Cumberland County Edition | June 2017 • Vol. 18 No. 6
Get ‘Caught’ by Bluebirds page 4
traveltizers: dutch for a day page 6
Special focus: leisure attractions page 10
Deal Me In
Is Free Slot Play Rigged? By Mark Pilarski
Dear Mark: When a casino gives free slot play, does the slot machine “know” you are playing with the casino’s free given “money”? It seems that spins on the slot machine change when I put my money in the machine. Say, for instance, I get $5 free play. With 10 spins at 50 cents each, I don’t seem to win anything. As soon I put my money in, the machine seems to change and starts to pay with some credits. – Gerry L. More and more casinos are rewarding slot players with free slot play, giving slots players a chance to win without having to drop a dime into a machine. Slot aficionados see it as getting something for nothing. Then there are other casinos that
offer something less called matching play, whereby you are rewarded with $10 in free play after playing through $10 of your money. Obviously, this offer is not as good a deal as a “something for nothing” promotion. Your $5 freeplay offering is a cash reward for your play. Sad to say, that compensation must be used within the casino. That, Gerry, is the
drawback of free play: You can’t take the money and skedaddle. In contrast, with cashbacks for your action, there is no requirement that you play your cash reimbursement. Like winnings, it is your money, not the “house’s,” and you can always pocket it to use as you please. All things being equal, I would rather have cash in hand that I can
spend as I wish. Moreover, with free play, most players do get something but end up with nothing because they tend to play back their free-play allowance before they cash out. The biggest challenge any casino has is getting you to walk through the front door. Free slot play—something for nothing—is one such Pavlovian offering that triggers saliva amongst slot jockeys. I have always been amazed at how just $10 in free slot play brings in the slot masses. Unfortunately, once forward-facing a slot machine, you can easily run through that $10 in but a few spins if you’re playing max coins and max lines. Now the casino has you captured within their friendly confines for a total outlay of $10.
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The up and up, Gerry, is that the random number generator doesn’t care one iota if you are playing the free play or with your hard-earned money. What might be happening is that you are the victim of your own selective memory along with a shortened gambling timeline. Your assumption is that the machines hit less frequently when
you are playing free play versus when you’re playing with your money. Consequently, you tend to remember the times that you don’t hit on the free play and forget the times that you did. I would suggest that you keep track of your play and not rely on discriminatory impressions. So, in the future, as you play free-
slot play promotions, humor me and keep track of the number of spins and the number of hits that you get from free play. Then, actively track the same number of spins with your money. As your gambling timeline extends, your returns should be relatively close. Gambling Wisdom of the Month: “Gambling heats the mind like
an oven.” – Henry Ward Beecher, Gamblers and Gambling (1896) Mark Pilarski is a recognized authority on casino gambling, having survived 18 years in the casino trenches. Pilarski is the creator of the bestselling, awardwinning audio book series on casino gambling, Hooked on Winning. www. markpilarski.com
At Your Fingertips Helpful numbers, hotlines, and local businesses and organizations eager to serve you—all just a phone call away. Funeral & Cremation Services Cremation Society of Pennsylvania Serving Cumberland County (800) 720-8221 Emergency Numbers American Red Cross (717) 845-2751 Central PA Poison Center (800) 521-6110 Cumberland County Assistance (800) 269-0173 Energy Assistance Cumberland County Board of Assistance (800) 269-0173 Eye care services Kilmore Eye Associates 890 Century Drive, Mechanicsburg (717) 697-1414 Funeral Directors Cocklin Funeral Home, Inc. 30 N. Chestnut St., Dillsburg (717) 432-5312 Health & Medical Services Alzheimer’s Association (717) 651-5020 American Diabetes Association (800) 342-2383 Arthritis Foundation (717) 763-0900 CONTACT Helpline (717) 652-4400 The National Kidney Foundation (800) 697-7007 PACE (800) 225-7223 Social Security Administration (Medicare) (800) 302-1274 Vision Resources of Central Pennsylvania (717) 238-2531
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By Megan Joyce When I met Dean Rust at his home to take a tour of his nearby bluebird boxes, he stepped outside and indicated the borrowed golf cart we would be riding on. I could see him immediately take notice of my lightweight sweater. He expressed concern I would be chilly during our breezy ride. But the unusually warm latewinter weather made it a pleasant excursion through a scenic golf course’s seventh fairway, which adjoins Rust’s backyard and hosts the 43 bluebird boxes he dutifully attends for two hours each Monday morning during spring and summer. His quiet observation and genuine concern for my well-being perfectly mirror the detailed care and devotion he applies to the area’s bluebird population. As president of the Bluebird Society of Pennsylvania, an affiliate of the North American Bluebird Society with active members in all 67 counties, Rust chairs the organization’s quarterly board meetings, pens a president’s message for each newsletter, and presides over the state BSP conference each spring. BSP’s mission is to protect, enjoy, and propagate the eastern bluebird, whose population plunged more than 90 percent between 1920 and 1970, likely due to pesticides, changes in farming practices, and lack of nesting cavities. Since 1978, however, bluebirds have made an impressive recovery with help from citizen-science conservation efforts throughout the U.S. and Canada, Rust said. “This problem was answered by encouraging people to build nest boxes for bluebirds from coast to coast. And it was successful!” he said. BSP’s 1,071 members conduct research relating to bluebirds and other cavity-nesting birds, including their food sources and
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Male and female bluebird on a box.
