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To use PrEP or not? Here’s my analogy: a car may have seat belts and airbags [“Can This Pill Prevent HIV?” Xtra #534, Feb 13]. The combination of the two provides enhanced protection should an incident occur. If condoms are employed to reduce hep C and PrEP to prevent HIV, it will improve the quality of life and reduce healthcare costs in the long run. CAELAN (DAILYXTRA.COM)

I’ll stick with condoms. For me, the expense of this drug alone makes it a non-starter: it costs a tremendous amount of money that eventually everybody will pay for, either in the form of more expensive insurance or further burdening of our healthcare system. A close runner-up is the drug’s toxicity and the risk of liver and kidney damage. (Does anybody know what this drug will do to you after 20 years of use?) Plus, you still need to wear condoms for other STIs (notably hep C, which is killing more Americans per year than HIV) and to make up for the fact that you cannot miss a dose to retain your immunity. I don’t think the false sense of security and the risks of fucking up your body for sex that still requires a condom is worth it. DAN FALKENHAM (DAILYXTRA.COM)

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several multi-purpose rooms of varying size that can host meetings, yoga classes and maybe a small performance? Are we just planning a larger version of Qmunity, with a couple of add-ons spread more comfortably over two floors? Or can we envision new ways and spaces in which to gather, including somewhat more ambitious if multipurpose takes on the performance and social spaces so many people have named as key to a community centre they’d like to visit? Qmunity has been entrusted with anchoring this effort, and I understand why: no other local organization has both the administrative history and stability, and a broad enough mandate, to run it. But to succeed, Qmunity will need to not just consult, but collaborate with other groups. Imagine a bustling space with multiple groups serving the community, sharing ideas and possibly volunteers; socializing in the café downstairs; browsing the library-archives; meeting for shared-interest groups of all kinds; then staying for a play in the open, spacious atrium that doubles as a gallery, yoga space, basketball court and something I haven’t even thought of. Maybe we can do all that in 10,000 square feet. Or maybe we need to help Qmunity broaden its vision, give them the means and the reason to do so, then trust them to lead in collaboration.

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The last thing I want to do is start a power struggle that inadvertently leaves $7 million in city funding untouched on the table. Better to give each other the benefit of the doubt and work together toward creating a new community centre, I wrote in December. I stand by that, but doubts are best dealt with in the open and, despite Qmunity’s new tone of openness and approachability, I have some concerns that I just can’t shake. There’s no doubt the information session hosted by Qmunity on Feb 6 marked a turning point for an organization that has previously communicated poorly with the wider community it purports to serve. Remember the time its board unilaterally decided to leave the gay village? Admittedly, the organization was stretched taut on a shoestring budget, paying too much rent for a dilapidated space to serve as many vulnerable community members as possible. But it was practically packing its bags in the middle of the night and was none too pleased with getting caught. But moments shift and leaders change, and Qmunity’s new board and executive director seem committed to sharing information and inviting

people to participate in the process of planning a new centre. My concern is that the vision they’re asking people to help shape is already too limited. Granted, their shoestring budget hasn’t grown, despite the $7 million. As executive director Dara Parker rightfully points out, creating a space we can’t afford to operate is unsustainable. We have to be realistic, she says, and I agree. In the decades of on-andoff discussion about creating a community centre, Qmunity has never found much public interest in funding a capital campaign. Unless that changes, our means are limited. But unless our vision is expansive and inspiring, why would a broad cross-section of our community want to participate in, let alone help fund, the creation of a new gathering space that offers them little reason to visit? Which brings us back to the question of 10,000 square feet. Qmunity says that’s all we can realistically afford to build and operate. I’ve been trying to envision 10,000 square feet; it’s just a little more than double Qmunity’s current space. Parker says Qmunity is planning an extensive community consultation on how to divvy up the space, and I believe her. But how big is 10,000 square feet, really? Space for Qmunity’s offices, its library, associated clinic and

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Space for gay seniors? Dignity House wants to add seniors’ housing to new community centre GAY SPACE MATTHEW DIMERA

The team behind Vancouver’s latest proposal to create gay seniors’ housing is hoping to merge its project with Qmunity’s proposed city-funded community centre. While affordable housing is a hot topic for most communities in Metro Vancouver, studies suggest that gay seniors often face increased risks of health and financial insecurity, as well as isolation. Little data has been collected on gay seniors in Canada, but statistics from the American Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders (SAGE) paint a disturbing picture of the many challenges gay seniors face. SAGE research indicates that seniors who fear mistreatment from healthcare providers will often delay seeking help until their health reaches a crisis point. Surveys of gay seniors in long-term care facilities showed that only “22 percent felt they could be open about their sexual identities with staff, and 89 percent predicted that staff would discriminate based on their sexual orientations and/ or gender identities, and 43 percent reported instances of mistreatment.” Other SAGE studies show that many gay seniors face higher levels of financial insecurity and often cannot afford to stay in their chosen communities. Gay seniors are less likely to have children to look after them, are less likely to have someone to call in an emergency, and face high risk of social isolation. Alan Herbert, a former Vancouver city councillor and longtime gay activist who created a gay senior men’s discussion group called Gay and Gray last fall, says that for those in the community who grew up before 1980 the memories of open prejudice and bullying against gay people still have a strong effect. “They don’t know whether it will be safe or not, and the tendency for many will be to go back into the closet,” he says MORE AT DAILYXTRA.COM

