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After the conversation, I felt like I had just shot a public service announcement (PSA) for PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals), and I had been cast as the ignorant “bad guy.” And right outside my front door on his scooter was the star of the PSA, an enlightened child who had just “educated” me with his sensitivity and innocence.
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Meanwhile, little did I know that a similar lesson in caring and compassion was unfolding at the home of my publishers, Linda Silva and Jack Hall. In a mature and loving gesture, my publishers’ 6-year-old daughter decided to cut her stunning long locks and donate them to Locks of Love. Locks of Love is a wonderful organization that uses real hair, donated from caring people, to craft wigs for those who have lost their hair while battling cancer. According to Linda, the act was motivated by her daughter’s desire to help those children who were sick.
Ironically, during all this, I was planning the holiday issue for ParentGuide , an issue dedicated to “giving back.” Teaching children to give back isn’t always easy. It requires cultivating a sense of empathy and compassion and getting past children’s tendencies to want anything and everything under the sun. Sacrifice is a natural part of giving back, something that doesn’t always flow easily from adults, much less children. So, before I began work on the issue, I had planned a ritual at my own home whereby we would buy a toy and donate it to a social service organization. But now, in my own home and in that of my publishers’, I realized we adults were being taught the true meaning “giving back” by a powerful, pint-sized vegetarian and a lovely, little short-haired lady.
So, in this issue of ParentGuide®, please enjoy our special tribute to adoption, the inspiring story of mom and Miss America 1999, Nicole Johnson, and our “enlightening” gift guide. And this season, rather than trying to teach your kids to give back, watch and learn from them. Happy Holidays,
Geodie Baxter Padgett
“Eeeww! You mean my hamburger is really a cow?” decried my 7-year-old son with pure disgust. “Well, yes,” I admitted, feeling rather stupid. “Hamburger is from a cow.” “Then, I’m not eating hamburgers anymore,” he announced resolutely as he ran out to play.
I couldn’t help but wonder how I ended up here, but I had a feeling it had started a few weeks earlier when my husband had taken the boys up to his father’s property in north Florida. My father-in-law bought the property several years ago as his own personal hunting refuge, and with an artist’s care, he would go there weekly in the off-season to tend to it. He was constantly building and painting those stands hunters sit in (or sleep in if it’s my husband) and stuffing the feeders with corn to attract and fatten the deer. However, in an effort to entertain the boys, he gave some food to my 7-year-old who actually ended up hand-feeding a deer—a memory he will cherish his whole life I’m betting based on the joy with which he shared the experience. So, when he discovered that the whole purpose of this adventure was to plump up the deer and ultimately shoot and eat them, he became visibly upset—his first step toward vegetarianism.
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featuring PBS origami artist, Leonor Rosser (‘Origami with Leonor’), giant inﬂatable, face painters, free music CDs from Putumayo kids, food and much much more.
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Shake up your holiday tradition. Visit Wild Wonderland at Tampa’s Lowry Park Zoo for unique and magical moments the kids won’t soon forget. Get your picture taken with African penguins, or enjoy other featured events, like a “Jingle Bell” horse-drawn carriage ride, the new “Frosty’s Foam Factory”, visits with Santa and his reindeer, free unlimited zoo rides* and over a million holiday lights. But you’d better get shaking soon. For more information visit LowryParkZoo.com.
The Jingle meets the Jungle
November 30 and December 1, 7-8, 14-16, 19-23, 26-30 from 6pm to 9pm
November • December 2007
*Free unlimited zoo rides does not include the “Jingle Bell” horse-drawn carriage ride. Dates subject to change without notice. No rain checks.
20 HOME LIFE
42 Miss America to Motherhood
Nicole Johnson is the definition of inspiring as she defied the medical community and succeeded as Miss America and a mom with Type I diabetes.
Jessica Brady shares some great tips for enjoying an eco-friendly holiday this year.
Design Diva The Harvest Calls With Thanksgiving right around the corner, Rebecca Markley, ParentGuide’s® Design Diva, provides lots for decorating.
Retreat Center Parenting & Humor: No Time to Lick Your Wounds Kurt Goerke shows us there’s never a better place for humor than in parenting.
Ask Ruth Ruth Broadwater, M.A., answers questions on adopting.
The Holidays are Coming! Quick Develop a Spending Plan Kimberly Overman offers some solid financial advice to keep you from blowing your budget and your holidays.
47Adopting From the Heart
With November as adoption month, ParentGuide® celebrates the Heart Gallery of Tampa Bay and Art for the Heart in a moving tribute.
64 Pure Green
Guts and Glory An intimate, one-on-one interview with Veggie Tales’ star Larry the Cucumber and his alter ego, Mike Nawrocki.
On the Cover: Cortez, a 10-year-old in foster care, shares his soul during an adoption photo shoot for the Heart Gallery of Tampa Bay. Photography by Daniel Wallace.
THE WISH GUIDE
Successful Holiday Shopping With Your Overweight Teen or Child
Annual Gift Guide
Shopping with an overweight child requires planning and sensitivity. Dr. Susan Bartell shows you how to do it successfully.
Our highly anticipated Gift Guide comes in a special pull-out section featuring unique and beautiful gifts that will add a glow to your holiday.
Special Needs Move Over Bradys: Here Comes the Byler Bunch Jessica Brady talks about the
November • December 2007
TA M PA B AY PA R E N T S
56 Creating Appreciative Kids
Learn how to “shape an attitude of gratitude” with your kids as Shannon Dean explores how to raise kids who give back.
babies’ birth with Karoline and Ben Byler in the second part of our series on Florida’s first set of sextuplets.
