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You and Your Adult Child: The Why of Estrangement and How to Heal By Kathy McCoy, Ph.D. Estrangement hurts every day of the year. But the pain can be particularly intense during the holidays with empty places at the holiday table, a phone that doesn’t ring, and unanswered texts. And afterward, you’re left wondering, “Why?” Many parents contend that they’ve been blindsided by estrangement, that there’s no reason for it. But, in fact, there’s always a reason. Sometimes it’s hard to see and accept. Numerous studies have examined common triggers for estrangement with some surprising findings: • Fathers are more likely to become estranged from their grown children as the result of divorce, either when the children were young or due to a late-in-life divorce.

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• Mothers are more likely to become estranged from their adult sons and daughters due to giving unsolicited advice or having a clash in core values—particularly regarding religious beliefs or lifestyle choices. • Parents and adult children are less

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likely to become estranged as the result of verbal arguments than they are from a conflict of needs: This is often the need of the adult child to be independent and in control of his life and the need of the parent to remain closely connected and, ultimately, in control.

This desire to stay close may increase with the parents’ age, coming at a time when adult children have increasing responsibilities for their own families and careers. Helping an adult child financially can actually increase the likelihood of estrangement. This can happen because financial help may be an expression of power between the generations. Also, an adult child’s financial neediness can spark conflict with and sometimes between parents. A good relationship in the growingup years doesn’t guarantee you’ll never be estranged: Marriage and new in-laws can lead to conflict and estrangement. Also, some forms of mental illness that can make relationships difficult do not appear in young adults until their 20s. Whatever the reasons for your estrangement from an adult child,

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what can you do to heal the rift? Healing the Rift 1. Be the first to reach out and say, “I’m sorry.” Even if you feel your adult child is to blame, realize that you may want to heal the rift more than your child does and so need to make the first conciliatory move—as hard as that may be. 2. Accept responsibility for your part in the current conflict or estrangement. Remember that the only behavior over which you truly have control is your own. Think of new ways to make a positive difference.

mean we’ll always have the same opinions and beliefs. Part of growing in love is learning to tolerate differences. You may have a long wait if you expect your child to agree with you. If you put your love for your adult child first, before your beliefs, you may find your way back to each other. 5. Accept boundaries and limits now that your child is grown. Such acceptance can increase closeness. Don’t drop by without calling. Don’t give advice unless asked. Respect their independence while celebrating what you can and do share.

3. Practice letting go. Let go of old roles, the need to be right, and the need to have the last word. Respect your child’s independence and adult choices.

Healing Yourself When Estrangement Persists 1. Forgive yourself and your adult child. This is very hard, but it is necessary to keep from getting stuck in pain and bitterness.

4. Learn to live with differences. Just because we’re related, doesn’t

2. Break your isolation by reaching out to others. Letting

shame and sadness keep you away from new experiences and other people you love perpetuates the pain.

friends, and from pets. This is all love to be treasured and can help your healing.

3. Take care of yourself. Exercise. Eat healthy meals. Live as full a life as you possibly can. This gives you the strength to carry on and makes a good life, despite your underlying pain, possible.

5. Let joy balance the pain in your life. Nonstop suffering will not bring reconciliation with your adult child, and it certainly impairs the quality of your life. Allow love, fun, and joy into your life — to soothe and strengthen you.

4. Let love into your life. There’s a temptation to shut others out when your beloved child is estranged from you. Value all the love in your life — from your partner, from other children, from extended family, from

Dr. Kathy McCoy is the author of We Don’t Talk Anymore: Healing after Parents and Their Adult Children Become Estranged (Sourcebooks 2017). Visit her at www.drkathymccoy.com.

Corrections In the Soldier Stories article in the December issue of 50plus LIFE, nurse Ann Thompson was misidentified in the photo caption. Thompson is pictured on the left; Linda Goodhart is on the right. Also in the December issue, Ms. Pennsylvania Senior America Peggy Kurtz Keller was reported to have come in fourth in the national competition. Keller was second runner-up. We regret the errors.

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A Path Well Carved

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By Jason J. Tabor At 52, Paul Waclo radiates an energy and creativity men half his age would be lucky to possess. Coupled with the business savvy and charm cultivated by a career in design and sales and a general dissatisfaction with working for someone else for a living, Waclo was well equipped to take the plunge and start his own business in 2012. The story of how he “carved” his own path to a better life is an inspiring one. “Getting pushed to do things that are out of your comfort zone is always how you grow,” says Waclo, the owner of chainsaw sculpture business Chainsaw Carving by Paul. Waclo now tours the country leaving a trail of sawdust in his wake, creating custom wooden sculptures of animals, people, furniture, tree houses, or whatever creations his artistic impulses lead him to. His sculptures are whimsical and unique; they seem to be imbued with Waclo’s sunny disposition. He carves downed trees that would otherwise be heading to mulch or firewood piles as well as onsite memorials to loved ones from trees on his customers’ properties. A native of Altoona, Pennsylvania, Waclo has lived in central Pennsylvania for the past 13 years with his wife, Lori, and their three daughters. The son of a door-to-door encyclopedia salesman, Waclo was diagnosed with Perthes disease, a childhood

Old Man of the Sea for Mariner Point Park in Harford County, Md.

