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January 2014 Volume 1, Issue 1

Inside this issue… one2one 2013 Highlights …. Pg. 3 Experience sharing forums …… Pg. 4&5 The Girl Agenda ….. Pg. 6 & 7 The International Youth Day 2013 (#IYD2013)…. Pg. 8 What lies ahead in 2014 …. Pg. 14

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From the Programme Desk

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appy New Year 2014! We are happy to welcome you to this special issue of the new one2one ezine, an online magazine that updates our partners, donors and the community on LVCT’s one2one™ youth programme. Subsequent editions of the one2one e-zine will be published at the beginning of every quarter.

one2one, LVCT’s flagship youth programme is an evidence-based, innovative and holistic, peer led programme that reaches millions of young people with sexuality, Sexual Reproductive Health (SRH) and HIV information and services. Headed by Youth Programme Coordinator, MaqC Eric Gitau, the one2one team is composed of the digitally savvy, versatile and well able programme assistant Francis Mutua, the dynamic & dedicated regional youth focal persons (Nairobi’s Annrose Kibutha, Lower Eastern’s Anastasia Mukai, Western’s Joshua Shivekha, Rift’s Andrew Wafula and Upper Eastern’s Emily Nyakundi), the warm and wonderful Hotline Team led by supervisor Carol Muthamia and site in charge Catherine Kiogora. Also working closely with one2one to connect youth voices is the ever so driven team of 10 Youth Outreach Mobilizers, and their chief patron Ruth Kimani of HIVOS. As it is with most beginnings, it is that time for resolutions and we are rife with exciting ideas building on 2013’s experiences. Indeed, 2013 saw the rebirth of the Youth Programme in numerous ways, dusting cobwebs and cleaning out the closet. Read on to follow our milestones, as we strive to make this a well-oiled machine serving the youth in Kenya in the area of HIV and Sexual Reproductive Health (SRH). The revamped one2one Integrated Digital Platform reached over 1.5 Million youth with SRH information during the year. Our programme continued to increase visibility among government and policy bodies, partners, private sector, media, youth serving organizations and institutions among other stakeholders. Similarly, one2one increased its presence within its core population: the youth in and out of schools, young women and girls, rural and low literate youth as well as other vulnerable youth. The girls’ and adolescents’ agenda also received new leases of life, with initiatives such as the Sanitary Watch out for the one2one Pads Initiative, One Child at a Time (OCaT), and a research study on Pre Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) among young women and girls taking shape in different counties in Kenya. Youth targeted Evidence e-zine at the end of every Based Interventions (EBIs) such as Families Matters, Healthy Choices and Shuga saw more than 25,000 quarter graduates in 2013. For this far that the programme has come, we are thankful to the LVCT directors, management and staff for their unwavering support and for giving us the space and chance to contribute towards getting to Zero HIV infections among the youth. Particularly, it has been a pleasure for the programme to work under the directorship of Deputy Director, Dr. Wanjiru Mukoma. As she moves from Research and Policy, we wish her all the best in her new role within the organization’s Business Development Department. We welcome Annrita Ikahu as she takes up the new role of Research and Policy Director. Finally, we extend our gratitude to all the partners for their contribution that propagated the running of the different components of the programme. Special mention to HIVOS, USAID through the APHIA II Health Communication Management (HCM) partnership, CDC, University of Georgetown and Safaricom Limited. This year is full of great promise as the article on “Looking Ahead: 2014” explains. Our renewed mandate entails sustaining youth leadership, and maintaining accountability and participation thus living up to one2one’s “peer-led” philosophy (for youth-by-youth and with-youth).