habitats. Members also build, maintain, and monitor bluebird boxes and trails. “Today in Central Pennsylvania, we have an evergrowing bluebird population,” Rust said. “People are starting to see bluebirds in their yards and farms like the good ol’ times of the 1920s.” Rust’s favorite BSP “job” is serving as the point person for the President’s Hotline Forum on BSP’s website (www.thebsp.org), where people from all over the country can email him bluebirdrelated questions. “This has allowed me to connect with bluebird lovers all
over the U.S. … People have even joined our organization from other states via the President’s Hotline Forum,” Rust said. “It seems like I am involved 365 days a year in some way as BSP president.” After retiring from his general dentistry practice of 33 years, Rust joined his local BSP chapter in 2005 and became its county coordinator shortly thereafter. He describes himself as having been “caught” by the charm of bluebirds. “I think it is their beauty; soft, warbling song; and their calm demeanor,” he said. “They are also hardworking, dedicated parents when attending to their young.” Surprisingly social creatures that seem to enjoy the presence of people, bluebirds lay an average of four or five eggs per clutch. After the final egg is laid, the female incubates the clutch 12-14 days until the eggs hatch, usually within hours of each other. When monitoring his 16 bluebird trails, Rust checks that the nesting boxes remain intact, clean, and free of predators— snakes can wriggle their way up bluebird-box poles and coil inside, as Rust can attest, having been startled by such an unexpected occupant on at least one occasion. Rust also closely watches the progress of every nest, doing whatever he can to ensure the success of each feathered family. “I never tire of seeing a neat, cup-shaped nest of white pine needles or grasses and five newly laid bluebird eggs shining back at me,” Rust said. After the eggs hatch, both parents feed the young and keep the nest clean for another 17-18 days until the babies fledge and can leave the nest. Then, the parents continue to care for the young for another three weeks, teaching them how to forage for insects. Rust likes to recount the story of one particularly dedicated pair of bluebird parents from please see BLUEBIRDS page 14
On Life and Love after 50
In Mature Dating, Does an Age Difference Matter?
Mature dating is a challenge. Toss in an age difference between partners, and the challenge is even greater. Take the case of Ben and Janice, for example. He emailed me, “I am an Arkansas guy in love with a California girl. I am 77 and my lady, Janice, is 68. We are both very concerned about our age difference; therefore, your articles provide us with much insight. What do you think about the age difference?” I asked Ben for more details. He responded: “I was born in El Dorado, Arkansas. I left home for college, the University of Arkansas, at age 17. I was a ROTC cadet and was commissioned in the Air Force shortly after graduation. I am a retired Air Force colonel.
“I was a widower and living in Southern California, when one day I stopped at a Starbucks in Anaheim Hills. I was sitting there with a cappuccino and Janice walked in, and that changed my life forever. “She ordered a coffee and turned around, and I spoke to her. After an hour of conversation, I asked her to meet for dinner the next Saturday. We had three dinner dates in May 2016, before I left to visit my daughters in Virginia and Arkansas.
“I returned to California on the first of August, and we have been together ever since. Janice is the love of my life. “We are talking and planning a life together. We have agreed that we will set the marriage date and place on July 15, th my 78 birthday. We are living in California now but will be moving to my new home in Hot Springs Village, Arkansas, in the fall. “Janice is still working and considering retirement this September/October when we marry.”
Tom’s response: My feeling is Ben, at 77, and Janice, at 68, should not worry about the age difference. He most likely will pass away first—maybe not—but so what? Why not enjoy these years together? He has found the love of his life; they should enjoy the relationship every minute of every day. An issue bigger than the age difference is the change of lifestyle, primarily for Janice. Will she be happy not working? Will she be happy living in Arkansas? Has Janice visited Arkansas yet? Also, since they plan to marry, they both need to agree regarding all legal matters. I suggest both consult attorneys, so both sides are equally please see DATING page 16
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Dutch for a Day By Andrea Gross
The day is sunny, the weather a bit chilly but still pleasant. I shade my eyes and look up at a row of four-story brick buildings fronted by a small patch of green grass. The buildings themselves are rather plain; each floor appears to contain two apartments. Here, in Amsterdam’s Rivierenbuurt neighborhood, a 30minute tram ride from downtown, I can see how ordinary people go about their daily lives, oblivious to the touristy hubbub of the central city. It’s the sort of place I might live had I been born Dutch. It’s also the place where 75 years ago this month — in June 1942 — an ordinary young girl celebrated her 13th birthday. Her favorite present was a small autograph book that her father had purchased at the corner bookstore.
The Riviernbuurt neighborhood, where Anne Frank and her family lived before going into hiding, is a middle-class neighborhood of small shops and wide streets. Less than a month later this girl, whose name was Anne Frank, and her family were forced into hiding to escape the Nazi onslaught.
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A statue of Anne Frank stands in the small park near the apartment building where she lived as a child.
