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Features JANUARY/FEBRUARY 2o19

16 Conserving Culture

Dr. Mark Evans has a mission to conserve our vanishing culture.

22 Wedding Tips

From planning your wedding to trends to fashionable sendoffs, tips from the experts will have you covered.

32 Local Weddings

Celebrating weddings in the Sandhills from the past year.

46 The Art of Flowers

Flowers are a main ingredient for any wedding, so we asked a local florist how to do flowers just right.

66 A Look Back

The Passion Plays of James and Katharine Boyd that defined an era.


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From the Editor

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o talk with Dr. Mark Evans is to take a pleasant walk under whispering pines. A simple question will often solicit a winding path of knowledge that you can’t help but enjoy and learn from. And, often times, he’ll take you off the beaten path, pushing through the bushes and shrubs along the trail in order to expand your understanding. His thoughts are interspersed with allegories, parables and examples that have you eagerly wondering what’s around the next bend. It is the message of his words and stories, though, that have Dr. Evans concerned. He is concerned we are losing what has defined us—our arts, our language, our ideas. As Marcus Garvey, a Jamaican politician from the early 20th century, said, “A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots.” Culture, certainly, is a difficult subject to tackle much less begin to save. It can often be subjective and it can have equal parts good and bad. George Steiner, an American essayist, astutely noted, “We know that a man can read Goethe or Rilke in the evening, that he can play Bach and Schubert, and go to his day’s work at Auschwitz in the morning.” But for Dr. Evans and his nonprofit organization, Cultural Conservation, preserving our culture is about finding the best and brightest path for our future and not settling for a destiny consumed by pop-culture miasma. He writes: “In the 21st century, too many people, especially children and young adults, have confused fame with accomplishment, celebrity with achievement, and notoriety with heroism. The result is a ‘celebrity culture,’ one in which being noticed is more important than the reason for being noticed. Recognition becomes a virtue unto itself.” Our conversation with Dr. Evans (page 16) is just the start, as he readily acknowledges. He says cultural conservation is a journey, a movement to understanding the difference between change and progress. I would invite you to join him. The arts are often thought of as the defining example of a culture, but I would contend that weddings are one of the clearest windows into a people’s customs, values and identity. How one comes into a union with another person certainly varies around the world. But no matter the people, weddings are a special, and often sacred, cultural rite. Which is why, I think, it is appropriate to include the story with Dr. Evans in our annual Wedding Issue. If you’re planning, attending or participating in a wedding this year, we have a plethora of culture in these pages to share. Enjoy!

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R. MARK EVANS IS A COMPOSER, conductor, pianist, organist, radio and television host, and author—a modern-day renaissance man. As a musician, he studied under two renowned composers, Mario Castelnuovo-Tedesco and Roy Harris, which ultimately led to his first book, Soundtrack: The Music of the Movies, which became one of the definitive histories on film scoring. His latest book, Mark! My Words: How to Discover the Joy of Music, the Delight of Language, and the Pride of Achievement in the Age of Trash Talk and MTV, marked Evans’ treatise into, as he puts it, “addressing the current crisis and to provide positive solutions that can impact your life and the state of our culture.” To further his mission, he founded the nonprofit organization Cultural Conservation, believing “society should preserve its cultural resources with the same care and devotion that a nation devotes to its natural resources.” We sat down with Dr. Evans to talk about what has become his life mission.

Conserving Culture A Conversation with Dr. Mark Evans By GREG GIRARD

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o how did the idea of Cultural Conservation come to you? I had been troubled by the fact that students were coming out of school unfamiliar with any music other than what they had encountered over MTV. Many had not read a book that had not been assigned to them in school. Many others were completely oblivious to even the most basic facts of American history. That was the thing that led me to the fact that we needed to look for a solution to this because it was not being provided by the places that people usually go. There are three places that people usually look to for culture. First, they look to academia, and for a variety of reasons, academia has become terribly concerned about being fashionable, about being with “it” without ever defining what “it” is, and as a result of that, the campuses have become more of a problem than a solution. The second place people look to is the government. I usually don’t have to persuade people these days that the government is not a place to look to solve problems. It usually creates more problems than it solves. And the third place that people look is the entertainment industry, and the entertainment industry, in Hollywood and in New York primarily, is one of the principal causes of the problem. So I became interested in looking for a way to try to solve this, and I started Cultural Conservation as a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization.

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hich is what your book addresses, right? Yes, the title Mark! My Words: How to Discover the Joy of Music, the Delight of Language, and the Pride of Achievement in the Age of Trash Talk and MTV pretty well outlines the fact that we need to do something because we’re in the process of losing our culture. I think there are several major mistakes that we’ve made which lead to this. The first one is we tend to confuse change and progress. I sometimes say that the phrase “new and improved” is a complete giveaway. People

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Do your children know more about the Kardashians than the Founding Fathers? Dr. Mark Evans, author

don’t realize when they see the words new and improved it sometimes means a bigger box and fewer cornflakes. The second mistake we make is that we tend to confuse celebrity or fame and achievement, and we’re living now in what I call the “celebrity culture.” We have a website (culturalconservation. org) that has a lot of articles on it, and one of them is a piece I did in which I asked the question, “Do your children know more about the Kardashians than the Founding Fathers?” And sadly, the answer is yes. The third mistake we make is we confuse technology and wisdom. Not so long ago only birds twittered. Google was a comic strip and the web was spun by a wise spider in a book called Charlotte’s Web. And today everyone twitters and tweets and we’re in a constant rush and our attention span has gone.


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Conserving Culture And lastly, when people say, “I know what I like,” what they really mean is they like what they know. In the case of a lot of people, a lot of students for example, you have cases in which they just don’t know very much. And so we’re seeing particularly a decline in our language, in our capacity to use language, and we’re also seeing a decline in what I call our vanishing history.

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hat’s an example of this cultural decline? I’ll give you one of my favorites. This was shared with me by former Senator Alan Simpson of Wyoming, who’s a lifelong friend of historian David McCullough. McCullough has written many books about periods of American history, and he had done a book about Harry Truman. He was promoting it on radio and television and doing an interview with a professional broadcast journalist and McCullough began talking about the storming of Normandy Beach. When they were leaving the studio, the professional broadcast journalist turned to him and said, “Gee. That was very interesting. Where can I get some more information about this guy Norman D. Beach?”

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hat can’t be a true story! That is what everybody says to me, Greg, because I tell this story in front of audiences and people come up afterward and say, “Is that real?” I can give you 50 more stories like that. The result, unfortunately, is people always react the same way as I do. You hear the stories and you laugh because they’re funny, but then you pause for a moment and you say actually it’s not funny, it’s scary. This all leads to three questions: Whatever happened to music? Whatever happened to art? Whatever happened to books? And we’re going through, what I think is a thoroughly complex process, but it can be summed up in the fact that we’re basically losing our culture. And I think that something needs to be done about it, which is why I started a nonprofit cultural educational organization. Millard Fuller, who was the founder of Habitat for Humanity, was here and did my television show. He said something that I thought was very profound. He said, “Sometimes in life you have to stop studying the problem and start focusing on a solution.” I think that something really needs to be done, and I hoped with my books and my other efforts it would result in a clarion call to action. Part of the problem is that what’s happened at the colleges is that there’s a tendency on campuses today, some of it has to do with political correctness, some of it has to do with the attitudes of a lot of people in academia, that we need to get rid of the old and come in with the new. You look at college courses now and you have a lot of courses, for example, on the history of rock and roll. I wrote a scathing article recently about the Pulitzer Prize for music, which was given this year to a rap star. What’s happened now is that the rockers and rappers have become a subject of honor and attention in academia.

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ut do you see any place for pop culture? It’s not going away. It’s always going to exist. Rap or rock have a place in our culture, don't they? It has cultural significance for people. I don’t think it’s going away. I think it’s not going away partly because there’s a lot of money to be made out of it. The concern that I have is that when I talk to people who are aware of other elements, people who know something about our history for example, and I always ask people, “How did you get interested in this?” How did you become a jazz buff, for example? The answer is always the same thing.