MaqC Editor: Francis Mutua Contributors: MaqC Eric Gitau, Annrose Kibutha, Hellen Karoki, Teresia Muthoni Reviewed by: Mary Valai, Festus Kivindu, MaqC Eric Gitau and Wanjiru Mukoma


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one2one 2013 Highlights

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The one2one youth hotline and one2one, the brand names for LVCT’s hotline and youth programming received trademark registration from the Kenya Industrial Property Institute. 1,545,329 youth received SRH information with various messages on HIV Testing & Counselling (HTC), Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), Post Rape Care (PRC), and Family Planning (FP) amongst others through the revamped one2one integrated digital platform (OIDP). Of the 1,213,349 people (M=529,774, F=683575) that LVCT tested and counseled, 39% were youth. 889 of these were positive and were put on care. Adolescent and youth issues were addressed at policy level through one2one’s continued participation at relevant levels such as the mHealth and eHealth Task force and the National Adolescent & Youth technical working group. Various presentations on prioritizing adolescents and youth, girls and young women, and utilization of digital space in the HIV response were made at the 9th HIV Care and Treatment Consultative Forum in Nairobi and the International Conference on AIDS and STIs in Africa (ICASA 2013), in Cape Town South Africa. Supported the pre-youth National Prevention Revolution Summit & became a partner to National AIDS Control Council (NACC) and National AIDS & STIs Control Programme (NASCOP) convened County Youth HIV & AIDS Networks which ensure meaningful youth engagement at county level on HIVAIDS responses. Elections 2013 – one2one, through its integrated digital platform joined HIVOS partners in mobilizing for peaceful elections through the ICT platform provided by Uchaguzi. The one2one team played a key role in the consultations on the end term review of the Kenya National AIDS and STIs Plan III 2009 – 2013(KNASP III). This will continue into the development of the KNASP IV. The team participated in the revision of the Health Promotion and Communication Management Strategy, Guidelines and Standards for the health sector Conducted Sexual and Gender Based Violence (SGBV) sensitizations for youth in Nairobi based universities and Mathare Youth Sports Association (MYSA) in collaboration with Strategic Applications International’s Sema Campaign. One2one participated in the Global Youth Forum, Indonesia in December 2012 as e-delegates, contributing to the recommendations on youth policy ahead of the High Level Post 2015 Development Meeting. (Clockwise from top left): Blackblingers dance crew/one2one at LVCT offices, International Youth Day (pg. 8), one2one/ Narok Youth, Dun Hotline counselor at SEMA concert, Crowd at SEMA concert, The Youth outreach mobilizers, one2one and Machakos Youth.


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Experience Sharing Forums ICASA 2013

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he Youth Programme Coordinator Eric Gitau had the privilege of attending the International Conference on AIDS and STIs in Africa (ICASA) Youth Pre-Conference from the 5th6th of December in Cape Town South Africa, and the main conference from the 7th - 11th of December 2013. During the event, the youth coordinator made a poster presentation showcasing one2one™ as an integrated digital platform that offers comprehensive quality SRH/ HIV/ GBV direct services & literacy to over one million adolescents and youth (10-24 years) in Kenya annually.

"Like Floppy disks, we must make HIV a thing of the past” Themed "Now More Than Ever Getting to Zero.” the 2013 ICASA Youth Pre Conference discussions covered issues on leadership, accountability and participation. Similarly, the main ICASA conference provided a great advocacy platform for African leaders, partners and communities, to increase ownership, commitment and support to the AIDS response. Participants also got the opportunity to exchange knowledge, skills and best practices within their areas of interventions whilst calling for action and defined

priorities and formulation of policies to enhance mobilization and effective utilization of resources. The vast energy of young African activists and the resolve gotten to utilize the space for meaningful dialogue at ICASA was refreshing. Young people were vocal, leading sessions and committing to work together with government and stakeholders to make actionable commitments. THE 9TH HIV CARE AND TREATMENT CONSULTATIVE FORUM

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uring the 9th HIV care and treatment consultative Forum, The Youth Programme Coordinator, MaqC Eric Gitau, made a presentation on utilizing the digital space to address adolescents SRH/HIV information needs.

