta Kappa Phi and Phi Kappa members. The government of the Fraternity between biennial conventions was entrusted to a sixteen-man Board of Trustees. The first National President of Phi Kappa Theta, Pierre Lavedan (M.I.T, 1920), was also the last Phi Kappa National President. The first Chairman of the Board, Frank Flick (Illinois, 1927), was also the last Theta Kappa Phi National President. The

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executive officers of Phi Kappa and Theta Kappa Phi, Frank L. Chinery and George V. Uihlein respectively, continued as Executive Vice-Presidents for Alumni and Undergraduate relations respectively. Phi Kappa’s Educational Foundation and its Real Estate Holding Corporation served the consolidated Fraternity in the same capacity, but were renamed Phi Kappa Theta National Foundation and P.K.T. Properties Inc. In 1959, the first Phi Kappa Theta chapter after the union was installed at Belmont Abbey College in North Carolina. The first two biennial conventions of the merged Fraternity were held in Indiana, and it was during this period that the new National Fraternity experienced its severest growing pains as it worked its way toward stabilization under the direction of Brother William R. Grogan (W.P.I, 1945) as National President, and Brother George V. Uihlein (W.P.I, 1944) as Executive Vice-President. During much of this period, the Fraternity was without a full-time executive. It managed with the very capable and dedicated devotion of Mrs. Helen G. Stone, who served as office manager for fifteen years. She was the only woman ever to receive the Fraternity’s highest award, the Distinguished Service Award. In 1965, thanks to the generosity of Brother Frank Flick (Illinois, 1927), an ambitious expansion program was inaugurated under the full-time direction of Brother Edward Kirchner (Ohio State, 1935). This expansion program resulted in the chartering of many new chapters. All fraternities find their moral foundations in Judeo-Christian ethics, and the belief in brotherhood based on love. Each and every fraternity stresses respect for this common religious heritage. Religious ideals played an important part in the formation of both Phi Kappa and Theta Kappa Phi. Both limited their membership to Catholic men, and over the years many prominent statesmen, businessmen, professional men and religious leaders have been associated with the Fraternity and have given much of themselves to it. The 1965 convention was held in Hamilton, Ontario, and was the first to take place in Canada. At this meeting the Fraternity debated the restrictive clauses in its constitution that limited membership to Catholics. The Fraternity set up a Catholic Activities Committee to study the question.

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During the 1967 convention the assembled chapters voted to remove the restrictive Catholic clause from the constitution. The decade of the 1970s was one of consolidation and retrenchment. Antiestablishment attitudes because of the Vietnam War, the birth of the ‘Me Generation’ and the gain in popularity of marijuana and the stress it placed on the relationships within the chapters, caused fraternity membership to drop. Some of Phi Kappa Theta’s newest chapters folded because of inadequate alumni support. The National Fraternity’s budget was cut and consequently, chapter services were also. Robert Wilcox (Georgia, 1965) took over as Executive Director for Joe Janca upon his retirement in 1970, after a five year tenure. It was he who, along with Fr. Raymond Favret (Catholic University, ‘A), who had served as Treasurer, President and Chairman of the Board during his terms, managed to see the Fraternity through its worst crisis since World War II. The 1970s did see a revitalization of the Phi Kappa Theta National Foundation under Greg Stein (CCNY, 1970). It started a scholarship program and began a partial funding of regional management schools as well as other National Fraternity educational programs. In the mid seventies the National Convention changed the Fraternity motto from ‘Loyalty to God and College’ to “Give, expecting nothing thereof.” (Luke 6:35) In 1979, after twelve years of service as a Chapter Consultant and Executive Director, Bob Wilcox retired. Phi Kappa Theta’s third full-time Executive Director, Kirk Thomas (Iowa State, 1976), replaced him. The 1980s were a period of steady growth in the number of chapters, active alumni and chapter services. In 1985, the Fraternity relocated the National Fraternity’s Executive offices from Worcester, Massachusetts, to Indianapolis, Indiana: the Greek letter capital of the world. This move not only placed Phi Kappa Theta in the heart of the country, but also set the stage for better service to chapters and alumni groups. With the move to Indianapolis, and the corresponding resignation of Kirk

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Thomas, the Fraternity hired its fourth Executive Director, John Bruno (Michigan State, 1969). After spending a year helping the Fraternity establish administrative operations in our new home town, John decided to move on to other career opportunities, setting the stage for our fifth Executive Director, Doug Dilling (Kansas State, 1984). In 1985 we rejoined the National Interfraternity Conference after a fourteen-year hiatus. The decade witnessed the return of the National Leadership Conference, which provided a biennial opportunity for our undergraduate and alumni leadership to come together for a weekend of education and development. With conferences in 1984, 1986, 1988, and continuing into the 1990s, the event has grown to become eagerly anticipated, and has proven to be successful at helping the Fraternity and Foundation to achieve their missions. In the late 1980s, the fraternity system began to focus its attention on the quality of the experience being gained by its undergraduate membership. Terms such as ‘liability’ became increasingly familiar. Our Fraternity made changes such as eliminating women’s auxiliary groups (little sisters). It was also at this time that the fraternity eliminated the traditionally degrading term of ‘pledge’ and replaced it with a more respectable title of Associate Member to describe our newest members. The highlight of the 1980s, of course, was the celebration of Phi Kappa Theta’s 100th anniversary. The Centennial Celebration kicked off in 1988 at the National Leadership Conference hosted by our co-founding chapter at Lehigh University. The spring of 1989 saw several successful regional celebrations, all serving as a prelude to the main event, the 1989 Centennial Convention in Providence, Rhode Island. The cornerstone of the Convention was a very special ceremony conducted in Hope Hall. The 1990s served as a turning point for many fraternities. The decade had been marked with declining memberships and increasing questions as to the future vitality of fraternities. Perhaps most significant is the fashion in which all fraternities are bonding together for the sake of the Greek system as a whole.

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For Phi Kappa Theta, the early 1990s saw a change in administrative leadership as Doug Dilling resigned as Executive Director in 1992 after seven years of service in that post. Succeeding Doug as the Fraternity’s sixth Executive Director was Mark McSweeney (Northern Illinois, 1988). In 1999 Craig Melancon (USL, 1988) became the seventh Executive Director, followed by Robert Riggs (RPI, 2002) becoming the eighth in 2007. During the mid 2000’s, the Board of Trustees spent significant time and energy setting a direction for the organization, to imagine a future for this organization where each brother and each chapter makes decisions in line with the mission – to serve society, Fraternity and God. In 2008, in an effort to move the organization forward, they developed a strategic plan to develop individual members in five distinct areas: leadership, intellectually, fraternally, socially and spiritually. These five developmental areas have become a focus of Phi Kappa Theta, primarily through education and the creation of more resources and tools to ensure the success of our collegiate chapters. The leadership of the Fraternity has boldly accepted the challenges that lie ahead for Phi Kappa Theta and our peers. The concept of fraternity is, indeed, still needed today and Phi Kappa Theta is prepared to answer that call. It is hard to know exactly what James Gillrain and August Concilio envisioned for Phi Kappa and Theta Kappa Phi. However, one thing is for certain; they appreciated that this Fraternity would be far more than simply a four-year institution merely intended to pass the time during one’s collegiate days. They knew they were making a commitment that would bond them for the rest of their lives. We owe it to them and to the Phi Kaps to come 100 years from now, to keep the vision alive and the Fraternity honored. The legacy of Phi Kappa Theta is for you to determine.

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>The Early Days of Phi Kappa

In the late eighteen hundreds, three men at Brown University in Providence, Rhode Island conceived the idea that the university world might have room for another fraternity. Since all men of Irish Catholic parentage were denied admission to the nine already established Greek letter fraternities because of their religion, these three men decided to form a new fraternity. These men, Dennis H. Sheahan (1889), James M. Gillrain (1891), and Edward de V. O’Connor (1892) had their own ideas as to the meaning of the word fraternity. Although during the years 1887 to 1889 these men and a group of their friends met frequently in each others’ rooms, they had no definite organized society. Good fellowship alone held them together until 1889, when the group decided to form a permanent organization. This decision led to the first formal meeting held in Old 3 Hope on October 1, 1889. Old 3 Hope was the dormitory room occupied by James Gillrain and Arthur McGinn. At this meeting the men formulated plans for the new organization. Those present at the meeting were Dennis J. Holland (1890), Joseph C. Killelea (1890), Edward S. Kiley (1891), James M Gillrain (1891), Edward de V. O’Connor (1892), James E. Smith (1892), Arthur F. McGinn (1892), James Brennan (1892), and Edward J. Cunningham (1893). Gillrain was elected the organization’s first president, and McGinn the first secretary. James F. Murphy (1887) and Dennis H. Sheahan (1889) became graduate members. The new society, small in numbers but strong in fraternal spirit, began under the name of Phi Kappa Sigma, meaning ‘Fraternity of Catholic Students.’ Meetings continued in rooms in Hope College for a time. In the spring of 1890, the meetings moved to a room in the Wayland Building on North Main Street in Providence. The first initiation of freshmen saw William H. MaGill, John H. Fitzgerald, and Thomas P. Corcoran become members in 1893.

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Hope Hall at Brown University where Phi Kappa was founded. Founders of Phi Kappa Theta at Brown University

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• Dennis Joseph Holland, • Joseph Mary Killelea, • James Martin Gillrain, • Edward Stephen Kiley, • Edward DeVallie O’Connor, • James Edward Brennan, • Arthur Francis McGinn, • James Edward Smith, • Edward Francis Cunningham,

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Between 1890 and 1892, Phi Kappa Sigma endured the problems common to organizations whose financial foundations are uncertain. But despite these problems, the organization survived, and in the spring of 1892, the fraternity entered a new era. In that year, Mr. M. Joseph Harson, a Providence merchant and a man intensely loyal to Brown and devoted to the welfare of the Catholic students, became interested in the Fraternity. On April 29, 1892, Brother Harson called together a group of Catholic graduate and undergraduate fraternity members to his home at 126 Waterman Street. Those present that evening included: Hon. E. D. McGuiness, Secretary of State (1877), M. Joseph Harson (1884), Prof. James C. Monahan (1885), Dennis H. Sheahan (1889), James F. Murphy (1887), James M. Gillrain (1891), Edward deV. O’Connor (1892), William H. Magill (1893) and others of later class years. Brother Harson and the men submitted a plan that proposed the establishment of a Greek letter society at Brown, the membership to be composed of practicing Catholic men. A Ritual was to be prepared, a state charter was to be secured, and as soon as practical, chapters were to be established in other colleges. This meeting and plan represented the beginnings of a new organization. Brother Harson wrote the Initiation Ritual, and the men adopted a constitution, inaugurated the chapter form of organization, and elected Brother Harson to the office of president. To Brother Harson belongs the honor of having reorganized the Fraternity, of having given it definite form and of having established certain ideals for future development and expansion. Of the Fraternity in 1893, Brother Harson wrote in a letter: “My plans aimed to place Phi Kappa Sigma on a higher plane than all other college fraternities. Its motto was — Loyalty to God and College. By a chain of graduate and undergraduate chapters throughout the States, I hoped to see Catholic educated men brought together for their personal benefit. Loyalty is to be the keynote, loyalty between members as well as to Faith and College.”

