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Contents JUNE 2022 Volume 41 • Number 10

22 Camps & Summer Programs

Last Minute Summer Camp Options 6 Good to Know • Father’s Day • Say Cheese • Water Safety

14 Product Roundup Products and Toys for Summer Fun

26 Lessons from the First Job 28 Lighten Up Coach Just Have Fun

30 The Four Stages of Teenage Girls

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Good to Know What Does Dad REALLY want for Father’s Day? • A Nap • To do something Dad wants to do with the kids, NOT what the kids want to do. • Time to work on his hobbies.

• Someone else to handle the chores. • His favorite meal brought to him. • A clean car. • Peace and quite. A day to enjoy a little solitude. • To control the remote.


As we prepare to celebrate Father’s Day this year, keep in mind that it was the governor of Washington State that first declared the celebration on July 19, 1910. All of the hard-working papas in the country had to wait until 1972 for Father’s Day to actually become a nationally celebrated holiday in the United States (that’s 58 years after Mother’s Day was made official by President Woodrow Wilson). It was Richard Nixon who signed the proclamation into action.

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National Doughnut Day, taking place on June 7, has origins dating back to 1938! That’s the year The Salvation Army created the sweet holiday to honor the folks who served the deep-fried treats to soldiers during World War I (they were affectionately referred to as Doughnut Dollies). For the record, National Doughnut Day always takes place on the first Friday in June. Delicious!


According to a National Retail Federation study, that’s how much the average consumer will spend on their Papa this Father’s Day, although we all know that nothing is better than sweet hugs, burnt toast in bed and a school-made craft to celebrate.

Celebrate Flag Day This Flag Day (June 14), bust out some facts about the American flag to impress your kids. For example, only Pennsylvania observes Flag Day as an official holiday. Each color of the flag has a special meaning. White signifies purity and innocence, red stands for hardiness and valor, and blue is for vigilance, perseverance and justice.

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Good to Know Say Cheese June is National Dairy Month so there’s no better time to

pay homage to fromage. Did you know there are more than 2,000 varieties of cheese? Despite the many impressive offerings, the International Dairy Foods Association says the United States consumes more Italianstyle cheeses than any other (pizza anyone?), with American varieties coming in second. In 2021, the U.S. per capita consumption of natural cheese reached a record 39 pounds.

QUALITY Over Quantity


f you’re feeling guilt over not spending enough time with your kids, a recent study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family may put you at ease. The research finds no correlation between the amount of time children ages 3 to 11 spend with their parents and their academic achievement, behavior or emotional well-being. Instead, the focus should be aimed at how you spend time together, not how much.

Water Safety and Drowning Prevention Cassandra Slater, Injury Prevention Specialist


nnually, eight hundred children drown in the United States, more than half of whom are under the age of five. Home swimming pools are the most common site for drowning to occur for toddlers aged one to four years old, while bath tubs and large buckets are the most common place for infant drowning deaths. Preventing drowning tragedies in and out of the home takes planning and supervision, but is absolutely possible. Home Drowning Prevention: Child-proofing is the key to home drowning prevention. As your child becomes more mobile, you will want peace of mind knowing that childresistant materials will keep them away from water sources, such as bath tubs, home pools, and toilet bowls. Safety equipment such as door knob covers, sliding door locks, toilet latches, and cabinet locks create safe barriers between your curious toddlers and hazards in and around the home. If you are the lucky owner of a home pool or hot tub, consider multiple barriers to keep kids out of the water without supervision. Some common safety measures include pool fencing, door alarms,

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and pool covers. Pool covers should be strong enough to hold the weight of an adult to prevent drowning from fall-ins. Open-water swimming: Near any open body of water, younger children should wear a Coast-Guard-approved life vest at all times in case they wander towards the water and are knocked off balance by waves. Older children may be tempted to swim in open water without a life vest because they feel comfortable swimming in swimming pools. Remind them that swimming in the ocean is much more challenging than swimming in a pool, and that they should wear a life vest in

any amount of water that hits above their waist while standing, in case they are swept further away from shore. Common pool toys such as pool noodles and inner tubes cannot be used instead of a life vest. As always, make sure there is at least one alert adult present while children are swimming. Adults should be attentive to the swimmers and not distracted by cell phones or head phones. Learn CPR Bystanders who know CPR are often the difference between life and death for drowning victims. Become an empowered citizen by learning CPR from the American Red Cross or a program at a local hospital.