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My father, my mother, my grandparents, my uncle, my aunt, a teacher I had in school, somebody introduced them to it at a young age. If you go on a high school campus and all they’re listening to is rock and rap, typically they will say, “Well I know what I like.” But what they really like is being part of the crowd and liking the same things other people like because everybody knows the same things and it’s cool. Vincent Price wrote a book once on art called I Like What I Know, and typically this is often what happens. People often today know only the pop culture because it’s pretty much pervasive. And I think if you look, for example, at what I talk about when I talk about our vanishing history, I am not worried about people who know our musical heritage listening to rap, because if you know our past, you’ll have a very different reaction than if the only thing you’ve ever heard is what your friends are listening to or downloading off the internet. But this is the problem, that if you don’t have any kind of a historical perspective, if you don’t have anything to compare the pop culture to, that’s the problem. Also, you have to define what is pop culture. I don’t think that it is a contest necessarily between high culture and the pop culture. I think if you look at the pop culture today you find that there is a pendulum, and the pendulum swings, and if it swings too far in either direction, it’s a problem. There’s a point at which by being open to everything we tolerate everything without any standards, without any values. I mean you look at the kind of language that is acceptable now in public discourse, and it’s gotten worse and worse and worse. Of course, what happens


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Conserving Culture is immediately if you say something about this in movies, in television, in books, in the pop culture, immediately people will say, “Don’t you believe in free speech?” or “You want to censor things.” I don't think right now we’re living in a time when the concern is that people are censoring vulgarity. I think the problem is that we’re living in a time with a pop culture we have today where there is no acceptable commonly agreed standard. In fact, there isn’t even a debate on the subject because a lot of people are making money out of it, and a lot of people frankly just have never been exposed to anything else.

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K, so it’s not so much, for example, that people are enjoying rap today or find value in it. Your concern is that they’re enjoying it without understanding the foundations behind it. When you talk about objecting to something that people enjoy, I always say that there is no point in getting into what I call a stylistic argument with people, in which I say, “Well I like this type of music,” or “I play this.” And somebody else comes along and says, “I like that.” My father’s favorite soup was onion soup and I don’t like onion soup. I’m devoted to my father’s memory, but he and I could never agree on the subject of onion soup. There isn’t a right answer for that. It’s a subjective thing. The educator and writer Mortimer Adler used to say that you cannot necessarily talk about anything in culture, in the arts, in music, in books, in literature, anything having to do with creative work. You can’t necessarily determine what someone should like because it’s subjective, but you can talk about when something is well made, and he used the example of a chair. He said if a chair is well-made, you can determine that by an objective standard. So what troubles me is that you have a whole generation now coming out of school who has listened to nothing but rap. I believe if people are aware of our musical heritage, if they’re aware of the concept of cultural conservation, I’m not worried about the judgment they will make about rap or rock when they really are aware of everything else.

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o how does Cultural Conservation come into the conversation? I'm a great believer in self-education, and we try to provide educational opportunities for parents and grandparents online, through publishing, through videos, through my own public speaking, to enable parents and grandparents to guide their children and grandchildren to discover things that they’re not getting in school. I’ve been privileged to have a lot of very interesting and celebrated people wander in and out of my life, and one of them was Ray Bradbury, who, as I’m sure you know, was probably the most celebrated science fiction writer in the world. And Bradbury used to say that when he got out of high school back in the 1930s, his family couldn’t afford to send him to college. And he said he ended up educating himself. He said, “I never graduated from college, but I graduated from the Los Angeles Public Library.” He literally went to the library three, four days a week for hours on end and he read his way through the library. Of course he had the satisfaction in later years of seeing his books being the basis for courses in colleges all over the world. So after doing my book, which basically made the case for cultural conservation, I decided I’d better practice what I preach and follow my own advice and light a few candles rather than remain in the dark.

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S I never graduated from college, but I graduated from the Los Angeles Public Library. Ray Bradbury, author

o you have your books, the website, the organization, what’s next? When John Kennedy was running for president in 1960, in some of his speeches he would say, “Give me your help, your hand, your voice, your vote.” Well, I’m not running for anything, so I’m not asking anybody to vote for me, but your help, your hand, and your voice are all welcome. Obviously, as a little, brand new 501(c)(3) educational cultural foundation, we’re trying to raise funds. At the risk of saying something that I’ve said many times on radio and television when people say, “Where should I start?” the internal author’s response is to say, “Well, you should start by reading my book.” But the fact is it’s quite true. Mark! My Words lays out the case for cultural conservation, and we’ve had a lot of very interesting responses to this message. The reality is there is a vast universe of people who do feel this way, but what’s happened is that the communications media, the big media in New York and Hollywood, are totally caught up in the focus of celebrities. And with the advent of social media, there is such a focus on this that there are many, many people of accomplishment who simply are ignored and nobody ever finds out about them. When I do my shows on television, I sign off with “On this show we respect the best of the past, which shouldn’t be forgotten; the best of the present, which shouldn’t be ignored; and the best of the future, which shouldn’t be undiscovered.” That’s really the foundation of cultural conservation. PL


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ings are on fingers, venues are getting booked, and wedding planning for 2019 is going strong. Here are some new trends happening and some old ones that are coming back.

2019

Wedding Trends By NICOLE SMITH, Vision Events

Colored Wedding Dresses Wedding dress designers are starting to stray away from traditional white and ivory gowns, and moving toward pinks, lavenders and grays. The ivories are getting darker, whites are turning into grays and blushes. Adding a little color to your wedding dress is a great way to stand out and show your own personal style.

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2019

Wedding Trends Illustrated Invitations

Natural and Organic Florals

The invitation is the first thing that sets the mood for your wedding day. The style, color and overall design create the first feelings your guests have of your wedding. A trend on the rise is illustrated invitations. We are seeing more and more couples go the personalized route and get invitations tailored to them. Some include maps of where the couple met, where they are getting married and where they are going to live or honeymoon. Some include illustrated pictures of the couple themselves and maybe their fur babies. It’s a great opportunity to think outside of the box and get creative.

Flowers are out; greenery and texture are in. As we are in the middle of designing our 2019 weddings, a lot of our brides are skipping the flowers and opting for lush greenery instead. Using different hues of green and different textures creates volume, depth and a gorgeous array for any location. Greenery with texture, like pampas grass and ferns, can create a magical look that guests will always remember. You can mix shades of green by using ivy, silver-dollar eucalyptus and dusty miller. Not only is this a unique and beautiful way to bring nature into your wedding, it can also be more cost effective than flowers.

Interactive Stations

Unplugged Ceremonies

Say goodbye to the boring buffet—action stations are now the way to serve, display and entertain your guests. Interactive stations are small-plate stations where a chef cooks the dish right in front of the guests. This is a fun and interactive way to serve guests their food, while entertaining them as well. Shrimp and grits, taco bars, and carving stations are just a few we love. Stations can be set up in different areas to allow guests to smoothly flow around the venue. It’s dinner and a show.

Couples pay thousands of dollars for a professional photographer to capture their wedding only to have all the photos cluttered with cell phones and handheld cameras in the hands of your guests. It’s very distracting in the photos and doesn’t look very nice. A great way to combat this is by creating an unplugged ceremony. With some great signage, couples can convey to their guests that they would prefer if their guests were in the moment and not on their electronic devices. You’ll have gorgeous photos that you can share with everyone afterward.

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Wedding Trends

Bucking Traditional Rituals Couples are bucking the traditional wedding rituals and saying “no thank you” to the bouquet toss, garter toss and having a bridal party. More couples are now skipping these reception traditions and focusing on the party! There’s no need to single out your solo friends, or make your new husband go under your dress in front of your grandmother. (We personally cringe at this.) Also trending are couples having smaller or even no bridal party at all. Couples want their friends to be able to enjoy the day without having to worry about buying dresses, tuxes and holding bouquets. It’s all about the making the most of the time with your loved ones.

Jewel Tones Jewel tones are in everywhere right now. These colors transcend seasons and can be used all year long. They are rich and vibrant, and can be used in large amounts or small accents. Emerald green, dark plum and soft teal are perfect accents to create a unique and elegant feel.

Wedding Weekends Weddings are more than just a one-day affair now. Wedding weekends are creating a different experience for the couple and guests. Wedding weekends may include a welcome party Thursday or Friday night, the wedding on Saturday, and then a farewell brunch on Sunday morning. We are seeing this more, especially in destination areas like Pinehurst. This gives the guests some downtime to explore the area the couple chose for their wedding, as well as more time to see the couple and their families. Oftentimes, the wedding day is very rushed and there’s barely enough time to see and speak with everyone. Wedding weekend experiences create more casual time to visit with all your loved ones.

