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PALMY PARENT PALMERSTON NORTH PARENTS CENTRE MAGAZINE

August / September . 2019

PREPARING FOR YOUR BREASTFEEDING JOURNEY

FERMENTED FOODS FOR HEALTHY FAMILIES

DUTCH PANCAKES

Treat your dad this fathers day with this lovely recipe for breakfast or brunch... or pudding


PARENTS CENTRE

Preggy to Preschool

Garage Sale

When?

Saturday 5th October 2019, 9am - 11am

Where?

Palmerston North Central Baptist Church, 190 Church St (opposite The Warehouse)

Gold coin entry. Good quality pre-loved clothes, equipment, accessories and toys for 0-5 year old’s. Sold by local families at very reasonable prices. Raffle with great prizes, Barista Coffee available and PNPC Bake Sale www.palmyparentscentre.org.nz


EDITOR’S NOTE August is here, and that means it’s time for another fantastic Big Latch On event - the annual gathering of breastfeeding mothers across the country, celebrating our achievements in nourishing our babies, eating good food and generally having a lovely time together. If you’ve got a breastfeeding baby or child I encourage you to come along and take part (or send in a ‘brelfie’ to the Facebook page if you can’t make it to one of the events happening in Palmy or Feilding) - and in the meantime, enjoy a few special features in this edition of Palmy Parent, to get you in the mood. This issue also covers September, which means that not only is Spring imminent, but Father’s Day is nearly here - so it’s time for a bit of father appreciation as well! Check out the delicious recipe featured to help spoil the Dad in your life, and Dads, there are some great tips featured for you to help forge those iron-clad bonds with your new baby, too. Local midwife and lactation consultant Cheryl Benn has written a great primer for those of you still expecting your wee ones and planning on breastfeeding, and for those of you who are already on your journey, there’s a feature on the benefits of extended, or full-time, breastfeeding and natural term weaning. And if you’re planning on returning to work, we’ve included a feature to help troubleshoot your transition without too many blocks in the road. We also have some great craft activities to enjoy with your wee ones in the craft and play pages. For our family friendly outing we head to the Herb Farm in Ashhurst - a great location for a spot of Father’s Day adventuring, incidentally and food meets wellbeing in our health section with a great feature on the benefits of fermented foods and why you need them in your life (and your belly!). Enjoy.

Erin Evis, Editor

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CONTENTS FEATURES Preparing for your breastfeeding journey

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Breastfeeding and Returning to Work

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Fermented Foods for Healthy Families

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Extended Breastfeeding

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IN EVERY ISSUE Editor’s note

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PNPC seminars & events

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What’s on ... In our region

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Book Review

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Welcome to the World

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Developmental play: Pinecone Bird Feeder 18 Dads Life: Forging those bonds

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Birth Story: Grace’s Delivery

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Family Friendly Outings: The Herb Farm Cafe 28 Recipe: Dutch Pancakes

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Community support groups

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Member discounts

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Playgroups in your area

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GOT SOMETHING TO SHARE?

CHECK OUT OUR WINNERS Bruce McKenzie Book Giveaway

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Cottage Flowers Arrangement

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The Hair Company styling treatment

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CONTRIBUTORS E r i n E v i s , L a u r a We n d e n - G r e e n , P i n k y M c K a y , Renee Barbour, Kirsten Bell, Debbie Rogan, Fritha Linklater

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Email the Editor at: palmyparenteditor@gmail.com


COMMITTEE NEWS On May the 5th 3 committee members and our Childbirth On the 10th of July we held a special one-off Teddy Bears’ Picnic music session and craft session during the school holiday break with facilitator Teresa Watson. The session was packed with 38 children, their teddy bears and their caregivers, and the session was full of teddy bear songs with the last song being the Rocketship Run where the children flew their teddies all around. The craft activity was decorating teddy bear masks which the children and caregivers got stuck into with enjoyment. The class then moved on to Café MD who were having their own Teddy Bear Picnic event, where the children with Teddies got a free fluffy, which I understand quite a few children and mums enjoyed. A huge thanks to Teresa for hosting the session that was so well enjoyed by our community.

working mothers to celebrate their breastfeeding journey). Doors open from 10:00 am and the latch on is at 10.30 am. If you cannot make the Saturday, we are pleased to let you know that Te Papaioea Birthing Centre (same address, but second level)

Last year we adored running the Big Latch On in conjunction with La Leche League. We loved hosting the epic breast and mixed feeders, and the amazing pumping mamas, and it was a real treat to provide them with yummy treats, a bevy of spot prizes from local businesses, and a warm, welcoming environment to support their breastfeeding journey with their special little people. This year we aim for the same atmosphere, the same support, and even more fun and community aroha! We’ll be hosting in our Centre, the same place we host our classes in the Te Papaioea Birthing Centre complex, on Saturday 3rd of August (to provide a special place for

is holding the Big Latch On the day before 2nd August, Friday with the same times. Check out the Facebook events for more details. We would like to say a big thank you to Pub Charity Ltd for the grant we recently received to help fund our amazing and informative Baby and You classes that are now included as a follow-on from our ante-natal classes, which means that our class participants are getting a great package of support in their journeys to becoming new parents. Lastly a big welcome to the committee to Tanya Mazurkiewicz, she has come onto the committee as our business relations officer, we are super happy to have her on board and our advertising partners will hear from her soon.

Saritta

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PNPC

SEMINARS & EVENTS AUGUST & SEPTEMBER BIG LATCH ON Friday 2 August 2018, 10 am-12 pm Te Papaioea Birthing Centre AND Saturday 3 August 2018, 10am-11.30am Palmerston North Parents Centre An event all about celebrating mums and dads, the latch will be at 10.30 and throughout the morning there will be nourishing food, conversation and giveaways. Cost: Free BABY AND YOU CLASSES Wednesday 14, 21, 28 August Wednesday 11, 18, 25 September This program follows on from antenatal classes and offers sound tips and strategies as you begin your remarkable journey into parenthood during the fourth trimester. The class is best suited to babies 0-6 weeks. Bring your baby with you for the 3 sessions of the course.

HOT TOPIC - KEEP CALM AND PARENT Wednesday 14 August, 7.30pm Often when we work to parent our children in a respectful and responsive way we realise that the trickiest part of all is keeping ourselves calm enough to do so. Come along to this Hot Topic presented by parenting coach Tabitha Jonson to find out more. Cost: $10 members; $15 non-members

Cost: $40 per family THE FIFTH TRIMESTER - CONTEMPLATING THE RETURN TO WORK Saturday 10 August, 10am When deciding about returning to work after becoming a parent, there are numerous things to think about. This informative presentation will provide clarity on the various aspects of returning to work, including flexi-hours, extended leave, keeping in touch, expressing/feeding, child care and your other options (including choosing to not go back to work). For those who are yet to decide about your “working� future, you will leave with an understanding of your options and obligations, in addition to ideas on how to build your village and keep your skills honed outside of work.

INFANT CPR Thursday 22 August, 10am This short course will cover baby and infant CPR, choking, burns, convulsions, fevers, illness warning signs and accidental ingestion of toxins. This is a baby friendly course. Cost: $6 members; $12 non-members

Esther Fou is an experienced working professional, who is also a wife, mum with three children and five years experience in HR. She brings a pragmatic approach to what could potentially be confusing and overwhelming information.