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This scheme seemed too ambitious for some members, and the necessary cooperation was not forthcoming. At Brown University, there existed a tradition in which each campus fraternity gave a reception for the university president and members of the faculty. Phi Kappa Sigma first participated in this tradition on Class Day, 1892. Their reception so impressed Brown’s president and his party that they chose to return to the Phi Kap reception after making the rounds of the events sponsored by other fraternities. The success of the reception contributed greatly in raising the status of the Fraternity in the eyes of everyone at Brown. The society grew in importance, and it began to bring prominent speakers to address the fraternity. Debates were a feature of these meetings, and on more than one occasion, Sayles Hall, the site of the debates, was filled to overflowing. Chartering Phi Kappa Sigma began attracting attention outside of Brown. Soon it came to the attention of the local body that the name of Phi Kappa Sigma was in use by a national fraternity, which, however, had no chapter at Brown. In 1900 the Fraternity dropped the name ‘Sigma’ and adopted the name Phi Kappa, which persisted until the union in 1959. April 29,1902, on which date is observed ‘Founders Day,’ Phi Kappa Fraternity was incorporated under the laws of the State of Rhode Island and Providence Plantations. The charter was signed by M. J. Harson, James M. Gillrain, Edward de V. O’Connor, Charles Carroll (1898), Dioysius F. O’Brien (1898), and Owen F. Gallagher (1899). The charter sets forth the purposes of incorporation as: “Promoting social and intellectual intercourse among its members, identifying students and alumni more closely with their college and cultivating a spirit of loyalty to Alma Mater. It is the further object of said corporation to establish subordinate branches in chapters in other seats of learning throughout the United States.”

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From 1904-1906 the Fraternity had no chapter house. During this time the gatherings of the Yippy-Yappas, as the members were known, were held in 50 University Hall. The Founding of Beta Between 1890 and 1912, Phi Kappa received many applications from societies interested in establishing new chapters, as well as proposals from fraternities for consolidation. But not until 1912 did Phi Kappa find another group of men who held similar ideas and ideals and who strove for the same ends. In that year, Arthur Kiernan (Sigma Nu, Brown 1911), an instructor at the University of Illinois, informed Jerry Donovan (Phi Kappa, Brown, 1912) of an organization at Illinois whose existence and aims were similar to those of Phi Kappa. This group was known as the Loyola Club. A group of sixteen Catholic students had founded the Loyola Club at Illinois in May 1908. The club originated, as had the original Phi Kappa Sigma, as a bond between Catholics at Illinois rather than as an organized fraternity. The group obtained a charter, and with the help of Father J. H. Cannon of Urbana, leased a house for the college year 1908-1909. The Loyola Club began to grow and prosper and soon they moved to a larger house, and other organizations took notice of the organization. Subsequent correspondence between the presidents of Loyola and Phi Kap paved the way for a conference between the two groups in Providence during the spring of 1912, followed by a May 1912 trip to Champaign by a group of Phi Kaps (led by James J. McKenna) to install the Loyola Club as the Beta chapter of Phi Kappa on May 27,1912. For his efforts. Brother McKenna was elected to the office of first Supreme President during Phi Kaps first two years as a national organization.

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Before 1915, there existed at Lehigh University a Newman Club for Catholic students. At the beginning of each school year it came to life, but usually died before its end. Several of its members, in the search for a way to provide continuity to the Newman Club, came upon the idea of a social fraternity. What linked these enthusiasts together was the belief that religious and scholarly ideals could be fostered in a homelike environment. Furthermore, the group was motivated by the idea that there was virtue in the mystic rites associated with Greek letter fraternities. Thus, the idea of a new fraternity evolved. The group did not immediately adopt an official name, nor did it establish an organization apart from the Newman Club. But they carried on with the idea of someday forming a social fraternity. Of the original group, three went on to form Theta Kappa Phi at Lehigh, becoming the first Brothers of the Fraternity, August Concilio (1918), Peter J. Carr (1920), and Raymond J. Bobbin (1923). In 1917, a group of non-fraternity men from the Newman Club associated themselves with these three Founders for the purpose of living together in a house as a fraternity. The entry of the United States into World War I ended this plan, and the ‘old guard’ disbanded as the several members went off into the armed services. In 1919, when August Concilio, the sparkplug of the original group, returned to school, he had all but given up the idea of forming a fraternity. All his friends of pre-war days had graduated or left school. Through the efforts of Peter J. Carr, the idea of a fraternity had been transferred to a group of new men in college. This new group gathered in Concilio’s room, heard his story about the pre-war ‘enthusiasts’ on the Lehigh campus and then and there resolved to form a social fraternity. About thirty men attended this meeting and, for want of a better name, called their association the ‘X Club’. This symbol for unknown

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quantity (x) served until their ideas could take on more definite form. The date of this meeting, October 1, 1919, is recognized as the official founding of Theta Kappa Phi. During the first month of its existence, the Fraternity took several important actions. They elected Concilio president, and he led the local Lehigh fraternity through the first steps of nationalization by uniting with Kappa Theta of Penn State. Second, the Fraternity selected the name Theta Kappa Phi at a meeting on November 12, 1919, on a recommendation of a committee co-chaired by Brothers George S. Thompson (1921) and Martin J. Keely (1922). At the time of adoption, the letters stood merely for The Catholic Fraternity’, and it was not until later that they were given a secret meaning. A third important step taken that year was the selection of Right Rev. William I. McGarvey as chaplain of the group. Monsignor McGarvey was then pastor of Holy Infancy Church in Bethlehem, near the Lehigh campus. His inspiring leadership, zeal and untiring efforts piloted the young Fraternity through the troublesome days of its early life and made him most worthy of being counted among its founders. To him, wrote Brother Concilio, Theta Kappa Phi owes, primarily, its existence and its firm foundations. When he was approached about the project, his willingness to further it won the body to him immediately. Father McGarvey, it is interesting to note, had been a priest of the Episcopal Church before he became a Catholic. He was ordained to the Catholic priesthood in 1910. The early minutes of the Alpha group show the deep interest Father McGarvey took in all the activities of the group, spiritual and temporal. None of the group had fraternity experience, but none was more desirous of developing the club into a real fraternity than its chaplain. However, his common sense and experience could not supply the necessary advice and assistance on composing a solemn ritual for the group. Father McGarvey turned this problem over to Rev. Michael Andrew Chapman, who had also been an Episcopal priest and who also was a member of Sigma Alpha Epsilon Fraternity at Bard College. Father

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Chapman wrote the Ritual in one day, and the Fraternity still uses the basics of the Ritual today.

The three greek letters originally stood for ‘The Catholic Fraternity’ and were chosen by the Lehigh group on November 12, 1919 upon the recommendation of Brother George S. Thompson. Later, the Ritual gave the letters an esoteric meaning which is the arcana of the secret work of the Fraternity, even as Phi Kappa Theta.

Rectory and Church of Holy Infancy Parish, Bethlehem, Pennsylvania, where Theta Kappa Phi was founded and where it held its first solemn initiations.

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Founders of Theta Kappa Phi at Lehigh University: • Raymond J. Bobbin, 1923 • Peter J. Carr, 1920 • August Concilio, 1918 • Rt. Rev. William I. McGarvey, ‘A

Shown above is a facsimile of the minutes of the first meeting of Theta Kappa Phi Fraternity. It was still called the “X” club.

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The Founding of Beta The next important forward step in the development of the Fraternity was nationalization by uniting with Kappa Theta local fraternity at the Pennsylvania State College as Beta Chapter of Theta Kappa Phi. Kappa Theta had been founded in January, 1920 by a group of twentytwo students at Penn State who were dissatisfied with existing Catholic fraternity conditions at that institution. August Concilio and Edmund J. Whims (Lehigh, 1922) of the Lehigh group visited Penn State to discuss the possibility of forming a new national fraternity. The idea was accepted by Kappa Theta, and on March 22, 1922 the two groups united to form the National Fraternity of Theta Kappa Phi. The delegates of Kappa Theta who participated in the amalgamation meeting were Patrick J. Roche (Penn State, 1923) and Daniel L. Harmon (Penn State, 1922).

Rt. Rev. Wlliam I. McGarvey, Pastor of Holy Infancy Parish in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania, who was a founder of Theta Kappa Phi at Lehigh. Msgr. McGarvey aided the fledgling group in obtaining living quarters. Later he secured the services of Msgr. Chapman, a Sigma Alpha Epsilon member, to write the fraternity’s original ritual.

August C. Concilio, 1918 of Alpha. The Count or Gus, is one of the founders of the Fraternity. He was the first President of Theta Kappa Phi Fraternity as a national organization, having been elected when it had two chapters.

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The Strategic Plan In 2007, the National Board of Trustees set out to create a focus for Phi Kappa Theta. Our history is rich, but • Mission more people started to question what the future of our organization would look like. Our Mission, Vision, and • Vision Strategic Plan were created. The Mission is what we as members should strive to live up to every day and is • Strategy the reason that Phi Kappa Theta exists. The Vision is the ideal version of ourselves or what we strive to be in • Tactics the future. The Strategic Plan is a plan created that will help us accomplish the vision of the Fraternity. During • Metrics the creation of the Strategic Plan, the Board determined five areas that we want to develop all of our members in, which is often referred to as the Developmental Areas. These are usually also considered the five main Ideals of Phi Kappa Theta. Each of the Developmental Areas has an end state, or a statement that summarizes how we want to embody that ideal. As you continue through your Associate Member Education, you will learn the importance of each developmental area. You will notice that each Developmental Area has its own chapter in this book and the End States are listed at the beginning of those chapters. As you progress through your membership it is our hope that you fully develop in each of the five areas. MISSION Phi Kappa Theta actively develops men to be effective leaders who passionately serve society, Fraternity and God. VISION Phi Kappa Theta will be known as the premier human development organization inspiring confidence through life experiences. MOTTO “Give, expecting nothing thereof.”

