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October 2017 Volume 33 • Number 2



Understanding IEPs

Would Your Child Benefit from Having One?

W H AT ’ S I N S I D E 6 Family F.Y.I

Special Needs Guide Backpack Fit Pizza Anyone?

10 Out and About

The Thrill is On

12 Bookshelf

16 Family Matters Is That Me Yelling? 22 Family Calendar

Open House Events......28 Pumpkin Patches.........32

What’s in a Name?

34 Singleminded

Diverse Books

14 Family Cents Allow Kids to Make Dumb 4

Spending Decisions

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ctober is magical in Massachusetts with a bounty of fall foliage. If you’re looking for colorful spots to take in the beauty of autumn, check out our guide to the 12 best towns in New England for witnessing the changing colors: From Shelburne Falls to Vermont’s Addison County and Maine’s Camden, there are places near and far to take in the splendor.

Importance of Proper Backpack Fit


ith the new school year in full swing, Peak Physical Therapy & Sports Performance, a South Shore practice, is providing a little education on the longterm effects of carrying a heavy backpack. “We’ve all seen those comical pictures of children carrying backpacks that look as though they outweigh them but there’s nothing funny about the damage a too heavy backpack can do to a child’s spine,” said Eric Edelman, PT and owner. 5 basic tips for a proper backpack fit: • Backpacks should weigh only 10-15% of your child’s bodyweight; i.e. if they weigh 100 pounds, their backpack should carry 10-15 pounds of books • Heaviest books should be kept closest to the body and the lightest books furthest away • Straps should be adjusted properly so that the backpack sits no lower than the top of the buttocks • It’s ideal to purchase a backpack that has additional support straps that go across the chest and waist to help evenly distribute the weight • Wear the backpack using both straps and not slung over one shoulder



By Meg McCabe, Injury Prevention Coordinator, Boston Children’s Hospital

ccording to a study done by Safe Kids Worldwide, approximately 160 kids go to the emergency room every day as a result of accidental medication overdoses. In 2013 alone, 60,000 kids were seen in the hospital for ingesting items like prescription drugs, pain relievers and vitamins. In most cases, these medications were left in places accessible to young children such as unlocked cabinets, on the floor, in purses, diaper bags and pill boxes. Some kids can even find their way into “child proof” pill bottles. Unfortunately, childproof drug packaging is generally not enough to keep children safe. Of these 60,000 children, the majority of incidents happened when the kids were left alone, away from adult supervision. When a young child explores the nooks and crannies of their home, it’s easy to understand why these ingestions occur. Some pills and liquids are colorful and even smell or taste good- they can easily be confused as candy or juice by little ones. This is why it is important to protect your children and grandchildren from accidental overdose by keeping these items locked and out of reach or “up and away.” It is crucial that adults put medicine away immediately after using them. Do not leave medications out in the open.


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Another way to prevent accidental overdose of medications is to purchase baby-proofing items that will prevent children from accessing hazardous materials and medications. For instance, sliding locks on lower cabinets can prevent accidental overdose. Purchasing a medication lock box is also an option, which will safely store medications in a locked container that requires a key or combination code to open. Keeping medications “up and away,” utilizing baby proofing strategies, and implementing vigil adult supervision is the safest way to prevent accidental overdose in children. Parents, education plays an essential role in your child’s safety. Be sure to educate your child’s grandparents on medication safety so they may also take the appropriate measures to protect your children within their home. When your child is old enough, be sure to talk to them about medication safety too. Finally, it is important to always be prepared for an emergency. Post the poison control number (1-800-222-1222) on your refrigerator and save it into your mobile devices.

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That’s how many apples the average person eats in one year, which seems like a lot but considering the old adage is “An apple a day keeps the doctor away,” we’re all falling about 300 short! Help your family fulfill their apple fix this fall by heading to one of our fabulous area apple picking farms. To help you map out which spot is best (and closest) to you, head over to our convenient list of places to pick at But, hey, leave a few apples for us!

Trick or Treat


his October, UNICEF USA is calling on kids to Trickor-Treat for UNICEF and make a difference in the lives of their peers around the world. Trick-or-Treat for UNICEF – one of America’s longest-running youth volunteer initiatives – encourages kids to bring the spirit of giving to Halloween and go door-todoor with the signature orange Trick-or-Treat for UNICEF boxes to collect lifesaving donations for kids who need more than candy. An American tradition since 1950, Trick-or-Treat for UNICEF has raised $175 million+ dollars to provide children around the world with medicine, nutrition, clean water, education and emergency relief. For more information, visit www.

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reative things to consider whether making pizza at home or dining out at California Pizza Kitchen with Brian Sullivan, SVP of Culinary Innovation. Have a color challenge – One of the easiest ways to ensure you’re eating a healthy meal is to include a variety of colors – colorful veggies, that is – on your plate. Turn this into some healthy competition by seeing how many different colors each family member can fit on their pizza. Bell peppers, eggplant, carrots, Brussels sprouts – the options are endless!


Experiment with the crust – Sure, you need a good dough to hold all of your delicious pizza toppings, but instead of the typical crust, you can try a crispy thin crust, a healthier whole wheat crust or low-carb cauliflower crust. If you’re making pizza at home, most of these varieties are available fresh or even frozen at your favorite grocery store. At California Pizza Kitchen, we also offer a delicious gluten-free crust option.