PARENTING WITH ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION Saturday 7 September, 10am Depression and anxiety are common, especially in parents. This workshop provides a safe environment for parents to discuss their experiences of feeling overwhelmed and anxious or stuck inside negative emotions. We begin with reviewing some of the common indicators that you are suffering from depression and/or anxiety and talk about how this can affect parenting. From here, participants are guided through exercises to learn ways to cope with low mood and anxiety while also responding to the demands of children and daily life.

Cost: $6 members; $12 non-members

Presented by Dr Kate Tappenden from Pain Relief. Cost: $10 members; $15 non-members

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INTRODUCTORY WATER SKILLS FOR INFANTS Venue: Lido Aquatic Centre Thursday 12 September, 11.30am Introduce your child to water in this “taster” swimming class. For babies and toddlers aged 5 months to 3 years old. Approximately 30 minutes duration. Cost: Free; this session is kindly provided by CLM Swim Magic. EXPLORE YOUR BIRTH STORY Sunday 22 September, 1pm A safe space to untangle your birth story with activities that support self-reflection. Wear comfortable clothing. Presented by Rebecca Robinson from Unique Beginnings and Aileen Devonshire from The Holistic Birth Company Cost: Gold coin donation, but please register on our website www.palmyparentscentre.org.nz

To register please see our website: http://www.palmyparentscentre.org.nz/ All seminars and events can be found in our calendar on the website. For any queries please email: info@palmyparentscentre.org.nz

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WHAT’S ON . .. in our region FUN FOR THE FAMILY The Big Latch On

Te Papaioea Birthing Centre, Palmerston North Friday 2 August 2019 10:00am

The Big Latch On

Palmerston North Parents Centre Saturday 3 August 2019 10:00am

The Big Latch On

Manawatu Craft and Food Fair

Arena Manawatu, 70 Waldegrave St, Palmerston North Saturday, September 14, 2019 at 10 AM – 3 PM

Colyton School Presents ‘The Lion King’

Palmerston North Boys’ High School Wednesday, September 18, 2019 at 6:30 PM – 8 PM

Feilding Plunket Rooms, Fergusson St, Feilding Friday 2 August 2019 10:00am

Old Fashioned Toys & Games

Durie Hill Tower 2 Tower Cres, Whanganui Saturday 3 August 2019 10:00am – 11:00am

Open Weekend 2019

Feilding Steam Rail Depot, 28 Gladstone St, Feilding, Feilding and District Saturday 17 August 2019 10:00am and Sunday 18 August 2019 10:00am

Multi-Cultural Eid Adha - Community Festival and Fair

Central Energy Trust Arena- Fly Palmy Arena Saturday, August 17, 2019 at 10 AM – 5 PM FREE

Wanganui Tramways Weekend

Wanganui Tramways, 29 Moutoa Quay, Whanganui, Manawatu / Whanganui Saturday 24 August 2019 11:00am and Sunday 25 August 2019 11:00am

International Waffle Day

Palmerston North City Library Saturday, 24 August 2019, 10:30am – 12:30pm

Summerhill Walkways

Peren Park, 169 Ruapehu Drive, Palmerston North Sunday, August 25, 2019 at 10:30 AM – 1 PM Tickets · $3 - $10

Father’s Day Rides

Palmerston North Esplanade Scenic Railway, Victoria Esplanade, Park Rd, Palmerston North Sunday 1 September 2019 1:00pm – 4:00pm

Lights of Spring Night Trains

Palmerston North Esplanade Scenic Railway, Victoria Esplanade, Park Rd, Palmerston North Friday 13 September 2019 6:00pm and Saturday 14 September 2019 6:00pm

REGULAR PROGRAMMES Baby Bop Central Library - Events, ground floor Thursdays during term time - 10am - 10.30am A fun filled baby time session aimed at early literacy and baby development. Music, bubbles and more! Jumping Jellybeans Central Library - Events, ground floor Wednesdays during term time - 10am - 11am Don’t miss out on the most fun you can pack into one hour. Free preschool session aimed for children aged 2 - 4 year. Enjoy stories, activities, music, craft and FUN! Active Tots Te Manawa, 326 Main St, Palmerston North Mondays 10.15am - 11.45am A programme for the under-5s, focused on self-directed play and exploration. Nau mai, haere mai! Story Time at Boho Cafe Boho Cafe, 2 Pitama Road, Palmerston North 9.30am - First Wednesday of every month (even in school holidays) Join the author of the new ‘Dog and the Mog’ book as she shares other stories about the rascally pair and reads other popular stories to your little ones while you enjoy a lovely coffee. Session runs for approx. 30mins. All ages welcome.

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BOOK REVIEW

THE DOG AND THE MOG Reviewed by Desiree Harvey Story by Kaye Arnott, Illustrations by Laura Wenden Green Available from Bruce McKenzie Booksellers on George St for $19.99 The story follows Davey the Dog who, after becoming bored while his best friend Bruce is away at school, begins getting himself into trouble by misbehaving and chewing shoes. One day, he finds a mysterious box at his house and when he investigates, he finds a growling black ball full of teeth and sleek hair that has arrived to turn his world upside down. Mavis the Mog is now part of the family, and Davey has to share his home, his best friend and even his favourite cushion with her. So, he tries to frighten her away, but cats are clever beasts and Mavis easily outsmarts Davey. Eventually, Mavis shares Davey’s cushion with him and a new friendship begins to blossom. This is a lovely book that will appeal to animal loving children of all ages, especially where a new pet is being introduced to the family. We found it was easily read aloud and thoroughly enjoyed by my pre-schooler, who enthusiastically joined in with the rhyming verses. The illustrations are beautifully coloured and convey the pets’ facial expressions clearly for children to follow along effortlessly. The author and illustrator are a Palmy based talented team who may be found at the monthly story-time held in a local café. Keep a look out for the sequel ‘The Dog and the Mog Go Camping’ due soon!

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The winner’s name will be printed in the next issue of the Palmy Parent and the winner can collect their book from the Palmy Parent Centre.

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The children’s book reviewed above has been generously donated by Bruce McKenzie Booksellers on George Street, Palmerston North to give away to a lucky Parents Centre Member. Bruce McKenzie’s Booksellers is situated in George Street beside the entrance to the Palmerston North Library. Bruce McKenzie’s carries an enormous range of books from children’s to specialist non-fiction and is definitely worth a visit. If you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask the staff who are always willing to help.


