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Living Colors Gala Celebrates Rainbow Flag Creator Gilbert Baker

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he GLBT Historical Society will celebrates another exciting year of preserving, protecting and displaying the history of the LGBTQ community in all its diversity with s special tribute to Rainbow Flag Creator Gilbert Baker at the War Memorial Green Room in San Francisco. Guests will be welcomed by co-chairs and hosts Alex U. Inn of Momma’s Boyz and KINGDOM! and Marke Bieschke of 48 Hills and The Stud. Renowned transgender opera singer Breanna Sinclairé and special guest Honey Mahogany of RuPaul’s Drag Race will provide entertainment. A four-course meal will be served, with hosted bar. A silent auction featuring historical memorabilia, vintage photos, art, dining and travel packages, and other unique lots will take place throughout the evening. This year’s gala honors the memory of artist and community activist Gilbert Baker (1951-2017), best known for his creation of the rainbow flag that has come to symbolize the LGBTQ community throughout the world. The GLBT Historical Society is also announcing its acquisition of Baker’s artwork, memorabilia and personal papers, an invaluable addition to the institution’s archives and museum. Gala guests will

receive a preview of the acquisition. The society will name Baker the posthumous recipient of its annual History Maker Award, granted “for artistry and contributions to LGBTQ history and culture.” In addition, the society will honor historian and GLBT History Museum cofounder Amy Sueyoshi (Clio Award “for advancing understanding of LGBTQ history”) and Emily Rosenberg and Darlene Darlene DeManincor (Founders Award “for steadfast support, philanthropy and leadership.”) Sponsors for this year’s gala include Google; AT&T; and CSAA Insurance Group, a AAA Insurer. The Living Colors Gala media sponsor is 48 Hills. The Living Colors: 2017 GLBT Historical Society Gala will be held Saturday, October 14, from 6 to 9 p.m. in the Green Room at the War Memorial Performing Arts Center in San Francisco. Individual tickets are $150 and a table of 10 is $1,250. For tickets and more information, visit www.glbthistory.org/gala

Transgender opera singer Breanna Sinclairé will perform at the 2017 GLBT Historical Society’s Living Colors Gala. Photo courtesy Breanna Sinclairé.

Joint Chiefs Chairman Gen. Dunford Opposes Trans Ban

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oint Chiefs Chairman Gen. Dunford indicated that he opposes President Trump’s transgender military ban, telling the Senate Armed Services Committee on Sept. 26th “I believe that any individual who meets the physical and mental standards … should be afforded the opportunity to continue to serve.” As reported by the Military Times, “He added that he had previously given that advice to administration officials in private in the past, and told senators he would continue to give that advice if lawmakers allow him to continue in his leadership post for two more years.” “General Dunford is absolutely right. Any qualified American should be able to serve their country, and that includes transgender people,” said American Military Partner Association (AMPA) President Ashley Broadway-Mack. “President Trump is clearly not listening to military leadership on this issue, which is deeply troubling on so many levels. Our service members deserve the support of their commander in chief.” AMPA recently joined a lawsuit challenging Trump’s transgender military ban in court. Karnoski v. Trump is brought by Lambda Legal and OutServe-SLDN on behalf of several transgender individuals, AMPA, the Human Rights Campaign, and Gender Justice League.

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Greater Palm Springs Pride Announces Grand Marshals

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avy SEAL Kristin Beck, singer-entertainer and restaurateur Michael Holmes, fitness expert Craig Ramsay and celebrity hairstylist Brandon Liberati have been chosen Grand Marshals for the annual Palm Springs Pride Parade for 2017.