Get saucy – Who says pizza has to have tomato sauce? Try pesto, hummus, BBQ The original BBQ chicken pizza sauce, extra virgin olive oil or no sauce at all. Getting creative with flavors and textures ensures you’ll never get bored.


Play with protein – The classic sausage and pepperoni are delicious, but try adding grilled chicken, steak, roasted salmon, sautéed shrimp or even marinated tofu to your pizza instead. Just remember to properly cook the protein before adding it to the pizza to make sure your meat is cooked thoroughly and your crust doesn’t burn.


Get inspired – Recreate your favorite CPK recipe and add your own personal touch. If you love the Carne Asada, The Original BBQ Chicken, or Wild Mushroom Pizza at California Pizza Kitchen, you can try to recreate it at home with the “Taste of the Seasons” cookbook! It’s packed with some of CPK’s favorite recipes from CPK’s kitchen and creative ways to use the season’s freshest ingredients.

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icking the perfect pumpkin is a little easier when you understand the difference between popular varieties. If you’re baking a pie, pick an Amish Pie or Baby Pam Sugar Pie varietal. Carving contest? Go for a Cinderella, which was reportedly cultivated by the Pilgrims and served at the second Thanksgiving. For a list of pumpkin patches, head here:


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✼ Out and About Barrett’s Haunted Mansion is a Halloween mainstay, promising all kinds of bewitching fun for those who love to be spooked. Part of its appeal is that no matter whether you’re inside the mansion or out, there’s always something lurking in the darkness. Never let your guard down; Barrett ’s Haunted Mansion will keep you on your toes at all times. Ages 13 and up. 1235 Bedford St., Abington, 781-871-4573; Whether you are going on the haunted hayride or walking through any of the haunted Halloween scream parks at Witch’s Woods, you’ll never be alone … and we’re not talking about the other revelers who populate this spooky spot. In every shadow creepy creatures await, hoping to stir up thrills and chills as you approach. 79 Powers Road, Westford, 978-692-3033; There will be no relaxing on the 90-minute Haunted Harbor Cruise, which hits the water during the month of October. The “crew” will tell you stories that will make your skin crawl, but don’t get too caught up in their tales; there are monsters walking about. 24 Congress St., Salem, 978-825-0001;

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alloween is creeping up on us yet again and there’s no better place to entertain your little guys and ghouls this time of year than the Boston area. If you’re looking for some hauntingly fun events with different degrees of scare, visit one of these haunted attractions in Massachusetts – if you dare! The Haunted Salem Magic Show will not only amaze, but terrify you at the same time. Enjoy this interactive 80-minute show during the month of October for a side of supernatural scare with your hocus pocus. St. Peter’s Church Hall, 24 Saint Peter’s St., Salem, 888-3403584;

Get your exercise in by embarking on a 90-minute walking tour led by Boston Ghost Tour. Not only will you learn about the historic city of Boston, but you’ll hear some of the city’s most famous ghost tales. At the end of the walk, get the skinny on different secrets that are rumored to lay under the city. Boston Common, 617605-3635; Factory of Terror promises to scare you out of your mind with five spooky attractions all in one place. It is all indoors and they advise thrill seekers to enter at their own risk. From the name alone, we’d advise littles stay home. 201 Graft on St., Worcester, 508-754-4077 and 33 Pearl St., Fall River, 508-324-1095; factoryofterror. com.

Haunted Halloween Nights at Hammond Castle is an annual tradition for those who are brave enough to explore the spine-tingling halls. This medieval castle was built between 1926 and 1929 for John Jays Hammond Jr. as a wedding present to his wife. Its rich history sets the scene for a bone-chilling night. Tour the castle and the 24 rooms that are said to be haunted during select October dates. 80 Hesperus Ave., Gloucester, 978-283-2080; Hammond Castle


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✼ Bookshelf By Allyson Bogie MaryAnn Ann Scheuer Byand Mary Scheuer

Diverse Books A window into the lives of others.


e read to know that we are not alone and to hear another person’s story. Because stories help us see into the lives of other people, as well as into our own lives, it’s vitally important that we share with our children a wide variety of books— especially fresh, contemporary voices. We connect to characters; we feel their pain and delight in their joy. It’s more than stories, though--it’s the conversations that stories can start. Here are a selection of new books to share and read alongside your children. MIDDLE GRADE (AGES 9-13) “Amina’s Voice,” by Hena Khan (Salaam Reads / Simon & Schuster; 208 pp.; $16.99; ages 9-11). As Amina starts middle school, everything seems to be changing fast with both her friends and family. When her mosque is vandalized, she starts to thinks more deeply about her Muslim identity, her courage to stand up in front of others, and the support of her family, friends and community. Amina’s voice and feelings resonates strongly in this touching novel. “The Epic Fail of Arturo Zamora,” by Pablo Cartaya (Viking / Penguin; 256 pp.; $16.99; ages 9-13). Every Sunday, 13-year-old Arturo joins his extended CubanAmerican family at their restaurant La Cocina de la Isla. When a shady land developer threatens to put up flashy high rise condos, Arturo joins forces with his cousins and friends to fight back. Cartaya delightfully navigates Arturo’s awkwardness, humor and conviction as he develops his first crush and fights for his family’s restaurant. “The First Rule of Punk,” by Celia C. Pérez (Viking / Penguin; 336 pp.; $16.99; ages 9-13). María Luisa wears Chuck Taylors, listens to punk rock, makes zines, and goes by the nickname Malú. She’s devastated when she has to move to Chicago, leaving behind her dad and his record store. At her new strongly Latino school, Malú must navigate finding new friends, balancing her