of seniors who end up in assisted living. Herbert says the need for affordable housing is magnified by the reality that the uncertain future at the height of the AIDS crisis didn’t encourage many gay men to buy property or invest for their retirement. “A lot of the guys who were alive at the height of the epidemic were either sick themselves, during the years where they would have had their highest earning potential, or their friends were dying,” he explains. The Dignity House project aims to alleviate some of these pressures on Vancouver’s aging gay population. Its proposal to develop affordable housing in Vancouver for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender seniors and their allies originated in August 2012 as the practicum project of local social worker Alex Sangha, who has since completed his master’s in social work. The Dignity House proposal is now run by a 17-member advisory committee and is currently conducting a feasibility study. Sangha, still the project coordinator, thinks a partnership could benefit both his group and Qmunity. “If we’re looking for land and Qmunity is looking for land, then we could share a site and we could build affordable housing adjacent to the community building,” he says. Instead of competing for land, why not work together collaboratively to build something for the community, Sangha suggests. Dara Parker, Qmunity’s executive director, is cautiously optimistic about partnering with Dignity House. “I love the idea,” she says, noting that Qmunity has been advocating for queer seniors’ housing for a long time. Adding a housing component would be beyond the scope of the currently envisioned 10,000-square-foot community centre, she says, but “if we’re going into a new multi-purpose development, I think

In principle, we absolutely support and are actively advocating for LGBTQ seniorsspecific housing. We know that’s the number-one ask from older adults in the community. —QMUNITY ED DARA PARKER

Alan Herbert, who runs a weekly discussion group for gay seniors, thinks combining the proposed community centre with gay seniors’ housing would benefit both groups as they seek funding from government and the public. ASH MCGREGOR

that would be a great place to co-locate [Qmunity and seniors’ housing].” “In principle, we absolutely support and are actively advocating for LGBTQ seniors-specific housing,” she continues. “We know that’s the number-one ask from older adults in the community, and it is an important piece of the housing continuum locally.” Parker says her role might be to encourage the idea and to look for partners who could make it a reality. Herbert acknowledges that considerable time and effort would be needed but thinks that combining the community centre with gay seniors’ housing would help both groups as they seek out funding from government and the public. Dignity House is not the first local attempt to create housing for gay seniors in Vancouver. RainbowVision Vancouver proposed a joint venture between a local home-healthcare service provider and a US-based property developer in 2008, but so far nothing has materialized. An affordable-housing project for gay seniors opened recently in downtown Philadelphia. Los Angeles and Minneapolis are also home to existing projects, while more proposals continue to sprout up around the US. XTRA! FEB 27–MARCH 12, 2014 7


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The International Olympic Committee (IOC) is poised to review its charter and implement significant changes to protect gay athletes, according to Vancouver Councillor Tim Stevenson. “The president [of the IOC] decided that the IOC needed to go in a new direction,” says Stevenson, who is gay. Leveraging Vancouver and Whistler’s position as a past Olympic host, and representing Vancouver as deputy mayor, Stevenson travelled to Sochi Jan 28 to lobby the IOC to explicitly protect gay athletes and make the inclusion of Pride Houses mandatory in host-city bids. Stevenson says top-ranking IOC officials told him that a “comprehensive review” is now underway and is expected to be complete by December 2014. “This is a huge organization, and it’s a massive change in a short period of time,” he says.

In an email to Xtra dated Feb 14, IOC communications director Mark Adams confirms that “the IOC is currently going through a fundamental process under its new president looking at all aspects of the Games. “We have asked all stakeholders and the general public to contribute and every subject is open for debate,” he says. “Should there be a majority in favour of such a change [adding sexual orientation to the charter] it would be possible.” However, Adams reiterates that the IOC believes its charter already prohibits discrimination based on sexual orientation. “We have always made it very clear that we consider that the current wording forbids any discrimination. And we have stated many times that this absolutely includes on grounds of sexual orientation,” he says. —Shauna Lewis