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t’s summer! You’ve got your kids’ sunblock, goggles, hats, towels and floaties, plus a lounge chair in a coveted location near the pool. You are the picture of summer perfection … almost. While we offer you kudos for hauling all of that gear around in style and protecting your family’s skin and eyes, there’s one thing you may have missed on the summer safety checklist – their ears. Often disregarded until it’s too late, proper ear health is especially important during the summer months as kids are swimming up a storm weekly, if not daily. “Our ears serve an important role and if they’re not healthy, that can lead to conditions that have a significant impact on our lives,” says Jocelyn Joseph, M.D., M.P.H., chief of pediatrics at MIT Medical, Cambridge. “For example, fluid in our ears can cause hearing loss and, as a result, a child’s speech and language development may be delayed. Also, if fluid is persistent, it may lead to chronic ear infections and continued need for antibiotics.”

What Is Swimmer’s Ear?

No one wants to be sidelined at camp because of swimmer’s ear, but the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) report that 2.4 million health care visits are attributed to the infection annually in the United States, resulting in almost half a billion dollars in health care costs. Swimmer’s ear (or otitis externa if you want to get fancy), specifically, is an infection of the outer ear canal and rears its ugly head when water stays in the ear canal for

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an extended period of time, offering germs a play area to grow and infect the skin. Common in children who love to swim, symptoms can include itchiness inside the ear, redness and swelling, pain when the ear is tugged and puss drainage. The moral of the story? You want to avoid this at all costs. Joseph advises parents to prevent swimmer’s ear by wearing a swimming cap or ear plugs, but if your little one simply isn’t having it, drying the ears as best you can after swimming is helpful. “Use a towel, washcloth or even a blow dryer on the lowest setting,” she says. “Hold the blow dryer about a foot away from the ear.” Another option, Joseph says, is to use a 1:1 mixture of white vinegar and rubbing alcohol before and after swimming. Pour a teaspoon of the mixture in each ear and let it drain out if, and only if, the eardrum is not ruptured. In the event your child starts to complain of ear pain, Michael Cohen, M.D., a pediatric otolaryngologist at Massachusetts Eye and Ear, encourages parents to visit an ear, nose and throat (ENT) doctor as soon as possible. “Swimmer’s ear is treated with ear drops; usually antibiotic or a combination of antibiotic and steroid drops are used,” he explains. “Sometimes the swelling can be so severe that drops cannot get into the ear canal, in which case an ENT doctor can put a small sponge, called a wick, into the canal to help the drops get in further. Several ear cleanings may be necessary to remove infected debris and to facilitate healing.”

Is Your Child Prone to Ear Infections?

If your child swims regularly, particularly in water with high bacterial counts at recreational water venues, chances are he is at increased risk for developing an outer

ear infection, but there are other factors to consider as well. Joseph cites children with small ear canals as an example of kids who are more susceptible to this kind of illness, as well as those who use hearing aids or wear headphones. Even irritants like hairsprays can put a child at increased risk for infection. When possible, ask pool operators if disinfectant and pH levels are checked twice a day. If the levels are within a normal range (which is 7.0 – 7.6 for pH), the water is less likely to spread germs. Middle ear infections (otitis media with effusion is the technical term) is when fluid builds up in the middle ear and doesn’t offer any signs of acute infection like pain, pus or fever. According to the CDC, these infections can be caused by viral upper respiratory infections, allergies or exposure to irritants such as cigarette smoke. “Due to [children’s] anatomy, they may have more dysfunction of their Eustachian tube,” says Joseph as to why children may be more susceptible to middle ear infections. “As they grow, this tube changes its position and allows for better drainage of the fluid that naturally collects into the ear tube to drain into the nose.”