Next issue: Our annual education issue
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November â€˘ December 2007
November2007 1 Thursday NOVEMBER 1 – 4 STRICTLY SAIL TO ST. PETERSBURG
1:00pm – 4:00pm Spa Beach Park www.strictlysail.com
2 Friday NOVEMBER 2 – 3 HOLIDAY SHOPPING EXTRAVAGANZA
9:00am Palma Ceia United Methodist Day School 813-837-9580
NOVEMBER 2 – 4 30TH ANNUAL FLAPJACK FESTIVAL Land O’ Lakes Community Center www.centralpascochamber.com
NOVEMBER 2 – 4 SESAME STREET LIVE “ELMO MAKES MUSIC” Ruth Eckerd Hall www.rutheckerdhall.com
NOVEMBER 2 – 4 DAY OUT WITH THOMAS 2007 “ALL ABOARD TOUR” Inland Lakes Railway 866-468-7630 www.inlandlakesrailway.com
3 Saturday NOVEMBER 3 – 4 “EVER PRESENT HOLIDAY SHOW” EXHIBIT OPENING Dunedin Fine Arts Center 727-298-3322 www.dfac.org
NOVEMBER 3 – 4 AMERICAN GIRL FASHION SHOW
Embassy Suites 813-989-9566 www.ttjuniors.org
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NOVEMBER 3 – 4 A TASTE OF JAZZ
Weeki Wachee 352-797-7402 www.hernandoarts.org
9 Friday NOVEMBER 9 – 11 RIBFEST
Vinoy Park 727-528-3828 www.ribfest.org
GIRL SCOUTS BROWNIES
NOVEMBER 9 – 11 BABIES R’ US/TOYS R’ US SUPERSTORE GRAND OPENING
12:00pm – 6:00pm Doby Elementary 10:00am – 12:00pm Kid City, The Children’s Museum of Tampa 813-935-8441 www.flachildrensmuseum.com
7:00pm – 11:00pm 813-935-8552 www.lowryparkzoo.com
4 DAYLIGHT SAVINGS TIME ENDS
8 Thursday NOVEMBER 8 – 9 TAMPA BAY DEVIL RAYS CELEBRATION
Event Kickoff 4:00pm Straub Park www.tampabaydevilrays.com
NOVEMBER 8 – 10 POLAR-PALOOZA
10:00am MOSI 813-987-6100 www.mosi.org
NOVEMBER 8 – 11 TAMPA BAY INTERNATIONAL AUTO SHOW
Tampa Convention Center www.autoshowtampa.com
Regular Store Hours Babies R’US/Toys R’ US Wesley Chapel Superstore www.babiesrus.com
NOVEMBER 9 – 11 DAY OUT WITH THOMAS 2007 “ALL ABOARD TOUR” Inland Lakes Railway 866-468-7630 www.inlandlakesrailway.com
NOVEMBER 9 – 11 2007 HOLIDAY GIFT MARKET Florida State Fairgrounds Entertainment Hall www.jltampa.org
10 Saturday NOVEMBER 10 – JANUARY 5 WINTER WONDERLAND
Select Fridays and Saturdays Tyrone Square Mall 727-345-0126 www.simon.com
9:30am – 11:30am Tyrone Square Mall 727-345-0126 www.simon.com
11 VETERAN’S DAY
12 Monday NOVEMBER 12 – DECEMBER 21 MICKEY’S VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS PARTY
Magic Kingdom – Walt Disney World www.disneyworld.com
NOVEMBER 9 – JANUARY 6 MICKEY’S JUNGLE JINGLE PARADE
Animal Kingdom – Walt Disney World www.disneyworld.com
MINI MASTERS ART WORKSHOP
10:00am – 11:00am Dunedin Fine Arts Center 727-298-3322 www.dfac.org
13 Tuesday NOVEMBER 13 – JANUARY 6 THE OSBORNE FAMILY SPECTACLE OF DANCING LIGHTS
MGM Studios – Walt Disney World www.disneyworld.com
14 Wednesday MOMMY & ME 10:30am and 11:15am At Kid City’s Wee Wonder Wednesdays www.parentguide.com
1166 Friday NOVEMBER 16 – 17 ONCE A YEAR GIANT PUPPET SHOW ”CINDERELLA AND THE CHINESE SLIPPER” 11:00am 11:00 am 727-821-8992 EExt.. 209 www.greatex.org
NOVEMBER 16 – 18 FLORIDA PIRATE FESTIVAL
Vinoy Park St. Pete
NOVEMBER 16 – 18 SUNCOAST DIXIELAND JAZZ CLASSIC
Sheraton Sand Key Resort www.jazzclassic.com
NOVEMBER 16 – DECEMBER 30 OLD FASHIONED CHRISTMAS
MOMMY & ME
NOVEMBER 23 – DECEMBER 9 WORD OF LIFE THE SIGHTS AND SOUNDS OF CHRISTMAS
Cypress Gardens www.cypressgardens.com 10:30am – 11:30am Safety Harbor Gazebo at John Wilson Park www.parentguide.com
Select Dates, Harry Bollback Performing Arts Center, New Port Richey 877-412-8687 www.wol.org
AFTERNOON CONCERT SERIES
NOVEMBER 23 – DECEMBER 30 HOLIDAYS AROUND THE WORLD
Noon – 2:00pm Gazebo at John Wilson Park www.cityofsafetyharbor.com
3RD FRIDAY MUSIC SERIES 6:00pm – 9:00pm Downtown Safety Harbor www.cityofsafetyharbor.com
177 Saturday THE WIGGLES LIVE
St. Pete Times Forum www.stpetetimesforum.com
11:00am – 9:00pm Highlander Park in Dunedin 727-733-3197 www.dunedinhighlandgames.com
Epcot – Walt Disney World www.disneyworld.com
HOLIDAY TREE LIGHTING
6:30pm, North Straub Park 727-893-7734
24 Saturday NOVEMBER 24 – 25 “THE SNOW PRINCESS”
Largo Cultural Center, 727-587-6751 www.thesnowprincess.com
25 Sunday CHARLOTTE’S WEB
Tampa Bay Performing Arts Center www.tbpac.com
6:00pm – 10:00pm, MOSI www.mosi.org
SOCIETY PLAYERS “A CHRISTMAS CAROL”
GASPARILLA FILM FESTIVAL “CHILDREN’S DAY”
3:00pm – 6:00pm Children’s events 6:00pm – 8:00pm Movie presentation Hyde Park Village www.gasparillafilmfestival.com
20 Tuesday IT’S MAGIC
Magic show for children with Stuart Palm 2:00pm Dunedin Fine Arts Center 727-298-3322 www.dfac.org
The Lakeland Center www.lakelandcenter.com
30 Friday NOVEMBER 30 – DECEMBER 2 ORLANDO BALLET “THE NUTCRACKER” Tampa Bay Performing Arts Center www.tbpac.com
NOVEMBER 30 – DECEMBER 30 WILD WONDERLAND
6:00pm – 9:00pm Lowry Park Zoo 813-935-8552 www.lowryparkzoo.com
OLD FASHIONED CHRISTMAS
Tampa Bay Performing Arts Center Downtown Main Street Dunedin parentguide.com 11 3 727-812-4530 parentguide.com
December 2007 1 Saturday
HOLIDAY TREE LIGHTING
DECEMBER 1 – 31 CHRISTMAS IN THE VILLAGE
6:00pm Safety Harbor Gazebo, John Wilson Park 727-724-1572
SANTA PARADE & SNOWFEST
6:00pm – 9:00pm R. E. Olds Park Oldsmar 813-749-1260
John’s Pass Village, Madeira Beach www.johnspassfestivals.com Downtown St. Pete and North Straub Park 727-893-7441
RIVER LIGHTS BOAT PARADE
Sims Park New Port Richey www.nprmainstreet.com
GIRL SCOUTS DAISIES
THE FLORIDA ORCHESTRA’S “JINGLE BELL POPS”
Tampa Bay Performing Arts Center www.tbpac.com
10:00am – 12:00pm Kid City, The Children’s Museum of Tampa 813-935-8441 www.flachildrensmuseum.com
Ruth Eckerd Hall 727-791-7400 www.rutheckerdhall.com
BREAKFAST WITH SANTA
6 Thursday DECEMBER 6 – 30 RADIO CITY CHRISTMAS SPECTACULAR
Tampa Bay Performing Arts Center www.tbpac.com
7 Friday DECEMBER 7 – 8 CHOCOLATE NUTCRACKER
Mahaffey Theater 727-892-5767 www.mahaffeytheater.com
DECEMBER 7 – 9 MAIN STREET HOLIDAYS
Sims Park New Port Richey www.nprmainstreet.com
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DECEMBER 8 – 9 NUTCRACKER
9:00am & 10:30am Rigsby Recreation Center 727-724-1545
HOLIDAY STREET PARADE
Bayshore Boulevard Dunedin 727-812-4530
A CHRISTMAS CELEBRATION WITH THE TAMPA BAY HERALDS OF HARMONY
Tampa Bay Performing Arts Center www.tbpac.com
9 Sunday FAMILY TIME
1:30pm – 3:00pm Dunedin Fine Art Center 727-298-3322 www.dfac.org
21 Friday DECEMBER 21 – 22 THE MOSCOW BALLET PRESENTS “THE GREAT RUSSIAN NUTCRACKER”
A JINGLE BELL POPS
Mahaffey Theater 727-892-5767 www.mahaffeytheater.com
10:30am – 11:30am Safety Harbor Gazebo at John Wilson Park www.parentguide.com
Mahaffey Theater 727-892-5767 www.mahaffeytheater.com
MINI-MASTERS PRESCHOOL CREATIONS
MOMMY & ME
AFTERNOON CONCERT SERIES
10:00am – 11:00am Dunedin Fine Art Center 727-298-3322 www.dfac.org
Noon – 2:00pm Gazebo at John Wilson Park www.cityofsafetyharbor.com
MOMMY & ME
6:00pm – 9:00pm Downtown Safety Harbor www.cityofsafetyharbor.com
10:30am and 11:15am At Kid City’s Wee Wonder Wednesdays www.parentguide.com
14 Friday DECEMBER 14 – 15 PUPPET SHOW “HANSEL & GRETEL” 11:00am 727-821-8992 ext. 209 www.greatex.org
3RD FRIDAY MUSIC SERIES
22 WINTER BEGINS
22 Saturday CHRISTMAS CAROL
CLAY GINGERBREAD HOUSES
1:00pm – 3:30pm Dunedin Fine Art Center 727-298-3322 www.dfac.org
The Lakeland Center www.thelakelandcenter.com
29 Saturday DECEMBER 29 – 30 HOLIDAY WONDERS
Mahaffey Theater 727-892-5767 www.mahaffeytheater.com
Ruth Eckerd Hall www.rutheckerdhall.com
31 NEW YEAR’S EVE
9:30am – 1:00pm Lowry Park Zoo 813-935-8552 www.lowryparkzoo.com
THE MOSCOW BALLET’S “GREAT RUSSIAN NUTCRACKER”
6:00pm – 10:00pm www.mosi.org
PRESENTS FOR PRIMATES
1:00pm Safety Harbor Main Street 727-724-1530