For Anne the ordinary pursuits of childhood came to an abrupt end. No more playing marbles with her friends. No more jumping rope in the
summer and ice skating in the winter. Cut off from schoolmates who would have filled her autograph book with best wishes and witty sayings, Anne used her birthday present as a diary, one that has been translated into 70 languages and sold more than 30 million copies. A small child comes over and touches my hand. “You lost?” she asks in halting English. “I’m looking for Anne Frank’s house,” I say. She points to a window on third floor of one of the buildings. “That’s where Anna lived when she was little.” The Franks’ apartment, where they lived from 1934, when they emigrated from Germany, until 1942, when they went into hiding, now serves as a retreat for aspiring writers. Although it’s been restored to look as it did when
the Franks lived there, it’s only open to the public on special occasions. The child leads me to a bronze statue at the end of the park. It depicts a teenage girl gazing wistfully at the row of apartment buildings. It is the only official recognition of the fact that this is the neighborhood that nurtured Anne Frank. “Anna is saying goodbye to her home,” says our new friend. She also says goodbye, and my husband and I walk a few blocks to the Montessori school that Anne attended from 1934 to 1941. The building, which is still a functioning Montessori school, is painted in pastel colors overlaid with quotes from the diary of its most famous student. Finally we stop at Boekhandel Jimmink, the corner bookstore where Anne’s father purchased his daughter’s birthday present. We ask if they have replicas of the famous diary. The clerk points to a small stack of books on a back table. “We don’t get much call for these,” he says apologetically. “Not a lot of tourists come here, and among locals Harry Potter outsells Anne Frank.” We continue our search for
Anne Frank liked to explore the streets that line the canals of central Amsterdam.
Anne Frank could glimpse the spires of Westerkerk Church from a window in the Secret Annex.
Anne’s childhood haunts in central Amsterdam, an area that today is filled with galleries and small shops. Anne loved to explore the narrow streets near her father’s offices, which were in stately homes along the Singel and Prinsengracht canals. She also spent many happy hours at the nearby Bloemenmarkt, the only floating flower market in the world.
The Secret Annex, where the Franks spent two years hiding from the Nazis, is only a few blocks away. Unlike her old neighborhood, her hiding place is one of the most visited sites in the Netherlands. The line to get in stretches around the block. A few months later, on a different trip in a different country, we attend a talk by a Holocaust survivor. Quite
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by chance the speaker is Hannah Goslar, one of Anne’s closest friends, the one referred to in her diary as Lies (a Dutch contraction of the name Elisabeth). Hannah was one of the last people Anne saw before she died in the concentration camp at Bergen-Belsen in March 1945, a few months before her 16th birthday. “I grew up in the apartment downstairs from Anna Frank,” she begins. “Has anyone been to that part of Amsterdam?” We raise our hands. “I haven’t been back in years,” she says softly. “Tell me, what is it like today?” We tell her that as we walked to the school that she and Anne attended, we saw a menorah in the window of a first-floor apartment. She smiles. “You know,” she says, “in her diary Anna wrote that ‘despite everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart.’ Perhaps she was right.” For an expanded version of this article, go to www.traveltizers.com. Photos © Irv Green unless otherwise noted; story by Andrea Gross (www.andreagross.com).
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Farmers Market Vouchers Available Farmers market nutrition vouchers will be distributed to eligible seniors 60 years of age and older at the following locations starting June 1. The nutrition vouchers, with a $20 total value, can be exchanged for Pennsylvania-grown fruits and vegetables from June 1 through Nov. 30 at participating farmers markets and roadside stands. To be eligible, county residents age 60 and older must have an annual income less than $22,311 for one person, $30,044 for two people, and $37,777 for three people. Proxy forms are available at each site and must be completed and returned with signatures and a photo ID of the eligible senior at the time of distribution. Please keep in mind these vouchers are available on a first-come, firstserved basis, as funding is limited. Vouchers may only be obtained once per year. For eligible income guidelines or more information, contact Cumberland County Aging and Community Services at (717) 240-6110. Distribution sites are as follows:
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A Short History of Flag Day President Woodrow Wilson proclaimed June 14 to be Flag Day in 1916, commemorating the adoption of the Stars and Stripes by the Second Continental Congress on that day in 1777. The idea of setting aside a special day to celebrate the U.S. flag wasn’t new, though. One of the earliest observances of Flag Day occurred in Hartford, Connecticut, in 1861, at the suggestion of George Morris, to pray for the preservation of the union at the beginning of the Civil War. In 1885, a Wisconsin schoolteacher named Bernard J. Cigrand held a formal observance of what he called
“Flag Birthday” at his school. Cigrand went on to become a passionate promoter of Flag Day, delivering more than 2,000 speeches on the subject, and is generally considered to be the “Father of Flag Day.” In 1914, Secretary of the Interior Franklin K. Lane delivered a Flag Day speech in which he said the flag had spoken to him that morning: “I am what you make me; nothing more. I swing before your eyes as a bright gleam of color, a symbol of yourself.” In 1949, President Harry Truman signed an act of Congress formally establishing June 14 as National Flag Day. www.50plusLifePA.com
It Was 50 Years Ago Today
‘I Got Rhythm’ Randal Hill