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St Paul’s Hospital still in limbo After more than a decade of delays and promised concept plans and business cases to keep St Paul’s Hospital in the West End, its redevelopment is once again absent from the new BC budget, released Feb 18. According to the Ministry of Health’s last service plan, released in February 2013, a final concept plan and then a detailed business plan for redevelopment were expected to be completed sometime this year. This year’s service plan, which takes the ministry to 2017, says the ministry is still working with Providence Health Care to finalize the concept plan. Spokespeople for the hospital and the ministry concur. “The redevelopment timeframe will be determined through the busi8 FEB 27–MARCH 12, 2014 XTRA!

ness plan process,” the ministry’s new service plan says. “It is anticipated the redevelopment will include construction of a new outpatient care tower on the northwest corner of the current St Paul’s Hospital site as well as essential site infrastructure upgrades and selected renovations such as seismic upgrades to existing buildings.” “Here we are in 2014, and they’re still talking about a concept plan,” says NDP MLA Spencer Chandra Herbert, who serves the West End. “I’m incredibly frustrated.” — Jeremy Hainsworth

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From long-distance to local There are many ways to build a home together ASK THE EXPERT DR PEGA REN

Dear Dr Ren, Eric and I met almost five years ago and hit it off immediately. Six months later, he moved away for a job and we continued long-distance. Now Eric has a chance to move back and wants us to move in together. Originally keen, I’m feeling increasingly apprehensive. Our lifestyles are very different. I’m the frugal artist to Eric’s grandiose businessman. I own a small but comfortable home, while he rents luxurious condos with views. I’m happiest in my kitchen; he collects frequent-flyer miles. I could go on. Even so, we have fun and love deeply. Never have I found anyone who so perfectly matches me sexually. When I consider this, all the rest seems inconsequential. We worked really well long-distance. Can an exceptional sexual and intimate bond override differences in lifestyles? Can we make cohabiting work? Are we doomed, or am I just a... — Nervous Groom Dear Nervous Groom, Your particular relationship history may well be the place to look for your answers. After a brief period in which you enjoyed limerence (new relationship energy), you were separated by distance and therefore obliged to de-

velop a pattern that would support a great deal of independence. It sounds like you thrived individually and as a couple as you grew your love. Now, five years later, fully committed and comfortable with your pattern, you are faced with a massive shift. You would need to be brain-dead not to have some concerns about how this will change your interactions! Perhaps expanding your options would relieve some of the pressure. Why not live in the same city but not the same home? Do you worry that Eric will interpret this suggestion as rejection? Believe me, you two will need to practise having many courageous conversations. You will now need to discuss how you get comfortable with togetherness, just as you previously learned to navigate distance. Don’t be rattled. You already know your differences and similarities; they needn’t be weaknesses and strengths. Understanding that you thrive with independence can help you devise a plan that supports that knowledge. That individuality will also foster the retention of the great sex life you mention. Too much togetherness dulls desire. Rather than finding domestic bliss, you may begin squabbling about money or housekeeping issues, and you’ll be less likely to summon your customary erotic heat. Less independent unions often become erotically challenged. Our sexual souls seem instead to crave passionate difference.

A bit more about that sexual connection: we are all unique, self-indulgent and stalwart about what we like in bed. If our sexual personalities are akin to our lover’s, we can each make little accommodations to build a solid and fulfilling sexual pattern. We learn how to honour our lover’s arousal pattern while teaching them what we need to feel desire and satisfaction. The process can be romantic and fun. But, when the fit is there from the start, we can skip that accommodation step altogether because sex launches as already expansive, adventurous and exhilarating. Each partner, accepted and encouraged, grows and transforms. Barriers to intimacy fall. Confidence and vulnerability thrive. This is the stuff of fairy tales, the swooning, swept-away delight of being truly known and challenged to be ever more ourselves. It is rare and precious. You would do well to value it as it deserves. So risk those tough discussions. Consider your many options. Together, creatively design a relationship that allows you to preserve the emotional and possibly the residential distance that sustains your individuality and your heat, while allowing you the luxury of building a home together, regardless of how that real estate may look. Have a question for Dr Ren? Send an email to asktheexpert@dailyxtra.com.

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Hope, survival & suicide Vancouver film wins best short on festival circuit