MaqC, the Youth Programme Coordinator making an oral presentation during the 9th HIV Consultative Forum at Ole Sereni

Held at the Ole Sereni Hotel on the 13th November 2013 the presentation gave increased visibility to LVCT as it elicited the most exciting conversation in the Pediatrics: Care and Treatment for Under 2's, Older Children & Adolescents Track of the conference. The chairing team, participants, panelists and discussants alike The audience listens to MaqC’s presentation called for the scale up of the one2one at Ole Sereni integrated digital platform to national level, and NASCOP committed to see through the next steps towards this realization. MaqC and Ruth (HIVOS) at the ICASA 2013 Youth Pre– Conference at Cape-Town (far left) and MaqC at the condomize zone during ICASA 2013 in Cape Town (far right). Next page: ICASA poster presentation showing OIDP performance in 2012-2013.


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one2one Sanitary Pad Initiative (OSPI)

A one2one Sanpad Experience

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he one2one Sanpad Initiative (OSPI) begun in 2010 through financial contributions from the youth programme team. Since then, LVCT staff have supported the initiative during the 2011 and 2012 Annual Staff Meeting (ASM). Through a partnership with Kimfay, the initiative has been able to purchase and subsidized sanitary pads over the years including in 2013, benefitting over 5000 girls to date. In 2013, the Youth Programme Officer, Annrose Kibutha, spearheaded the initiative and covered four counties; Machakos, Kajiado, Nairobi and Kiambu. Machakos was the area with most need; with a total of five schools visited. Only a select school was reached in each of the remaining counties. Through this drive, the Sanitary pad initiative reached over 600 girls in 2013. Special thanks to staff who accompanied Annrose to different counties in distribution of sanitary pads: Purity Murungi, Cate Maingi, Hannah Kerber (Communications Intern), MaqC Eric Gitau and Joseph Gatimu. If you wish to touch a girl’s heart this year through this initiative, send a letter of enquiry to one2one@lvct.org.

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gnes, a form three student followed one of the youth counsellors after

discussion with all girls in her school, she had a personal question. “I was keenly following your discussions and it was very useful. Her tone changed and her voice low aware of her surrounding she asked;‘sometimes I get things like small pieces of meat coming out my private parts during periods, is that a problem?’ the counsellor responded to her concern and she was satisfied. Lowering her voice further and looking around to make sure nor student neither a teacher is listening she asked;- sometimes I get white stuffs coming out of my private part, sometimes it is so itchy na naskia kuwashwa (I feel a burning sensation) what could be the problem. The counsellor discussed some of the factors that make one have the signs she shared; when the coun-

Left to Right: one2one’s Mutua (Left) and MaqC (right) donate sanitary pads during the #Supadada event (Story below) and Annrose with a Head teacher of one of the schools in Machakos County during an OSPI drive (right).

sellor mentioned about panties, immediately Agnes eyes become teary and within a short time she was crying….. Not knowing what had happened the counsellor held her

#SUPADADA

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or six days, beginning from the 19th to 24th December, Nairobi’s CBD was treated to Ghetto Radio’s #SupaDada Serious Request show courtesy of Ghetto radio. The city was flooded by the color pink, with girls handing out fliers and bandanas to passersby. The event was devoted to putting the situation of young girls and young women on the center stage by creating a heroine #SupaDada. The event highlighted the lack of opportunities, knowledge, skills and their vulnerabilities to sexual and gender violence as well as pregnancy.

hands and after a few sobs Agnes told her why she was crying. I have only two panties and sometimes it is difficult to have them dry especially during rainy season…so this results to me putting them when wet. Sometimes my young sister takes one so I only remain with one. It is very challenging especially during periods because I can’t go to school because I neither have pads nor

LVCT provided free HIV testing and counselling services from the 19th- 20th before the offices closed for the December Holidays. However, the Youth Programme and Hotline Counsellors attended scheduled radio shows and interviews on different days within the six days. The message was clear, investing in girls is investing in the country’s future. The King of Condoms did what he does best on scheduled days and as always, he delivered his message with crystal clarity “Protect yourself and those you love.”

panties. I usually use a cloth and sometimes wear my small brother shorts. We are so poor that my parents cannot afford to buy us panties and sanitary pad. The counsellor gave her the remaining two panties, she was grateful and she vowed not to miss school because of lack of sanitary pads or panty”.