George and Ira Gershwin’s iconic “I Got Rhythm” came from the 1930 musical Girl Crazy, which saw Ethel Merman make her Broadway debut and Ginger Rogers become a star. Three versions of the song soon ran up the hit record charts. Fast-forward to 1967. The popular music world is often defined by psychedelic experimentation, drugs, long hair, and funky outfits. Enter a vocal group of four cleancut, short-haired, suit-wearing New Jersey guys, looking more Wall Street than Woodstock. They say they want to record older songs—some from as far back as the 1920s and 1930s—in the hope of achieving success alongside the Doors, Jimi Hendrix, and Jefferson Airplane. Hmm. Well, good luck, guys. For the Happenings, this offbeat approach landed them on Billboard ’s Hot 100 nine times from 1966 to 1969. The cocky quartet liked to take “oldies” and add their own spin— rich, tight vocal harmonies wrapped around upbeat tempos, elaborate orchestration defining each punchedup remake, and the strong, confident tenor/falsetto of Bob Miranda out front. Somehow, this worked. “We all came from Paterson, New Jersey,” Miranda explained on ClassicBands.com. “We met one night at a dance in East Paterson. We
actually met in kicked into high gear moments later, business as the men’s room, the listener was hopelessly hooked. being odd at ’cause that’s best or, at worst, “‘I Got Rhythm’ was a natural for where all the just plain crazy. us,” Miranda explained. “There was so singers were. But the New much space in the song for us to put The echo. We these unique vocal hooks … We just Jersey crew sounded pretty knew when we played it back that it firmly believed darned good, so they were on the was a hit. It just sounded so natural, we decided to right track. For and everything seemed to be there.” get together.” And it was. their remake, They became The original tune was, of course, Bob Miranda the Four unfamiliar to most Happenings fans. composed Photo taken by Kenneth Dwain Harrelson. Graduates and When Bob Miranda was asked who a brief Bob Miranda of The Happenings, 2008. for a couple of wrote the song and he would answer introduction: “I Got Rhythm” years sang in “In this vast that it was George Gershwin, the The Happenings Catskills resorts response was sometimes, “Oh, is he in and troubled June 1967 (“for peanuts”) the group?” world, we to gain exposure sometimes lose and experience. our way / But I am never lost; I feel Randal C. Hill is a rock ’n’ roll historian Miranda later became a $25-a-week this way because …” who lives at the Oregon coast. He may be reached at email@example.com. songwriter in the music-publishing Once the Happenings’ version office of the Tokens, former singers who had hit No. 1 with “The Lion Sleeps Tonight” years earlier. When the Tokens started a record label called B.T. Puppy, they cast about for talent. Miranda brought in his other three Graduates and auditioned. “They loved us!” he said later. The Four Graduates morphed into the more modern-sounding Happenings and were soon on their way to AM-radio stardom. For the group, choosing to record the jazz standard “I Got Rhythm” probably struck many in the music
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Summer is a time for playground fun, camping, boating, swimming, biking, and other outdoor activities. Longer days mean more time outside and more physical activity, which translates to increased potential for injuries. Playground falls, lawnmower accidents, and campfire and fire-pit burns are some common childhood injuries that can happen during summer months. These tips from Shriners Hospitals for Children can help your family enjoy a fun, injury-free summer. Playground 101 The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that emergency departments treat more than 200,000 children ages 14 and younger every year for playground-related injuries. Before your grandkids head to the playground, keep these precautions in mind: • Choose parks and playgrounds that are appropriate for their age and offer shock-absorbing surfaces. • Teach children that pushing and shoving on the playground can result in accidents and injuries. • Remind kids to go down the slide one at a time and to wait until the slide is completely clear before taking their turn. Teach them to always sit
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• Remind children to swing sitting down. Encourage them to wait until the swing stops before getting off and to be careful when walking in front of moving swings.
• Give children your undivided attention when they are swimming or near any body of water.
Make a Safe Splash While playing poolside may be a blast, Safe Kids Worldwide reports that drowning is the leading cause of injury-related deaths for children ages 1-4 and the third-leading cause of injury-related deaths among those under 19. Additionally, the University of Michigan Health System estimates that about 6,000 kids under the age of 14 are hospitalized because of diving injuries each year, with 1 in 5 sustaining a spinal cord injury. Prevent accidents and injuries with these tips to ensure your family’s safety around water:
• Always jump in feet first to check the depth before diving into any body of water. • Never dive in the shallow end of the pool or into above-ground pools. Fun on the Water Boating, tubing, and other water sports can be great fun but can also be dangerous. According to the U.S. Coast Guard, nearly 71 percent of all boating fatalities are drownings, 85 percent of which are a result of not wearing a life jacket. Here is what you can do to enjoy the water safely: • Always have children wear a Coast Guard-approved, properly fitted life jacket while on a boat, around an open body of water, or when participating in water sports. • Educate yourself. According to the U.S. Coast Guard, 86 percent of boating accident deaths involve boaters who have not completed a safety course. • Always check water conditions and forecasts before going out on the water. Fire Safety Simplified According to the CDC, more than 300 children ages 19 and under are treated in emergency rooms for fire- and burn-related injuries each day. please see SAFE SUMMER page 12
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water or a fire extinguisher nearby whenever there is an open flame.
Use these tips to help keep children safe around fires, fireworks, grills, and other heat sources:
• Take your child to a doctor or hospital immediately if he or she is injured in a fire or by fireworks. • Leave fireworks to the professionals.
• Teach kids to never play with matches, gasoline, lighter fluid, or lighters. Make a habit of placing these items out of the reach of young children.
To see more tips, find activity pages, and learn how to become a “Superhero of Summer Safety,” visit www.shrinershospitalsforchildren.org/ safesummer.