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WELCOME TO THE WORLD

WELCOME TO THE WORLD Welcome to all the new babies born to our wonderful Parent Centre members! If there are any corrections to the list below, please email palmyparenteditor@gmail.com

Class: 24th November 2018 | Hostess: Liam Rutherford | CBE: Jen Geraghty

Liam Huang born to

George Allan Dam born to

Yan Su & HaoFeng Huang

Hayden and Ashleigh Dam

31 January 2019

11 February 2019

Alice Eve Pember

Aylah Hope Bennett

born to

born to

Tanya Mazurkiewicz & Callum Pember

Stephen and Rebecca BennettÂ

13 February 2019

15 February 2019

Matilda Jean Parsons

Oliver Cooper Stapp

born to

born to

Becky Wilson and Robin Parsons

Matt and Monica Stapp

16 February 2019

20 February 2019

William LeBron James Baker born to

Jeff Baker & Jennifer Rowe

26 February 2019

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Class: February 7th 2018 | Hostess: Sheina Osten | CBE: Jess White

Alexis Honor Brown

Ella Maggie Matthews

born to

born to

Jewel and William Brown

Tracey & Jeremy Matthews

13 February 2018

6 March 2019

Ethan Scott Riddy

Emilia Elizabeth Joy Rickwood

born to

born to

Sarah and Matt Riddy

Tracey Bear & Robbie Rickwood

26 March 2019

Maximilian Rowland Taylor born to

18 April 2019

Harry George Errol Burke born to

Antonia Christy & Ryan Taylor

Lucy Eberhardt & Mark Burke

18 April 2019

25 April 2019

Toby Charles McDonald born to

Rochelle and Steve McDonald

25 April 2019

Grace Brausch born to

Kirsten Bell & Brooke Brausch

30 April 2019

Rhys Alexander Winter born to

Ana Claasen & David Winter

4 May 2019

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FEATURE

PREPARING FOR YOUR BREASTFEEDING JOURNEY – what you need to know before you have your baby. By Cheryl Benn I so often hear women say they wish they had known what to expect once their baby was born, especially about the early days and weeks of breastfeeding and baby care. The fact is we can never know everything as each of us is different and our babies will have their unique behaviours and abilities depending on their age at birth, type of birth and development. There is no manual for each baby. However, there are things we can learn and prepare ourselves for. Breastfeeding is a learned art – for you and your baby You learn to know your special unique baby over time Crying is your baby’s way of communicating their needs – hunger, thirst, comfort/ discomfort, warmth/cold, tiredness/need for stimulation

1. BREASTFEEDING IS A LEARNED ART Each of us has unique breasts- sizes, shapes, nipples. One breast often produces more milk than the other, one nipple may point up while the other points down. These variations are normal – you are not abnormal if you think you have one breast that is bigger than the other or very small or very large nipples. Your baby is also unique in terms of size of mouth, mobility of the tongue, type of cry, demand for attention (some are very patient and can wait while others are very impatient and want attention immediately). Some hate a dirty nappy while others can tolerate sleeping with a dirty nappy for long periods of time. You have to get to know your baby and the only way to do this is by spending time with them – skin to skin, in the same room.

Your baby has to adapt from getting food in your uterus 24/7 without asking to requesting food/drink using some key cues. Your baby has to solely separate from you -it doesn’t happen just because the cord has been clamped and cut!

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Learning takes time for both mum and baby so take the time and get help if needed. Who can help? Your midwife, lactation consultants in the community – check out community birth services and their breastfeeding support, La Leche League, and Jackie Wheeler who is a private lactation consultant. The hospital lactation consultants are also available to help. See the section on additional resources and information at the end of this article. 2. GETTING TO KNOW YOUR BABY You will get to know your baby by spending time with them and it does take time as they are changing daily. This starts with the skin-to-skin time after birth. Keep baby with you for as long as possible and especially until after the first feed. Don’t rush the first feed – baby will give you cues to let you know they are ready to feed and most will self-latch and suckle within the first hour after birth (especially if you have had an unmedicated labour and birth) . If you have to have medication and baby is a bit sleepier and takes longer to latch it is so important to keep them skin-to-skin. They will latch, just be patient and don’t become discouraged! In the first hour after birth baby goes through

9 instinctive stages: 1. The birth cry 2. Relaxation 3. Awakening – about 3 minutes after birth. Their eyes open and they blink provided the light in the room is not too bright 4. Activity (lifting their head, moving their hands) – about 8 minutes after birth 5. Rest 6. Crawling – about 35 minutes after birth 7. Familiarization with the breast (pushing, licking, grabbing nipple, latching on and off) – about 45 minutes after birth 8. Latching and sucking 9. Sleep – baby falls asleep about 1 ½ -2 hours after birth provided they are not cold. Don’t be rushed. Once baby has fed and fallen asleep it is time for your partner to have some skin-to-skin time with their baby. This is vital for them to also connect with their baby so that they will do everything they can to care for and protect them. It is also another part of ensuring your baby colonises your and your partner’s healthy bacteria, which is so important for the development of their immune system. Check out the YouTube presentation “The Invisible

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PREPARING FOR YOUR BREASTFEEDING JOURNEY - Continues Universe of the Human Microbiome” for more information. Just because the cord has been clamped and cut after birth does not mean baby is ready to be separated from you. They want to be close, to hear your breathing, heartbeat, voice, as they did when in your womb. Do not be surprised or perturbed if they want to be close to you in the first 1-2 weeks after birth especially at night when everything else around is very quiet. If you are very tired and afraid of falling asleep while holding baby skin-to-skin then take turns with your partner so each of you get some sleep each night and your baby gets the loving responsive care needed for them to grow into healthy confident children and adults.

3. CRYING IS YOUR BABY’S COMMUNICATION Crying is baby’s speech to you until they learn to talk and they cry for many reasons: hunger/ thirst, tiredness, boredom, if they are too hot or cold, if they are sick, uncomfortable or in pain (from winds stuck in the bowel). They cannot get up and get a glass of water or food from the fridge, take off a cardigan if too hot or put one on if too cold. They can only let you know they need something and you then have to work out what the message might be. You will get to know each cry if they are in close proximity and if you spend time with your baby.

active sleep behaviour. If you pick them up straight away you may end up breaking their sleep cycle. However, don’t leave them to escalate to the point where they are hysterical as they take much longer to console and settle and that is when we get impatient and may lose control and shake our baby. NEVER SHAKE YOUR BABY. Check out the website on purple crying and the Survival guide for new dads and dealing with a crying baby. Not every cry means your baby needs a feed – sometimes they seem to give you a cue that suggests they need a feed but it could be tummy pain from winds. Try and get the winds out (burping or farting) first before deciding they need a feed. Feeds can be short or long. Sometimes babies need only a short feed (think of it as a cup of tea or a glass of water) while at other times they may need a 4 course meal (starters, mains, dessert and coffee). The 4 course meal may involve 2 feeds on each breast during one feeding episode. Whether you use one of both breasts per feed will depend on your milk supply, which again is very individual. At the end of the day most babies will cluster feed. This may make you think you do not have enough milk and you will be tempted to give them a bottle of formula. The key to your milk supply is feeding your baby or expressing milk - the more you move milk out of the breast the more is produced. The less you move out the less is produced. Because formula takes longer to digest for SOME babies the longer they may sleep and thus the less they may feed leading to a decrease in your supply. When they cluster feed they are getting more fat from the milk producing cells, which fills their tummies for longer but is also essential for baby’s nervous system development. All the best as you embark on this exciting and challenging journey.

Don’t rush in at the first cry as sometimes the baby may be asleep and cry out as part of the

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Dr Cheryl Benn IBCLC, Registered Midwife, Lead Maternity Carer Midwifery Advisor, MidCentral DHB


OTHER RESOURCES This journey may seem daunting but there is help available. The early baby weeks will be over before you know it and you will be dealing with toddler and teenage issues. Enjoy these early days. Get help from family and friends, as well as professionals or online resources or phone apps. One highly recommended resource apart from those mentioned above is the BreastfedNZ app. This can be downloaded free of charge from the app store and covers information about breastfeeding from pregnancy to the early days, weeks and feeding twins or more, as well as information about breastfeeding when travelling, going back to work, medicines and contraception and breastfeeding. WEBSITES purplecrying.info http://www.newdadssurvivalguide.com/ Articles/The-Reality/How-to-deal-with-a-cryingbaby.html Check out ISISonline (isisonline.org.uk)for evidence-based sleep information (this has nothing to do with the radical Islamic state group!)