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Mexican culture with her interests, and speaking out against unfair rules. A fun, fresh story about claiming your own style. “Someday Birds,” by Sally J. Pla (HarperCollins; 336 pp.; $16.99; ages 9-12). Charlie and his family will stay with me a long time. Charlie’s autism and obsessive compulsive disorder makes his cross-country trip with his siblings difficult, but they are on a mission to visit their father in the hospital. Charlie is sure that finding all of the birds on the list he created with his father will ensure that his father recovers. A touching, heartfelt journey. “Patina,” by Jason Reynolds (Atheneum / Simon & Schuster; 240 pp.; $16.99; ages 9-13). After Patina (Patty) reacts to coming in 2nd place, Coach assigns her to the 4x800 relay team. Meanwhile, Patty has to juggle being responsible for her little sister, feeling out of place at her private school, and taking care of her mom who’s “got the sugar” (diabetes). Reynolds’ writing explodes during race scenes and he authentically captures Patty’s inner voice. I loved the track and teamwork elements of this story, with the importance of supporting each other and being in step with one another. YOUNG ADULT (AGES 14-18) “The 57 Bus: A True Story of Two Teenagers and the Crime That Changed Their Lives,” by Dashka Slater (Farrar, Straus and Giroux / Macmillan; 320 pp.; $17.99; ages 14-adult). In 2013, a teen set fire to another student’s skirt during their bus ride home. Was it goofing around? Was it a hate crime against an LGBTQ youth? Journalist and author Dashka Slater provides a nuanced, thoughtful look at this complex intersection of two lives, helping readers challenge their own assumptions about prejudice, justice and prosecution. “When Dimple Met Richi,” by Sandya Menon (Simon Pulse; 380 pp.; $17.99; ages 14-18). This sparkling romantic comedy about two first-generation Indian Americans meeting at a computer coding camp the summer before

they head to college is set in motion when their parents set up an arrangedmarriage and it backfires in a big way. Both Dimple and Richi grapple with their aspirations, plans and identities, giving this charming romance novel depth that will resonate with many teens. “The Hate You Give,” by Angie Thomas (Balzer + Bray / HarperCollins; 464 pp.; $17.99; ages 13-adult). Sixteen-year-old Starr navigates through two very different worlds: her home in a poor black urban neighborhood, and her suburban, privileged private school. When she witnesses the unprovoked police shooting of her best friend and his death becomes national news, she must cope with her personal grief and the public turmoil. Thomas shows how the personal is politi-

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✼ Family Cents

Allow Kids to Make Dumb Spending Decisions — But Only a Few By Aaron Crowe


s parents, it’s a standard part of the job description to let children fail every once in awhile. Fall down, brush yourself off and get back up again. Resilience is a good skill to learn. Even in adulthood, learning from your mistakes is a good trait. The same is true with managing money. I don’t mean letting children fail so much that they’re reluctant to manage money at all, but enough to show them that money is limited and they should consider how they use it. Earning an allowance at a young age is a start. But what I think really kicks it into high gear for kids is when they start spending money — or want to spend it — on their own. It’s one thing to go to the store and have your parents buy you clothes because you’re outgrowing everything in your closet. It’s another to go to the mall with your friends to buy your own clothes with your own money. For my daughter, this lesson is kicking in at age 13. And since it’s her money, I’m letting her make some dumb spending decisions — up to a point. After buying her the necessities of life, it’s up to her to pay for any extras she wants such as a shopping trip at the mall for a poster to decorate her room or a boba tea. This has got her more interested in doing her weekly chores at home and earning her allowance, along with seeking extra work as a dog walker and babysitter in our neighborhood. Along the way she’s made a few poor purchases that I think she might admit don’t make much sense afterward. Nicknacks from her hobbies, such as anime, are losing their popularity in our house. They’re small and easily get lost or stepped on and broken, and the initial


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glow of a purchase doesn’t last too long when they get home. A few bigger examples: But some expenses can be big enough that the regret is that much bigger if you don’t get as much joy out of them as you thought you would. An iPod is one example. About two years ago I gave my daughter my old iPod after I bought a new phone and didn’t need the iPod anymore. She used it to get online and to text friends, and we limited her time on it daily.

of her own money because she made the mistake of letting someone else drop and break her expensive gadget. At least I don’t want her to have to learn from that mistake again until she graduates from high school. Then she’s no longer a “kid” and has a whole lifetime of spending mistakes ahead of her to learn from. Here’s another example. When I was a kid I really wanted a motocross bike. I didn’t want just any motorcross bike, but one designed by a friend of a friend who used rebuilt bike parts to make

