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What motivated you to write I Forgive You,

a relationship after the relationship has been

But…?

damaged by the hurtful actions of the other

person.”1 To forgive, you have to find it in yourself

I had been studying the life and writings

of Fray Luis de León, a 16th-century professor,

to want and choose to forgive. Enright and North

Catholic theologian, and poet, who was

suggest that acknowledging the pain of an offense

denounced by the Inquisition and spent nearly

is an indispensable prerequisite to getting to

five years in prison. Legend has it that when he returned to his classroom at the University of Salamanca, he began his lecture with, “As we were saying yesterday….” It struck me as such a generous act of forgiveness that I began to explore this Christian virtue. This decision led to my book and opened a second career for me as a seminar presenter. It also opened the way for me to have a healing encounter with my father. My father was a responsible provider but mostly absent from our lives. The weekends he was home, he was distant and moody and rarely participated in the lives of his children. One day, when my parents were living with us in Puerto Rico, I found him in an unusually pleasant mood and thought this might be my opportunity to let him know how I felt. Initially his response was predictably defensive, but soon afterwards he came looking for me and apologized for his outburst, telling me he understood how I felt because it was exactly how he felt when his own father abandoned him as a child. A long, tearful hug swept away years of hurt and misunderstandings, launching me even deeper into the study of this healing virtue. What is forgiveness?

Portrait of Forgiveness She was generous. Perhaps not with everyone or consistently, but Mary gave a gift to Jesus that no one else provided—expensive perfume to symbolize Jesus’ sacrifice to redeem us. She understood what Jesus was about to do and what that meant for her. She was forgiven, and receiving this gift had changed everything for her. Jesus acknowledged her offering by promising that her story of faith would be told throughout the world. (Matthew 26:6-13)

One of my favorite definitions of forgiveness

was developed by psychologists McCullough, Sandage, and Worthington: “An increase in our internal motivation to repair and maintain

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Pacific Union Recorder—July 2019  

A Hymn to God the Father Wilt thou forgive that sin where I begun, Which was my sin, though it were done before? Wilt thou forgive that sin...

Pacific Union Recorder—July 2019  

A Hymn to God the Father Wilt thou forgive that sin where I begun, Which was my sin, though it were done before? Wilt thou forgive that sin...