Recognized as the National Grand Marshal is retired United States Navy SEAL Kristin Beck. Kristin Beck, born Christopher Beck, is known to be the first female Navy SEAL. Beck distinguished herself in 20 years of exceptionally meritorious service with Special Operations Forces (SOF) in the U.S. Navy SEAL teams before retiring in 2011 and after taking part in thirteen deployments, including seven combat deployments. She was a member of the United States Naval Special Warfare Development Group (DEVGRU), a special counter-terrorism unit SEAL Team Six, and received multiple military awards and decorations, including a Bronze Star with a “V” for valor, a Purple Heart and the Defense Meritorious Service Medal. “We are proud to work with the Transgender Community Coalition to honor Kristin Beck who is a nationally recognized advocate for equality for all people. Beck’s participation allows us to honor her service and help raise the visibility of transgender and gender non-conforming people, and address the issues the community faces,” said Ron

deHarte, President of Greater Palm Springs Pride. Recognized as Community Grand Marshal is Palm Springs’ very own singer-entertainer and restaurateur Michael Holmes. Known as owner of Michael Holmes’ Purple Room, the leader of The Michael Holmes Trio, and the creator and star of The Judy Show! Michael is recognized for his generosity in supporting the local community. From entertaining to hosting a wide variety of charity benefits, Michael Holmes makes a positive and lasting impact on Palm Springs. Not content to just run a successful business, Michael also participates in the local community fulfilling a personal goal to give back. Generous with his time and not shy at the microphone, you can see Michael regularly hosting a wide variety of charity benefits, for diverse charities including the American Cancer Society, the Palm Springs Animal Shelter, The LGBT Center of the Desert, Dezart Productions, the Gay Men’s Chorus, David Green’s Musical Theatre University, Cinema Diverse: The Palm Springs LGBTQ Film Festival, and Dine Out For Life. A local

businessman and community leader with a big heart. Fitness expert Craig Ramsay and celebrity hairstylist Brandon Liberati who shared their first year of marriage with the world on the Bravo show Newlyweds: The First Year, have been named Celebrity Grand Marshals of the 2017 Palm Springs Pride Parade. Craig and Brandon are no strangers to Palm Springs. They love the city so much they were married at the Riviera Resort on May 11, 2014. When Craig and Brandon decided to tie the knot they also decided to share their love with the world. Their nuptials were filmed for their Bravo show and appeared in the premiere episode. They were the first federally legal samesex married couple on national television. As America watched Brandon and Craig’s love story unfold, the couple found themselves at the forefront of marriage equality. They

utilized this new platform to change hearts and minds around the globe. Awards will be presented to the celebrity and community Grand Marshals at OUT PSP: A Kick Off to Pride, on October 25, 2017. The national grand marshal will be recognized at the VIP Pre-Parade Breakfast, at the Regional Medical Center’s El Mirador Tower Building the morning of the parade. Tickets for the breakfast are available at www.bit.ly/PreParty17. All marshals will ride in the Pride Parade on November 5. The parade steps off at 10 a.m. at Palm Canyon Dr. and Tachevah and proceeds downtown on Palm Canyon Dr. to the main entrance of the Pride Festival at W. Amado Rd. Tickets and event details for OUT PSP are available at https://pspride.org/events-2/ parade/grand-marshals/

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San Diego LGBT Center to Celebrate Saphire Anniversary

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rom what was once a single answering machine set-up in a utility closet, The San Diego LGBT Community Center has grown into a thriving community center that provided more than 65,000 service visits last year alone. Their Sapphire Anniversary represents 45 years of service, and they want to celebrate with you! “Whether you wore bell bottoms, stirrup pants, bike shorts or skinny jeans when you first came to The Center, we hope that you will save the date and celebrate with us for this special anniversary gala,” said Dr. Delores A. Jacobs, the Centers CEO on their website. The 45th anniversary gala will be a three-part-spectacular! Start at the preparty with cocktails and a fantastic silent auction in the garden, then enjoy the main event with a 3-course gourmet gala dinner, and top it all off with some extra fun at this year’s after-party, full of dancing, live music, and a featured DJ.

What other surprises do they have in store? You’ll have to join them to find out! Dinner seating is limited to 700, but you can also join the fun at the after-party only. “Enjoy socializing, signature cocktails, dining and lots of dancing as we recall the triumphs and challenges of the last forty-five years,” said Jacobs. “Get your tickets while they last because our signature gala only comes around every 5 years. Proceeds benefit the vital community programs and services at The Center.” The Gala will be held Saturday, October 21 from 6 - 11 p.m. at the Hotel Coronado. for more information and tickets, visit events.thecentersd.org/site/ Calendar?id=101742&view=Detail

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Economic Justice Month Launches at SF LGBT Center

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his October, the SF LGBT Center will be hosting Economic Justice Month (EJM), a month full of programs and events dedicated to highlighting the work that needs to be done in our communities to achieve economic and social justice.