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Those cotton swabs sure do look inviting to little ones, so first and foremost, keep them out of their reach. The only person who should be in charge of cleaning ears is a grown-up, and even then it should be done gently and not as often as you might think. “The ears are generally self-cleaning,” says Cohen. “Wax produced within the ear canal is normal and serves a protective purpose as it has both moisturizing and antimicrobial properties. Wax gradually comes out on its own as the skin of the ear canal grows outward.” So how can you safely and effectively clean a child’s ears? With great care and caution. “Any visible wax can be gently wiped away with a washcloth, but parents should not try to clean within the ear canal using cotton swabs or other implements as this often pushes wax in further and can damage the delicate skin of the ear canal,” he explains. Joseph concurs, encouraging parents to avoid sticking anything into the ear, even those seemingly innocent cotton swabs. It’s easy to mistakenly dive too far into the ear, which is delicate and may cause the rupture of the tympanic membrane (the eardrum). And don’t even think about trying to get creative. It should go without saying that pen caps, hair pins and the like shouldn’t go anywhere near the ears. “Avoid cleaning the ear canal,” she says. “If a parent suspects it needs to be cleaned, please call and make arrangements for your child’s ear to be cleaned at their provider’s office.” If your child is complaining of ear discomfort or pain, Joseph advises not to ignore it. Also, take note if they are speaking loudly or listening to the TV or radio louder than what you think is normal. These can be signs that their ears should be checked by an ENT. So as you pack up for the pool this summer and round up all of that gear to keep your children safe for the duration of the season, don’t forget about the ears. Ear plugs and swim caps may not be the most glamorous of accessories, but your kids (and their ears) will thank you.

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Lighten Up Coach— Just Have Fun! By Tony Hicks


t used to be the sports parents on the sidelines who were the obnoxious ones. Folks delighted in eye-rolling and elbow-nudging the person next to them in the stands when another parent would erupt like Vesuvius because some pimply faced teen umpire didn’t call out a 7-year-old for straying three inches outside the official baseline. Even worse were the parents who’d berate their own 8-year-old for not taking the right angle on a ground ball to properly execute a possible 6-4-3 double play to end an inning, thus potentially hurting another third-grader’s chances at getting a college scholarship by inflating their Pee-Wee league earned run average. There were technical terms for these people: helicopter parents, bleacher coaches, overbearing sports parents ... loudmouth jerks who couldn’t play a lick when they were in high school and are now taking it out on their kid by trying to live vicariously through the child’s feats on the athletic field. Well, maybe that last one wasn’t exactly technical. But, as the dad of two girls who are now in their seventh collective season playing softball, I’ve seen the games from both the stands, as a regular old grumbling know-it-all father, and the dugout, as a coach. And I’ve got to say: It’s not the sideline parents who are the worstbehaved adults on the field. Now, before I go criticizing a bunch of adults who volunteer an awful lot of time so kids can play ball, I’ll say, in my estimation, at least 90 percent of the adults running the show are patiently stressing fun and pressure-free learning. If you make a play? Great. If you don’t? Go get ’em next time. I will also say that, more than once, I’ve had to fast-walk in the opposite direction of something I see on the field I don’t like. I’m not exactly the most laid-back guy. That said ... boy, the grown-ups in charge of these kids frequently be-

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I’ve heard stories of managers running onto the field and intimidating young umpires (games are frequently officiated by older high school players) into changing calls by chirping at them forcefully enough. have like someone is trying to steal food from their family table. The screamers in the stands often pale in comparison when it comes to an inappropriate level of seriousness. I’ve seen a manager of a team full of 8-year-old girls nearly fight an opposing manager in the parking lot after a game. I’ve heard stories of managers running onto the field and intimidating young umpires (games are frequently officiated by older high school players) into changing calls by chirping at them forcefully enough. I recently watched something similar happen not once, but three times, in the same game. I’ve seen a coach make a kid cry by aggressively telling them they’re not trying hard enough, when the child clearly didn’t have a whole lot of ability to begin with. I’ve seen a coach obsess over his child’s play to the point where he’d issue threats of extra training. And he wasn’t asking. I’ve seen a kid quit because of how intensely their coach approaches their play. By the way, none of the players involved in any of the aforementioned situations was older than 13. When I was 13, an adult could have convinced me the world wasn’t really round. It’s great to support kids playing sports. But it’s not just about teaching them the game. The big people have to consider the message being sent—including how the grown-ups treat each other. Tony Hicks is a newswpaper columnist and the father of four daughters.