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Wedding Planning By KATE ROWE, Wedding Day Rescue

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he holiday season is the most popular time of year to get engaged, so congratulations! Now the daunting task of making big decisions and managing your wedding budget and timeline is ahead. But instead of looking at the big picture and becoming overwhelmed with all those decisions you need to make, just look at it as a process; this will make it much more manageable. First thing’s first: Let everyone know you got engaged. Followed by the mandatory money chat with parents or anyone contributing to your wedding budget. Weddings cost a lot more than most brides budget for so be prepared to go back to the till for additional funds. Once you have determined the budget and preliminary guest count, find your venue. It is easier if you are not committed to a specific date, as that could eliminate some great venues. Be flexible and consider reception options like a restaurant, farm or even a backyard if you have a smaller event. Enlist a wedding planner. Brides don’t know what they don’t know, and an experienced planner can help. If your budget does not allow for full planning assistance, then consider a month-out option. Trust me, your life will be so much easier. So, you have your ring, budget, venue and planner. Time to choose your wedding party and let them know up front what their financial commitment may be. Create a wedding email. That way your personal email will not get integrated into your wedding emails; trust me, there will be lots and lots of emails.


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Wedding Planning

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Send out Save the Date Wedding dress shopping Think of your ceremony and reception venues Caterer Buffet or plated Entertainment Cocktail hour – strolling violinist, guitarist, DJ Reception – DJ or band Ceremony – Strings, harpist, bagpipers, soloist Photographer/Videographer Florist Do you want to DYI all or part of your florals, what does the ceremony site require, is your reception venue already decorated? Wedding website Hotel room block Wedding insurance

4-6 months – You are halfway there! Order invitations Traditional or evites Plan your rehearsal dinner Traveling internationally? Don’t forget your passport Wedding cake or dessert bar? Tux fittings, bridesmaid dresses, rented or ordered Transportation Want a shuttle to take your guests from the hotels to the ceremony and/or reception? How about from the reception to hotel, especially if you plan on serving alcohol?

2-4 months – Countdown begins Mail your invitations Hair and makeup trial Reception set-up finalized Please no more than 8 to a table; your guests will thank you. Liquor license Check with your venue

One month out – It’s now or never Song list to DJ Ceremony music finalized Final count to caterer Remember to order dinner for your vendors Pay balances to vendors Final fittings Work with planner to finalize day-of timeline

Day-of Leave everything to your planner and enjoy the day. Eat! Congratulations, you’re married!

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In Vino, Veritas

Something Blue By Sassy Pellizzari

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icture it: your wedding day. That glorious, memorable day full of the largest range of emotions you’ll ever experience. First off there’s love, then a little stress, (OK, a lot of stress), anticipation, faith, optimism, promise, elation and trepidation. You’ve dreamt of this your entire life. In that magic, peaceful moment, before your beloved family accompanies you down the aisle into the arms of your spouse-to-be, there is a special tradition. They bring you something old (perhaps a family heirloom), something new (hopefully something very expensive), something borrowed (do they expect you to return it?) and something blue. For this, they pour you a glass of blue wine. Personally, my first thought would be, if this spills on my white gown, you are disinvited to the reception. After that, I’d have a moment of curiosity. What is this blue wine and is it any good? You may have heard of blue wine before, as it made its not-so-successful debut a few years ago. Initially, tastemakers and bloggers were loving the beautifully photogenic and cutting-edge beverage, until they actually had to consume it. Furthermore, the Spanish company that created it in 2015 did not pass certain European regulations and it was taken off the shelves after only three days in France. Fast forward to now: The blue wine seed was planted in the brain of French entrepreneur Rene Le Bail, who was captured by the idea and found a way to do it properly. Monsieur Le Bail failed at convincing any French winemaker to actually produce this wine, so he moved production to Spain, and Vindago was born. Now, I can’t stand anything with blue food coloring, or any food coloring at all, so at first glance this color made me cringe. The blue Vindago wine, however, is actually a completely natural color. It is made with the chardonnay grape, which is then filtered through red grape skins, where natural pigments called anthocyanins rear the indigo color. After seeing the interest and learning the tricks of the trade, other winemakers in Spain are now producing blue wine, which is quickly becoming less peculiar and less abnormal to see in stemmed glasses out and about. The taste is fruity but also fresh, not too sweet, and does not resemble the classic Chardonnay. Typically, I am a wine

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traditionalist, but I’m tempted to embrace this. Blue is the color of the sky and the sea; it symbolizes tranquility and calmness, relaxation but stability. Drinking this wine reminds me of summer days, seaside, being on a boat, on a plane or relaxing with family and friends. I don’t imagine myself drinking it at a Michelin star restaurant accompanying great plates, but I don’t think that’s ever where it would be. PL

Sassy Pellizzari lived in Italy for more than 13 years, where she developed a passion and knowledge of Italian wines. She and her husband, Paolo, are the owners of Bacco Selections, a Pinehurst-based company specializing in fine wine importing and distributing.


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May 5, 2018

STEPHANIE & PAUL

THE COUPLE: Paul & Stephanie Ciobotti THE VENUE & RECEPTION: The Fair Barn THE FLORIST: Tina French RENTALS: Ward Productions HAIR & MAKEUP: Retro Studio Bar THE PLANNER: Jill Fahey THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Jennifer B. Photography

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June 2, 2018

BILL & TERESA THE COUPLE: Bill Ottman and Teresa Graham THE VENUE: Weymouth Garden, Southern Pines MAKEUP: Tiffany Carpenter of Glow by TC THE FLORIST: Botanicals • THE PLANNER: Magnolia & Pine Events SWEETS & CATERING: Southern Angel Donuts & Thai Fusion BAND: Tellico • THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Jennifer B Photography

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June 30, 2018

JACQUELYN & RICHARD

THE COUPLE: Richard and Jacquelyn Kujawski THE VENUE: Rubicon Farm HAIR/MAKEUP: Studio Elite Hair Gallery THE CAKE: Cake.NC • RENTALS: Richmond Rentals & Ward Productions THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Pinehurst Photography

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October 6, 2018

COURTNEY & JOHN

THE COUPLE: John and Courtney Speight THE VENUE: Country Club of North Carolina THE FLORIST: Jack Hadden Floral Design ENTERTAINMENT: Pierside Entertainment Productions THE CAKE: The Bakehouse THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Mollie Tobias

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October 13, 2018

KATIE & JACKSON

THE COUPLE: Jackson and Katie Waren THE VENUE & RECEPTION: Weymouth Center THE FLORIST: Hollyfield Design THE CAKE: The Bakehouse HAIR & MAKEUP: RETRO Studio Bar THE PLANNER: Vision Events RENTALS: Ward Productions & Party Reflections THE PHOTOGRAPHER: Pinehurst Photography

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October 27, 2018

VICTORIA & ADAM

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November 3, 2018

BRANDY & TREVOR

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aving trouble finding that perfect song for your first dance? Here are the top 5 first dance songs requested by brides across the nation in the last year: 1. “Perfect” by Ed Sheeran 2. “Say You Won’t Let Go” by James Arthur 3. “From the Ground Up” by Dan + Shay 4. “Thinking Out Loud” by Ed Sheeran 5. “In Case You Didn’t Know” by Brett Young

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1. Work with your DJ to make a mash up of several songs that show off multiple styles and multiple things about you as a couple. This may take some work, so start early and ask for a copy to practice with several weeks prior to your wedding. 2. Look for a popular song performed in a different way or by a different artist. One of my favorites is the song “Perfect” performed by Ed Sheeran with Andrea Bocelli. This is a beautiful version of a beautiful song and it is not a version many people know. There are many more remakes of songs like this and your DJ should be able to help you find the perfect fit for you. 3. Do it live! A first dance to a live musician is an amazing feeling. It’s like being on stage at a concert, only you are the show. I would suggest that you find time to rehearse with your musician, so you can have the right tempo and length for the dance. 4. Let your soon-to-be spouse and your parents pick a song that they feel will best fit. From these songs you can either make a mash up, choose one or have your wedding party pick for you. If you’re OK with surprises, don’t ask what they picked until your DJ starts the song. 5. Finally, if you’re stuck between two songs, use one for your first dance and another for your last dance. This allows you to begin and end with something memorable.


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Art of Flowers

BY LESLIE HABETS, Jack Hadden Floral Design + Events

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lowers set the stage for your big day. They paint the picture of what you want your guests to remember. People may comment on the food, but the lasting memory will be you walking down the aisle with your bouquet. Flowers, like a beautiful cake or couture wedding dress, are a carefully planned work of art—happening behind the scenes, months in advance. As with all planning, communication is key. Knowing what you want is vital to getting the end result you desire. Here are a few tips on making your floral dreams a reality.