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disorder that affects the hips and legs, at just 6 years old. “I was bedridden, basically, for about four years of my childhood,” he says. “I spent a lot of time in traction in hospital beds, and at one point my doctor told me I’d probably never walk again.” While bedridden, he began drawing and sketching to pass the time. He carried this passion for art into adulthood, long after treatments at Hershey Medical Center alleviated the effects of the Perthes disease and got him out of the hospital rooms that had confined him for much of his childhood. “I was always outside, being active, doing motorsports, hiking and skiing and building things. All things that I still enjoy today. As a young person, I was very aware that I’d been given a second chance at life.” After high school, Waclo studied engineering and design at Penn State. He started his own business after graduating, designing apparel for BMW North America and doing mechanical drafting and design for other clients as well. His businesses ended up floundering due to his “not having the life skills at 22 to really know how to make it a success.” Eventually, he settled into a successful career in sales, although he sometimes thought of how he might go into business for himself once more. Waclo’s interest in chainsaw art stemmed from an unconventional source: a TV show called Saw Dogs that his daughter was a fan of and insisted he needed to watch. The show profiles the trials and travails of a www.50plusLifePA.com


team of chainsaw carvers as they are commissioned to complete a series of complex art projects for high-end clients. After watching just one episode, he was hooked. Soon, he’d purchased a chainsaw and was beginning to attempt his own small carvings on blocks of wood in his driveway. “Something about it just spoke to me and I wanted to try it. I’d never used a chainsaw before, never even picked one up,” laughs Waclo. “When I was first learning to sculpt, my main focus was using the saw without killing myself! Much of sculpting involves using the tip of the saw, which can cause a lot of bounce-back. It’s really quite dangerous when you’re first learning.” After taming the saw, Waclo’s sculpting skills began to grow by leaps and bounds. He credits his engineering experience, and its reliance on being able to visualize structures in three dimensions, for his rapid progress.  “In order to do what I do, and know where to make the first cut and the second cut, and so on, it’s essential to be able to see these objects in my head and rotate them around. Carving is really just the process of ‘removing’; there may be an eagle or a horse hidden in a block of wood, and it’s my job to carve away everything else that’s there,” he explains. What began as a hobby in his driveway soon grew into a business as passersby started to notice the artwork he was making and made offers to buy them. He carved a custom bench, which included two friendly, welcoming bears and decorative script, for Brown’s Orchard & Market in Loganville, and suddenly his work was gaining notice and wide visibility. “If it hadn’t been for Brown’s, this probably would’ve remained a part-time job,” he says. “Things started taking off, and I had to start working faster in order to deal with all of the commissions that began coming my way.” After 25 years in a successful career, Waclo left the corporate world to strike out on his own, and he hasn’t looked back since. He now www.50plusLifePA.com

works full time to fulfill all of the commissions from art collectors and property owners who want to adorn their yards with Waclo’s unique vision. “Each morning I sort through all of the Facebook messages, emails, and phone calls I receive from prospective customers,” he explains. “Then I head to my shop … or hit the road with my mobile workshop if I’m working on site.” He also incorporates a workout routine and nutrition plan into his daily regimen. “This isn’t like sitting in an office — you need to be in shape to do this kind of work, and I see myself doing it when I’m 75 or 80.” He maintains a small inventory of sculptures for sale, but most of his work is done on spec after consulting with a potential buyer. His sculptures range from small pieces he can complete in a day to works like the Old Man of the Sea, which had to be positioned by crane at Mariner Point Park in Maryland. As a chainsaw carver, Waclo has joined a small but passionate group of woodworkers referred to as “The Brotherhood of the Saw,” which has allowed him to forge relationships with fellow carvers and customers all around the world. “I’ve truly become friends with many of my customers. It’s humbling to be invited into someone’s home and be put up as a guest when you’re creating art on their property.”  He recalls being “treated like a rock star” during a tour of the Stihl Chainsaw manufacturing plant in Germany and, when not carving, gives presentations and seminars on small business around the country. He’s even become friends with the carvers he saw on TV who inspired him in the first place. “I know it’s a bit of a cliché, but if you’re able to find something you’re passionate about and make a living doing it, you’ll never have to work. I’m 52 and every day I’ve got a smile on my face, I’ve never felt better, and I feel like my road in life, starting a business at this age, brought me to what I was always meant to do.” For more information, visit www. chainsawcarvingbypaul.com.

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Assistance Dogs Provide Help and Love Jim Miller

Dear Savvy Senior, What can you tell me about assistance dogs for people with disabilities? My sister, who’s 58, has multiple sclerosis, and I’m wondering if an assistance dog could help make her life a little easier. – Inquiring Sister Dear Inquiring, For people with disabilities and even medical conditions, assistant dogs can be fantastic help, not to mention they provide great companionship and an invaluable sense of security. Here’s what you and your sister should know. While most people are familiar with guide dogs that help people who are blind or visually impaired, there are also a variety of assistance dogs trained to help people with physical disabilities, hearing loss, and various medical conditions. Unlike most pets, assistance dogs are highly trained canine specialists — often golden and Labrador retrievers and German shepherds — that know approximately 40-50 commands, are amazingly well behaved and calm, and are permitted to go anywhere the public is allowed.