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DEVELOPMENTAL PLAY

PINECONE BIRD FEEDER Debbie Rogan, Barnardos Early Learning Age recommendation: 2 years and up This is an easy project to put together at home, and it’s great fun for everyone. It teaches your children about birdlife in Aotearoa New Zealand and encourages them to enjoy watching the natural world around them.

EQUIPMENT NEEDED • Pinecones • Peanut butter (no salt added) • Bird Seed • Twine or String (optional) • Popsicle Stick

INSTRUCTIONS 1. Use the popsicle stick to scoop minimal peanut butter from the jar/bowl and spread on to the pinecone 2. Sprinkle the bird seed on to the pine cone or roll it around in a tray so the bird seed sticks to the peanut butter

TIP

3. T ie the twine/string securely around the top of the pinecone

Winter time is a good time to make the feeders as food is more scarce and the birds get much braver and will venture closer to the house.

Now you can hang it in your tree and wait to see the beautiful birds come and eat the delicious seeds from the pinecone feeder you have made.

ACTIVITY

HINT

What native birds do you see in your garden?

If you have made too many pinecone bird feeders for your home then pop along to our Wildbase Recovery Centre here at the Esplanade, Palmerston North where they welcome any donations to help with their Wildlife Recovery Programme or follow this link to visit their website https://wildbaserecovery.co.nz/

Can you see a… • Fantail/Pīwakawaka • Tūi ̄ – can you hear him/her singing? • North Island robin/toutouwai • Grey warbler/riroriro • New Zealand pigeon / kererū / kūkū / kūkupa • Silvereye or wax-eye • Bellbird/korimako Maybe you have a cheeky kiwi living in your garden??

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DAD’S LIFE

FORGING THOSE BONDS IN THE EARLY DAYS Erin Evis Dads are the unsung heroes in so many families, often taking on the role of confidante, playmatein-chief, problem-solver, listener, instigator of games and silliness, negotiator, mentor and protector. But for many, it can be easy to feel like a third wheel when baby is born. So much of what goes on is between mother and baby - the recovery, the breastfeeding, sometimes it might feel like all baby wants is her, especially if it’s your first baby. That transition period is tough for both parents as you adapt to your new roles as protectors and nurturers. So how can you Dads help your other half as she finds her feet as a mother, and start developing that lifelong bond with your new baby?

BREASTFEEDING BACKUP

You may not be the one physically breastfeeding, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get involved. Pay attention to the advice in antenatal classes and from midwives and lactation support. When she’s feeling unsure, struggling to get a good latch, forgotten how to do something, you can be a huge help. Remind her how to do what

you were taught, reposition the head, seek help if things aren’t right. Sit up and chat when she’s feeling alone in the night, be there for her, stand up for her right to breastfeed in the face of criticism or pressure, remind her of why she’s chosen to do it if she’s having a tough day. Dads can help make or break a breastfeeding relationship!

MAKING YOURSELF USEFUL

While she feeds baby, you can feed her! A glass of water or snack can seem too simple, but those little things can mean everything to a Mum stuck on a sofa for yet another 45 minute marathon feeding session. Find her a book, watch a DVD together, sit and talk (and not just about baby!), rest… it all helps when you’ve got a tiny baby asleep on you and can’t do much yourself.

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HELP ROCK BABY TO SLEEP

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BIRTH STORY

GRACE’S DELIVERY By Kirsten Bell I discovered I was pregnant and it was confirmed in October, right at the same time we got a new puppy. I was very lucky as we hadn’t been trying for long at all, and when I hear of some women’s struggles to get pregnant, my partner Brooke and I felt very grateful. Being a smoker, as soon as I found out I was pregnant I was able to get rid of the habit, and it really was easier than it would normally be thanks to morning sickness which I seemed to have all day! Brooke and I were excited to find out the sex and while we were both keen on a wee girl we really wouldn’t have cared, as long as our bundle of joy was healthy. The day of the scan finally arrived and we found out we were having a girl! Exciting. We already had a name sorted, so for the rest of the pregnancy we referred to the bump as Grace. My due date was 29 April and right on that day at 12.30am my contractions started. Grace was coming! By 3.30am I rang my midwife thinking it was close so I woke my mum and off we went to the Birthing Centre only to discover that I was 1cm dilated. Oh dear. Back home we went. I had terrible back pain, so I hopped in a soothing bath about 4am. I finally got out at 5.45 looking like an oversized prune. Still in pain and timing the contractions, they were inconsistent, so clearly it was going to be at least another day. Somehow I managed to get through the day by drinking plenty of fluids, trying to rest (not very successfully though) and

feeling a little impatient. Nervousness was not really even on my radar as I focused on the birth and stopping the pain. By 10pm on the 29th April the pain intensified to the next level, and Brooke ran me a bath - yep, another bath! He lay down to get some sleep and woke an hour or so later to me wailing. Brooke phoned my midwife. We had always planned on the birthing unit but I decided I had had enough of the pain and wanted some pain relief. We met the midwife at the hospital at 3.30am on 30th April to see how dilated I was and for me to consider pain relief. My midwife checked me and said I was 8cm dilated, and suggested we head to the birthing unit. It was also discovered that baby Grace’s head was on a tilted angle, which was contributing to the intense back pain. Brooke and I made the united decision that we would go to Te Papaioea Birthing Centre and I would do this without pain relief. Yikes. I remember walking up the corridor of the unit and stopping every 10 steps with another contraction. It was time for another bath (I do love my baths!) and I had nitrous oxide which did ease the intensity. From about 5.10am I felt some desire to push. So here I am, in the bath (again), exhausted and spent from no sleep in well over 24 hrs, pain ridden and trying to push. It was hard as I was just so exhausted. Brooke disappeared from my side and returned with a lemonade popsicle at 5:50am and I

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remember looking at him like, “are you kidding?!” Seriously, a lemonade ice block at 6am! I just wanted to throw it at him. But it turned out to be an amazing distraction as I sucked and pushed. It truly helped me a lot in that moment and I think I had another one 30 minutes later. What a brilliant idea. I was hydrating and distracted, sort of, a little... I was just wanting it all over and done with, and as my pushing increased and I was nearing the time I remember the ring of fire, where the baby’s head was crowning, and it was excruciating - and I thought I had done the hard yakka with the pain! Finally, I pushed one last time, a big strong push with what little energy I had left, and felt a tear, and then Grace’s head appeared with the rest of her following quite easily. She had arrived. That feeling. No other feeling have I ever experienced like it. Just pure love. She was put straight on me skin to skin and in that moment I had no pain... it was done and I was looking at my baby girl. Grace. My beautiful baby. As her head was on an angle for a while pre-birth and during the delivery she was born with a slight conehead, but it went down soon enough, by week three. She was - is - just perfect. She latched straight onto my breast and got a great amount of colostrum, to my relief. While the memory of the labour and the birth has slightly diminished I don’t think I would do it again anytime soon, but I have heard that you

forget the pain, so it’s on the cards that I will be back for another go within a few years. More baths! In reflection, now five weeks to the day, the decision to not have pain relief was the right one for me. I wouldn’t do that all again in too much of a hurry and who knows next time if I choose that option. I am very grateful to my wonderful midwife, and to all the birthing unit staff who gave me lots of tips and suggestions. I really needed those couple of days in such a stress free environment. Since being home with our beautiful daughter there have been some trying times, and some wonderful times. No one tells you about the fourth trimester. It’s the adjustment between Brooke and I. It’s the sleeplessness. It’s the uncertainty that you are doing the right thing, or that your milk will come through or that you are reading the cries correctly. However, the wonderful times far outweigh the trying times. This perfect little baby that Brooke and I created that will soon enough be calling us Mum and Dad. Grace is just perfect and we feel so blessed and are so in love with her. The sleeplessness is definitely worth the bundle of pure joy we now have. And I can honestly say, the pain was worth it. I will do it again.