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Achieve & Accreditation In 2008, the Fraternity realized that we needed a metric to measure whether or not we were meeting the goals set forth in the recently developed Strategic Plan. This need lead to the creation of the Accreditation Program. The program was rolled out in spring 2009 with a required set of expectations for chapters to prove that they have met. Every year, expectations for each of the five developmental areas are placed online into the Achieve system. Each member can login to their personal online profile within the Achieve system and input personal data and track involvement on campus and other achievements that relate to their chapter’s accreditation. Chapter administrators also have access to enter chapter events and documentation which provide evidence that the chapter is meeting the expectations set forth for the year. National Administrators are able to view the progress that our chapters make, leave comments, and give preliminary scores to chapters during the year. On June 1st, the system closes for the summer so that final scoring can take place. Awards are given at the National summer conference each year based on the results of the Accreditation scores.

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Professional Staff The Professional Staff is responsible for ensuring the Fraternity’s programs and resources are in alignment with the Strategic Plan. The staff works to provide new and exciting educational opportunities and resources for all of our members. The National Office of Phi Kappa Theta is located in Carmel, Indiana which is just outside of Indianapolis, which is where you will find the small full time paid staff who manage the day to day operations of the entire Fraternity. This is a great place to call if you ever have questions about anything and don’t know where to go. Professional Staff

Executive Vice President • Manage Staff • Risk Management • Strategic Plan • Foundation

Associate Executive Director of Education and Development • Member Development • Education • Assessment • Expansion

Foundation Assistant Director of Development • Fundraising • Annual Appeals

Director of Operations • Operations • Finances

Accounting Clerk

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The National President, with the approval of the Board of Trustees shall appoint a professional Fraternity administrator under the title of Executive Vice President and may invest him with any or all authority and duties consistent with this Constitution.   The Executive Vice President will be charged with the execution of the policy of the Convention and the Board of Trustees, responsibility of the general administration of the Fraternity, visitation of its chapters and preparation for the Board of Trustees such reports and recommendations as it may solicit.  He shall advise the Board, but will not be a voting member of the Board. To assist with these responsibilities, the Executive Vice President is empowered to hire additional professional staff members skilled in the areas of operational management, finance,  communication  and educational development.  The full list of staff descriptions may be found online at phikaps.org.

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CHAPTER 02 >The History of Greek Life

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02 On December 5, 1776, in the famous ‘Apollo Room’ of the Raleigh Tavern in Williamsburg, Virginia (the seat of the College of William and Mary) Phi Beta Kappa, the first Greek letter fraternity, was founded. It had all of the distinguishing marks of our present day fraternities: secrecy, a ritual, oaths of fidelity, a grip and motto, a badge for external display, high ideals, scholastic achievement, and fellowship. Due to national agitation against the secret society of Masons in the 1830s, external pressure forced the Phi Beta Kappa Fraternity to alter its character and divulge its secrets. From that time to the present Phi Beta Kappa has been an academic honorary fraternity of rather broad distinction. In many universities, a different type of society developed early. These were mostly of a literary character and bore names of distinctly Greek origin (i.e., Adelphian, Calliopean). Their object was training and drill in composition and oratory. Their exercises consisted of debates, orations, the writing of essays and the reading and discussion of papers on literary subjects. Such were the societies existing in the universities when, in November, 1825, the Kappa Alpha Society was formed at Union College, Schenectady, New York. In external features, this society bore a close resemblance to Phi Beta Kappa. It was secret, had a Greek name, displayed a badge, had a ritual, and used the Greek alphabet to name its chapters. The new society was very popular among the students, who paid it the sincere compliment of imitation by the founding, at the same college, of Sigma Phi (March 1827) and of Delta Phi (November 1827). These three fraternities, known as the ‘Union Triad’ were the pattern for the American Fraternity system. In fact, Union College may well be termed the ‘Mother of Fraternities,’ as three other fraternities, Psi Upsilon (1835) Chi Psi (1841) and Theta Delta Chi (1847) were also founded here. It should be noted that Kappa Alpha Society was the first fraternity established that is still in existence. In 1839 Beta Theta Pi was founded at Miami University of Ohio. The foundings of Phi Delta Theta, (1848) and Sigma Chi, (1855) followed. These three fraternities became known as the ‘Miami Triad’. They spread over the West and South, while the Union Triad spread over the Eastern states.

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During the Civil War, collegiate activity everywhere was weakened. In the South, activity ceased. After the war, the state of affairs in the South was so uncertain that the re-establishment of chapters by northern fraternities was generally not undertaken. It was natural, therefore, that new southern fraternities should be created, especially at institutions made prominent by their military character. At the Virginia Military Institute, Alpha Tau Omega, Kappa Sigma Kappa, and Sigma Nu were founded. Kappa Alpha Order began at Washington and Lee University, and Kappa Sigma and Pi Kappa Alpha were founded at the University of Virginia. At the turn of the 20th century, forty national fraternities were in existence. During the twentieth century, fraternities weathered crises such as World War I, the Great Depression, and World War II, These events resulted in major changes to fraternities. During World War II fraternity membership declined because college-age men were battling in Europe, Africa, and Asia. With the close of World War II the fraternity situation changed almost overnight from famine to feast. Men flocked back to the campuses not only to resume their studies, but to enjoy university life and particularly fraternity life. The postwar fraternal system thrived. In the twenty years prior to campus unrest, in the late-sixties, fraternities experienced the greatest growth in their history. This period was known as the ‘Golden Age’ of fraternities. Universities with forty or more chapters each with 50-150 members apiece were not uncommon. Small chapter houses blossomed into half million-dollar facilities. Fraternity men were the dominant force on campuses. The late 1960’s were marked by demonstrations, riots, and upheavals on campuses throughout the country, as students questioned the values that motivated the established order of society. However, in the 1970s, Greeks regained their confidence and acted as a stabilizing factor on campuses nationwide. Thoughtful students, realizing that university curricula failed to profess a sustaining system of values, returned to fraternities, representing stability, for values and ideals they could embrace. The fraternity system is again on the upswing. The size and character of the system will be a function of its present and future members, and how they meet the challenges presented in the twenty-first century.

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Date your campus first opened __________________________________________________________ Date the first Greek organization came to campus __________________________________________________________ Date Phi Kappa Theta came to campus __________________________________________________________ Who oversees Greek Life __________________________________________________________ Who are your Advisors __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ Who is on your Executive Board __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________

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CHAPTER 03 >Fraternal Development

Phi Kappa Theta is a committed journey of lifelong brotherhood. Phi Kappa Theta maintains its relevance through a valuable network of collegiate and alumni members. Phi Kappa Theta challenges its members to accept responsibility for all Brothers, their communities and society.

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The (iServe) logo is used to identify volunteers actively serving Phi Kappa Theta’s members.

Just has Phi Kappa Theta Fraternity expands well beyond your own campus, your membership in Phi Kappa Theta will span beyond your collegiate experience. Today, there are approximately twelve hundred collegiate members throughout the country. However, there are over thirty thousand living alumni throughout the world. The core of our living network is through the lifetime commitment Brothers make to remain connected to Phi Kappa Theta. Many of these Brothers choose to continue their connection by serving in official voluntary roles. National Organization Flow Chart The National Organization has a structure that helps ensure that all projects are delegated appropriately and that there can be levels of accountability in the organization to ensure smooth operations. National Organization Flow Chart

Convention

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Board of Trustees

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Province Presidents District Governors

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The (iServe) Network While Phi Kappa Theta is a National Fraternity, it is through the involvement of hundreds of volunteers that the organization is able to operate. The Fraternity established a specific designation for those who have made the commitment to actively serve Phi Kappa Theta Fraternity. These individuals are all part of our (iServe) Network. The Network is made up of trained volunteers, professionals, alumni, and collegiate members who serve the as its leaders and mentors. The Board of Trustees The Fraternity’s Board of Trustees is highest level of leadership. The Board of Trustees shall consist of eight (8) Alumni members in good standing, four (4) elected for overlapping terms at each regularly called and constituted Convention for a term of four (4) years; and two (2) collegiate members. The collegiate members are elected from the Undergraduate Advisory Committee. The Board is elected by the general assembly of the Convention. The Board then elects a President, Vice President, Treasurer, and Secretary. Undergaduate Adviory Committee U.G.A.C Collegiate members are empowered within Phi Kappa Theta through peer representation, communication and education. This is accomplished through the Undergraduate Advisor Committee and the Undergraduate Advisory Senators. The Fraternity is geographically divided into six provinces; the Northeast, Mideast, Great Lakes, Southern, Midwest, and Western. During Convention, each Province elects from its collegiate members a representative to serve as their Province’s representative on the UGAC. Once all six members of the UGAC have been elected by their respective Provinces, a Chairman and Vice Chairman is then elected to lead the Committee. These two individuals also serve as the collegiate members on the Board of Trustees. In addition to the UGAC, collegiate members are empowered to engage at the National level through their Undergraduate Advisory Senators

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(UGAS). In the fall, each collegiate chapter will elect their own UGAS. These Chapter Senators then serve as his chapter’s primary resource in communication with the UGAC and Fraternity. Regional Support Network Each province in the Fraternity has a support system of volunteers who are trained and in place to support our collegiate chapters. These specialists support their chapters with chapter operations, recruitment, risk management, and member development topics and also work closely with the Professional Staff to ensure that chapters are functioning efficiently. These volunteers may be alumni, parents, women, or other unaffiliated people who are willing to support our chapters in any way. Phi Kappa Theta Foundation Phi Kappa Theta National Foundation is a separate entity from the National Fraternity. The National Foundation is a 501(c)3 educational foundation and was established in 1954, through the generosity of Brother Paul Galvin (Illinois ’14). Brother Galvin was President and Founder of the Motorola Corporation. His vision for establishing the Foundation was to provide an organization that would be able to promote scholastic excellence in the chapters and colonies and among their collegiate members. Today, the National Foundation continues to solicit funds that can be awarded in the form of grants to help support collegiate Brothers attend the educational programs of the Fraternity. Specifically, the Foundation provides educational grants that allow the Fraternity to coordinate our Regional Leadership Conferences. Additionally, the Foundation works directly with alumni and collegiate chapters to establish chapter designated funds to directly benefit their respective chapter’s educational programs. Be sure to ask your chapter if they have a designated fund through the National Foundation. PKT Properties Properties, originally founded as the Fraternity’s entity that purchased and leased real estate for fraternity houses, has evolved its services to become an educational arm of Phi Kappa Theta Fraternity. PKT Properties

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training programs were designed to educate our members in the areas of prevention and crisis management. From 2007 - 2010, PKT Properties evolved its services and focused its resources on providing safety workshops related to alcohol consumption, physical property safety and hazing. In the summer of 2010, PKT Properties voted to resolve itself and become an entity of the National Fraternity. The Fraternity’s Network Throughout Fraternity history, the bonds of brotherhood and a strong network have been some of the strongest arguments for becoming a member of any fraternity. During your own recruitment you were probably told that one of the benefits of our Brotherhood was the presence of a fraternal network. Historically that network has consisted of personal relationships and the ability to find alumni throughout the country. While our traditional network still exists, technology has allowed us to redefine our network, allowing members to engage in new ways. Professional Networking LinkedIN: While there are many ways to connect online, LinkedIn has become the central location for Brothers to connect professionally. There are over 1600 collegiate and alumni who are actively engaging within Phi Kappa Theta’s Professional Network group on LinkedIn. Search Linkedin Groups for “Phi Kappa Theta’s Professional Network” to become a member. Social Networking Facebook: The Fraternity manages several official pages on Facebook. You can find our Facebook Page by searching for “Phi Kappa Theta Fraternity, Inc”. We also have created a “Phi Kaps Care” page that allows members and guests to share information and news about Brothers who are actively serving their communities. Twitter: Stay connected with Phi Kappa Theta on a daily basis. Subscribe to the Phi Kappa Theta Twitter: www.twitter.com/ phikappatheta and connect with brothers all over the country.

