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Willing to Wander

Happy Trails for You Victor Block

Some people are traipsing through lovely landscapes, as others explore history from days of Native Americans to the present. Avid birders use binoculars to spot colorful feathered friends in flight, while canoers and kayakers dip paddles into the water. Along with its attractive beaches, Panama City, At the end of the day, Fla., boasts a variety of appealing walking trails. many of these visitors to Panama City, Florida, belly up to an oyster bar to enjoy freshly shucked bivalves that have been prepared in a variety of ways. These seemingly disparate activities and attractions have one thing in common: They’re all taking place along designated trails that focus upon a single thing to do, see, or eat. Countless trails around the country are available to people with a particular

interest. From food to fashions, covered bridges to Kentucky bourbon, they offer something-for-everyone variety. No matter how esoteric someone’s passion, there may be a walking, driving, biking, paddling, or other trail somewhere that focuses upon it. Image credit: Fields of Gold Consider The Fields of Gold Farm Trail promotes the many Panama City agritourism sites and activities in Virginia’s (destinationpanamacity. Shenandoah Valley. com), a community of about 37,000 residents perched along Florida’s northwestern coast. For a smallish municipality, that town provides a surprising choice of routes that both locals and visitors may explore. The Oyster Trail alone has enough appeal to bring some travelers to town. A

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dozen restaurants, ranging sites associated with the from a 10-stool oyster bar to Underground Railroad and a casual grill to a fine-dining the antislavery movement of establishment, serve the that time. fresh-from-the-sea food raw, Not to be outdone, trails baked, fried, and prepared in that make their way through other ways. Ohio (trails.ohio.org) focus Whether visiting Panama upon interests as diverse as City for the bivalves or birds, shopping and steam trains, hiking or history, you might Italian food and ice cream. find a trail with appeal. Given the love of nature Restaurants along by many residents of a different oyster trail, Oregon, it’s not surprising which runs through Gulf that among trails within its Shores and Orange Beach, borders are paths for hiking Alabama, bring their own and biking, seeing wildlife The Oregon Trail was laid by fur traders and Distilleries along the Kentucky personal touch to their and wildflowers, and dozens trappers from about 1811 to 1840 and was only Bourbon Trail celebrate the recipes. In addition to of other routes. passable on foot or by horseback. commonwealth’s designation as traditional preparations, Most famous is the stretch “the birthplace of bourbon.” some serve them barbequed, of the Oregon Trail (nps.gov/ fire-roasted, Alfredo style, oreg) in the state, part of the historic wagon route that began in Missouri and on and in ceviche (gulfshores.com). which, in the early 19th century, an estimated 400,000 settlers, farmers, miners, It’s Louisiana’s rich gastronomic culture that is celebrated along the Cajun ranchers, and others followed in their quest for a new life. Bayou Food Trail (lacajunbayou.com). It comprises restaurants that serve local From seafood to sweets, berries to beverages, it’s likely that somewhere in the favorites like gumbo, jambalaya, and pecan pralines. Some family-run eateries country there may be one or more driving, walking or other trails focused upon follow recipes that have been passed down for generations. an interest of yours. Variety of a different kind greets visitors to the Fields of Gold Farm Trail in After gallivanting around the world, Victor Block still retains the travel bug. He Virginia’s Shenandoah Valley (fieldsofgold.org). People may stroll through a believes that travel is the best possible education. A member of the Society of American farmers market, tour a working spread, enjoy a locally grown meal at a gardenTravel Writers, Victor loves to explore new destinations and cultures, and his stories to-table restaurant, or pick their own fruit at an orchard. about them have won a number of writing awards. Fresh-picked apples, pears, grapes, and cherries are sold at more than two dozen stands located along the colorfully named Hood River County Fruit Loop in Oregon (hoodriverfruitloop.com). The 35-mile trail passes forests, farmlands, and orchards. Vendors also offer flowers, pies, jam, and local artisan gifts. Berries are used in different ways on a route that leads through Surry County, North Carolina. The colorfully named Surry Sonker Trail (sonkertrail.org) connects a bakery, general store, winery, and other places that serve that quaintly named dessert. of Baby Boomers have taken action It’s believed the sweet treat was created in the early 1800s by homemakers as a result of seeing an ad in a print seeking to stretch the use of fruit or use it before it rotted. Recipes include fruit newspaper in the past 30 days.2 sweetened with sugar, molasses, and other ingredients blended into unshaped dough so, like snowflakes, no two are exactly alike. Where there’s food there often are beverages, and the birthplace of one is acclaimed along the Kentucky Bourbon Trail (kybourbontrail.com). Guests may visit a distillery that traces its ancestry back to the 18th century and another where they have a tasting while standing in the largest bourbon barrel in the world. Those who like the word “soft” before their drink may prefer to set their sights on the Coca-Cola Trail (thecocacolatrail.com). Places related to that worldfamous beverage are described in a book of the same name, which can serve as a guide to museums, historic bottling plants, and other destinations around the country. The story began in Vicksburg, Mississippi, where the concoction was first Because in print or online, newspapers are bottled in 1894. Other stops can include the Dawson & Stevens Diner in Grayling, Michigan, which doubles as a Coca-Cola museum, and a former bottling plant in Los Angeles that was built in the shape of an ocean liner. of news and information among all age groups.1 Not surprisingly, state tourism offices promote the trails concept as a way to attract visitors. For example, Maine (visitmaine.com) has a driving tour that leads to 34 outdoor sculptures strung out along 273 miles of its coastline; a ThoreauTo advertise your products and services, call Wabanaki Trail, which includes canoe routes the author followed during trips 717-285-1350 or email info@onlinepub.com to that state in the mid-1800s; and a Freedom Trail in Portland that leads to Sources: 1Coda Ventures; 2NAA