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FEATURE

BREASTFEEDING AND RETURNING TO WORK By Pinky McKay You have finally mastered breastfeeding, you and your baby are enjoying this special bond, but knowing you are returning to work has you fraught with anxiety. You worry, how can I maintain my milk supply? How do I negotiate expressing or feeding breaks at work? How will I express, store and transport my milk? What about my baby – how much milk does she need and will her carers support me to breastfeed? Take heart, returning to paid employment and breastfeeding are entirely compatible. Your baby can enjoy the health, immunity and nutritional benefits and you will still have that unique connection through the one thing only you can do for your baby – snuggling them close and gazing into their eyes as they drink your milk.

Choosing a carer To make breastfeeding and working possible from a practical perspective, it is important to choose a carer who is breastfeeding friendly: your carer will need to be motivated to implicitly follow your instructions to store and thaw (if necessary) and feed your milk to your baby. Also, there is nothing worse than arriving with full breasts to pick up your baby, only to find she has just been fed, so do request that your carer considers this. She can either help your baby wait (as long as they aren’t upset) or offer a small amount of milk to ‘tide them over’ (rather than a full feed) if you are on your way home.This will also require close communication on your part – perhaps a call as you leave work with an estimated arrival time.

Gaining support at work According to New Zealand law, “Employers have to give breastfeeding breaks and appropriate facilities for women who want to breastfeed or express milk for their babies at work or during the working day, where this is reasonable and realistic in the circumstances (taking into consideration the employer’s operational environment and the employer’s resources). The breaks are unpaid and in addition to rest and meal breaks (unless the employee and employer agree otherwise). If employers don’t do this, the Employment Relations Authority could make them comply or give them a penalty.”

Expressing and returning to work A good quality electric pump that will express both sides at once is an investment that will

While many workplaces could potentially be happy to support breastfeeding staff, they may not be aware how to help. Try and make your requests clear and simple: you will need a private comfortable space to breastfeed or express milk; access to a fridge (although you can keep freshly expressed milk in an eski with a cool block); time to express; and support from co-workers (inappropriate comments should be reported to HR, this is discrimination).

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save you time and support your milk supply for the longer term. It is wise to start expressing about two weeks before you return to work. This will allow you to become efficient at expressing and store some milk in case you have some ‘low supply’ days when you are back at work. However, please don’t worry if this happens, breastfeeding according to your baby’s cues on your days off will boost your supply again.

How much milk does my baby need? The research shows that from one to six months, breastfed babies take in an average of 750 – 800mls per day (intake doesn’t increase with age or size as the composition of your milk changes as baby grows). This will vary between individual babies but a typical range of breast milk intake is from about 570 mls to 900 mls a day. So, to estimate how much milk your baby will need each feed, work out about how many feeds your baby has in 24 hours then divide 800 mls by that number. For instance, if your baby has 6 feeds a day, you would make up feeds of 150 mls.

mls, to offer as a top-up if your baby is thirsty or it is almost time for you to pick them up. Then she will still feed when you arrive and your carers won’t waste precious expressed milk by starting another full bottle if your baby is a bit hungrier than usual.

Practically speaking… At work, it can help to look at a picture or video of your baby as you express. Besides expressing at work, other options to maintain a good milk supply include asking for some flexibility so that perhaps you work from home one day mid- week ( and breastfeed as your baby needs) or either go to your baby or have him brought to you by his carer for a feed during your lunch break if this is practical. You will also need to take care that after a weekend or days off work, with more frequent feeding, you express for comfort to avoid engorgement and the possibility of developing mastitis.

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HEALTH

FERMENTED FOODS FOR HEALTHY FAMILIES By Erin Evis - Naturopath and Medical Herbalist Fermented foods have long been a part of people’s diets, with traditional ferments playing a role in the culinary traditions of virtually every culture around the world. From common beverages such as wine, beer and cider, to the more gourmet (and less alcoholic) kefir, sauerkraut, kimchi, tempeh and sourdough, the range of food items included in this category is vast. So why are they suddenly surging in popularity? And why should young families pay attention?

PROBIOTICS ARE KEY

Probiotics are beneficial bacteria found throughout the human body, making up the majority of our microbiome - the total body of microorganisms we all carry around with us. Our skin, intestines and reproductive system all have unique microbiomes, but the gastrointestinal one is that which is most widely recognised and talked about in terms of health. The foods we eat play a direct role in the support of a healthy microbiome, either nourishing or destroying the microscopic helpers that support so many aspects of our body - from our gut function to brain function, respiratory system to skin to vaginal

health, preventing myriad chronic physical and mental illnesses and orchestrating so many processes the research is struggling to adequately keep up. Probiotics are also found within our breastmilk, and in amniotic fluid - once considered to be sterile, but now known to be rich in helpful bacteria. This, combined with the vaginal flora a baby will encounter during a vaginal delivery (and which can be supplemented in a process known as ‘seeding’ in c-section deliveries), makes up the initial colonisation of a newborn’s gut, helping to establish healthy colonies, and preventing myriad health conditions later in life. As a result, the mother’s microbiome health plays a crucial role in her baby’s longterm wellbeing, and it is prudent for a pregnant mother to do what she can to support a healthy microbiome. Infants with healthy microbial colonies at birth have reduced rates of gastrointestinal problems, healthier immune systems, and a lowered risk of learning and behavioural disorders, obesity, diabetes, and depression than those with skewed microbiomes and higher populations of unhealthy pathogens. Much of our

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microbiome is inherited from our mother, so ensuring our wellbeing is vital for our babies.

FERMENTED FOODS

Fermentation, in terms of food production, is the process of converting sugar into alcohol and/or organic acids, through the action of yeasts and bacteria. Fermented foods usually contain some level of alcohol as a result, though many foods contain ethanol at negligible levels and are considered safe for pregnant women and infants to consume. Fermented foods are rich in organic acids, enzymes, prebiotics and probiotics, as well as bioavailable nutrients, depending on the product itself. Because of this, fermented foods can be one of the easiest ways to help support a healthy microbiome, and many have plenty of other benefits, making them superstars for the pregnant mother. One recent study from Japan, published this year, expanded on previous work showing a reduced risk of preterm birth in women with healthy microbial colonies - this latest paper found a significant reduction in the risk of preterm birth for women who regularly consumed fermented foods (in this case miso, fermented soybeans, and yoghurt) prior to pregnancy. Another large Norwegian study from 2018 found significantly lower risks of pre-eclampsia and preterm birth in women who regularly consumed probiotic-containing milk products.

now. It is also very easy to make your own. Sauerkraut is incredibly rich in probiotic lactobacilli bacteria strains, as well as B vitamins, vitamin C, glutamine, and myriad other beneficial nutrients, making it an excellent addition to the diet of any pregnant or breastfeeding woman. Kimchi is much the same as sauerkraut in terms of its benefits and production, however it is a lot spicier to taste, originates in East Asia, and includes a number of ingredients, including fish sauce or flakes, chilli, ginger and garlic, as well as Asian greens.

