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necessary to keep from getting stuck in pain and bitterness. 2. Break your isolation by reaching out to others. Letting shame and sadness keep you away from new experiences and other people you love perpetuates the pain. 3. Take care of yourself. Exercise. Eat healthy meals. Live as full a life as you possibly can. This gives you the strength to carry on and makes a good life, despite your underlying pain, possible. 4. Let love into your life. There’s a temptation to shut others out when your beloved child is estranged from you. Value all the love in your life

— from your partner, from other children, from extended family, from friends, and from pets. This is all love to be treasured and can help your healing.

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5. Let joy balance the pain in your life. Nonstop suffering will not bring reconciliation with your adult child, and it certainly impairs the quality of your life. Allow love, fun, and joy into your life — to soothe and strengthen you. Dr. Kathy McCoy is the author of We Don’t Talk Anymore: Healing after Parents and Their Adult Children Become Estranged (Sourcebooks 2017). Visit her at

Volunteer Spotlight Retired Nurse Continues Decades of Teaching, Caring from anything she has The RSVP York ever done before, and she January Volunteer of loves it. For Schlottag, the Month is Amy her enjoyment is a twoSchlottag. She began way street: The children volunteering with the appreciate the extra GED program when she attention, and she enjoys retired in October 2016 after almost 43 years as watching them learn and become excited when a registered nurse at York they can read a few Hospital, primarily in words. cardiovascular nursing. Amy Schlottag Schlottag said it feels Schlottag always enjoyed teaching nurses in addition great when they give her a hug, hold her hand, or clamor for help when to being a nurse. Through RSVP she has the chance to teach in a learning to write. Schlottag graduated from the completely different area and is currently tutoring her second GED Medical College of Virginia with a Bachelor of Science degree in student at the York County School nursing and from the University of Technology.   Schlottag saw the need for of Maryland at Baltimore with a Master of Science degree. She works elementary school tutor/mentors in York City School District while as a licensed massage therapist with her own practice in York. reading the RSVP newsletter. This past August she began another For further information about volunteer opportunities in York teaching opportunity, volunteering County, please contact Scott with kindergarten students at Hunsinger at (443) 619-3842 or McKinley School in York. This experience has been different

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50plus LIFE York County January 2018  

50plus LIFE — formerly 50plus Senior News — is a monthly publication for and about Central Pennsylvania’s baby boomers and seniors, offering...

50plus LIFE York County January 2018  

50plus LIFE — formerly 50plus Senior News — is a monthly publication for and about Central Pennsylvania’s baby boomers and seniors, offering...