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t is with great pride and pleasure that I present the 22nd annual edition of The Perfect Wedding. Planning a wedding can be overwhelming. It’s the most important event of your life and you want it to be perfect. Yet most of us already live such hectic lives and just the thought of executing a project of such magnitude can be stressful in itself. It doesn’t need to be that way. This handbook will help make your most important day run as smoothly as possible. It will help you co-ordinate the many details that make for the perfect wedding by guiding you, step-by-step, through the planning process. Plus it will give you valuable advice to prevent you from making mistakes that could seriously flaw your event. Although you will find valuable advice in planning the perfect wedding in the pages of this book, the most important advice I can give you is to enjoy this time in your life and accept whatever happens. So many brides get frustrated and upset trying to make their day perfect yet it’s the silly little “mistakes” that make everyone laugh and remember with joy your Special Day for years to come. It has been a pleasure working with the advertisers in this book, a group of dedicated, creative, hard-working and friendly professionals. I have been careful to include only the very best businesses and give all my readers a personal endorsement for each of them. Best wishes for a wonderful day and may this be the first day of a lifetime of bliss.

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Contents

Tips from a Recent Bride for Planning the Perfect Wedding .10 Wedding Planner’s tips to STOP Wedding Stress . . . . . . . . . . . . .38 Planning Calendar

Bride’s Checklist . . . . . . . . . . .12 Groom’s Checklist . . . . . . . . . .16

Banquet Hall, How to Choose . .30 Bridal Shows . . . . . . . . . . . .31- 33 The Cake . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .45

The Ceremony . . . . . . . . . . . . . .40

Caterer: tips for selecting . . . . .26

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Costs: Who pays for what . . . . .18

Disc Jockeys, Tips for choosing .35 Etiquette . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .29 Flowers . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .22

Invitations . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20

Jewellery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .28

Makeup & Aesthetics . . . . . . . .24

Musicians, Tips for choosing . . .34 Photography . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .36

Rehearsal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26 Toasts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .41

Wedding Wine . . . . . . . . . . . . . .44

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CEREMONIES

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DISC JOCKEYs

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GIFTS

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JEWELLERY

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LIVE MUSIC

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SPECIALTY SERVICES Banquet Halls Ontario 41 Grape Escape Tours . . .9

TRAVEL

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WEDDING PLANNERS

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WEDDING SHOWS

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WEDDING WINE

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A Recent Bride Shares Her Secrets For Planning The Perfect Wedding

by Virginia Fanous

Our wedding day was truly magical. My fiancé and I were married on New Year’s Eve 2014 in Toronto in a short and beautiful church ceremony followed by a stunning reception for 194 people. Steve and I had been engaged for one year and nine days before our wedding. My mom has asked me to write a short article about my experience and some of the tips I would now provide to brides. Thank you so much for this opportunity mom and for calling me the calmest bride you have ever seen! 1. Plan Early I probably took my own advice to the extreme since I bought my dress by myself 17 hours after my fiancé proposed in New York City. Buying the dress can be a very stressful experience (especially if you include many people in the process) and being decisive will result in much less stress in the long run (and towards the end). We also made our decisions on vendors early (by the end of the wedding show season in January, we had chosen our date, our venue, our photographer, and our cupcake cake). Vendors will often offer incentives and/or promotions to book with them during the wedding show—take advantage of these discounts. 2. Choosing Vendors The quality of your vendors and service providers has a lot to do with the final outcome of your day. The greatest advice I can give is choose your photographer wisely. You will likely end up spending more time with your photographer than with your own partner so ensuring that you all get along and your visions align is imperative. We met our photographer, Raph Nogal, at a wedding show in January 2014 and instantly st advice I can connected. Steve and I can ate gre The to: Pho nt Our Engageme e confidently say that the success tographer wisely. Be sur give is choose your pho of our wedding day was in large you y wa t Tha to. nt pho to include an engageme part due to Raph’s advice, er. eth tog g rkin wo in d will be experience professionalism, sense of Page 10

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humour, and easy going personality. We also had an amazing videographer who worked incredibly well with our photographer (Jesse Cappe from Big Ticket Productions), a spectacular operations team at our venue (Atlantis Pavilions in Toronto), an outstanding florist (Faye from Burlington Flowers, page 23), and wildly popular and beautiful bonbonieres from Christy’s Gourmet Gifts (page 6), just to name a few of our vendors. My final advice regarding your vendors is to always be nice and respectful (even if/when you’re stressed out). Our vendors went out of their way to make our day even more special and we are so incredibly grateful. 3. To Reveal or not to Reveal Initially, my fiancé Steve and I had decided not to do a reveal and see each other for the first time at the church. I am so glad we changed our minds (several times) and decided to do a reveal at 11am the day of our wedding (4 hours before our ceremony). We opted to do a private reveal with only our photographer, videographer, and my maid of honour present. It was beautiful. It also gave us ample time to do fun and cool couple photos and wedding party photos. It was such an intimate and beautiful experience for us as a couple (and my now-husband’s reaction to seeing me for the first time was epic!) 4. Make a Detailed Schedule (But Be Flexible) 1 week before the wedding I created a schedule of events in Excel that included the following headings: Time, What, Where, and Who. I also included important addresses (reveal location, getting ready locations, church address, venue address, etc.) and important phone numbers (maid of honour, best man, vendors, venue, church, etc.). We distributed this list to our vendors and our wedding party about 5 days before the wedding. This way, everyone knew where they needed to be and at what time. There were a couple times we had to throw the schedule out the window but overall it was an incredibly important component of making our day seamless. Finally, always over-estimate the amount of time you think you’ll need. 5. Make a List of Photos You Want (But Trust Your Photographer) Providing a list to your photographer of what family photos you want will make that component of the day much smoother. Include your family in the process of creating this list so you don’t receive last minute requests, and try to group family members together so they can leave once their photos have been completed. 6. Be Spectacular to your Bridesmaids What (I think) my bridesmaids appreciated most about being part of our wedding was our flexibility and willingness to be easy-going during the planning process. These girls are your family and best friends and so often I see them get stressed out (and occasionally see friendships end) because of poor experiences on both ends. This is a big investment for them (both in time and money) and you are going to need to lean on them tremendously in the week(s) leading up to the wedding. Make sure they are happy and excited. We had a lot of events leading up to the wedding so when 3 of my 4 bridesmaids asked if they could skip 2016 Edition

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PLANNING CALENDAR

Most of the planning for the wedding should be shared by both the Bride and Groom, however, the Bride’s mother should also be allowed to share some of the responsibilities, if she so desires. This planner is mainly for the Bride, (see separate planner for the Groom located at the end of this section).