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If you’d like to try making these at home, join the Facebook group Fermenting Freaks Forever! New Zealand to source starter cultures and recipes for free. Many vegetables are easy to lacto-ferment at home using a brine (water and salt) and a simple glass jar, improving not only digestibility but availability of nutrients, too.

WHAT DO I EAT?

Common fermented foods in New Zealand are sourdough bread, rewena bread, kombucha, milk and water kefirs, yoghurt, kimchi, miso, sauerkraut, cheese, olives, beer, wine and cider, as well as many common lacto-fermented vegetables including gherkins, chillis, and various other products. Some more unusual, but increasingly popular, things to try: Milk kefir is a kind of yoghurt, rich in Lactobacilli, and in particular L. kefiri - a probiotic shown to have antiinflammatory effects on the gastrointestinal system and used in supporting those with inflammatory bowel disorders. It is easy to make from milk and tastes great! Kombucha is very popular at present and rich in beneficial enzymes with lower levels of probiotics than kefir, though many store-bought kombucha products are not authentic and their probiotic content is questionable. Look for products that list just sugar, tea, water and the culture as their ingredients, and avoid any with added flavours or stevia. Kombucha is best drunk through a straw to protect the teeth, which may be harmed due to its acidity. It is very easy to make your own at home with a SCOBY (symbiotic culture of bacteria and yeast). A variant known as jun is also available, made with a different kind of SCOBY and using honey instead of sugar. Sauerkraut is a traditional European ferment made from cabbage. Some imported products are either made with vinegar or pasteurised, but we have lots of lovely local brands producing authentic, lacto-fermented sauerkraut available in the chiller section at most supermarkets ISSUE 290 . August | September 2019

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EXTENDED BREASTFEEDING By Erin Evis

(Tandem breastfeeding Mum of a 5 and 2.5-year-old!) Breastfeeding in our society is highly encouraged, especially during infancy, and acknowledged as being in the best interests of the baby in terms of health and development. However, many women - and men - decide on arbitrary dates at which it should cease, and many people choose to stop feeding early, often around age one, or on returning to work. While this is considered normal in our society, it’s not often we see people choosing to feed for longer, nor do we often hear it being talked about. However, it is a perfectly valid, biologically normal process, and well worth considering.

WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF EXTENDED BREASTFEEDING?

The WHO states that babies should ideally be exclusively breastfed until age six months, and then breastfed until at least age two or beyond. They cite reasons including not just affordability, but a reduced risk of infection for infants (particularly respiratory and gastrointestinal disease), but reduced risk of various cancers and postpartum depression for the mother, and a reduced risk of diabetes and obesity in adults who had been breastfed, as well as better scores on intelligence tests the longer a person was breastfed. Breastmilk contains antibodies and immune supportive properties that help the baby stay healthy and well, as well as compounds such as maternal microRNA, and HAMLET, which recent research suggests may be protective against tumours, alongside the easily absorbed macro- and micro-nutrients we all know it for. It also supports healthy gut development, and is loaded with

probiotic bacteria, essential for many functions throughout the body. Not only this, but breastfeeding is great for emotional development and connection; something which is often overlooked but cannot be overstated enough. Independence is fostered by connection, reassurance, and comfort, and brain development is supported by knowing that their source of love and nurturing is always going to be there for them. Being able to ‘check in’ with a breastfeed is a great way of supporting this for many children. None of these benefits stop at any particular age. In the second year, for example, breastmilk will provide a child with 94% of its vitamin B12 requirements, 76% of folate, 75% of vitamin A and 60% of vitamin C, as well as essential fatty acids and protein.

THE WEST VS THE REST: ARE WE NORMAL?

Despite our very low breastfeeding rates in New Zealand the Western world, globally, the average age of weaning appears to be around age 2.8 years, with many cultures feeding well beyond this. In Mongolia, for example, there is a 65% rate of infants exclusively breastfed until six months, and it is not uncommon to see children breastfed until age five or six, with a saying that “the best wrestlers [their national sport] breastfed until six”. Glasses of milk are enjoyed by the elderly and other family members, and it is a valuable commodity. A few figures from other countries, taken from the WHO: Bangladesh has a rate of over 90% of children breastfed at age two. In Rwanda, the number is

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77%. In Korea, it’s 36.5%, By contrast, here in New Zealand, data from the Growing Up in New Zealand cohort released in 2017 suggests a mere 16% rate of exclusive breastfeeding at age six months, 37% were breastfed for ≥12 months and 13% for ≥24 months.

WHAT IF THEY’RE STILL WANTING A BREASTFEED AT HIGH SCHOOL?!

The natural, biological age of weaning for human infants is around age 3-7, with some going beyond even that, and some weaning earlier. Much depends on the shape of the jaw, which changes as milk teeth are lost and adult teeth come in, eventually preventing the ability of a child to latch properly and leading to breastfeeding ceasing naturally. In other words, you don’t need to worry about a teenager still wanting to be latched on, as the child will eventually wean naturally, usually over a period of several months, the same way all other stages in childhood eventuate as they grow and progress towards the puberty years. A myth that often pops up is that if you continue past a year, you’ll “never be able to get them off the boob” - not only is this demonstrably untrue in terms of our physiology, but it takes away from the opportunity of the child to slowly let go and wean on their own terms, which can be a beautiful process for many families, and for the mother to wean on her own terms, too.

THE PRACTICALITIES

When breastfeeding older children, there are certain aspects that can be more challenging than feeding infants. For example, they can become very acrobatic, trying to breastfeed with legs over shoulders, upside down, or any number of other ways. They may become a little demanding, pushing boundaries around breastfeeding the way they push them in any other aspect of their lives, or pulling on and off when out in public. All of these are easily dealt with by talking to the child and being firm - as in any other stage, things need to work for both partners in the dyad, but the great thing about toddlers and older children is that they’re better at communicating and able to understand things better, so you’re able to establish boundaries and rules together that work for you both. They also tend to cut nursing sessions down to shorter times, space them out more as solids are

better established - though some children prefer breastmilk over solids well into their second year - and are less reliant on it. Having it there when they’re upset, needing reassurance or comfort, in the middle of a tantrum, or just wanting to reconnect in the midst of their busy day is enormously helpful for their development, but also for your own. A few moments of peace and a cuddle can make your day!! Many women find that toddlers and older children prefer to just have one or two feeds a day, morning and night, or to feed overnight instead. Some women will pump at work, or simply feed when they reconnect with their child at the end of the day, and others will still find their toddler or older child wanting it seven or eight times in a 24 hour period - there are so many variations of normal, and much will come down to what works for you and your family. One of the greatest benefits I’ve personally found is when they’re unwell. Feeding sessions will often increase in frequency and duration for those times, but it’s so reassuring knowing they’re not only still getting hydration and nourishment when they’re off their food, but that they’re also receiving huge numbers of antibodies, immune factors and probiotics to help fight the bugs so much faster.