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Lessons from the First Job Parents Learn as Much as Teens Do By Katy M. Clark


was sitting in my car in the parking lot of a banquet hall. I wasn’t there to attend a wedding or silver anniversary dinner. No, I was there waiting for my fifteen-year-old son. Moments earlier, I had watched him walk into the office at the banquet hall. He looked so official, dressed all in black. He was reporting for his first day of work as a kitchen assistant. With this part-time job, I hoped he would learn what all of us have learned from our first jobs: how to manage your time, respect your boss, be responsible, and work hard. I was looking forward to him earning his own money, too. And can I add that by working a part-time job that summer he wouldn’t have so much free time to play video games? That pleased me, too. I was waiting in the parking lot, though, because I was unsure if he needed me for anything. He had turned in his work permit and employment forms earlier in the week, but was everything in order? Did he need my signature one more time? A reminder of his social security number? And his employment contract had said no cell phones, but would he have a place to stash his or did he need to leave it with me in the car? To be honest, it felt a bit like the worrying and hovering I had done that first day he went to kindergarten. And just like that first day, I learned that he was going to be just fine without me. After fifteen minutes of waiting and no sign of him coming out to hand me his phone or ask me anything, I left. As it should be. That first day soon turned into his first week done and dusted, then into his first month completed. As time passed, I realized something surprising. Not only was my teen learning valuable life lessons from his part-time job, but I was learning a lot, too.

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First, I learned that he was capable without me. He checked his schedule. He picked up his paycheck. He made sure his uniform was clean and ready for his next shift. As it should be. Then, I learned it was okay not to be aware of every little detail of his life. His job did not send me weekly or daily emails like his high school did. My phone did not ping with constant notifications like the ones I got from his sports teams alerting me to practices and games. All communication about his job was solely between him and his employer. As it should be. I learned that he still needed me, too. I taught him how to cash his paycheck and also how to deposit it. We talked about spending his paycheck for fun stuff while

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The Four Stages of Teenage Girls By Cheryl Maguire


am the lucky mother of not one but two beautiful teenage daughters. When they were younger, they loved to spend time with

me going to the grocery store or just being in my general orbit. They always called after me, “mama, can I come with you?” Then as they grew older, they dropped the “mama” along with wanting to spend even five seconds anywhere near my general vicinity. They referred to me as “mmmooooommmmm” only when they wanted something. These different phases are commonly seen in human development, especially in girls. Like the metamorphosis of the caterpillar into a butterfly, there are various stages of the life cycle. Here are the stages of the human teenage girl.

Stage 1



he first stage of butterfly development is referred to as “egg” since they are growing inside the egg. For the human teenager, this begins at around age 10 or 11. The mother first observes that all of their princess garb has been donated to Goodwill— even the precious tiaras. And then these species will start referring to their once beloved Barbie dolls—that they owned enough of to populate an entire city—as toys meant for “babies.” The most challenging aspect of this phase for the mother is that they no longer want to spend their time going grocery shopping or any other activity. The mother will discover that their daughter is doing unusual behaviors like, “rolling their eyes” anytime they interact with them. And their daughter is suddenly using lots of statements like, “mom you’re so embarrassing” or “I’m bored” and there is frequent use of the word, “no.”

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he second stage of butterfly development is the “larva or caterpillar” when they are ferociously eating everything in sight. The teenage girl development is the opposite— they remain out of sight and cease all forms of communication with the mother with the exception of the word “no”. The use of eye-rolling increases significantly along with feelings of boredom and the number of times they are embarrassed by their mother. This phase is also marked by the use of noise-canceling headphones so that all forms of the mother’s voice are totally terminated or silenced. Often the mother will try to speak to the teenage girl only to receive a lack of any response since they can’t hear anything. On rare occasions, the mother might hear an annoyed utterance of the word, “What?!” when the mother is literally standing in front of them waving their hands and shouting, “How was school today?”

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he third stage of the butterfly life cycle is the “pup or chrysalis” when metamorphosis of the caterpillar to the butterfly begins. For the teenage girl, this is when she transitions from the princess into the villain. All of that silence in stage two has been brewing like a simmering volcano that is ready to erupt. Any attempt at communication is met with resistance and anger with phrases like, “Mom I don’t need your advice!” or “Stop asking me how my day at school was!” or “You are so embarrassing!” The eye-rolling is so frequent that the mother wonders if this is some sort of medical condition since it’s not physically possible to willingly roll your eyes that much. Plus, there is a hint of disgust mixed with anger that protrudes from the end of the roll.