It’s one thing to go to the store and have your parents buy you clothes because you’re outgrowing everything in your closet. It’s another to go to the mall with your friends to buy your own clothes with your own money. We told her not to take it outside of the house, such as to a friend’s house, because if she lost it or it broke, we wouldn’t replace it. One day we relented and she took it to a friend’s house to take some photos. A younger child asked if she could look at it, and my daughter gave it to her to hold. The child dropped it and the iPod broke. My daughter knew the rule — she’d have to buy a new iPod herself if she wanted one. She used some money from her savings account and worked for months to earn money doing chores at home, and finally she had enough money to buy an iPod. I wouldn’t call it a dumb spending decision on her part, because it was something she really wanted and is her main way of going online. But is it worth the $500 or so that she could have avoided spending by not giving it to a 3-year-old to hold? That’s one reason why we’re now holding tight to the rule of only using the iPod when my wife and I are around. I don’t want her to be in the situation again of having to spend another $500

bikes. It cost about $100, which I had to come up with myself. I had a paper route at the time, so I had money coming in that I could spend freely. My dad advised me against buying such a bike, saying it might not be the best designed and might not last long. I bought the bike anyway, saving up for a few months to buy it. I outgrew the bike within a year and regretted spending so much of my hard-earned money on something that ultimately didn’t give me as much satisfaction as I had hoped it would. Was that the spending mistake that would send me on my way to being a frugal spender the rest of my life? I doubt it. But it’s one financial mistake I remember making early on, and I’d like to think that it taught me to be a better shopper and to value my money more. Aaron Crowe is a freelance journalist who specializes in writing about personal finance. He writes for a number of websites, including his own at



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Is That Me Yelling? By Rona Renner, RN QUESTION: “My son gets anxious when things don’t go as planned. I get so frustrated, like the other day when we were heading out the door and he realized he forgot to do his math homework. He had a meltdown, and refused to go to school. I yelled at him, which only made things worse. It’s a terrible way to start the day. What can I do?” —Ian, father of a 10 year old. ANSWER: Ian, you are not alone! If you find yourself yelling at your son most days, it’s time to understand more about why you yell. Maybe you were raised by a yeller, and you can’t seem to kick the habit of letting your feelings spill out and land on your child. Or perhaps you’re stressed and rushed in the morning and have temporarily misplaced your compassion and kindness. You may be raising a sensitive and distractible child who is not good at organization and who has strong reactions. Perhaps you can see that your mood had a lot to do with your yelling at your son’s mistake. You can learn to stop yelling at your kids! Most parents yell at their children occasionally. Losing it with our kids comes with the territory of parenting—we’re tired, they’re tired, it happens. Often you can apologize, laugh together, and get back to your patient approach to child rearing. But if you are yelling just like your mother used to yell, or so hard that your throat hurts, then it’s time to focus on how to reconnect with yourself and your child. Fortunately, we can learn from our mistakes and change our habits and conditioning. It’s never too late to start fresh. Am I yelling or just being firm? When parents yell—regardless of their volume—they are often angry or frustrated and have lost some degree


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of self-control. The outcome is often to express frustration and let kids know that they had better listen “or else!” In contrast, the assertive communication you use thoughtfully as a part of the way you discipline is not the same as yelling. There are times you may need to be firm to get a child, who tends to tune his parents out, to listen to requests. Most people agree that it is appropriate to yell sometimes, especially in dangerous situations when someone might get hurt—to stop a child who is reaching for the hot stove or about to dash into a busy street.


Think about how you can connect with your child so that respectful communication comes more easily to both of you. “We have a problem here, how shall we deal with it?”


Work on setting limits and establishing family rules. Being proactive is easier on everyone.


Get enough sleep so your irritability is lower and your patience is higher. An easy way to remember to not react intensely is to do the ABCDEs when you feel yourself getting angry: A—Ask your self what you are feeling and thinking.

Here are a few tips to help you begin on the path to yelling less:

B—Breathe. Take some easy breaths as you sense your body. This will help to lower your stress response.


C—Calm yourself. Wait till you have calmed down before you communicate with your child.

Ask yourself, “Why do I want to yell less?” Reflecting on the consequences of losing it will help you change. Is your child afraid of you? Does yelling causes a distance between you? Are you teaching your child how to solve problems?


Think about the reasons you use yelling as a form of discipline. Maybe you don’t know what else to do, or yelling is what you learned from your parents.


Become aware of the signs of stress and anger in your body. Do you get warm, does your breathing become rapid, do you clench your jaw? Notice your thoughts and feelings when your child does something that bugs you. Replace, “He’s so oblivious” with, “He’s just a kid with a lot on his mind.”


Learn how your child’s temperament and yours impacts your yelling. Maybe he’s intense and you’re sensitive.


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D—Decide what your child needs. Perhaps he needs a hug, a consequence, encouragement, or a clear boundary. E—Empathize. Put yourself in your child’s shoes and try to sense what he is feeling or thinking. If you can’t calm yourself after taking deep breaths, tell your child that you are getting angry and you’ll be back in a minute to figure out how you can solve this problem together. Get yourself a cup of tea and remember that your child is not acting this way to get your goat, he is struggling and needs your guidance. It’s worth being a little late if you can keep your relationship positive. Your decision to yell less will allow you to start right now down the path of calm, connection, and peace. Rona Renner, RN (“Nurse Rona”), is a nurse, a parent educator and a temperament specialist. You can learn more about her at www.



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Understanding IEPs


By Brian Spero

lot has changed in the educational landscape since most of us parents were in school, however there still remains some mystery and misconceptions surrounding special education and IEPs. Simply put, an IEP stands for Individualized Education Program, and it applies to any child who has been deemed eligible through an official evaluation process to receive special education and related services. For parents of children with an IEP, it’s fortifying to know the school system is legally obligated to provide a custom-built plan to address a student’s unique educational requirements. But be aware, while the law demands every child be provided a “free appropriate public education,” it is extremely important for parents to become informed of their rights and remain closely involved to ensure the system works to the extent of its purpose and potential.


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Should My Child Be Evaluated?