“Economic Justice Month at the Center is extremely vital for the people we support through our programs and services,” said SF LGBT Center Director of Economic Development Clair Farley.

This year’s motto, “Equality & Liberation,” is based on the Center’s mission: to connect our diverse community to opportunities, resources, and each other to achieve our vision of a stronger, healthier, and more equitable world for LGBTQ people and our

“LGBTQ affluence is a myth and we need to do whatever we can to elevate one another in these challenging times. “Our communities are at the crosshairs of a hostile White House and Congress that refuse to recognize our worth,

transphobia is running rampant across the nation, immigrants are being demonized, and our healthcare is at risk of being taken away. We are working hard to make sure our communities have housing, have safe and inclusive workplaces, and dream for more equitable future.“ Key event during EJM 2017 include: October 5: EJM Launch Event; October 21: LGBTQ Financial Planning Day; October 26: LGBTQ Career Fair; and October 28: Queer Street Market Expo. In addition to these events, there will be a wide array of workshops on topics such as financial education, the housing crisis in San Francisco, tenants’ rights, managing student debt, and finding employment, as well as events specifically tailored to youth, seniors, and the trans and gender nonconforming (GNC) communities. Additionally, throughout the month the Center will highlight some of the amazing work done by partner organizations across the city. The full schedule can be found at sfcenter.org/ejm.

marginalization. “Our bills this session protect vulnerable LGBTQ seniors, people living with HIV and AIDS, transgender and gender nonconforming Californians and aim to correct the wrongs associated with laws that criminalized same-sex behavior in the past. We ask Governor Brown to sign these pieces of legislation so important to LGBTQ Californians.” The Equality California-sponsored bills passed by the California Legislature this session are as follows: SB 239: Modernizing Discriminatory HIV Criminalization Laws (Wiener); SB 179: Gender Recognition Act of 2017 (Atkins); SB 219: Seniors Long Term

Care Bill of Rights (Wiener); SB 384: Tiered System for California Sex Offender Registry (Wiener); SB 310: Name and Dignity Act (Atkins); AB 677: Reducing LGBT Disparities in Education and Employment (Chiu);and AB 1556: Fair Employment and Housing Act Clarification (Stone); In addition to the bills now awaiting the Governor’s signature, the Legislature has passed two Equality California-sponsored resolutions: AJR 16: Violence in Chechnya (Low); and AJR 22: Transgender Service Members (Low) The Governor has until October 15 to sign or veto legislation passed by the Legislature.

allies. The Center works to achieve its goal by offering yearlong programs, resources, and services that address the needs of communities most impacted by oppression and a constantly changing economy.

EQCA’s 2017 Legislative Wrap-Up: 7 Bills to Governor

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he California Legislature has sent seven Equality Californiasponsored bills to Governor Jerry Brown for his signature. In addition, lawmakers approved two resolutions sponsored by Equality California. If the bills are signed into law, it will bring to 127 the number of pieces of legislation advanced by Equality California to advance the health and wellbeing of LGBTQ people. “California has the world’s strongest civil rights protections for LGBTQ people, but 8

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until the work is done, EQCA will continue to fight for LGBTQ Californians” said Rick Zbur, executive director of Equality California. “This year, each of our sponsored bills helped address an area where LGBTQ people still suffer discrimination and

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San Jose LGBTQ Center to Host Health & Wellness Fair

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n today’s increasingly progressive society, there is still a distinct lack of healthcare resources for certain members of the LGBTQ+ community.

Oftentimes, it can be awkward or anxiety-provoking to engage in frank dialogue with healthcare providers. In fact, certain members of the trans-community have found it difficult to even receive care. The Billy DeFrank LGBTQ Center has partnered with Dr. Derek Ko of ChiroBalance Spine & Sport (a local, openly gay, business owner and Doctor of Chiropractic) to present the Center’s first Health and Wellness Fair. Many leaders of the community will speak, including keynote speakers Supervisor Ken Yeager and Garry Johnson, a Nursing Professor, ICU RN.

