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The following is a response to Fran Quigley’s cover story “Prayers and Activism for Citizenship” (NUVO, Feb 5-12, 2014): The sensible policy would be to bring illegal immigrants “in from the cold”, and provide a path to legal residency. But Fran Quigley would be more convincing were he not so blindly partisan in favor of the Democrats. Quigley excoriates the Republicans yet the Democrats could have fixed immigration (and ended the wars, and legalized pot, and passed a better healthcare plan, etc., etc.) when they held both houses of Congress and the Presidency during the 2011-2012 Congressional session. All they had to do was hold a vote. But they didn’t - why? Because they don’t really care about the people harmed by the current policy. It’s just an act. If it were more than an act, they would have fixed this in 2011. — Posted online by “Gene”
DEATH OF A NEWSMAN
Depression finally claimed the life of a local TV reporter and anchor named Rick Dawson in September of 2013. Our cover feature for the Feb 19 edition of NUVO is Rick’s story — told by his widow, Shannon Cagle.
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VOICES THIS WEEK
ALL ABOUT SEX
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crewing. Gettin’ busy. Boinking. The Doug Whitinger is a horizontal mambo. Sex. Most of us native Hoosier and advocate do it (sorry, Mom!). But does sex for the LGBT community in have to define our relationships? Central Indiana. Having sex is just one part of someone’s life — most people spend their time doing other things as well, or else face the discomfort of extreme chafing. Most intimate relationships have somein, or attempting to engage in, gay sex: thing to do with sex, though the imporLarry Craig, Ted Haggard, Indiana’s own tance a couple places on it depends on former Republican state legislator Phil the individuals themselves. Hinkle. These men choose to marry Homosexuality is defined as expewomen and portray a “straight lifestyle,” riencing an attraction to members of claiming to uphold the traditional famithe same sex. The act of sex, however, ly paradigm yet engaging in extramarital is not a pre-requisite. Attraction is the sex. Infidelity isn’t a new concept, but action or power of evoking interest, their inability to form healthy relationpleasure, or liking for someone or some- ships combined with their positions of thing (Google it). So in essence, being power and influence result in a prohibigay is not about sex. It’s a feeling, not tion of others to share in legally recogan action. Homosexual sex is just a bynized, monogamous homosexual relaproduct of same-sex attraction. tionships. Being gay is only about sex Many of those who disagree with the for them, so they insist it’s only about “homosexual lifestyle” say that we are sex for the rest of us. over-sexed, drugged-out, body-glitter aficionados. Are there homosexuals So by their definition, marriage for whom their entire lives revolve around is about sex. But sex is not a hooking up? Absolutely. requirement of marriage, and But there are just as many (more, according marriage is not a requirement for sex. to the law of averages) straight people whose lives revolve around that same goal. We call these people, regardNo one in the Statehouse asked me less of orientation, sex addicts. or my husband whether our relationIf being gay were truly all about sex, ship was just about sex. It’s not. It’s also then why would so many of us spend about love, support and mutual respect. so much of our lives striving for equal Occasionally someone will ask me: rights and recognition of our relation“Who’s the husband and who’s the wife?” ships that have nothing to do with Well, we both are. He cooks. I clean. He sex? If you believe the proponents of does the yard work. I do the laundry. He HJR 3, being straight is also all about pays the bills. I play video games. sex. When the Indiana House of Though we are not married in the eyes Representatives debated the issue, it of the law, I refer to him as my husband. was explicitly stated by a number of He is the person who I own a home with, those who spoke that marriage equality vacation with, share my fears, hopes and is not necessary because the purpose dreams with. He is the person I love. of marriage is procreation (which, if But he is not my lover. Our relationship I’m not mistaken, is usually achieved involves more than just sex. through sex). So by their definition, He is not my partner. We are not in marriage is about sex. But sex is not a business together and we don’t square requirement of marriage, and marriage dance. is not a requirement for sex. He is not my roommate, my fuck We’ve been inundated with news buddy or my “special friend.” stories of men in power who identify as He is my husband. There’s simply no straight yet have been caught engaging other word for it. n
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WHAT HAPPENED? Jimmie needs to wear a hat Unprotected sex often leaves concrete reminders of fleeting, temporal encounters, so, in honor of this issue's theme, the curmudgeons at the news desk offer the following public service announcement: By the end of December 2011, a total of 10,279 persons were living with HIV/AIDS in the state of Indiana. State health officials in 2012 also logged 29,505 reported cases of chlamydia, 7,338 cases of gonorrhea and 224 cases of syphilis (which starts with a painless mark and then can progress through fever, swollen lymph glands, sore throat, patchy hair loss, headaches, weight loss, muscle aches, and fatigue — and, if untreated, on to paralysis, numbness, gradual blindness, and dementia). And there is always herpes: Nationwide, 16 percent of people aged 14 to 49 years have herpes simplex type 2, according to the Centers for Disease Control. Abortions are another undesirable outcome of unprotected sex: A total 8,808 "induced pregnancy terminations" occurred in 2012, down from 9,112 the year earlier. Library on the move Landlords harvest about $450,000 a year in lease payments for housing Indianapolis Public Library branch locations. About 50 percent of those payments go to support the Glendale Library, which IPL Chief Executive Jackie Nytes once worked to place as a core tenant at the Glendale Mall. Now, according to IPL's new fiveyear strategic plan preview, it may be time for the Glendale location to break free of the mall — and maybe get some windows. Likewise, Fountain Square's branch is set to migrate — perhaps growing in potential partnership with the University of Indianapolis. The Martindale Brightwood location would, according to the plan, do well to leave its current location in a neighborhood strip mall and grow into "the kind of place that can strengthen a neighborhood" — maybe even right across the street. The library at Flanner House is set to move north up Michigan Road. NUVO on Thursday visited the College Avenue branch for a presentation on the new plan — and later met with Nytes for more details on the future of the library and the quest for a 2018 referendum. The full story is posted at NUVO.net/news along with a listing of the public meetings IPL is hosting through March 5 to gather as much public feedback on future strategies as possible. Funding crunch ahead Library officials, in addition to the IndyGo community and other government service providers in Marion County, are watching with interest — and alarm — the proposal to kill the business personal property tax, currently under consideration by the Indiana General Assembly as Senate Bill 1. In a Feb. 6 letter to House Speaker Brian Bosma, Nytes wrote that, under the bill’s oringinal version, the library would have lost an estimated $4.3 million (while Marion County's overall hit would be $121 million). An amended SB 1, which would implement more targeted cuts, would trim $220,566 a year from the library's coffers — and $6.1 million for the county overall. — REBECCA TOWNSEND 6 NEWS // 02.12.14 - 02.19.14 // 100% RECYCLED PAPER // NUVO
THE FACES OF THE OPPOSITION TO HJR 3
The fight for equality has many faces — this series will profile a few, beginning with PFC Jack Wilson
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rivate First Class Jack Wilson served his country in the Korean War from 1950 till August of ‘51, when he was wounded during a sniper attack. His companion of 58 years, the late Marvin Lowener, fought for an even longer amount of time during World War II. Now Wilson is fighting House Joint Resolution 3. [See sidebar.] The following profile of Wilson’s experience is excerpted from the full version, which is posted at NUVO.net/Voices. It is the first in a series by NUVO photographer Mark A. Lee, focusing on Hoosiers affected by the HJR-3 debate. Mark is a lifelong Hoosier, and an unapologetic equality advocate. When Jack was 14, he came out to his parents. His stepfather at the time worked as a policeman at Indiana University Medical Center. It was 1942, and he was one of the guards there. At the time Jack came out to his parents, his stepfather said, “Well, we knew all the time, but we were just waiting for you to tell us.” “From that point on, I had a great life,” Wilson said. On Aug. 15, 1951, Wilson’s army engineering unit was working on rebuilding a water reservoir in Korea when snipers attacked. Neither Wilson nor the commander had a rifle, so they both went underground to get away from the sniper. “Unbeknownst to me, I was leaning against a wall that they set timers on, and the wall exploded.” He lost several teeth, and the hearing in his right ear. “I was in the MASH Unit for 2 weeks, and then they sent me to the 382nd army hospital in Japan, and I was there for 5 1/2 months.” After his stay in Japan, he was sent to a hospital in Wisconsin. When he was able to leave his bed, Wilson went to a local lounge with one of the male nurses. That’s where he met Marvin. They eventually agreed that Jack would join Marvin’s family for Easter. Marvin’s family greeted Jack like they had known him for years. The relationship deepened, and Marvin and Jack lived and worked together for the rest of Marvin’s life. The day that the movers brought their
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Private First Class Jack Wilson served his country in the Korean War from 1950 till August of ‘51, when he was wounded during a sniper attack. His companion of 58 years, the late Marvin Lowener, fought in World War II. Now Wilson is among those fighting HJR 3.