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Not all stories of suicide need to be scary and dark, say filmmakers Florian Halbedl and Joshua Ferguson, who prefer to focus on hope and survival in their award-winning film Whispers of Life. The 10-minute short tells the story of Tom, a gay teen who encounters a stranger on a park bench following an interaction with a homophobic bully. Encouraging the young man to use his imagination, the stranger helps Tom enter a beautiful and surreal world where he comes to realize the impact his suicide would have on those around him. “We wanted parts of the film to reflect the power of imagination in relation to survival,” explains Ferguson, who identifies as transgender and prefers the pronoun “they.” Though Ferguson says Whispers of Life is not autobiographical, it was inspired by their own experiences of being bullied in high school. “I try not to let my own story detract from the experience of others watching the movie, though,” they say. “We’re all survivors of suicide in some way.” “Joshua has gone through hell with bullying, and while some of the film came out of Joshua’s experiences, it also came from what was happening in the news with the suicides of queer youth,” says Halbedl, Ferguson’s husband, during a break from the set of a feature film being shot in Vancouver. In shifting between the real world and the young man’s imagination, the filmmakers say they’re trying to reinforce the idea that one doesn’t always have to look externally for answers. “It’s important sometimes to find the magic within yourself, to use your imagination to find your place in the world,” Halbedl says. The stranger and his willingness to intervene underline the importance of paying attention to the people around us, rather than simply walking by. “We wanted to bring in someone who is willing to play an active role in helping. A lot of times with queer youth, thoughts of suicide or even the act could be prevented if they had the right support system,” Halbedl says. Five years in the making, the Vancouver-shot MORE AT DAILYXTRA.COM

We wanted parts of the film to reflect the power of imagination in relation to survival. FILMMAKER JOSHUA FERGUSON

film was completed last April with help from industry heavyweights such as Kevin Struckman and Mark Meloche, who created the film’s stunning visual effects and whose resumés include the locally shot Once Upon a Time and Supernatural television series. Whispers of Life is now touring the international film-festival circuit and most recently won the Audience Award for Best Short at the 2014 Reelout Queer Film + Video Festival in Kingston, Ontario.

In handing the award to Halbedl and Ferguson, the festival’s executive director, Matt Salton, called the film “a must-see for queer youth and those who work with LGBTQ youth, as it is an empowering testament to the value of young lives in turmoil.” Whispers of Life will screen at the Reel 2 Real International Film Festival for Youth in Vancouver this April. Visit r2rfestival.org for information. Halbedl and Ferguson will both be in attendance. XTRA! FEB 27–MARCH 12, 2014 11


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revor Risk moved to Vancouver 13 years ago and was promptly adopted by the gay village. “Everyone west of Thunder Bay who ran away from home because of their sexuality lived on Davie Street at the time,” he recalls. “No one really had family; everyone was out for themselves and everyone looked after each other because of it.” Risk grew up in a town of 6,000 people where his best, and for a long time only, friend was the town’s only openly gay guy. When he moved here and discovered the Davie Village, he also discovered a sense of unity in a community that was willing to welcome him even though he isn’t gay himself. “Everyone was just keen on being complimentary and encouraging and doing whatever the hell you wanted,” he says. “You’d go out and no two people would be dressed the same, and that was really comforting for me, trying to express myself at a young age. More than anything I felt that I could leave the house, listen to what I want, be who I wanted to, and on top of that not have the distractions of romance.” “There’s this intense pressure in being straight to couple off all the time, that you’re not going to be fulfilled unless you find the one,” he says. “I just don’t believe that anymore. In the gay community, that pressure just isn’t there. People couple off, obviously, but they don’t feel the same pressure to find someone forever. “I feel like many straight men are envious of gay sexuality. It just seems like it might be simpler in many ways,” he says. Risk is one of what seems to be a growing number of fag stags in Vancouver: men who identify as straight but are practically honorary members of the gay community through their intimate yet 12 FEB 27–MARCH 12, 2014 XTRA!

non-sexual friendships with gay guys. Owen Ellis shares Risk’s affinity for the gay community. Ellis, who also identifies as straight, says he “wishes he was gay, without the butt-sex.” At his West Vancouver high school, Ellis befriended a closeted Iranian classmate from a “super-conservative family.” “He was flaming, and I kind of knew it, but I didn’t think so much of it,” he says. “He was picked on quite a bit, and I ended up being the only one who came to his birthday party. “He was seen as outsider,” he says of what drew them together. “He was made fun of, and I was weird myself. He was just funny. Neither of us really had many friends.” Now a filmmaker, Ellis draws inspiration

I’ve had women in the past leave me because they think I’m gay. TREVOR RISK

from gay culture and seeks to capture it onscreen himself. He directed indie band Sunshine’s music video “Showering with Wine,” about the drunken adventure of a gay Superman and Batman, complete with a make-out session on Granville Street. It was Ellis who convinced one of the stars of the music video, Parker McMullin, to dress in drag for another project he was shooting. Soon after, McMullin debuted Jane Smoker. “Gay people are more unique than anyone I’ve ever met,” Ellis says. “I don’t feel like [many straight people have] ever had to look inside of themselves. They just see that they’re like everyone else; that’s it — my life’s lined up for me. [Gay people] are different their whole lives, and in that way I kind of feel like I can be more of myself when I’m around them.” Alex Alvarez also feels freer in the gay community. “There’s more of us?” he says, asked if he’s a fag stag. “It’s not just me? I thought I was just a weirdo!” Alvarez grew up in Maple Ridge, somewhat sheltered from big-city life. He was only too happy to discover Vancouver’s gay scene when a new friend from summer camp introduced him to the lesbian bar Lick in 2007. “It was a really good time,” he says. “I was like, this happens? I guess that was my foot in the door.” He’s kept his foot in the door ever since, even when it has sometimes led to conflict. “I often get confused for being queer,” he says. “I’ve been to enough straight parties where people start things with me. I’ve had a lot of confrontations where it’s like, I’m judging you and I’m going to start shit with you.” One night, while dancing at The Met, Alvarez was harassed by a straight guy who assumed he was gay and tried to pick up the girl he was with.