9-12 Months before Wedding:

• Purchase a three ring binder and divide it into appropriate sections, start making notes and use it for filling quotations from various suppliers and stores, etc. • Prepare a budget for your wedding plans. • Decide on your wedding time and date. • Decide upon whether it is to be a formal or informal affair. • Choose and reserve the location of the ceremony and the reception. • Reserve a tent if you are planning an outdoor reception. • Consult with your Clergy, Priest or Rabbi. • Choose your attendants, (the Groom chooses best man and ushers). • Select a colour scheme for your wedding. • Select your gown and accessories, and your attendant’s dresses. • The groom and best man select their wedding attire. • Draw up the bride and groom’s guest list. • Plan the reception and include the M.C. in these plans. • Select your caterer and discuss the menu for the reception. • Select the following: Cakemakers and/or decorators, Florist, Photographer, Videographer, Music for the reception (Live Band or Disc Jockey).

Six Months before Wedding:

passports and inoculations. • Select wedding rings. • Choose your trousseau. • Mothers choose dresses, agree on colours. • Find a new home and shop for furnishings that you will need. • Register with bridal gift registry. • Reserve your rehearsal dinner location, including immediate members of both families, the wedding party, spouses and close friends if possible. • Book hotel accommodations for your attendants who may be coming from outof-town, and reserve a block of rooms for out-of-town guests. • Confirm dates, times and final arrangements with Cakemaker, Florist, Photographer, Videographer.

Three Months Before Wedding:

• Arrange for direction maps to all venues (Church, reception, etc.) to be drawn and sufficient copies made to include with all invitations. • Prepare invitations, ensuring all inserts (maps, reply cards, hotel information) are included in all envelopes. • Meet with caterer and discuss final menus, service charges, liquor costs, waiters and bartenders. Provide approximate number of guests. Make sure everything is confirmed in writing. • Arrange for the transportation from the service to the reception: limousine service or horse and carriage. Remember to have these arrangements confirmed in writing.

Two Months Before Wedding:

• Mail Wedding Invitations. • Discuss and try different hairstyles with your hairstylist. • Select gifts for your attendants. • Find all the necessary birth or Baptismal certificates you may need for acquiring your marriage license. • Apply for a marriage license: for details

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call your city hall. • Plan a brunch for out-of-town guests for the morning after the wedding, or another activity prior to their departure. This is a gesture of appreciation for their presence at your wedding. • Arrange time and place for a bridesmaid’s luncheon. • Send or deliver wedding announcement to your local paper, provide photo if you wish it to be published. • Arrange for your attendants’ gown fittings • Record all gifts you receive in the appropriate section of your three ring binder. Be sure to list all names of gift givers &the gift they gave, as well as date of receipt. • Meet with the organist and discuss the music for the service, also with your D.J. or band leader. Be sure everyone is clear on the type of music you wish played at the reception, as well as at the dance to follow. Clarify the breaks in the music, when and how long, agree on additional charges for possible overtime play.

Two Weeks Before Wedding:

• Set the wedding rehearsal date and confirm rehearsal dinner date and time with the restaurant, or with the caterer, as well as with all attendants, family members and friends who will be attending the rehearsal. • Place your marriage license in a safe place and remember, you will need it at the ceremony. • Be sure you have arranged transportation for out-of-town guests who will not have their own cars, not overlooking the fact they will need to be transported from the service to the reception. • Move your belongings to your new home. • Check all invitation responses and give final number of guests to your caterer. At this time finalize all previously discussed items, and have a written cost-per-person breakdown of food and drink signed by the caterer. Make sure you have a copy for yourself. • Have a final fitting of your gown. Page 14

• Buy a Wedding Guest Book. • Buy a gift for your Groom • Make name and address changes at your bank, all credit cards, driver’s licenses, insurance policies and mail change of address cards to relatives and friends. • Finalize seating arrangements for both the rehearsal dinner and the reception, make or have made place cards. • Meet with your M.C. for general discussion, determining how you wish the reception proceedings to be handled. Provide the M.C. with names and phone numbers of relatives or friends with whom you would like him/her to consult. • Start writing thank-you cards and notes for your guests. Do a few each day. Don’t leave them until after your return from your honeymoon. • Decide upon the receiving line, and arrange with one of your ushers to organize this at the correct time just prior to the reception. • Last minute purchases for your trousseau. • Start packing for your honeymoon.

One Week Before Wedding:

• You will need to make final checks with all services and suppliers to your wedding. Remember your florist and photographer for example, may be servicing two or three other weddings on the same day. Be sure they have the correct times, address for your home, church, reception and photo session area, (with directions, if necessary). • Go through your 3-ring binder, and be sure all suppliers and services have been checked for final arrangements. • Your bridal party gifts should be wrapped and gifts for those relatives or friends who have been particularly helpful in planning your wedding. • Arrange with a family member or close friend to help the photographer and videographer to identify those persons whom you wish to be photographed or taped for your wedding library.

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• Ask a family member or friend to transport gifts brought to the reception, back to your or your parents’ home.

The Day Before Your Wedding:

• Rehearse the ceremony with the bridal party. • Give the ushers the list of names for reserved seating at the church. • Try to relax as much as possible, culminating with a fun filled rehearsal dinner. • Try to get an early night and a good night’s sleep.