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Be Realistic It’s easy to get caught up in the gorgeous photos on Pinterest and other sites, but most of those sites do not tell you what those arrangements cost. It’s beautiful work, but the fact is if you have a $2,000 flower budget, but you come in with a $5,000 portfolio of what you want, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

Book Your Venue First You don't have to have everything about your wedding planned out, but it’s ideal to come in with a venue. That needs to be one of the first steps. We can work better with your ideas if we know the venue. You may want to do a different look at the Fair Barn versus if you were doing the ballroom at the Pinehurst Resort.


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Bring All Your Ideas Come in with all of your ideas—we’re usually able to blend different ideas. Brides often look online and they think, “Well I like this type of bouquet, but I also like this one over here,” believing they must choose one or the other. If you’re working with a florist who has experience, he or she can definitely blend those two ideas and really make it your own bouquet. And it’s very important that your florist does that, because you do not want a Pinterest bouquet—you want something that’s yours. On top of that, quality florists do not like to replicate.

Start with Color I would suggest that brides come in with a color scheme rather than specific flowers. Most people don’t understand the pricing of flowers. Brides may like the look of peonies but may not like the price. Garden roses, however, can give a very similar look, they come in many colors and offer a better price point. Bring in your color palette and we can show you lots of options at different price points. You can get the look that you want if you allow your florist some creative leeway.

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Interview More than One Florist It’s important that you like your florist, because you’re going to work together, hand-in-hand—for months to sometimes more than a year—in creating a concept. Talk to different florists and go with who you feel comfortable with and who you feel you’re going to work well with. Your florist will bring a lot to the table and you’ll be going back and forth with him or her. Some people know immediately who their florist is going to be. Their family has used them for years or they were recommended by somebody. But if you’re not from the area, call and make a couple appointments. They don’t have to be long appointments. Also, with any florist in the area who has a brick-and-mortar building, just walk in one day and introduce yourself. That’s the best way to find the right florist for your special day.


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Life Under Pines

Low Point By Sundi McLaughlin

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or me, January and February are the most morale-crushing, soul-sucking months of the year. It’s that heartbreaking time, when my little shop becomes a ghost town. Considering the previous 60 days of good tidings of comfort and joy, these desolate and isolating months are jarring on every level. You see, November and December are the biggest months of the year for retail, and it is no different for our community of small businesses. The last two months of the year are like a wonderful party. Positive vibes and good will are in the air; people are smiling and laughing with friends and family. Folks we haven’t seen since the year prior come in to shop for Christmas, and when the front door is finally locked for the evening, we leave exhausted but also kind of exhilarated. We are doing a very simple but meaningful task of helping people find holiday gifts, which is stressful for the customer, but gives us a lovely sense of purpose. Men and women alike come in panicked, needing the perfect last-minute gift for someone, and we help them find it and are rewarded with a big smile. It makes me feel just a little bit like a very minor super hero. “There, there friendo, don’t fear. We have the perfect thing! Mockingbird

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to the rescue!” (Cue triumphant bugle horn). Then there are the parades, which kick everything up a notch. It starts with the Veterans Parade, which never fails to inspire and always brings a tear to my eye. One of our very favorite customers, Marie, has been in the parade since its inception. She was a World War II nurse who met her husband in Casablanca after the war. They fell in love, were married shortly after and remained so for over 60 years. Then there is another favorite customer, Dr. Dempsey, who is one of our town’s most fearless leaders, and walks amongst his fellow veterans waving back as we stand out in front of our shop screaming at both of them like the rock stars they are. Before you know it, it’s Thanksgiving, Black Friday, followed by Small Business Saturday and then the Downtown Open House. There is the Christmas parade with every marching band and business you can imagine rolling by … (except mine, because, I haven’t yet figured out how to make an 8-foot mechanical flapping mockingbird made out of flowers and twigs that waves to paradegoers while simultaneously shooting candy out of its beak. If interested in collaborating, come see me.)

The following week is the Carriage Parade, with carriages, horses, mules and donkeys all kitted out in Christmas splendor! If you have ever seen anything more charming, I will eat my Dickensian hat. Even after Christmas we are still on a high. People have family and friends in town and we have our 50 percent off after-Christmas sale. New Year’s Eve arrives and we are still of use as folks pop in for last-minute hostess gifts as they head off to different parties. And then … nothing. We are thrown into darkness. January hits, and with it everyone’s credit card statements, and we are forgotten. I get it, rationally … but personally, we at the shop all feel sort of sad and depressed. Where did everyone go? I can only compare it to what I imagine being announced Homecoming Queen at the football game would feel like. Your name is called, you’re raised on to the shoulders of your fellow classmates after being draped in a white satin sash while a sparkling crown is pinned atop your luxurious curls. You’re led to a myriad of dances and parades, local news stations are asking for interviews, you judge pieeating competitions and (I don’t really know what I’m talking about because I was the girl who did sports; the football


team treated me like I was one of the dudes), then after a few months of being showered with love and affection you’re unceremoniously plunked down off of their shoulders and wind up being just another kid in the hall trying to make it out of high school. That bright light is now turned to pitch. That is how it feels for me come Jan. 2 at my shop. It doesn’t end there. If anything, February is worse, as is the weather, and I begin to wonder what is the point in anything: the meaning of my life, shaving my legs, bottled water, the intense packaging of batteries, those little bags of pretzels they give you on the plane, snow boots for dogs …. What does any of it matter? You can literally walk down Broad Street and see no one except the other poor weary wretches like me selling their wares. Tumbleweeds—or snow, whichever— roll downtown and one can’t help but feel dropped into a scene from a postapocalyptic movie. But, just when I think I can’t go on, March hits and everyone begins to emerge from hibernation and then Spring Fest happens and we’re all friends again! Then the blahs of summer arrive, followed by horrible August. October picks up, and then, like a cannon blast, November explodes, which rolls into December and … you get the idea. It’s an emotional rollercoaster! So by the time this column appears, I will already be wading hip deep in self-pity. If you see me aimlessly wandering Broad Street, be so kind as to pat me on my head. Better yet, buy me a pint, I will be ever so thankful … right here under the Pines. PL

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Healthy Choices

A Year of Optimal Wellness by Ashley Carpenter, RD, FirstHealth

It seems there’s always a new diet trend that promises to help you lose weight, gain muscle and/or have more energy. Let’s make 2019 the year we give ourselves some love and start understanding what our bodies really need to achieve optimal wellness, especially with our nutrition. Here are five tips for you to start 2019 off right: Drop the extremes and be reasonable. You’ve probably heard people say things like “I’m not eating carbs” or “I’m on a detox cleanse.” It’s great to want to make changes to your diet and lifestyle, but don’t risk failure by piling on the restrictions and expectations. Instead, start small and build on new habits. Some examples: Issue: Not having anything healthy to eat at home. Solution: Grocery shop once a week, especially for fresh produce. Issue: Drinking soda and sweet tea. Solution: Cut by half and go down from there. Issue: Not being prepared and then resorting to fast food after work. Solution: Batch cook once a week: one to two proteins, two to three 62 ASOUTHERNSOPHISTICATION

vegetables/salad, and a pot or pan of starch (brown rice, roasted potatoes, beans and quinoa). No need for anything fancy. Simple preparations will allow you to repurpose these ingredients into salads, bowls, stir-fry and sandwiches during the week. Issue: Skipping a 3 p.m. snack and then being dangerously hungry when you get home (and then eating the entire kitchen). Solution: Always have on hand nuts, fruit, hummus, cut-up raw veggies, granola or fruit bars, string cheese or yogurt. Issue: Skipping breakfast. Solution: Try overnight oats, hummus on toast, egg muffins, even a handful of nuts and a piece of fruit. If you don’t know how to cook, learn how to cook. This should be a nonnegotiable life skill. Start with basics like roasting vegetables, making your own salad dressings or cooking whole grains. Given the vast array of videos on YouTube at your disposal, there is no excuse. Seek out cooking classes (FirstHealth Fitness hosts monthly cooking demos, as do other locations around town).