Parker McMullin’s fag stag, Owen Ellis, (bottom) feels connected to gay culture and his close friends but says he’s not just biding his time waiting to come out. “I’m 25,” he says. “My life is not like that movie In & Out, with Kevin Kline figuring out he’s gay at 40.”

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“It got really awkward,” he says. “He was asking me what kind of genitals I prefer.” Alvarez was not deterred. He prefers the company of gay men and has the self-confidence to withstand the assumptions and even the occasionally belligerent posturing of straight men. “A typical hangout if you see your straight friends is you drink a lot of beer, and it’s like, Oh, let’s go out and get some pussy,” he says. “With gay friends, it’s different. You talk about art, politics, what’s happening in the city. More cultured things... [They’ve] changed my views on gender identity, sexual identity, beauty — pretty much everything. If I didn’t have gay friends, I would be more ignorant. Quality of life would be lower.” Risk also describes a different quality of friendship, discussion and support from his gay friends, especially when it comes to breakups. “My straight friends offer me insight at the most, but usually distraction,” he says. “Whereas some of my gay friends might talk to me about how to negotiate my feelings and how to get through it.”

“People in relationships always think about other people outside their relationships, what sex or love would be like with another person,” he admits, openly sharing that his curiosity has extended to what it would be like to be with another man. “I can’t really think of a recent time,” he says, “but I’m sure I have. When I’m in a relationship with a woman, I often think out loud, ‘Wow, that girl over there is awfully pretty,’ but I also say the equivalent thing about men when I meet them. I appreciate men’s and women’s looks in the same way I like a sports car or a work of art, but I’m usually in a monogamous relationship, so I don’t think of either sexually.” “What can gay men teach straight men about sexuality?” he muses. “I suppose they can teach them to understand that it’s not about possession. We use terms in the straight world that are semantically unfortunate. We say that women ‘gave it up’ or ‘put out’ and that men ‘get laid’

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espite their bond with gay men, and contrary to what some may suspect, there’s nothing down-low about fag stags. They are not extreme closet cases who have yet to accept their true sexuality. In fact, they seem more at ease with themselves than anyone I’ve ever met, gay or straight. “I’m 25,” Ellis says. “My life is not like that movie In & Out, with Kevin Kline figuring out he’s gay at 40. “Every straight person goes through that thing, like, am I or not?” he admits, but he says he’s simply not attracted to men. “I can see my friends as attractive, but I’ve never wanted to pursue them,” he says, a finding reinforced by the one time he ever experimented with a man. “I was really wasted and I hated it. I could feel his beard and shit. I didn’t like it all.” Ellis remembers the time he took in a gay friend who was “depressed about something one night; he didn’t have a place to stay. So I was like, ‘Just come crash in my bed.’” The next day, his other friends were “kind of weirded out when they saw a gay guy sleeping in my bed. They just assumed [it was sexual],” he says. “There’s that funny mentality a lot of straight guys seem to have, which is that every gay man will be attracted to them,” Alvarez says. “Dear straight dudes, not everyone wants to have sex with you. I think once people have accepted the fact that queer sexuality is not an assault on straight sexuality, then we’ll really see some progress.” Risk can appreciate another man’s beauty without feeling threatened or defensive. “I had a waiter last night at a restaurant, and I said to the woman I was on a date with, ‘That man is so handsome; he’s so great looking,’” he says. “I’ve had women in the past leave me because they think I’m gay,” he confides. “I’ve had women be jealous of gay men. I’ve had it come to a real head many times before, and I just find that’s ignorant on their part; that’s their issue to deal with. They have to wake up and be them every morning.”

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A typical hangout if you see your straight friends is you drink a lot of beer, and it’s like, Oh, let’s go out and get some pussy. With gay friends, it’s different. ALEX ALVAREZ or ‘got some,’ and although the gay community does often use that same slang, it doesn’t carry the same connotation, historical or otherwise. I feel like the gay community’s sexuality is about sharing and meeting and not giving something up or taking sex from someone.” “I think gay men are much more comfortable really expressing themselves, where I see a lot of straight men trying to fit these tired old moulds of masculinity,” Alvarez says. “The way I see it, sexuality isn’t a matter of putting on a facade to attract potential partners, but it’s really more a matter of being open and vulnerable — showing people who you are. I think that’s what us straights can really learn, is to be comfortable with who we are and stop putting on a front.”