10:00am – 11:00am Kid City, The Children’s Museum of Tampa 813-935-8441 www.flachildrensmuseum.com
Ruth Eckerd Hall 727-791-7400 www.rutheckerdhall.com 4:00pm St. Pete Pier www.stpetepier.com
Lowry Park Zoo 813-935-8552 www.lowryparkzoo.com
23 Sunday A CHRISTMAS CAROL
Mahaffey Theater 727-892-5767 www.mahaffeytheater.com
24 CHRISTMAS EVE 25 CHRISTMAS DAY
NOON YEAR’S EVE
On-going Events AFTERNOON FUN
Saturdays 1:00pm – 4:00pm St. Pete Pier 727-821-6443 www.stpetepier.com
WEE WONDER WEDNESDAY
2nd and 3rd Wednesday of the month Kid City, The Children’s Museum of Tampa 813-935-8441 www.flachildrensmuseum.com
FREE FIRST FRIDAY
1st Friday of the month Kid City, The Children’s Museum of Tampa 813-935-8441 www.flachildrensmuseum.com
BREAKFAST WITH DALI
Saturdays 9:00am Salvador Dali Museum 727-823-3767 www.salvadordalimuseum.org
Come celebrate your birthday at the Zoo or the Zoo can come to you! 813-935-8552 www.lowryparkzoo.com
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be reused every year. Follow these instructions to make a tin can luminaria. Fill the tin with water and freeze it. This makes it easier to punch holes in it without denting the tin. Next, use a hammer and nail to punch holes along the top of the tin. Fill the bottom with ¼ inch of sand and place a tea candle in the sand. Lastly, light the candle and enjoy your beautiful luminaria. Tip: Make designs with the holes for a prettier, more festive luminaria.
Kwanzaa: Like other holidays, Kwanzaa is a time of celebration. This year, try to make your celebration green. Below are ways to make the seven symbols of Kwanzaa eco-friendly. Instead of buying a Kinara, make the candleholder from a 2’ x 4’ piece of wood and screw in candle holders that can be bought at a hardware store. Buy straw Mkeka, or place mats. For Mazao, or crops, buy organic since they are free from pesticides that harm the environment. Also,
buy organic corn for Vibunzi. Kikombe cha umoja is a communal cup. Use one you already have, instead of buying new. Mishumaa saba are the seven candles of Kwanzaa. Use beeswax candles that emit less soot. Zawadi are enriching gifts. Instead of buying them, create your own, since they are supposed to represent creativity.
Eid al-Adha: In order to have a green Eid al Adha, the holiest of Islamic sacred observances, do your best to carpool, in order to decrease the amount of pollution in the air. Also, when preparing foods for the feast, do your best to buy and serve natural and organic foods, since they are not sprayed with harmful pesticides. Instead of purchasing gifts, try to make your own earth-friendly gift or buy potted plants. Plants make for nice gifts, since they provide endless beauty and help clean the air both outside and inside.
By JessiCa Brady
Go Green. Those two words can be seen and heard pretty much everywhere we go from car commercials to shopping malls. The theme seems to be catching on, and right it should. For far too long, the well-being of mother earth has been pushed aside or placed on the back burner. To help continue the move to a healthier earth, we have put together a number of ways people of all faiths and religions can celebrate a green holiday.
Christmas: Every year, millions of trees are decorated to celebrate Christmas, but after the holiday they usually end up in a landfill. This is not necessary, since there are many other ways to recycle Christmas trees. Before you toss the tree to the curb, check your water bill or call your city government for dates when your city or county will pick-up the trees to recycle them into mulch. Another option is to plant the tree in your backyard and allow birds to use it for a home during the winter. An even better idea is to use artificial trees, and instead of throwing them away, donate them to a less fortunate family.
You must be the change you want to see in the world. – M. Gandhi
Along with the holiday comes a lot of extra waste, especially wrapping paper, which can’t be recycled. Instead of wrapping gifts in store bought wrapping paper, look for recycled paper, or better yet, use the comics page out of the newspaper. Also, give Hanukkah gelt in the form of Tzedakah to a Jewish or environmental organization of your choice in honor of a friend or relative. You could also adopt a pet, plant a tree or buy an acre of rainforest in someone’s honor.
Las Posadas: The lighting of luminarias culminates on Christmas Eve with the night of Las Posadas, meaning the lodging or the inn, which is a celebration of Christ’s birth. Usually, luminarias are lined along sidewalks and driveways in neighborhoods. For the most part, they are made with paper bags, sand and small candles. This year, save the paper and make your own that can
Hop on the feel-good express. Open an Account That Counts and a little something goes to Toys For Tots. SM
Imagine an easier way to bank and bring holiday joy to a child in need at the same time. It’s happening at Regions. With every new account opened, we’ll donate to the Regions Toys For Tots Bike Fund to purchase bikes for kids in your area. Plus, if you refer someone who opens an account, we’ll make another donation. This holiday, do something good for yourself, good for a friend and good for a child in need. Visit your local Regions branch and open an Account That Counts.
1.800.regions | regions.com © 2007 Regions Bank. Member FDIC. Regions Bank will make a $5 donation to the Marine Toys for Tots Foundation for most new consumer deposit or small business deposit accounts opened, or consumer loan accounts closed, at participating Regions Bank branches in AL, FL and Columbus, GA, from 10/8/07 through 12/21/07 and in AR, rest of GA, IA, IL, IN, KY, LA, MS, MO, NC, SC, TN, TX and VA from 11/19/07 through 12/21/07. Certain account types are excluded. Between 10/08/07 and 12/21/07, in AL, FL, and Columbus, GA, for each new consumer or business checking account opened as the result of a referral by an existing Regions Bank customer, Regions Bank will (i) make a $5 donation to the Marine Toys for Tots Foundation, and (ii) award the referrer a $10 gift certificate for referring a new consumer checking account, and a $25 gift certificate for referring a new business checking account. To be eligible, referral forms must contain complete and accurate information for both the referrer and the referred customer. Referred customer must be a new household and not residing with the referrer. Referrer should receive his/her gift certificate within 30 days of receipt of an eligible, approved referral form. See participating branches for details. Regions Bank’s minimum donation to the Marine Toys for Tots Foundation parentguide.com is $500,000 and maximum donation is $750,000. Toys for Tots is a registered service mark of the Marine Toys for Tots Foundation and is used under license. Opening deposit varies by account type. Credit approval and other restrictions may apply. All accounts are subject to the terms and conditions of the Regions Deposit Agreement.
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table. And donâ€™t forget to arrange a kidsâ€™ table. Begin now to teach your children about the routines of entertaining by allowing them to get creative and set their own table. Supervise an activity with your children to create different aspects of the holiday table, such as construction paperweaved placements and individual favors for each little guest. Let your children take part in the decision making process and allow them to feel responsible for the lovely end result.
