As well as the groom, the principal men at your wedding are likely to include the best man, ushers and fathers. Suzan St Maur, author of ‘The A-Z of Wedding Worries’ offers good advice for these essential chaps
hat is it about weddings that makes some grooms develop total allergy syndrome and run for the hills until it’s time to go to the ceremony? A cynical view would be that organising a wedding is far too daunting a prospect for men to cope with, so rather than be shown up by the superior organising skills of women, they avoid as much contact with it as possible! More realistically, I think it’s a case that men aren’t as good at dealing with detail as women are. They can see the point of, but can’t gain much enjoyment from, all the agonising women do over colour schemes, floral choices, menus, dress designs, etc, etc. We women on the other hand can cheerfully lose ourselves in a snowstorm of colour swatches, brochures, pictures and other material that would drive most men mad. As weddings are a time when emotions can run at a pretty high voltage, some grooms are concerned that if they do offer opinions they might upset the wrong person. Well, that’s their excuse, anyway. And some men... well, just aren’t interested. They want to be married, but are intimidated by the fuss of a wedding. Now, before we go any further on this topic let’s get one thing clear: you need to make a decision on whether the groom should be involved in the wedding plans or not. There may be some circumstances in which the bride, her family and friends are more than delighted to run the whole show without interference from elsewhere. If that’s the case, move on to the next topic! If not, and you want the groom to be usefully employed in the wedding process, read on here.
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Published on Mar 23, 2010