Here’s a breakdown of the different types of assistance dogs and what they can help with. Service dogs: These dogs are specially trained to help people with physical disabilities due to multiple sclerosis, spinal cord injuries, Parkinson’s disease, chronic arthritis, and many other disabling conditions. They help by performing tasks their owner cannot do or has trouble doing, like carrying or retrieving items, picking up dropped items, opening and closing doors, turning lights on and off, assisting with dressing and undressing, and helping with balance, household chores, and more. Guide dogs: For the blind and visually impaired, guide dogs help their owner get around safely by avoiding obstacles, stopping at curbs and steps, negotiating traffic, and more. Hearing dogs: For those who are deaf or hearing impaired, hearing dogs can alert their owner to specific sounds, such as ringing telephones, doorbells, alarm clocks, microwaves, oven timers, smoke alarms, approaching sirens, crying babies, or when someone calls out their name. Seizure alert/response dogs: For people with epilepsy or other seizure disorders, these dogs can recognize the signs that their owner is going to have a seizure and provide them with advance warning so he or she can get to a safe place or take medication to prevent the seizure or lessen its severity. They are also trained to retrieve medications and use a preprogrammed phone to call for help. These dogs can also be trained to help people with diabetes, panic attacks, and various other conditions.   Finding a Dog If your sister is interested in getting a service dog, contact some assistancedog training programs. To find them, Assistance Dogs International provides a listing of around 65 U.S. programs on their website, www. assistancedogsinternational.org. After you locate a few, you’ll need to either visit their website or call them to find out the types of training dogs they offer, the areas they serve, if they have a waiting list, and what upfront costs will be involved. Some groups offer dogs for free, some ask for donations, and some charge thousands of dollars. To get an assistance dog, your sister will need to show proof of her disability, which her physician can provide, and she’ll have to complete an application and go through an interview process. She will also need to go and stay at the training facility for a week or two so she can become familiar with her dog and get training on how to handle it. It’s also important to understand that assistance dogs are not for everybody. They require time, money, and care that your sister or some other friend or family member must be able and willing to provide. Jim Miller is a regular contributor to the NBC Today show and author of The Savvy Senior Book. www.savvysenior.org

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7 Lifesaving Reasons You Should Eat Cauliflower

I was eating dinner with my husband, Sam, and having homemade chicken soup with a slice of sourdough bread and melted butter. It was simple and delicious. We ate silently.  Toward the end of the meal, he says to me, “We always eat our soup and bread silently because we are mentally calculating how to time the last bite so it’s perfect.”  Ha! So true. We usually chatter during meals, and tell funny stories, but when soup and bread hit the table, it all goes to silence. I like to time my last bite so it’s soup (to wash down the bread).  Regardless, about this homemade chicken soup … that’s what I really want to talk about. Tonight we made it differently, with peas instead of celery (because you need something green) and with red onions instead of white ones. We used shredded cauliflower instead of rice — that was the biggest and most pleasant surprise because I didn’t think it would actually work.  You can buy shredded cauliflower now in bags in the produce department of your grocery store. Someone should have bagged this stuff decades ago! Anyway, the cauliflower holds up remarkably well, even days later. It acts just like rice except with cauliflower, you get the most incredible health

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benefits. It’s a crucifer, like its green cousins broccoli and Brussels sprouts, so it has the same cancerfighting properties. I want you to start cooking with cauliflower. Here’s why. Cauliflower contains sulforaphanes; that’s the compound that gives it a funky sulfur smell. This compound has been isolated and studied. It clearly demonstrates cancer-fighting promise, especially for breast, prostate, and other reproductive cancers. This has been shown repeatedly, in both animal models and test-tube studies. Cauliflower contains antioxidants, which neutralize free radicals. There are many antioxidants present in cauliflower, but among the more recognizable, we find quercetin, vitamin K, vitamin C, beta-carotene, and kaempferol. That last one is incredible — it’s rarely talked about, but kaempferol has evidence behind it to show that it can block the production of VEGF (a signaling protein that promotes the growth of new blood vessels) in your body and “suppress ovarian cancer-cell metastasis in vitro,” according to one research study.

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Fifties Flashback

America’s New Old Hero Randal C. Hill

While numerous historians have portrayed Davy Crockett as a brave folk figure, many others have blasted him as being a self-serving con artist. When Crockett claimed to have killed 105 grizzly bears in a span of nine months, some later cynics argued that the uneducated pioneer simply couldn’t have counted that high. In the mid-1950s, though, baby boomer kids embraced only the positive Crockett image. This was thanks to Fess Parker, a 29-year-old Navy veteran from Texas who stood tall (6 feet, 5 inches), was ruggedly handsome, and exuded a quiet on-screen confidence during ABC-TV’s Disneyland trilogy about the fabled frontiersman. As Walt Disney’s debut foray into television, each episode of Davy Crockett was shown one month apart,