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In todayâ€™s world, it is important to create holiday traditions as well as maintain some of those that parents and grandparents established. Your festive reaction to the season will provide memorable times in the minds of your children for their entire lifetime, and perhaps, the traditions and fun you offer your children now will be repeated with your grandchildren in the future.
Cozy Indoors Offers Colors and Aroma Draw that magical fall feeling indoors with subtlely placed silk fall leaves (or perhaps the real thing) scattered tastefully over an entryway table or coffee table. Purchase colorful candles of delicious smells and light them throughout your home. Yankee Candle always delivers delectable fall scents. Dump the everyday dining table dĂŠcor in favor of some fall themed placemats and fall colors. Place some novelty, fall-themed pillows on your sofa, along with a warm throw.
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Get ready for Tomâ€”turkey, that is. Okay, letâ€™s be real. Thatâ€™s usually the first thing people think of when Thanksgiving rolls around. After all, Thanksgiving is an American tradition that nearly every family celebrates. But if youâ€™re a traditional Turkey Day fan, then you know that fall also represents Harvest time. Throughout history, Harvest was a joyous occasion when farmers danced the jig over the bounty they reaped. Below, you will find some tips for jazzing up your home to celebrate this wonderful time of year and for bringing the Harvest into your home.
What better way to kick start this festive season then to adorn an entryway with glorious, colorful vegetables and gourds? Display pumpkins of all shapes and sizes along with purple and gold mums for a colorful and welcoming effect at your front door. To involve the children, build a scarecrow of old jeans and flannel shirt stuffed with hay (see sidebar). And donâ€™t wait for Santa to land before decorating your door. You can purchase ready-made, Harvest wreaths at stores like Michaels or JoAnn Fabrics, or even better, the William Sonoma catalog. Make the project an annual tradition with the whole family.
Thanksgiving is an American tradition that celebrates the fall harvest.
Besides cooking Tom and all the fixings, itâ€™s always fun to decorate a table that the fam talks about for holidays to come. For inspiration and a little help with this project, check out HomeGoods, Bealls Outlet or even your local Dollar Store. Youâ€™ll find inexpensive dinnerware and glassware of every color at these stores. Whether you are serving 6 or 26, you can make each guest feel special with a formal setting at the table. For a centerpiece, consider fresh flowers or the traditional fare of a bountiful cornucopia overflowing with gourds and vegetables. It is always fun to set your main table days before your celebration so that you can continue to add and tweak the look for the most beautiful
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BY KIMBERLY OVERMAN Every year, the realization that the rapidly approaching holidays are right around the corner strikes a sense of fear in most families, especially large families. If you are just recovering from last year’s holiday financial hang-over, you may want to consider a spending plan. Your spending plan is essentially your budget. However, by using a more positive name, you can escape the feeling of restriction that often accompanies the term budget. Spending plans are tools for achieving financial goals that otherwise might seem impossible to reach. It is a way of taking charge of your spending on a daily, weekly and monthly basis, so that you can channel your income to achieve your goals. It’s also a way to keep money from slipping away unnoticed, allowing you to control decisions such as what to buy, when to buy it and why. Think of your budget goals as your financial wish list and your spending plan as a way to make those wishes a reality. Without clear budget goals, your financial life may remain in disarray, especially after a holiday filled with out-of-town guests and family visitors. Like any other goals in life, your holiday budget goals help you turn your wish list into an action plan. With clear goals in sight, you can chart your course of action and change your direction when needed.
How do you develop a spending plan?
To develop a spending plan, you must first become aware of your expenditures and income. A spending diary, whether computerized or handwritten, will help you to identify your spending patterns and eliminate unnecessary expenditures. Your spending analysis should include out-of-pattern expenses, such as annual insurance premiums, automobile registration fees, subscription renewals and holiday expenditures including large family meals, holiday decorations, gifts and guests and event-related entertaining. Unless you derive income from various and unpredictable sources, your income analysis should be easy. Include your current salary or use estimates based on the past two years.
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Once you know how much money you have coming in and where it is going, you can determine what percentage of your net income goes to each category of expenditures (e.g., housing, taxes, transportation, food, clothing, gifts, entertainment, etc.). If you have selected goals, such as paying off credit card balances or saving for retirement, then you can try to squeeze money out of one or more of your spending categories to fund the goal. By keeping your plan flexible and periodically reevaluating
your progress, you can take control of your financial situation.
How do you cut costs if you are spending too much? If you are spending too much, there are several ways to cut back. One approach is to work on changing your spending habits. Suppose you are spending too much money on particular items (such as clothing) or spending more money at certain times of the month (near payday). By being aware of those habits, you can make appropriate changes. You may also try shopping smarter and reducing restaurant and/or entertainment expenses. Another option is to downsize to a less expensive car or home to reduce expenditures. You may also reduce spending by decreasing the cost of your debt. One way is to consolidate or refinance high-interest loans. As mentioned, you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself, but make a few changes. In time, you may be able to bring your spending under control.
How do you increase your cash flow? To maintain your spending plan, you must always have sufficient cash flow. There are a number of ways to increase your cash flow if you need to. You might ask for a raise, take a higher-paying job, take a second job or turn a hobby into a business. You can sell or liquidate assets and eliminate expenses. Have a yard sale to rid you of all those items and gifts from prior holidays that are just taking up space in your house or storage bin.
Create a schedule for meeting your goals Setting your budget goals requires forecasting your future needs and dreams. Involve every member of your family and discuss each possible goal with them. If possible, find a time when everyone in your family is relatively free. Have a brainstorming session with your entire family and ask each member to make a list of three to five of their possible needs and dreams as individuals and as a family. At this stage, keep in mind that you want to list all of your goals and dreams. Examining them and prioritizing them will come later. Strive to be as specific and unambiguous as possible so that they become easier to plan. Once each member has made the list, go over all the goals and see if you want to make any changes before you incorporate them into your budget. Unfortunately, for most families and individuals, it is not possible to realize all goals, which is why setting priorities is essential. Prioritizing your goals also makes it easier to decide which path to take
Spending plans keep holiday expenses in check and allow you to enjoy the season. when life throws you a curveball. List all your goals according to their priority. Then write down the amount of money needed, when you will need it and how many installments you will need to meet your goals. Your spending plan is your active strategy for getting where you want to go. It’s a road map that gives you a sense of direction. It not only puts you in charge of how your money is being spent on a weekly, monthly, and yearly basis, but it also gives you a sense of control. Kimberly Overman is a mom, certified financial planner and owner of The Financial Well, a company devoted to a holistic approach to financial planning. To learn more, contact her at 813-229-2000 or visit her Web site at www.thefinancialwell.com.
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BY Dr. SuSAn BArTeLL a department store, boys’ specialty clothing store or a men’s discount clothing warehouse are your best places to go. But even so, pay them a visit first. It will be worth shopping at the one with, not only the widest range of sizes, but also the most patient sales people who will be sensitive to the feelings of an overweight boy who dreads clothing shopping.
Holiday Clothes Shopping
Shopping for girls is more complex. Your daughter will want a particular style, color and fabric. It can be tough to find fashionable clothes for overweight girls. But with enough time and planning, it’s definitely possible! Don’t take your daughter to a store that you know has no options for her—it will be a demoralizing experience.
