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DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 14 years to a man who had two failed marriages. I never felt insecure in my married life until I read his answers to a Yahoo Answers poll that asked, “Do you dream about the one that got away?” and, “Have you found the love of your life?” My husband responded that he thinks about her very often, especially on her birthday and Valentine’s Day. To the other question, he replied he had found the love of his life, but the relationship had ended in divorce, which he admitted was his fault. I know he was talking about his first wife. I feel so sad and insecure. Now, I must deal with the fact that on Valentine’s Day, his thoughts are with someone else. How can I get over this? I no longer believe him when he says he loves me because I have proof that he hasn’t moved on yet. I can’t believe he said that even now, he still thinks about her. Please help. Sad Heart in San Jose

by Lynn Johnston

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Frank & Ernest

DEAR ABBY business. He had planned to move Van Buren here but was unable to sell his home. We used to see each other every two weeks, but no longer. It has been almost two months. He calls once a week, but nothing else. We have been close, and he has shared his life, his worries and personal information with me. I haven’t pressured him, and I don’t need a commitment now, though I would like one someday. Abby, he seems to be drifting away. Is it OK to write to him, email him, send encouraging notes once a week and continue to support him? Is it too much to ask for more frequent communication from him? I have offered to travel the 1,000 miles, but he has evaded my offer. I’m not ready to walk away. We have been great together, and this is difficult for me. Advice? Holding On in Coastal California


Dear Sad Heart: Your husband posted those thoughts on a public forum? Rather than feel hurt and insecure, you should be furious. How would he feel if the person answering that poll had been you? (Of course, you would have had better judgment.) By now, it should be clear to you that you did not marry a rocket scientist. You have my sympathy because his first marriage has been over for nearly two decades, and he — along with his obvious shortcomings — are no longer her problem but yours. However, your pain may lessen if you look at the bright side: He treats you well 363 days a year, and many of the women who write to me are not so lucky.

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Wife insecure over hubby’s poll-taking

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For Better or For Worse


Fun ’n’ Advice

Dear Holding On: It’s fine to be supportive, but don’t overwhelm him right now. You may have to let this play out in its own time. Your friend may have retreated because he’s concentrating his energy on reviving his business. He may be licking his wounds, or he may have met someone, which is why he discouraged your visit. That he still calls you is encouraging. Because you have known him for two years, I recommend you simply ask him if he’s met someone else. If the answer is no, it will put your mind at ease. But if the answer is yes, at least you’ll be clear about what happened.

Dear Abby: I have been involved with a man in a long-distance relationship for two years. I care about him very much, and I believe he cares for me. Things were going great until he was devastated by a downturn in his by Mell Lazarus

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Letters can be mailed to Dear Abby, P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069 or via email by logging onto

The Last Word in Astrology ❘ ARIES (March 21-April 19): Get out and do your thing. Traveling, networking and meeting new people will all play in your favor. Don’t let work drag you down or cause you to miss out on an entertaining time that can improve your life and your future plans. 5 stars

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TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Offer your assistance and you will build a closer bond to someone who has your best interests at heart. Looking at your present employment situation and considering new possibilities will help you end the year on a high note. 3 stars

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GEMINI (May 21-June 20): Don’t feel trapped by the changes going on around you. Regardless of what others are doing or saying, make a move. You have to trust in your own instincts and let your skills and dreams guide you to a better position or partnership. 3 stars

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Ulterior motives are apparent and must be considered when making a choice. Put greater emphasis on the things you like to do and the skills you have to offer, and you will make the right decision. 5 stars VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Don’t let a disappointment ruin your day. Put more effort into your goals and finishing what you start. Taking a timeout from an emotional situation will help you gain clarity regarding how you should handle the situation. Be true to you. 2 stars LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Follow an adventuresome path that will inspire ideas and plans for the future, which can take you to unfamiliar locations in search of unique and rewarding choices. Don’t let personal demands hold you back. Change is required in order to get ahead. 4 stars

CANCER (June 21-July 22): Consider your past, present and your future. Line up the changes you want to make and set your strategy to accomplish your goals. A serious attitude regarding your personal, emotional and physical wellness will lead to good long-term choices. 3 stars

SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Don’t guess when you have the facts and figures available. Decisions must be made and certainly won’t please everyone. In the end, it’s you who has to feel comfortable about your past, present and future. An unusual living arrangement will develop. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Don’t be fooled by compliments. 3 stars

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SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): You’ll be fired up and ready to take on anyone who crosses your path. Underhandedness or misrepresentation is apparent and should be nipped before it leads you in a direction that you can’t live up to or complete. Curb indulgence. 3 stars CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Recognize what you need to do to keep the peace. Someone needs your attention, approval and assistance in order to contribute more to your needs. Nurture partnerships and make suggestions that will divvy up the responsibilities evenly. Put love first. 3 stars AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Stick close to home, and make amends with anyone you have let down or disappointed. Working toward a brighter future will help you raise your selfesteem and set your strategy for a more active and prosperous year ahead. Take control. 4 stars PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): Secure your position and your love life, but don’t overreact or do something unorthodox to ensure you win. Play a fair game or your reputation may be damaged. Do whatever you can to help those in need without expecting anything in return. 2 stars

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