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National League ballpark. His girlfriend, Lauri, who is now his wife, invited him to see the Phillies play at Wrigley Field in Chicago. Her parents live Bob Bogart’s friends tell him he’s the real in the Chicago suburbs. Phillies Phanatic. They drove to Chicago on a Wednesday, and the No, he doesn’t dress up in a green mascot Phillies had a game against the St. Louis Cardinals costume, ride an ATV around the outfield, or that night. Bogart listened to the game on KMOX taunt opponents. But he does fit the description of that evening and figured he would be able to hear a Phillies fanatic. the following afternoon Consider the game on the same definition of the word station. fanatic: One having The next afternoon, excessive zeal for or an however, turned out to irrational attachment to be a frustrating one, as a cause or position. even the 50,000 watts “Since I’ve watched of power of KMOX or listened to 5,558 wasn’t enough for him consecutive Phillies to pick up the game games, I guess it’s safe to on his radio. So he sat call me a fanatic,” says in his future in-laws’ the 60-year-old Glen house waiting for CNN Rock, Pennsylvania, Headline News to give man. him updates every Entering the 2022 30 minutes. He was season, he hadn’t missed miserable not knowing a game since Aug. 7, the details of the Phillies 1986. That’s more than game. 35 years. And, before Photo credits: Barry Sparks The following he missed that game (of Bogart with the 1952 Topps baseball cards of the course, there’s a story Philadelphia Phillies. He has the Topps cards of all afternoon, he was much happier sitting behind that), he had a the Phillies since 1954. in Wrigley Field with three-year streak. Lauri, watching the Phillies and keeping score. So, in 38 years, Bogart has missed just one His dedication hasn’t gone unnoticed by Phillies game. the Phillies. In 2000, he was named “Fan of Bogart’s not the casual fan who typically catches the Century” as a result of a contest the club part of a game. He’s there from the first pitch to conducted on its website. The Phillies bestowed the the last pitch. He religiously follows the Phillies on honor on 10 fans, one born in each decade of the their West Coast trips, through rain delays, day20th century. Bogart, representing the 1960s, was night doubleheaders, extra innings, and every other honored in an on-field ceremony on Opening Day. imaginable situation. Technological advances have made Bogart’s When Bogart worked, he scheduled his vacation quest to watch or listen to every Phillies game days to correlate with the Phillies’ West Coast much easier. When he started his streak in 1986, trips. He would use vacation time to leave work satellite television, the internet, and streaming early when the Phillies played midweek afternoon capabilities were rare or didn’t exist. games. At the time, Mike Schmidt, Darren Daulton, He typically attends six to 10 Phillies games a and Steve Carlton led the Phillies. Since then, year. hundreds of players have worn the Phillies To document his incredible streak, the retired uniform. Last season, only three Phillies were born government employee keeps score of every game. before Bogart’s streak started. “Keeping score of the game is a practice my Bogart admits his streak would have ended grandfather, Kenneth Tebo, taught me,” says years ago if not for technological advances. Those Bogart, who grew up in Blossburg, Tioga County. advances have helped him keep the streak alive “He was a Phillies fan as well. He introduced me while on business trips to Hawaii, England, and to the Phillies in 1966 when he took me to Connie New Zealand. On those trips, he would either Mack Stadium when I was 5 years old.” watch the games on a delayed basis (but always So, how did Bogart miss that game on Aug. 7, before the next game) or wake up in the middle of 1986? the night to watch the games on his computer. One of his goals was to see the Phillies in every www.50plusLifePA.com