Union Square Celebrates Ten Years of Outdoor Ice Skating

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an Francisco’s favorite holiday tradition, the Safeway Holiday Ice Rink in Union Square presented by Alaska Airlines, is celebrating ten years of outdoor ice skating in the bustling and festive locale that is quintessential San Francisco.

Featuring new events and holiday festivities, the anniversary season kicks-off on Wednesday, November 1, 2017 at 9:30 a.m. with a fun-filled opening day ceremony, followed by an all-day birthday celebration on Friday, November 3, 2017, where the community is invited to enjoy free ice skating*, a variety of performances, and special birthday treats! The milestone season features the return of favorite holiday traditions, including “We want to create an inclusive, and Drag Queens on Ice (December 7, 2017), pressure-free environment for our visitors,” Flashback Fridays (November 10, 2017; said Gabrielle Antolovich, Board President, December 8, 2017; and January 12, 2018), Billy DeFrank LGBTQ Community Center. and Polar Bear Skate (January 1, 2018), as “If they should be interested in purchasing or well as a lineup up of new events and hiring services, they may certainly enquire about it. However, we encourage our vendors to spread information and knowledge as opposed to pushing for sales.” The Fiar will be held Saturday October 14th from 1 to 5 p.m. and admission is free, but donations welcomed, at the Billy DeFrank LGBTQ Center, 938 The Alameda, in San Jose. For more information, visit defrank.org

promotions for all ages. Hailed as one of the “Best Ice Skating Rinks in the U.S.,” by the “TODAY” show, the Holiday Ice Rink in Union Square will remain open through the holiday season, closing on Monday, January 15, 2018. The ice rink will be open daily from 10 a.m. to 11:30 p.m., with the exception of closing at 9:30 p.m. on Sunday, December 31, 2017. Ticket prices for regular admission are $18 and $13 for children eight years old and under, with figure skate or hockey skate rental included in the cost of admission. For the lineup of special events for the season and advance tickets, visit www. unionsquareicerink.com.

Drag Queens on Ice at Safeway Holiday Ice Rink in Union Square presented by Alaska Airlines.

SF Pride Elects New Board and Chooses 2018 Theme

San Francisco Pride has selected a new board that will govern the 2018 Pride Celebtation, scheduled for June 23 — 24, 2018, and a new theme, Generations of Strength, that recognizes the contributions of our seniors and the challenges of our youth. Pictured from left to right, back: William Walker, Anietie Ekanem, Nikki Calma, Melanie Nathan, Michelle Meow, Elizabeth Lanyon, Jacob Little, Amy Sueyoshi. In front: DJ Gray. Photo by Larry Nelson.

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Rita Moreno, Laverne Cox To New Initiative Aims to Receive Outfest Awards Chronicle LGBTQ+ History

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utfest will honor the Emmy, Grammy, Oscar, and Tony award winner Rita Moreno (West Side Story, One Day at a Time) and Emmy-nominated actress and equal rights advocate Laverne Cox (Orange Is the New Black, Doubt) at its 2017 Legacy Awards. Laverne Cox

The Los Angeles-based nonprofit organization promoting equality by creating, sharing, and protecting LGBT stories on the screen will also honor 22-time Academy Award winner The Weinstein Company at the Awards on Sunday, October 22nd. Merrill Lynch will return as the Presenting Sponsor. This year’s awards dinner will once again take place at performing arts venue Vibiana in downtown Los Angeles, with head chef Neal Fraser (Redbird). Moreno is receiving the James Schamus Ally Award, which honors the efforts of an individual in bringing LGBTQ stories to the forefront, for her role as Lydia Riera in the Netflix series One Day at a Time. This critically acclaimed series brings a unique spin to the typical coming out story-arc, telling the story of 15-year-old Elena Alvarez who is immediately supported by her Cuban-American mother and grandmother. Moreno has also been a long-time advocate for LGBTQ rights. Cox is receiving the Trailblazer Award in recognition of her groundbreaking role as Sophia Burset, in Netflix’s cultural phenomenon Orange is The New Black which earned her two Emmy nominations. Cox is the first trans woman of color to have a leading role on a mainstream scripted television show. The Weinstein Company will be honored 12 Outword California