The Wedding Day:

• Try to get up early to give yourself lots of time to have hair done and get dressed, prior to the arrival of the photographer. • Nearly every wedding will have a few minor hitches, but only you or your wedding party might know about it. Remember, one day from now, you’ll look back and smile over the whole incident. • Good luck to you both and have a wonderful and memorable day.

The Groom’s Checklist 6 -12 Months Before Wedding:

• Buy the engagement ring. • With your fiancé, agree on the size and type of wedding you would like to have.

• Visit the clergy with you fiancee to set the date and time of the ceremony. • Choose your best man and ushers, and advise them of your choice of attire for the wedding. • Draw up a guest list with your parents.

3 - 6 Months Before Wedding:

• Buy the wedding band for your bride. • Arrange accommodations for your attendants, your family and close friends. • Start planning your honeymoon and discuss destinations with your fiancee. Once you decide, go ahead with the reservations and take advantage of early reservation bookings.

1 Month Before Wedding:

• Pick up the wedding band. • Assist your fiancee with the rehearsal dinner arrangements. • Along with your attendants, go for tuxedo fittings. • Reserve your rehearsal dinner location, include immediate members of both families, the wedding party, spouses and close friends if possible. • Book hotel accommodations for your attendants who may be coming from outof-town, and reserve a block of rooms for out-of-town guests.

One Week Before Wedding:

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• Fee for the clergy. • Honeymoon. • The bachelor dinner or party (optional).

The Groom’s Family

• Clothes for the wedding. • Any traveling expenses and hotel bills they incur. • Wedding gift for the bride and groom. • The rehearsal dinner. • Any other expenses they elect to assume (optional) • • • •

The Attendants

Their wedding clothes Any traveling expenses they may incur. Gift for the couple. Optional: one or more bridesmaids might want to give a shower for the bride or the couple. The same is true of the groom’s attendants giving the bachelor dinner.

The Bride’s Family

TRADITIONALLY: WHO PAYS FOR WHAT

The Bride:

• Wedding Ring for the groom (if it’s a double ring ceremony). • Groom’s wedding gift. • Attendant’s presents. • Personal Stationery. • Accommodations for her out-of-town attendants.

The Groom: • • • • •

The Bride’s Ring. Wedding Gift for the bride. The Marriage License. Gifts for his attendants. Flowers: Bride’s bouquet, corsages for the mothers, boutonnieres for the men. • Accommodations for the best man and ushers if they are from out-of-town. • Gloves, ties, or ascots for the male attendants. Page 18

• The entire cost of the reception: food (including wedding cake), beverages, gratuities for bartenders, waiters, decorations, music and flowers. • Wedding gift for the newlywed couple. • The bride’s wedding attire and personal trousseau. • The wedding invitations, insertions, announcements, and mailing costs. • The fee for wedding photographs. • Ceremony: fees for organists, soloists or choir and sexton. Aisle carpets if utilized, and / or canopy and any other additional costs for decoration. • Bridesmaids’ bouquets. • Gratuities to police directing traffic and any charges for car parking. • Transportation for the bridal party from the bride’s home to ceremony and reception. • Bridesmaid’s luncheon. • Optional: Rehearsal dinner if the groom’s family is not in a position to cover this cost. • Today, however, both the bride and groom and their families decide together who is going to pay for what cost.

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WEDDING INVITATIONS It used to be that all wedding invitations followed a traditional pattern: plain white or cream quality paper with engraved lettering spelling out the accepted wording. Today, things have changed. You’re free to be yourself. There is such a choice in invitations. However, good taste should still be very much in evidence. Choose a very good quality paper with engraved lettering. The wording, if not traditional, should be decided upon with care. (sample wording can be found in the different invitation catalogues at your local stationery store.) If your guest list is small, a handwritten note is sent. The wording is quite informal - i.e., Dear Mary: Jan and John are to be married on June first, at four o’clock, in the Walton Memorial United Church here in Oakville. After the ceremony we will be holding a reception in our home. We hope you will be able to join us. Sincerely, Joan.

Who Issues The Invitations

The Bride’s parents traditionally issue the invitations even if the bride no longer lives at home. If both parents are deceased, then a close relative or guardian could sponsor the wedding. If parents are divorced, the parent with whom the bride is living, issues the invitations. Today many couples choose to issue the invitations themselves.

The Invitation List

Determine the number to be invited, and allocate a portion of the total to the bride’s family, groom’s family, the bride and groom. Usually this is a third of the number of each. But the division of the list depends on a number of circumstances: the size of the families (is one a great deal larger than the other?); the distance guests must come; large or small connections, etc. The bride’s mother should consult with the mother of the groom regarding the division of the list and let her know the number of guests she may invite. Page 20

Style of Address

There are two envelopes used with wedding invitations. The invitation, along with the reply card, is inserted in the inner (smaller) envelope which is left unsealed. This is then placed in the outer envelope.] The outer envelope should be addressed by hand (never type-written). When sending to a married couple, it should be addressed: Mr. and Mrs. John Jones, and a full address. The inner envelope is addressed to “Mr. and Mrs. Jones”, without Christian names or addresses. When children are to be invited, their Christian names are written on the inner envelope under that of their parents. Children over twenty-one receive separate invitations.

Invitations to Single Guests

There are two schools of thought regarding single friends who will be guests. One suggests that the friend should be contacted to determine her/his guest’s name and address, and that a separate invitation be issued to that person. The other school contends it is quite proper to invite “Miss Jane Doe and Escort” or “Miss Jane Doe and Friend”. Choose the style you prefer; either is correct.

Invitation To The Clergy.

If your minister is a personal friend, you would provide him/her and spouse with a regular invitation. Otherwise, if the minister is to be invited to the reception, a hand-written note is sent by the bride’s mother thus relieving him/her of the obligation of a gift.

The Wedding Party

The groom’s parents and members of the wedding party like to have their invitations as keepsakes. A few invitations could be sent to the groom’s parents, along with a note saying you knew they would want to see them as soon as they were off the press. The keepsake invitation could either be given by hand, or mailed to each member of the bridal party.

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Invitations should be mailed four to five weeks before the wedding date. This is to allow sufficient time for the replies to be returned to you. (If using a reply card, request a reply date at least ten days before the wedding.)