• Do not leave children unattended near grills, campfires, fire pits, or bonfires. Always have a bucket of
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Save Some Bucks on Your Summer Vacation Planning your family’s summer vacation? Even if you’re not staying in luxury hotels and renting limousines, you may feel like you need a bank loan—or a bank robbery—to finance your trip. Here are some smart ideas for saving money and still having a good time: Research your destination thoroughly. The internet, along with a good guidebook, can help you find inexpensive hotels and restaurants. You may also discover free or inexpensive attractions and find out whether museums, parks, and other attractions offer reduced admission on certain days. Stay outside the city. You’re going to New York, but you don’t have to
sleep there. Often you’ll find better hotel rates and cheaper restaurants a few miles outside city limits. Go to the grocery store. Avoid the overpriced hotel gift shops for snacks and drinks. You should be able to find a local grocery store where you can buy cheaper (and healthier) supplies for your travels. Drive efficiently. Before an extended trip, check your engine. Oil, air filters, and other components can affect your vehicle’s performance. On the highway, keep your speed between 50 and 60 mph for the best fuel efficiency. Don’t use drive-through windows at fast-food restaurants; idling your car while waiting for your food wastes gas and pollutes the air.
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Support Groups Free and open to the public
Senior Center Activities
June 1, 6:30 p.m. Too Sweet: Diabetes Support Group Chapel Hill United Church of Christ 701 Poplar Church Road, Camp Hill (717) 557-9041
June 12, 1:30-3 p.m. Caregivers Support Group St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Church 310 Hertzler Road, Upper Allen Township (717) 766-8806
Big Spring Senior Center – (717) 776-4478 91 Doubling Gap Road, Suite 1, Newville Mondays and Thursdays, 9 a.m. – Zumba Gold Wednesdays, 9-10 a.m. – Yoga June 2, 8:30 a.m. – Men’s Breakfast
June 5, 4-5 p.m. Caregivers Support Group Messiah Lifeways Meetinghouse 1155 Walnut Bottom Road, Carlisle (717) 243-0447
June 13, 6:30-8 p.m. Carlisle Area Men’s Cancer Support Group The Live Well Center 3 Alexandria Court, Carlisle (717) 877-7561 firstname.lastname@example.org
Branch Creek Place – (717) 300-3563 115 N. Fayette St., Shippensburg
June 6, 6 p.m. CanSurmount Cancer Support Group HealthSouth Acute Rehab Hospital 175 Lancaster Blvd., Mechanicsburg (717) 691-6786 June 6, 6-7 p.m. Alzheimer’s Support Group Senior Helpers 3806 Market St., Suite 3, Camp Hill (717) 920-0707 June 7, 1:30 p.m. The Bridges Support Group for the Alzheimer’s Association The Bridges at Bent Creek 2100 Bent Creek Blvd., Mechanicsburg (717) 795-1100 June 7, 7 p.m. Caregivers Support Group Claremont Nursing and Rehabilitation Center 1000 Claremont Road, Carlisle (717) 386-0047
June 14, 1:30 p.m. Parkinson’s Support Group Bethany Village West – Springfield Room 325 Asbury Drive, Mechanicsburg (717) 877-0624 June 15, 6-8 p.m. Bladder Cancer Discussion Group Urology of Central PA 100 Corporate Center Drive, Camp Hill (484) 695-0731 email@example.com June 20, 1 p.m. Caregiver Support Group Mechanicsburg Church of the Brethren 501 Gale St., Mechanicsburg (717) 766-8880 June 27, 6 p.m. Multiple Sclerosis Support Group HealthSouth Rehabilitation Hospital 175 Lancaster Blvd., Mechanicsburg (717) 486-3596 firstname.lastname@example.org
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Community Programs Free and open to the public Wednesdays, noon SilverSneakers Exercise Class Susquehanna View Apartments Community Room 208 Senate Ave., Camp Hill (717) 439-4070 firstname.lastname@example.org
June 14, 11:30 a.m. NARFE West Shore Chapter 1465 VFW Post 7530 4545 Westport Drive, Mechanicsburg (717) 737-1486 www.narfe1465.org Visitors welcome; meeting is free but fee for food.
June 11, 6:30 p.m. New Cumberland Town Band Performance Adams-Ricci Park 100 E. Penn Drive, Enola www.nctownband.org
June 18, 6 p.m. New Cumberland Town Band Performance New Cumberland Borough Park 517 Front St., New Cumberland www.nctownband.org
Carlisle Senior Action Center – (717) 249-5007 20 E. Pomfret St., Carlisle Mary Schaner Senior Citizens Center – (717) 732-3915 98 S. Enola Drive, Enola Mechanicsburg Place – (717) 697-5947 97 W. Portland St., Mechanicsburg West Shore Senior Citizens Center – (717) 774-0409 122 Geary St., New Cumberland Please call or visit their website for more information.