from December fighting for 1954 until radio airplay; Bill Hayes’s February 1955. rendition It became on Cadence arguably television’s first Records beat the competition miniseries. when it The streaked up the shows hit an Billboard charts unexpected and locked in ratings home the No. 1 spot run when they attracted for five weeks. Photo of Fess Parker as Davy Crockett from Few knew 40 million the television miniseries Davy Crockett. that Disney had viewers. commissioned Parker’s Crockett — hailed as “the King of the the tune — which took less than an Wild Frontier” — captivated America hour to write — only when the three Crockett shows had run a few minutes like nothing before. People loved the catchy theme song. short of time before being shown. Hayes’s success was only the Suddenly nearly two dozen versions of beginning. In a feeding frenzy of epic “The Ballad of Davy Crockett” were proportions, manufacturers rushed a multitude of Crockett products onto the market — much to the chagrin and frustration of the Disney organization. (Since Davy was a historical figure and in the public domain, it was impossible to copyright his name.) Anybody could — and did — put a load of Crockett stuff on the market. Kids rushed to buy “official” Davy Read it online, in print, and Crockett regalia (buckskin jackets, on mobile/tablet devices. leggings, moccasins) as well as 3,000 onlinepub.com other items that included (deep breath here): lunchboxes, guitars,

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wristwatches, coloring books, trading cards, bedspreads, pajamas, bath towels, underwear, jigsaw puzzles, bubble gum, t-shirts — and 14 million hastily printed books. Essential to any self-respecting young fan was the coveted coonskin cap, a faux fur creation that included a luxuriant raccoon snap-on tail that dangled from the back. The caps sold at a rate of 5,000 a day, more than 1 million altogether. Girls as well as boys could show their devotion when they donned Polly Crockett caps of all-white faux fur. Then, without warning and after sales of $300 million — $100 million from the caps alone — the Davy Crockett fad died. Overnight, it seemed, phones stopped ringing and orders stopped flowing in. After seven frenetic months, it was over. Davy Crockett had become uncool, and merchants everywhere groaned. The craze cannot simply be dismissed as a frivolous fad, though. It had become an unprecedented event in the early television age, an example of the power of a TV-product tie-in. For the first time, baby boomers had — unknowingly — flexed their collective commercial muscles Although Randal C. Hill’s heart lives in the past, the rest of him resides in Bandon, Ore. He can be reached at wryterhill@msn.com.

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The Bookworm Sez

Hank & Jim Terri Schlichenmeyer

You and your friend While at Princeton, have a lot in common. Jim briefly met Hank, You both laugh at the but their meeting was same idiotic things, enjoy unremarkable: They the same food and drink shook hands, exchanged (often together), and you small talk, and then went share similar experiences. their separate ways, but You’ve taught your friend they had mutual friends, a lot and you’ve been a so it was inevitable that willing pupil, too. they’d meet again. If you’re both lucky, as Eventually, they shared in the new book Hank & rooming houses, a love Jim by Scott Eyman, it’ll of practical jokes and Hank & Jim: The Fifty-Year Friendship of gardening, and an be that way for decades. of Henry Fonda and obsession with flight. Born into a large James Stewart family in Nebraska in Hank was a By Scott Eyman May 1905, Henry Fonda Hollywood success first, c. 2017, Simon & once recalled an aimless, then Jim. Jim won an Schuster directionless childhood. Academy Award first, 384 pages That’s surprising, then Hank. They both since young Hank was a spent time in World War focused boy who always II, about which they were insisted on perfection in reluctant to talk. And everything he tackled, they shared an obsession including hobbies, studies, with one irresistible and acting, which he woman ‌ embraced when a local You click through woman invited him to join channels on a quiet the community theater. evening and find an old, When he realized that black-and-white movie on he loved acting—and he TV. Those are fun to see was good at it—Hank — and so is Hank & Jim. received the blessings of Much like those classic Photo credit: Greg Lovett his parents to move to Hank & Jim author movies, author Scott Scott Eyman. New York City, to see Eyman takes readers on a where his dramatic talents trip back to an innocent might take him. time, when drama was for James Stewart was born almost stage or camera only and, because few exactly three years after Hank, in a stars bothered with bodyguards, fans similar small town in Pennsylvania. enjoyed more accessibility. His father was a businessman who It was a time when an actor might owned a hardware store and who be ashamed at his own personal made sure that his children weren’t marry-go-round, while other insulated from others unlike them. marriages were forever. But Eyman Young Jim was an easygoing, also lets his subjects romp: We see affable boy who loved animals and bed-hopping and scandals here, as model airplanes; in fact, he’d once well as stories that frame the lifelong considered entering a Naval Academy friendship of two stars, as told by but, while in prep school, he realized themselves, friends, and children. that he loved acting — and he was And on that note, readers who are good at it. Even at college, he wanted tabloid-familiar with either man may to see where his dramatic talents also shed a tear ‌ might take him. please see HANK & JIM page 11 www.50plusLifePA.com

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Such is Life

Every Day is a Milestone Saralee Perel

My husband, Bob, will turn 70 soon. He’s been refusing to get out of bed. Today I pulled his covers down. “Bob, 70 is the new 50.” He pulled the covers back over his head and muffled, “What’s 80? The new dead?” “Bob, look what you’re missing out on right now. A wonderful day with me. Come on. Get dressed and we’ll go to Four Seas Ice Cream.” Four Seas is probably one of the most popular ice cream parlors on Cape Cod, where we live. I said, “I’ll even treat you to one of their t-shirts. What color?” “Black noir.” “What size? “Old.” Later, he said, “I don’t feel 70.” “What’s 70 supposed to feel like?” “As cuddly and adorable as a tick.” “I’m getting you out of this funk. We have this very moment to be in love with each other.

