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The Art of LOVE AND DEVOTION

The Relationship Guide To Eternal Happiness and Romance

CEPHEUS JAXON


The Art of Love and Devotion

The Relationship Guide To Eternal Happiness and Romance

Copyright Š 2016 by CEPHEUS JAXON Registration # TXu 1-630-578 All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means without written permission of the author. ISBN 978-0-615-65707-9


This book is dedicated to my loving parents Robert and Hazel Wise. They were happily married for over fifty-five years (55) years. These two wonderful people are responsible for much of the wisdom contained in this handbook.

THE LOVE BOOK


From the author: “The Art of Love and Devotion� is an anthology of knowledge gathered from the finest university in the world, the University of Experience. My life chapters have prepared me with essential wisdom to help guide couples to passionate long lasting relationships. The Creator has divinely equipped me with the aptitude to bestow this information over to you. I thank you for your undivided attention. Society presents us with challenges and temptations that often make it difficult to maintain a sacred union. I truly trust that your comprehension of this text will help you to make wiser relationship decisions. The advice is intended to lead couples to behavior that helps keep love strong and vibrant. This guide will put you on the path of developing a meaningful and lasting love connection. Commitment can last a lifetime once you learn to love intelligently. The goal is to conduct yourselves in a manner which nourishes your partnership. Read the handbook carefully, and then pass it along to a friend, spouse or mate. Share it with everyone that you know who is serious about love. Every good relationship can be better; and many troubled unions can be furnished with the knowledge to succeed.


We all can use a greater understanding and appreciation of how to sustain happiness and romance in our relationships. Thus is the purpose of “The Art of Love and Devotion.� CEPHEUS JAXON


CONTENTS INTRODUCTION: A Book of Wisdom and Practicality .................................. 1

PART I: The Intricate Dynamics of Love ........................................ 5 Romantic Love ...................................................................... 5 Perfect Love ........................................................................... 6 Organic Love ......................................................................... 7 Unconditional Love............................................................... 7 Soul Mates ............................................................................. 8 True Love or Infatuation? .................................................... 9 Jealous Love ........................................................................ 10 Wrong Love .......................................................................... 11 One-Sided Love ....................................................................13 Distant Love .........................................................................14 Abusive Love ........................................................................ 15 Love and Hate ......................................................................16 Two Loves ............................................................................ 17 Love after Infidelity ............................................................ 18 Love and Race ..................................................................... 20 Puppy Love...........................................................................21


PART II: The Essentials of Successful Love and Marriage ............ 23 Love and Marriage ............................................................. 23 The Game of Love ............................................................... 24

MUTUAL UNDERSTANDINGS ......................................... 25 Partners and Best Friends .................................................. 25 Demand Respect ................................................................. 26 Like Me or Like Me Not? ..................................................... 26 Sexual Loyalty .................................................................... 27 Stability and Reliability...................................................... 28 Intellectual Bonding ........................................................... 29 Building Equity ................................................................... 30 Little Things Are Big ............................................................31 King of His Castle ............................................................... 32 Domestic Duties .................................................................. 33

COMMUNICATION SKILLS .............................................. 34 The Art of Talking and Sharing ......................................... 34 Resolving Conflict ............................................................... 35 Sharing Fears ..................................................................... 36 Listening and Hearing ....................................................... 37 “Me” to “We” Adjustment .................................................... 38 Choose Your Words Wisely ................................................ 39 The Word “No” .................................................................... 40 Tit-for-Tat ............................................................................41 Apologizing ..........................................................................41 Secrets and Lies .................................................................. 42


PROTOCOL OF ENDEARMENT......................................... 43 Rules of Devotion ................................................................ 43 Appearance and Hygiene ................................................... 44 Relish the Present................................................................ 46 Take Her Places .................................................................. 47 Work and Home Life .......................................................... 48 Worship Together ............................................................... 49

ASSASSINS OF LOVE ....................................................... 50 Fighting Scars Love ............................................................ 50 Passing Judgment................................................................ 51 Spying Spouses .................................................................... 51 Habits and Addictions ........................................................ 52 Emotional Abandonment ................................................... 53 Bad Vibes Linger ................................................................. 54 Control Freaks .................................................................... 55 Forgive and Forget? ........................................................... 56 Growing Apart .................................................................... 57 Neglect and Discard ........................................................... 58

OTHER FOOD FOR THOUGHT ......................................... 59 Men Think, Women Feel ..................................................... 59 What’s Money got to do with it?......................................... 60 Double Standards ............................................................... 62 Sickness and Support.......................................................... 63 Happiness Breeds Wellness ................................................ 64 Women’s Health .................................................................. 65 Birth Control ....................................................................... 67 His Health ........................................................................... 68