Library Programs Bosler Memorial Library, 158 W. High St., Carlisle, (717) 243-4642 June 2, 7 p.m. – Music @ Bosler June 6, 13, 27, 6:30-8:30 p.m. – Upstairs Stitchers Embroidery Group June 23, 1-2 p.m. – Just Mysteries! Book Club Cleve J. Fredricksen Library, 100 N. 19th St., Camp Hill, (717) 761-3900 June 9, 3-8 p.m. – Fredricksen’s 60th Birthday Party June 15, 7 p.m. – Trinidad & Tobago Steel Drum Orchestra Concert June 30, 2 and 7 p.m. – Foreign Film Friday East Pennsboro Branch Library, 98 S. Enola Drive, Enola, (717) 732-4274 John Graham Public Library, 9 Parsonage St., Newville, (717) 776-5900 Joseph T. Simpson Public Library, 16 N. Walnut St., Mechanicsburg, (717) 766-0171 New Cumberland Public Library, 1 Benjamin Plaza, New Cumberland, (717) 774-7820 June 14, 10:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. – Wednesday Great Books Discussion Group: The Economic Basis of Withering Away by Vladimir Lenin June 17, 11 a.m. to noon – Couponing for Extreme Savings: Senior Discounts June 28, 6-9 p.m. – Pennwriters Writing Group 50plus LIFE ›
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Aug. 29, 2017
Nov. 2, 2017
9 a.m. – 2 p.m.
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the summer of 2015, when the Ladies Professional Golf Association tournament descended upon his neighboring golf course, bringing with it tents, modular trailers, scaffolding, and staging areas—not to mention thousands of people and their attendant golf carts and noise. Rust grew concerned the hubbub would disrupt or potentially cause harm to the nearly four dozen bluebird boxes he tends to along the golf course. One July morning, he discovered a sports-news crew had moved one bluebird box he knew contained eggs. He found it about 40 feet from its original location, stuck in the ground along with a rain gauge, all within 2 feet of a modular home. Furthermore, the box was tipped 15 degrees from vertical position. “After a deep breath, I opened the box to find five bluebird newborn nestlings,” Rust said. “I saw the [mother] up on the corner of one of the modular homes, and she seemed quite relaxed with her new surroundings. I placed some yellow caution tape around the box and rain gauge and breathed a sigh of relief.” But Rust prepared himself for the worst, wondering if the parent bluebirds would give up on the relocated nest. Two weeks later, however, he came back to five healthy, full-grown chicks inside; they fledged later that day. “They are truly resilient songbirds. The [tournament] changed the open environment that bluebirds enjoy, hunt for, and thrive on,” Rust noted. “This pair of bluebirds had to adjust to very cramped quarters for just over two
weeks to feed and care for their young family of five.” Rust recently channeled his extensive bluebird expertise into a soft-cover book, The Beloved and Charismatic Bluebird, which he selfpublished with the help of his son, Shaun. The book is now in its second edition and is available on Amazon.com and in numerous bookstores, including Longwood Gardens’ garden shop and several local bird stores. The biggest challenge of bluebird conservation, he said, is motivating those who erect bird boxes to maintain them—you can’t simply install the box and let nature take its course. “They need to become proactive like a gardener is to their garden plot. It takes lots of loving care to nurture plants from spring through summer to fall and then harvest a crop,” he said. “The same is true with bluebirds. It is a hands-on hobby.” It’s a hobby worth the time and effort, though, and it is easy to get started, Rust said. “Getting involved with bluebirds is not only a rewarding endeavor from a conservation standpoint, but it can also be an excellent hobby to share with your children or grandchildren while enjoying nature and the great outdoors,” he said. “My hope is that bluebirds will inspire a new hobby or develop an appreciation for a special creation that God has given us to enjoy while on the earth.” For more information on the Bluebird Society of Pennsylvania, visit www.thebsp.org or call Rust at (717) 669-0167.
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The Veterans’ Expo & Job Fair welcomes volunteers! If you can help with registration or stuffing attendee bags for all or just part of the day, we’d love to have you. Contact Kimberly Shaffer at (717) 285-8123 or email@example.com for more information.
Assisted Living Residences/Personal Care Homes The listings with a shaded background have additional information about their center in a display advertisement in this edition.
Bethany Village — MapleWood
325 Wesley Drive • Mechanicsburg, PA 17055 717-766-0279 • www.BethanyVillage.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 100 Assisted Living Residence: Yes Personal Care Home: Yes Private: 100 Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: Yes Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes
Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: Yes Comments: One-bedroom suites; secured memory support neighborhood; skilled nursing – The Oaks.
Colonial Lodge Community
2015 North Reading Road • Denver, PA 17519 717-336-5501 • www.coloniallodgepa.com Total AL and/or PC Beds: 70 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: Yes Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: Yes* Short-term Lease: No Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes
Health Fee-for-Service Available: No Alzheimer’s Care: No Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: No Comments: *SSI depends on availability. A veteran-approved “home for heroes” facility, all in a beautiful, rural setting.
1901 North Fifth Street • Harrisburg, PA 17102 717-221-7727 • www.homelandcenter.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 56 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: No Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes
Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: Yes Comments: Providing exemplary care in a beautiful environment for more than 150 years. Our continuum includes a hospice program, therapy services, home care and home health services, and 24-hour medical staffing. All-private rooms with full baths and kitchenettes.
Mennonite Home Communities
1520 Harrisburg Pike • Lancaster, PA 17601 717-393-1301 • www.mennonitehome.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 150 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: Yes Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: Yes Short-term Lease: No Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes
Health Fee-for-Service Available: No Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: No Comments: Supportive, encouraging environment. Various room types and suites available. Secure memory care offered.
Pleasant View Retirement Community
544 North Penryn Road • Manheim, PA 17545 717-665-2445 • www.pleasantviewrc.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 96 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: Yes Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: Yes* Short-term Lease: No Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: Yes Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes
Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: No Comments: *Three-year private pay spending. Maintain independence in an enriching and supportive environment; now offering respite stays.