Does Bogart feel He also owns any pressure from his an impressive streak? collection of Phillies “Not at all,” he memorabilia. Bogart responds. “The has every Phillies Phillies are part of yearbook from 1968 my life and have to the present, all been for as long as Phillies Topps baseball I can remember. cards since 1954, and Incorporating them every issue of Phillies into my life is no Report, plus loads of more pressure than other items. taking a vitamin every Bogart has day.” compiled a weekly How long will the Phillies Updater, streak continue? And, which he emails to Photo credits: Barry Sparks Bogart keeping score during a Phillies game while his dog, Opal, sits beside him. how might it end? friends upon request, Bogart doesn’t have to for more than 20 worry about being knocked out of the lineup by back spasms, groin pulls, or years. It includes a recap of the week’s games, the television schedule for the being beaned. But there’s always the chance the streak might end. upcoming week, statistics, notable events, oddities, and trivia. “I really think it would take a life-threatening situation, like me being in Even though the Phillies have lost more games than any other National an accident and ending up in the hospital, for the streak to end.” League team in history, Bogart’s enthusiasm hasn’t waned. Yet, the streak did survive an emergency surgery and hospitalization in “I’m not tired of following the Phillies, and I can’t imagine a scenario in 2019. After falling at home, Bogart was transported to York Hospital, where which I would be,” he says. he underwent knee surgery. “I savor every nugget of Phillies news I can find during the offseason, and After surgery, he asked his son, Ryne, to bring his scorebook from home. I look forward to every Phillies game. I can’t imagine not knowing what’s Later that night, he was able to watch the Phillies game and keep score. happening with the Phillies.” Another time, his daughter, Christy, helped save his streak. His flight to Spoken like a real Phillies fanatic. Chicago was diverted to Rockford, Illinois, because of thunderstorms. On the cover: Bob Bogart at home with some of his baseball cards, yearbooks, The plane was sitting on the tarmac while Bogart listened to the Phillies media guides, and the Phillie Phanatic. game on XM Radio. He lost the signal and called his daughter at home. She held the phone up to the television so he could hear the audio from the game. Once the plane started to fly toward Chicago, he was able to pick up the signal on XM Radio. His wife, Lauri, and family and relatives are very supportive of his Phillies addiction. “Everyone is great,” he says. “They understand what it means to me. They go out of their way to accommodate me.” It helps that his wife is a baseball fan who grew up rooting for the Chicago Cubs. When she and Bogart met at work, baseball was one of their common interests. “Lauri’s the first woman I ever met who could explain the infield fly rule,” laughs Bogart. Predictably, Bogart’s love of the Phillies isn’t limited to watching or listening to their games.

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Dear Savvy Senior, Can you tell me about stomach aneurysms? My father died from one about 10 years ago, and I’m wondering if that can increase my risk of developing one myself. – Almost 60 Dear Almost, While you don’t hear much about them, stomach aneurysms, also known as abdominal aortic aneurysms, are very dangerous and the 10th leading cause of death in men over 55. They also tend to run in families, so having had a parent with this condition makes you much more vulnerable yourself. An abdominal aortic aneurysm (or AAA) is a weak area in the lower portion of the aorta, which is the major artery that carries blood from the

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men and after age 70 in women. • Family history: Having a parent or sibling who had an AAA can increase your risk to around 1 in 4. • Sex: AAAs are five times more likely in men than in women. • Race: White people develop AAA more commonly than people of other ethnicities. • Health factors: Atherosclerosis (also known as hardening of the arteries), high blood pressure, and high cholesterol levels also increase your risk. Detection and Treatment Because AAAs usually start small and enlarge slowly, they rarely show any symptoms, making them difficult to detect. However, large AAAs can sometimes cause a throbbing or pulsation in the abdomen or cause a deep pain in your lower back or side. The best way to detect an AAA is to get a simple, painless, 10-minute ultrasound screening test. All men over age 65 who have ever smoked, and anyone over 60 with a first-degree relative (father, mother, or sibling) who has had an AAA, should talk to their doctor about getting screened. You should also know that most health insurance plans cover AAA screenings, as does Medicare, for beneficiaries with a family history of AAAs and for men between the ages of 65 and 75 who have smoked at least 100 cigarettes during their life. If an AAA is detected during screening, how it’s treated will depend on its size, rate of growth, and your general health. If caught in the early stages when the aneurysm is small, it can be monitored and treated with medication. But if it is large or enlarging rapidly, you’ll probably need surgery.

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The Beauty in Nature

Peeping Peepers Clyde McMillan-Gamber

I visit the shallows of certain ponds and concerts, add to our enjoyment of the soft, warm wetlands in, and bordering, woods in southeastern charms and beauties of April evenings. Pennsylvania a couple evenings every April. Some people, including myself, look forward to I sit by those shallows in increasing darkness listening to and enjoying the wild, overwhelming and listen to the wild, almost incessant, chorusing concerts of spring peepers. That ageless peeping is of male spring peepers, a kind of small frog. I inspiring to hear on lovely April evenings and into even imagine the peepers’ charming, primordial the night. concerts transporting me back millions of years to Every peep is caused by each male peeper the age of amphibians. bulging his throat while his mouth is shut. The The loud, simple peeping of many male enlarged throat amplifies the sound made by each peepers, in each of several shallows, pulses on love-struck male peeper. and on through the night and on rainy days. I’ve seen only a few peepers in my lifetime Those ancient, unchanged concerts attract female because they are tan, have 1-inch bodies, and are peepers to males in the shallows to spawn scores well camouflaged in the wetland vegetation they of eggs per female. Many of those eggs soon hatch live among while consuming small invertebrates into tiny, brown tadpoles that ingest aquatic through the warmer months. vegetation. Listen for the wild, ageless dins of male spring An adult spring peeper. Many of the ear-splitting evening dins of male peepers this April in local, wooded bottomlands. peepers are accompanied by the background Or be content to know those primordial concerts music of bugling Canada geese, the singing of American robins, and the still exist after many millions of years. And it’s nice to know that peeping melodious trilling of American toads. Those creatures, along with peeper peepers are another herald of spring!