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YouTube: The Phi Kappa Theta YouTube channel gives members a moving glimpse inside the world of our Fraternity. From event announcements to Professional Staff messages, stay connect and hear the voice of Phi Kappa Theta. www.youtube.com/ PhiKappaTheta1959 Other Phi Kappa Theta Resources National Website: The National website is always the first place to look when you are searching for all things Phi Kappa Theta related. There you will find information and resources related to our Mission and Vision, find where Phi Kappa Theta is located throughout the country and where to purchase Phi Kappa Theta licensed merchandise. Visit us at www.phikaps.org. Online Development Center: Phi Kappa Theta recognizes that Brothers must have access to our educational materials and resources when it is convenient to them. To address this need, the Fratenrity has created an Online Development Center through Bloomfire. The Development Center not only provides educational resources to help individual members, but relevant membership forms and training materials essential for chapters to successfully operate. The types of resources varying from word documents, instructional videos, PowerPoint presentations, and interactive e-learning modules. These e-learning modules are short, online classes with interactive components that members can take as they wish. Many resources on our Online Development Center are free to members. Individuals may also choose to subscribe on a month-to-month basis to gain access to additional development materials. Visit phikaps.bloomfire.com

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Chapter Organizational Structure Much like the National Organization, collegiate chapters operate under an organizational structure to ensure that all projects are delegated appropriately and that there can be levels of accountability in the chapter to ensure smooth operations. We think of the officer structure like we would for a company. The company, or chapter in this instance, is broken down into departments. We have five areas of development, therefore we have five departments with five department heads: the Vice President Fraternal Development, Vice President Intellectual Development, Vice President Leadership Development, Vice President Social Development, and Vice President Spiritual Development. Those Vice Presidents each manage their area and some will even have other members working under them in smaller roles that fit inside that area. For example, the Vice President of Spiritual Development is in charge of both developing the members spiritually and introducing programming and activities to the chapter to help them learn, but that department is also responsible for all things Ritual. A chapter with more members who wish to take on leadership roles may have a chairman who oversees Ritual who works under the Vice President of Spiritual Development. Of course, all of the department heads report to somebody and in our case that is the Chapter President. The President has his own small set of responsibilities, but his major role is to ensure that the other departments are running smoothly and to help manage people and deal with crisis situations. The President and Vice Presidents do not work alone, as they also have advisors who work with them and their department. These advisors may or may not be members of Phi Kappa Theta and some may even be women. They provide support, coaching, and mentoring to chapter members to help them make smart decisions and provide support to the chapter.

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Board of Directors

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VP Leadership Development (Educational Programs)

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VP Social Development (Risk Management)

VP Fraternal Development (Finances)

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Recruitment

Community Chair

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Alumni Involvement

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VP Spiritual Development

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Parliamentary Procedure Part of being an efficient chapter, in addition to having a sound organizational structure, is running effective meetings. The best way to do this is to utilize parliamentary procedure. While there are many resources you can utilize to understand this procedure, below is a chart that will help you navigate utilizing pro’s, con’s, and making motions.

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Alumni Involvement Alumni involvement is a great way to extend “You have a the fraternal experience for many collegiate members and, perhaps more importantly, is commitment to an opportunity for you to continue to remain society and your engaged in the Fraternity as mentors, peer trainers, and teachers. There are countless brothers and ways that you can remain engaged in the the community Fraternity after graduation. There are countless opportunities at a National level, throughout the such as volunteering to be a presenter at a world.� conference, serving as a chapter advisor, or even helping to write this book. There are many great examples of alumni engagement that can be found in simply being a part of the local alumni chapter/board or assisting with philanthropic projects that involve multiple chapters in a province. Imagine, for instance, a group of alumni and collegians launch new volunteer projects and involve even more fraternity men or chapters in the process. This is just what happened when chapters and alumni coordinated their efforts and went to one of the poorest cities in America to tear-down a derelict building in a residential neighborhood. Phi Kaps also helped bring clean water systems to Guatemalan communities. Not only did participants propose ideas for creating new volunteer opportunities, but they received training in project management, media outreach, and international community awareness.

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What roles can—and do—alumni initiatives play in sustaining local projects and their impact? How alumni can contribute to local projects: • Publicizing the project in their regions • Recruiting new alumni/community participants • Mentoring current participants • Serving as trainers and facilitators • Contributing to a project’s sustainability through continuing their efforts and forming regional and national networks • Providing a mechanism for tracking alumni • Developing joint projects; fundraising as a group

“Why do you choose to stay involved with Phi Kappa Theta?” I am proud to have a seamless relationship with Phi Kappa Theta. From the moment when I began to learn more about our Fraternity to today as an alumnus member, Phi Kappa Theta has helped to guide my life. The lessons I have learned about service and leadership occur whenever I work with or meet a Phi Kap Brother. Even as an alumnus leader, I have learned valuable lessons that have enhanced my skills. It has given me an opportunity to grow and learn. Phi Kappa Theta has provided me the chance to learn more about running/planning a meeting, creating and managing a budget, and presenting ideas in a public forum. Our Fraternity has given a forum to practice and improve those skills. ­­— Kevin Lampe (Western Illinois, ‘83)

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For me, lifelong participation in Phi Kappa Theta makes sense: we talk about it in Ritual and the organization provides a meaningful experience for anyone over the course of their life. My involvement is a continued effort to align my personal actions with the values of the organization. — Dan Bureau (University of New Hampshire, ‘94) When a member first joins, the attitude would be, understandably, “What’s in it for me?” After you are a member you start to say “How can I make this place better?” In chapters that are mutually supportive and mutually beneficial, the collegiate member can see the benefits of his hard work. When you are a senior and have a chance to look back, you realize what a significant and instrumental part Fraternity membership has been to your growth and development. I have always believed in the mission of the Fraternity and have continuously found my involvement worthwhile. I want the organization to continue to be worthwhile and provide our newest members with an even better experience. — Greg Stein (CCNY, ‘70) Phi Kappa Theta provided many opportunities for me while I was a collegiate member. As an alumnus, it continues to provide opportunities for me due to my involvement and support of the Fraternity’s mission and initiatives. — Lenny Chan (Slippery Rock, ‘95)

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“First off it’s a natural continuation of the experience and the motto ‘Give Expecting Nothing Thereof’. For me joining the Fraternity and being involved in it for the four years as a collegian was an overwhelmingly positive experience. The life-long friendships I made, the social activities, the selfgovernance, the functioning as a democratic group were all great life lessons that I carried directly into my work and personal life beyond college. I continue to stay involved and make new friends within the Brotherhood and that enriches my life. The collegiate members that I work with sometimes misunderstand why I am so involved. They think that I want ‘it to be the same experience that I had’. This is incorrect. What I want is for them to have the same positive experience. Clearly times, people, expectations, and laws are different now. I just want them to have a positive experience; one that makes them want to be a brother for life.” — Scott Nogueira (RPI, ‘86) I guess the bottom line of why I stay involved with Phi Kappa Theta is that I truly believe in its mission, especially as it relates to developing young college men to serve society, Fraternity, and God in the communities where they will live after they graduate. Those college years are the optimal time to inculcate in those young men the leadership habits they will need to make them better husbands, better fathers, and better civic leaders where ever they go. — Rob Stalder (Case Western, ‘94)

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CHAPTER 04 >Intellectual Development

Phi Kappa Theta attracts intellectually motivated men who share a passion for lifelong knowledge, learning and development. Phi Kappa Theta exceeds average GPAs and graduation rates of our host institutions by providing an intellectually stimulating environment and consistent standards of academic performance. Phi Kappa Theta challenges members to maximize their lifelong personal and professional development.

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Academics should be the main priority for students while attending school and it is for that reason that Phi Kappa Theta places importance on academic excellence. Phi Kappa Theta membership as well as other campus and personal obligations can add additional pressures, but it is our expectation that membership in Phi Kappa Theta will assist you in achieving your academic goals. In addition, Phi Kappa Theta places importance on the concept of life-long learning. We provide experiences and opportunities for our members to learn life-skills, as well as to gain knowledge in various non-classroom areas of interest. Time Management Phi Kappa Theta membership offers benefits such as programs, brotherhood events, and the ability to hold a leadership role. With those benefits however, often come a larger time commitment and an increasingly tight schedule. With good time management and the ability to set priorities, you should be able to manage your commitments appropriately. Below are some tips and resources to help you manage your time as a student and member of Phi Kappa Theta. • Make a master schedule at the beginning of each semester with all of your classes and weekly mandatory meetings and events. Keep this posted somewhere where you can easily see. • Don’t be afraid to say no. Nobody can do it all, and if you really don’t have time to do something, simply say so. • Make daily to-do lists and use a method to prioritize those tasks. • In addition to prioritizing daily tasks, prioritize what is important to you. Use this to analyze your time. By deciding what is important to you, it will help you make decisions when faced with time conflicts. • Get a planner and actually use it. Take all tests and assignments from your syllabus and write them in immediately. This way you will know in advance if you have a heavy week coming up.

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• Learn what time of day you work best and use it to your advantage when making a schedule. • Don’t forget to schedule in meals and downtime for yourself. • Spend some time thinking about the timewasters in your life. Is it checking Facebook? Lengthy meetings? Identify these and come up with strategies to minimize their impact on your productivity. • Stay organized. The less clutter you have, the easier it is to start projects. • Break down large assignments or projects into smaller more attainable goals. It will be easier for you to get started and not procrastinate. • Find someone you know who manages his time well and ask for his advice. And finally… • Find what works for you. Use these tips as starting advice, but find the methods that work best in your life.