Stage 4



he fourth and final stage of the butterfly metamorphosis is the “adult butterfly” when the butterfly materializes from the chrysalis—with their colorful wings fluttering all around. In this stage, the teenage girl finally removes her noise-canceling headphones from her ears and articulates full sentences without a hint of anger. The eye-rolling has diminished significantly—almost to extinction. The teenage girl willingly wants to spend time with the mother and even accompanies her to the grocery store—a full circle of the life cycle. Some have even observed them

wearing a tiara, but you have to watch unnoticed from afar. Even though the first three stages can be tough on the mother, stage four is worth the wait. Some might even refer to the daughter as a social butterfly.  Cheryl Maguire holds a Master of Counseling Psychology degree. She is married and is the mother of twins and a daughter. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, National Geographic, Washington Post, Parents Magazine, AARP, Healthline, Your Teen Magazine and many other publications. She is a professional member of ASJA. You can find her at Twitter @CherylMaguire05

How to pick the best camp for your child.


N THE BAY AREA WE’RE INCREDIBLY FORTUNATE BECAUSE WE HAVE AN ABUNDANCE of summer camps to choose from for our children. Whether you’re looking for a day or sleepaway camp, one that focuses on the performing arts, science, or whatever else your child is passionate about, it more than likely exists in our region.

Which Type of Camp

Would Best Suit the Needs and Interests of Your Child?


he opportunities that summer camp provides are endless: the ability to try new things, the chance to make new friends, and the prospect of gaining independence are just a few.

Consider the possibilities:

DAY CAMPS typically serve children ages 3-15. Session lengths typically vary from one to eight weeks. Some camps offer up to ten weeks of programming. Before camp and after camp programs are offered for an additional fee at some day camps.

OVERNIGHT (also referred to as Resident or Sleepaway) Camps usually serve children ages 6-18. Campers stay at camp for one to eight weeks, depending on the camp’s session length.

GENERAL CAMPS offer a broad range of activities. Many provide campers with the opportunity to focus on one or a few areas while encouraging them to try a variety of others. It is sometimes possible to explore an activity or interest in depth within the context of the whole program.

TRIP & TRAVEL CAMPS involve outdoor exploration through active sports like biking, hiking, climbing and canoeing. Campers spend most of their time traveling and preparing to travel.

SPECIALTY CAMPS are based in day or resident settings. Popular options for specialization may include horseback riding, the arts, sports, computers, or travel. Programming revolves around intensive exposure to the specialty area.

CAMPS FOR SPECIAL POPULATIONS serve specific clientele like children or adults with particular medical conditions, disabilities, or special needs. Some camps focus on campers who share very specific diagnoses, while others are geared to meet a broader array of needs at any one time.

RELIGIOUSLY-AFFILIATED CAMPS offer religious education formally and informally. Review materials carefully for explanations of how religion influences a camp’s culture to find one with the balance that best matches your family’s own values and beliefs.

FAMILY CAMP SESSIONS include family members of all ages from grandparents to infants. Accommodations vary, as do program options and session length. The focus is on being together as a family—to learn, to relax, and to enjoy new experiences and adventures. 

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With more options to explore, you can build a one of a kind Summer@Stratford experience for your child!


Spark curiosity. Discover new skills. Make friends. Stratford offers the perfect summer camp for your child, complete with all the fun, enriching activities that inspire learning and promote independence, in a safe, nurturing environment.


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Summer Camp Listings Your Child’s Best summer ever starts here

ACADEMY AT OAKLAND BALLET (OAKLAND) Day Camp (510) 893-3132 Ages 5-17 The Academy at Oakland Ballet Company offers classical ballet training with one of the leading Bay Area professional dance companies. The Academy at Oakland Ballet’s focus is on developing the whole dancer through classes that not only teach ballet technique, but explore artistic expression and build self-confidence - all in a fun and nurturing, yet challenging class environment. theacademyatobc/summerintensive/

ALAMEDA BALLET THEME SUMMER CAMPS (ALAMEDA) Day Camp 510-337-1929 Ages 4-11 No experience necessary! In addition to a daily dance class,

children learn about and watch a different famous classical ballet each week. They explore their own creativity through exercise in movement concepts. Students also learn valuable lessons about anatomy, nutrition, dance history and vocabulary. summer-camps-classes-2/

and persistence through creative discovery. Veteran art teacher Susan Stein guides the community of student artists, determines their needs, creates structure, and introduces a large variety of new mediums and techniques. Play creative games. Explore sensory materials. Enjoy time outside



Day Camp 214-732-4056 Ages 5-12 Spend Some Summertime Creating! Open Choice Studio is an innovative art program that offers students the opportunity to respond to their own ideas and interests through artmaking. Working at their own pace, students learn problem-solving, independent thinking, cooperative learning,

Day Camp 408-490-4972 Ages 4-17 Athena Camps is a day camp for girls entering Kindergarten - 11th grade designed to inspire courAges and build confidence through a unique combination of athletic, creative, emotional, and social activities in a nurturing community of mentors.

