Victim or Victor? Almost everything in our lives depends on whether we are acting as a victor - or as a victim. Let me put that another way: We have the choice to either blame other people for our current circumstances; Or - we can take responsibility and say to ourselves, “maybe I’m causing this situation”? I promise you that if you take the latter choice - you will come out of the situation as a victor! You will win over whatever adversity is facing you - and be triumphant in your results. This applies to relationship issues; business decisions; cashflow (business or personal); health; general wellbeing... etc. Why? Because whenever we’re in a situation and blaming others, “it’s all their fault”, then we can’t change the situation in any way whatsoever - simply because it’s due to somebody else being at fault. And we all know that we can’t change anybody else - don’t we (?) But we can learn to know that we can change ourselves - and our circumstances - if we take responsibility and ‘own’ where we’re at. Example 1: Someone has a problem with a noisy barking dog in the property next to theirs. They can choose to blame the neighbours, and constantly whinge about the barking dog to everybody else; or - they can go and see the neighbours and tell them that there’s a problem, and it would be great if something could be done about it! The first choice - to blame the neighbours and the mongrel dog - leaves them powerless over the situation and drives them nuts! The second choice - to go and discuss the noise problem - gives them a chance to change the whole situation. Example 2: Let’s look at someone who is experiencing CashFlow problems in their business. Business is actually quite busy - but they still aren’t experiencing a good cashflow situation! This person facing this cashflow crisis has two choices: To blame all of their customers who owe them money and haven’t paid as yet; or to say to themselves, “perhaps I’ve caused this situation because I’ve let them get away with not paying on time in the past, so now they’ve learnt that it’s OK to do that” (?) If they choose blame mode - then they’re the victim and can’t do a thing about it! If they answer “yes” to their own question, then they are in a position to change the rules, and get positive results.
13 © copyright
peoplestuff
www.peoplestuff.com.au
Be Inspired!
Volume 07