Announcement

Announcements are sent to those friends and relatives who could not be invited to the wedding. They need no acknowledgment, nor do they require the recipient to send a gift. The announcements should be ready the day of the wedding to be mailed following the ceremony.

WEDDING FLOWERS: Since ancient times when bunches of herbs were carried by brides under their veils, flowers have been an integral part of the wedding ceremony. Traditionally, they were symbols of fertility, however, many flowers also have significance all their own. The rose is a symbol of love, the orchid of beauty and the carnation of distinction. The white daisy symbolizes innocence and the orange blossom, purity and loveliness. Blue violets symbolize faithfulness and the blue bell, constancy.

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Forget-me-nots mean true love, lily of the valley, happiness. The white lilac is a symbol of youthful innocence, red chrysanthemums of sharing and the gardenia of joy. Sooner or later almost everyone becomes associated with a wedding. Whether it is your wedding, your child’s or a friend’s, knowledge about wedding flowers can be valuable information which will save time and expense. Bouquets: The Bride’s bouquet usually has a white background with a colour contrast matching the colour of the bridesmaids’ dresses and their flowers. The bouquet can be made in a variety of styles. The Maid or Matron of Honour’s bouquet usually differs and contrasts the Bridesmaids’ bouquets. The Bridesmaids may carry a variety of styles of bouquets: nosegay, posy, full bouquet or cascade. Corsages: For Bride’s traveling, Mothers, Grandmothers, Soloist, Organist.

Boutonnieres: These are usually white and can be carnation, rose or gardenia; for the Groom, Best Man, Ushers, Fathers, Grandfathers, Ring-Bearer and M.C.

Flowers For The Church: Altar Bouquets, Floral Standards or Baskets, tall arrangements in standard columns, White ribbon, pew bows, with or without flowers and greens attached are also required.

Reception Flowers: Head table and other centrepieces, miscellaneous flowers, table garland, knife decoration, etc.

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THROWING THE BOUQUET AND GARTER

When it’s time to throw her bouquet, bridesmaids pass the word to all single women to gather at a strategic spot. Traditionally, the bride turns and tosses the bouquet over her shoulder. Then the groom removes the blue satin garter from the bride’s leg and throws it to the single ushers and bachelors in the audience. Often the bride throws a small bouquet made for this tradition. At this time she presents her main bouquet to her mother.

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FINISHING TOUCHES: MAKEUP & ESTHETICS

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to the skin; it is also a wonderful way to relax! Home care is essential to help maintain the benefits of your facial and your aesthetician will help you with a personalized skin care regimen. One new formulation to try: Mongnis Skin Vitalizing Essence. For the overwhelming majority of clients, this technology will provide a noticeable improvement in the complexion and promote an overall healthier, more youthful-looking appearance. The product combines peptides, plant extracts and hydrolyzed collagen to offer a complete, naturally advanced skincare regimen for facial rejuvenation. Anticipated results: reduction in sun spots, evening out of pigmentation, reduction in pore size, softer feeling, plumper skin, softening of fine lines and wrinkles, lifting of sagging skin, lightening of dark circles around eyes, and reduction in puffiness under eyes. There are many things to consider when regarding your make-up so it is wise to seek the expertise of a make-up artist. She /he will consider your colouring, the style and colour of your gown and bouquet, how you plan to wear your hair and the colours worn by the bridesmaids. Your make-up artist will enhance your natural beauty to ensure you look flawless and polished. In addition she / he will have products that can help your make-up last all day and into the evening. Consider using the services of a make-up artist for mothers and bridesmaids too! Be sure to consult with a Hairstylist also to select a style that looks best with your

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For your Special Day, more than any other time, you’ll want to look and feel your best. All eyes will be on you so don’t forget the finishing touches that can make you a radiant bride. There are four elements to your “Beauty Image”; hair, make-up, skin care and hands. It is a good idea to consult professionals in each of these categories in order to ensure you look your very best. Practice makes perfect so be sure to book your consultations in advance! Remember you have a very busy schedule. During your consultations make sure you and the professional have the same ideas and are striving for the same “Look”. During these sessions you can make all the necessary changes so that everything will run smoothly on the Big Day. Ever noticed how some brides simply glow on their big day? Get your glow and feel great before your wedding with regular relaxing massages, UV and vitamin D therapy, and proper nutrition. The months leading up to your wedding can be stressful and stress is damaging – both mentally and physically. Nutrition and relaxation is crucial to staying healthy and also to the enjoyment of the day itself. Take time for yourself in the months before the wedding and uncover a new you that radiates health and beauty inside and out. To be sure your skin looks perfect consult an aesthetician. An aesthetician is professionally trained in skin care. Stress, busy days and perhaps restless sleep, may cause your complexion to look dull. After an analysis of your skin, your aesthetician will be able to assess your skin’s needs and treat your personal skin type. Be sure to make your visits early enough to see results. The benefits of a facial are not only

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body type, gown and headpiece. To ensure that everything is perfect, book a practice appointment so that you will be able to see how your selected hairstyIe looks with your gown and headpiece. Hand and nails are in the spotlight too! A hand treatment just before the Big Day will assure the softest hands and is a great and well deserved pampering session. Hands properly manicured will finish the look. Today you can always have perfect nails. If not your own, you can repair one or all with artificial nails. A French manicure is classic and always popular. For mothers and bridesmaids, the technician can help choose a polish that compliments everyone. Don’t forget the Groom - his hands will draw attention too! Just tell him that’s why they’re called MAN- icures! Enjoy a pedicure too; it will pamper your feet and put a spring in your step! Smooth heels and polished toes will give tired feet lots of energy to dance into the night! It’s a must if you are heading to a hot honeymoon destination. Don’t forget about your teeth! You’ll be smiling in most of your photos so you’ll want to make sure they look their brightest and whitest. To guarantee that your smile turns heads, be sure to get your teeth cleaned & whitened. Professionals take the worry out of wedding preparations. The finishing touches will be time well spent and you’ll be a radiant bride from “Head to toe”!