furniture to Indy, Marvin bent over to move a little table, and he fell and broke his hip. “I had to take him to the hospital, he never came out.” Jack said. “He was 92 when he passed away.” Friends used to ask Marvin and Jack all the time, “How can you two work together, be together, 24 hours a day, and not kill each other?” Marvin came up with the answer and said, “Well, if you love someone, truly love someone, you want to be with them as long as you possibly can. Because we’re not on this Earth forever. I want to be with the person I love as long as I possibly can — as long as God will let us be together and happy.” Marvin died Oct. 4, 2009, and Jack sat at home, not eating — he lost 60 pounds in four years. His niece finally said, “Uncle Jack, you’ve got to get out and talk with somebody that you can talk to and relate to. You should try and get on and see if you can find some friends that you can talk to.” It was shortly after that Jack found AVER (American Veterans for Equal Rights). In the 2013 Veteran’s Day Parade,
his commander said to him, “Jack, you can’t walk. I want you to drive the jeep up front.” So he drove the jeep with the AVER banner on it, and his commander told him, “When you get to the grandstand, you have to slow down and almost stop.” So he did. And when the announcer announced the jeep, he went on to say “and the driver of the jeep is an 85-year-old Korean veteran — wounded veteran — and he’s the oldest member of the group.” Jack was overwhelmed with emotion as people started to applaud, whistle and wave. Had Marvin lived, he and Jack would have celebrated 62 years together this April. Sadly, even to this day, it would be as “companions” and not as a married couple. In Jack’s lifetime he has one wish, “I don’t know how many years — if I have ten more years, I’ll be happy — and I hope, I pray, that within my lifetime, people will accept EVERYONE as who they are, and not what they are. And that’s my life wish.” Jack currently lives in Avon with his niece, and is among those fighting against HJR 3. n
SENATE DEBATE ON MARRIAGE COMING UP After hearing several hours of testimony on House Joint Resolution 3, the Indiana Senate Rules Committee, which includes the full complement of majority and minority leadership, voted 8-4 on Monday to pass the measure, as amended by the House. A final Senate vote on the matter could happen as soon as next Monday; a second reading, in which additional amendments may be proposed, could happen as early as Thursday. State Senate President Pro Tempore David Long, R-Fort Wayne, said following the vote that anything can happen on PHOTO BY PAIGE CLARK, THE STATEHOUSE FILE the Senate floor - including the potential Final Senate vote could happen as soon as Monday that a member could move to add back the measure’s second sentence. asks voters to affirm or reject the following: “Only HJR 3 is the bill pursuing a state constitutional marriage between one man and one woman shall referendum that would enshrine a heterosexual be valid or recognized as a marriage in Indiana.” definition of marriage into the state constitution — REBECCA TOWNSEND and, if it returns to its original language, invalidate any other form. Before advancing the resolution on for Senate consideration, the Indiana State House of RepreNUVO.NET/NEWS sentatives stripped the second sentence, that: “A legal status identical or substantially similar to that of marriage for unmarried individuals shall not be Visit nuvo.net/news for breaking news, valid or recognized.” At this point, the measure event listings, features and more.
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SEX QUESTIONS? ASK DR. HERBENICK
NUVO chats with the woman with the answers at KinseyConfidential.org
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or the past 13 years, Debra Herbenick has been answering questions about sex. As a designated answer-lady for KinseyConfidential.org, the researcher and educator at Indiana University’s renowned Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction, Herbenick fields questions from a wide variety of folks looking for answers about their fantasies, fears and private bits. Herbenick, a PhD and author of two books on the subject (Sex Made Easy and Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction), started as a research assistant at Kinsey and handled outreach to the kids living in IU’s dorms, answering their queries and encouraging safe practices. Now she answers everybody’s questions, including ours. NUVO: Most of the questions you get seem to be some variation of, “Am I normal?” DEBRA HERBENICK: They are, and I really feel that fits with the long history of the Kinsey Institute. I’ve read a lot of the questions that Alfred Kinsey himself got through the postal mail when he was alive and running the institute and they also were around that same kind of common theme. They vary … but often people are wondering about the size and shape of their genitals, or if other people masturbate, or if it’s common to have certain kinds of fantasies or certain types of experiences. Given the lack of information that’s out there given to the general public about sex, I think a lot of people do wonder how their experiences, interests and desires fit in. NUVO: Have we gotten better as a culture about getting this informa-
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tion out there over the course of the 13 years you’ve been doing this? It seems like the proliferation of information on the internet both good and bad would have some positive and some negative effects. HERBENICK: You’re absolutely right. Certainly we’ve become more creative about ways to get information out. At the Kinsey Institute not only do we have our newspaper column but we also have a podcast series that people can download for free; we have information posted on the internet — but the internet’s a really crowded space. Books are a really crowded space. I’ve written several books about sex. A lot of people write books and post blogs and do broadcasts and all of that, and I think what we find as a challenge is that many of the people who write to us at the Kinsey Institute do say that they’ve come to us after searching the internet for a while and finding really conflicting information which makes them even more confused and they’re not sure what to believe.
NUVO: Does a lot of that misinformation come out of the porn industry? HERBENICK: Some of it may, but a lot of it even comes from schools, from parents, from their best friends, from a magazine. I think we can all look back at our own lives and things that maybe someone’s older brother or sister told us about how babies were made. Those things persist over time. When something is talked about quietly or in secret it’s tougher for myths to get dispelled. Almost anyone’s parents can tell you how babies are made but if your six-year-old is getting information from their good friend you won’t get a chance to dispel it unless you’re being proactive and saying, “I want my kids to know this information.” NUVO: What’s the most common question you get? HERBENICK: From men, probably questions about penis size. From women, about how to have an orgasm. And overall desire … somebody feeling like they have low desire in comparison with his or her partner. NUVO: What are some of the more unusual questions? HERBENICK: Well, every day’s a different day. They’re all over the map. You very quickly stop being surprised at them. I love my job; it’s a great experience learning how different we all are. One of the most beautiful and interesting things about humanity is that we’re not that similar to each other. We’re pretty similar, but we have our own unique quirks as human beings. We all essentially look the same, but one of us might have a ridge on their nose or one eye that’s bigger than the other. It’s the quirks that make us interesting.
HERBENICK: I don’t know that we are. Sometimes I see quirks sensationalized or shamed but I don’t see them celebrated in the way that says, “We’re all different and that’s okay.” NUVO: That’s an interesting distinction between “sensationalized” and “celebrated”. Are you speaking about things like Fifty Shades of Gray? HERBENICK: I wasn’t thinking about that specifically but I think that’s one example. I certainly did think that when that book did come out, it provoked a lot of conversation in a lot of different communities both in the mainstream and in sex research and education. Many people thought a lot of positive things came out of that and a lot were shocked, but it certainly did [start] some conversations. NUVO: Are you seeing any trends in sexual behavior? HERBENICK: Most of my job is research, and we track sexual behavior in the U.S. Most of the things stay the same: most people have engaged in vaginal intercourse, the vast majority of people have masturbated, all of that. I think in terms of behavioral trends, we’ve seen over the past 20-odd years a pretty large increase in the number of women and men who say that they’ve tried anal sex. That’s probably the single behavior that’s changed the most, which is a challenging one to think about because there’s not been a lot of research on it. What we do know is that there’s also more women in particular who report pain from anal sex but aren’t necessarily talking with their partners about it. It is a behavior that can be pleasurable for many people, but there’s the mechanics of it that make it more challenging
[and] riskier in terms of infection. If people talked about it more and educated themselves about it more it could go better than it does. If they used lubricant, if they did it with partner they liked and trusted and felt comfortable with … but the way it is, it doesn’t always pan out that way. I think the more pleasure-focused trend we’ve seen over the past 20 years is ... women being more proactive about their own pleasure and orgasm, and so we’ve seen many more women using vibrators than used to. Now more than half of women in the United States have used a vibrator. We see sex toys of all sorts coming out of the shadows … instead of just being available at adult bookstores that are zoned in certain parts of cities, now they’re widely available at women’s in-home sex toy parties. It’s a more comfortable space for men and women to shop in. I think it’s opened up a lot of doors for women to talk with each other about their sexual experiences. NUVO: Are there other things out there that people don’t talk about that might be influencing their sexuality?
aspects of sex, probably in large part because many newspapers and magazines and TV are focused on providing a service: something you can go home and try. For example: find the G-spot a certain way! Try this new position! We always see those headlines in the supermarket checkout lane. But it’s every difficult to get anyone to write about things like emotional closeness, intimacy, love, hugging, cuddling, kissing — even though study after study that we have shows how important those aspects are to people’s sexual lives. If we’re missing any nuances, it’s that emotional side of sex. n Editor’s note: If YOU’VE got a question you’d like to ask the doc, you might just see your question answered at NUVO. net or even on these pages. We’re starting a new column cleverly titled “Ask the Sex Doc.” Submit your question to firstname.lastname@example.org and please include the cool fake name you’d like us to use when Dr. Herbenick and Sarah from NUVO reply to your query about all things intimate.
HERBENICK: The thing we probably don’t talk about the most — which is fascinating to me — is intimacy. Connection. Love. It’s not for lack of trying. I know as someone who talks frequently several times a week with different magazines and newspapers and so on, there’s a lot of interests in the physical
NUVO: Have you noticed that we seem to be shining more light on those quirks as we’ve seen a couple generations now ask questions about their sexual identities?