MAKE IT NORMAL!

The more people decide to breastfeed past that year mark, the more normal it will become and the easier it will be for those of us who decide to buck the societal trend. Breastfeeding toddlers and older children is a fantastic parenting tool with so many benefits, it is well worth considering for those who enjoy it.

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FAMILY FRIENDLY OUTING

THE HERB FARM CAFÉ By Renee Barbour This is more than just a café; it’s a destination 18km out of Palmerston North, that is slightly off the beaten track. You will find the café located between Palmerston North and Ashhurst at 86 Grove Road, hidden from the road nestled within the two acres of themed gardens.

This café is one of my must-visit locations when we have out of town visitors, and it’s a great way to spend a morning or afternoon entertaining the kids whilst still getting your coffee fix.

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When visiting any café with the kids there are four must-haves, and The Herb Farm has them all.

The childrens play area gets a big thumbs up, with various pieces of play equipment, and isn’t far from the cafe space.

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Space (we all know that prams take up plenty of it)

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Changing facilities (nothing worse than having to change a nappy in the back seat of the car)

So whilst the kids were playing in the sandpit and my husband sat watching, we ordered our food, which was beautifully presented and tasty.

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Good food options for the kids (having options that aren’t deep fried)

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Good coffee (last on the list but definitely very important)

Once we were done with that it was time to explore. With two acres of gardens it is easy to lose track of the time. Don’t be overwhelmed; you can explore at your own pace and the paths are pram friendly. It was great to see the kids being able to run around and see what treasures they could find next. Dinosaur eggs and fairies were the favourites for my two. With plenty of space inside and out for prams and larger groups, why not make this the location for your next coffee group? Open between 10am & 4.30pm 7 days a week this is my must visit destination.

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RECIPE

CARAMELISED BANANA DUTCH PANCAKE WITH STRAWBERRIES Why not surprise Dad with this delicious Dutch pancake for brunch this Father’s Day. This recipe comes from My Lovely Little Lunchbox and is a great chance to get the kids involved in making something yummy for you all to enjoy on Father’s Day. After that, why not get out and enjoy this beautiful region? A trip to the park or bike along the river, play at the museum or get adventuring somewhere new… enjoy a special day together and do something different.

INGREDIENTS

METHOD

• 3 large bananas, cut into thick slices

Preheat oven to 220 degrees celsius.

• 1 tablespoon butter

In a 30cm oven proof fry pan, melt butter. Add the bananas and brown sugar and cook for 2-3 minutes or until the bananas are slightly caramelised.

• 1 tablespoon brown sugar • 3 large eggs • 2 tablespoons white sugar

Meanwhile, place the eggs, white sugar, plain flour, cinnamon, milk, vanilla and salt into a large mixing bowl and whisk until combined. Don’t be alarmed if the batter is slightly lumpy, this is perfectly normal.

• 3/4 cup plain flour • 1 teaspoon cinnamon, ground • 3/4 cup milk • 1/2 teaspoon vanilla • pinch of salt • 1 punnet of fresh strawberries, hulled and quartered • 1/3 cup flaked toasted almonds (if your little one isn’t quite ready to eat nuts, simply leave the almonds out) • icing sugar, to dust • yoghurt, to serve

Pour the batter over the caramelised bananas and pop into the oven to bake for 15-20 minutes or until puffed and gorgeously golden. Top the pancake with the quartered strawberries and flaked almonds and dust with a little icing sugar. Serve generous wedges of the banana studded pancake alongside a little yoghurt. Enjoy x Recipe from www.mylovelylittlelunchbox.com

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COMMUNITY SUPPORT GROUPS Across Te Kotahitanga O Te Wairua We can provide a range of social services which include: Counselling, Family support (including respite care for children), Parenting advice/information and programmes, Advice on other services available for parents and families. Contact: Graeme on (06) 356 7486 or visit www.across.org.nz Allergy New Zealand Support groups are a great way to meet others in a similar situation to you. They are very relaxed, informal sessions to share ideas, discuss your concerns, and get information and resources. Our regional support group is there to help put you in contact with others, to provide you with information such as those all important recipes, and to listen when you need someone to talk to. They are not medically qualified but can refer your queries on and seek information on your behalf. For further information phone 0800 34 0800 or visit www.allergy.org.nz Babywearers Manawatu This is a great way to try different carriers while finding a carrier that suits you and your baby. Babywearers Manawatu Sling Library is on most Wednesdays 12 pm - 1 pm (check FB for up to date info) at Palmerston North Parents Centre, 30 Waldegrave Street, Palmerston North. Membership is one off payment of $10 and carrier hire costs $5 for one week.https://www.facebook.com/groups/ babywearersmanawatu/ Brain Injury Association Central Districts We provide advocacy information and support for people with brain injury, their families, whanau and carers. For more information call (06) 354 3540. Breastfeeding Help An IBCLC (often called lactation consultant) is a breastfeeding specialist qualified to prevent, recognise, and resolve breastfeeding problems. All members of NZCLA hold the professional qualification of International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC). Any mother, family member or health professional interested in obtaining the contact details of an IBCLC can phone 0800 4 LACTATION (0800 452 282) during daytime hours. HOPE An opportunity for parents of premature babies to meet and chat and to offer hope and support to those who currently have babies in the Neo-Natal Unit. Graduates welcome. Held at: Plunket Family Centre, 42 Albert Street, Palmerston North. Monday 1pm – 2.30pm. Contact: Karlyn Sullivan-Jones (06) 353 0663 or karlynandmark@xnet.co.nz Itchy Kids A national support group for parents and whanau who care for children with eczema and allergies. For more information contact Sarah Hartley 027 333 7385 or email hartleyfamilynz@gmail.com or visit itchykids.org.nz La Leche League coffee group 3rd Tuesday of every month at 10am, all welcome. Contact Jo Walsh 0273818546 for location Manawatu Toy Library Now located at 200 Church Street, Palmerston North, this fabulous toy library has a collection of over 2000 toys. Our members include families, carers, and educational groups. We have toys suitable for babies 5+ months through to school age children. Membership costs $95 per annum or $60 for six months. You are welcome to visit to see what we offer. To find out more, including opening hours: manawatutoylibrary.nz, or call 027 364 6911. Manawatu Down Syndrome Association Regional contact is Andrea Wales (06) 356 1767.