THE WEDDING REHEARSAL

If the ceremony is traditional, your clergyman will guide you efficiently, but if there are innovations, the burden is on the bride to know clearly what she wants done and to teach the others their duties. If the flower girl can wear the formal dress at the rehearsal, she’ll have more confidence at the wedding itself. Put marks on the floor where each person in the group is to stand. Pins are preferred because chalk rubs off & tacks pop out of the rug and get stepped on.

TIPS FOR CHOOSING A CATERER Before you contact a caterer, have an idea of your budget, approximate number of guests, as well as the type of food and service required. An experienced caterer will help you plan a personalized menu, within your budget. Remember, it’s your wedding. Make phone calls. Visit caterers and sample their products, Find a caterer you can talk to, one who is flexible and listens to your requests. Ask questions. For example, does the price include taxes, gratuity, full or partial service? Who is responsible for setting the tables? What will the servers wear? Will the premises be left in a clean condition? How far ahead does the caterer require a confirmed number of guests? Most caterers will arrange china, cutlery, linen, glassware and bar service. They will also provide a list of reception halls. Some halls come with their own exclusive caterers and, although you like the hall, beware, the food may not be what you expect. Be sure to interview the caterer before you decide to book the hall. Service, presentation, quantity and quality of food are important to the success of your wedding. Whether it’s food for your rehearsal party, wedding dinner or reception, it’s worth your while to shop around until you feel comfortable and confident with your caterer.

This is a wedding preview. If possible, this should be held a day or two before the wedding, and preferably at approximately the same hour as the wedding, so that lighting conditions and the feel of it will be similar to the wedding. It is important that everyone be on time so as not to cause conflict in schedules of pastor and organist. Page 26 www.theperfectwedding.ca

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HANDCRAFTED & CUSTOM BRIDAL JEWELRY - THE PERFECT ACCESSORIES FOR YOUR WEDDING GOWN

You’ve chosen Most bead shops the most amazing offer classes and some wedding gown – provide private bridal now compliment party workshops with Swarovski crystal bracelets are the your dress with refreshments – bubbly rage today. Brides & Bridesmaids are or non. Everyone has perfect jewellery. wearing many bracelets in a variety A wonderful fun, there is no stress, of colours and bead styles. Make alternative to and this becomes a them for a fraction of the cost. endless and often night of bonding, fruitless shopping is to either make the sharing and cameraderie, resulting in a bridal jewellery yourself or commission the loving memory that lasts forever. job to a designer. That way, you will get the Get that thousand dollar look for a perfect cut, colour, stones and styling – fraction of the cost. Embellish everything and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the with Swarovski Crystal Components cost compared to retail. Imagine being able –dress, veil, shoes, tables, invitations ... to match your wedding hair accessories If you do not have the time or with your bridal jewelry and create inclination to make the jewellery yourself, matching jewellery for your entire bridal consider commissioning a designer. You’ll party too. get the look you’re dreaming of and you’ll Creating wedding jewelry for yourself probably pay far less than you would at a and your bridesmaids is an exciting and retail store (if you could find it at a retail joyful part your wedding day planning. store that is!).

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WEDDING ETIQUETTE

The reception following a ceremony held before one o’clock, is called a breakfast, while the party following a ceremony, held after one o’clock is called a reception. There is usually a receiving line, at a formal reception or breakfast while at less formal affairs, the bride and groom may choose to greet the guests by mingling among them, omitting the receiving line. When this pattern is followed, it is essential to speak to each guest at some time during the affair, so that no one is slighted. Champagne is the traditional wedding drink, for proposing the toasts, although

non-alcoholic beverages are also served. The best man, or someone close to the Bride and Groom proposes a toast to the bride and groom. It may be original, or he or she may simply say, “Here’s health and happiness to the loveliest of brides and the luckiest of grooms”. The couple remain seated, while the guests and wedding party stand and raise their glasses to toast the bride and groom. The groom replies with thanks from his new bride and himself. It is quite in order for the bride to join her new husband in responding to the toast, if she so desires. The toasts may be given at any time during the reception, or before or after the cutting of the cake.

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add, nor should it be bare and drab. Also, many brides have discovered too late that their wedding pictures were spoiled by a poor background behind the head table. However, some places now have beautifully decorated spots specially designed for indoor wedding photographs. 4. Explain the decorations you want to the caterer, and see if any decorations are provided, Find out if there is an additional charge for providing candles or flowers. If you are having personalized mementos like engraved match books or napkins, discuss when they should be delivered so they can be set up on the tables. 5. Make sure that the tablecloths and napkins available can be coordinated with your colour scheme. Nothing could look worse than orange tablecloths with brown napkins combined with pink table flowers and bridal party outfitted in blue and white! Don’t underestimate the importance of colour co-ordination. For example, if only white tablecloths are available and the bride plans to wear an off-white gown, she should know that her gown might look dirty against the white cloth. 6. If you are planning a dance for your reception, then obviously the room should include a dance floor. Make sure there is a stage area equipped with adequate electrical power for your band or disc jockey. If the room is large it should also have a PA system that can be used for your speeches and toasts. 7. Look at the bar set up too. There should be a built-in or portable bar available for the reception. An impromptu “bucket with ice” arrangement will hardly lend elegance to the evening. Ask if the “corkage charge” for the bar also includes the fee for the bartender and the mix. If photo: Oliver Salathiel for Raphnogal.com

Unless you can squeeze all of your wedding guests into your apartment or the family recreation room, you’ll need to find a room for your reception. Reception halls vary a great deal in quality and facilities, so make your choice carefully. Remember that your reception site is going to be just as important as anything else to the success of this special celebration. But good facilities are in constant use, so book early - a year ahead of your wedding is not an unusual length of time. Shop around before you decide which to

book. Compare prices, services and facilities. Use these tips to help you make your final decision: 1. If the room is part of a club, restaurant or hotel, have dinner there first. This way you can find out if the food is good and taste any of the house specialties which you might consider including on your reception menu. 2. See if the room is appropriate for the size of your group. A room that is either too small or too large will make your guests uncomfortable. Ask about other facilities that come with the room. For example, if the reception is a long distance from your home you’ll need an additional room where you can change into your “going away” clothes. 3. Look at the decor critically. It shouldn’t overwhelm any decoration you want to Page 30