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I’m not missing out on it.” That lifted Bob’s spirits. He held my hand as we walked to our car. He joyfully said, “We fell in love when we saw each other at Four Seas. Remember?” “Oh yes,” I said, suddenly feeling a little wistful. “You ordered extra cherries for your hot fudge sundae. They fell on the floor and you stepped on them. Everywhere you walked, you left little red dots behind you.” “It seems like yesterday,” I said. This 70 thing couldn’t be bothering me instead of Bob, could it? That feeling of wistfulness was now replaced by wanting to throw up. Choking on my words, I said, “The place was packed. We locked eyes just as if we were the only ones there. You were wearing your lightblue work shirt and it matched your blue eyes.” “That was over 40 years ago,” he said. My shoulders did a grand slam slump. Then I ever-so-slowly put myself prone and face down in the grass. “Saralee! Pull yourself together.” He helped me up and gave me a hug. By the time we got to the ice cream shop, I was uncontrollably sobbing. “Boy, will your birthday be rotten.” He snuggled with me in the front seat. “All I want for my birthday is you.” That’s all I needed to hear. And so, just like the pair we were 40 years ago, we sat at the counter and had our ice creams. I had a hot fudge sundae with extra cherries, which didn’t fall off. Bob’s birthday will be a day to cherish, when two people in love share one fine occasion filled with dreams of long ago, the exquisite present tense, and courage for the days to come. Nationally syndicated, award-winning columnist Saralee Perel can be reached at sperel@saraleeperel.com or via her website: www.saraleeperel.com.

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Strawberry Moon or the Rose Moon. The storms of July precede the Thunder Moon on July 27. It is also known as the Buck Moon, as the growth of deer’s antlers occurs during this time of year. August’s Sturgeon Moon is revered by fishermen of North America’s Great Lakes as a time when the region offers the most generous catches. Appearing on Aug. 26, this moon is often referred to as the Moon When All Things Ripen and the Blueberry Moon. The full moon on Sept. 24 comes days after the autumnal equinox and therefore is the Harvest Moon. The moon closest to this change of season will always carry that honor. The Hunter’s Moon on Oct. 24 is symbolic of a time when Native American tribes prepared and stored provisions for the coming winter. This moon is also called the Dying Grass Moon. November’s Frost Moon arrives on Nov. 22 with a chill that will surely be felt in the air. The Algonquin tribes referred to this moon as the Beaver Moon and set traps to collect pelts that would keep them warm through the cold days and nights ahead. December’s Cold Moon marks the arrival of short days, long nights, and the winter solstice. By the time this moon appears on Dec. 22, the year will almost be over and a new lunar cycle about to begin.

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Tinseltown Talks

Jay Sandrich Directed Classic Sitcoms Nick Thomas

Starting out as an assistant director on I Love Lucy in the late ’50s probably wasn’t a bad foundation for Jay Sandrich’s television career behind the camera. “I wrote a letter to Lucy’s company (Desilu) and was invited for an interview,” recalled Sandrich from Los Angeles. He was immediately offered Publicity still courtesy Paramount Pictures the job despite possessing Jay Sandrich's father, Mark, seated at only a film degree from right, working on Holiday Inn with Fred UCLA and a couple of years’ Astaire and Bing Crosby. experience working on army documentaries. “It was my first real job in the business,” he said. “The only reason I got it was because the man who hired me had been my father’s assistant, so I got that job thanks to my father.” But by then, there was no way for Sandrich to thank his dad. Sandrich senior had died a decade earlier when his son was just 13.

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“Since the initial launch of the hotline in June, we listened to our veterans, who indicated that they prefer speaking with other veterans and veteran family members, and we adjusted our hiring based on that feedback,” added Shulkin.   Since fulltime coverage began in October, the hotline has served more than 10,000 callers.  Hotline agents answer inquiries; provide directory assistance; document concerns about VA care, benefits, and services; and expedite the referral and resolution of those concerns. Agents undergo regular updates and training on VA services based on hotline trends and are assisted by newly implemented tracking software to help VA capture and improve its response, referral, and resolution processes.  The hotline’s agents are located at a VA facility in Shepherdstown, West Virginia. The hotline also generates realtime reports to VA experts, who can help address the specific issues of veterans as well as make betterinformed decisions on where program improvements are needed. 

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Calendar of Events

Dauphin County

Support Groups Free and open to the public Mondays, 6:30-8 p.m. Grief Support Group Mohler Senior Center 25 Hope Drive, Hershey (717) 732-1000 Jan. 2 to March 20, 2-4 p.m. GriefShare Seminar and Support Group Derry Presbyterian Church 248 E. Derry Road, Hershey (717) 533-9667 www.griefshare.org Jan. 3 and 17, 7-8:30 p.m. ANAD Eating Disorders Support Group PinnacleHealth Polyclinic Landis Building, Sixth Floor Classroom 1 2501 N. Third St., Harrisburg (717) 712-9535

Senior Center Activities

Jan. 9, 6-7 p.m. Alzheimer’s Caregivers Support Group Greenfield Senior Living at Graysonview 150 Kempton Ave., Harrisburg (717) 561-8010