According to Julie Sinclair of the Federation for Children with Special Needs, the way things typically start for families of young children with special needs or developmental concerns is through Early Intervention (EI). A referral is made and EI comes in to do what Sinclair refers to as a “family focus,” offering families guidance and providing therapy to the child in the natural environment. “If the early intervention professional feels the child may need additional support when turning 3, then they will start the process with the public school,” says Sinclair. There are generally two broad categories of circumstances where families are compelled to request an evaluation for an IEP: those who have a child who has been diagnosed from a young age with a disability, such

There are generally two broad categories of circumstances where families are compelled to request an evaluation for an IEP: those who have a child who has been diagnosed from a young age with a disability, such as autism or Down syndrome, and those who for one reason or another are concerned that something just isn’t right. as autism or Down syndrome, and those who for one reason or another are concerned that something just isn’t right. While in both cases it is essential to request an evaluation to confirm eligibility for an IEP and assess the needs of the child going into preschool and beyond, when the circumstances are less cut and dry the process can sometimes be difficult and conflicted. Perhaps your son or daughter isn’t acting the way their siblings did at similar ages or they are overly rough with other kids or exhibit behavior you just don’t understand. In the event you have concerns at any stage of development, Sinclair recommends visiting your doctor and asking for recommendations. The child may need to see a neurologist or other professional who will determine if he meets the criteria that would fall under a disability type.

IEP Eligibility The three general questions asked in the evaluation process are: • Does the child have a disability? • Is the child not making effective progress because of the disability? • Does the child require specialized designed instruction to make progress? The law states that the school has the first right to evaluate, and they are obligated to evaluate every area of suspected disability. Parents know their kids, but they don’t always know how to classify their behavior. It is important to share your diverse concerns with the assigned certified specialist so the most thorough evaluation can be performed. Shadi Tayarani of the Commonwealth Learning Center, a nonprofit organization specializing in working with students with an identified learning need, agrees accessing support and understanding your rights are essential for navigating the IEP process. “You have to show up as prepared as possible to get the most out of the situation,” says Tayarani. “Lots of parents don’t know you have the right to look at the testing the school has done two days prior to the (IEP) meeting,” Tayarani continues. “You have to request that – a school isn’t going to automatically send home that testing.” She recommends parents review the material beforehand so they can go in, ask questions and clarify any misunderstanding rather than having pages and pages of testing presented that they’ve never laid eyes on.


approaching school age or are concerned about a potential learning disability, get up to speed regarding the IEP process. Contact your school district or an agency like Early Intervention. The Federation for Children with Special Needs is also an invaluable resource in educating families of their rights, the services available to them and what to expect step by step throughout the IEP process. • Become informed and empowered to be an advocate for your kids, especially being aware of your rights. • Consider the best interests of your child in getting everybody on the IEP team on the same page to form a culture of support and accountability. • Keep your emotions in check. Bring people you trust to your IEP meeting, such as a grandparent or your family doctor, to get a rounded perspective and help guide productive conversation. • Think independently and critically, be assertive and unyielding, but also respectful, especially with the school. Building relationships is a cornerstone of success. • Take advantage of parent training available to you on the service delivery grid in the IEP process. • Seek support from your local Parent Advisory Council, a committee made up of parents of children with special needs. It’s a great resource for getting advice, sharing connections and learning from others’ experiences. – Brian Spero

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Questioning the Evaluation In the event an IEP is denied or the evaluation doesn’t seem to accurately reflect your child, families have recourse. You have the right to agree to only some of the proposed assessments, ask for additional assessments or request evaluation from an independent provider. According to Joseph Moldover, a developmental neuropsychologist who frequently works with children with special needs, families often wish to go outside the public school for a more in-depth evaluation from a professional with a higher level of expertise. “Families also can feel there exists a built-in conflict dealing with an entity responsible for determining whether a child’s needs are getting met and are at the same time responsible for meeting those needs,” Moldover says. “[An outside evaluator] can make recommendations independent of budgetary concerns, political concerns and more purely on the basis of the child’s needs.”

The Least Restrictive Environment Every child is entitled to a free and appropriate education, and that includes the right to have that education in the least restrictive environment. “The least restrictive environment is being educated alongside your typical

peers as much as possible. If that isn’t working, if the student isn’t able to access the education in a general classroom, then we might go to more time outside the classroom or a separate classroom or a separate school,” says Tayarani. “It becomes more separate as the need becomes greater.” According to Sinclair, it’s about figuring out what the child needs to access learning and how the content can be modified to master skills impacted by the disability. For instance, if you are working with a child who has a visual impairment, that might mean modifying the content by making it bigger and more visible, or by limiting the number of items on the page. The parents, along with a team of educators, school representatives and related service providers, must work together to identify everything from the way the child learns best to how progress will be measured toward meeting goals.


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Continuing Assessment and Advocacy While school districts must reevaluate students with IEPs every three years, reevaluation can and should be conducted more frequently. “It’s not necessarily wise to take a wait-and-see approach,” says Tayarani. She advises parents with concerns to go to their child’s teacher for help and information, and to proceed together in determining the appropriate next steps. “Things go off the rails at all different times,” says Moldover, adding that bright, hard-working children are often able to compensate and therefore mask developmental issues until the later grades. Moldover says the development of the brain can fail to match up with the demands of the environment at all different times, so it is not uncommon for kids of varying ages who have never been evaluated to have concerns pop up on the radar in middle school or beyond. While it is important to stay in tune with your child’s progress and thoroughly investigate concerns relating to academic performance, social development or any number of dynamics, Tayarani says she feels schools are increasingly equipped to identify disabilities, thanks to benchmark evaluation assuming a more prominent place in the educational landscape. wshe says.