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PrEP FOR YOUNG WOMEN

ONE CHILD AT A TIME

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ave you ever wondered how it would be to have a world where women take control of their sex lives without fear of HIV? Now that world is here with us… Yes, here in Kenya. Current statistics shows that 60% of new HIV infections occur among young people aged between 15-35 years who account for 38% of the national population. The high HIV prevalence among young women aged 15 – 24 years suggests a high incidence of HIV in this population as these infections are more likely to be recent. With this in mind, LVCT together with other partners including the government conducted a study that aims to assess the feasibility of introducing HIV PrEP as part of a combination of prevention package to young women at high HIV risk in a non-research, real life settings in Kenya. It assessed if young women would be willing to take and adhere to PrEP.

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ne Child at a Time (OCaT) is an intervention that provides comprehensive HIV/STI prevention, care and treatment, education and economic empowerment to vulnerable girls and boys aged 17 years and below with a specific focus on those exploited through sex work. The intervention is implemented in community resource centers & HTC/ prevention centers in Korogocho slums, Kangemi and Kibera in Nairobi targeting 800 vulnerable girls and 200 boys. The new intervention being implemented by LVCT advocates for the broad spectrum combination prevention approach, with a special emphasis on the structural component, seeking to create an enabling environment for greatest sustained impact in reducing new infections among adolescents and young people. This includes the social, legal, political, and economic environments.

OCaT aims to reduce stigma and discrimination through age appropriate sex education coupled with provision of sanitary pads and back to school programmes or vocational training, where appropriate. Within OCaT, adolescents are provided with the full amenities and mentorship during holidays. Discussions are currently underway to include absorption to the job market and training as a form of economic empowerment. Outside this structure, the youth programme will spearhead the policy aspect. The programme is working closely with community leaders, police, children’s department and the local administration to ensure they support policy and legal issues, community mobilization and protection of the girls to facilitate their reintegration in the society through education and economic empowerment.

re-exposure prophylaxis or PrEP is an intervention that involves the use of antiretroviral drugs (ARV) to reduce the risk of HIV infection. It involves taking a daily pill. The drug needs to be taken correctly and consistently. Unlike male and female condoms, PrEP does not have to be used at the time of sex to reduce the risk of HIV infection. This offers women a risk reduction option that could be used without negotiating with their partners.

CATWALK FOR LIFE

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VCT’s Upper Eastern Regional team partnering with Straight Talk Foundation held the “Cat Walk for Life” event in Embu. Hosted by KTN’s Tamima Ibrahim, the event was meant to reduce stigma and discrimination among the youth in the area. There were special guest appearances by spoken word artist “GeeTwists” and motivational speaker Lucy Wanjiku.

CatWalk for Life is not any ordinary fashion event. It creates awareness about HIV among the youth through universal languages: fashion and music.

Youth counsellor Dun Ogendi poses with the winners of the CatWalk For Life winners with Tamima Ibrahim of KTN’s Sunrise Live (2nd from left)


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THE INTERNATIONAL YOUTH DAY (#IYD2013)

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he International Youth Day (IYD) was endorsed by the United Nations General Assembly resolution 64/134 of December 2009. It came into being after decades of advocacy work led by Civil Society Organizations (CSOs), who maintained that youth issues ought to be mainstreamed and integrated into the global, regional and national development agendas. Since then, International Youth Day (IYD) has been celebrated annually as a global event. In Kenya, the 2013 International Youth Day was observed on the 12th of August 2013 at the Kenyatta International Conference Centre (KICC), Nairobi under the convening of the National Youth Council. The theme of the 2013 IYD was Youth Migration: Moving Development Forward. The celebrations started with a procession at the Freedom Corner and proceeded to the KICC. There were about 1, 500 youth participants at the event, drawn from different countries and countries of the Eastern Africa region. HIVOS/LVCT’s youth outreach mobilizers joined more than 200 volunteers, particularly youth from institutions of learning (Universities) and the various Youth Serving Organizations in assisting with the coordination of the day’s events. Besides, LVCT’s youth programme coordinator was the MC of the day ensuring that the planned presentations, speeches, entertainment and exhibitions happened as were lined up. Dr. Nduku Kilonzo, LVCT’s Executive Director gave a powerful speech stressing on programming that takes cognisance of the health and reproductive aspects of adolescents and youth, with an emphasis on young women and girls. She highlighted the moral element as a foundation for better health as well as productive population. The climax of the day was the speech from the UN Secretary General followed by the keynote address by the PS Mr. John Konchella. The presentations summarized achievements, progress and perspectives of youth of in Kenya and globally.