With your Overweight Child or Teen
As parents, we want our kids to look great for the holidays—for the parties, dinners and for all those family photos. But when you have an overweight, or even chubby child or teen, shopping for the perfect holiday outfit can be stressful—for your child and for you! Maggie, mother of Ali (11), explains it well, “As soon as I tell Ali I don’t like an outfit she’s trying on, she starts yelling that I think she’s fat. Then she’s crying…I feel like I can never say anything right!” Maggie’s experience is not unusual. Many parents want to be able to get their overweight kids—especially tweens and teens—the perfect holiday outfit, but aren’t sure how to find clothes to flatter and fit, without hurting their child’s feelings. So shopping often becomes a dreaded event for both of you, resulting in misunderstandings, arguing and tears. Some parents and kids say that at times, even long term negative effects can be felt from bad clothes shopping experiences. But you don’t have to continue dreading holiday clothes because there are a few simple but very important ways to make the experience much more pleasant. These will not only improve your shopping experience, but also your relationship with your child or teen. #1 No matter how pressed for time you may be with holiday craziness, resist the urge to shop with an overweight child and a slim child at the same time (age and gender don’t matter). Your overweight child or teen may have a hard time finding the perfect holiday outfit, while your slimmer child will be looking great in everything. This will be a depressing experience for your chubby child, and it will be uncomfortable for your thinner child, too. #2 If you are a slim mom shopping with your teenage daughter,
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#6 Since most larger-sized kids and teens are shy about showing their bodies, shopping in stores with private, rather than communal, fitting rooms is a must. Trying to convince your child that “it’s no big deal” will result in you being labeled insensitive and someone who “just doesn’t’ get it!” This is another reason to check out stores in advance. #7 Often, overweight tweens and teens will be mortified to find themselves shopping at the same time as the kids neighborhood kids they consider “skinny,” “cool” or otherwise “popular.” And trust me, it won’t work to tell your daughter that it’s no big deal to be trying on size 12 or 14 in the fitting room right next door to two giggling size zero’s or your son that his “husky” khaki’s are fine when the popular lacrosse player in the next fitting room is trying on “slims.” You can usually avoid this problem by shopping at off times. For example, make a special occasion of it by taking your child out of school during lunch for a shopping trip. The missed school hours will be worth the saved self-esteem.
don’t shop for your outfit while shopping for your daughter. Her self-esteem will be negatively impacted knowing that you are trying on clothes which are too small for her. Rather, devote your time to her, and save your own shopping for a time when you’re alone. Of course, this suggestion also applies to a slimmer dad shopping for holiday clothes with his son! #3 If your child or teen tries on an outfit you don’t like, do your best not to react strongly. Saying things like “You look awful in that,” “That makes you look fat,” or “I refuse to buy that,” or similar words are guaranteed to result in anger, hurt feelings and a huge argument in the fitting room, and even long after, so choose your words carefully. Instead try: “I don’t love that outfit, let’s try a few more before we decide,” or “I’m not sure these pants look as great as some other things I’ve seen you in, would you mind if we keep looking?” Or “Someone would have to be a model to look good in that.” #4 Catalog shopping can be less stressful for some kids because it means being able to try on clothes in complete privacy. However, this requires advanced planning—for you and your child. It also means you must be prepared to handle returns if necessary, without making your child feel guilty—especially if you’ve purchased more than one size of an outfit. If this seems like too much of a hassle for your lifestyle, then don’t choose catalog shopping. #5 Pre-visit stores alone before taking your child to make sure they carry a wide enough selection of holiday clothing for chubby or overweight kids and teens. Boys are often easier to shop for than girls because you are probably looking for a suit or a pair of khakis and a sweater or blazer. The boys or men’s department of
#8 It can be helpful to shop in stores where there are a lot of sales assistants who can give you and your child ideas for outfits that you may not have thought of, or may not have seen. It also speeds up the process when there is someone to bring new clothes and take away the ones that aren’t working— leaving less time for conflict between you and your child!
If your child tries on an outfit you don’t like, be sensitive. Say something like, “You’d have to be a model to wear that.”
#9 If clothes shopping seems to end in tears and fighting no matter what you do, it may be easier to send your child or teen shopping with someone else—another relative or adult friend, or in the case of older teens, with his or her friends or even alone. #10 These tips will be useful all year through, not just during the holidays, making for a happier and more peaceful relationship between you and your child. Happy Holidays! Dr. Susan Bartell is a nationally recognized child, teen and parenting psychologist and award-winning author. Her latest book is Dr. Susan’s Kids-Only Weight Loss Guide: The Parent’s Action Plan for Success. You can learn more about Dr. Bartell at www.drsusanbartell.com.
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Effective January 1, 2008, pneumonia vaccine is required for children age 2 to 24 months of age in childcare facilities and family daycare homes.
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Children entering or attending licensed childcare facilities and family daycare homes need the following age-appropriate immunizations documented on the 680: • Pneumococcal Conjugate vaccine • Diphtheria, tetanus, and pertussis vaccine • Polio vaccine • Measles, mumps, and rubella vaccine • Varicella vaccine (chickenpox) • Haemophilus influenzae type b vaccine
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SecOnd in a SerieS aBOut the Birth and life Of flOrida’S firSt Set Of SextupletS...the BylerS. it was nothing out of the ordinary for Karoline Byler to feel one of the six babies inside her stomach move or kick. But then, Brady, also known as Baby a, made himself known. “there was this massive movement inside, like a full-bodied kick,” Karoline said. “then, i felt a little water come out, then a little more, so i thought, ‘uh oh, i should call the nurse.’” as she turned her body to reach for the clicker, which was no easy task, as she jokingly put it, her entire water broke. then, the chaos began. “i got scared and pulled the clicker to call the nurse, but when i pulled it, i pulled it out of the wall. So, i start yelling, but the door was closed and no one heard me, plus, i was in the last room down the hall,” she said. Karoline knew she had to get to the door to call for help. in a calmed panic, she waddled to the door, opened it and started screaming for help. a doctor and a crew of nurses came running around the corner, yelling for her to get back into bed. after a quick exam, the doctor told her the babies were on their way. Ben and Karoline Byler had prepared themselves for the 29 weeks and four days leading up to the birth of their sextuplets. On aug. 6, Karoline had to be admitted into Bayfront Medical center to monitor the rest of her pregnancy. dr. Karen raimer and the staff of nurses made the stay as comfortable as possible, but Karoline couldn’t help but think about her four-year-old daughter Zoe. “i felt really nervous and upset that this experience was scarring Zoe, because i wasn’t with her for so long. i really felt guilty about it,” Karoline said. in her heart, she knew everything would work out. Karoline
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The entire family waits with anticipation for the babies to come home. Family and friends will be there to help the Bylers. loved to hear Zoe talk about her new siblings and what she wanted to get them for Christmas. Karoline’s days in the hospital seemed long. Ben would visit her frequently, but she was still lonely at times. She had her laptop, cell phone, magazines and the TV to keep her occupied when she was by herself. That’s when her addiction began. “The whole time I was pregnant, it was really boring,” Karoline said. “My cell phone has Scrabble built into it, so I became addicted to playing Scrabble on that and Solitare on my laptop. I played non-stop.” But for Ben, the soon-to-be father of seven, it was a bit of a nervous and tiring situation. His mother and sister came to stay with him and to help with Zoe while Karoline was in the hospital. When asked about the stress of being the sole bread winner for a family of eight, he laughed and said, “Well, I do sell bread.” Ben works as an independent contractor for Pepperidge Farm. The copany has been very helpful and will give him a month off of work when the babies come home. “It’s a lot of pressure, but I will just put a little extra into work,” he said. “I know it’s going to be a lot of work, but I’m excited for them to come home.” It was 6 p.m., Ben and Karoline had just finished an early dinner and Ben left. He was looking forward to watching the Kansas State game when he got home. Karoline, pulled out her cell phone and started to play Scrabble. Then at 6:30 p.m., that “full-bodied kick” came. As the doctor was getting Karloine back in bed, one of the nurses called Dr. Raimer and Ben. He had just walked in the front door when his cell phone rang. With a frantic voice, the nurse asked Ben where he was. “At home,” he replied. Well, she said Karloine is in labor you need to get back here. He quickly told his mother and sister that Karoline was in labor and left for the 50-mile trip to the hospital from their home in Wesley Chapel. It was no easy task for Ben. “I jumped in the van, only to realize I had no gas,” he said. “So, after I stopped to get gas, I finally got there.” Once there, Ben never left Karoline’s side. Dr. Raimer arrived, and Karoline was prepped for her C-section. “I didn’t feel anything, and everything was going well. I just laid there and breathed. Then, I heard the first cry and listened for each one,” Karoline said. Then, it was over. Brady, Eli, Ryan, Jackson, Charlie and Mackenzie were welcomed into the world without any complications.