Going the Distance The clear take-away in all this is the importance as parents or caregivers to know your rights and get the support necessary for successfully navigating the complex and emotional journey of raising a child who has an IEP. “It’s not a sprint, it’s a walk – a walk together and it takes time,” says Sinclair. As the old saying goes, your kids don’t come with a manual – and that’s a realization most parents of a child with special needs understand all too well. From the first chapter, and all along the way, you have to remember everybody’s story, just like the IEP itself, is unique. It just has to be the right story for your kid. ■ Brian Spero is a freelance writer and parent of a school-age son. JOIN US FOR OUR 2017-18


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Oct. 1 through Oct. 9, Topsfield Fair Hours vary, Topsfield Fairgrounds Ave., Providence, R.I. A nighttime display of over 5,000 illuminated jack-o-lanterns, many of them professionally carved masterpieces. Through Nov. 5. $12-18. 401-7853510;

6 Friday HONK! Festival Davis Square, Somerville. A festival of activist brass street bands featuring several days of performances, dance parties, processions and a lantern parade. Through Oct. 8. FREE.

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Fall Festival 10am – 4pm, Blue Hills Trailside Museum, 1904 Canton Ave, Milton. Create autumn memories and enjoy live animal presentations, apple cider pressing, face painting and an annual yard sale. Through Oct. 8. $8. 617-9838500;

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New England Harvest Feast 5:30pm, Plimoth Plantation, 137 Warren Ave., Plymouth. Discover the table manners and recipes of the 17th century as you enjoy songs and dinner with Pilgrims. $35 and up, includes museum admission. 508-746-1622;

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13 Friday Archaeology Fair 10am – 4pm, Museum of Science, 1 Science Park, Boston. Dozens of hands-on activities, live presentations and special programs celebrating archaeology. Free with admission. 617-723-2500;

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Imagination Playground’s unique blue foam blocks. Free with admission. 617-426-6500;

Pumpkin Carving 4-6pm, Oak Knoll Wildlife Sanctuary, 1417 Park Street, Attleboro. Help staff at Oak Knoll carve pumpkins, then make sure to come back for the Halloween Spooktacular at Attleboro Springs to see your pumpkin aglow! FREE. 508-223-3060;

Frightful Fridays 7 & 8:15pm, Gore Place, 52 Gore St., Waltham. The 1806 Gore mansion provides the perfect setting for an evening of spooky tales and haunted activities. Fridays through Oct. 28. $15. 781-894-2798;

14 Saturday Nature and Art Lab: LEGO Critter Creations 9:30-11:30am, Mass Audubon Museum of American Bird Art and Wildlife Sanctuary, 963 Washington Street, Canton. Explore the sanctuary, learn about fall wildlife and create a LEGO animal to take home. $25. 781-8218853;

Fall Foliage Fun Day 11am – 2pm, Ward Reservation, Andover. Make kites, take a guided hike and enjoy the autumn colors and view of Boston from the top of Holt Hill. $15 per car. 978-356-4351;



Room a View Ages 15 months - 5with years Combine the most popular climb in Boston, vibrant fall foliage and a stun Brighton • Porter Sq. • Kendall Sq. sunset during a free sunset foliage hike on Oct. 17, hosted by the Friends the Blue and Blue Hills Ski. Meet at theNewton ski area to check in, then take South End • Hills Needham • West your picnic dinner to enjoy at the top with complimentary hot beverages. After sunset, thePlain lights of the ski area will illuminate your walk down. Jamaica South St. ✼ Sunset Hike, Oct. 17, 4-7pm, Blue Hills Ski Area, 4001 Washington St., Can Jamaica Plain Revere St. FREE. 781-828-1805;

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Sharon – Gilson Early Learning Center 25 Canton St. (Temple Sinai) • 781-795-4900 Sunday, October 29 • 9:30-10:30am Sunday, December 3 • 9:30-11:30am

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Fall Foliage Sunset Hike 4:30-7:30pm, Blue Hills Ski Area, 4001 Washington St., Canton. Take in the season’s finest colors from the region’s highest hill. Picnic at the top, then hike down by the lights of the ski area. FREE. 781-828-1805;

Halloween Spooktacular 4:30-8:30pm, Attleboro Springs Wildlife Sanctuary, 1417 Park Street, Attleboro. Explore pumpkin-lit trails and interact with forest inhabitants who will share the history of the sanctuary through fun skits and stories. FREE. 508-223-3060;

15 Sunday Flower Fairy Festival 10am to noon, The Stevens-Coolidge Place, 137 Andover St., North Andover. Build fairy houses and wands, dance and hear stories as you say goodbye to the garden season. $15. 978-356-4351;

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International School of Boston Preschool and Kindergarten Open House October 28, 2017 @ 9:30 am – 12:00 pm. 17 Irving St

Brimmer and May Fall Open House October 22, 2017 @ 1:00 pm 69 Middlesex Rd

Lesley Ellis School Open House November 5, 2017. 34 Winter St

Dedham Country Day Open House October 22, 2017 @ 1:00 pm 90 Sandy Valley Rd

BOSTON The Learning Project Open Houses October 3, 2017 @ 4:00 pm – 6:00 pm and October 21, 2017 @ 11:00 am – 2:00 pm. 107 Marlborough St The Newman School Open House October 15, 2017 @ 11:00 am – 1:00 pm. 247 Marlborough St