Over Weight Lovers ............................................................. 71 Family, Friends and Marriage .......................................... 73 Married with Children........................................................ 74 Stepchildren and Love ........................................................ 75

THE ART OF DATING ...................................................... 77 The Dating Game .................................................................77 Meeting Good People .......................................................... 78 Attracting a Mate ............................................................... 79 The First Date ..................................................................... 83 Does Age Matter?................................................................ 85 Womanizers ........................................................................ 86 Dating Married People ....................................................... 87

MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE ............................................. 88 A Time to Wed ..................................................................... 88 Until Death Do You Part..................................................... 93 Option of Divorce ................................................................ 93 Preparing to be Alone ......................................................... 95 Self-Inventory ..................................................................... 96 No Perfect World ................................................................ 97

THE COMPATIBILITY TESTS .................................... 100 Personal Outlook................................................................ 101 Bond Check ........................................................................ 102 Love Check ........................................................................ 106


• Introduction: A Book of Wisdom and Practicality

Since the creation of mankind, the sexes have encountered relationship opposition and discord. Maybe it all started with Eve tempting Adam with the apple. Perhaps Adam persuaded Eve to pick the forbidden fruit. Man, because of his brawny physique and biological composition, has always strived to dominate and control his mate. Dominance is the nature of most of earth’s male creatures. Throughout the ages, it has been a man’s world. In some societies today, it is still man’s cultural privilege and birthright to preside over his mate. It was not long ago that here in America matters were much the same.

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Introduction It took the Nineteenth Amendment in 1920 to finally give women the right to vote. The Equal Rights Act in 1972 banned sexual discrimination. This gave them equal compensation in the work place; at least it was supposed to. The Women’s Liberation Movement of the 1970’s helped to endow women with the courage to speak up for themselves. It was time to acknowledge that their self-worth was equal to their mates’. Though there is still much work to be done, life has advanced dramatically for the female gender. Women have demanded the right to govern their own lives. They are now more in charge of their destinies. The liberated woman is here to stay, and with liberation comes a more competitive playing field. Men for centuries have operated by double standards. Nowadays, there are more women than ever before living and loving by many of those same rules. Nevertheless, no matter how challenging the circumstances, couples still manage to fall in love. Each year over two million marriages take place in the United States alone. That averages out to over six thousand weddings a day. There are over fifty-five million married couples and another seven million unmarried and living together. Most of these individuals are striving for similar objectives; eternal happiness and romance.

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A Book of Wisdom and Practicality Essential elements must be coordinated for a union to last a lifetime. Major building blocks create the foundation of a successful marriage/relationship. Love is usually the first and certainly the most admirable reason couples come together. It is soon discovered, however, that even with love, a relationship is a meticulous process. Love involves many emotions elaborated by actions of constant change. All unions are an intermingling of give and take, ups and downs, rights and wrongs. A lifetime of happiness takes more than a 50/50 percent effort. It takes a 100 percent effort from each person to succeed‌nothing less. Defining the roles of man, woman, husband and wife, are frequently obscure and inexplicable. A number of our fading beliefs were once well established customs of American home life. The sexes clearly understood their roles. Many of our most revered family traditions have regrettably disappeared forever. The call for women to aid in a rapidly growing economy, has unquestionably contributed to the need to reexamine the principles of the family unit. The institution of marriage has to a great extent been compromised. The foundation of wedlock must be meticulously analyzed and revised. Before examining the roles of the sexes, let us first discuss love in depth. Love is not an event, but an emo-

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Introduction tional process of many events. One of the greatest tragedies in life is to have never experienced the splendor of romance. However, as wonderful and exciting as it is, love alone is never reason enough to create a partnership. If it were sufficient, there would be far fewer breakups, separations and divorces. Many relationships fail not from the lack of love, but from an inadequate comprehension of how to nurture its dynamics. There are no classes offered on how to love and care for one another. We must depend on our parents or guardians to equip us with good examples. We are all a product of what we see and hear. Unfortunately, the experiences of our upbringing do not always prepare us to properly nourish each other. Hence is the purpose of these words of advice. They are to help guide couples on a course of pure devotion. Part one of “The Art of Love and Devotion” concerns love’s various dynamics and dimensions. Love is our most treasured, yet most misunderstood sentiment. The better we understand love, the more effective we will be at the art of nurturing its intricacies.

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The art of love and devotion (new)  

A handy guide to building the worlds best long-lasting relationship!

The art of love and devotion (new)  

A handy guide to building the worlds best long-lasting relationship!

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