— DR. DEBRA HERBENICK
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CONSENT AND CAMPUS RAPE Butler’s Mission of “Enthusiastic Consent” Education BY SARAH MURRELL • SMURRELL@NUVO.NET
very two minutes, a woman is sexually assaulted in the US. One in four women will be raped or sexually assaulted during her college career.* Now the crimes are known by the schools at their epicenter: Steubenville, Missou, dozens of college campuses — sexual assaults are reaching epidemic levels. In an environment of permissiveness, female victims are often blamed for not taking more action or by putting themselves in dangerous situations, but tired victim-blaming tactics have had little affect on national rape and sexual assault numbers. So Sarah Diaz, Student Wellness coordinator at Butler, is trying to go a completely different route: instead of separating predatory sexual behavior and the grey areas of consent that are introduced when lots of alcohol is added to the mix, she’s encouraging students to seek out “enthusiastically consenting” partners. “Consent is one of the most important sex education principles, as it is the foundation for healthy and mutually enjoyable experiences,” Diaz said in an email. It’s a fascinating and refreshing reversal on the usual boilerplate “prevention tactics” rambled off to incoming freshman: don’t go to parties alone, never leave your drink unattended, don’t dress too suggestively — advice that assumes every male on campus is a sexual predator and every female student is a chaste noblewoman fending off a deluge of cartoon wolf style whistles and bulging eyeballs. The common term for this dynamic is “sex-negative,” where both sexes carry a sense of shame and trepidation about their sexuality as it frames sex as a currency of personal value and moral worth — a model which leads to predatory behavior at parties and creates unfortunate terms like “walk of shame.” On the flip side, Diaz uses a “sex-positive approach” which “doesn’t shame students for having sex, but informs them how to have sex in the safest and most enjoyable way possible.” Back when I was new on campus, the Peers Advocating Wellness for Students organization, which provides peer-led education on everything from stress to drinking to sexual health, stressed the importance of obtaining consent before sex. “In recent years at Butler we’ve taken our approach a few steps further to encourage students to ensure there is enthusiastic consent,”
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Diaz said, “that all parties involved are not only granting permission but are enthusiastically interested in the same things.” Immediately, the first criticism of this approach is that it must encourage students to be promiscuous, an assumption that Diaz firmly refutes. “This approach advocates two main principles: that if and when sex occurs it should be consensual and safe. The sex positive approach doesn’t promote sex, but rather promotes personal choice around sex.” Choice is one of the first elements of sex that gets ignored in the larger conversation, often to the detriment of the student’s sense of self. If the conversation about sex on college campus is built around the assumption that young men are insatiable sex fiends looking to nab the “weakest in the herd,” the imbalance of power creates an unhealthy dynamic where sex becomes a bargaining chip and consent a prize. But trying to reframe sexuality as a choice and not an animal urge in need of control requires a lot of unpacking of our society’s moral messaging about sex and value, which Diaz does with good old-fashioned Hoosier common sense. “I start by normalizing the topic of sex as a part of life that most people will engage in at some point, and focus on equipping individuals with skills to have safe and enjoyable sexual experiences,” Diaz said. The disconnect being created by abstinence-only sex education is one which Diaz’s sex-positive approach is trying to bridge. High school students in abstinence-only sex education are often told simply that sex “has serious consequences” and the subject is left at that. (That’s the best-case scenario. Some faith-based sex education programs teach children that sex before marriage turns them into “chewed gum that no one will want.” Elizabeth Smart, speaking at a human trafficking forum at Johns Hopkins, said that she did not run from her captors because she believed she was “chewed up” and no one would want her. She now advocates for sex-positive sex education in high schools.) You know the math: students who’ve been schooled
in abstinence grow up into adults who want to find spouses and have children, and — surprise! — sex plays a major role in both of those “traditional” desires. Diaz is not about to let pearl-clutching get in the way of her mission of helping young people feel empowered to make healthy decisions for themselves and their partners. “If we don’t have straightforward conversations about this, children are left to attach societal expectations to sex, and the importance of consent is most certainly not something that they’ll find highlighted there ... There are serious physical and mental health consequences of non-consensual sex, and if there is something we can do to prevent these repercussions we should feel an obligation to do so.” n * U.S. Dept. of Justice, National Crime Victimization Survey, 2008-2012
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BORN TO STRIP
A first-person account from someone who gets naked for a living BY BUNNY BAREBUNS • EDITORS@NUVO.NET
was born to strip. It hasn’t always been pretty — it certainly hasn’t been easy — but I love my innate talent. Despite all the straight-A report cards I got as a kid, despite the countless art and dance awards and the ever-present compliments on my poise, I’ve somehow always managed to suggest sexuality with my existence. When I was 20, I was just a culture-shocked Indy native studying at the School of the Art Institute of Chicago. Following an intense fascination with Annie Sprinkle, I became centered in performance art, using my body to violently express my simultaneous acceptance and denial of objectification. I was also attempting to earn a specialization in the art history program with a thesis about the importance of sexual image in fine art when a professor critiqued me for lacking an opinion on the subject. Having experienced precisely none of the things I was studying first hand, I decided the best way to develop an unbiased opinion was to try some field research. After a quick browse of stripperweb.com, I settled on the world famous Admiral Theatre — what I now know to be the most upscale club I will likely ever work for. It was much larger and lovelier than I expected, with red velvet chairs and curtains on an enormous cabaret-style stage. I was quickly hired and shuffled off to a senior stripper, Tiffany, who I later learned
was Ms. Nude Chicago. She explained how VIP (our only “lap dance” option) rates worked: $75 per song, $25 of which I was to give to my manager. The rules were straightforward: The patrons, or “custies,” as they are affectionately called, were not allowed within 6 inches of my body. I was not allowed to chew gum or curse. I was expected to be fully nude when dancing but covered when walking through the club. (Oh - and I wasn’t allowed to strip to rap songs.) Tiffany told me I could expect to make $250 per night “without even doing anything” and demonstrated how lap dances work. She sat me in a booth and leaned over me so that I felt the heat radiating off her chest and tasted her cool perfume before bowing over and breathing down my neck. That was that — my shift had begun and I was officially a stripper. Performing for my first customer was a truly moving experience. An Indian man who spoke no English negotiated through his friends to buy a 30-minute set from me. Once we got in our highly reflective little den, he simply stroked my hand and cried in awe of me while I fought tears of my own. When the “dance” was over, he stood, bowed, tipped me and kissed my hand. I had made my $250 for the night, and I asked to go home. Returning the next night was, however, slightly terrifying — I
Bunny Barebuns doing a lot of damage to one of her stockings at Radio Radio.
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knew it would be my first time to take the stage. Strip club standard procedure is as follows: a DJ you’ve just met asks your musical preference. You reply with your stylistic weapon of choice. I picked industrial music and hoped for a little comfort in the gothy tunes of my angsty teen years. To the intense drum intro of “Head like a Hole,” I tumbled out of the red velvet wings and onstage. The next 9 minutes were a complete blur of terror, thrills, and relief at the absence of a pole. I levitated offstage to my manager waiting on the floor, who greeted me with excited praise. “I love your raunchy style! You belong in burlesque!”
Is that a banana on your head or are you just glad to see me?
The rest of my stay at the Admiral was a dream come true. Staff took wonderful care to protect me, clients were mild-mannered and complimentary, fellow dancers made for sweet and genuine mentors. Friday night shifts required floor-length expensive gowns. Wednesdays were the worst: College kids got in free and usually couldn’t afford VIP treatment. I was required to get regular mani-pedis and since I could easily afford it, had a weekly Brazilian wax. I had a newfound body confidence. Every person there treated me like a delicate, exotic thing of beauty. And then the dream ended. To my dismay, many clubs in smaller cities were nothing like the Admiral. I jumped from place to place, looking for the kind of luxury I’d seen at my first gig. In some clubs, everything was dirty. Dressing rooms often lacked chairs, good lighting, nice lockers, enough outlets, proper mirror space, and private bathrooms. According to some state laws, I had to affix pieces of band-aids to my nipples — “titty tape”— and be mindful of the width of my thongs. I also had to deal with drunk customers who tried to put their hands all over me. I learned to spray my skin with hairspray to fend off the occasional rogue tongue. I saw a few girls on hard drugs. I saw a few girls prostitute themselves. And there were moments where I actually feared for my life. One night I was abducted from a club by a gang that had come to pick up a fellow dancer. They held me at their place for hours. When I was finally allowed to leave, I called it quits. I thought I was hanging up my platforms forever. A year went by and my boyfriend took me to see my first burlesque show, a production put on by some girls he distantly knew. As soon as I laid eyes on the ladies of the Rocket Doll Revue
back here in Indy, I knew I was one of them. The confidence, the raunchy sexuality, the hilarity, the camaraderie, the style — there was even a group number that reawakened my childhood dreams of dancing; really, really dancing. I was enamored and reached out to them immediately. After sitting in on a few practices and “kittening” (taking the stage at the end of an act and picking up discarded items after dancers exit) I prepared a routine to audition. I was truly terrified that I would have some unnatural hiccup and the Dolls might reject me, but that never happened. Instead, they coddled me and eased my anxieties, taught me essential burlesque basics, helped me fix my hair and makeup at shows, shared costuming tips and tricks, applied tape to the back of my pasties backstage. They encouraged me to explore my years of formal dance training, my funky performance art ideas, my tendency to lose myself when dancing improvisationally, my desire to dance with snakes and my choreographic visions —even performing group numbers that I’ve arranged. They wiped my tears when I had awful moments and cheered me on when I rejoiced. As I developed as a soloist onstage, I also watched an astounding net of acceptance form behind me so that I never fell when I struggled personally. They even helped me realize my calling to teach dance and find a place to start. I couldn’t imagine my life now without the combination of sisterhood, support system and creative outlet they provide me. It’s not that my burlesque life is classier or better than my club days, but the fact that it’s entirely directed by my own fantasy instead of serving others is endlessly gratifying. I was born to strip, and now I can finally be comfortable in my own 7-inch heels. n NUVO // 100% RECYCLED PAPER // 02.12.14 - 02.19.14 // COVER STORY 13
CAN YOU FEEL THE LOVE? NUVO READERS SHARED THE LOVE THIS VALENTINE’S DAY AND SUBMITTED THEIR NOTES FOR THIS SPECIAL, SOMETIMES MUSHY, SOMETIMES COMICAL, COLLECTION OF LOVE NOTES.
