Being The Other Woman

What, for some reason or the other, and these reasons will vary from situation to situation, we appear to be unable to do is WANT to “help it.” Think about it.

There is a difference….

Do yourself a favor and don't use that one any more.

Casting yourself in the role of the helpless victim of some all-encompassing force beyond your control may dull the feelings of guilt to an extent but one can only lie to oneself for so long before one ends up seeing the liar as well as the cheater staring back in the mirror.

• "But I fell in LOVE" (same moist eyes and sob / sigh routine as before, or both for good measure.)

Yes. OK. So maybe you did. I did, too. But do you know what? It doesn’t actually matter, it is no excuse, and it's a poor explanation. If you are quite honest you probably went “that step too far” before you fell in love anyway. In many ways it makes it worse, especially for you. You may or may not know how right I am in that particular respect at this point; if you don't (yet), you will in due course.

Now we move on swiftly to my personal favorite • "It just HAPPENED!" (Depending on one's individual make-up accompanied by the "sob/s sigh/moist eye" thing, or a simple shrug from a more hardened individual.)

Oh PLEASE! These things absolutely, categorically and truly do not "just happen." We either positively, actively make them happen, or we passively let them