Berkeley City Ballet Ages 2 and up Boys ballet Dance camps Birthday parties State-of-the-art studios Sprung floors Easy parking Easy online registration and payment

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Dance Camp at the East Bay Dance Center

DANCE • MUSIC • ART • DRAMA & FUN! Flexible scheduling: June 6 - July 29

Summer Ballet Camps & Classes Pre Ballet - Pre Professional Ages 4 & Up Jul 11-15 Sleeping Beauty Jul 18-22 Cinderella Jul 25-29 Swan Lake

Also Available Spring Break Camp: April 4 - 8

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(berkeley) Day Camp 510-531-8566 Ages 5-8 Weekly Dance Camps from 9am-3pm culminating in performance! classes/dance-camps

BLACK OAK WILDERNESS SCHOOL (EL SOBRANTE) Day Camp 253-326-7322 Ages 5-17 Black Oak Wilderness School is an exciting new non-profit outdoor camp that focuses on connecting students with nature through a series of skills and programs with a different approach to educations and conservation.

CAMP EDMO (MULTIPLE LOCATIONS) Day Camp and Virtual Programs 415-282-6673 Grades Pre-K - 8th + LIT Programs EDMO is back with some incredible summer programming to help kids learn something new, all

Give Your Dyslexic or 2e Learner The Summer Boost They Need.

Enroll now for June and July Academic Camps! Highly Trained Teachers Project-based curriculum Unique teaching methods

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while having fun! Join us for a summer filled with science, technology, maker and art with a social emotional learning twist - online or in-person!

CAMP ST. ANDREWS (DARDANELLE - 45 MIN NORTH OF SONORA) Sleepaway Camp (650) 445-4555 Ages 8+ by July Founded in 1970, Camp St. Andrews San Bruno is an unforgettable, week-long, traditional summer camp in the High Sierras.

CODING WITH KIDS (VIRTUAL) Virtual Camp 206-486-0525 Ages 5-18 Coding with Kids provides online camps through our unique Coders Pathways®️ for Ages 5-18. Virtual camps are conducted live, in small groups, and teach a variety of subjects, from game development in Scratch or Python to Minecraft Modding, Roblox, Java/C#, and 3D Design. In-person classes are also available at many locations throughout the US. We look forward to seeing your camper this summer!

DANCE CONNECTION SUMMER CAMPS (PALO ALTO) Day Camp 650-322-7032 Ages 4-17 Experience dance in an inclusive, artistic, creative, and athletic environment with Dance Connection. Camps are offered for children and teens in weekly sessions from June 6 through August 5 with full and half day programs.

EDEN VILLAGES WEST (SONOMA) Sleepaway Camp (510) 560-5610 Ages 8-16 Eden VillAges West is an organic farm-to-table Jewish summer camp in Northern California for rising 3rd11th graders that integrates culinary arts, organic farming, wilderness skills, and homestead crafts. Join us for an incredible summer 2022!

FEATHER RIVER FAMILY CAMP (QUINCY) Family Camp 510-336-2267 All Ages A family getaway unlike any other! Fill your days however you choose–from hiking and swimming to arts and crafts, disco bingo, and more! Programs promote growth, relaxation, safety, and fun for all Ages. Meals, activities, and lodging included.


Day Camp 510-839-5777 Ages 6-13 Join the Junior Center of Art and Science this summer for one-week and two-week day camps that explore art, design, and technology on the beautiful Lake Merritt!

LAWRENCE HALL OF SCIENCE’S TEEN RESEARCH PROGRAMS (BERKELEY) Day Camp (510) 642-5132 Grades: Entering grades 10-12 These one-week explorations allow students entering grades 10, 11, and 12 to dive deep on science topics like marine biology, forest management, biotechnology, data analysis, and more. Our programs are developed in collaboration with educators and scientists at UC Berkeley, including Nobel Laureate Saul Perlmutter. Teens will benefit from the science content as well as from connecting with others. Meeting graduate students and faculty who are doing real-time research at the university level, and hearing their personal narratives, provides an inspiring, empowering experience and creates pathways for the next generation.