Jan. 18, 6 p.m. Alzheimer’s Support Group Country Meadows of Hershey Second Floor Training Room 451 Sand Hill Road, Hershey (717) 533-6996 astoner@countrymeadows.com

Jan. 10, 6-7 p.m. Alzheimer’s Support Group Brookdale Harrisburg 3560 N. Progress Ave., Harrisburg (717) 671-4700

Jan. 18, 6-8 p.m. Harrisburg Area Parkinson’s Disease Caregiver Support Group Giant Food Stores – Second Floor 2300 Linglestown Road Harrisburg (717) 580-7772

Jan. 15, 6:30 p.m. Support Group for Families of Those with Memory-Related Illnesses Frey Village 1020 N. Union St., Middletown (717) 930-1218

Jan. 31, 7-8 p.m. Connections Support Group: Families of Memory Impaired Ecumenical Retirement Community Building 3, Second Floor 3525 Canby St., Harrisburg (717) 561-2590

Jan. 17, 2-4 p.m. Parkinson’s Support Group The Residence of the Jewish Home – Second Floor Library 4004 Linglestown Road If you have an event you would like to Harrisburg include, please email information to (717) 697-2513 mjoyce@onlinepub.com for consideration.

Jan. 4, 7-8 p.m. Fibromyalgia Support Group LeVan Chiropractic 1000 Briarsdale Road, Suite C Harrisburg (717) 558-3500

PARKS & RECREATION Jan. 7, 10-11:30 a.m. – Mindfulness Hike, Wildwood Park Jan. 16, 7-8:30 p.m. – Wildwood Lecture Series: Northern Bobwhite Quail Reintroduction, Wildwood Park Jan. 30, 7-8:30 p.m. – Wildwood Lecture Series: Amphibians and Reptiles of Dauphin County, Wildwood Park

Library Programs East Shore Area Library, 4501 Ethel St., Harrisburg, (717) 652-9380 Jan. 14, 1 p.m. – Let Freedom Sing: How Music Inspired the Civil Rights Movement Jan. 20, 2 p.m. – Giant Pennsylvania Map with Judy Bower Jan. 26, 11 a.m. – Getting to Know Your Computer II Elizabethville Area Library, 80 N. Market St., Elizabethville, (717) 362-9825 Jan. 18, 6 p.m. – Thursday Theater Jan. 20, 11 a.m. – Giant Pennsylvania Map with Judy Bower Jan. 23, 6:30 p.m. – Resume Writing Johnson Memorial Library, 799 E. Center St., Millersburg, (717) 692-2658 Jan. 27, 12:30 p.m. – Afternoon Tea Kline Library, 530 S. 29th St., Harrisburg, (717) 234-3934 Jan. 17, 2 p.m. – Friends and Readers Book Club Jan. 25, 6:30 p.m. – Kline Library Friends Meeting Madeline L. Olewine Memorial Library, 2410 N. Third St., Harrisburg, (717) 232-7286 Jan. 22, 6 p.m. – Cookbook Book Club McCormick Riverfront Library, 101 Walnut St., Harrisburg, (717) 234-4976 Wednesdays in January, 11:30 a.m. – Midday Getaway William H. & Marion C. Alexander Family Library, 200 W. Second St., Hummelstown, (717) 566-0949 Jan. 10, 6 p.m. – Second Wednesday Cinema Jan. 20, 12:30 p.m. – Afternoon Tea Jan. 22, 6 p.m. – Crazy for Coloring

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Friendship Senior Center – (717) 657-1547 Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, 8-9 a.m. – Light Aerobics Wednesdays, 12:30 p.m. – Mah Jong Rutherford House – (717) 564-5682 www.rutherfordcenter.org Mondays and Fridays, 11 a.m. – Chair Yoga Tuesdays and Thursdays, 9:30 a.m. – Art Class Wednesdays, 9 a.m. to noon – Computer Assistance Just a snippet of what you may be missing … please call or visit their website for more information.

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Jan. 3, 7 p.m. World Culture Club of Central Pennsylvania Meeting Penn State Hershey Medical Center Fifth Floor, Lecture Room B 500 University Drive, Hershey www.worldcultureclubpa.org Jan. 4, 7 p.m. Central Pennsylvania World War II Roundtable Meeting Grace United Methodist Church 433 E. Main St., Hummelstown (717) 503-2862 charlie.centralpaww2rt@gmail.com www.centralpaww2roundtable.org Jan. 11, 7:30 p.m. Central Pennsylvania Vietnam Roundtable Meeting Vietnam Veterans of America, Michael Novosel MOH Chapter 542 8000 Derry St., Harrisburg (717) 545-2336 centralpavietnamrt@verizon.net www.centralpavietnamroundtable.org Jan. 16, 10 a.m. History of Hershey Derry Seniors Derry Presbyterian Church 248 E. Derry Road, Hershey (717) 533-9667 www.derrypres.org Jan. 24, 7 p.m. Piecemakers Quilt Guild of Middletown St. Peter’s Lutheran Church Spring and Union streets, Middletown (717) 915-5555 gsk1308@gmail.com Jan. 30, 6 p.m. Susquehanna Rovers Volksmarch Walking Club Bass Pro Shop – Hunt Room Harrisburg Mall 3501 Paxton St., Harrisburg (717) 805-9540

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VA Community Clinic Relocating in 2018 The U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs’ Lebanon VA Medical Center has announced it is relocating its current Cumberland County VA Community Clinic in Camp Hill to a new and expanded facility in Mechanicsburg. The new clinic will be located at 5070 Ritter Road, Mechanicsburg. Veterans are slated to transition to the new facility for appointments in 2018. The new Mechanicsburg-based Cumberland County VA Community

Clinic will provide a full range of onsite primary care and telehealth services for veterans in Cumberland and surrounding counties to include mental and behavioral health, laboratory, and women’s health services. The new clinic will be approximately 25,000 square feet and is projected to serve more than 9,300 enrolled veterans within the first year. For more information, call the Lebanon VA Medical Center at (717) 272-6621.