If you’re trying to lose weight, don’t be fooled. No shake, pill or patch will solve an issue. You might need a bit of guidance from a professional (FirstHealth Fitness offers virtual Tele-Nutrition sessions for convenience). If you’re overeating, figure out why. It’s rarely about food. Try to identify the feelings around your eating habits. You can have all the nutrition knowledge in the world, but still be held back by not addressing the underlying emotions tied to your food choices. Dissociate guilt from food. Instead of making food or exercise about punishment, make it about nourishing your body and your health. Give yourself the opportunity to enjoy eating and move on without making it about “good” or “bad” foods. If you fall off the wagon, get back on. Feel like you overdid it during the holidays? Get yourself eating five to eight servings (serving = 1/2 cup or one cup leafy) of vegetables a day to clean your diet up. Shake it off and keep moving forward. If you need some assistance to get started on improving your nutrition or exercise plan, get help from a registered dietitian and certified personal trainer. PL


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The Garden

The Peony BY DOLORES MULLER

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ith their outrageously beautiful rounded bloom, peonies symbolize romance and prosperity and are regarded as an omen of good fortune and a happy marriage. That is why they are frequently used in wedding arrangements and bouquets. They are the traditional floral symbol of China, the state flower of Indiana and the 12th wedding anniversary flower. Here in the South many people think peonies will not grow. Peonies do very well here, however, and plants may live longer than you do—some have been known to thrive for 100 years. Peony plants require little maintenance as long as planted properly; they do not respond well to transplanting. The rules for success are simply full sun, well-drained soil and planting them shallow with the “eyes” just below the soil surface. Plant on a northern exposure and do not mulch in the winter. Flower size will decrease due to root competition from nearby trees and shrubs. Peonies prefer a well-drained soil with a pH of 6.0 to 7.0. Plant peonies in the fall if possible, even later in our area as long as the soil is workable. Dig a generously sized hole. Enrich the soil with compost and about one cup of bone meal. Set the root so the eyes face upward on top of the soil. In our area, choose early-blooming varieties and plant them about an inch deep with some shade. Water thoroughly. Young peonies take time to develop. They usually need a few years to establish themselves, bloom and grow. Once established, peonies thrive on neglect. Unlike most perennials, they don’t need to be dug and divided. And spare the fertilizer. Ants love to harvest the sweet sap covering the flowers buds; they are harmless and keep other, bad insects away. And the good news is deer and rabbits don’t like peonies’ bitter taste. PL

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A Look Back

James & Katharine Boyd, circa 1930s.

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assion feeds the human spirit, its doubleedged sword cutting across time in a volley of emotion—driving, tempting, sometimes frightening. No one surpassed Southern Pines writer James Boyd, whose style and taste set the tone for the Sandhills resorts in their founding years, in his zest for life. A favorite entertainment of the writer was the performance of “Passion Plays”—an irreverently titled series of amusements created with friends—sometimes serious, but mostly comical.

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James and his wife, Katharine, were central figures in the Southern Literary Renaissance of the 1920s and ’30s, hosting at their Weymouth mansion such notable figures as William Faulkner, F. Scott Fitzgerald and Thomas Wolfe. These were the days before television, and even radio was distant, so they created their own entertainment. Boyd was the leader of the pack— precise, pointed, a brilliant storyteller. There were skits, poems and songs celebrating or lampooning the locals and their guests.


Above & Right: James & Katharine Boyd in the 1920s. Far right: The title sheet for “Songs of the Sandhills” stated: “We desire to acknowledge from the start that this publication is libelous per se, and you can see our lawyers. –The Editors”

Born a man of words, Boyd would recite poems he’d written for his wife as a testament to their affection. The beginning of their love affair is veiled in time. What we know is that Katherine, 19 years old and a wealthy heiress, purchased land from the Boyd family in 1916 and built as her residence the current Weymouth Gatehouse at the Ridge Street entrance to the estate. The couple married in 1917 while James was waiting for his orders during the First World War, eager to create a life together. Boyd served as a lieutenant in the Allied Expeditionary Force in Italy and France, participating in the Saint-Mihiel action and the first and second Meuse-Argonne offenses. Boyd would later write “nothing but darkness and the void … through which the ambulances churned … but a least the darkness hid some of the carnage.” He wrote often to his wife and a remarkable group of letters survive, among them a correspondence from James to Katharine dating from mid-1918: Honey Dear, ... my letters are no good—unless perhaps they show you that I

love you. If I could only lie down beside you and talk a little bit and feel you close to me so soft and strong. Would you tell me some animal stories? I loved the ones you did tell. Keep reading poetry aloud so you can begin to get the swing with your musical training. Memorize it and most of all, let yourself go … Goodbye little duck bird. Love, Jim Boyd was finally discharged on his 31st birthday, July 2, 1919, after being confined to hospitals in London and Paris for treatment of chronic health problems. He returned to civilian life so impaired that his doctors told him that a business career was impossible. Southern Pines was a welcoming oasis, a bucolic village of 700 people, set in balmy pinelands. Here, Boyd would live as a country squire and pursue his love of writing. Coming back from the war, Boyd encountered a remarkable community of educated and affluent Southerners and Northerners who were transforming the Sandhills into a worldclass resort. Inspired by an interest in nature and a belief in the

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civilizing influence of rural life, country estates designed by prestigious architects and landscapers proliferated in the area. The individuals tied to these estates would serve as cast and creators of the “Passion Plays.” Some of the plays were scripted musicals written as parodies of local events, such as “The Peach Opera,” while others were published in a ringed-binder under the cover “Songs of the Sandhills.” The title sheet of the songs stated: “We desire to acknowledge from the start that this publication is libelous per se, and you can see our lawyers. –The Editors.” The performances reflected times of dramatic social and political change head-on: the roaring ’20s and the blues of the ’30s. Shows took place at estates throughout southern Moore County and actors included members of the most prominent families: the Pages of Aberdeen, the Tufts of Pinehurst, along with the Boyds of Southern Pines. Song titles included: “The Most Outrageous Land,” “Ode To A Sportsman,” “We Had Learned About Women Before,” “Moore County Corn,” “The Girls At The Paddock Door” and “That My Dear Fellow Is That.” “It’s Time To Start Drinking Again” was a particularly popular song, written by Boyd and first sung by him at Weymouth in 1931: O, it’s time to start drinking again, All women and children and men Have passed a long day In an orderly way, So, it’s time to start drinking again For cheer and for bounty The folks of Moore County Consider, they’re first among men. And when’er they assemble They make the walls tremble, For it’s time to start drinking again. Among the most poignant series of “Passion Plays” involved the torrid love affair and subsequent divorce of Raphael Pumpelly. He was a flamboyant playboy, owner of Samarcand House, the largest estate at Eagle Spring in western Moore County. Notorious for his parties, a Pullman car from Aberdeen ferried weekend guests to the Samarcand depot, then Monday morning the same Pullman took revelers home, some of them not remembering where they had been. Beneath the gaiety, Pumpelly’s marriage was in trouble and his wife, Amelie, separated from Raphael in May 1924. The trial was a carnival of sensationalism that blazed across newspaper headlines. The public proceedings attracted both friends and curiosity seekers, and the many parodies included two written Top: Amelie Pumpelly with her children, circa 1920s. Bottom: Opening page of “The Pig Bandits of Samarcand.”

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by Roger Derby: “The Duke’s Trial” and “The Pig Bandits of Samarcand.” Pumpelly was jailed many times for not meeting the terms of his divorce and the couple’s disagreements dragged on for years. In a list of woes, Pumpelly stated: “My wife is gone, my house is empty, my property ransacked and I have endured a two years’ war,” and one of their children would later remark, “She must have loved him once.” In contrast to the Pumpelly’s troubles was the enduring affection between James and Katharine Boyd. When James died suddenly on Feb. 24, 1944, the announcement of his death rocked the entire community in which he had so long been a familiar personality. That same year, Charles Scribner’s Sons published “Eighteen Poems By James Boyd,” the first poem written for his beloved wife—an arrow shot through the heart of time:

Wedding Anniversary It Sometimes seems as if that snowy day When, from your house and hill, the flying sleigh With silver notes bore you and me away, Were only just last year; The black trees stand so clear, So clear the snowy hill, the silver sleigh-bells shine, So warm your narrow mitten lies in mine. But when at other times I search my heart And look upon my life in every part, I feel that you have known me from the start, I feel that you have known Years that I seemed alone, That in the bounty of your patient love There are no days of mine it knows not of. PL Ray Owen is a writer from Southern Pines.