Sacred Heart Villa
51 Seminary Avenue • Reading, PA 19605 610-929-5751 • www.sacredheartvillapa.org Total AL and/or PC Beds: 100 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: Yes Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: Yes Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: Yes Part/Totally Refundable: Yes Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes
Health Fee-for-Service Available: No Alzheimer’s Care: No Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: No Comments: Located on 20 pristine acres. Offering amenities including homecooked meals; professional, licensed staff; and personalized care.
Homewood at Plum Creek
425 Westminster Avenue • Hanover, PA 17331 717-637-4166 • www.homewood.com Total AL and/or PC Beds: 92 Assisted Living Residence: No Personal Care Home: Yes Private: Yes Semi-private: No Private Pay: Yes SSI Accepted: No Short-term Lease: Yes Entrance Fee/Security Deposit: No Part/Totally Refundable: No Outdoor Areas/Fitness Center: Yes Medication Management: Yes On-call Medical Service: Yes
Health Fee-for-Service Available: Yes Alzheimer’s Care: Yes Respite Care: Yes Social Programs: Yes Housekeeping/Laundry Service: Yes Transportation (Scheduled): Yes Personal Car Permitted: Yes Pets Permitted: No Comments: Excellent care in a lovely environment. Call to schedule a visit.
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Like Father, Like Child Father’s Day celebrates the special bond between fathers and their families. Every dad is a celebrity in his child’s eyes, of course, but in some families fame and fatherhood go hand in hand. Take a look at some of these well-known fathers and their successful children from the world of entertainment and sports:
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represented. The agreement must be in writing. The biggest issue that can cause difficulty with couples is financial, especially if there are children and grandchildren in the mix. The nine-year age difference, in this case, is a non-issue. If two people love each other and have a wide age difference (even much, much wider than Ben and Janice), the relationship can still work nicely—if they honestly discuss and address the age-difference issues, particularly regarding children, financial issues, potential health problems, and legal issues. Communication in all relationships is critical, and with these two, particularly so. I asked my newsletter readers for their opinions about Ben and Janice. Here is what four of them said: Marta, Montreal: “To each his own. Just don’t grow a ratty, gray ponytail and date an 18-year-old— then you look stupid!” Terry Lee, financial advisor: “Regarding financials, lots and lots
of problems (arise) with everybody when financials are not discussed and written down—and yes, for sure, each meet with his or her own financial person.” Robin, police department administrator: “It has more to do with maturity level in each party. Age shouldn’t have much to do with the dating equation, unless you have one person underage, by law standards.” Mary Lou, bar exam tutor: “It is very important to get independent legal advice, and get a prenup in writing. That will ease the minds of the children and make for a much less stressful life; plus, they will both be protected in the event things go south.” Mature dating is difficult enough. Forget the age difference and enjoy each other. For dating information, previous articles, or to sign up for Tom’s complimentary, weekly e-newsletter, go to www.findingloveafter50.com.
Such is Life
Nobody Wins in an Argument Saralee Perel
That was the finest memory of all. That day when the three of us rose above the need to win. That day when nobody needed to be right. That day when we professed our eternal love. And that day when we hugged each
other tightly over a telephone line. Nationally syndicated, award-winning columnist Saralee Perel can be reached at email@example.com or via her website: www.saraleeperel.com.
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My husband, Bob, was the first “He told Moses, ‘Tongue is a mustnon-Jewish person to marry into my have!’” Then she added, “Shellfish strict Orthodox Jewish family. isn’t kosher, but God decided that My parents never called him Bob. Maryland steamed crabs are exempt They called him Farmer. To them, from any kosher laws.” every man who wasn’t Jewish was a “Mo-ther! You’re making this stuff cowhand. up.” I remember one Sunday brunch, “Where were you when the when we visited them in their condo disciples were having a nosh?” in Baltimore. While I was helping And so, although my parents are Mom serve lox, bagels, and tongue, both gone, my memories of them are Dad said to Bob, “So, Farmer, you filled with love and pain. There were know why they can’t keep Jewish many problems. people in jail?” Mom said Dad never “allowed” her Bob, always polite (another word to do what she wanted. for “intimidated to If only I had put death”), said, “I’m my arms around her afraid I don’t know.” and told her she had My father, who the strength and laughed so loud at courage to make her his own jokes we own decisions—but I could barely hear didn’t. the punchlines, said, My parents and I “Because they eat lox.” argued a lot. Once we Bob didn’t didn’t speak for six understand. Dad, in months. I shamelessly hysterics, spelled out refused to be big the word, “Locks.” enough to take the We laughed, not first step. at the joke, but at my I will never get father’s wonderful those months back. nature. One day, I broke Sam and Blanche Perel When Bob looked through my selfwarily at the tongue, I whispered, centeredness. It was on a Father’s Day. “You don’t have to eat it.” Dad was so touched to hear my voice Mother, who could hear a whisper that he just cried. from a coal miner at work, said, I said, “I love you, Tateleh (the “Tongue is to our people the way Yiddish term of endearment for a bacon is to your people. You either father). I’m so very, very sorry that love it or you’re wrong.” I took this long to call.” And then I She brought out cream cheese. In said, “Will Mom come to the phone?” her screwball teaching mode, she said I expected my mother to be distant. to Bob, “The kosher laws don’t allow But she wasn’t. She said, “I’ve missed meat and dairy at the same meal. But you, Saura Leah (my Hebrew name).” while Moses was schlepping those We didn’t discuss what happened. bulky Ten Commandments around, We never did. Maybe that was just as God declared, ‘Who can eat bagels well. without a schmear of cream cheese? “I’ve missed you too, Mamala. I’ve And lox? You have to ask? Fish goes been feeling terrible since this whole with everything—except olive loaf. thing.” Nothing goes with that.’” “So have I.” “Ma,” I teased, “what exactly did “I love you, Mamala.” God say about tongue?” “Me too.”