New Hope for Headache Sufferers Cluster headaches are rare, but they can cause intense pain to the people (mostly men) who suffer from them. But there’s hope. According to the NBC News website, the Food and Drug Administration has recently approved a device known as the vagus nerve stimulator for treatment of cluster headaches. Sufferers place the small device, named gammaCore, against the neck and send a mild electrical stimulation

to the vagus nerve—a large nerve that runs from the brain to the colon. The jolt disrupts signals along the nerve, reducing the pain. Vagus nerve stimulation is already used to treat ailments such as epilepsy and depression. Gammacore, manufactured by the organization electroCore, is available in Europe, but electroCore plans to begin offering it in the United States later this year.

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Booming Voice

Heart to Heart Bill Levine

Recently, during my 9-yearold Boston terrier’s second echocardiogram appointment, I was not, unlike the first appointment, focusing on the intimacy of Cookie’s beating heart tissue and blood flow on the screen. At this six-month checkup there was less awe and more trepidation on my part. Cookie’s last echo showed that she had a leaking mitral valve, a bane of her breed, which indicated the beginning of congestive heart failure. Thus, this time I was paying more attention to Dr. M., the vet, as she jotted down numbers from the ultrasound procedure. I was hoping the numbers would add up to stability in Cookie’s condition. They didn’t.

“Cookie’s leakage has increased since last time,� Dr. M. said with professional concern. Not wanting to dive into the ultimate prognosis, I waded into the shallow end of the pool, asking Dr. M. if we needed to change Cookie’s meds. She became more upbeat,

saying that as long as Cookie is not showing any symptoms, like shortness of breath, we could keep her on the same meds, and even if she did begin to retain fluid in her lungs, there were meds that could mitigate this congestion for a while. I looked at Cookie on the

examining table, reassuring myself that she could jump off it, her leaping ability still half-cat and half-dog. Even at 9 ½, at home she still does the not-stupid dog trick of jumping on a chair and then onto the dining table to pilfer my meal with a gastronomic interest ranging from salads to stroganoff. Then, when yelled at, she can, with aplomb, dive off the table to stake out her position for dessert. My initial echocardiogram four years before Cookie’s was nervewracking. A day out of surgery for a broken ankle, I was wheeled on a tortuous gurney journey to a deserted wing of the hospital, where the echocardio room resided. please see HEART page 19

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Across 1. Cigar future 4. Sharp curve 7. ___ knows? 10. Samoan capital 11. Genuflected 13. Present 15. Actor Bruce or Laura 16. Daisylike flower 17. Persia, now 18. Dry runs of a play 21. Sheep 22. Beer measure 23. Equilibrium

27. Natural gift 31. Flair 32. Minerals 34. ___ collar 35. Ireland 36. Extinct N.Z. flightless bird 37. Filmed 38. Want 39. Heels 40. Solar disk 41. Peril 43. Ugliness

45. Harvest 47. Dignitary (abbr.) 48. Indisposed 56. Beef or pork 57. Sea duck 58. Oleaginous 59. Shaft 60. Lamentably 61. Bear dipper 62. Distant (pref.) 63. Parcel of land 64. ND Indian

19. Aquatic bird 20. Genetic material (abbr.) 23. Bib. town near Jerusalem 24. UFO occupant 25. Medical condition 26. Decay 28. Anesthetic 29. Not anybody (two words) 30. Explosive (abbr.) 33. Effortless 35. Finish 39. Packing boxes

40. Orient 42. Always (poet.) 44. Each and ____ 46. Medical bottle 48. Kill Bill’s Thurman 49. Succeeding 50. Valley 51. Taro root 52. Raised mark on the skin 53. Employ 54. Other 55. Swedish shag rug

Down 1. Copycat 2. Patriarch 3. Grimm characters 4. Noun suffix 5. Osiris’ evil brother 6. Catch some Z’s 7. Political campaign circuit 8. Wife of Zeus 9. Spoken 10. Append 11. Actress Allen or Black 12. Attributes 14. Printer’s marks

