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SUNDAY, JANUARY 27, 2013
PENINSULA DAILY NEWS
Godparents-to-be find others in wings DEAR ABBY: My fiance’s friend “Art� and his wife, “Julie,� just had a baby. While Julie was pregnant, she asked my fiance and me to be godparents. Although we could not attend her baby shower due to a previous commitment, we contributed several gifts as well as a quilt I had made. A few weeks later, Julie posted on her social networking site that she was thankful for her baby’s godparents and named an entirely different couple — not us. I am offended. If she had discussed her reason for the change with me, I would have understood. But there was no dialogue, and to this day, I have never received so much as a thank-you for our shower presents. I would like to distance myself from Julie, but without damaging the relationship between Art and my fiance, who thinks I am over-
Dear Abby: My husband’s younger sister, “Cindy,� is mentally ill. reacting and Abigail She has caused tremendous let it go. problems in the family. Van Buren should What are She has been arrested too your thoughts? many times to remember and is Not a God- now on five years’ probation for mother injury to a child. My in-laws continue making Dear Not a excuses for her and are the worst Godmother: enablers I have ever known. Julie may have My husband once urged his been upset that dad to put Cindy into a group you and your home or program that will take fiance didn’t care of her because his parents attend the baby shower, or she are getting up in years. may have spoken too quickly They refuse because it would when she asked you to be godmean they’d have to have Cindy parents and didn’t have the cour- officially committed, and they age to say so. think there is still some magic Whether you can let this go doctor out there who will fix her. only you can decide, but I do Can my husband do anything think that before you make up as a last effort before something your mind, you should have a happens to one of his parents or chat with her and clear the air — she winds up in jail? if only because your fiance and Sad in Texas her husband are such good friends. Dear Sad: Your husband
DEAR ABBY
should try to convince his parents to get some family counseling. It might help them accept that their daughter needs more help than they are equipped to give her. An outside, objective person should weigh in so that Cindy can get the professional help she so obviously needs. If she is physically, psychologically or emotionally abusing her parents, Adult Protective Services can step in to be sure they are protected. When your in-laws pass away, if your sister-in-law becomes a danger to herself or those around her, a family member can request a commitment and psychological evaluation. Dear Abby: A number of years ago, when two of my sons got married, I paid for two lovely rehearsal dinners among other wedding costs.
Both marriages ended in divorce. Now, they are both engaged again and planning weddings for next summer. My question is, how many rehearsal dinners do I have to pay for? And how many other wedding expenses am I expected to pay for the second time around? Mother of Grooms in Virginia Dear Mother Of Grooms: From now on, you do not have to pay for anything. The expenses should be paid for by your sons and their bridesto-be, especially if their fiancees also have been married previously.
_________ Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, the late Pauline Phillips. Letters can be mailed to Dear Abby, P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069 or via email by logging onto www.dearabby.com.
PA students Stars of Soroptimist club PENINSULA DAILY NEWS
PORT ANGELES — Soroptimist International of Port Angeles recently recognized a group of Port Angeles High School juniors with Star Awards. The Star Awards were developed in 1987 by the club’s education committee to encourage and motivate hard-working students during their junior year of high school.
Nominated by teachers Students are nominated by their teachers, and awards are presented across multiple subject areas in the winter and spring. The winter 2013 Star Award
recipients and their subject areas are: â– Madeline Bradley: Academics. â– Trevor Helgeson: Fine arts. â– Salina McMaster: Creative learning. â– Cole Urnes: Instrumental music. â– Chase Sharp: Career and technical education. â– Madison Hinrichs: Physical education/athletics. Selection criteria include effort and willingness to work in the subject area, success in the subject area and passing all subjects with aboveaverage grades. Extracurricular activities in the subject area are not required but may be considered.
Soroptimist International of Port Angeles President Louann Yager, center, recently presented Star awards to Port Angeles High School juniors, from left, Cole Urnes, Trevor Helgeson, Salina McMaster, Chase Sharp, Madison Hinrichs and Madeline Bradley.
Briefly . . . Trafficking highlighted in college talk PORT ANGELES — Community residents will have the opportunity to hear about human trafficking from someone who has been there and survived when Peninsula College’s Studium Generale program presents “Human Trafficking: One Survivor’s Story.� The free program will be in the college’s Little Theater on the main campus at 12:35 p.m. Thursday. The presentation is cosponsored by Soroptimist International of Port Angeles-Jet Set and Soroptimist International of Port Angeles Noon Club. “Nicole� was caught up in trafficking at the age of 17. For the next several years, she was transported to more than seven states in which she was forced to “work.� With the help of the FBI Victim Assistance Program, her case was adjudicated. Today, at the age of 23, she has entered college and is beginning to put her life back in order.
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Child art exhibit SEQUIM — Preserving cultural heritage and tradition through artistic expression is at the heart of a new exhibit debuting in February at the Museum & Arts Center in the SequimDungeness Valley. Housed within the Jamestown S’Klallam Longhouse Exhibit at the MAC Exhibit Center, 175 W. Cedar St., the new display highlights the Jamestown S’Klallam Children’s Program. The showcased items, all made by children enrolled in the program and reflecting the heritage teachings learned therein, include story sticks coupled with self-penned stories, costumes made for plays, beadwork, weaving and paddle and drum paintings, as well as displays written in the Klallam language.
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The exhibit opens with a public reception sponsored by 7 Cedars Casino from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. Friday at the MAC Exhibit Center. Several of the children who currently participate in the program will be on hand at 5 p.m. to open the reception, held during the First Friday Art Walk, with song. “It’s exciting to see how the program is designed to have the children develop these skills that we will all enjoy when they’re adult artists as well, everything from beadwork and weaving to paintings and paddles,� MAC History Exhibit Coordinator Lyn Fiveash said. “It’s all part of their heritage, and they’re sharing it with us. I thank them for it.� The Jamestown S’Klallam Children’s Program, led by coordinator Sally Fairbanks, is open to eligible Native American children aged 5-11 regardless of tribal affiliation. The Jamestown S’Klallam Longhouse Exhibit, which opened in 2010 and features rotating collections of artwork and artifacts of cultural significance, is a collaborative endeavor between the MAC and the Jamestown S’Klallam tribe. The MAC Exhibit Center is open from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Wednesdays through Saturdays. For more information, visit www.macsequim.org or phone 360-683-8110.
LACEY — Francis Lynn Maybury of Sequim has been named to Saint Martin University’s fall semester Dean’s List for outstanding academic achievement. Maybury is a junior history major. To earn academic honors at Saint Martin’s, undergraduate students must receive a 3.5 grade-point average or higher (based on a 4.0 scale), carry at least a 12-hour semester course load and complete all coursework undertaken for the semester. Peninsula Daily News