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Claudia Wells Went ‘Back to the Future’ Nick Thomas

When the Los Angeles (michaeljfox.org), which Hollywood Museum was also presented with a reopened last August, $5,000 donation during the having closed its doors to event. the public during much “I’m a big cheerleader of the pandemic, Claudia for the Back to the Future Wells was one of many trilogy,” said Wells guests invited to celebrate from Los Angeles (see the event that included a claudiawells.com). “So, Back to the Future exhibit. anything I can do to Wells appeared in the promote the movies and original 1985 movie as help support Michael, I’m Jennifer Parker, girlfriend there with bells on.” to Marty McFly, played by Back to the Future was Photo courtesy Universal Pictures. Photo courtesy the Hollywood Museum. Claudia Wells and Michael J. Fox in 1985’s The Hollywood Museum in the historic Michael J. Fox, who starred Wells’ first movie role. Back to the Future. Max Factor Building. in the beloved movie Her scenes were brief but trilogy. memorable, as was her first Diagnosed with day on the set. April is Parkinson’s Disease Awareness Month Parkinson’s disease in “It was the last scene 1991 at age 29, Fox of the movie with me, later established the Michael J. Fox Foundation for Parkinson’s Research Michael, and Christopher Lloyd in the car,” she recalled. “I remember when

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[Lloyd] got out of the car and raised up those metal glasses on his face, it ripped the oldage makeup on his forehead, and we had to wait for hours for him to get the makeup redone to shoot again.” She also recalls meeting Fox for the first time. Photo courtesy the Hollywood Museum. “They were The Hollywood Museum lobby. filming the ‘Enchantment Under the Sea’ dance scene at a church, and I was sent around to meet Michael. He came outside, gave me a hug, and told me he was looking forward to working with me. He was very positive, upbeat, kind, funny, natural, and great fun to work with.” But when time A film-used DeLorean was on display as part of the came to reprise her Back to the Future exhibit. role four years later in Back to the Future: Part II, Wells was unavailable due to a family illness and was replaced by Elisabeth Shue in Parts II and III. “I’ve met fans who remember watching Part II when it came out and didn’t even notice a different actress was playing Jennifer,” Wells said. “But others told me they were screaming at the screen wondering why there was a different Jennifer.” Despite bumping into other cast members of the trilogy while traveling the film-convention circuit over the years, the two Jennifers have never met (who knows what that might do to the space-time continuum!). “I’d love to meet Elisabeth because I think she’s just a brilliant actress, and I was actually quite flattered when they cast her in the role.” After an acting gap of about 20 years, Wells returned to film and television. She also opened and still runs Armani Wells, a menswear store in Studio City, California. “The store turned 30 years old in December. I am so fortunate to have found two different careers that are completely fulfilling.” Wells says she was thrilled to be included in the reopening of the Hollywood Museum, especially with its Back to the Future exhibit and its support of the Michael J. Fox Foundation. “Michael was able to hide the disease for a number of years, and I was absolutely flabbergasted when I first heard he was diagnosed,” she said. “He was so good at physical comedy and so healthy. But he has not only been an inspiration to others who have Parkinson’s, but has encouraged research that will hopefully lead to a cure one day.” Nick Thomas has written features, columns, and interviews for numerous magazines and newspapers. See tinseltowntalks.com.

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The History of Ordinary Things

Spring Means Baseball Doris Montag

The first official game of baseball was held in 1846 in Hoboken, New Jersey. The evolving rules of the game govern the materials, form, and dimensions of a regulation baseball bat and ball. Major League Baseball (MLB) requires wood bats, typically made of white ash, maple, or hickory. American bat manufacturing has been dominated by Hillerich & Bradsby Co. and Adirondack.