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he fag stag/gay relationship isn’t just about gay men teaching straight guys a thing or two; it goes both ways. For

Conor Topley, the straight men in his life have taught him how to be more confident in his own sexuality. He and his fag-stag roommate, whom he met at university, can talk about anything: “dating life, politics, career ambitions, sex, the ongoing existential crisis of our generation,” he says. “In a world that does a poor job of making it acceptable for men, especially straight men, to be vulnerable, my roommate’s ability to be forthcoming with his emotions has not only been refreshing, but is also a great reminder to bring my guard down and share more openly. “Good chat is one thing, but his actions speak more than words,” he says. “If I have a gaggle of gays over, [he] joins in on the banter. Although meek at times, he comfortably navigates conversations, which range in topics from Grindr etiquette to Beyoncé’s Rise to Supreme.” Just as fag stags maintain there are no sexual feelings beneath the surface of their friendships with gay men, gay guys profess to be equally disinterested. “All my relationships with straight men are riddled with sexual tension and a longing for something that will never come to pass,” Topley jokes sarcastically. He admits to having had feelings for some straight male friends in the past but doesn’t see “anything wrong with crushing on someone,” although “acting on that crush when there hasn’t been clear permission to proceed seems like an obvious no-no” and isn’t worth sacrificing his meaningful friendships. For Ellis’s drag debutante McMullin, having straight male friends started when he was in the closet. “I always had straight friends growing up because I grew up pretending to be straight,” he says. “I was around them all the time. Most of my friends were girls, but I’d be around their boyfriends, or my brother’s friends would be over, and he’s straight. That’s when I became comfortable around them.” Today, McMullin believes the key to a successful friendship with a straight guy is a good sense of humour, an open mind and playfulness. “As long as they’re not threatened,” he says. “I have some straight friends, and you can kind of tell that they get a little weird sometimes. Something will click in them and you’ll even see it in their face — if they think you’re hitting on them or getting a little too ‘gay.’ But Owen, and a lot of people I know who are really comfortable with their sexuality, can laugh it off and play along with it.” That comfort level is essential, he says, because “no one should feel they have to be anyone else. I’m not going to stop talking about celebrities and the clothes I bought! I am who am I, especially when we’re drinking and getting crazy. I’m not going to change.” A true fag stag wouldn’t want it any other way. “Getting crazy” with their gay friends is a part of the appeal. “Man, some of the things that have happened in the green room at The Cobalt on Saturday nights,” Risk says. “I’ve had my pants pulled down and held down by like four [gay guys]. I have a good sense of humour about myself. If it’s from people I know, I just eat up. It’s fine. It’s flattering, but also it’s just fun. To me that’s what going out is about: you’re going on weird little adventures and saying yes instead of no.” XTRA! FEB 27–MARCH 12, 2014 13


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If our hankering for freshly baked comfort food increases in direct correlation to the amount of rainfall, now would be the perfect time to visit Vancouver’s local purveyors of hearty, savoury or just plain weird baked goodies to celebrate the coming end of another Wet Coast winter.

East Village Bakery 2166 E Hastings St eastvillagebakery.com Gluten-free vegan baking never sounded so good: blueberry chai and sweet orange muffins, banana-date breakfast bites, lemonpistachio cookies, bite-sized coconut cakes with raspberry glaze and sugared violet garnish. “About 80 percent of our returning customers are choosing gluten-free, not because of dietary restrictions, but for the health benefits and the taste,” owner Karin Piett says. After introducing me to a hot chocolate brownie (surprise ingredient: cayenne), she can count me as a returning customer.

Lee’s Donuts Granville Island Market, 1689 Johnston St granvilleisland.com These are doughnuts with street cred: Alan and Betty Ann Lee are original Granville Island Market tenants. Almost 30 years later, they’re still offering the best honey-dip in town. Baked fresh throughout the day, the doughnuts travel fewer than 15 feet from kitchen to counter. In addition to the classics, new flavours such as red velvet, key lime and chai spice have been added to the racks. Personally, I’m yearning for the return of the limited-edition salted caramel. Pretty please?