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Academic Resources Below you will find personal resources to help you achieve success academically. In addition to these tools, most campuses offer a variety of workshops on time management, note taking, test preparation as well as offering options for tutoring and assisting you with writing academic papers and essays. Taking advantage of opportunities presented to you is a large step towards academic success at the college level. Learning Styles Assessment This assessment will help you figure out what your preferred learning style is. When you know this, you can compensate by studying and gathering information in the way that helps you learn best. http://people.usd.edu/~bwjames/tut/learning-style/stylest.html

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Goal Setting Worksheet This worksheet provides you a place to set your goal, as well as to consider the things that will help or hinder your progress towards it. http://www.lehigh.edu/~inacsup/cas/pdfs/GoalSettingWorksheet.pdf

-From Lehigh University

Communicating with Professors Tips for communicating with Professors. Includes office hours, how to make it productive and building a relationship. http://uconnect.unst.pdx.edu/taxonomy/term/46

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GPA Calculator This tool allows you to calculate not only your GPA based on current grades, but allows you to do to calculations to see what is needed to raise your GPA with an extra calculator located at the bottom of the page. This is for schools that are using standard GPA reporting procedures. http://www.back2college.com/gpa.htm

Fraternity and Sorority Honor Societies Being a member of a fraternity offers a wide variety of benefits, one of them being opportunities for recognition. Currently there are two major academic honor societies in the fraternity and sorority community. Gamma Sigma Alpha accepts juniors or seniors who have a cumulative GPA of 3.5 or higher. http://gammasigmaalpha.org/

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Order of Omega membership is limited to juniors and seniors and recognizes the top 3% of fraternity and sorority members. http://www.orderofomega.org/

In addition, your campus will offer a variety of academic honor societies in different majors and departments and is a great way for you to both be recognized as well as to continue your academic pursuits. If your campus has neither of these honor societies, why not talk to the campus Greek advisor to get one started?

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Life Skills Resources As the introduction to this section expressed, intellectual development is about becoming a lifelong learner and continuing to seek opportunities to grow. This is extremely broad as every member comes in with a different base knowledge and set of skills, but below are some resources that may be of interest. It is Phi Kappa Theta’s expectation that you use these resources as well as your classroom experiences to discover other areas that you have personal interest in. A website focused on all things for men. Health, grooming, cooking, sports, relationships. Lots of practical advice and interesting articles. http://artofmanliness.com/

A free personal budgeting website. Financial and personal money management advice, tools and calculators. www.mint.com

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A website with information on almost every topic! Learn how to pick out a new tire, how the ipad works, or how social security works! http://www.howstuffworks.com/

Lowe’s has a video library with videos on topics such as grill and lawnmower maintenance, how to replace a ceiling fan, toilet, or faucet, how to lay tile, and how to be more energy efficient. http://www.lowescreativeideas.com/idea-library/videos/Video_Gallery. aspx

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Health, fitness, diet and lifestyle information. http://www.livestrong.com/

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CHAPTER 05 >Leadership Development

Phi Kappa Theta actively develops the next generation of business, professional, and civic leaders by providing real world experience. Campus organizations, communities and employers worldwide seek Phi Kappa Theta members because they are ethical, value based, and socially responsible leaders. Phi Kappa Theta leaders are known for their ability to inspire and serve others, take intelligent risks, and learn from their mistakes. Phi Kappa Theta is recognized as society’s leadership incubator. 61


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You will learn as you progress through your experience in Phi Kappa Theta that you will be surrounded by multiple opportunities for leadership as well as resources and training that will help cultivate you as a leader. Phi Kappa Theta strives to create servant leaders who serve society, Fraternity, and God. Servant leadership is a practical philosophy where people serve first, in their life and work. As a way of expanding that service, they choose to lead, whether in a formal position or not. In either capacity, they encourage collaboration, trust, foresight, listening, and the ethical use of power. h t t p : / / w w w. y o u t u b e . c o m / watch?v=IrCeVwwu0Xc The 1984 Nobel Peace Laureate Desmond Tutu discusses servant leadership and its importance.

National Convention The Biennial Convention of Phi Kappa Theta happens every other year and brings together over 140 alumni and undergraduate members of the fraternity to elect new leadership, discuss key issues, discuss legislation, honor alumni, recog足nize outstanding chapters and build upon the bonds of brother足hood. Leadership Institute In the off Convention years, the Fraternity hosts a national Leadership Institute that all chapters and alumni are invited to attend. The Institute features numerous workshops

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and discussions on fraternal values, leadership and advising, and includes networking opportunities, an exemplification of our Ritual and a recognition banquet recognizing the highest performing chapters of the past year. Regional Leadership Conferences Regional Leadership Conferences offer collegiate members the opportunity to gain valuable experiences through interactive workshops from some of the best facilitators within Phi Kappa Theta’s (iServe) Network. Regional Leadership Conferences allow members to build connections to members of chapters within a specific geographic location all while receiving great developmental workshops and activities designed by the Fraternity.

Eastern 1 Regional Leadership Conference Eastern 2 Regional Leadership Conference East Central Regional Leadership Conference West Central Regional Leadership Conference

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All of our educational conferences work to provide relevant training that helps officers feel more prepared for their roles, but more importantly, our members to be better men. In the last few years Phi Kappa Theta has worked to lessen the operational training and increase the skills training and personal development work with our members. We strongly believe that better men build a better chapter and if our members can make smart decisions and live positive lives, then they will successfully fulfill our Mission and Vision. What are some Leadership Development opportunities on your campus? __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ Servant Leadership Servant Leadership is at the very core of everything we believe in. The phrase “Servant Leadership” was coined by Robert K. Greenleaf in The Servant as Leader, an essay that he first published in 1970. In that essay, he said: “The servant-leader is servant first… It begins with the natural feeling that one wants to serve, to serve first. Then conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead. That person is sharply different from one who is leader first, perhaps because of the need to assuage an unusual power drive or to acquire material possessions…The leader-first and the servant-first are two extreme types. Between them there are shadings and blends that are part of the infinite variety of human nature.” “The difference manifests itself in the care taken by the servant-first to make sure that other people’s highest priority needs are being served. The best test, and difficult to administer, is: Do those served grow as persons? Do they, while being served, become healthier, wiser, freer,

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more autonomous, more likely themselves to become servants? And, what is the effect on the least privileged in society? Will they benefit or at least not be further deprived?� In 2011 a partnership was formed between Phi Kappa Theta and the Greenleaf Center for Servant Leadership. The partnership results in educational programming at conferences for members as well as access to resources at a discounted price from the Greenleaf Center. Visit www. greenleaf.org for more information and resources.

Credible Leadership If you are able to increase your skill in displaying these five quality characteristics, you will make it easier for people to want to follow you. The less time you have to spend on getting others to follow you, the more time you have to spend refining exactly where you want to go and how to get there. These leadership traits are: 1. Honest 2. Forward-Looking 3. Competent 4. Inspiring 5. Intelligent Honesty as a Leadership Trait People want to follow an honest leader. Years ago, many people started out

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by assuming that their leaders were honest simply because the authority of their position. With modern scandals, this is no longer true of. Forward-Looking as a Leadership Trait The whole point of leadership is figuring out where to go from where you are now. While you may know where you want to go, people won’t see that unless you actively communicate it with them. Remember, these traits aren’t just things you need to have, they are things you need to actively display to those around you. When a leader doesn’t have a vision for the future, it usually because they are spending so much time on today, that they haven’t really thought about tomorrow. On a very simplistic level this can be solved simply by setting aside some time for planning, strategizing and thinking about the future. Competency as a Leadership Trait People want to follow someone who is competent. This doesn’t mean a leader needs to be the foremost expert on every area of the entire organization, but they need to be able to demonstrate competency. Like the other traits, it isn’t enough for a leader to be competent. They must demonstrate competency in a way that people notice. This can be a delicate balance. There is a danger of drawing too much attention to yourself in a way that makes the leader seem arrogant. Another potential danger is that of minimizing others’ contributions and appearing to take credit for the work of others. Inspiration as a Leadership Trait People want to be inspired. In fact, there is a whole class of people who will follow an inspiring leader–even when the leader has no other qualities. Being inspiring is usually just a matter of communicating clearly and with passion. Being inspiring means telling people how your organization is going to affect change.

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Intelligence as a Leadership Trait To develop intelligence you need to commit to continual learning–both formally and informally. For the most part, people “Leadership and learning will notice if you are intelligent by observing are indispensable to each your behavior and attitude. other.” Trying to display your intelligence is likely to be — John Fitzgerald Kennedy counterproductive. One of the greatest signs of someone who is truly intelligent is humility. The greater your education, the greater your understanding of how little we really understand. The Five Practices of Exemplary Leadership Kouzes and Posner are authors and researchers on the topic of leadership and leadership Model The Way, Inspire a Shared development. They have done research and written many Vision, Challenge the Process, books and manuals helping us Enable Other to Act, and better understand leadership practices and how to be Encourage the Heart. successful. In their research, Kouzes and Posner studied what people were doing when they were at their personal best as leaders and translated the various action, attitudes, tactics, and strategies into a set of statements about leadership behavior. These statements have been compiled into what we call the LPI or Leadership Practices Inventory. From this inventory, it was discovered that there are five practices for exemplary leaders: Model The Way, Inspire a Shared Vision, Challenge the Process, Enable Other to Act, and Encourage the Heart.

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Modeling the Way Studies show that this style will result in the most success. Leaders and organizations have a high set of moral standards or values, by which the organization or leader is measured by. Leaders stand up for their beliefs and show, by their own example, how others should behave. They do what they ask others to do. Do What You Say You Will Do is a guiding principal for those who utilize this “The task of the style. When you ask members leader is to get his leadership to do something or act a certain way, people from where modeling the way, or doing what you you will do, will heavily decrease the they are to where say opportunities for others to consider you a hypocrite. they have not

been.” — Henry Kissinger

Inspire a Shared Vision A leader’s vision is insufficient to create organized movement. Leaders must enlist others in a common vision by appealing to their values, interests, hopes, and dreams so that others clearly understand and accept the vision as their own. Leaders breathe life into their vision with strong appeals and quiet persuasion, generating excitement for a common vision. They see a future full or possibilities. Challenge the Process Challenge is the opportunity for greatness, as maintaining the status quo breeds mediocrity. Most innovations, however, do not come directly from the leader. Leaders realize that good ideas come from the ears – not the mouth. Leadership is closely associated with change and innovation; the quest for change is an adventure and the training ground for leaders. For leaders to get the best from themselves and others, they must find the task enjoyable and rewarding. Finding ways to

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get out of imaginary boundaries of organizational convention, convincing themselves that the impossible is possible, is challenging the process. Enable Others to Act Leaders know that they can’t do it alone – it takes partners to do extraordinary things. Leaders create a feeling of mutual trust and respect. They build teams that feel like a family and make people feel like owners and not hired hands. Getting people to work together takes cooperative goals and sustaining trusting relationships. Leaders make sure that when they win, everybody wins. Empowering others is essentially the process of turning followers into leaders themselves. Encourage the Heart Leaders give their heart by visibly recognizing people’s contributions to the common vision. They express pride in the accomplishments of the team and make people feel like heroes by telling others about what they have accomplished. Leaders often have high expectations of both themselves and their constituents. They provide clear direction, substantial encouragement, personal attention, and meaningful feedback. They make people feel like winners and winners like to continue to raise the stakes. Fraternity is the essence of leadership. The opportunities for personal growth and development within a fraternity are extraordinary. Fraternity provides individuals with the opportunity to lead a collective action grounded in the shared values of people who work together to affect positive change.