(Clockwise from left) The Youth procession from the Freedom Corner to the Kenyatta International Conference Centre (KICC); The Youth Mobilizers and Kevin, a Youth Counsellor at the reception desk at KICC; Two youth delegates show the one2one number on their T-Shirts; LVCT’s Executive Director Dr. Nduku Kilonzo gives a speech during the International Youth Day 2013 (#IYD2013) at KICC


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GLOBAL DIALOGUES: CONNECTING YOUTH VOICES

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ne of the most prominent partnerships of 2013 was the Global Dialogues: connecting youth voices project with HIVOS. This is a story writing competition that invites young people (10-24) to submit stories, poems, songs or narratives on HIV/ AIDS and sexuality, Sexual and Gender Based Violence (SGBV), drugs and substance abuse, as well as related social situations providing insights of youth sexual attitudes and behavior from a social context. It is an opportunity for youth to speak out more on issues that affect them in this context. The one2one youth programme assistant was among the 10 youth outreach mobilizers (YOMs) who participated in the project. Through the one2one integrated digital platform, he contributed significantly to the 800 national entries. The youth programme coordinator was an adult ally to the YOMs and a member of the national jury. On July 25th 2013 at the Louis Leakey Auditorium, one2one was awarded 2 of the top 20 winning entries. The 2014 edition of the Global Dialogues competition is open for participation by the youth:

Ruth Kimani, the Project Officer, Connecting Youth Voices, HIVOS.

How to enter the competition and eligibility Create a true or fictional story or stories based on the theme of HIV/ AIDS, sexuality or violence that highlights a key message. It is up to you to decide the form it takes; a short story (maximum 10 pages), a video (maximum 10 minutes), a theatre piece (a recorded or written piece), a comic strip (drawings), a song (recorded audio), or a poem. Restrict it to English, Kiswahili or French. I encourage you to interact with the team at the Youth center and at LVCT to build your ideas and get information. Who can participate? The competition is open to all youth under the age of 25 as of May 1st, 2014 (spread the word). Persons over 25 as of that date can be part of a team led by someone below 25 years of age. You can enter as an individual or as a group, which gives you many chances. Prizes As of 2013, the prizes were as follows:

The Youngest winner of the 2013 story writing competition John Mathenge from Nyeri (14 years old) with his family on the podium.

National contest: 1st place - Ksh. 10,000; 2nd Place – Ksh. 6,500; 3rd place – Ksh. 3,500; 4th—20th place – Ksh. 2,500; International contest: 1st place- US $2,500; 2nd Place – US $1,250; 3rd place – US $625; 4th—20th place – US $125; How to submit Send your entries and enquiries about the competition to one2one@lvct.org for a chance to participate in this exciting opportunity. Feel free to share the opportunity widely.

The Global Dialogues National Competition winners 2013 pose for a photo with the Youth Outreach Mobilizers and adult partners at the Louis Leakey Auditorium on 25th July, 2013.