Charlie C., I miss your warm strong hands holding me at night xoxoxo <3 you. — Jack Two H
Karen, Happy V-Day Bubbaloo!!! We made it through our first Indy winter in our big drafty house! Mucho Love! — K2
I love you George because you put a smile on my face. I want to hold your hand. Happy Valentines Day. — Raymonda B.
Blaire H., Happy Valentine’s Day to my role model, mentor and BFF (Best Black Friend)! — Brittany W
Bluesman, you are the love of my life, my soul mate, best friend and Valentine forever. ILY 24/7. — Bandchick
Jonathon F., Please never stop riding your bicycle in a suit. One day I will tell you that I’m in love with you. — Secret A
Star Wars, I’ll always love you, but don’t ruin what we had in Episodes 4-6. — Kimmi M
Danielle, I’m on top of the world, surrounded by shooting stars and waterfalls when I’m with you … You make all my dreams come true. — Kate N.
Cole B., My sweet darling Cole ... I love you more than a weight lifter loves his protein shakes, casein powder, and Biogrow! :) — Emily G.
Drunk Dan, We all adore you for your parties, your lack of pants, and especially because of who you are! — Mara K.
Jules, To my JuJu, Violets are red. Roses are blue. I’m all mixed up. When I’m with you. xoxo PYT — Sonya A.
NUVO is my Valentine! Much love to NUVO for all you give to InDIANApolis. It’s so important to Indy that you are here. — Melyssa H.
Rich Love, You are the man of my dreams. — Love Michelle
Alex W., You’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me. To my best friend & soul mate: I love you. Happy Valentine’s Day! — Kristen P Poopyhead, One day I’ll take you to Puppy Playground, but only if you’re on your best behavior. Happy Valentine’s Day! — Boopadoop Sean Smith, Love you with all my heart, thank you for being in my life. — Kris S. Hannah, There is more to life than we know. Thank you for joining on the journey as we experience it together. I love you! — Michael D. Janelle, you are everything I have ever wanted. Thank you for the best year of my life. I LOVE YOU. — Cory Adam, I belong with you, you belong with me, you’re my sweetheart! — Whitney H. Ick, Lets shine on em’ 2014! Happy Valentines Day my fellow showstopper. I love you! — Dumplings H. Pookie, Guess how much I love you- A LOT! Alright, you’re in. Wish we were back on the balcony with smuggled champagne J. — Dollface
Jeff, Happy Valentine’s Day! Thanks for the great fun and wonderful support. You’re amazing, and I’m proud to be yours. Super duper. — Linda B. Ryan H., If I had to live without you, I’d shoot myself. But only in the foot, because I’m not an idiot. — Rachel R. Amanda, I am amazed by your love. I feel lucky & blessed every day to have met u. #TogetherForever #SoulMates. — Grant M. Shashank, To my wonderfully nice, sweet, caring, adorable, innocent, secret special friend. Happy Valentine’s Day on your 12/14 anniversary. Mujhe chumo! — Sundar Gora A
Brittany, I love you more than anything, because that’s how grant do! — Grant K. LZ, what an absolute joy it’s been watching this ship carry our bodies safe to shore. Round and around we go. — ZK Eric A., Happy Valentine’s Day! You have been the greatest blessing in my life. I love you very much Son. — Mom Kristi, I love you to the moon and back and I’m so very thankful to have you in my life. Happy Valentine’s Day Baby! — Stacie H. Ciara, Thanks for the chap-stick, although it will never compare to the taste of your lips. Happy Valentines Day Boo. — Joey G.
Rob, I am blessed to have you in my life and all that you do for me. Thank you for being you! — Vivian B.
My Isaac, I love our love. Thank you for being mine. Let’s keep on living this fairytale forever. I love you. — Emily K.
Mama Suz, Without you I would have no world. You’re more than my truth north. You’re my everything. Love you, much. — Damon
Lilay, Remember when I came to your house the day after we met and gave you a weezer CD? Remember how we became inseparable ever since? — Evan W.
Lance, I love you ... for every single breathe I take. Mynx. — Mel
Cristi Jo, You are the ‘MMM’ to my ‘Bop’! Love you — Rachel
Cristian, I am your queen with a crown that be down for whatever. LOVE YOU! — Pepper M.
RedBeard, Andy, I love your big, burly, curly, bright red beard!!! But what I love even more, is your big, beautiful, selfless heart. I love you!! — Jenn B.
Punkin Head, I love you so much! Happy Valentines Day — from your wife.
Christina, All I think about is traveling and you. — Zak S.
Booboo, Merry Christmas!! — Pokey R.
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I want to thank my family and friends for being a part of my life. I feel so blessed to have a family who cares about me and friends who are there for me when I need them. I have joy in my life because of you all. It’s such a beautiful thing when you have people in your life who make it better. I love you all and I wish you the best and Happy Valentine’s Day. — Raymonda A. Snuggs II, A big cat daddy, you’ve become, in this most recent year. Words alone cannot express how much I love you, dear. — Snuggs I. Sergey, my sexy Russian lover, I love how you wave your hand to open the automatic door like you’re magical. — Love forever, Tolsty booichkins Bessie, Hi Bessie! — Ian G. Joe, “All of me loves all of you” -John Legend Happy Valentine’s Day! I love you! — Lindsay Moo, Life is a series of beautiful encounters and you are one of them. You’ll always be my forever. 1123 <3 — Munks
Tiffany F., If loving you is wrong. I don’t wanna be right. The past is what made us strong. BEST VALENTINE DAY. — Paul H. Andrea, Happy Valentines Day to the most wonderful girl in the world. You mean the world to me BEAUTIFUL! LOVE, <3 — Edward Jaila Shyane, Happy valentines day jailabutt. Mommy loves you more than anything. You are my sunshine, my only sunshine! :) — Liz D. Elizabeth J.D., You’re a dream come true! I hope you will be my valentines? I love you! You mean a lot to me beautiful! 6-3-10 — Steven T.H. Dennis, I never knew what love was until you came into my life. Here’s to many more years together! — Jenna L. Grandma Cleta, Grandma you are amazing. You’re the strongest woman I know. You’d rather do for others than yourself. You are a role model to me. — Meranda R.
Munks, I miss you so much and I love you eternally. You’ll forever be my always. Please remember that. XOXO — Moo S.
Jon C., Thank you for giving me your pure & true love. You’re my dream come true. I’m excited for our amazing future! I love you. — Jessica T.
Patrick, You’re decent. I don’t mind being around you. I suppose you’re a keeper. — With Love, Mary
Chip S., To my DB, “I choo-choo-choose you!” Now pass me the wine! — Matthew R.
Kelly Jo, It’s been the best year being with the most beautiful girl in the world. I love you Kelly Jo. Be my valentine please! — Love, Ralphy
Papi, TQMMMMMMM! — Mami
David, HAPPY BIRTHDAY & HAPPY VALENTINES DAY. I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART AND I AM TRULY BLESSED TO HAVE YOU AS MY LIFE PARTNER. XOXOXO — Jessica B. Coach, Heart of my Heart? I love you! Now tell Me You Love Me. Now Kiss My Hand. — L Dan, You are my lobster. — GA. Amy, You are still the mud that binds our drywall together. — Mike D. Cecil, Nearly two years ago, you changed my life. It has been one of the best things that has ever happened to me. — Wayne Dustin, My heart is yours if you’ll have it. — G. David C. Ruth, I ch- ch- ch- choose you. Always. — David OKA Pooder Splurge, ROSES ARE RED, VIOLETS ARE BLUE I JUST WANTED TO SHOW YOU HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU. HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY SPLURGE!!! — Sara K. Happy Valentine’s Day Antwan, Brandon, Diamond, Kimoni, and Leilani! Mommy loves you. — Sara K. Mary Louise D., Best friend, confidant, partner in crime, and lover. Happy Valentines Day & thank you for the will to breathe again, with my whole heart. — Dan N. Honeybun, love you MORE! Happy Valentine’s Day. — Sweetpea Stevin, I Love you my wonderful hubby! Happy Valentine’s Day! Love, Your Sami! – Samantha C. Rach, I love you like a sister. Because, well, you’re my sister. — Rebecca L.