BRAINTREE Thayer Academy Upper School Open House October 28, 2017 @ 9:30 am – 12:00 pm. Middle School Open House. November 4, 2017 @ 9:30 am – 12:00 pm. 745 Washington St

BROOKLINE The Park School Open House October 29, 2017 @ 12:00 pm – 3:00 pm. 171 Goddard Ave St. Mary of the Assumption School Open House October 18, 2017 @ 10:00 am – 11:00 am. 67 Harvard St

CAMBRIDGE International School of Boston Middle and Upper School Information Night October 12, 2017 @ 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm. Lower School Open House October 28, 2017 @ 11:00 am – 2:00 pm. 45 Matignon Rd Cambridge Friends School Open House November 4, 2017 @ 1:30 pm – 4:00 pm. Middle School Open House. November 7, 2017 @ 9:00 am – 11:30 am. 5 Cadbury Rd


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The Rashi School Head of School Coffee. October 24, 2017 @ 9:30 am – 11:00 am. The Rashi School Information Session. November 19, 2017 @ 10:30 am – 12:00 pm. 8000 Great Meadow Rd

FITCHBURG Applewild School Open House November 5, 2017 @ 1:00 pm. 120 Prospect St

MILTON Thacher Montessori School Open House November 18, 2017 @ 10:30 am – 12:00 pm. 1425 Blue Hill Avenue

NATICK Riverbend Admissions Open Houses November 4, 2017 33 Eliot St

WATERTOWN Atrium School Open House October 29, 2017 @ 1:00 pm – 3:00 pm. 69 Grove St

WELLESLEY Saint John School Open House October 11, 2017 @ 8:00 am – 9:30 am. 9 Ledyard St.

WESTON The Meadowbrook School of Weston Open House October 21, 2017 @ 1:00 pm – 3:00 pm. 10 Farm Rd

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17 Tuesday Peek a Blue Hike 11am, Houghton’s Pond, 840 Hillside St., Milton. Join the Friends of the Blue Hills for their bi-weekly baby and toddler hiking series. Snacks and drinks provided. FREE. 781-828-1805;

20 Friday Milking Time 3:30-5pm, Drumlin Farm Wildlife Sanctuary, 208 S Great Road, Lincoln. Feed the cows their evening hay, try your hands at milking a dairy cow and enjoy a dairy treat. $15.50. 781-259-2200;



Halloween Hike at Boo Meadow Brook 6:30-8:30pm, Broad Meadow Brook Wildlife Sanctuary, 414 Massasoit Road, Worcester. Meet our resident spirits and native wildlife on a sundown tour through the woods lit by glowing luminaria. Through Oct. 21. $7. 508-753-6087;

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8am – 5pm, various locations along the Charles River, Boston & Cambridge. The world’s best crew teams head to the Charles for the ultimate rowing competition. View the race and explore the expo. Through Oct. 22. FREE. 617-868-6200;

3:30-5pm, Drumlin Farm Wildlife Sanctuary, 208 S Great Road, Lincoln. Visit the owls, create owl masks and prowl about. Whooo’s ready for Owl-o-ween? $15.50. 781-2592200;

Boo at the Zoo 11am – 3pm, Stone Zoo, 149 Pond St., Stoneham. Trick-or-treat among the animals, create creepy crafts, run a haunted maze, watch the animals interact with pumpkins and more. Free with admission. Through Oct. 22. 781-438-5100;

Halloween at Hutch 4-6pm, Governor Hutchinson’s Field, Milton. Celebrate Halloween with a fun, non-spooky party complete with hot cocoa, cider, crafts and a pinata. Come in costume! Adults, $5; youth, $3. 617-542-7696;

25 Wednesday Tots @ 10 10am, Assembly Row, 300 Grand Union Blvd., Somerville. Meet at Baxter Park for a Halloween Show with Stacey Peasley. FREE. 617-684-1511;

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3-4:30pm, Blue Hills Trailside Museum, 1904 Canton Ave, Milton. Meet nighttime animals, make animal masks, play games and enjoy a Halloween treat at this nonscary, family-friendly Halloween. $10. 617-983-8500;

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Pumpkin Patches! Do you like your pumpkins tall and skinny or short and fat? Head to one of these pumpkin patches and find one that suits you just right. • Belkin Family Lookout Farm, 89 Pleasant St. South, South Natick. 508-653-0653; • Cider Hill Farm, 45 Fern Ave. Amesbury. 978-388-5525; • Connors Farm, 30 Valley Rd. (Rt. 35). Danvers. 978-777-1245; • Crescent Farms, 140 Willow Ave., Bradford, 978-914-3158; • Davis Farmland, 145 Redstone Hill Rd., Sterling. 978-4226666; •Lanni Orchards, 294 Chase Road, Route 13 Lunenburg. 978-582-6246;

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27 Friday Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland 1pm & 7pm, The Dorothy and Charles Mosesian Center for the Arts, 321 Arsenal St., Watertown. Join the Mad Hatter, Queen of Hearts and other memorable characters as they find their way through Wonderland. Through Oct. 29. $12. 617926-2787;

Halloween Prowl 6:15pm, Moose Hill Wildlife Sanctuary, 293 Moose Hill Parkway, Sharon. Discover the history of Halloween and encounter costumed characters on a candle-lit trail, then return to the Nature Center for a campfire sing-a-long and snacks. Through Oct. 29. $10. 781-784-5691;

28 Saturday Boston Blooms with Daffodils Various locations. Help plant 2,000 daffodil bulbs as a part of Mayor Walsh’s beautification initiative. FREE. 617-961-3006;

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• Pakeen Farm, 109 Elm St., Canton. 781-828-0111;

Copley Square, Boston. Readings and book-related activities for the whole family. FREE. 617-945-9552;

• Russell Orchards, 143 Argilla Rd., Ipswich. 978-356-5366;

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• Smolak Farms, 315 South Bradford St., North Andover. 978-682-6332; • Ward’s Berry Farm, 614 South Main St., Sharon. 781-784-3600; Find even more pumpkin patches at massgrown/pumpkin_pyo.htm.