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“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” — John Quincy Adams


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>Communication and Conflict

Conflict in any relationship is virtually inevitable. In itself, conflict isn’t a problem; how it’s handled, however, can bring people together or tear them apart. Poor communication skills, disagreements and misunderstandings can be a source of anger and distance, or a springboard to a stronger relationship and happier future. Next time you’re dealing with conflict, keep these tips on effective communication skills in mind and you can create a more positive outcome. Here’s How: 1. Stay Focused: Sometimes it’s tempting to bring up past seemingly related conflicts when dealing with current ones. Unfortunately, this often clouds the issue and makes finding mutual understanding and a solution to the current issue less likely, and makes the whole discussion more taxing and even confusing. Try not to bring up past hurts or other topics. Stay focused on the present, your feelings, understanding one another and finding a solution. 2. Listen Carefully: People often think they’re listening, but are really thinking about what they’re going to say next when the other person stops talking. Truly effective communication goes both ways. While it might be difficult, try really listening to what your partner is saying. Don’t interrupt. Don’t get defensive. Just hear them and reflect back what they’re saying so they know you’ve heard. Then you’ll understand them better and they’ll be more willing to listen to you. 3. Try To See Their Point of View: In a conflict, most of us primarily want to feel heard and understood. We talk a lot about our point of view to get the other person to see things our way. Ironically, if we all do this all the time, there’s little focus on the other person’s point of view, and nobody feels understood. Try to really see the other side, and then you can better explain yours. (If you don’t ‘get it’, ask more questions until you do.) Others will more likely be willing to listen if they feel heard.

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4. Respond to Criticism with Empathy: When someone comes at you with criticism, it’s easy to feel that they’re wrong, and get defensive. While criticism is hard to hear, and often exaggerated or colored by the other person’s emotions, it’s important to listen for the other person’s pain and respond with empathy for their feelings. Also, look for what’s true in what they’re saying; that can be valuable information for you. 5. Own What’s Yours: Realize that personal responsibility is a strength, not a weakness. Effective communication involves admitting when you’re wrong. If you both share some responsibility in a conflict (which is usually the case), look for and admit to what’s yours. It diffuses the situation, sets a good example, and shows maturity. It also often inspires the other person to respond in kind, leading you both closer to mutual understanding and a solution. 6. Use “I” Messages: Rather than saying things like, “You really messed up here,” begin statements with “I”, and make them about yourself and your feelings, like, “I feel frustrated when this happens.” It’s less accusatory, sparks less defensiveness, and helps the other person understand your point of view rather than feeling attacked. 7. Look for Compromise: Instead of trying to ‘win’ the argument, look for solutions that meet everybody’s needs. Either through compromise, or a new solution that gives you both what you want most, this focus is much more effective than one person getting what they want at the other’s expense. Healthy communication involves finding a resolution that both sides can be happy with.

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8. Take a Time-Out: Sometimes tempers get heated and it’s just too difficult to continue a discussion without it becoming an argument or a fight. If you feel yourself or your partner starting to get too angry to be constructive, or showing some destructive communication patterns, it’s okay to take a break from the discussion until you both cool off. Sometimes good communication means knowing when to take a break. 9. Don’t Give Up: While taking a break from the discussion is sometimes a good idea, always come back to it. If you both approach the situation with a constructive attitude, mutual respect, and a willingness to see the other’s point of view or at least find a solution, you can make progress toward the goal of a resolution to the conflict. Unless it’s time to give up on the relationship, don’t give up on communication. Tips: 1. Remember that the goal of effective communication skills should be mutual understanding and finding a solution that pleases both parties, not ‘winning’ the argument or ‘being right’. 2. Keep in mind that it’s important to remain respectful of the other person, even if you don’t like their actions.

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Here’s a list of common unhealthy ways to handle conflict. Do you do some of these? If so, your poor communication skills could be causing additional stress in your life. Avoiding Conflict Altogether: Rather than discussing building frustrations in a calm, respectful manner, some people just don’t say anything until they’re ready to explode, and then blurt it out in an angry, hurtful way. This seems to be the less stressful route—avoiding an argument altogether—but usually causes more stress to both parties, as tensions rise, resentments fester, and a much bigger argument eventually results. It’s much healthier to address and resolve conflict. Being Defensive: Rather than addressing a complaint with an objective eye and willingness to understand the other person’s point of view, defensive people steadfastly deny any wrongdoing and work hard to avoid looking at the possibility that they could be contributing to a problem. Denying responsibility may seem to alleviate stress in the short run, but creates long-term problems when others don’t feel listened to and unresolved conflicts continue to grow. Overgeneralizing: When something happens that they don’t like, some blow it out of proportion by making sweeping generalizations. Avoid starting sentences with, “You always…” and “You never…”, stop and think about whether or not this is really true. Being Right: It’s damaging to decide that there’s a ‘right’ way to look at things and a ‘wrong’ way to look at things, and that your way of seeing things is right. Don’t demand that others see things the same way, and don’t take it as a personal attack if they have a different opinion. Look for a compromise or agreeing to disagree, and remember that there’s not always a ‘right’ or a ‘wrong’, and that two points of view can both be valid.

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“Psychoanalyzing” / Mind-Reading: Instead of asking about others’ thoughts and feelings, people sometimes decide that they ‘know’ what others are thinking and feeling based only on faulty interpretations of their actions—and always assume it’s negative! This creates hostility and misunderstandings. Forgetting to Listen: Some people interrupt, roll their eyes, and rehearse what they’re going to say next instead of truly listening and attempting to understand others. This keeps you from seeing their point of view, and keeps them from wanting to see yours. Stonewalling: Sometimes people defensively stonewall, or refuse to talk or listen to others. This shows disrespect while at the same time letting the underlying conflict grow. Stonewalling solves nothing, but creates hard feelings and damages relationships. It’s much better to listen and discuss things in a respectful manner.

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CHAPTER 06 >Social Development

Phi Kappa Theta fosters human development through community service and social interaction. Phi Kappa Theta members are socially engaged, recognizing their responsibility to effect positive change in themselves and others. Phi Kappa Theta’s values are demonstrated through the actions of our members, who better their communities as citizens in a global society.

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>Being a Gentleman

When you hear the word “social” you might think about parties, formals, and mixers. “Social” in this context has a much bigger implication and includes social interactions and impacts of all kinds. It’s an expectation that all Phi Kappa Theta members positively contribute to society through community service and philanthropy and maintain positive social relationships with all members of campus and the local community. Members must treat others with respect and uphold social etiquette standards in all settings. Additionally, our chapters are held responsible for educating their members about risk management safety issues, and social responsibility issues. Being a Gentleman The definition of gentleman is far more encompassing than knowing how to treat a lady or knowing which fork to use at the dinner table. The true definition of a gentleman is: “The man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of other, rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.” — John Walter Wayland A solid understanding of this definition and also the motto of a gentleman, “Inflict no pain” is a necessary function to be successful in proper society.

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Etiquette A solid understanding of the rules of etiquette is a must for a gentleman. Etiquette is a basic set of rules that governs everyday conduct. Some of these rules or courtesies are obvious and others are more complicated. Common courtesies A man rises when a woman enters or leaves a room and will remain standing as long as she is standing. You should also stand whenever you are being introduced to someone. Remember that no one is to be interrupted when speaking. A gentleman precedes a lady downstairs, gets off a bus before her, and leads her across a crowded room. A woman is escorted on the right and seated on the right of her escort. The only time a woman would be escorted on the left is if walking down a sidewalk, as woman should not be closest to the street in case a car was to hit a puddle and splash her. You must always say ‘please’ and ‘thank you.’ If you should happen to accidentally touch or bump someone, say ‘excuse me.’ If you should hiccup or accidentally offend someone say, ‘pardon me.’ You should always open a door for anyone who is within six feet of you. You should also go first in a revolving door to get it moving for others. Invitations Always respond to an RSVP (Repondez, s’il vous plait) invitation immediately after you receive it, in writing, if the invitation is in writing. Never issue an invitation to anyone without intending to pay that person’s bill. Weekend/holiday guests It is proper to take a small, inexpensive gift to the host or hostess. These might include a plant, candy, notepaper, or bottle of wine. Do not make long distance telephone calls from your guest’s home. Never stay longer than the time for which you were invited.

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Dining Proper table etiquette is Informal a necessity for all, as it separates us from the animal kingdom. It will become increasingly important as you advance outside the university. When you attend a dinner party do not sit until the guest of honor and all ladies present are seated; simply stand behind Formal your chair. Wait until your hostess places her napkin in her lap, and then follow her lead. If you have a smaller napkin, unfold it entirely. If it is a larger napkin, place it in your lap folded in half lengthwise with the crease away from your body. Food should be served from the left and dirty dishes are removed from the right. Food is only passed to the right. Remember, you are not a chipmunk, thus, no one wants to see your cheeks bulging because you have crammed so much food into your mouth. When cutting/consuming your food, remember that birds flap their wings and we keep our elbows close to our sides. When dealing with silverware remember to start from the outside and work your way inwards. Review the place setting diagram to familiarize yourself with a full place setting.