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Spring into Your Calendar! Abby Stokes
I know that old habits die hard, but sometimes it’s worth the trouble to let the old be replaced by the new. The calendar app on your smartphone and tablet is one of these worthwhile temptations. I’m familiar with that big, old, leather-bound calendar that you’ve used forever—the one where you buy the fresh pages every year to insert. Maybe all of your treasured addresses are in the same book. I had one too. It was my bible, but I got so anxious about losing it that I would copy pages rather than take it with me on vacation. Well, here’s the great benefit when using technology to keep track of your events, birthdays, and doctor appointments: The information won’t get lost, and you can carry it in your
pocket or pocketbook. When you enter contact information into your digital calendar—whether on your computer, tablet, or smartphone—all the events get synched across all your devices almost instantaneously. So, if you lose your phone (heaven forbid!), you can still access the calendar from your computer. If using the app on your smartphone isn’t comfortable because of the phone’s small size, you can always access the calendar on your computer and do your inputting there with that nice, big keyboard. May I suggest what I did to make the transition from paper to digital easier? Keep both the old-fashioned calendar, where you write in and scratch out what’s changed, and the
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new, digital one simultaneously until you get used to the new system and trust it. For me, that was a couple of months, and then I let the old system take a permanent vacation. A Calendar by Any Other Name Is Still a Calendar Depending on your device and your preference, you can set up your calendar to work with Apple’s iCloud, Google Calendar, or Microsoft’s Outlook. Truth be told, most devices are much friendlier now, so any of those choices should work on almost all devices. A good way to make the decision is to think about who is the most likely person to be helpful should you have questions about how to use the calendar. Ask them which calendar program they use, and you might want to consider using that one too. A great perk about using a calendar and having it be the same program as someone you share your life with is that you can share a calendar with them too. Do you ever wonder what’s on the grandkids’ schedule? Wonder no more. Ask to be included in the family calendar. Everything can be color coded so you can identify which
dates are your events and which are theirs. Other Handy Calendar Features … Not only can you share calendars, but you can also send invitations from your calendar or respond to a calendar invitation in an email. Once you RSVP via the email, the event will automatically be entered into your calendar. If an event is something that repeats, such as a birthday, you can instruct the calendar to repeat it every year indefinitely. Or if it’s something you’ll be doing for the next six weeks, on every Tuesday, you can customize that as well. You can even set up alerts so you’ll receive a reminder, at whatever time you desire, before an appointment. So, now’s the time for you to put it in your calendar that you’re going to start using a digital calendar soon! Abby Stokes, author of “Is This Thing On?” A Friendly Guide to Everything Digital for Newbies, Technophobes, and the Kicking & Screaming and its companion website, AskAbbyStokes.com, is the Johnny Appleseed of Technology, singlehandedly helping more than 300,000 people cross the digital divide.
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By John Johnston
Additional Layer of Security Added to Online Access
Social Security continues to evaluate and improve how we protect what’s important to you. We take this responsibility seriously, and we have a robust cybersecurity program in place to help protect the personal information you entrust to us. Adding additional security measures to safeguard your personal information—but making them easy to use—is a vital part of keeping you safe and secure. Most people who do business with us online use our “my Social Security” portal, where, if you currently receive benefits, you can: • Request a replacement Social Security card if you meet certain requirements • Get your benefit verification letter • Check your benefit and payment information and your earnings record • Change your address and phone number • Start or change direct deposit of your benefit payment • Request a replacement Medicare card • Get a replacement SSA-1099 or SSA-1042S for tax season If you currently don’t receive benefits, you can request a replacement Social Security card if you meet certain requirements, check the status of your application or appeal, and access a number of www.50plusLifePA.com
other useful resources. Since “my Social Security” became available in May 2012, more than 30 million people have created and use “my Social Security” accounts. As of June 10, 2017, we require a second method to check the identification of “my Social Security” account holders when they register or sign in. This is in addition to the first layer of security, a username and password. You will be able to choose either your cellphone or your email address as your second identification method. Using two ways to identify you when you log on will help better protect your account from unauthorized use and potential identity fraud. If you plan to select email as your second method, you can ensure that the one-time security code email does not go into your spam or junk folder by adding NO-REPLY@ssa. gov to your contact list. The “my Social Security” portal will also now automatically adjust to the size of the screen and kind of device you are using—such as a tablet, smartphone, or computer. No matter what type of device you choose, you will have full, easyto-use access to your personal “my Social Security” account at www. socialsecurity.gov/myaccount. Our new my Social Security design puts you in control — whether you’re using a computer, smartphone, or tablet. John Johnston is a Social Security public affairs specialist.
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50plus LIFE — formerly 50plus Senior News — is a monthly publication for and about Central Pennsylvania’s baby boomers and seniors, offering...