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your guest list is small, see if there is a minimum charge for the bar. Compare the cost of disposable or non-disposable glassware for bar drinks. 8. Make sure that there is adequate parking. Ask how many cars the parking lot can hold, and find out if you have to share the lot with another large party that evening. If your reception is to be in the city, discuss the parking in the area. If guests should use parking facilities nearby, indicate the lots on a map with the direction to the reception facilities. 9. You must be aware of and prepared to comply with the rules of the house. If the reception is in a club, will your guests be restricted to one area? If confetti is thrown inside the room, will there be a vacuuming fee and how much will it be? What time must the bar be closed legally, and what time must the room be cleared? For a winter reception, when there will be fur coats and bulky overcoats, will there be a secure coat check? 10. When you find the facilities you’re looking for, sit down with the banquet manager or maitre d’ and discuss the

cost of your reception. Ask her/ him to explain all of the charges and outline exactly what each charge includes. For example, you might assume that the cost of the meal includes the rental of the room. This isn’t always the case; sometimes there is an additional room charge. Once you know how much the room itself will cost, you can plan your menu and bar and add these charges to determine your total expense. Don’t forget to include food and beverage tax and gratuities - these can add an additional 20 25% to your cost. With all the accounting complete you can go on to compare the cost of one reception room against another to make an informed decision about which one will be best for you and your guests. A great new time-saving, service for busy couples is a website showcasing banquet halls across Ontario. Now you can view full colour pictures of the facilities, and compare menus and features on the internet. The address is: www.banquethallsontario.com

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TIPS FOR CHOOSING A MUSICIAN

The elegance of a string quartet, the peacefulness of a guitar and flute duo, the soaring words of a vocalist, the gracefulness of a harp, the chic of a jazz pianist... these are some of the images that can be evoked in the minds of all the participants in your wedding when they remember your special day for years to come. Music is the magical touch to your wedding day; it sets and captures the love and romance in the air. When choosing a musician, here are some tips to ensure the day goes smoothly: First of all, don’t wait until the last minute to think about music. The standard timeline for hiring a band is about six to nine months prior to the wedding. Most importantly, ask the musician for a demo tape. This way you will be able to see if his or her style matches your taste. Ask for references and call them. This is the best way to find out whether the musician is

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TIPS FOR CHOOSING A DISC JOCKEY To a lot of people, the music service you hire for the reception can “make or break” your wedding reception. Therefore, it is important to hire a reputable, professional company. You may have to pay a little more but when you compare the cost of your wedding to the cost difference between the cheap services and even the most expensive DJ services, it’s a small percentage for the peace of mind that professional quality can offer. Your DJ should offer you suggestions to make your evening unique. Tell him/her if you want non-stop music, or you require one or more breaks. Inform him /her of any special songs

or music you require and when you would like them played. Provide names of any guests who may be celebrating birthdays or anniversaries even if they are a month away. Everyone you invite deserves a good time and requires that the dance music is at a sensible volume so people can talk at their tables without having to leave the room. Too often, DJ’s use sound equipment that is just too small to produce good sounding music, and the screeching noise drives the older guests away. They should prove to you that they have the equipment to suit the size of your hall with the capacity to play clear undistorted music. Also, the music should be suited to your guests, not the DJ. Your DJ must have the experience to present it all in a smooth fashion. To ensure reliability ask your prospective DJ if he/she is a member of the Canadian Disc Jockey Association and if he or she carries back-up equipment. Dress codes and drinking habits should be of concern to you. Make sure to obtain a written contract. No one likes to see a problem develop, but

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CHOOSE A PROFESSIONAL WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER It has often been said that “A picture is worth a thousand words”. And what better day to capture those words but on your wedding day, the most important day of your life. Remember, after the day is over, all you have left are your memories. Great photographs preserve those precious memories forever. If you’re trying to keep the costs of your wedding down, don’t try to save in this area – choose chicken instead of prime rib if you must but hire a professional photographer. The money you spend will be well worth it. With the downturn in the economy, many couples try to save in this area, thinking that guests with their digital cameras and cell phones can capture the memories. But beware, the results are often disastrous. For example, traditional group shots are a vital part of your album. Posing the people, ensuring proper lighting and making sure everyone is smiling is a job best left to a professional. Many times, amateurs forget Page 36

to take these pictures. Or, if they do, the photos lack design, the people look bored, or worse yet, significant members of the wedding party are missing. A professional photographer is contracted by you. As such, he/she will take all the shots you have requested. In contrast, a friend may get absorbed in the moment and forget important events such as the cake cutting. When selecting your photographer and comparing the various prices quoted, remember the old adage “You always get what you pay for”. This is certainly true in most circumstances. In these times of economic restraints, one must be extremely careful in not always selecting the lowest quote, without taking that extra care in checking out the photographer’s work, and methods of achieving the end result. Ask for references, call these customers and ask them their opinions on the service. This will help you in selecting the photographer you feel will give you the results you want. Professional photographers capture the emotion and excitement of the bride and groom – feelings that will be shared with family and friends for years to come. A good professional photographer will meet with the bride and groom before the Big Day in order to determine not only the locations and times of the events of your Wedding Day, but travel times to the different locations, what pictures are required, how to pose the individuals, and how long it will take to create the photographs at each location. During this meeting, be sure to establish a good understanding of what to expect during the photo session This is an important step in allowing you to relax and be your natural best on the Big Day, which will inevitably result in much better wedding photographs. Flexibility is an important aspect of photography. A professional photographer should be prepared to accommodate your wishes , but be in a position to offer sound advice if these wishes may not result in the photographs you will expect. Good equipment also adds to the quality of the end product. All professional photographers use equipment that is in perfect working order, but always carry backup cameras, as