Gretchen N.H., <3 Gretchen I Just Want Too Tell You That, I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART<3 U are my EVERYTHING....LuvUBabe4Eva — DanaFaye W. Rhonda M., You are my sunshine now more than ever. I love you ... — La H. Denis E.F., My hot tamale!! I love you so freaking much! Best Friends forever and ever even though you drool too much LOL love you! — Alma M. Armando A, My second best friend! I appreciate your friendship so much. Love ya! Happy dia del amor y la amistad (: — Alma M. Christina P, Happy Valentine’s day. Just wanted to say instead of puttin you on the corner, I decided to keep you to myself. I love you! — Tony L. Los, Your love makes me feel like there is nothing in the word that I cannot achieve, thank you for loving me ... I Love You! — Kujo Deronie L., To the man of my life, he is my rock, leaner, supporter and my snuggly bear. I love you forever Deronie bear. — Samantha R. Carlos, I have never felt this way before… you make me happy, sad, silly & mad… all at the same time! Clearly I am CrAzY for you! — Kerissa G. Laurie, Happy Valentine’s day from me and Gavin we love you!! — Brandon L. Jose, soy tu esposa KIMBER quiero desir ati y toda el mundo que TE AMO y estare atu lado hasta el fin de mis dias. — Kimber Team Galan, They say that people come into your life for a reason … I believe that! You came into my life just when I needed you! You complete me and help me to grow and learn every day. Thank you … I love you! — Mamasita
Mario G, Love you and looking forward to the rest of OUR lives together ! — Gregory C.
Walt, You are my favorite big ol’ bully. You can throw rocks at me in the parking lot any time. I love you so much. — Dinah
I love you so much, if we were zombies I’d let you eat my heart and my brainzzz. Love, (PS- Hardee’s :) — Your Unicorn
Chad Q, You’re a shooting star I see A vision of ecstasy When you hold me, I’m alive We’re like diamonds in the sky Happy Valentines Day! — xo CC
Calitri, You’re super cute. Let’s make out on the Brooklyn Bridge soon? — Lauren R. Wayne L., I love any day I get to spend with you! Even holidays as ridiculous as this one are made better with you in them. xo — Keri J. ‘Im a bird. You’re a bird. And we’re a bird together. I love you to the moon & back boobabe.’ — Christa S. Man Dude <3, You are the steeler to my bear, the yankee to my white sox, the police officer to my hippy- and I love you for it. — <3 Lady Friend. Alexandra C., Avid NUVO reader. Living together here has been amazing. I couldn’t be more proud of you! Love you forever. — John-Payton R. Chef Dimple, Your laugh is crazy!! But I’m soo crazy for you. — Xoxo Angi Trisha, Babe, love you are my best friend and world glad to have you in my life let’s continue to grow together. Happy Valentines Day. — Daron D. Emma Faith & Hubs, Thank you for making my life complete. You’ve made all my dreams come true. I love you both! — Love, Mommy & Muggins From the top of my cranium to the bottom of my tootsies — anatomically correct and illustrated, of course — I heart you tons. Happy Valentine’s Day, Easter Bunny. — me I love you with all my heart and soul. I miss you so much. Yours forever. — Kiki Nathan, I hate valentines day, But I sure do love you! Happy stupid valentines day baby! Thank you for being so perfect for me! — Nina T. Bryan, Seven. Turkey. Pickle. “Pull my finger.” Cold iPad. Lazy Sunday. Pizza and wings. Peowl. Let’s spend every Valentine’s Day at Applebee’s forever! — Jillian M. Peanut, Fang & Dragon, Karate dance party of joy to celebrate the love and joy of our little life together - thank you all. — Dave W. Joe, I’m glad you didn’t give up our love, like I gave up candy. I love being your “registered travel guest.” — Michael H. Lynn, I love you and you love me let’s go get married. Here’s a hug and a kiss for you please say I do. — Shon M. MJM, Happy 9th anniversary of our very 1st date! I love you ...You know! — JVM Brenda S., I want all your words. I want all your stories. And in the end, I promise I’ll still love you. — Laura A. Scaleeke, Happy V-day! You are my beans, my favorite kitty farmer and MY person. I love you! — Melissa H. Bre-anna, What would I do without your smart mouth ... makes it easier to love you. Happy V Day. — Love, Mr. Fantastic Craig, I’m the lucky one! I love you, baby! — Julie R.
My Silver Fox, I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to indulge my fantasies while warming up to your Italian cappuccino eyes. My silver fox in winter has left footprints not only in the glistening snow but in my heart. My unrequited love, silver fox you’ll never know. — Loving you in secret, Theresa You’re like the perfect verse over a tight beat. Happy Valentine’s Day, Mel! Mynx. — Lance Nancy C., Love you momma, my first and current valentine !!! — Gregory C. Jen Bug + Daveasaurus Rex = Charlie Bear. Pat, I love you my baby! honk honk — Carol W. Kim, You are my always and forever baby. I can’t wait to marry you. — Love, Joe Dodi of my heart, you are my one true love. Your infinite light, love, and hope complete me. Happy Valentine’s Day sweet soulmate of mine. — Cynthia C. Mush, I love you sweet baby! you are my one and only! — Trevor P. Tom, The best friend and lover this Yank could ask for! I love you! “YES. YES. Said it. He vas my BOYFRIEND,” and always will be! — Catherine M. My Dear Libbi, Just wanna say happy Valentine’s Day to the most special person in my life. Thanks for all you do for me. — Dave Christopher, you light up my life and you are everything I could have ever hoped for and more. Love always, — Micala Dave P., To the best husband in the world! I love you to the moon and back! Your loving wife, — Libbi P. Chris, You are the mayo to my pizza and I’m the peanut butter to your pancakes. I love you baby always. — Heather C. Jonah G., You’re the king of my 4 chambers, the Siracha to my pho, the cream to my tea, and absolutely, the best part of me. — Bay R. Amy W., All my love to Mrs. AmyLouWho! Happy Valentine’s Day to you! — Ed W. DJ, You are my best friend, my lover, and my king...and I, your Darlin Queen. Happy Valentines Day Papi!!! — Tonya B. Ben, “Darling” you said, “we’re a train wreck.” “Sweetheart,” I said, “train wrecks always make the front page.” — Rachel F. Stephen, As spirits in flesh, we learn from earthly teachers. From my parents and ex, I learned selfishness; from you I experienced LOVE. Eternal gratitude & LOVE ... — Nancy D. Hughey, “You’ll miss the best things if you keep your eyes closed” — Dr Seuss. Thanks for opening my eyes! Love you! — Katie P.
Dear Chase, You are so dreamy & so fine ... that is all! — XoXo, Nancy Lauren G., Your beautiful smile and panda paws it was love at first sight. You’re the best thing to ever happen to me. l love you. — Jereme M. Angie, I hope you brought your chapstick! Now, gimme something to smooch on, Babe!!!!!!! — Love, Tim Je’Dai, You, me, Call of Duty, beef jerky, popcorn, and Dramamine. Best Valentine’s Day ever! (OK, ice cream and kale chips too) I love you! — Jane H. My FIRE Valentine, 10,034 days since we met; 904 days since we married. Each day a blessing by your side. — Love, SUNSHINE Andres, I am so lucky to be in love with my best friend. Excited for what this new year will bring. Te amo muito! — Kris S. David R., Just had to send a special friend a wish for love and laughter. Happy Valentines Day! — Bennanne T. NUVO, U r soooo hot. Every time I hold u, I quiver in hot anticipation of what could happen if we keep at it. Luv u! — Willie Mac T. Lindsay K., I’ve fallen in love many times ... always with you. — Jameson F. Hey Indy, we love each and every one of you. Keep riding bikes and making magic happen. — Nine13sport S. L., I love you more than anything and you mean the world to me. You make me a better man. — Tom H. Bert, Happy Valentines Day to the Best Husband and Father in Indy. I love you with all of my heart. — Tiffani C. Gerardo R.T., Happy 25th birthday, Feliz Día de San Valentin, and happy anniversary! This February is a special month for us! Te quiero muchisimo Gerardo — Sarah F. Marcus, words can’t express how lucky I am to have you. You’re a great man and I Love you very much. — Forever Yours, Brandi Jonathan S., “I DO” — Love, Keri S. Jonathan F., Roses are red, violets are blue, You are definitely a handful but I still love you! Happy Valentines Day baby! — Virgy H, Making my way downtown Driving fast Faces pass And I’m Starbucks bound Staring not at the road Just making my way Through the crowd — Bails Chan B., I love you so much, words can’t describe how important you are to me ... so happy you chose me to be your wife. — ShaKira B. Right hand (wo)man, My love for you burns stronger than my urinary tract infection. — Left hand Quirky Qpeople: with all the mushiness I can muster, thank you for being my family, friends, and fellow artist. I’m happy to find myself not just in love with Devin, but a slew of lovely people. — Rebekah Marfabear, I love you like a cat loves licking its butt. It feels weird but it is satisfying. Thanks for supporting my wackiness. — Your Mister. NUVO // 100% RECYCLED PAPER // 02.12.14 - 02.19.14 // COVER STORY 15
PREVIEWS British burlesque benefit Angel Burlesque’s night of fun at the Columbia Club represents only a fraction of the burlesque action in Indy this week. Also on the docket: An Evening of British Invasion Burlesque, produced and hosted by woman-about-town Pepper Mills, and including performers from the city’s major troupes, plus a few independent performers. Everyone involved is donating his or her time, and all proceeds go to benefit Making Strides Against Breast Cancer.