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ADOLESCENT AND YOUTH TARGETED EBIS

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amilies Matters Program (FMP) – is an evidence-based HIV prevention intervention for parents, guardians, and other primary caregivers (hereafter referred to as “parents”) of pre adolescents aged between 9–12 years. The ultimate goal of FMP is to reduce sexual risk behavior among adolescents – including delaying onset of sexual debut – by giving parents the knowledge, skills, comfort, and confidence to deliver primary prevention messages to their children. FMP had 12,226 graduates in 2013. Healthy Choices for a Better Future (HCBF), formerly known as Healthy Choices 1, which was adapted from Making a Difference, targets 10-14 year old children in school, with the aim of delaying sexual debut. 1558 adolescents graduated from HCBF in 2013 Healthy Choices II (HC II), adapted from Making Proud Choices targets the older adolescents, aged 13-17 years who are mainly out of school with an aim of delaying their sexual debut for those that are not yet sexually active and promoting safer sex including abstinence and condom use for those already sexually active. 11940 adolescents graduated from HC II in 2013. Shuga is a ground breaking multimedia campaign conceived to deliver the ultimate goal: a generation of young people free from HIV. Shuga targets youth between 15-24 years living in urban, peri-urban and rural communities. It aims to draw youth to prevention and treatment services, helps them explore their personal risks, mitigate the behaviors that put them at risk. 119 young people graduated from Shuga in 2013.

(Clockwise from left) Shuga facilitators during one of the sessions, Some of the HCBF graduates pose with their certificates, (center) EBIs Programme Officer awarding one of the HCBF participants


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HOTLINE EXPERIENCES Two shocks at once

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ackie called the one2one hotline very worried (from the tone of her voice I could tell that she was relieved to get through to us finally). She narrated to me how her husband died last year in August from HIV related complications (he actually tested positive while Jackie tested negative even after continued repeat tests up to December). They had three children and who were still very young.

“Since then I have not been able to get over the shock, and I fear that any time I could test positive and my children will be left orphaned,” she said. From what she told me I could hear she was going through a number of issues including grief which left her confused and barely able to decipher exactly what she was feeling about the whole incident The mystery of how the man became infected while she was not aware all this time also compounded her situation. I educated the client on the issue of testing and retesting and gave her the correct information regarding the period after which one should be able to know the actual final result of their status. I listened to her and helped her to understand it was not easy for anyone to comprehend how their partner could be HIV positive and while they remained negative irrespective of the fact that they did not use protection for a long period of time and from this point I gave her the correct information on discordance which calmed her fears. As we continued with the conversation the anguish from Jackie’s voice gradually eased off and the more she talked about it and received assurance, the more relieved she sounded, looking forward to a brighter future. I helped her understand that grieving for her dead husband would be progressive and she would develop coping mechanisms over time. Hearing Jackie move from hopelessness to a more optimistic outlook towards life left me feeling fulfilled. ———————————————————————————————————————————————————— False friends

“Hello!” The call came in. I welcomed the client, introduced the line, assured her of confidentiality and then urged her to narrate her story. “My name is Rita and I am 17 years old. I got your number from the pulse magazine and I decided to call. I really do not know how to tell you this, I feel bad about myself because I am not beautiful, I’m very fat and my friends tease me a lot. They all have boyfriends and no boy has approached me. I am just good for nothing.” She exclaimed. From her voice she sounded broken, hopeless and lost in a world of self-pity and self-loathing and rejection and I hate my body”, she kept repeating. I listened to the client and strived to help her regain her self-esteem, as she seemed so worried about other people’s perception of her. For Rita, her friends’ negative labelling had been a major contributor towards her low self-esteem and through the shared conversation we had, I made her aware that we have no control of what others think about us or say to us but we can choose what to take in. I empowered her to choose friends who add value to her life and are not bent on putting her down. It was critical that for her to start feeling good about herself, there was need to change her perception about herself. I emphasized the importance of recognizing that her body was okay no matter its shape, size or color. I empowered her to identify the aspects that could be of benefit to her health like engaging in fitness exercises and eating nutritious food, while appreciating what she cannot change about her physical stature. I encouraged her not to overly indulge in self-criticism but constantly compliment herself by looking at herself in the mirror every day and have self-talk. This meant focusing on the good things and positive aspects of her life. I explained to her that once she loved her body, her esteem would be boosted. I told her to build herself and focus on her studies and eventually love would find her because true love goes beyond one’s physical appearance. The session ended on an optimistic note and judging from the tone of her voice she sounded rejuvenated. ——————————————————————————————————————————————————————————————————


