There isn’t always an exchange of rings. While some couples stick with tradition and opt to purchase complementing wedding rings, some couples are exchanging watches or other tokens of their love and commitment to each other instead. The processional can get creative. Unlike traditional weddings where the groom and his attendants process ﬁrst and wait at the end of the aisle for the bridal attendants and bride to process (usually escorted by one or both of her parents), many same-sex couples walk down the aisle together without their parents or bridal party, or meet halfway down the aisle. There’s plenty of creativity with this part of the ceremony.
Even unsupportive family should be invited. For same-sex couples who are wondering if you should invite a family member to your wedding who hasn’t been supportive of your relationship, the answer is yes. You’re only getting married once, and everyone important to you deserves the opportunity to attend.
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Bridesmaids and groomsmen? Not like you might think. Same-sex weddings often have mixed genders in positions of honor within the wedding party. Rather than a maid of honor, for example, you might have a man of honor or two best men, and so on for females.
Listen to how the couple addresses each other. Some same-sex couples refer to themselves as partners, life partners, husbands, wives, or spouses. Listen to how they address one another and refer to them the same way.
Even unsupportive family should attend. If you’re the family member of a samesex couple who has invited you to their wedding and you don’t personally support the idea of same-sex marriage, set aside your personal feelings for those few hours and attend the wedding. Please refrain from sharing your views on this subject when it comes to their wedding.
Don’t expect all the same traditions as opposite-sex weddings. You may be used to seeing certain wedding traditions that apply to brides or grooms (the bouquet toss or garter toss, for example) that you’re less likely to see at a samesex wedding. Just go with the ﬂow. Everyone will mingle. There isn’t likely to be a side designated for each member of the wedding couple during the ceremony. It’s more likely that guests will be encouraged to sit wherever they’d like. Reception seating is likely to be mixed, too.