Dad, Ben Byler, lovingly holds his newborn children. All six babies required special care at All Children’ Hospital in St. Petersburg, and all are doing well. On October 18, the first baby, Brady, was discharged and allowed to go home with his family. The other siblings will hopefully follow soon.
Born Sept. 1, the babies are all doing well and are still at All Children’s Hospital. They are due to go home sometime in mid-November. As for Ben and Karoline, they are enjoying what little time they have left as a family of three. “We’re cherishing the last few weeks as a small family,” Ben said,…”and are squeezing in as much going out time as we can, because it’s going to be crazy here in the next couple of weeks.” For the most part the nursery, decorated in pastel colors with oak furniture, is ready to welcome the sextuplets. Ben, with the help of his mother and sister, has turned their 400-square foot garage into a large playroom with a couch, TV and tons of toys. The entire family waits with anticipation for the babies to finally come home. Family and friends will be there to help the Bylers’ transition from a small family of three to a large family of nine. “When I was pregnant I was scared, but now that they’ve arrived, I can’t imagine them not being here,” Karoline said. “I have seven children now, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.”
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Parenting is a job where you really don’t have time to lick your wounds for long. And truthfully, I can’t think of any job where you have more of a need for humor than parenting. It’s a great stress reliever and a way for us to admit our imperfections to our kids and ourselves. It’s like taking fertilizer and growing daisies. “I didn’t attach the diaper well, and now my child has peed on someone in the wedding party.” You can either chastise yourself for your poor diapering skills or sneak a little smile at the fact that your child has just watered the flower girl.
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“Why did the chicken cross the road?”
Children can fill your life with humor. One day when my son was about 3 years old, I was home sick and lying on the couch while he played on the floor. He wanted me to play with him, but I said that daddy felt bad so it had to be a game where daddy could just lie on the sofa. He asked, “What kind of game is like that?” I thought of the game 20 questions and explained to him that it was a game where one person thought of something and the other had 20 questions to guess it. He said, “What can I ask?” I said, “Anything.” He repeated, “Anything?” I said, “Right.” I had already thought of the TV since it was right there in the room, so I said, “I thought of something; go ahead with your first question.” He asked one last time, “I can ask anything, and you have to answer?” I said, “Yes.” Then, he asked his question, “What is it?” I said, “It was the TV,” and the game was over. I couldn’t help laughing and feeling better because my 3-year-old had just outsmarted me. Laughter is good medicine and cheaper than most prescriptions.
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Adoption an Option? We feel very fortunate to have our young lady, and giving back to the community has been very rewarding. (four pages long) that thoroughly covered our expectations for our child, allowing for input from her as well, to avoid any misunderstandings and to keep expectations clear. Children will rise to the level of expectations their parents have created.
Question: “We’re an older couple, but would still like to ‘give back’ by adopting a child who really needs a home—any suggestions?” Answer: Personally and professionally, I can answer this question. My husband and I are in the process of adopting a young lady (15 years old) who came to me via my practice over a year ago. She is a good fit for us since she is academically motivated, creative, loving (great with children) and capable of forming a bond with adults. Many children who have cycled through the foster care system have bonding deficits due to ongoing failures of relationships that are no fault of their own. Many have lost count of how many foster homes they have resided in. Our child is one of the most resilient I have encountered, with inner strength that is absolutely awe-inspiring: for instance, at 2 years old, she approached her biological mother (who has mental health and addiction issues) with a can of food and announced that she was hungry and for her mother to feed her. As a teenager, she insisted her biological mother terminate her parental rights, so she could have other options open up to her. This amazing young lady proactively advocates for her own needs and is now a part of our loving, extended and functional family as a result. Not all children in the foster care system have this inner strength, but many can be successfully integrated into a caring home with professional guidance and the couple’s awareness that the child will present some issues: i.e. the adoptive couple must have realistic expectations and the tools with which to deal with issues as they arise. I generated an agreement
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Within the work I do for a social service agency, I have witnessed many failed adoptions due to unrealistic and unprepared adoptive parents. If a family therapist had been consulted, for instance, before, during and after the adoption, a lot of these placements could have succeeded. Children within the system often unconsciously sabotage their own placements, as it is better to reject the family than ultimately be rejected by them and suffer the grief and loss issues all over again. Adopting a child who is older and may be more problematic is certainly in my estimation a very positive way to “give back” to the community. Some friends of ours are adopting a baby from China and have been going through the process for years (this is certainly another option, but with all the children who need homes within our country, I prefer to stay local). Plus, what a lot of adoptive parents don’t know is that the state pays a little monthly subsidy for the child (which offsets the expense), and insurance and education are also covered. Although not a lot of money, the subsidy provided for a special needs child (this can just mean an older child who may be past the “cute” stage) encourages adoption as an option so the family is not too strapped financially with the prospect. We feel very fortunate to have our young lady, and giving back to our community had been very rewarding. Ruth Broadwater, M.A. (Marriage and Family Counseling) has taught parenting classes and worked with adolescents and their families for a dozen years. She also works as a Family Coach and has written and illustrated the therapeutic coloring book, Bad Mannered Monsters. Contact her at 727-641-1966. For more on Ruth’s series on blending stepfamilies, please visit www.parentguide.com.
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were out of the question. But that wasnâ€™t even the worst. They then delivered the most devastating news of all, that she would not be able to have her own child. â€œI was stunned when I first learned I had a chronic disease, but then I decided to learn everything I could about it, so that it would just be something I had, not something that had me,â€? Nicole said. It was her determination to prove the medical community wrong that led her to not only pursue a Masters degree in Journalism, but to continue on and become Miss America in 1999. With diabetes awareness as her platform, Nicole was the first Miss America to take on a medical issue during her reign. And while her time as Miss America was an incredible experience, she later discovered it was only the beginning of a lifelong journey. After a couple of years of marriage, Nicoleâ€™s most important role began in January of 2006 when she defied what doctors claimed was impossible and became a mother to a healthy baby girl. Almost two years later, returning back to her roots in Seminole, Florida, Nicole knows all too well the difficulty in balancing life as a celebrity, a traveling business owner and public health advocate, author of numerous books and now a single mother to 21 month-old-daughter, Ava. How does she do it all?
of the lack of information available to women with pre-existing diabetes, Nicole is writing a book about pregnancy and diabetes. Ava seems to be a natural when it comes to being on stage with her mother. When asked how being a celebrity has affected both her and Ava, Nicole says, â€œWell, for Ava it has meant that she has been in the spotlight since before she was born. A lot of people know her, the story of my pregnancy with her, and thus feel connected to her.â€? For Nicole, the effect is different. When she is recognized, it often takes her by surprise. She described that it has affected her in deeper ways. â€œIt is hard for me to trust people. Meaning â€“ do people want to hang out with or be with Nicole, or do they want to be with Miss America? That is really tough.â€? Now that Ava is getting older, and routine is becoming increasingly important, she has started attending part-time child care, a decision that Nicole struggles with emotionally, since she wants to be home with her more. While Ava still travels with Nicole occasionally, she also spends quality time with her grandparents and has developed a very strong emotional bond. So that Ava can hear her motherâ€™s voice whenever she desires, Nicole created the â€œmommy ball,â€? a round sphere that has photographs of Nicole all around it with special voice-recorded messages to her daughter.