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by Joy Book-Tamás “It’s my wedding, just leave me alone!!!” If you want to YELL this statement at the next person who gives you wedding planning advice then this is the article for you. I am not going to tell you that you can’t have that one thing that you want for your wedding. You know that it will be perfect for your wedding yet everyone else says that it will not work out. I am not going to tell you that you have to invite some distant relative to your wedding. I am not going to tell you that you have to do anything you don’t want to do. I am going to tell you that you can have peace while you plan your wedding. Yes, it is true now matter how much crazy chaos happens before your wedding day you can choose to have peace in your wedding planning. We all want our wedding to be exactly how we have been dreaming about it. No one but yourself knows all the little details that you have in your mind. Your voice should be heard. You should stand up for yourself or you are not going to have the wedding of your dreams. Telling your friends and family “NO!” is never easy to do yet when it comes to wedding planning sometimes that is exactly what you should be saying to them. Of course you can be gentle and tell them no in a polite manner, just make sure that you are protecting your wedding dreams and getting your point across. So, how can you create that peace within yourself? If family and friends are stressing Page 38

you out with all of the suggestions of “do this” or “do that” you are going to need someone on your side. This someone should not be involved in your life and should not know anyone that you are frustrated with. You should consider hiring a wedding planner. Most of my clients spend their time with me as a time to let go of all of the stress. They tell me about all of the issues and problems that are going on with regards to the wedding planning and we work to come up with the solutions needed to get them the perfect wedding day that they deserve. I may not be like most wedding planners yet I know what a bride-tobe needs and that is to be heard. You want to have someone to listen to all of the issues going on and your fiancé is not the person to be doing this. Having someone completely out of your circle of friends is the best way to keep yourself sane while you plan your wedding. Wedding planners can help you save money, deal with all of the stressful issues and save you time. Of course you can plan your wedding without a wedding planner. Just beware that you may not get everything you need. Having someone with the experience of hundreds of weddings and knowledge of all the things that can go wrong at a wedding is what you should be looking for. If you find a friend that has all of

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this knowledge then I suggest you ask them for help immediately. If not then hire a wedding planner that has experience dealing with the stressful things that come up at every wedding. You don’t want your stage falling apart or backdrop falling on the head table. I have had to deal with both of these thing as well as many other frustrating problems that a bride should never have to deal with. You may think that hiring a wedding planner is too expensive or you want to make sure you get the best deal from every wedding vendor. What you don’t know is that you have to ask the right questions in order to get the best value from each vendor. A properly trained wedding planner will have the experience that can save you time, money and aggravation. Wedding Planners can do all of the tasks that are not fun, they can help you choose the vendors that you need and you can trust that they have all the information required so you can make an informed decision. You should always be in control of what is happening for your wedding yet you don’t always want to know all of the behind the scenes stuff that is going

wrong. Your wedding planner is there to protect you from the things that could ruin your day. They are dealing with vendors and making sure that everything runs smoothly. If you want your wedding day to be stress free consider talking to a Wedding Planner like myself, Joy BookTamas.

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THE CEREMONY

The ceremony is the very basis of the wedding day. The vows that you pledge to one another are the foundation of the ceremony. Some clergy will allow you to write your own vows but for others this deviation from the traditional practice is not allowed. Whichever the case, take some time alone with each other to discuss your vows. This will add meaning to your ceremony and they won’t just be words, but rather a personal commitment to each other. When choosing the time for the ceremony remember to leave enough time for pictures after the service. Most photographers want about 1 1/2 - 2 hours between the ceremony and the reception. Another factor to consider is where and when to have the receiving line. The most natural flow of events is to have it immediately following the recessional, however for various reasons, this is often impossible. You may, therefore, want to have the receiving line at the reception. One note about having the receiving line at the reception is that unless the bride and groom disap-

pear after the ceremony, a receiving line will form “automatically” and then you are trapped. Many couples “escape” either outside or into the basement until the guests have left the church and then return for photographs. Some announcement to the guests is necessary if this is your choice, so they know what they are to do. For most brides and grooms, the ceremony is the scariest day! The exchanging of vows seems to be the crest of the day and, after that its all downhill. If you’re the nervous type, here are several hints to help keep you in control: Before the wedding, vigorous exercise, such as jogging, a competitive game of tennis, squash or swimming, can relax the nervous system. Watch what you eat; sugar makes most people hyper and hyper is not what you need! Mixed drinks, with pop are full of sugar and alcohol only takes the edge off your awareness (which is not really the desired result). The ceremony is the centre of your wedding day. It carries in it the excitement, tradition and lasting promise of love for one another. Plan it thoroughly but then enjoy it!

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Make World Wildlife Fund a Part of Your Wedding Celebrations share your commitment to nature with friends and family on your Wedding day. By supporting WWf-Canada's efforts to save wildlife and the magnificent land and seascapes they call home, you'll be reflecting the values you cherish.

there are two ways to include your love for the planet in your special day: ÂŞ Request that your wedding guests give a donation to WWF-Canada in place of traditional gifts (Either the full gift or a percentage). ÂŞ Honour your guests with a donation to WWF-Canada instead of giving them traditional wedding favours. For more information and to see our downloadable tools please visit: www..wwf.ca/donate/weddings/ or Contact 1-800-26-PAndA


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the girls night 2 days before the wedding to get our nails done, instead of being upset, I took it as an opportunity to spend quality one on one time with the bridesmaid that could make it. It was a really special experience for both of us and we spent 3 hours chatting, looking at her wedding photos, and really catching up. It was perfect.