NUVO: This is the sex issue of NUVO, and while burlesque isn’t just about sex, it certainly has its sexual overtones, right?
MILLS: You’re doing something sexy and sex-positive and nearly naked onstage — and that’s okay. When you’re afraid to be sexy, that’s the exact opposite of burlesque. I think burlesque performers are being a bit naïve if they think there’s not a lot in common with exotic dance. But burlesque is all about the tease. It’s the anticipation of wondering what’s going to happen. What are they going to show? What are they not going to show? What are they hiding behind those fans, anyway? It’s an outlet for both the performer and the audience. This week’s burlesque lineup: An Evening of British Invasion Burlesque: Feb. 15, 8 p.m. at White Rabbit Cabaret; $15 presale (brownbagtickets.com); limited number available at the door.
A Night of Moonshine and Merriment, presented by Creme de les Femmes: Feb. 22, 8 p.m. at The Sanctuary on Penn; $15 presale (cremedelesfemmes.com), $20 door. — PAUL F.P. POGUE
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Free parking for airborne dirigibles at the Columbia Club this weekend
what we can expect from the show. summers ago, and I wanted to honor him with something. I did the Beastie Boys burlesque show last year because he and I were huge fans. And now I’m going through all my dad’s favorites, and he really loved British music. We cover everything from the 1960s through the 1990s. The diversity of the show is amazing. We have some Beatles, some George Michael, an Austin Powers throwback, and the opener is amazing and unexpected.
TEA DUELING AND CORSET MAKING
NUVO: Tell us what inspired this theme and PEPPER MILLS: I lost my father to cancer three
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t’s all about openness at the Circle City Aerodrome. You can come as you are to A Dark Victorian Romance, an immersive steampunk weekend at the Columbia Club replete with DIY corsets and racing dirigibles, an intimate cabaret and a grand masquerade ball. “There’s a no sneer guarantee; that’s our equal opportunity statement” says Kat Alyst, the chief liasion officer for the local steampunk collective. “Steampunk is all made up, so it’s completely open to interpretation.” Wear your peacock outfit or utility kilt. Shoot from the hip with your Wild West steam-powered gun. Try out a different personality — or gender. That openness goes both ways: Alyst has heard all the jokes about steampunk (“It’s what happened when goths developed the color brown”), and has dealt with those “hard-core historical reenactors who abhor it because it’s retrofuturism.” But if you put aside the snark and slavish concern with historical accuracy, you have a unique chance “to dress up and have fun,” to “park your airship at the Crossroads of America” for a night. Alyst stresses that it’s an “extremely low-pressure weekend,” and that “unlike at GenCon where you feel like you have to see everything,” you can buy all ticketed events a la carte, and there’s plenty to see for free. Passersby can check out a vendors’ area on the balcony overlooking the Columbia Club’s lobby; a steampunk-inspired art show located offsite at Fountain Square’s New Day Meadery; a variety of panels, lectures and demonstrations on topics such as airship construction and self-publishing; and a salon (hosted by the well-traveled Madame Belle) featuring tea dueling and performances of a live Penny Dreadful. We ought to define our terms. Tea dueling, described as a “challenge of skill, technique and wits” by the founder of the American Tea Dueling Association, goes a little like this: First you dunk your cookie in a cup of tea to the count of five. Then your goal is to
CIRCLE CITY AERODROME PRESENTS A DARK VICTORIAN ROMANCE W H E N : F E B . 14 -16 WHERE: THE COLUMBIA CLUB FREE PROGRAMMING: VENDOR GALLERY, STEAMPUNK ART SHOW (OFFSITE IN NEW DAY MEADERY), TEA DUELING, ROAMING PERFORMANCES, GAME ROOM, PANELS AND LECTURES PAID PROGRAMMING: WORKSHOPS, DANCING AND DUELING LESSONS S P E C I A L E V E N T S: S T E A M P U N K C A B A R E T, GRAND MASQUERADE B A L L, P U B C R A W L, ABSINTHE AND SCOTCH TASTINGS PHOTO BY INSOMNIAC STUDIOS
Katie Angel of Angel Burlesque is entertainment coodinator for this weekend’s A Dark Victorian Romance.
outlast your opponent — in other words, to be the last person to eat your cookie before it breaks or otherwise falls into the teacup. Call it a other-dimensional, non-violent alternative to actual dueling, though A Dark Victorian Romance will also offer a two-part course on dueling with genuine swords and pistols (or safe derivations thereof). And as for the Penny Dreadful, think of it as a step up on a murder mystery at a dinner theater. You may recognize the term as referring to as a lurid, grotesque type of serial fiction published in during the late 19th century. The Circle City Aerodrome is presenting that same type of story in a live-action fashion, performing pop-up, improvised scenes
throughout the Columbia Club; Alyst calls it “a holistic theatre experience.” There are plenty more elements to talk about, but because this is NUVO’s sex issue, we ought to mention the key role that Katie Angel of Angel Burlesque is playing as entertainment coordinator. She has her hands in the salon and Masquerade Ball, but her key event is Friday night’s steampunk cabaret, titled Absinthe Makes the Heart Grow Fonder, and described as a night of “music, dance, mesmerism, hilarity and the classic art of striptease.” And the good news: After selling out in record time, it was moved to a larger ballroom space within the Columbia Club, meaning tickets are still available as we go to press. n
“NSFW is about sex as a currency, the exchange of wants and needs. I think each character is looking for a cure to different kinds of loneliness. Role playing serves as a great allegorical narrative tool to explore the cultural digital divide. “The reality is, ‘mainstream’ men are getting their fix with internet pornography, which is designed for men. And ‘mainstream’ women are left with erotic literature. Realistic sex between two consenting adults in this culture is still being under-represented. I’d like to use the language of realistic sex that is as honest as possible to my own experiences, with the idea that we could bridge the gap between visual displays of envelope-pushing eroticism and basic human experience and interactions. “It is also very important to me to present strong, sexually progressive women. I’m surrounded by these kinds of women in my life, including my wife, and if I can use my male privilege to at least try and give a voice to that, I have to do it. It’s my obligation as a filmmaker. For me, NSFW is a feminist film.” NSFW premiere: Feb. 19, 7:30 p.m. at Indiana State Museum IMAX; followed by after-party at General Public Collective featuring music by Ribbons of Song and Square Peg Round Hole
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LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX
Audrey Kovas and Richard Buonagurio in NSFW.
NSFW Indy premieres at State Museum Director Ryan Balas, whose short feature NSFW will make its Indy premiere Wednesday, Feb. 19 at the Indiana State Museum IMAX, says he wants to “carry the flag of sex in indie cinema for as long as I fly under the radar.” And that means telling NSFW’s erotically-charged story — about an exhibitionist Tumblr star who engages in sexual roleplay with a married businessman — in an honest, long-take, unexpurgated way. The film premiered last year at Austin Film Festival and is on a mini-tour of the Midwest before heading to digital platforms. Balas is New York-based and the film was made in his hometown, but his partner on NSFW’s marketing and distribution is local artist and graphic designer Eric Stine. Here are a few more thoughts from Balas: “It’s important to me to present sex in a way that is realistic without disregarding some of its more poetic visual opportunities. I think sex can be a performance, but it can also be used as a language to communicate bigger ideas about the loss of intimacy and existential Ryan Balas longing.