the registered trademark for the Hillerich bat. In 1905, Honus Wagner, “The Flying Dutchman,” signed a contract with Hillerich as the first player to endorse a bat (or any athletic product). Wagner was a shortstop for the Pittsburgh Pirates from 1897-1917. Frank Bradsby joined the business in 1911 to add sales and marketing expertise. In 1916, the company was renamed Hillerich & Bradsby Co. (H&B). During World War I, H&B retooled to Hillerich & Bradsby and the Louisville make equipment for the armed services. Slugger During World War II, H&B produced M-1 Andrew “Bud” Hillerich was born in carbine gunstocks, track pins for tanks, and Louisville, Kentucky, in 1866. His dad had a billy clubs. woodworking shop, where Hillerich became The Louisville Slugger bat was the stick an apprentice. of choice for many MLB players, including A Louisville Slugger bat, engraved in Cooperstown, N.Y., and In 1884, at 17, Hillerich made his Babe Ruth, Joe DiMaggio, Ted Williams, gifted to Doris Montag from a St. Louis Cardinals collector. first professional bat for Pete Browning, Jackie Robinson, Roberto Clemente, Hank a megastar for the Louisville Eclipse. Aaron, Ken Griffey Jr., and Derek Jeter. Browning’s nickname was the “Louisville Slugger.” In 1894, this logo became In 2015, Wilson Sporting Goods bought the Louisville Slugger brand from H&B. They continue to produce the Louisville Slugger bat in Louisville, Kentucky.

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Adirondack and the ‘Big Stick’ Adirondack was developed by Edwin McLaughlin of Dolgeville, New York, who made billets for baseball bats. In 1945, in partnership with George Millard, McLaughlin introduced quality white-ash wooden bats under the name Adirondack. They added the Adirondack logo in 1958. In 1969, Adirondack introduced the bat-mobile, an Airstream trailer equipped to hand-turn bats at Major League spring camps. The onsite availability converted big leaguers to the “Big Stick” bat. Between 1968 and 1975, the Big Stick logo appeared with the player’s name on the bat. Personal/signature models were made for recognized players, including Rico Carty, Tommy Harper, Cleon Jones, Willie Mays, Willie McCovey, Felix Millan, Don Money, John Roseboro, Ron Santo, and Joe Torre. Adirondack made standard models for Aaron, Alou, Cash, Cepeda, Horton, Howard, Rose, Hundley, Kaline, Mantle, Musial, Robinson, Staub, and Yastrzemski. In 1971, Rawlings bought Adirondack Industries. The logo was not changed to Rawlings until 1983. Regulations for Bats and Balls Regulations for baseball equipment were introduced in 1876. Today, the MLB regulations require each bat to be a round stick made of solid wood with a smooth surface. As of 2010, the maximum diameter of a Major League Baseball bat was set to 2.61 inches. In 1869, the maximum length of a regulation baseball bat was set at no more than 42 inches. This rule continues to this day in MLB. (Youth leagues range from 26-31 inches; high school and college, 32-36 inches.) The handle of the bat can be covered with any substance or material, such as pine tar, which improves the grip of the bat. Material for the grip helps to please see BASEBALL on facing page

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3 Easy Tips on How to File Taxes Securely Online According to the data, over 91% of the 165 million tax returns in the U.S. were filed electronically last year. Due to the ongoing presence of coronavirus, it is expected that an even greater percentage of tax documents will be submitted online this year. Unfortunately, cybercriminals have become more active than ever this tax season. People doing business online, especially accounting firms, are now prime targets for hackers looking to exploit any vulnerability. Oliver Noble, a cybersecurity specialist at NordLocker, says that whether you do taxes on your own or employ an accountant, protecting your personal documents should be a priority. “Many people have lost hundreds or even thousands of dollars and had their personal data stolen through tax scams. It is vitally important to take security into consideration when going about this annual taxpayer duty,” he explains. Noble offers three basic tips for avoiding tax-filing risks online. 1. Don’t fall for a phishing scam. Phishing is an attempt to steal confidential data from internet users through impersonation. This criminal technique is most often used in emails and text messages. According to the FTC, the imposter scam is the No. 1 type of fraud in the U.S., costing Americans hundreds of millions of dollars. To avoid having your money or identity stolen through phishing, remember this: • Never click on links you receive in emails, text messages, or social media posts claiming to be from the IRS (Internal Revenue Service). The IRS does not ask for personal or financial information from taxpayers through these channels. • Never send your personal information to any “official” or “representative” by email or a text message. • W hen in doubt, before doing anything, contact your bank to check the legitimacy of the required actions. Don’t forget that banks, like the IRS,

BASEBALL from facing page absorb the sting from a hit. In the early history of the game, pitchers typically made their own baseballs. When standards were defined, A.G. Spalding, a pitcher for Boston, convinced the league to adopt the ball he had been making as the official baseball. His ball was used for the next 100 years. Today, MLB baseballs weigh between 5 and 5.25 ounces and are 9-9.25 inches in circumference. The center of rubber or cork is wrapped in yarn and covered with natural white horsehide or cowhide or synthetic composite leather. It is bound together by 108 handwoven, typically red-dyed stitches. That number of double-threaded stitches has been shown to generate the best air pressure for the pitcher’s special throws. www.50plusLifePA.com