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The Vatican approves Leather and sacrilege bless the Village BLITZ & SHITZ RAZIEL REID Jockstraps, harnesses, assless chaps and groping... add some Eastern European twink prostitutes and The Vatican, a leather-fetish dance party at the aptly styled Heaven’s Door, and it sounds like a night in Vatican City to me! I grew up Catholic, and the ďŹ rst man I was ever attracted to as a young blasphemer was Jesus Christ nailed to the cross. His abs were like rungs on Jacob’s ladder, each one taking me higher. The son of God is a bondage pin-up, and I will gladly get on my knees for him... just not to pray. As it so happened, I met Jesus at The Vatican. Some dude shoved his hand

up my crack (how’d he know that’s the lock to my heart?), and when I turned around to introduce myself — I’m oldschool like that — he told me his name by showing off a back tat that read “Jesus.� Praise the Lord! He may not have been strapped to a cross, but he said that could easily be arranged. The Vatican is the latest event to rapture to Heaven’s Door. The newly renovated venue is quickly becoming an alternative outlet on Davie, distancing itself from the more commercial parties on the strip — and the basic bitches who frequent them. You can join the clergy at Heaven’s Door with The Vatican every other month; Truckerdisco monthly; Myria Le Noir’s early-evening drag show every Saturday; Queer-Prov, with the Bobbers, on Monday nights; and,

Raziel (left) pays his own kind of tribute to The Vatican, Feb 15 at the new leather-fetish party at Heaven’s Door. ROB TRINH

rumoured to be taking off mid-March, a weekly Friday house party with DJ Rennie Foster, a straight boy determined to get the fags dancing who’s been playing Tokyo for the past decade. I have to admit I was feeling a little uneasy when I first walked through the golden gates of Heaven’s Door and was greeted by real live angels — dancing bears and leather daddies! On the surface level, a leather party can be intimidating. My biggest discomfort came from being so overdressed. What was I thinking wearing clothes?!

Thankfully, those leather boys have sweet hearts beneath their tough exteriors and one of the hosts found me a harness. It was my ďŹ rst time wearing one (I know, shocker). The outďŹ t change helped, but I’m pretty sure it was the crack-sweat elixir ung into my beer glass that really loosened me up. I was minding my own business when someone butt-swatted the guy in front of me and ass juice ew into my pint! So tasty. A few of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence were in attendance, but they weren’t wearing their habits. If ever there

were a time for them to look like virgin whores it was at The Vatican. Fortunately, Mantra made up for it by dressing as a nun in studs, serving Mother General’s ďŹ rst-time-at-a-dyke-bar realness. During her performance she was tipped like the donation basket at Sunday mass. While writing this issue’s cover story on fag stags, I talked to straight guys who are connected to the gay community partly through their presence at queer events, especially in the East Van scene. Talking to them exposed me to the beneďŹ ts of taking down The Great Wall of Glitter and bringing heteros into the queer fold, but I had to wonder: are we losing anything at all by letting them in? What The Vatican showed me is that there will always be niches of the gay community that are ours and ours alone. DJ Nick Bertossi’s straight brother and his girlfriend were at Heaven’s Door for a while and seemed to be having the time of their lives (especially when she got as shirtless as the boys), but once they had had their fun and left, only the gays remained standing — or kneeling. I went into the dark “sex roomâ€? at the back of the bar to blow a father, son and holy ghost; it reminded me of a reverseconfessional where no one was trying to be absolved because, as Jesus told me while we, uh, prayed, if it’s a sin, it’s our sin, and the good Lord is totally jerking off to it.

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Thurs, Feb 27 Rainbow Support Group BC’s Alzheimer Society offers a support group for LGBT caregivers and those caring for LGBT people with dementia. For more information or to register, contact 604-675-5153 or kturner@alzheimerbc.org. Spoonful Send-Off Celebrate 25 years of A Loving Spoonful’s service at its old location before it moves. 5:30–8:30pm. 100-1300 Richards St. Free. alovingspoonful.org The Sundown The Cobalt hosts a laid-back clubhouse-style night for queer women and their allies every Thursday. 9pm. The Cobalt, 917 Main St. $3–6. thecobalt.ca Clue: The Musical Ghost Light Projects presents its own take on the popular board game. Runs Tues–Sat until Sat, March 8. 8pm. The Havana Theatre, 1212 Commercial Dr. $35 and under at brownpapertickets.com.

Fri, Feb 28 Showtunes Night Sing along to your favourite musicals at 1181.

boxers or briefs, 8x6 invites you to show off your underwear on Friday nights. 8pm until late. Club 8x6, 1775 Haro St. $10 members, $15 guests; includes locker. 8x6.ca Queer Women on the Drive Join this monthly women’s get-together the last Friday of every month. 7pm. Britannia Community Centre, Seniors’ Lounge, 1661 Napier St at Commercial Dr. generations@ qmunity.ca