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“IN MY OWN WORDS” Love Unconditional

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y eyes strayed around the white tent and landed on the kit next to the lady in gloves. I could not remember her name; my ears were blocked by the thoughts running through my head. My leg was trembling; I placed a hand to still it and laughed goofily. That was not necessary, I thought. I should try to calm down or she would notice the sweat on my brow. It was a chilly morning, but it might as well have been sunny. I was sweating all over. I couldn't take the risk of her knowing I was scared- I am a man after all. I looked at the lady as she lay out her kit on the table, and I thought that it could be my last chance to say something or make up an excuse and leave. The lady looked up and asked if I was scared of needles, I nodded in the negative. I was not afraid of the lady with gloves, but I was mortified that I was in the tent with Shiku waiting to be tested. The harder I tried to be calm, the more vivid the thought, images and visions in my head became. I could hear myself sighing nervously despite my efforts not to. I was scared of what the next ten minutes would uncover; I was scared that I had not told her a few things about me in the two or so years we had been together. Yes, two years and I never once told her of my many escapades before I met her. The thoughts sent chills of fear down my spine and mysteriously ended up in the pit of my stomach. It let out a horrible sound that I hoped would have been gas. “This is very embarrassing”, I thought. I was very worried because I had never been to a testing centre before. That was not the point though, I was afraid that I never once bothered to find out my status. I was afraid that she would discover my lies in less than a minute. I was afraid that the last two years would go up in smoke. I was afraid that I would be alone in less than a minute. I was afraid because quite frankly, I was afraid in the past. I saw her wince in pain after the needle pricked her. I looked at her finger oozing blood and get sucked in by the clear tube. She smiled at me as she put some cotton wool over it to cover the bleeding. My turn, I thought as I rolled up my sleeves… Long day this was turning to be. This was her idea, something in the lines of building trust and being open with each other. My initial thought was her timing. Two years is a long time to decide to want transparency and honesty. It made me jittery, did she suspect me? I know am overly friendly but not to that extent. I swore not to cheat on her; I had experienced enough of that before her. The emptiness was not worth it. I wanted to have an emotional connection and not a transaction of sorts. On the other hand, I could not object because it would make me guilty. Not that I wasn’t, I was… or was I? The train of confusion was cut short when I felt the cool cotton wool on my finger. I smiled at her and held my breath. As we waited for the results, the lady in the gloves started talking about couple testing and its importance. They went on a discourse when she realised that we had been together for two years. Girls! I thought. They always find such things fascinating. I looked at Shiku glow and I knew the next few seconds would make or break us. I prayed it would not break us. I had invested my heart, body and soul into this relationship. We had our ups and downs and we were still together despite them. We had stood the test of time by any standards for our age, and I mostly found myself mulling over what we would look like as a married couple. She told me I was the one, and I had grown to believe it. The lady in gloves asked us if we were ready to have our results, we nodded and held hands. Shiku smiled and said, "No matter what, Love unconditional." She held out her pinky finger and told me to pinky swear. I smiled, not relieved because I was not sure how binding it was. The first to be uncovered was mine then hers, a single line on mine, two distinct ones on hers. She gasped and started sobbing on my chest. Confused, I looked at the lady in gloves and it dawned on me… Love unconditional, I mused.


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LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS What is the Difference between Love, Lust, Infatuation, and a Crush? Our resident love and relationships counselor, Teresiah Muthoni (Tessie) helps you get it right ... LOVE Love is not an emotion. It isn't some warm fuzzy feeling that you get. Your ability to love is based on you, not anyone else. I love because of who I am. Your wife/husband doesn't have to earn your love. He/she doesn't have to maintain it either. If YOU stop loving YOUR wife, then that demonstrates a problem with YOU, not her. Love is the sacrificial prioritization of someone else’s needs, wants, and desires ahead of your own. When you can lay down your life, so to speak, for someone else, you'll understand love. LUST Any intense desire or craving for gratification; when contrasted with