never ask for your personal information by phone or email. 2. Use a VPN when connecting to your online accounts. As a rule of thumb, never file taxes, submit any personal information online, or log in to your bank accounts over public Wi-Fi. If there’s no other choice, you should use a reliable VPN service to protect your connection. VPNs (virtual private networks) replace your IP address with a virtual one that fraudsters cannot trace back to you and your data. But the risks aren’t limited to just public networks. Even your home Wi-Fi may be breached by skilled hackers, so you should always use a VPN to keep your information private. 3. Protect your tax forms and bills. If you’re sending your files to someone, make sure to encrypt them first. Tax documents can give away a lot of personally identifiable information, which is why they should never be stored unprotected on your computer or in the cloud. Start to employ user-friendly file-encryption tools to effectively protect all your valuable information from prying eyes. The IRS requires taxpayers to store all documents used for tax credits or deductions for three years. Luckily, they accept digital copies, so you don’t have to worry about blurry receipts or digging through piles of paper — simply keep your tax return documents, including photocopies of receipts, in a private encrypted folder either on your computer or in the cloud. “Cyberattacks may be on the rise, but they don’t have to necessarily happen to you. As a taxpayer, you can easily protect your sensitive data with the tools designed for that purpose. Adopting these practices for your online tax returns will also help you watch out for other online threats,” says Noble. NordLocker is the world’s first end-to-end file encryption tool with a private cloud. It was created by the cybersecurity experts behind NordVPN — one of the most advanced VPN service providers in the world. With NordLocker, files are protected from hacking, surveillance, and data collection. For more information: nordlocker.com

Now it’s April. Let’s play ball! Doris Montag is a homespun historian and an exhibit curator who researches and displays historical collections of ordinary things, such as can openers, crochet, toy sewing machines, hand corn planters, powder compacts, egg cartons, and more. Contact or follow her on Facebook, HistoryofOrdinaryThings.

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On Life and Love after 50

Tom Blake

Pennsylvania Woman, 63, Would Like to Meet a Mate

With spring in the air and the COVID-19 pandemic easing, single seniors are starting to think about romance. Sonia, a Pennsylvania resident, recently emailed me: “I’ve read your articles for years and love them. I am 63 and would like to date someone my age or some years younger.”

Fish) doesn’t initially charge unless you upgrade, but it has a reputation for lots of scammers. When using dating sites, keep your search area within the suggested 50-mile radius. And speaking of scammers, be careful no matter what online site you choose. There are scammers on every site. They prey on lonely seniors, primarily widows, so there is risk in online dating. Trust your instincts. If a man sounds too good to be true, he likely is. If you find someone of interest, do background research on that person to be sure he is who he claims to be. Don’t ever send a stranger money.

I replied: With winter behind us and COVID cases declining, singles will find it easier to meet potential mates as people reenter the dating scene. I suggest you focus on meeting someone who lives within a 50-mile radius of your Pennsylvania home, which would be within a reasonable driving distance. Long-distance relationships for seniors are difficult; they often require traveling by airplane to see each other. Here are four tips for you to meet potential partners. 1. Try online dating. No masks required. In fact, masks are discouraged. We haven’t heard that said in a while! Use sites that cater to older adults, such as Silver Singles, eHarmony, Senior Dating, or OurTime (owned by Match. com). Most sites will charge a monthly fee. POF (Plenty of

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2. To meet new people, get off the couch. Get out of the house and involved in activities you enjoy. When senior singles venture out, their chances of meeting a possible mate increase. If you see a man who appears to be single — no wedding ring, for example — and he appeals to you, be assertive by saying hello or asking him a question like, “Which wine please see PA WOMAN on facing page

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Grief Relief

Dealing with the Death of a Grandchild Victor M. Parachin

It is estimated that more than 160,000 American grandparents lose a grandchild to death every year. And when that happens, the grief of a grandparent is doubled. They grieve not only the death of a grandchild but, additionally, they grieve for their child whose child has died. In spite of this double-grief experience, grandparents are often ignored, neglected, overlooked, and sidelined as invisible grievers. Support and comfort is directed entirely at those regarded as the primary mourners: the parents and the siblings of the child who died. Here are some suggestions for grandparents who are dealing with the death of a grandchild. Be understanding when your grief as a grandparent isn’t acknowledged. People don’t intend to be unkind or dismissive of your grief. In reality, they are untutored in the area of grief, particularly that of a grandparent. As a result, they erroneously think it is not your child who died, so your pain must be less intense. Also, because grandparents have more life experience, they simply assume you, as a grandparent, have better skills for dealing with bereavement. Expect a bumpy ride because grieving generates a wide range of confusing and conflicting feelings. “Grief is a roller coaster of emotions. You may be in denial one day and then sad or angry the next. Unfortunately, experiencing such a painful loss can’t be summed up by one idea or emotion,” Dr. Alejandra Vasquez, J.D., a certified grief counselor, says. “This process will change often and usually when you least expect it. As time goes on, you’ll begin to have good days … Given enough time, with conscious grief recovery, the pain will subside, and your grandchild will forever be in your heart.” Read up about grief and the process of grief recovery. Visit a bookstore or library to locate books about loss. The information you glean will be empowering and provide you with an “emotional GPS” for finding your way through grief.