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Books

The Power of Science By Robert Gable

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e’re surrounded these days by electronic gadgets, with the cell phone perhaps the most pervasive. We take our phones for granted, but there is a lot of science behind making them work. They need networks, and networks use communication satellites. Satellites need to orbit the earth, and that is the realm of astrophysics. In Accessory to War, the authors make the solid case that astrophysics is very much a part of our modern lives. (With tongue in cheek, they dedicate the book “To everybody who has ever wondered why astrophysicists have jobs at all.”) The authors frame the historical discussion of astrophysics in the first section of the book. Astrophysics, in its most rudimentary form, has been around since humans first looked toward the heavens. Our ancestors used the skies to ascertain things, like when is the best time to launch a sneak attack? How about under cover of darkness from a new moon? Astronomy and astrology (offshoots of astrophysics) have informed many leaders on how to govern, as well. The stars made for a reliable way of navigating on the high seas. The telescope led to better charts of the constellations. The pocket telescope, or spyglass, made for a better way to look for an enemy. All of which is a way of saying that astrophysicists have had an impact on history for centuries. The second section of the book then explores how vital satellites are for getting to the “high ground” on many different levels or how we engage in surveillance on a higher order of magnitude than earlier generations—and it only continues to expand as technology advances. On a peaceful level, a global positioning system (GPS) can take you to your aunt’s house for Thanksgiving dinner or help farmers determine which parts of their fields need more water. On a defensive level, that same GPS provides coordinates for drone attacks on enemy targets. The authors are well-versed in making complex scientific concepts understandable to the general reader. Neil deGrasse Tyson is the spark behind books and educational films. He’s everywhere: on TV, radio and running the Hayden Planetarium at the American Museum of Natural History. He has a passionate concern for astronomy and all things science. Avis Lang is just as passionate about the English language. She’s worked with Tyson for years on magazines, books 72 ASOUTHERNSOPHISTICATION

Accessory to War: The Unspoken Alliance Between Astrophysics and the Military Neil deGrasse Tyson and Avis Lang 576 pages, W.W. Norton and Company / $30.00

and at the planetarium. She makes sure the writing is understandable to the general reader. Together, they are a successful and prolific writing team. Astrophysics is complex, but the authors strive to keep the explanations clear and uncomplicated. No assertion is ungrounded; they give footnotes to all the statistics they cite. This book takes some time to read; the authors are thorough, and each page is chock full of information. They have no Pollyanna illusions here. The account is sobering and enlightening at the same time. Science can be used for good ends or bad ends, and the underlining message is we need to keep in mind what the new science might be used for or be careful what we wish for. They note: “Space power is about having the knowledge, the material capability, and the will to take strong, daring actions far beyond the limits of Earth’s atmosphere …. Space power enables communication, intimidation, surveillance, dominance, threat assessment, and, yes, scientific research in ways and at distances never before possible.” In the last chapter, “A Time to Heal,” the authors tie things up on a hopeful note. Earlier parts of the book show somewhat serious and ominous parts of the space race. Here they want to show how science turned to good use could solve some of our vexing problems. In the meantime, we might consider our home “Spaceship Earth,” as Buckminster Fuller used to say. In the great expanse of the universe, the Earth is just a small speck. We aren’t living on Mars anytime soon, so this little blue speck is all we have. PL

Robert Gable worked in book publishing for 18 years before going into the golf industry. He lived and worked in Pinehurst for five years and still misses it. He currently lives in Queens and works as an assistant golf pro at Metropolis Country Club in White Plains, New York.


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Whispering Pines Book Club The Wiregrass by Pam Webber

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Editor’s Choice The Secret War Diaries of Abraham Lincoln by Paul R. Dunn (local writer)

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When Work Is Play By Toby Raymond

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iving a horse life is not for everyone. It’s early in the morning, late in the evening, in every kind of weather—and it’s messy. For me, it’s a well with a hole at the bottom into which I happily pour my heart and soul every single day. The drill usually begins at first light with feeding, haying, mucking and watering. In my world, picking the fields comes next, followed by blowing down the barn and vacuuming the tack and feed rooms. That’s before riding, which also takes some doing. Then there’s the cool down grooming and bath in the summer, blankets back on in the winter, cleaning tack and sweeping up. By this time, more often than not, one of the horses has wandered into his or her stall from the pasture, which invariably calls for more mucking, replenishing the waters and another round of sweeping. And then there’s lunch: beet pulp for my guy and hay all around. Oh, and did I mention massive amounts of laundry thrown into the mix?

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I have a non-“horse-friend” who used to roll her eyes in wonder that anyone could be so “dedicated”— not exactly the word she used to describe my daily routine. “Downright crazy” is what she yelled when I told her to take off her shoes before coming into the barn. I must admit it was a joke, but not by much. And she didn’t even realize that that’s just the beginning. Pasture, fence, manure, equipment, feed, bedding, arena—all need to be maintained relentlessly, on top of those unexpected things that pop up always at the wrong time. I was talking to another friend, of the horseperson variety, about this and she suggested I mention what happens when we actually want to be posh, also known as, “doing our hair.” I, for one, am about a pony tail and baseball cap, but on the occasions when I want to show off, the maneuvering necessary to get my tangled mess into shape and have it “stay” in the humidity, wind or rain while doing end of day chores, we both agreed is probably the hardest chore of all.


To which I will add that there have been more than a few evenings when I’ve picked out stalls in a silk dress and muck boots before heading out. But that aside, we are curious about what other people do with their time, whether or not they’re at a 9-5 job. Errands? Well, we do those too, usually before many of our non-horse-friends are awake. Cleaning the house? Hmmm . . . it gets done but unlike the barn, don’t look too closely. Ladies lunch? Not often in my case; takes too much time away from the horses. Besides which, I would have to do my hair. Shopping? Same. Although I will say when I lived in Chicago, in a former life, shopping figured prominently and did take up a lot of time, usually a precursor to the dinners and parties that went on until dawn, which is now when I get up. Anyway, I order stuff online these days, mainly because I need to get back to meet the farrier, vet, reiki master, etc. The good news about all this, my horse-person friend reminded me, is that we’re not alone in our eccentricities. Here in North Country we’re quick to pitch in and help each other; sort of how it used to be in the old days before everyone started living on their smart phones and tablets. Maybe it’s the organic, hands-on nature of horse care that is part of the lure for many of us. While the world is traveling faster than warp speed, very little has changed with regard to picking a hoof or raking the yard, and there’s a comfort in that. Plus, horses don’t care about the gossip on FB or that texting has trumped talking as the preferred mode of communication. In fact, when it comes to my boy, he thrives on verbal cues. Super smart, he has a clear understanding of words like “stretch,” which he proudly demonstrates by doing a downward dog pose every morning; “head down,” whereby he drops his head below his knees; and “wait,” which he does patiently in his place for morning and evening feed. I could go on and on but the crew is waiting none too patiently for dinner. They can tell time down to the minute and let me know about it if I’m late. Thank goodness they haven’t yet figured out how to send text alerts or I’d really be in trouble. PL PL

Toby Raymond is a dressage rider and equine PR and features writer living in Southern Pines. When she’s not writing she is (where else?) ... in the barn.

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Down 1. Church bench 2. First man 3. Monetary unit of Peru 4. Tin plate 5. Eddies 6. Paddle 7. Simmered 8. Frigid 9. Lubricate 10. Norse god 11. Obtain 19. Biblical high priest 21. Climbing plant 24. It is 25. Shady tree 26. Born 28. In the past 29. Soldiers 30. Bullfight call 34. Motorboat 35. Soap ingredient 36. Sycophant 37. Refresh 38. Before 39. Brave 42. Greek letter 43. Secular 45. At sea 46. Adult nits 47. Curtsy 49. Land measure 51. Jamaican popular music

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On the Green

Positive Changes for 2019 by Helen Ross

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aybe your New Year’s resolution is to finally break 80. You might have vowed to practice more or take your first lesson. Whatever the motivation, have fun and try to realize those goals in 2019. Pinehurst and Southern Pines offer abundant opportunities for you to play—and with any luck, lower your handicap. But if the weather outside is frightful—we did just get over the holidays, after all—there will be plenty of golf to watch on TV. And in 2019, the big events will come fast and furious thanks to some big changes in the PGA Tour schedule. The biggest of those changes is the PGA Championship’s move from late summer to May which better spaces out the majors with one played each month from April-July. And the PGA won’t have to be moved in an Olympic year as was the case in 2016. At the same time, The Players Championship, which is the Tour’s flagship event, returns to March, which should make Pete Dye’s Stadium Course play more the way the legendary architect intended. The Players, which many consider the fifth major, was played in March 30 times in its first 32 years of existence before switching to May in 2006. The other significant changes come at the end of the PGA Tour schedule, including one that should have an extremely positive affect on the Wyndham Championship in Greensboro.