6–9pm. 1181, 1181 Davie St. No cover. 1181.ca Vancouver Gaymers Anniversary Vancouver’s social club for queer gamers and their allies celebrates five years with a buffet dinner and a wide selection of board games, Wii gaming on the big screen and even some karaoke. 5–9pm. La Fontana Caffé, 3701 Hastings St. $10. vancouvergaymers.ca Decadence: Pride Mardi Gras The Vancouver Pride Society hosts a burlesque show and dance party. 8:30pm–3am. FanClub, 1050 Granville St. Tickets $25 for whole night, $20 after-show at eventbrite.ca. Underwear Friday Whether you prefer tighty whities,

Sat, March 1 Totally Outright This annual four-day leadership workshop for young gay, bisexual, trans and queer guys encourages healthy, sex-savvy trendsetters to take part in interactive presentations on gay men’s health over two weekends (March 1 & 2, 15 & 16). Apply at totallyoutright.ca. Singing Can Be a Drag The Vancouver Men’s Chorus hosts two nights of live singing and entertainment with MC Bill Monroe. Tonight at 7:30pm at the Columbia Theatre, 530 Columbia St, New Westminster, and Wed, March 5 at 7:30pm at the Roundhouse Performance Centre, 181 Roundhouse Mews. Tickets $25 at Little Sister’s, 1238 Davie St, and vancouvermenschorus.ca.

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Join the Mabel League Vancouver’s softball league for queer women and trans people hosts a pre-season info night. 7pm. Princeton Pub, 1901 Powell St. mabelleague.com

Sun, March 2 Joan-Eleveneightyone Joan-E hosts an evening of drag fun, with special guests and DJ Mumbles. 10:30pm–3am. 1181, 1181 Davie St. No cover. 1181.ca Oscars Watch the Academy Awards with host Conni Smudge. 3pm. The Junction, 1138 Davie St. No cover. junctionpub.com Cruisey Cinema & Blackout Sunday Hang out with other pornloving guys in a safe, comfortable porn space. 2pm–midnight. Club 8x6, 1775 Haro St. $10. 8x6.ca

Men on Men A weekly discussion group for men who love or have sex with men. Every Tuesday, 6:30pm. Gordon Neighbourhood House, 1019 Broughton St. checkhimout.ca

Wed, March 5 Mindfulness Meditation Qmunity offers a weekly meditation group. 7–8pm. Qmunity, 1170 Bute St. Free. wovenland.ca/meditation Connect with HIM The Health Initiative for Men offers a space for gay guys to meet other guys, discuss gay life and build community every Wednesday. 6:30pm. HIM, 1033 Davie St. checkhimout.ca

Thursday, 7pm. St Paul’s Anglican Church, 1140 Jervis St. $10 donation partially benefits A Loving Spoonful. timberlinedance.org

Fri, March 7 Leather Den for Men The Vancouver Men in Leather host this play party the first Friday of every month. 8pm–2am. Club 8x6, 1775 Haro St. $10 with VML membership; $15 others. meninleather.ca AJ’s Café Join other HIV-positive gay men every Friday for this free social/support group sponsored by Positive Living BC. 3–6pm. The Junction Pub, 1138 Davie St. positivelivingbc.org

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Gay & Grey Join this group of gay senior men every Wednesday for discussions on such topics as retirement, housing, dating, selfimage and more. 7pm. Roundhouse Community Centre, 181 Roundhouse Mews, second-floor boardroom.

The Bobbers Vancouver’s favourite queer improv comedy troupe is back in the Davie Village, with a whole new show in a whole new format. 7–9pm. Heaven’s Door, 1216 Bute St. No cover. heavensdoor.ca

Gab Youth Drop-In This fun, inclusive drop-in group for LGBT youth and their allies meets Wednesdays at 4pm and Fridays at 7pm. Qmunity, 1170 Bute St. gabyyouth@qmunity.ca

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Same-Sex Dance Class Vancouver’s same-sex ballroom dance club, Not So Strictly Ballroom, invites you to a weekly beginners’ salsa class, followed by intermediate rumba. 7–9pm. Rhodes Wellness College, 1125 Howe St, second floor. Entrance on Helmcken Street; ring the buzzer. $15. notsostrictlyballroom.ca

Woof Night Less is better at Club 8x6’s bear and cub night. 8pm– late. Club 8x6, 1775 Haro St. $10 members, $15 guests. 8x6.ca

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Sat, March 8 Tomboy DJ Kasey Riot spins at this weekly queer night for boyish girls, girly girls and girly bois who like girls. 9pm–2am. Heaven’s Door, 1216 Bute St. $5. heavensdoor.ca Gear Saturday: VML Join the Vancouver Men in Leather for their monthly get-together. 9pm. PumpJack Pub, 1167 Davie St. No cover. pumpjackpub.com

Timberline Vancouver’s countrywestern dance group meets every

The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence team up with Van-Pah for a fundraiser movie night. 7pm. The Junction, 1138 Davie St. $5 suggested donation. vanpah.com

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