PA WOMAN from facing page goes best with this salad?” Start a conversation by being assertive — not aggressive. Be pleasant; always smile. Smiles help open many doors. Also, volunteering is a wonderful way to meet new people. And you’ll be helping others as well. 3. Network. Ask your friends, co-workers, and acquaintances if they know of someone who is near your age and single and who might be a nice mate for you. And don’t stop asking, because as we age, people’s lives change in an instant. Some become widows or widowers, and others have relationships that end. www.50plusLifePA.com

Some good books include Healing a Grandparent’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Grandchild Dies by Alan Wolfelt; Grieving the Loss of Someone You Love: Daily Meditations to Help You Through the Grieving Process by Raymond R. Mitsch and Lynn Brookside; Healing Grief by Victor M. Parachin; and Grieving: Your Path Back to Peace by James R. White. Learn from others who are like you. Try finding other grandparents in your community or your place of worship who have had the sad experience of losing a grandchild. Two excellent online resources where you can learn from other grandparents are the Compassionate Friends organization (compassionatefriends.org/thegrief-of-grandparents) and the American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) (aarp.org). Honor your grandchild by doing something in their memory. Plant trees; establish a scholarship; self-publish a small photo book of their life; make a donation to a nonprofit in their name; advocate for a cause that relates to their death. Honor your grandchild in whatever way feels comfortable to you. Remain hopeful that your journey through grief will come to an end. Vasquez reminds grandparents: “Where there’s light, there’s hope. While you may feel the pain will never end, seek comfort in knowing that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. Although you’ll never quite get over losing your loved one, the heartbreak will subside as you learn to accept the loss. “There’s no actual timeline as to when you’ll get through your grieving process,” she says. “Have patience and know that emotions will improve with time. Learning to appreciate every moment of every day is a great way to keep the memory of your loved one alive. In time, your life will develop new meaning.” Victor M. Parachin, M.Div., is a grief counselor, bereavement educator, and author of several books, including Healing Grief.

4. Attend classes. When the weather is warmer, you can sign up for classes such as tai chi, yoga, and pickleball, for example. You’ll get exercise, and you’ll meet new people. So, Sonia, be as visible as possible. Keep your expectations in check. Don’t go out with the express purpose of meeting a partner. Go out to enrich your life. Be friendly and have a positive attitude. Don’t give up hope. Sonia shared her photo with us. If any of our Pennsylvania-area readers would like to contact her, email me at tompblake@gmail.com, and I will forward the email to her. For dating information, previous articles, or to sign up for Tom’s complimentary, weekly e-newsletter, go to findingloveafter50.com.

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Taking Away Your Parent’s Car Keys By Dr. Ken Druck Who can forget what it was like to give our kids the keys and watch them pull out of the driveway on their first solo ride? Fostering independence is one of the most important parts of raising a teenager. If our kids act responsibly, they win our trust and earn more privileges. If they don’t, we’re in for a long ride, holding them accountable at every turn. When our mother and father get older, some of us find ourselves in the same position, except this time it’s with our aging parents. We get complaints about Dad’s erratic driving from our mother, who’s terrified of getting into the car with him — or from our father telling us, “Your mother’s driving 40 miles an hour on the freeway. Cars are honking and speeding past us at 75, and she won’t listen when I tell her to get out of the fast lane!” Talking to your aging parents about the changes in their lives like this can be difficult, but it’s a critically important part of being a good son or daughter. Whether precipitated by a harrowing drive with Dad or a new health concern that could render them dangerously unfit to drive, we need to have “the talk” about giving up driving. And when we do, it’s essential to approach it with patience, understanding, and loving support. 7 Guidelines for Having ‘the Talk’ 1. Summon the courage and set a gentle tone for an exploratory conversation with your parent, where you can calmly express your concerns, talk about options, and propose constructive solutions. To prepare, organize and write down simple, clear talking points you will want to convey. 2. Show compassion, sensitivity, and empathy for how difficult this loss of independence and freedom might be for your parent. Have practical suggestions available for helping your parent adjust to the possibility that their driving days may be coming to an end. The emotional tone will, of course, depend on your parent’s ability and willingness to face the problem and take action.