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cience, Sex & The Ladies isn’t a typical “adult film,” though it is intended for mature audiences. Made by the Indianapolis-based AnC Films and now ready for the film festival circuit or living room screenings, the feature depicts how women physically experience orgasms using charts, graphs, illustrations, actors portraying sex experts and couples, anatomical models and real lady parts. It’s not, nor is it meant to be, pornographic. The only use of porn in the movie is an example of what isn’t real. The film began life an an extensive essay by college senior Trisha Borowicz on myths and facts that surround how and why women have orgasms. Trisha, along with her AnC Films cohorts Charles Borowicz and Barnaby Aaron, helped turn her essay into a script. The “visual essay” — as opposed to a documentary — was shot in Greenfield, Anderson and Indianapolis in 2009. Since then, the filmmakers, who selffinanced most of this film, raised $20,000 on Kickstarter in late 2011 to cover final sound and music production expenses. The end result is a unique, entertaining, informative, funny and even touching look at the myths and realities of how and why women experience pleasure. The filmmakers say they are so passionate about this idea because there is no dearth of bad information. For generations, women and men have relied on unreliable sources like women’s magazines, men’s magazines, porn, popular culture, each other and even misinterpreted scientific research to make assumptions. As one part of the movie explains, after World War II, sex was discussed more openly and there were higher expectations than before for both men and women in the boudoir. One negative consequence was that women were thought to be “frigid” if they didn’t or couldn’t have a vaginal orgasm — something the film depicts as incredibly rare based on existing scientific and social studies. As a result of these misconceptions, there was an increase in
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“frigidity” following World War II. To help, a narrator explains, there were “tastefully vague” “marriage manuals” that introduced the idea of foreplay. One delightfully absurd scene in the film shows a couple in bed together. Both are wearing tasteful pajamas and are under the sheets. As the husband moves up and down while on top, the wife has her hands behind her husband’s back. She then starts filling her nails out of boredom. A scene or two later, she shows
her husband a few pages from the marriage manual. The husband then goes down on the wife. But, at the book’s suggestion, he stops just before she climaxes. He then gets on top of her — and she eventually goes back to filing her nails. As for the style of the film, the directors say they were inspired by Peter Greenaway’s formalistic 1989 film The Cook, The Thief, His Wife & Her Lover. Each scene was filmed to look more like scenes in a play than a film. For instance, in one scene, Trisha and Aaron act as parents talking to teenage girls about “the G spot.” The characters are positioned on and around a couch, as if right out of an ’80s sitcom. Aaron is wearing a Cosby sweater and a laugh track punctuates their commentary. Much of the film was shot using a green screen to save time and money. This was a challenge for Charles because he added and edited most of the backgrounds long after the actors had been filmed. Because the movie was shot in a warehouse, they had plenty of space, but also needed to be creative about technical aspects of the film, like sound. They used hanging strips of insulation and tested various microphones to make sure they were getting exactly what they needed. The filmmakers were upfront with their actors about the nature of the film. One couple who acted together in the film when they were engaged and are now married with a 2-year-old son,
A SEX EDUCATOR’S PERSPECTIVE
athleen Baldwin, MSW, is the owner of Tell Kathleen Anything LLC, a certified life coach with more than 25 years of experience providing sexuality education to students of all ages, and was an educator with Planned Parenthood of Indiana for 20 years. NUVO: Is this movie like anything else like you’ve seen? KATHLEEN BALDWIN: In its entirety, it isn’t like anything I’ve seen before. Nor have I seen a full-length film that addresses these super important topics that are super alive for woman and couples. I think they take a nice, irreverent, curious pushback on sex research in general. I think they rightly position it next to media and cultural images that become the filters. NUVO: What did you think about the content? Do you agree or disagree with what they were portraying? BALDWIN: As far as the film’s depiction of a lack of pleasure for women from
vaginal-penile intercourse, the research shows us that the first third of the vaginal opening can be stimulated by a penis or toy with a large girth. But overall, I think that this film Kathleen Baldwin raises and addresses a couple of the most important topics in sexuality and women’s ability to enjoy their sexual experience. It addresses really really basic info that women don’t know. I’ve seen women who are 20 or 50 years old who’ve been calling their own body parts the wrong thing their whole lives. I also hear from girls and women who feel more guilt and shame around masturbation than men. NUVO: Why is that the case? BALDWIN: Part of the problem is the approach to sex ed in schools and
FROM PAGE 18 Jeremy Grimmer and Christa Shoot Grimmer, shared a few thoughts about the experience via email. Both have experience in local theaters, including with EclecticPond Theatre Company. One of Jeremy’s characters was a magician who explains how sex works and a participant in a fictional porn summit. Christa played a 1940s teenager welcoming back a World War II soldier and a confused 1950s housewife. As for having any reservations about being in a film with sex in the title, says Jeremy, “If we did, we got over it very quickly. I knew it would make some people that I would tell about it uncomfortable, but we had to tell them about it. When we read the script, before we even started shooting, we were blown away at how relevant and important this movie was going to be. We were glad to be asked to be involved with a movie that we felt should be a vital part of the conversation about sexuality.” Christa agrees. “I didn’t know much [about the subject matter]. I asked Trisha to assign me roles that I felt I could be genuine about, and she and the other filmmakers treated me with respect and dignity. I would trust them implicitly.” The filmmakers have fended off criticism for their focus on straight women.
churches and synagogues is fear-based, and the only other alternative is porn that’s titillating and exploitive. There is nothing in between. And there is nothing about pleasure in sex ed or that it is OK to say yes, OK to say no, or OK to get your groove on on your own. NUVO: What about how this film portrays the information? BALDWIN: One of the things I appreciate most about this film is the very nice matter-of-fact tone. It isn’t titillating except in ways that work as hooks. I did like the positive music throughout. The message is that sex is good, sex is fine, pleasure is good. This worldview about sex, that’s the problem. How we chip away at all of this is what’s interesting. We’re certainly seeing much more acceptance of diversity and gender expression and variations in attraction. I do think it’s a matter of women owning their own sexual pleasure in a way that pushes back on this worldview that’s — surprise — misogynistic. n Most of Science, Sex & the Ladies was shot using a green screen. SUBMITTED PHOTO
RECOMMENDED READING Source: Trisha Borowicz, AnC Films Info on how to orgasm more: • For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality (1975) by Lonnie Garfield Barbach. “Reassures women that it’s OK to fantasize.” • 5 minutes to Orgasm Everytime You Make Love (2000) by D. Claire Hutchins. “It’s exactly what I’ve been scouring the sex advice section of bookstores over the past 14 years for.” Accounts about what is expected of women from their perspectives: • The Hite Report: A Nationwide Study of Female Sexuality (1976) by Shere Hite. “Readable, first-person accounts of women’s sexual experiences.” • Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture (2005) by Ariel Levy. “Explains what happens when women think they are taking back their power by being sexy, but are still sexual objects in the minds of the men who look at them.” • American Sexual Character: Gender, Sex, and National Identity in the Kinsey Reports (2005) by Miriam G. Reumann. “How Kinsey’s work changed how Americans think about sex.” • Dilemma of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality (2002) by Deborah Tolman. “Explains that young women need to turn off their own desires to have a safe space.” More science-y informative books:
“Not going into LGBT or intersex issues was a conscious decision. I actually wrote a post explaining why after I had a particularly large amount of criticism on one reddit thread,” says Trisha. Her main reasons were to keep the movie focused, and that “the problem with our understanding of female orgasm is rooted deeply in our cultural obsession with male-focused, hetero intercourse as the end all be all. That, above all, needs to have holes shot through it before anything else can be done in a large cultural scale. … I want to appeal to/change the perspective for non-feminists, non-sex activists, people who don’t think about
LGBT activism, people who don’t think of themselves as sex-positive or particularly progressive — those are the majority of people, and those are the people who have to change to get any amount of large cultural change.” Although there won’t be a large premiere of the film any time soon, the filmmakers want to make the film available. “The movie needs to sit with you for a minute,” says Trisha. “I’m interested to hear what people say about the film in a small group, in a safe environment.” To schedule a screening of Science, Sex & The Ladies, email the filmmakers directly at email@example.com. n
• Sexing the Body: Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality (2000) by Anne Fausto-Sterling. “Explains that sexuality isn’t binary, but that there is a gradient, even at a basic biological level.” • The Case of the Female Orgasm: Bias in the Science of Evolution (2005) by Elisabeth A. Loyd. An honest and crazy wild ride by the foremost masturbation activist and female orgasm advocate: • My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir by Betty Dodson. Available on Dodson’s website: dodsonandross.com NUVO // 100% RECYCLED PAPER // 02.12.14 - 02.19.14 // FILM 19
IN LOVE WITH EMBLEM3
Is there a truer love than the love that exists between a teenage girl and a cute boy band? Emblem3 was beamed from television screens into the hearts of millions of teens during the 2012 season of The X Factor; they came in fourth on the TV talent show so judge Simon Cowell snapped ‘em up for Syco Records. Now the surfy, poppy West Coast trio is all grown up, with a first album and everything, and they’ve embarking on their first national headlining tour this winter. We gabbed with Drew Chadwick, who performs as Emblem3 along with brothers Wesley and Keaton Stromberg, as the guys were driving along the California coast on the way to do some hiking. On Valentine’s Day: “I think we have a show on Valentine’s Day! We need to plan something right now, to do something really special for our fans that day. Maybe we’ll just make out with every girl in the audience. Sounds like I need to bring my Chapstick and a pack of gum.” On reading dirty fan fiction about himself written by his fans: “I’ve never read a full fan fiction [piece], because they’re, like, literally books. But I’ve read clean ones and I’ve also read dirty ones. Honestly? It’s kind of hot. I’m not going to lie. It’s a really interesting situation – I don’t think I ever thought I’d be reading something about me, like that, that someone else wrote. On sneaking around the XFactor: “I was dating a girl at the time [when Emblem3 was on XFactor] and I’m not allowed to bring her into the mansion. But I brought her into the back and we got on the roof where there was this pool and a cabana up there. We just laid in the cabana and looked out on the city. And then the security guard caught us!” Emblem 3, Sunday, Feb. 16 Egyptian Room at Old National Centre, 502 N. New Jersey St., 7 p.m., $25, all-ages — KATHERINE COPLEN
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e’ve seen a lot go down on the dance floors of Indy (sometimes … literally). Sweaty grinding revelers are expected – and things often get a lot raunchier. Hey, it’s late, it’s dark, there’s copious amounts of hard liquor. Who better to tell tales of the dance floor for our Sex Issue than the DJs at the club watching it all? NUVO reached out to Indy’s denizens of dance for their sexiest, dirtiest or just outright gross stories. Find full listings of dance nights in Indy online at nuvo.net/calendar. And now, on to the stories … “Trouble-Gee and I were wrapping up Ground Control at Casba amid protests from two tall girls wearing very short dresses. Smelling good and looking gorgeous, they leaned in and begged us to spin one more record. We declined and so one of the girls continued the party in her own bombastic style – she tore off her dress and danced half-naked, aiming for her panties and bra next. (TroubleGee has photographic evidence.)” — DJ Top Speed is at Mass Ave Pub every Sunday night for Dynamite! with DJ Salazar. Top Speed teaches at Deckademics. “I would say the least sexiest/grossest thing I’ve ever seen on the dance-floor is people doing ‘The Wobble’ or pretty much any line-sort of party dances. The only exception to this is ‘The Tootsie Roll.’ ” — DJ Gabby Love spins at Social every Friday night for WTFriday with DJ Helicon.