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The FedExCup Playoffs have been reduced from four to three events, assuring the season will conclude before the NFL gets under way. And a new strokes-based scoring system to be initiated at the Tour Championship will assure one person wins both the season finale and the FedExCup, with the winner’s bonus increased to $15 million from $10 million. Under the FedExCup Starting Strokes system, the 30 players who advance to East Lake will tee off in the first round with scores from 10 under (for the player ranked No. 1) to even par (players from Nos. 26-30). And no longer will there be two leaderboards—just one to decide the both FedExCup and the tournament winner. PGA Tour Commissioner Jay Monahan calls it a “seismic shift.” Closer to home, the Wyndham Rewards Top 10—which is a new $10 million bonus pool based on FedExCup points—will be decided at Sedgefield Country Club in Greensboro the week before the Playoffs begin. The FedExCup leader at the end of the Wyndham Championship earns $2 million with the 10th place finisher getting $500,000—so expect to see some new faces in the field. And speaking of expectations? Well, Tiger Woods comes to mind. His win at last year’s Tour Championship, the buoyant and boisterous throng following him to the 18th green,


answered a lot of questions. One remains, though. Will this be the year Woods gets his 15th major championship? To make sure he gives himself the best opportunity, Woods—who turned 43 on Dec. 30—is planning on cutting back his schedule. He played 19 Tour events last year, including seven of the last nine, and he said at the Hero World Challenge in early December that his surgically repaired body can’t handle that kind of schedule in the future. “I know that I can win because obviously I just proved it,” said Woods, who captains the U.S. Presidents Cup team in 2019. “It’s just a matter of getting everything kind of peaking at the right time. … The will and the want and the desire hasn’t changed; it’s just a matter of is the body willing to do it. “There are days or weeks that they don’t cooperate, so that’s just part of the injuries I’ve gone through and aging. The older athletes just don’t perform as consistently as they once did. I’ve been out here for 20-some-odd years.” Perennial favorite Phil Mickelson, who turns 49 on the Sunday of the U.S. Open at Pebble Beach, California, also plans to reduce his schedule in order to be fresh for the majors and other big events. If you’re looking for an up-and-comer to root for in 2019, look no farther than Cameron Champ. He won the Sanderson Farms Championship in his second start as a Tour member and finished among the top 10 three times total in the five events he played during the fall. Oh, and did we mention he hits the ball a mile? Champ leads the Tour in driving distance at 328 yards, and hit one 401 yards during the fourth round of the Safeway Open in his debut. He also ranks first in Strokes Gained: Off the Tee and second in birdies. Champ, who likes working on cars in his spare time, grew up playing on a par-3 course where the monthly pass was $50. His grandfather Mack, a Vietnam veteran, introduced him to the game of golf when he was just 2 years old. Among Mack’s words of wisdom? “It’s not where you come from, it’s where you’re going.” And it looks like Champ is going far, too. PL

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Pine Needles’ signature hole, a short par 3 over a small lake to a well-bunkered green, is a spectacular sight. It was selected by GOLF Magazine as one of Donald Ross’ Top 18 holes, as well as one of the magazine’s Top 500 holes in the world. The hole will feature prominently this May 16-19 when Pine Needles hosts the second U.S. Senior Women’s Open Championship. Photogr aph courtesy of Pine Needles

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CALENDAR OF EVENTS Dates and times subject to change. Check directly with event organizers before making plans.

1.1.2019 First Day Hike - the Boyd Tract Weymouth Center | 555 E. Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 9 a.m. Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.10.2019 Gathering at Given - Sayings from the Revolutionary War Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 3:30 p.m. and 7 p.m. at the Given Book Shop Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

1.1.2019 First Day Hike Weymouth Woods | 1024 N. Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 1 p.m. Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.10.2019 Emily Musolino - Live at the Cafe STARworks Cafe | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: FREE (tips appreciated) | 7:30 - 9 p.m. Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org

1.1.2019 First Day Hike - Paint Hill Hike Weymouth Woods | 1024 N. Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 3 p.m. Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.11.2019 Feeding our Feathered Friends (For Wee Ones) Weymouth Woods | 1024 N. Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 10 a.m. Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.3.2019 Story Time at Given Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10:30 a.m. Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

1.11.2019 John Cowan with Darin and Brooke Aldridge Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $30 - $35 | 6:46 p.m. Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org

1.4.2019 Danny Burns Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $10 - $15 | 6:46 p.m. Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org

1.12.2019 Wildlings: Winter Wing Watching Weymouth Woods | 1024 N. Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 10 a.m. Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.5.2019 Saturday Kids Program - Hobbit & Winnie the Pooh Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10 a.m - 12 p.m. Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

1.12.2019 Hot Glass Fundamentals STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $150 | 10 a.m. - 4 p.m. Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org

1.6.2019 Sandhills Salamanders Weymouth Woods | 1024 N. Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 3 p.m. Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.12.2019 The MET Opera - Adriana Lecouvreur (Cilea) Sunrise Theater | 250 NW. Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $27 | 1 p.m. Contact: 910.692.3611, sunrisetheater.com

1.6.2019 The Gibson Brothers Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $35 - $40| TBD Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org

1.12.2019 Parisian Salons featuring David Michael Wolff Lee Auditorium | 250 Voit Gilmore Lane | So. Pines Cost: $11 - $ 60 | 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. Contact: 910.687.9287, carolinaphil.org

1.10.2019 Story Time at Given Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10:30 a.m. Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

1.13.2019 Weymouth Chamber Music Series: Gordon Kreplin, Cathy Pescevich Weymouth Center | 555 E. Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: $10/member, $20/nonmember | 2 - 4 p.m. Contact: 910.692.6261, weymouthcenter.org

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1.13.2019 Amazing Adaptations Weymouth Woods | 1024 N. Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 3 p.m. Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

1.20.2019 The Great Dismal Swamp - Part 1 Weymouth Center | 555 E. Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: $10/lecture, $25/3-part series | 4 - 7 p.m. Contact: 910.692.6261, weymouthcenter.org

1.13.2019 Tellico and John Doyle, Modern Americana Music Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $20 - $25 | 6:46 p.m. Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org

1.20.2019 Ben & Joe Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $15/members, $5/membership fee | 6:46 p.m. Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org

1.15.2019 Wine Tasting - Great Value Wines Given Book Shop | 95 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: $35 | 6 - 8 p.m. Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

1.24.2019 Story Time at Given Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10:30 a.m. Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

1.17.2019 Story Time at Given Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10:30 a.m. Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

1.24.2019 2019 Moore Chamber Economic Outlook Forum Aberdeen Lake Park | 301 Lake Park Crossing | Aberdeen Cost: FREE : Breakfast 7:45 - 8:15 a.m. | Presentations: 8:15 9:30 a.m. Contact: information/R.S.V.P 910.692-3926

1.18.2019 Taarka Poplar Knight Spot | 114 Knight St. | Aberdeen Cost: $10 - $15 | 6:46 p.m. Contact: 910.944.7502, theroosterswife.org 1.19.2019 Make Your Own Mini Bowl STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $70 | 10 a.m. - 3 p.m. Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org 1.19.2019 Fine Edge - Live at the Cafe STARworks Cafe | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: FREE (tips appreciated) | 7 - 9 p.m. Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org 1.20.2019 Bolshoi Ballet in Cinema - La Bayadere Sunrise Theater | 250 NW. Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $15 - $25 | 12:55 p.m. Contact: 910.692.3611, sunrisetheater.com 1.20.2019 Backyard Bird Feeding 101 Weymouth Woods | 1024 N. Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 3 p.m. Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov

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1.24.2019 Arts Council of Moore County Artists Meetup One of a Kind Gallery | 128 W. Pennsylvania Ave. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 4 - 6 p.m. Contact: 910.692.2787, MooreArt.org 1.24.2019 John Hatcher and Friends Concert Weymouth Center | 555 E. Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: $50/member, $65/nonmember | 7 - 9 p.m. Contact: 910.692.6261, weymouthcenter.org 1.27.2019 Out of Africa - Reflections of Africa Series Sunrise Theater | 250 NW. Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 2:30 p.m. Contact: 910.692.2787, MooreArt.org 1.27.2019 Beaver Habitat Hike Weymouth Woods | 1024 N. Fort Bragg Road | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 3 p.m. Contact: 910.692.2167, ncparks.gov 1.29.2019 Maasai Culture Presentation - Reflections of Africa Series Penick Village | 500 E. Rhode Island Ave. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 9 a.m. Contact: 910.692.2787, MooreArt.org