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BY DIANA M. WEBER One magical night each year, little girls all across the country grab their favorite pillows and sit in front of televisions with nail-biting anticipation to discover what will be revealed in the next two hoursâ€”the new Miss America. For Nicole Johnson, this dream not only came true, but it also became the catalyst for many ironic and
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unexpected blessings that would occur in her life. Diagnosed at age 19, while competing in the Miss Florida pageant, and after almost losing her life to low blood sugar, Nicoleâ€™s dreams nearly derailed. Doctors told her that, the due to the physical stress it would put on her body, becoming a journalist and pursuing a pageant crown
Checking her own blood sugar four to eight times a day, Nicole wears a 24-hour insulin pump and often a continuous glucose monitor. The devices give her much greater freedom and allow her better control in the management of her disease. Like any other parent, the focus of Nicoleâ€™s life is her child and her desire to provide a stable and healthy environment so her daughter thrives. Most weeks, Nicole travels three to four days at a time. So, at the tender age of only 3 months, little Ava began accompanying Nicole on many public speaking events. Not only is she Nicoleâ€™s inspiration, but she is living proof that those with diabetes can live normal lives, and most importantly, live out their dreams. â€œItâ€™s really powerful when I take Ava with me when Iâ€™m speaking to young women. I can simply point to my daughter and show them that there is nothing they canâ€™t doâ€Śthat diabetes doesnâ€™t have to stop them. Ava has brought hope to many young women who thought theyâ€™d never have children, and also to their parents who gave up on the dream of becoming grandparents.â€? Because
To balance the many demands of Nicoleâ€™s continued career, she finds creative ways to spend quality time with Ava when she is home. Nicole and Ava usually start their day quite early. While Ava is at child care until late afternoon, Nicole works on her articles, makes phones calls, sets appointments, and does whatever else she needs to do to prepare for the week ahead. After spending the evening together, which usually includes a walk in her neighborhood, Nicole continues working for another couple of hours after Ava goes to sleep. Leaving little time for herself, Nicole accepts this sacrifice as part of being a working parent. Nicole and her daughter also enjoy a special day together each week. Every Monday is declared Ava Day. â€œI make it a point to try not to work at all on Mondays so that I can give Ava my full attention. Itâ€™s her day,â€? Nicole said. Wanting to have a lot of physical interaction with her daughter, they spend at least thirty minutes a day singing songs and dancing together. Ava also loves to be read to and has
been very healing in her life. And while she never wants to see her child experience hurt, she does hope that her daughter learns about what it means to struggle. “I want Ava to understand the depths of her soul, so that she can find strength when she’s tested in life.” Almost nine years after her reign, Nicole has emerged as one of the most influential voices in the world for diabetes patient advocacy and education. She has co-authored three diabetic cookbooks with Mr. Food, has written an autobiography about her life with diabetes and currently writes monthly articles for two diabetes magazines. Consulting through her own company Nicole Johnson, Inc, she not only educates the public and corporations worldwide, but she also lobbies in Washington D.C. to improve patient care, insurance coverage and other related issues. Nicole is also the host of DLifeTV, a diabetes-focused television show aired weekly on CNBC.
“I’m thankful for the struggle that this disease has brought to my life,” says Nicole. “You can’t fully understand the truest of joys without knowing pain. I’ve walked both sides and I’m thankful for it. I know that I am a better person for it.” developed a strong vocabulary. “She talks nonstop,” said Nicole. Having a baby has also created a new bond between Nicole and her own mother. She believes that becoming a parent herself has
November is National Diabetes Awareness month. To learn more about diabetes, visit . To learn more about Nicole Johnson, please go to www.nicolejohnson.com
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also volunteer or mentor a child. you can help make sure that
these children are a part of our community. only about one
every child in care has a birthday gift to open on his or her
percent of people who read this will ever move on to adopt
special day. the success of our community should be judged
a child. but, thereâ€™s so much we can do to improve a childâ€™s
on how we take care of our most vulnerable. these children are
quality of life while they are in care. the childcare system is
giving us their hopes and dreams, their faces, voices, a way to
overwhelmed with the amount of children in care, and ad-
be seen and heard. the rest is up to us.â€?
ditional quality foster homes are desperately needed. you can
â€”Jesse Miller, director for Heart Gallery of Tampa Bay.
Left row from tallest to smallest: Cornelius, 14 â€˘ Cormarius, 11 â€˘ Cordez, 7 Right row from tallest to smallest: Cortez, 10 â€˘ Coriana, 8 â€˘ Corneshia, 7
/PEN (EART !DOPTION my heart is open,
3OMEHOW DESTINY COMES INTO PLAY Âą3OMEHOW DESTINY COMES INTO PLAY 4HESE CHILDREN END UP WITH YOU AND YOU END UP WITH THEM )TÂ´S SOMETHING QUITE MAGICALÂ˛ â€” nicole Kidman, actress and Adoptive Parent
though iâ€™ve lived alone. no family with me to call my own. shadows canâ€™t cloud my ability to love. yet, iâ€™m searching for peace like a lost, white dove. my heart is open. wonâ€™t you please open yours? hold me as your child-let my spirit soar. itâ€™s a risk worth taking, because i want to give. be my rock, be my family
! Âą LL KIDS NEED IS A LITTLE HELP A LITTLE HOPE AND SOMEBODY WHO BELIEVES IN THEMÂ˛ â€” earvin â€œmagicâ€? Johnson, adopted
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help me grow. help me live. my heart is open, iâ€™m here to adopt Just say the word-let the joy erupt.
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Heart-felt Love By Sherri Proctor
Art for the heArt creAtes beAutiful quilts in
the children selected for the heart Gallery fit into one of
collAborAtion with the heArt GAllery of tAmPA bAy.
several categories: abused, abandoned and neglected, older
foster children—all they want is a family and a real home. And with more than 2,000 foster children between hillsborough, Pasco and Pinellas counties, it’s incredibly difficult to find those homes. but 30
and sibling groups. the children in these categories are considered the hardest to adopt. “Art for the heart is more than just a quilt,” Penn said. “we want
to Art for the heart, a unique program that displays larger-than-life
children to learn life skills, leadership skills, art and more.”
area. the first quilt will debut in late november 2007, and there are high hopes for its success. “november is national Adoption month; we are pushing to have the quilts ready as soon as possible,” David Penn, founder of Art for the heart.
to that end, each foster and adoptive child is also provided with a free membership to both Great explorations and mosi museums and are eligible for summer camp scholarships—all opportunities for them to learn and grow. Penn knows firsthand that photos bring out the human side of foster children. eight years after adopting their 2-year old daughter,
the foster children involved with Art for the heart were given
Audrey, Penn and his wife robin discovered Arthur, 10, and Jack,
the opportunity to create a personalized picture frame. that
6, through the heart Gallery exhibit in tampa. the brothers’ smiles
decorated frame along with a professional portrait of the child
in their photograph caught the Penn’s attention. now, they are a
will be superimposed onto fabric becoming an Art for the heart
beautiful family of five.
quilt. the quilt will also include information about the child such as name, age, hobbies and personal interests.
Penn works hard to dispel what he calls the “myths of adoption.” there are many benefits to adopting in the state of florida that the
David Penn is executive director and ceo of Great explorations
public may not be aware of. it is absolutely free to adopt these
museum in st. Petersburg and founding member of the Pinellas and
children—all legal fees are paid. children receive free medicaid
Pasco heart Gallery. he hopes the quilt exhibits will increase aware-
health and dental insurance until they turn 18. each child receives a
ness of the abundance of foster children needing permanent homes
full four-year scholarship to any public university in florida. in
and help inspire families considering adoption to take action.
addition, adoptive parents receive a monthly subsidy.