LEARNING PLUS ACADEMIC SUMMER CAMP (SAN JOSE) Day Camp (408) 377-4114 Ages 7-13 Learning Plus Tutoring uses our award-winning programs to help students catch up on academics, get ahead, increase skills, and have fun! We offer academic summer camps for students entering grades 2-9 that cover reading, comprehension, math, writing, vocabulary, and study skills. html

LEGARZA SPORTS (MULTIPLE LOCATIONS) Day Camp (415) 334-3333 PreK-8th Grade Basketball, All-Sports, & Volleyball Summer Camp.






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Legarza programs give children the knowledge and motivation they need to achieve their personal best in sport and life. Over 250,000 of the Bay Area’s youth have experienced and benefitted from our 32-year, proven and tested system. Our program is tailored to help your young athlete succeed on and off the court in a safe, professional and encouraging environment of learning and fun.

MUSICAL THEATER SUMMER CAMPS (MARTINEZ) Day Camp 925-957-0773 Grades 3-16 Our summer camps immerse participants in the magic of theater-making with a fun summer camp twist! Whether your child is a first-time actor or a seasoned pro - summer camp is a memorable and fulfilling experience for all ability levels.

POISON APPLE PRODUCTIONS MUSICAL THEATER SUMMER CAMPS (MARTINEZ) Day Camp 925-957-0773 Grades 3-16 Our summer camps immerse participants in the magic of theater-making with a fun summer camp twist! Whether your child is a first-time actor or a seasoned pro - summer camp is a memorable and fulfilling experience for all ability levels.

THE RENAISSANCE INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL (OAKLAND) Day Camp 510-531-8566 Grades 1-8 This summer we offer Montessori classroom activities in the morning, followed by summer camp in the afternoon for Lower Elementary (first through third grade) students, and an all day summer experience for Upper Elementary and Junior High students (fourth through ninth grade).

SCHOOL OF ROCK PERFORMANCE CAMPS (SAN RAMON) Day Camp (925) 415-3340 Ages: 8 - 16 Do you want to learn how to play in a band or learn to write songs? School of Rock San Ramon offers a wide variety of music camps and workshops that cover topics such as these. Our local music camps are perfect for musicians of any skill level who want to play guitar, bass, drums, keyboard and vocals. Each camp will have a performance at the end of the week. Camp themes include Green Day, Pop Legends, British Invasion, Rock 101, and Songwriting.

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SUMMERFILM - CINEMA ARTS WORKSHOPS FOR AGES 11-18 (SAN RAFAEL AND ONLINE OPTIONS) Day Camp and Virtual Programs 415-517-6997 Ages 11-18 Join us this summer for a variety of programs that explore all angles of the industry and artistry of film. All in-person camps will take place at the Christopher B. Smith Rafael Film Center. All online camps will be hosted on our CFI Education Online platform and open to students anywhere in the U.S. Times listed are Pacific Time Zone. Need-based scholarships are available for all programs.

SUMMER AT ATHENA ACADEMY (PALO ALTO) Day Camp 650-543-4560 Ages 8-13 Athena Academy proudly offers two, week-long skills programs for dyslexic and twice exceptional students entering grades 1–8. The program utilizes Athena Academy’s unique teaching approach to help our students build foundational skills for learning.

SUMMER@STRATFORD (MULTIPLE LOCATIONS) Day Camp (408) 244-4073 Grades: Preschool - Middle School Summer@Stratford is back with our academic camp favorites and all NEW day camp programs! This summer, children will have a wide range of options to explore new interests, discover a world of wonder, and enjoy a summer to remember at Stratford!

TERRA MARIN CAMP (SAN FRANCISCO, MARIN) Day Camp (415) 906-2220 Entering 3-10 Outdoor Nature Camp - Exploring, hiking, storytelling, adventuring, building shelters, learning survival skills, experiencing the environment up close and meeting the creatures both big and small who live in our surrounding forests, preserves & beaches. Language Immersion Camps - Spanish & Mandarin language immersive camps where campers get to experience the language and traditions of the culture through outdoor adventures, song, dance, food and more. All language levels welcome.

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2022 Virtual Camp & Summer Expo Coming In June

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Receive camp information and learn about more than 75 day and overnight camps as well as summer programs for all ages and interests.

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