with the Corporate Trailblazer Award in recognition for its innovative portrayal of the LGBT community in films such as Carol, The Imitation Game, Philomena, Bully, A Single Man, 3 Generations and Transamerica. “This year’s honorees have made it their life’s work to knock down stereotypes and barriers, and to advocate for a better, more inclusive world,” commented Outfest Executive Director, Christopher Racster. The Legacy Awards serves as a fundraiser to support the Outfest UCLA Legacy Project, which celebrates its 12th anniversary this year. Outfest and UCLA Film & Television Archive partnered in 2005 to create the Outfest UCLA Legacy Project, the only program in the world exclusively dedicated to saving and preserving LGBT moving images. The Legacy Project is aimed at the crisis in lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender moving image archiving. Many of the landmark LGBT films produced over the last 40-plus years are already in danger of fading away; their original exhibition prints are in tatters and their negatives are in woeful storage conditions, or even lost. For the last 12 years, the Legacy Project is proud to have collected more than 37,000 moving image items and to have restored 25 historically important film and video projects. Tickets are on sale now at www.outfest.org.

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hronicle, a new collaborative visual storytelling platform, has launched an initiative to crowdsource stories from LGBTQ+ individuals and organizations, creating a chronicle to tell the bigger story and visual history of the community.

People and organizations add photographs with descriptive details directly to the LGBTQ+ chronicle (currently 1948 - present) timeline to help build and be part of the story. The result is an informative resource and ongoing record that strengthens the community. Current participants include organizations and activists such as Gwen Smith, founder of National Transgender Day of Remembrance; Aydian Dowling, first trans man on the cover of Men’s Health; and young YouTube influencer Are They Gay. “One of the unique challenges with the LGBTQ+ community is that our history is often hidden away and forgotten,” noted Gwen Smith. “Having a platform like the LGBTQ+ chronicle for showcasing our images and stories gives us a chance to bring our tales out into the light, and give a rich, detailed look into our lives.” Multiple moderators are joining to curate content for the chronicle to ensure quality, accuracy, and inclusivity. With each photo added, users can include details like title,

description, location, and tags to document that moment in history within the larger story. “The LGBTQ+ chronicle is an open platform where the entire community can document and share the visual history and current events,” said Steven McBride, Founder/CEO of Chronicle. “There was no single visual record where everyone could come together to chronicle their story. We created Chronicle for this purpose — to benefit the greater community.” Chronicles and their individual images can both be easily shared through social media. Users can freely embed the full LGBTQ+ chronicle into their websites and blogs using the open API and embed code. LGBTQ+ advocates, organizations, journalists, and individuals are invited to add their noteworthy photos to the LGBTQ+ chronicle to be a part of the collaborative visual narrative. The chronicle can be accessed at onechronicle.com/chronicles/lgbtq.

You can submit your own photos and stories, like this one submitted by Diana Davies of a 1971 gay rights demonstration in Albany, NY., and help save the history of the LGBT Community at onechronicle.com/chronicles/lgbtq.

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An Ever Changing Palate Has Sent Me on a Pinot Noir Tear by Diana Kienle

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alates change. I have seen my own appreciation for different varietals evolve over time with the wines that I drink. When I was young, we had Liebfraumilch at the table – also know as “The Little Blue Nun.”

Failla Wines offers Private Spotlight Tasting, conducted underground in their rustic chic lounge that focuses on single vineyard designates in an exclusive and intimate setting. Photo courtesy Failla Wines.