“the group homes are so overcrowded that children often sleep
“i like to compare adoption to the three trimesters of
on the floor of the salvation Army offices before being placed in
pregnancy,” Penn said.
foster care,” Penn said.
it takes approximately nine months to adopt a child. there is an
the traditional heart Gallery features approximately 105 foster chil-
initial orientation, 10 weeks of model Approach to Partnership in
dren. their professional portrait is framed and displayed on a spe-
Parenting (mAPP) classes, a thorough home study done by a
cial display wall. the display includes a collection of bio-cards that
social worker, and then if approved, the parents can begin
provide information about the child including contact information.
preparing to bring the child into their home.
the Art for the heart quilts are easier to transport allowing several different exhibits to take place simultaneously, unlike the heart Gallery, which is portable but must be displayed together. the quilts
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than 6 years old, ethnicity other than caucasian, disabled
foster children may be a step closer to having a real family thanks photos of children on full-sized quilts throughout the tri-county
David Penn and his family
Art for the Heart quilts will provide a visible reminder of the thousands of children who dream of a healthy and happy home.
Art for the heart quilts will provide a visible reminder of the thousands of children who dream of a healthy and happy home.
will be displayed in high-traffic public areas such as museums,
For more information on Art for the Heart, contact the Heart Gallery
libraries, aquariums, malls and corporate offices. they will remain at
of Pinellas and Pasco at 727-456-0637. You may also contact the
each location for approximately six to eight weeks.
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a child to appreciate his gifts because many children donâ€™t get anything at all elicits negative feelings that the child may block out along with the message. Allowing a child to feel the benefits of giving with charitable experiences shared as a family will likely yield better results. The child will probably enjoy the feelings the experience provides and want to repeat the process. Eventually, children build on these feelings and develop empathic and charitable behaviors.
Cultivating Gratitude Into Everyday Family Life It is unrealistic to focus on gratitude only during the holidays and expect our children to take the limited message to heart. â€œChildren learn behaviors of gratitude by observing their parents, â€œ explains Jennifer Lecrone, Ph.D. of the Family Psychology Center of New Tampa. So model thankfulness as often as you can for everything from yummy snacks to the setting sun. Lecrone suggests using the dinner table as a setting for daily discussions about each family membersâ€™ blessings for the day. Most people know this list is lengthy, she says, but we all need daily reminders to make appreciation a habit.
Moving From Gratitude To Charitable Behaviors Once your child is regularly exhibiting gratitude, begin to introduce the concept of helping others: â€œWhen children are mature enough to accept that they are not the only one with needs and desires, a parent can help establish generosity in age-appropriate ways,â€? explains Leslie Rainaldi, a developmental psychologist in private practice in Tampa. Experts suggest starting with an activity that is already habitual and fun, like picking up trash, after a child has already enjoyed a day at the park. When habitual helpful behaviors are in place, move your child toward choosing the recipient of his good deeds. Carol Weisman, author of Raising Charitable Children (F.E. Robbins & Sons Press) suggests a
By Shannon M. Dean
Like many parents, my winter holiday fantasies coincide with the displays that begin before Halloween. Mine is a fantasy based not on the childhood gifts I received, but on the experiences and emotions I shared with my family. Because I am determined to cultivate the same for my own children, I spend months planning, decorating and shopping while doing my best to introduce and take part in acts of kindness and charity. But Iâ€™m sometimes rewarded with children who hurriedly plow through painstakingly-chosen gifts and breathlessly inquire if this is â€œall there is?â€? Luckily, experts assure parents like me that itâ€™s entirely possible, even in todayâ€™s consumerdriven society, to create the joyous holidays we crave. If we can learn to harness a childâ€™s seemingly conflicting, yet simultaneous selfish generous desires, we are well on our way to shaping year-round gracious, appreciative children who actually enjoy helping others.
in anotherâ€™s shoes until 7 to 9 years of age,â€? she said. â€œEmpathy for others and gratitude are behaviors that are acquired with time, experience and by habitually viewing the behavior of adults.â€? The holidays provide the perfect opportunity to demonstrate that gratitude is not only a nice way to show love, but it also makes the grateful feel good.
Gratitude Provides Long-term Benefits Gratitude is the cornerstone of empathy and charitable behavior and is hugely beneficial for all involved. Studies show that feelings of gratitude can lighten our mental load and color our world view. Grateful people report feeling higher levels of life satisfaction and less stress. And gracious seeds planted at a young age later mature and bear fruit. A Gallup Youth Survey found that nearly half of teenagers said they make a point of regularly expressing their thankfulness.
The Gimmes Are Age-Appropriate, But Tamable A child with a bad case of the holiday gimmes isnâ€™t necessarily spoiled or a reflection of parenting, according to Brenna Hicks, MA, a childrenâ€™s therapost in Safety Harbor. â€œChildren cannot put themselves
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However, young children need to be spoon-fed this concept because they canâ€™t yet totally understand cause and effect. Instead, they evaluate actions based on how the action makes them feel. Telling
gift donation chosen by your child but initially funded by you. On a special occasion, like your childâ€™s birthday or the holidays, your child can choose a recipient for a â€œgiftâ€? (perhaps a book for the library or an item on a charityâ€™s wish list). Because you want your child to associate this tradition with gaining rather than losing something, donâ€™t limit the gifts that your child receives on the occasion. Eventually, your child may want to take over the entire process: â€œSomething like this not only teaches the joy of giving,â€? said Weisman, â€œit also helps kids feel empowered and lets them know they can do something. Kids watch TV. They know what is going on in the world.â€?
Shared Holiday Charitable Experiences Create Lasting Memories Creating lasting, genuinely happy holiday memories can seem an uphill battle in todayâ€™s me-society, but experts remain firm that holiday happiness is not tied to material things: â€œWhen parents say that all they want â€˜is for my child to be happy,â€™ what they really mean is children who are responsible, generous, kind, loving, thoughtful -- and happy,â€? explains Weisman. â€œThose first characteristics have everything to do with the last one,â€? she assures. And research indicates that itâ€™s the emotions tied to an event, rather than the event itself, that creates deep-down pleasurable, lasting memories. â€œA child opening a gift will be excited and happy only until the next present is opened. On the contrary, a child who goes caroling with his family to a nursing home will connect giving, selflessness, love and community with the holidays forever,â€? explains Hicks. So, as my children frantically whip up their holiday wish list, Iâ€™ll evaluate them with my own, which now includes more experiences and less things, because I know first hand, itâ€™s the emotions and shared charitable holiday experiences that my children will likely remember when they are planning family holidays for their own children.
1VO`WbOPZSideas for busy families: Crafts Kids usually enjoy making crafts
and cards. Many Web sites provide addresses and bios for hospitalized children. Families make get-well cards, artwork or small gift items and send them directly to the kids. Two such sites are: Make A Child Smile: wwwmakeachildsmile.org and Hugs And Hope: wwwhugsandhope. org/kidslist.htm
Choosing Gifts For Others During The Holidays There are also many opportunities to choose and purchase holiday gifts for others. Even young children can help choose gift wrap and drop-off items. A few of these programs are: Toys For Tots: For the past 53 years, the US
marines have distributed over 272 million new toys to over 133 million children. Families choose, purchase and wrap gifts and drop them off at one of the many drop off locations. Log onto for a list of drop off sites. Salvation Armyâ€™s Angel Tag Gift Drive: Many local retailers display Christmas trees with Angel Tags. Just pick out an angel, choose & purchase gifts for the child listed, and return the new, wrapped items to the store. Contact the local Salvation Army at 813-226-0055 or Priscilla: email@example.com. org to find an angel tree near you.
Collecting And Delivering Items And Gifts To Others There are many organizations in our area that have an ongoing
need for childrenâ€™s supplies. Your children can help with collecting and delivering needed items. In addition to neighborhood food banks, Metropolitan Ministries and The Childrenâ€™s Home are organizations that are always in need of supplies and gifts for children. Metropolitan Ministries is an organization that provides shelter, schooling and services for homeless families in our area. The organization always needs a large variety of donated items, especially for its children clients. Log onto www.metromin.org/subpages/Needed_ Items.asp#urgentneeds for a wish list. The Childrenâ€™s Home has cared for more than 25,000 children in our community. A list of needed supplies can be found at www.childrenshome.org.
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