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There are accepted styles pertaining to the use of silverware. They are the American style and the Continental style. With the American style, the fork is in the left hand and the knife is in the right. Food is cut and then the knife is placed at the top of the plate, blade facing you. The fork is moved to the right hand and eating continues. With the continental style, the fork is in the left hand and the knife is in the right throughout the entire meal. The knife is not placed at the top of the plate as in the American style. When you are finished eating, place your fork and knife next to each other at approximately five o’clock on your dinner plate. Your napkin must remain in your lap during the meal. If you absolutely have to leave the table, place your loosely folded napkin on the seat of your chair. The napkin is placed upon the table when all have finished dining. The napkin is not a bib and should not be soiled at the conclusion of the meal. If your napkin is heavily soiled then you have dined like a slob. Use the napkin to blot your mouth before you take a sip from any drinking glass. This is done to ensure that no unsightly food remains on the rim of the glass. Always taste your food first; if you need to season, ask for the salt and pepper. When you are passing the shakers, always pass both as a set. If you discreetly remove something from your mouth, use the same method to remove it as you did to put it in your mouth. When you are dining, it is important to remember not to stack your dishes when you have finished eating, nor should you push them away from yourself. You must not table hop, and elbows remain off the table. If you are hosting a dinner at a restaurant, you should suggest a higher priced item on the menu for your guests. The reason for doing this is to let them know that they need not worry about the cost. If you are a guest and your host does not suggest a higher priced item, then order a medium priced dish. When hosting a dinner at a restaurant, remember that you should be seated to the left of the guest of honor. As the host, it is also your duty to order the wine. Generally one orders white wine with fish, poultry, and veal, and red with meat and game. Do not hesitate to ask your guests if they have a preference. Tipping in a restaurant is essential. The general rule is 18-20% of the bill, where 20% is reserved for excellent service. If you use the wine steward’s services it is acceptable to tip him/her several dollars per bottle or 15% in a very nice establishment. Try to tip the coat

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check at least one dollar for the first garment and fifty cents per garment thereafter. The valet also deserves at least a few dollars at the end of the evening. If you cannot tip properly then you have no business going to a restaurant. If your evening was enjoyable and your service was good be certain to compliment the staff. The Use of Cellular Telephones The use of cell phones is strictly prohibited when you are with others. It is rude and offensive to use your telephone while a clerk is providing you service in a store or while you are socializing. This includes text messaging. If you are expecting to be contacted for an emergency (for example, a loved one is in the hospital) then be sure to let those you are socializing or dining with know in advance and keep the phone on vibrate. A phone should not be used at all, while operating a motor vehicle. It is dangerous to you and others and, therefore, selfish of you to not take others safety into consideration. If you must make a telephone call, then pull your vehicle over to a safe location. Conversation When having a conversation with someone, try to understand his/her point of view and make him or her feel at ease. Do not allow a person who attacks you verbally to provoke you into responding in kind. Your mood should fit the mood of the occasion. No one likes the solemnity of a Sunday at church at an outdoor barbecue. Learn to guide the conversation to a more positive topic, if talk has become depressing or uncomfortable. When conversing, try to learn about the person with whom you are speaking by asking questions that begin with who, what, where, when and why. Do not be silent, join the conversation, but do not monopolize or lecture others. Use simple language that all of the group can understand- don’t speak above the education level of the others in the group. It is never appropriate to speak ill of other people or to talk about argumentative subjects. Introductions There are three types of introductions. The first is between men and women, the second between individuals of the same sex, and the third between an individual and a group. Remember to always mention first the

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name of the person to whom deference is being shown. It is an honor for a man to be introduced to a woman. Therefore, the introduction is made in the following manner: Mrs. Brown, may I introduce Mr. Smith? When introducing two individuals, always introduce the person of higher status to the other. For example, you introduce a student to a professor. A younger person is always introduced to an older individual. When you are introduced to someone remember that your handshake is an expression of friendliness; it lets the other person know that you are glad to see him. Your grip should be firm but not vise-like; no one wants their fingers broken. Your handshake is as expressive of your personality as your clothes and your speech. Remember that your handshake is the first impression that someone will have of you. You must shake hands whenever anyone extends his/her hand to you. A younger gentleman should wait for an older to extend his hand. Especially for ladies, it is the woman who takes the initiative in handshaking when men and women are introduced to each other. Business etiquette In addition to the courtesies and rules listed in the previous section, there are some basics in the business world. In addition to this section you should contact your university placement office for further advice and assistance. It is appropriate for men to wear single-breasted suits with long sleeved white shirts or possibly, a blue shirt. Your trousers should match the material of your suit jacket; ties and belts must coordinate with the suit. Your suits should be darker in color and conservative. This is a must when you are interviewing! Men should not wear jewelry. French cuff shirts and tab-collared shirts are to be worn only with a complete suit. Cufflinks should be small and conservative. When you attend a function in which you must wear a name tag, be certain to place the name tag on the right side of your suit jacket or shirt.

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There are several ways you can tie a tie or bowtie. Utilize this great online resource that has photos and videos that can help you! http://www.tie-a-tie.net/

When you are preparing for an interview, be certain that you are able to answer questions about yourself. Always research the company that you are interviewing with before you arrive. Be certain to have some questions prepared to ask during the interview. Your resume should be clear and concise, printed on an off white paper, and have a few copies with you at the interview, even if you have previously submitted the resume to the prospective employer. Try to arrive at any interview at least ten minutes prior to the appointment. Make sure you sit up straight in your chair during the interview. Be yourself, relax, speak clearly and intelligently, and smile! ALWAYS send a hand-written thank you note immediately after an interview. The necessity of this cannot be stressed enough!

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Be on time, a little early is fine. Too early shows bad time management skills and puts your hosts/interviewer at a disadvantage. Be courteous to EVERYONE, hold doors, check for those running for an elevator, give up your seat, let someone in an obvious hurry take your place in line… you never know who they might turn out to be. Take as little ‘baggage’ with you, the more you carry the more you’ll have to juggle while shaking hands, touring the facility, and ‘storing’ during lunch or a meeting. Carry few essentials and an easy to hold portfolio or briefcase. Be open, friendly, polite, use active listening and speaking techniques, have some good conversation starters, and smile! When offered hospitality, accept a minimum, don’t make heavy demands on support staff. When invited to stay longer, adding a lunch or dinner to your day for example, then accept gracefully as long as it still works with your schedule. Be realistic if the timing doesn’t work. At a meal, choose wisely, pick easy to eat familiar foods, nothing too pricey and something that will allow you to be poised, graceful and attentive to your hosts and not buried in your plate. Error on the side of caution when it comes to alcohol. If your host offers a glass of wine with the meal and your comfort level is good, then by all means accept, but never feel pressured. Watch your host for cues on when to begin eating etc. or if you’re unsure of your silverware… remember work from the outside in, and your bread plate is left while beverage is right. Be gracious in your thanks for a meal, but be prepared to pay your way or offer to step in and assist with the check. If you’re inviting then expect to pay! Follow up promptly with requests for further information and so forth, send a thank-you (handwritten and timely generally trumps most other methods).


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Philanthropy “Give Expecting Nothing Thereof” is the motto of Phi Kappa Theta. In keeping true to our motto, we encourage all of our chapters and members to participate in events and activities that raise money for charity which are called philanthropic events. Phi Kappa Theta’s National Philanthropic partner since 1997 has been the Children’s Miracle Network (CMN). We ask that every single chapter hold at least one event that raises money for CMN. Children’s Miracle Network raises funds for more than 170 children’s hospitals. Countless individuals, organizations and media partners unite with Children’s Miracle Network hospitals to help sick and injured kids in local communities. Donations to Children’s Miracle Network create miracles by funding medical care, research and education that saves and improves the lives of 17 million children each year. Every child deserves the hope and healing of children’s hospitals. With the help of a Children’s Miracle Network hospital in their community, children of all ages and backgrounds can receive treatment for every imaginable disease and injury—from asthma and broken bones to cancer and heart defects. Children’s hospitals are also on the front lines of research, education and outreach programs that keep millions of kids out of the hospital each year. http://www.childrensmiraclenetwork.org/

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In addition to CMN, Phi Kappa Theta members have strong relationships with Relay for Life and Movember. http://us.movember.com/

http://www.relayforlife.org/

Just as Phi Kappa Theta chapters host philanthropy events for charity, other groups or organizations on your campus will as well. We encourage you to participate in as many philanthropic events as you can because chances are those people will be likely to participate in yours when the chapter plans an event. Plus, it’s a great way to positively represent the chapter.

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Community Service Philanthropies are events where you raise money for charity, and community service is where you give your time to a cause which directly and positively impacts an organization or person. There are so many great service opportunities that you can participate in both through Phi Kappa Theta and on your own. Find an opportunity to give back to your community in a way that interests you. For example, if you like children, then try volunteering with Big Brothers Big Sisters or mentoring for an after school programming. Making a positive impact on others can also have a positive affect how you feel about yourself. The following sites allow you to register, or search for service opportunities in your area or by your interest. http://www.volunteermatch.org/

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Risk Management & Safety A major part of being in a Fraternity is social responsibility. Yes, you will have fun. Yes, you will go to parties, but doing these things responsibly are what is important for your safety, the safety of those around, and your reputation. Phi Kappa Theta chapters all pay an insurance premium which fluctuates based on risk management issues. Each chapter and its members are required to follow FIPG risk management policies as well as all local, state, and federal laws. As long as chapters and members abide by these policies, they will be protected by the insurance coverage. However, if there is an incident no matter how small, and it is determined that the chapter has not followed these policies, then the chapter will not be covered in the case of a lawsuit. Risk Management topics include hazing; fire, health, and safety; alcohol and drugs; and sexual abuse and harassment. The Fraternity has a strict no tolerance policy for hazing. The definition of hazing as well as the rest of the FIPG policies can be found on the bottom of their website. http://www.fipg.org/

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http://www.frmtltd.org/

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CHAPTER 07 >Spiritual Development

Phi Kappa Theta Brothers explore their natural curiosity about spirituality and individual purpose. Phi Kappa Theta’s Ritual is a guide to help men develop spiritually. Phi Kappa Theta embraces its Catholic heritage, welcomes diversity, and embodies the moral values upon which it was established.

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You have already read that Phi Kappa Theta was founded as a Catholic Fraternity. In 1967 at the Biennial Convention, it was voted to remove the clause from the Constitution that stated that you must be Catholic to join our organization. Since then, Phi Kappa Theta has become a spiritually diverse organization with members who believe in many things when it comes to spirituality and religion. Often times when we talk about spiritual development, people get the fear that we want our members to push certain beliefs or religions on others. That is not the case. As you can see from the End State on the page to your left, we wish for our chapters and our organization to be a place where people can explore, ask questions, and learn. We also expect that though we are not a Catholic Fraternity, our members pay homage to our founding and acknowledge that at one point we were a Catholic Fraternity because Catholics were being excluded from membership into other Greek organizations. Spirituality vs. Religion Many people have a tendency to associate spirituality with religion. This association leads to either a quick dismissal with the excuses, “I’m not Catholic,” “I’m not religious,” or “I’m not into that Jesus stuff.” Or people also try to count one for the other by saying things like “Well I go to church,” or “I went to Catholic school,” or “I talk to religious people or help out at religious places.” Spirituality is… > Personal though interacts (expressed through and informed by) with religion > A system of beliefs > A way of viewing the world and making sense of our experiences > An intentional approach to relationships – way of growing in relationships (prayer, worship, service, community engagement, philanthropy, etc.) > Organic and fluid – always growing

Religion is… > Formal expression of communal beliefs • Public devotions, prayer, worship, code of morality > Relies on doctrine, structure, authority > Inherently sets boundaries • Congregations • Membership • Ways of determining in or out

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Looking at distinctive qualities of Spirituality, we could argue that everyone has spirituality. (It does not require religion, though it might be influenced by religion.) Here is an article on living spirituality every day. This website also has some helpful resources and information on spirituality. http://www.spiritualityandpractice.com/everyday-spirituality.html Here is an article on living spirituality every day. This website also has some helpful resources and information on spirituality.