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Age is Nothing but a Number: Cosmetic Surgery after 50 By the California Association of Orthodontists Getting on social media isn’t the only way older people are keeping up with the younger generation — doctors are reporting a recent rise in the number of older patients looking into cosmetic procedures, many of them in their 90s. Dr. Joshua Zuckerman, a board-certified plastic surgeon practicing in Manhattan, reasons that the stigma for plastic surgery is fading fast. Combined with an increase in less invasive procedures, both surgical and nonsurgical treatments are becoming more common with older men and women. Zuckerman says that wrinkles, sunspots, and loose, flabby skin are often the biggest complaints for older patients, but it’s not uncommon to perform facelifts, eyelid lifts, facial fat transfer, breast lifts, tummy tucks, and thigh lifts on them, too. Cosmetic surgery is often traditionally associated with major procedures like these; however, the rise in popularity of noninvasive procedures — such as braces, dental implants, chemical peels, laser resurfacing, and injectable fillers such as Botox or Xeomin — have made aesthetic improvements even more accessible and affordable to anyone that wishes to take advantage of them. Cosmetic procedures may be more in demand than ever before with over-60s, but there is a lack of information about the effects, risk, and results for older generations that take the plunge. So, we spoke to the experts and asked them to break everything down for us. How Risky is It? The risk really depends on the procedure that you choose. Body-altering surgeries, such as facelifts or tummy tucks, require anesthesia, which is riskier for older patients, who are more likely to have heart problems, high blood pressure, or diabetes. “Age is also an independent risk factor for forming a clot during surgery,” says Zuckerman, “so patients over 50 must get proper preoperative medical clearance from their primary-care doctor and/or cardiologist.” Extreme measures don’t have to be taken to alter appearance, though. Braces are a relatively low-risk way to bring change to a face or even mitigate health concerns, such as sleep apnea or jaw pain caused by temporomandibular joint disorder (TMJ). Dr. Robert Sunstein, San Diego-based orthodontist and member of the California Association of Orthodontists, says that “there is no increased risk in getting braces later in life and, at most, the procedures can be tiring.” One of his patients, an 84-year-old, opted to go home for a nap before returning and finishing the bracket adjustment.

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Is it Effective for Older Patients? Younger patients have the benefit of higher levels of collagen and elastin in their skin, meaning that their results will last longer, but Shah does say that older patients can, in some instances, have equivalent results to younger generations with procedures such as tummy tucks or breast lifts. Results, he notes, can vary for patients of different ages and sizes. Sunstein states that, in comparison to surgical procedures, braces are known to be effective at any age. The key to achieving a well-aligned smile with braces or dental implants, such as veneers, is having healthy teeth and gums as a foundation for any orthodontic work. Regular visits to a dentist, an effective oral-care routine, and consistent follow-ups with an orthodontist will ensure that every patient’s treatment is a success. Should I Do It? Age has no impact on wanting to look as good as you feel, and luckily, there are now so many options out there that offer results for all comfort levels. Whether you’re ready to go full force into liposuction and a tummy tuck or would prefer to start small with fillers or a chemical peel, you can find a procedure that’s right for you. Once all of the risks have been assessed against the benefits, there is no reason that anyone over 60 can’t have a positive experience with cosmetic surgery, should they want it. The California Association of Orthodontists is a chapter of the American Association of Orthodontists. It represents more than 18,000 orthodontist members throughout the United States, Canada, and abroad. For more information, go to www.caortho.org.

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What Does Age Mean for Recovery? As with any healing, as the body ages, the process becomes slower. Recuperation from anesthetic can also take longer, but it’s not all bad news. New York-based cosmetic surgeon Dr. Philip J. Miller says that “surprisingly, recovery from procedures is as varied across the board as one sees in the sub-65-year-old population. There are those who recuperate very quickly and those who take a little longer, both in terms of the incision healing, bruising, swelling, and recuperation from anesthesia.” So, while extra caution must be taken, recovery time is a very individual process. Surgeon Dr. Manish Shah does note that his older patients tend to have a much higher pain tolerance, however.

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CAULIFLOWER from page 7 Another article suggests kaempferol could interact with estrogen receptors on the cell and slow the growth of cancer! Cauliflower protects your bones because it is a rich, natural source of vitamins K and C, as well as minerals like potassium, manganese, and phosphorus. Cauliflower gives you a low-carb alternative to digestible fiber, so it will help you achieve regular bowel movements while eliminating toxins stuck in the deep crevices of your gut. In fact, sulforaphanes and glucosinolates found in cauliflower fight Helicobacter pylori, and that

fact alone should reduce your risk of colon cancer. Cauliflower contains I3C (indole3-carbinol), which helps metabolize estrogen into anti-cancer byproducts, and that’s good for both men and women. I3C has been studied for its role in cholesterol and triglyceride synthesis. If you’d like to get some of my recipes using cauliflower, sign up for my newsletter and I’ll email them to you. This information is not intended to diagnose, prevent, or treat your disease. For more information about the author, visit SuzyCohen.com

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HEART from page 16 The echo was uneventful, except for the cold jelly on my chest applied by the showerhead-like device. After the echo, my gurney was moved to the long, empty corridor, and I was assured transportation would be right down. After waiting 20 minutes, though, I would have welcomed even the spooky corridor’s resident 100-yearold troll to extricate me from this vast nether land. This experience was in contrast to Cookie’s echo, which was done in the loving care of the vet and the vet tech. Thus, Cookie was told at her discharge how cute she was and given a treat, and afterward there was no waiting in creepy isolation. I just whisked Cookie into my car and deposited her in her familiar frontseat lookout position. Several months after my initial echocardiogram in 2011, I was diagnosed with atrial fibrillation, a heart arrhythmia, which can be mostly controlled with a daily dose of a beta blocker. When I occasionally feel dizzy, I monitor my heart rate with a finger

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