9am – 6pm, Providence Children’s Museum, 100 South St., Providence, R.I. Come in costume and have a blast with games, crafts and Nori the dragon. Free with admission. 401-273-5437;

Fall Family Arts Festival 10am to noon, The Dorothy and Charles Mosesian Center for the Arts, 321 Arsenal St., Watertown. Celebrate fall with free, family-friendly performing and visual arts activities, costume dress-up and more. FREE. 617-926-2787;

Zoo Howl 11am – 3pm, Franklin Park Zoo, 1 Franklin Park Road, Boston. Trick-or-treat among the animals, explore a haunted maze, watch the animals interact with pumpkins and more. Free with admission. Through Oct. 29. 617-541-5466;

National Chemistry Week Celebration: Chemistry Rocks! 11am – 4pm, Boston Children’s Museum, 308 Congress St., Boston. Put on your lab coat and explore the wonderful world of rocks, fossils and minerals. Free with admission. 617-426-6500;

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What’s In a Name? By Susan Solomon Yem


hen my friend, Anna, got married five years ago, she chose to keep her maiden name. Anna is French-Canadian with an Armenian background. In those traditions, women hold on to their names for a lifetime. Anna is very happily married and definitely not considering separating from her husband. I was excited to take my husband’s name when I wed. I often stumbled over my own alliterative appellation. Two names beginning with S did not roll off my tongue easily. I also liked downsizing from three syllables to one. Solomon is frequently misspelled with at least one of the o’s becoming an a. Surprisingly, Yem can be spelled incorrectly too -- Wem, Yam, Yen. The possibilities are almost endless. One of the first questions my attorney asked when I began divorce proceedings was whether I wanted to keep my married name. Without hesitation, I said yes. It was my name almost as long as it wasn’t. At the time of my divorce I was married for almost half my life. I was a newlywed when we moved from California to Massachusetts. We were starting a new life in a new state and I was forging a new identity. My friends and colleagues knew me only as Susan Yem. They had never met Susan Solomon. I would always remain a Solomon. I abandoned my middle name of Lilli and used Solomon in its place. (I wasn’t really a fan of Lilli.) As a writer my byline was updated from Susan Solomon to Susan Solomon Yem so that friends and editors, who knew me as a single woman, would still know that I was the author of the book or article they were reading.

It’s my children’s last name I suspect that people create their own narratives when they meet moms whose last name is not the same as their children’s. Well, at least that’s my tendency. I am proud to be identified as the mother of my children and I do not want anything to confuse that. In an ironic twist two of my children are using Solomon as their last name – my daughter and my oldest son. When I hosted my daughter’s college friends at a dinner near her campus, they all thanked Mrs. Solomon. “Mrs. Solomon was my mother,” I corrected them. They responded with puzzled expressions. See what I mean about confusing people!


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It’s my professional name My business card reads Susan Solomon Yem so the people I interact with professionally will not anticipate greeting a small Asian woman when I schedule meetings. (I am 5’8” and Jewish.) More than one boss has asked if he has to call me Susan Solomon Yem when introducing me. I’m Susan Solomon Yem in print. I’m Susan Yem in person. I do enjoy the looks I get when I walk in a room of people anticipating someone who is quite different from me. Inevitably they ask, what kind of name is Yem? I do not want to deny those years when I was married. While mine was a difficult marriage, there were many years of satisfaction. My ex-husband and I built a life together. We created a home and raised five children. I hold those memories dear. Family photos that include him adorn my living room. I am the person I am today because of our years together.

I still like being called Mrs. When Ms. came into common usage after the publication of Ms. Magazine in 1971 it was the default title for a woman whose marital status was unknown. In more recent years people have started to assume that Ms. is used to identify a divorced woman. Not necessarily, according to Emily Post, the acknowledged authority on etiquette. Ms. Post tells us, a divorced woman who chooses to keep her ex-husband’s name can use Mrs. or Ms., but if she reverts to her maiden name then Ms., not Miss should precede it. Nowadays we’re rarely identified by our last names. In doctor’s offices, supermarket check out lines, and insurances companies, we’re all on a first name basis. I work in a school, where students still need to address adults as Mr., Miss., Mrs., or Ms. and I like being called Mrs. My friend, April, divorced two years ago. She is in the process of adjusting her last name. During the first year, she continued to use her ex-husband’s name. This year she has created a hyphenate of her maiden and married names and next year she will drop the back end and use her maiden name only. That’s a little too complicated for me. Just call me Mrs. Yem Susan Solomon Yem is singleminded about raising her five children to adulthood. She’d like to hear your stories about single parenting. Contact her at susansyem@gmail. com

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