Manawatu Home Birth Association Offering information, advice and support to women and their families seeking to birth their babies at home. Birth pools and other equipment available for hire. Library, sibling kits, and bimonthly newsletters also available. Call (06) 356 BABY (06 356 2229) for more information. Manline Manline services are unique in that we are the only “men helping men” organisation in the Manawatu and Tararua region offering services for men to explore issues within their lives. Our programs are designed to be educational, developmental, rehabilitative, and preventative. http://www.manline.co.nz/home or 06 358 1211 Miscarriage Support Miscarriage can be a very lonely experience and is often not talked about. Miscarriage support groups have produced quality information and pamphlets for women/couples who may need information and support. These invaluable resources can be downloaded from miscarriage.org.nz Methodist Social Services Offering free programmes for primary/intermediate aged children and their parents/caregivers, around the areas of anger management, grief loss and change, and confidence building. We also offer family, couple, and individual counselling, and have both male and female counsellors available. Advocacy and social work support services are provided along with an emergency food service. For all enquiries, please call 06 350 0307, 663 Main Street, Palmerston North. Palmerston North Breastfeeding support group We provide a relaxed place to come and ask questions about breastfeeding and parenting , we hold regular meeting on the first Monday of the month at ACROSS, 294a Church Street, Palmerston North at 10 am. We have a library with a wide range of books relating to breastfeeding and parenting. http://www. lalecheleague.org.nz/palmerston-north or https://www.facebook. com/PNbreastfeedingsupport/ Parent to Parent Supporting families of children with a special need, health impairment, or disability. For more information please phone (06) 355 0787or email manawatu@parent2parent.org.nz Parentline 24 Hour Crisis Line. Offering help and support for parents 24 hours a day. Phone 0800 4 FAMILY. Plunket Education Services For parent education classes please contact the Plunket family centre in Albert Street, Palmerston North, (06) 356 7248 for more information regarding classes in 2016. Reflux Support Contact: Sharon 354 7280 Sands A voluntary group who have lost babies before, during or after birth. They can provide first hand support, guidance, and information on miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death. Further information and support can be found by contacting Shaun and Gaylene Vivian (06) 356 9715 or visiting sands.org.nz Supergrans Manawatu Charitable Trust Supergrans Manawatu is all about helping people help themselves. A service to all to brush up on the basic skills needed to provide for oneself or for a family. Our motto is not a ‘do it for you today’ it is a ‘help you to do it tomorrow’ concept. This is a free service. It is concerned with encouraging better skills in those everyday tasks around the home that sustain life. We work with you in your own home. Phone (06) 354 3804 or 021 0669 442 for further information.

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MEMBER DISCOUNTS

10% OFF

FREE! Address labels with any birth announcement, thank you cards until 30/12/18

Coleman Mall, Palmerston North Ph: 06 357 1976

GRANT IRVINE PHARMACY

10% OFF

Ground Floor, TSB Building 12-19, Fitzherbert Ave, Palmerston North

168 Albert Street, Palmerston North Ph: 06 357 8782

10% off for all massages over $40 to PC members

06 358 8549

PRECIOUS MEMORIES

$10 OFF Present this coupon and receive $10 off a framed sculpture. Ph: Katte 06 329 3262 or visit www.preciousmemories.co.nz

FREE TEA OR COFFEE Receive a free tea or coffee with the purchase of food. 95 the Square, Palmerston North

HAIR TRANSFORMER

15% OFF Discounted, low ratio childcare – For 30 hours WAIVED weekly admin & placement fees

TV aerial/satellite installer

10% OFF All current PNPC members receive 10% off labour only Call Now for a FREE Quote Robert Torok Ph: 06 354 5664 or 027 294 3972

Link Arcade, Broadway Avenue Palmerston North Ph: 06 358 1309

$10 OFF All current PNPC members receive $10 off, offer cannot be used in conjunction with any other offer. Sharlene Adkins (t) 06 355 4939 (e) sharlene@smallp.com (m) 021 185 2064. www.smallp.com

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PLAYGROUPS IN YOUR AREA Plunket Family Centre Playgroup

ASHHURST

Ashhurst Playcentre

AWAPUNI/WESTEND Kingston St Chapel

CENTRAL

42 Albert Street

021-808-340

Mondays & Fridays 10am to 12noon

118 Standford Street

326 9270

Mon to Thurs 9am - 12pm

Kingston St

358 0716

Tues & Thurs 9am- 11:30am

Crossroads Early Childhood Salvation Army Rudolf Steiner Seventh Day Adventist Church Playgroup with Hope

220 Church St 358 0669 cnr Church & Princess Sts 358 7455 187 Ruahine St 354 4514 257 Ferguson St 282 Cuba Street (opposite Briscoes) Contact: Heather 027 334 9981

Mon to Fri 9am to 12noon Thurs 9:30am to 11am Tues 9:30am - 12noon & Thu 2pm -3:30pm Wed 9:30 to 11:00am Tuesday 9.30-11.30am playgroup@hopevineyard.nz

FEILDING Feilding Playcentre Community Fielding Playcentre Doodlebugs SPACE Bright Sparks Preschool Programme

254A Kimbolton Rd 42 North St Knox Hall, North St 22 Bowen St Feilding Library

323 6100 323 1918 323 7240 323 7221 323 5373

Mon to Fri 9am to 1pm Mon to Fri 9am to 1pm Thurs 9am to 11:30am Contact for more details Wed 10:30am to 11:30am

12-32 Brentwood Ave

358 2255

Fri 8:30am to 12noon

339 Albert St Huia St extn

357 9411 357 0791

Wed 9:30am to 10:30am Mon, Tues, Thurs & Fri 9am - 12noon

HIGHBURY

Te Aroha Noa Community Services

HOKOWHITU

St Albans Church Park Road Playcentre

LINTON

Linton Playgroup

MILSON

Milson Playcentre

OPIKI

Opiki Playgroup

ROSLYN/KELVIN GROVE

Kelvin Grove Salvation Army Church on Vogel Plunket Roslyn Over 1’s Coffee Group

Linton Camp (Community Centre) 3519970

Mon & Wed 9am to 11:30am

1a Seaforth Ave

Mon, Wed & Fri 9am-12noon

356 9824

St Andrews Church, Main Road

Tues 10am to 12noon

99-103 Kaimanawa St 127 Vogel St 177 Vogel Street

Wed 9:30am to 11:30am Wed 9:30am to 12noon Wednesdays 9.30am to 11am

353 0917 357 7336 021-808-340

RONGOTEA

Te Kawau Playcentre Medway St 324 8246

SANSON

Sanson Playcentre

TERRACE END

St David‘s Presbyterian Church Terrace End Playcentre

Mon to Thurs 9:15am to 12:15pm, Fri 11:45am to 2:45pm

2 Philipps St

329 3503

Tues and Fri 9am to 12noon

Cnr Main & Rainforth 77 Ruamahanga Cres

358 3246 0221400610

Tues 10:00am to 11:30am Wed, Thu, Fri 9.30am to 12.30 school term

SPECIALIST GROUPS

La Leche League 355 3104 Manawatu Multiple Birth Club Kingston St Church 357 9773 Parent 2 Parent Special Needs Matipo St 355 0787 ABCD early intervention group 9 Woburn Place 0800 693 724 - Down Syndrome French for Preschoolers 1st floor, 47 the Square 021 207 0114 Spanish Class – 2 yrs and up 355 8257 Plunket Bhutanese Playgroup 25 Franklin Ave 3574844 Book Bubs baby book club PN Library

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Contact for more details Every 2nd Wed,10am 1st and 3rd Tues each month, 1-3pm Once a month on Thurs 10am to 12noon Fri 3.30pm to 4.30pm Contact for further details Mon 12.30 – 2.30pm Thursday 10.30 – 11 am fortnightly.


PREGGY TO PRESCHOOL GARAGE SALE

Date: Saturday 29th April 2017 Time: 9.00am – 11.00am Place: Central Baptist Church, 190 Church Street (Opposite the Fire Station) Come along for great bargains on new & used baby/children’s clothes, toys, books, nursery equipment, maternity wear and more!

old Coin Entry – This is a fundraising event for Parents Centre

ok a table online at www.palmyparentscentre.org.nz

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