My father was German; and this, in his mind, was appropriate for a young palate. I then fell in love with Kendall Jackson Chardonnay – which, by the way, is the number one selling Chardonnay in the U.S. No, it is not Rombauer, as popular as that wine is. Then I moved on to Merlot, Zinfandel, and so on up the “tannin scale.” By the way, there is a great blog written by Tim Gaiser, Master Sommelier, summarizing how he describes the journey of the palate. It’s called The Evolution of a Palate. As of late, I have been on a Pinot tear. It has captivated my palate, and I am looking to explore and taste as many as possible. This exploration of Pinot is what led me to Failla Wines, near Saint Helena in Napa Valley. Failla is a small, boutique winery that flies a little under the radar. I had become aware of Ehren Jordan, the owner and winemaker at Failla, through his work at Turley. He led the winemaking team for several years and took the opportunity to shift gears and direction. His first vintage under the Failla label was back in 1998. When it comes to varietals, Failla focuses on Chardonnay and Pinot Noir. Ehren also makes a Syrah, yet Pinot is the King at this property. I have visited twice in the last few months and enjoyed the experience both times. The folks leading the tastings are well-trained and well-educated hospitality hosts. This is not always the case. More so, the environment is relaxed and easy. There are different settings and tasting experiences you can choose from. The first visit I had was done in the grove with really enjoyable people whom I met for the first time. The second tasting took place in the cave, and I truly enjoyed the fellow tasters that I met around the table. Ah, but what about the wine you ask? They were all very enjoyable, well-crafted wines. The Chardonnay was more Burgundian in style, more elegant and finessed than butter and oak. The Pinots were also quite enjoyable with bright fruit notes and a floral nose. These are all well-crafted wines ready for your drinking pleasure. Enjoy! Diana Kienle is a freelance writer and blogs about wine at www.dianaswineblog.com. She can be reached at diana@dianaswineblog.com. OutwordCalifornia.com

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Equally Wed Can Help Make Your Vows Wow reviewed by Terri Schlichenmeyer

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our beloved asked. And you said “yes.” That’s all it took: so simple, yet so momentous and now you’re getting married. That’s nothing new these days; LGBTQ+ couples have weddings all the time, so how do you make yours special? With help from the new book Equally Wed by Kirsten Palladino, your vows will wow. Like many people, Palladino grew up dreaming of The Perfect Wedding. She could just picture it – but making it happen started out wrong: when she got engaged to her now-wife, Maria, and went looking for help getting started, she could only find books for straight couples. That was definitely not going to work, so the Palladinos created an online wedding magazine, and this book. So you just got engaged. As you might guess, there’s a lot of planning that goes into a wedding, starting with whom (and how) you tell about it. Palladino advocates being gentle with family members who may feel uncomfortable. She says, “… give them some time” and know how to decide to invite them or not. Time management will be your friend in this process, so find a system that works for you and be faithful to it. Keep phone numbers, contracts, ideas, lists, worksheets, and budgets in the same place, and keep track of all gifts received. Take a look at Palladino’s list of possible items needed, then remember that nothing there is mandatory. Decide on the kind of wedding you want, the venue you’ve dreamed about, and the size of your ceremony. Remember that age and gender of attendants isn’t cast in stone, and the only requisite for attire is comfort. Know what questions to ask the “wedding pros” you need to make your day special: a planner, photographer, videographer, the officiant, baker, bartenders, and your DJ. Remember that flowers are optional or you both can carry bouquets; in fact, your decorations and what you carry down the aisle can be anything unique to the two of you. Personalize the ceremony in ways that make you happy; there are all kinds of options and it’s your wedding. Ever since you were small, you’ve dreamed 14 Outword California

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of getting married but, if you don’t have a model to follow, it can be hard to know where to start and where to get what you want. Equally Wed shows prospective “grides” and “brooms” the path. Beginning with gender-neutral terms for wedding participants, author Kirsten Palladino progresses through the year-pluslong preparations for the Perfect Wedding, and beyond. Prospective newlyweds will find lists and bullet-points that are useful and reminders for things they may never have considered, including ideas that may seem to fall into an “over-the-top” category. Still, Palladino stresses that individualization is what makes a wedding special and that “Something will go wrong on your wedding day,” but nobody can ruin it unless you let them. This is an easy-to-use book that covers all bases, from “will you?” to “I do.” If there’s a wedding in your future and you need a starting point, Equally Wed is a big “YES!” Terri Schlichenmeyer is an avid reader and owner of The Bookworm Sez, a selfsyndicated book review column. She can be reached at bookwormsez@yahoo.com.

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