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1.30.2019 The Forgotten Kingdom - Reflections of Africa Series Sunrise Theater | 250 NW. Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 7:30 p.m. Contact: 910.692.2787, MooreArt.org

2.9.2019 Make Your Own Valentine’s Mug STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $50 | 10 a.m. - 12 p.m. Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org

1.31.2019 Story Time at Given Given Memorial Library | 150 Cherokee Road | Pinehurst Cost: FREE | 10:30 a.m. Contact: 910.295.6022, giventufts.org

2.9.2019 Make Your Own Glass Valentine STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $60 | 10 a.m. - 3 p.m. Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org

1.31.2019 The Unique View of an African Naturalist - Ruth Pauley Lecture Series Sunrise Theater | 250 NW. Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 4 p.m. Contact: 910.692.2787, MooreArt.org

2.9.2019 Make Your Own Valentine’s Bowl STARworks | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: $50 | 1 - 3 p.m. Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org

1.31.2019 NC Symphony presents Tchaikovsky Serenade Lee Auditorium | 250 Voit Gilmore Lane | So. Pines Cost: $18 - $ 46 | 8 - 10 p.m. Contact: 877.627.6724, symphony.org

February 2.01-22.2019 Reflections of Africa Exhibit - Arts Council of Moore County Campbell House Galleries | 482 E. Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: FREE | 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. weekdays Contact: 910.692.2787, MooreArt.org 2.2.2019 The MET Opera - Carmen Sunrise Theater | 250 NW. Broad St. | So. Pines Cost: $27 | 1 p.m. Contact: 910.692.3611, sunrisetheater.com 2.2.2019 Berryfield - Live at the Cafe STARworks Cafe | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: FREE (tips appreciated) | 7 - 9 p.m. Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org 2.3.2019 Weymouth Chamber Music Series: The Ciompi Quartet with Allan Ware Weymouth Center | 555 E. Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: $10/member, $20/nonmember | 2 - 4 p.m. Contact: 910.692.6261, weymouthcenter.org

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2.10.2019 The Great Dismal Swamp - Part 2 Weymouth Center | 555 E. Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: $10/lecture, $25/3-part series | 4 - 7 p.m. Contact: 910.692.6261, weymouthcenter.org 2.12.2019 NC Symphony presents Mozart’s Great G-Minor Symphony Lee Auditorium | 250 Voit Gilmore Lane | So. Pines Cost: $18 - $ 46 | 8 - 10 p.m. Contact: 877.627.6724, ncsymphony.org 2.14.2019 Pete Pawsey and Anita Lorraine - Live at the Cafe STARworks Cafe | 100 Russell Drive | Star Cost: FREE (tips appreciated) | 7:30 - 9 p.m. Contact: 910.428.9001, starworksnc.org 2.16.2019 Carolina Philharmonic: The Wild West Lee Auditorium | 250 Voit Gilmore Lane | So. Pines Cost: $11 - $ 60 | 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. Contact: 910.687.9287, carolinaphil.org 2.22.2019 13th Annual Art Show & Sale Opening Night Reception The Village House at Penick Village | 500 E. Rhode Island Ave. | So. Pines Cost: $65/single, $120/couple | 6:30 p.m. Contact: 910.692.0487, foundation@penickvillage.org 2.23-24.2019 Young Musicians Festival Weymouth Center | 555 E. Connecticut Ave. | So. Pines Cost: $20/application fee | 9 a.m. - 5 p.m. Contact: 910.692.6261, weymouthcenter.org


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Holly Arts & Crafts Festival Pinehurst

October 20

Top, from left: Lauren O’Shea, Laura Thomas and Danielle Eubank; John, Mary & Ben Judd. / Bottom, from left: Annette Parson and Marilyn Perkey of Mad Hatter’s Follies; Sarah Prestipino and Joyce Pilewski; and Jenny & Brian DeFoney.

Unleashing the Pawsibilities

Benefiting the Moore County Humane Society Country Club of North Carolina October 24

Top, from left: Annie Hallinan, Mike Jones, Tom Fioretti and Pam Partis; Jamie Luzar and Jocelyn Servick. / Bottom, from left: Maureen & Steve Norell; Maryann & Dick McCrary; and Angela Gray, Lynn Stickle and Julie Dickens.

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Sandhills Sightings Hurricane Relief Fundraiser

Featuring baseball greats Jim Perry and Grady Little Belle Meade

Southern Pines October 29

Top, from left: Milt Plum, Daphne & Jim Perry and Caroline Eddy, development director for St. Joseph of the Pines; Wanda & Ollie Sweeney. / Bottom, from left: Johnny O, Grady Little and Tim Maples; John Dempsey, Kenny Locklear, Pat Corso and Peter DeYoung; and Pastor John Hage, Dan Flint and Caroline Eddy.

24th Annual Fall Show Exhibit & Sale The Artist League of the Sandhills Aberdeen

November 1

Top, from left: Carol Gradwohl, Judy Broom and Barbara Brando; Pam Griner and Joanne Thornton. / Bottom, from left: Show chairman Nancy Allen with Mary Ann Halstead; John & Marianne Regler; and Artist Betty Hendrix.

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Sandhills Sightings Sand & Pine Magazine Wine Crawl Aberdeen

November 9

Top, from left: Leslie Habets and Michelle Corwin; Chuck & Janet Pruitt, Tom & Pat Kirkland, Janet Peele & Keely Harpster. / Bottom, from left: Laura Urie and Cheryl Pompliano; Vickie Garner with Lisa & Joe Mathews; and John McNeill and Ashley Aipia.

22nd Annual Sandhills Children’s Center Festival of Trees Carolina Hotel Pinehurst

November 27 - December 1

Top, from left: Jose, Kristy & Alana Alvarez; Bruce & Debbie Hockman with Bob & Pat Ironside. / Bottom, from left: Erika Fedors, Mary Hilgenberg, Dana Proctor and Jeanie Tavenner; John, Joanne, Nancy & Pat Oakley; and Bret & Paige Norburg.

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Sandhills Sightings Dorothy Evans’ 100th Birthday Party Belle Meade

Southern Pines December 1

Top, from left: Betty Hurst, Dot Evans and Wanda & Ollie Sweeney; Dot Evans and Tom & Nancy Kees. / Bottom, from left: Ron Black, Judy & Clyde Biddle and Shaler Cooper; Betsy Blake; and Scott, Carol Ann, Chris & Jane Hermes with Lee Gable and David & Janice Fedor.

The Santa Express

Hosted by the Sandhills Woman’s Exchange

Carolina and Western Railroad, Aberdeen Given Book Shop and Carolina Hotel, Pinehurst

December 2

Top, from left: Landon & Jennifer Brooke making ornaments at the Given Book Shop; Sophia, Olivia & Alex Grazianl at the Carolina Hotel. / Bottom, from left: Event organizer Kathleen Causey with volunteers Cav Peterson, Judie Wiggins, Jean Downer, Rita Menzie and Santa; Adam, Katelin, Madeline, Gretchen & Conrad Huzeker with Santa; and Carter, Andy & Samantha Williams and Faith Clay with Santa.

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Sandhills Sightings Weymouth Christmas House “Unwrap the Magic”

Gala, Candlelight Tour and Teddy Bear Tea Weymouth House Southern Pines December 5-9

Top, from left: Story time at the Teddy Bear Tea; Event chairs Joyce Pilewski and Carol Westerly. / Bottom, from left: Barbara Keating, Bev Reynolds, Cathy Jones and Janet Dozois; Weymouth Executive Director Ry Southard and Wendy Bowen; and Candlelight Tour Chairman Bev Reynolds with Marianna Grasso.

Garden Club of the Sandhills Magical Mystery Tour - Random Acts of Kindness Pinehurst

December 12

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Sightings@ PinehurstLivingMagazine.com Top, from left: Event organizers Karen Fisher and Pat Welsh; Ellen Hamilton, Anne Howell, Lisa Case and Thea Pitassy. / Bottom, from left: The Pinecrest Chorale group; and prize winner Martha DeVault.

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Last Impression

Freedom photograph and caption courtesy of The Moore County Historical Association

Southern Pines postmaster Frank Buchan poses with two former slaves in what was probably the first Old Slave Day held in Southern Pines in 1934. On this day, members of antebellum families who owned slaves provided a festive picnic while the former slaves traded stories of old times. The two men with Buchan were both more than 100 years old. The man on the left is Rev. T.B. McCain and the man on the right is Demus Taylor, who founded Taylortown.

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