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Morality and Ethics Often times people who are spiritually sound are believed to make smarter decisions. We expect that all members of Phi Kappa Theta will make sound moralistic and ethical decisions every single day. These decisions may be big or small and you may see them as being as insignificant as a slogan on a t-shirt design or as major as standing up against hazing.

Morality — Conformity to the rules of right conduct; moral or virtuous conduct or character.

In some instances, when you are in a situation and you need to make a decision but you also need to ensure its an ethical one, just think of PLUS. The Ethics Resource Center (ERC) has put together two great resources that we are going to share with you. The first is a simple filter that you can use in your decision making process called PLUS. P = Policies Is it consistent with my organization’s policies, procedures and guidelines? L = Legal Is it acceptable under the applicable laws and regulations? U = Universal Does it conform to the universal principles/values my organization has adopted? S = Self Does it satisfy my personal definition of right, good and fair? Filtering your decision with these in mind will ensure that any ethical dilemmas will surface. They will not guarantee that you will make the right decision, but it will help you filter out the ethical and moral issues in your problem.

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PLUS is also an integral part of the second resource, a six step decision making process that you can utilize when making more significant decisions. Step 1 - Define the problem Step 2 - Identify available alternative solutions to the problem Step 3 - Evaluate the identified alternatives Step 4 - Make the decision Step 5 - Implement the decision Step 6 - Evaluate the decision Step 1: Define the problem (PLUS) The most significant step in any decision making process is describing why a decision is called for and identifying the most desired outcome(s) of the decision making process. One way of deciding if a problem exists is to couch the problem in terms of what one wanted or expected and the actual situation.

Ethics — A system of moral principles; that branch of philosophy dealing with values relating to human conduct, with respect to the rightness and wrongness of certain actions and to the goodness and badness of the motives and ends of such actions.

Step 2: Identify available alternative solutions to the problem The key to this step is to not limit yourself to obvious alternatives or what has worked in the past but to be open to new and better alternatives. How many alternatives should you identify? Ideally, all of them. Step 3: Evaluate the identified alternatives (PLUS) As you evaluate each alternative, you should be looking at the likely positive and negative cones for each. It is unusual to find one alternative

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that would completely resolve the problem and is heads and shoulders better than all others. Differences in the “value” of respective alternatives are typically small, relative and a function of the decision maker’s personal perceptions, biases and predispositions. As you consider positive and negative cones you must be careful to differentiate between what you know for a fact and what you believe might be the case. Step 4: Make the decision When acting alone this is the natural next step after selecting the best alternative. When the decision maker is working in a team environment, this is where a proposal is made to the team, complete with a clear definition of the problem, a clear list of the alternatives that were considered and a clear rationale for the proposed solution. Step 5: Implement the decision While this might seem obvious, it is necessary to make the point that deciding on the best alternative is not the same as doing something. The action itself is the first real, tangible step in changing the situation. It is not enough to think about it or talk about it or even decide to do it. A decision only counts when it is implemented. Step 6: Evaluate the decision (PLUS) Every decision is intended to fix a problem. The final test of any decision is whether or not the problem was fixed. Did it go away? Did it change appreciably? Is it better now, or worse, or the same? What new problems did the solution create? © 2009, Ethics Resource Center. Used with permission of the Ethics Resource Center, 2345 Crystal Drive, Suite 201, Arlington, VA 22202, www.ethics.org.

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Phi Kappa Theta Chapter Roll Charter Day Official Designation 04/29/1889 05/16/1912 11/07/1913 03/14/1914 10/02/1915 02/11/1918 01/01/1919 10/01/1919 03/28/1920 04/09/1921 03/24/1922 07/07/1922 01/07/1922 05/09/1922 05/20/1922 05/12/1923 02/15/1924 02/15/1924 05/09/1924 01/31/1925 02/11/1925 02/14/1925 04/09/1925 05/23/1925 06/13/1925 06/25/1925 05/08/1926 02/05/1927 06/01/1927 01/19/1929 02/09/1929 02/01/1930 05/22/1932 01/04/1934 11/10/1935 11/29/1936 05/02/1937 04/14/1938 10/14/1939 05/04/1941 05/31/1941 12/01/1946 11/23/1947 04/10/1948 10/23/1948 03/13/1949 04/10/1949 05/21/1949 12/04/1949 10/21/1950 11/25/1950 04/15/1951 04/29/1951 05/06/1951 05/17/1953 12/11/1954 04/17/1955 02/18/1956 04/08/1956 05/18/1957 11/24/1957

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Rhode Island Alpha Illinois Beta Delta Pennsylvania Beta Gamma Iowa Delta Kansas Epsilon Indiana Zeta Massachusetts Eta Pennsylvania Alpha Ohio Gamma Theta Kansas Iota (Merged – 1959) Missouri Kappa Upsilon Wisconsin Lambda (Merged – 1959) Pennsylvania Mu (Merged – 1959) Michigan Nu Iowa Xi New Hampshire Epsilon Ohio Omicron Pennsylvania Rho Nebraska Pi Ohio Zeta New York Sigma New York Tau New York Eta Maine Upsilon Colorado Phi New York Theta Ohio Psi Pennsylvania Chi District Of Columbia Omega Pennsylvania Iota Oklahoma Kappa Massachusetts Lambda Missouri Mu Oklahoma Nu Louisiana Xi Indiana Alpha Alpha Louisiana Omicron Ohio Alpha Beta Washington Alpha Delta Minnesota Alpha Epsilon Missouri Kappa Kappa Mississippi Rho Massachusetts Sigma Pennsylvania Tau (Merged – 1959) Ohio Phi Wyoming Alpha Zeta New York Alpha Eta Mississippi Chi Oregon Alpha Theta Arizona Alpha Iota Indiana Alpha Kappa Illinois Psi Alabama Alpha Lambda Texas Alpha Mu California Alpha Nu Michigan Omega Pennsylvania Alpha Xi

College Brown University University of Illinois Pennsylvania State University University of Iowa University of Kansas Purdue University Massachusetts Institute of Technology Lehigh University Ohio State University Kansas State University Pennsylvania State University University of Missouri-Columbia University of Wisconsin Ohio State University University of Pittsburgh University of Illinois University of Michigan Iowa State University University of New Hampshire University of Cincinnati Carnegie Mellon University University of Nebraska Ohio Northern University Rensselaer Polytechnic Inst. Syracuse University City College of New York University of Maine University of Denver Cornell University Ohio University Bucknell University Catholic University Temple University University of Oklahoma Worcester Polytechnic Inst. Missouri U. of Science and Tech Oklahoma State University Louisiana State University Indiana University University of Louisiana at Lafayette Case Western Reserve University Washington State University University of Minnesota Saint Louis University Mississippi State University Boston University Saint Francis University University of Missouri-Columbia Kent State University University of Wyoming Manhattan College University of Mississippi Oregon State University University of Arizona Butler University Northern Illinois University Spring Hill College University of Houston Loyola Marymount University Detroit University Duquesne University


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Arizona Alpha Omicron Texas Alpha Pi North Carolina Alpha Rho Louisiana Alpha Phi New Jersey Phi Beta Massachusetts Omega California Phi Delta Indiana Chi Rho Illinois Sigma Alpha New York Omega Indiana Alpha Gamma Louisiana Nu Omega Georgia Delta Rho Illinois Kappa Phi Texas Kappa Theta Connecticut Epsilon Kappa Texas Alpha Omega Canada Alpha Illinois Theta Delta Michigan Alpha Alpha Missouri Mu Sigma Pennsylvania Kappa Epsilon Michigan Chi Rho Nova Scotia Sigma Mu Tennessee Chi Nu Louisiana Alpha Sigma Wisconsin Mu Georgia Gamma Tau Indiana Gamma Omega Louisiana Delta Tau Pennsylvania Psi Texas Epsilon Tau Texas Tau Mu Georgia Alpha Chi Louisiana Lambda Tau Florida Omega Alpha New Mexico Phi Alpha Texas Kappa Tau Pennsylvania Kappa Theta Illinois Kappa Mu New York Beta Sigma Texas Beta Sigma New Hampshire Alpha Epsilon Pennsylvania Delta California Phi Epsilon Texas Gamma Sigma Pennsylvania Sigma Rho Indiana Iota Rho California Phi Theta California Phi Zeta Virginia Gamma Mu Pennsylvania Epsilon Pi California Phi Iota Texas Delta Sigma Wisconsin Theta Phi Washington Beta Delta Massachusetts Kappa Theta Illinois Alpha Omega South Dakota Alpha Xi Massachusetts Zeta

Arizona State University University of Texas Belmont Abbey College University of New Orleans Seton Hall University Merrimack College University of San Diego Indiana Tech Loyola University of Chicago Saint John’s University Trine University Nicholls State University University of Georgia Lewis University University of North Texas Fairfield University Lamar University Loyola College of Montreal DePaul University Ferris State University Truman State University La Salle University Michigan Tech Saint Mary’s University Memphis State University Loyola University of New Orleans Marquette University Georgia Institute of Technology Purdue University Calumet Southeastern Louisiana University California University of Pennsylvania Texas A&M University-Commerce University of Texas-Pan American Armstrong University McNeese State University University of Florida College of Santa Fe Texas A&M University-Kingsville Indiana University of Pennsylvania Western Illinois University SUNY Buffalo University-San Marcos Keene State College Mansfield University California State University, Fullerton Texas A&M University Slippery Rock University Indiana University-Purdue University Fort Wayne California State University, Dominguez Hills University of California, San Diego George Mason University Edinboro University San Diego State University Sam Houston State University Marian College University of Washington University of Massachusetts, Dartmouth Eastern Illinois University University of South Dakota Bridgewater State University

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All Fraternities and Sororities http://www.nicindy.org/ Our umbrella organization.

http://www.nalfo.org/

http://www.npcwomen.org/

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http://www.nationalmgc.org/home.html

http://www.fraternityadvisors.org/Links/Fraternal_Organizations/Special_ Interest.aspx http://www.fraternityadvisors.org/Links/Fraternal_Organizations/ Additional.aspx

The Association of Fraternity/Sorority Advisors has provided a listing of Inter/National Fraternities & Sororities on their website.

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Phi Kappa Theta Pins Our pins signify many things... and Brotherhood is of paramount importance. Each Phi Kap is an individual, but Brotherhood unites us in all our activities.

Pictured at right is the alumni recognition pin. It is formed in the shape of the shield from the coat-of-arms and utilizes the fraternity’s colors. This pin is worn on the lapel of alumni on each Founder’s Day, April 29, and traditionally is presented to each graduating senior.

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