4. Make sure everybody (in your family and who is caregiving your parent) understands what’s going to happen and what role, if any, they will play. Hopefully, things will go well and you’ll come to an agreement — but this isn’t always the case. It may be necessary to resort to a tough-love approach. Your parent may become angry and defensive — like your kids did when you took away their car keys — because they view this as a major loss of independence. 5. Be loving and supportive but also direct and factual, with a concrete suggestions and a plan for modifying their driving habits. If you are met with resistance, suggest going for an eye exam, taking a driving test, or leaving the decision to their doctor or the DMV. Set a positive, caring tone at the outset. Be direct in voicing your concerns, but don’t allow the conversation to escalate into an argument. If things are going sideways, step back and allow some breathing room. A few open-ended questions, such as, “Mom, do you understand why we’re concerned?” or, “What do you propose as a solution, Dad?” or, “What would you do if it were your father and you were worried about his safety?” might get the discussion back on a good track. 6. As you wind down the conversation, summarize what’s been said and decided in a clear statement to your parents, family, caregivers, and anybody else who’s involved so that everybody understands what is now going to happen. 7. Follow through on everything that has been discussed and decided. Continue to help your parents adjust to their new life, acknowledging the benefits that will accompany this change. And continue to hold them accountable. Take a deep breath and give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done. Being a good son or daughter is sometimes very difficult. So is watching your parents get older. You can take pride in knowing you’ve done the right thing in assuring their — and other people’s — safety, and in helping them make difficult but necessary quality-of-life decisions and changes. Dr. Ken Druck is an international authority on healthy aging and author of the new book Raising an Aging Parent (kendruck.com/programs/products). He has spent four decades helping people grow into the more courageous, compassionate, and resilient version of themselves by transforming adversities and losses of every kind into opportunities.

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3. Decide who is best suited to have this talk with your parent. Might the best person to talk with them be you, or maybe it should be a trusted family member, physician, priest, minister, rabbi, or close friend? It must be an effective communicator your parent trusts and who can reason with them about something as sensitive as this. Come up with an effective plan for

who and how to best approach your parent before rushing into this.

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5 Things Retirees Will Wish They Had Known Sooner Many people planning for retirement anticipate those post-working years eagerly, ready to veg out after a life of toil. Others plan with greater anxiety, unsure whether they even have an identity without their jobs. But it may be that retirement these days is far different from what either point of view envisions. “We all have made decisions based on the information we had at the time, but later realized we would have planned differently if we knew then what we know now,” says Patti Hart, co-author with her husband, Milledge, of The Resolutionist: Welcome to the Anti-Retirement Movement. “That’s definitely true when it comes to planning for retirement.” The Harts don’t even think of themselves as retirees, but as “resolutionists,” constantly challenging themselves to improve. “I’m busier now than I’ve ever been,” Milledge Hart says. “I’m using this time to be a better me than I could when my days were structured and my time was spoken for.” With that said, the Harts share five things future retirees may wish they had known sooner: 1. Retirement isn’t what it used to be. Most people’s vision of retirement is built on what the people around them did, but that vision is outdated. “Many of us watched our parents or grandparents settle into a quiet, nondescript life,” Milledge Hart says. “We’ve seen the stereotypical portrayal of aging and irrelevant ‘retirees’ on TV shows and in the movies.” But many retirees today are much more vibrant than those stereotypes and have no intention of sitting quietly on a front porch while the world passes them by. 2. People have more time in this phase of life than previous generations. Anyone who expects retirement to be a few short years tacked on to the end of their working life could be in for an awakening. In actuality, this period could last 20-30 years or more. The average 65-yearold man can expect to live another 18 years, and the average 65-year-old woman nearly 21 more years, according to the Social Security Administration. And those, remember, are averages. “Some people could spend more years in their post-career life than they did building their career,” Patti Hart says. “Knowing and understanding what that means will help you plan better.” 3. It’s important to constantly prepare for the next phase. The Harts acknowledge they should have been planning earlier than they did. Instead, time slipped by. “The horizon is closer than it looks,” Milledge Hart says. So, when should you get serious about planning for those post-career years? “Right now would be a good time,” he says. “But definitely, the sooner the better.” 4. Retirees need to redefine their metrics. The Harts say it’s important for people to redefine how they measure success in this phase of life because it’s different from how they likely measured success in their career days. “The goals are likely to be more qualitative than quantitative,” Patti Hart says. “For example, one of our metrics one year was to enhance our celebrations. We found that many holidays and special events were filled with unnecessary stress and were too materially focused. We decided to eliminate event-driven gift giving.” www.50plusLifePA.com

That simple change, she says, improved their lives substantially. 5. Being a “resolutionist” is fun. If someone had told the Harts when they were in their 30s that their “retirement” years would be filled with so much fun, laughter, and fulfillment, they would have been skeptical. “We laugh more now than we’ve laughed at any other stage in our life,” Milledge Hart says. “This phase is instilled with so much adventure, and it’s a feeling that comes from within rather than the happiness of achieving a certain stock price.” “I wish I had known sooner that I could say goodbye to the corporate world and still be interesting and relevant,” Patti Hart says. “I wish I had known that retirement is yours to define. I successfully defined my role in the business world, but it didn’t dawn on me that I could also reinvent retirement. I don’t know why. It seems perfectly obvious now.” Patti and Milledge Hart, co-authors of The Resolutionist: Welcome to the Anti-Retirement Movement (antiretirement.com), spent more than 30 years as executive leaders in numerous technology and investment-banking businesses. Today, in what they call the “Resolutionist” — rather than retirement — phase of their lives, they are applying their resources and skills to global philanthropic and corporate activities.

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