7. Love and Honour your Fiancé. This is an exciting and stressful process for both of you. At times, you are going to disagree and what is important to one person may not be important to the other. Always make time for each other and learn to compromise. One thing I can promise is this day will go by so fast and feel like a dream (it’s 4 days after my wedding and as I’m watching the sunrise in Maui on our Honeymoon it still feels like a dream). I loved honouring my fiancé and his family because their appreciation was and is immeasurable. Everyone thinks that weddings are about the bride but we had adorable elements that honoured us as a couple, him, and our cultures. My absolute 2 favourite things I found for my husband were: a cake company (Adam and Genevieve at For the Love of Cake in Toronto and Oakville) that printed a Detroit Red Wings Logo on the back of our cake topper and a beautiful custom made ring from Wedgewood Rings on Etsy that created a white gold and platinum ring with a band of wood from an authentic Jack Daniel’s barrel (his absolute favourite liquor). 8. Share the Vision for your Day with People My bridesmaids were amazing for reminding me of the small elements that I had been collecting and gushing about since we got engaged. You will spend so much time sourcing out the perfect garter belt, your gifts for your girls, your jewelry, and all of the other small elements that will help to make your day special and unique. Some of my favourite elements from our wedding were my something borrowed (a black and white Rosary from my husband’s grandmother), my something old (a beautiful vintage stole from Cabaret Vintage on Queen Street that came in very handy since it was -10C on our wedding day), my something blue (my beautiful summer-version of Carrie Bradshaw’s blue Manolos), my wedding Uggs (Bailey Bow Uggs which were fantastic given the temperature during our outdoor photos), a beautiful sixpence anklet from Sixpence For Your Shoe on Etsy, and a gorgeous blue poppy fascinator that I wore for the hour leading up to the New Year’s Eve countdown from Lillyput Hats in Toronto, to name a few. Without my amazing bridesmaids, I would have forgotten at least 3 of these beautiful details that helped to make our day so special. I also shared with my step-dad our vision of having the curtains in the venue drawn until our first dance the day before the wedding when he came to practice dancing with me (and my mom came to practice with my fiancé for his first dance with his mom—how sweet!). I’m so happy I shared our plans because when he arrived at the venue the next day the curtains had not been drawn. He mentioned this to the operations manager and it was done immediately. Having the curtains rise during our first dance was one of the highlights of the night for both us and our guests. (Atlantis Pavilions in Toronto is on the lake and has an absolutely stunning view of downtown so it was glorious to reveal it during our first dance). Page 42

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9. Leverage Social Media (But Ask your Wedding Party to Refrain from Posting Images Until After the Ceremony) I found so many of my ideas for our wedding on Pinterest and Etsy, including some awesome DIY projects (including wrapping the bathroom stalls in the ladies’ room in tulle and providing emergency kits in the washroom) and I even found my amazing seamstress by posting a request for references on Facebook. That being said, I have heard stories of the bride and groom’s reveal being ruined because one of the members of the wedding party (innocently) posted a picture on a social media site. Tell your wedding party that they are free to take as many pictures as they desire but (gently) request that they refrain from uploading them onto social media sites until after the ceremony (remember, there’s still one more reveal for your guests). 10. Have Fun. Your day will go by in a flash and no matter how hard you try to be present, you are marrying the person of your dreams so it is going to feel surreal. At one point, one of my husband’s awesome groomsmen grabbed my hand mid-conversation and pulled me out onto the dance floor, which was my opportunity to let loose. This day requires so much planning, money, and coordination so the absolute best advice I can provide is enjoy the fruits of your labour. photos: raphnogal.com

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Make Your Own Wedding Wine And Save Making and serving your own wine at your wedding reception is not only fun, but it's great for the budget as it's usually much less expensive than purchasing wine from the reception hall. Plus, you'll get a more personalized experience and result than at the LCBO. There is a huge selection of wine (red, white and rose) that can be made for your wedding - you will always find a style of wine that suits your personal taste and your budget. Plus you can customize the labels for a great personalized touch for your wedding. If you are considering providing your guests with your own wine be sure to plan ahead. Although you can purchase wines that will be ready to bottle in as little as four weeks, most wines, just like we hope, your marriage, will improve and become better with time. It’s best to start your wine at least six months before your event. Wine should age for at least a month in the

bottle before the subtle characteristics will even begin to show in the aromas and tastes. With reds, especially the top quality reds that we highly recommend, consider aging it 6 months to more than a year before you serve it at your wedding. Even white wines can benefit from some aging prior to serving out of the bottle. The Liquor Licensing Act of Ontario allows for the serving of wine you have made yourself at celebrations surrounding any religious ceremony subject to the applicable Special Event Licence being obtained. Applications are available at any LCBO Store or may be downloaded from the website. Your local vintner will work with you to help you choose the perfect wine for your special day and determine how much you need. Although many connoisseurs will recommend either a red or a white depending on the meal being served, most people are not that picky and will drink the type they

Whether it is wine to be served at your wedding shower, reception or wine to be given as wedding favors, trust Cathy, owner of Wines Unlimited and Wedding Wine Co-ordinator. She will advise and assist you in choosing the right wines for your budget, your tastes and to maximize the “WOW” factor with your guests.

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enjoy the most. You should count on each person consuming about half a bottle at dinner, but have extra for those guests who prefer wine to other alcohol. And don’t forget to put on a batch or

two for wedding favours and for your bridal shower. Any wines (and especially Ice Wine) served in small 375 ml bottles make a great personalized gift your guests will truly enjoy.

THE WEDDING CAKE The Wedding Cake is traditional and no matter how small or informal the reception might be - it is a must! Traditionally, the groom places his right hand over the bride’s and the two cut the first piece of cake, from the bottom layer, together. Each then feeds the other a piece of the cake. This sharing is symbolic of sharing together, from this day forth... The first guests to be served a slice of cake are traditionally the bride’s in-laws, then the groom’s and then the rest. Your wedding cake serves as an ornament, conversation piece and a tradition. It should reflect the style of your wedding and tie in your colours. Wedding cakes have an infinite variety of decorating options. Icing can be coloured to tie in with the wedding colours and icing swirls, bordering and beading make the cake look like a masterpiece. Use the same or similar flowers as in the bride’s bouquet to tie in the theme of the wedding. When using flowers on the cake, be sure to use non-poisonous varieties! Check with your florist for advice on this. Traditional cake toppers include cherubs, wedding bells, hearts and lovebirds. You may want to use the topper your parents had on their cake. The cake topper is a momento that you will be able to cherish for years to come. 2016 Edition www.theperfectwedding.ca

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