Tessie is a youth counsellor at LVCT and specializes in Love and Relationships

love, lust usually means sexual desire. It is Associated with physical chemistry over a short period of time. Relationships based on this and nothing else always come to an end, mostly badly. INFATUATION Infatuation or puppy love is liking everything about a person, and seeing them as perfect. You do not see their flaws, just overlook them and act like they are perfect. Don’t confuse this with love; in love you see the flaws and accept them neither with lust, which is purely physical attraction. Signs you are infatuated daydreaming and creating fantasies even sexual ones. You may never act on the fantasies, but they more often than not create an unrealistic impression of the person you are fantasizing about. Many people find out what they imagined the other person to be isn't the actual truth and quickly lose interest. A CRUSH When you have a crush on someone, you like that person. You usually feel uneasy and try to get attention around that person. Sometimes, it's hard to stop thinking about them. Possibly, a crush is merely the attraction a person has for another person. Most relationships start with some sort of attraction. You see someone you like or you see things about a person you like and feel attracted to them. Many mistake this for love, but attraction is a powerful force. Often, we consider a crush to be from a person who has an attraction on someone who is either unwilling or unable to have a reciprocal attraction. It would be like a boy being attracted to his married teacher, or a girl attracted to a boy already dating another girl or at least not interested in her. A crush can be cute, or it can be dangerous too. They've been known to lead to problems, and often we dismiss them as temporary emotional outbursts. But that isn't always wise.


Page 14 Looking Ahead:2014 2014 carries with it great promise, endless opportunities and infinite possibilities for adolescents and youth. Young people’s use of digital spaces is at an all-time high, with 88% of 16-20 year olds in Kenya accessing the internet via mobile phones and computers, and 56% of 15-24 year olds visiting Facebook daily. There’s increased opportunity to reach youth with relevant information through web and mobile platforms. 68% of young people using internet and mobile phones say they would want to access more information related to sexual and reproductive health. To this end, one2one is all psyched up and raring to go. The one2one integrated digital platform will remain the preferred option offering comprehensive quality SRH/ HIV/ GBV literacy and linkage to service to millions of young people in Kenya. In the one2one integrated digital platform, we pride ourselves in making palatable the conversations that most people would otherwise find taboo.

“If sexual networks facilitate HIV, then social networks may help stop it” We look forward to participating in upcoming local and international conferences for learning and sharing experiences. Particularly, we are delighted to work with the Melbourne Youth Force to prepare for AIDS 2014, the year’s biggest gathering of scientists, activists, government leaders and partners to step up the pace of getting to Zero. One2one will continue its active membership and contribution through networks, capacity building and policy mechanisms such as: Global Youth Coalition on AIDS (GYCA), the Youth Peer Education Network (Y-Peer), Crowd Out AIDS amidst others. Believing in building partnerships in order to transform the lives of young people, we look forward to cementing existing relationships and courting new ones with different Government departments and agencies, private sector, development partners, service providers and youth serving organizations and institutions. We promise to keep you informed, educated, entertained and represented.

REVAMPED ONE2ONE WEBSITE The revamped one2one website can be found at www.one2onekenya.org. There are various pages for different levels of information and interaction such as: a) b)

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d) e) f)

Info Hub – a source of credible, accurate and relevant information on all matters sex, sexuality, reproductive health, HIV and life skills. One2one girls – An avenue through which we target girls and young women with matters that concern them ranging from hormonal and physical changes during puberty, to contraception, pregnancy and child birth, empowerment avenues and everything in between. Unplugged – the mantra of this page is: “to be inspired is great, to inspire is incredible.” This page profiles and celebrates everyday young people and their unsung stories of triumph over struggle and rising beyond immeasurable odds or doing spectacular things. Opportunities – We present job vacancies, scholarships, internships, conferences, fellowships and the like to ensure that young people are informed on how they can maximise their time and resources Ask one2one – It’s a series of Q&A that clients contact us with. What’s Hot – The latest information from within the programme and outside that is newsworthy is featured in this page

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