“I know I’ve witnessed a ton of disturbing things over the years. Thankfully my brain has chosen to forget nearly all of that mess. The only thing that stands out as being extra weird took place at IU. I saw a woman perform fellatio on a guy under a hightop table just off to the side of the dance floor. She might’ve thought she was safe because it was fairly dark in there but plenty of people saw that go down.” — DJ Metrognome sets up at Coaches Tavern every Tuesday for Take That! Tuesdays and runs Deckademics, a new DJ school in Broad Ripple.
Indy’s DJs recount the sexy (or not) scenes from late nights
“One time when I was DJing, I saw a group of ladies... celebrating someone’s birthday that night. The odd thing about it was that they were all dressed as nuns! It kind of threw me for a spin because I was really thinking they were real nuns for a second. Can you picture these nuns at the bar, ordering shots, getting smashed and dancing to ‘Baby Got Back?!’ Def top 10 moments from DJing.” — DJ Rican is out every Thursday at Sensu, Friday at Subterra and Saturday at Tantrum playing Latin music.
“As you know, Annie and I have deejayed a few monthly parties that have been known to be pretty risque (Let Go! and Real Talk to name a couple), and we have quite a few stories to tell about bad behavior beyond what anyone would describe as ‘normal’ for a club night... We also are sure to be partly responsible for a lot of hookups and unwanted pregnancies due to our DJ gigs. “One time at Let Go! at The Lockerbie it was a normal packed house, wall-to-wall with hip young dancing fools making the windows sweat with condensation. A lovely lady on the dance floor vomited on her own cleavage in the middle of the crowd. She stopped dancing, pausing only for a moment before she shrugged it off and kept on with the boogie. Classy. — The A-Squared DJs hold Real Talk at the White Rabbit Cabaret every second Saturday with Action Jackson. “While one weirdest/grossest/sexiest/ dirtiest doesn’t necessarily jump out as the ‘most memorable,’ I am ready for this “twerking” revolution to be over with. The things my eyes see on a regular basis on the dance floor are definitely not G-Rated.... and I have the pictures on my cell phone to prove it.” — DJ Lockstar is in Year Three of his EDM Radio series, which you can stream at djlockstar.com. “At one point in my career I would have responded to this question very differently but I’ve seen
just how easily the spirited, sexy-dancing song requester can quickly become a low-hanging hot mess, spitting on the side of your face as she yells slurred dirtytalking booze breath directly in to your unprotected ear. Hey, no judgement from me though. We all have our nights. Anyway, there isn’t a story I can recall in particular, namely because I’m either directly involved or they’ve all run together … That said, I’ve seen people straight up licking each others faces, oral sex in a corner, a couple mutually masturbating each other standing at the bar ordering drinks, oral sex behind the stage, lots of flashed privates, innumerable crotch rubs and chest grabs, oral sex on the stage, women on all fours twerking on a dirty 3 a.m. nightclub dance floor, oral sex behind the bar, broom closet humping, tongue-kissing a stranger after they vomit, and in the same vein and just as disgusting, seeing the same person kiss 15 different strangers through the course of a night. — Cool Hand Lex is an instructor for Deckademics and a DJ for Radio Now. “I can’t say I’ve seen anything too ‘gross’ on a dance floor here...other than ‘The Electric Slide’ and ‘The Wobble.’“ — Rusty Redenbacher performs regularly in Indianapolis. “The sexiest thing I have ever seen on a dance floor is people who are down with the groove and are just riding the beat with not a care in the world in that moment.” — DJ Shiva performs all over the United States. n
SKAFISH’S SEXUAL LIBERATION
t’s not that Hoosiers dislike sex. I only need to look out my bedroom window for proof of that, as a non-stop parade of sex workers march past my East 10th Street residence night and day. And there’s certainly no shortage of strip clubs and adult book stores strewn across the Indianapolis cityscape. Despite this, many of our state’s most powerful politicians and community leaders are doing their best to prevent progressive thinking on issues regarding sex — ahem, HJR 3. These opposing cultural forces have created a strange sexual paradigm: a climate where it’s easy to switch on the radio and hear songs containing graphic descriptions of sex acts, but nearly impossible to find a reasoned discourse on progressive sexual thought in the mainstream dialogue.
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which I suppose was to be expected. That only fueled me more.” A particularly notorious incident occurred in Chicago during 1977, when Skafish nearly set off a riot while opening for ‘50s revival act Sha Na Na. A review of the show in Billboard described Skafish as someone “who appears to be in transition between man and woman,” performing in a “fit of transsexual narcissism.” The review goes on to note that the audience went “Police stopped the show.” into “revulsion” when Skafish stripped down to a women’s bathing suit and —SKAFISH began applying make-up. “Mothers were covering their children’s eyes, people were throwing things at the stage and the police stopped Considering these issues I was at a loss the show.” Skafish remembers. on how to approach this column. Until I Skafish’s greatest statement on sexual remembered that Indiana had produced politics appeared on his self-titled 1980 its own musical champion of sexual libdebut LP for I.R.S. Records. Composed in eration: Jim Skafish, who emerged from 1976, “No Liberation Here” chronicles the Northwest Indiana in the ‘70s. shame and abuse forced on individuals In 1976, Jim formed Skafish, a unique society deems as sexually deviant. musical aggregation that blazed a trail for “It was an anthem that spoke to multiple punk and new wave in the Midwest. while levels of societal abuse,” Skafish said. “Some setting a new standard for gender and sex take it as a gay anthem, which is part of its experimentation in rock and roll. message, but it also speaks to those who are Building off of influences from The New disenfranchised for being outside of societal York Dolls, David Bowie and The Sparks, norms. Sadly, its message of bullying is perSkafish crafted a dynamic live show that quickly attracted attention in the internation- haps more relevant today than it was when al music press. They were called “possibly the originally written and performed.” This was all a bit too much for American best new group in rock and roll” in 1978 by audiences to digest, and Skafish’s career NME. His fellow musicians took notice too failed to gain significant traction. After — Skafish counted The Ramones and Cheap releasing Conversation, a heavily censored Trick among the early fans of his band. 1983 sophomore LP, Skafish slowly faded But the same elements that made away from the music scene. Skafish’s act distinct also prevented him In the post-G.G. Allin world of punk rock, from attaining mainstream success. Skafish’s lyrics and onstage antics may not Skafish’s live show celebrated androgyny seem as shocking as they did in 1977. But and transsexuality and his lyrics explored sadly the current political atmosphere in the psychological trauma incurred from Indiana leads me to believe that Skafish’s the cruel bullying and marginalization message still wouldn’t find widespread accependured by those who dared to transtance in his sexually regressive home state. n gress from mainstream American values. “I have always challenged sexuality and gender norms as a performer, and was the > > Kyle Long creates a custom first, or one of the first to do so in Chicago podcast for each column. and Indiana,” he told NUVO. “It caused Hear this week’s at NUVO.net a lot of violent reactions from audiences, NUVO // 100% RECYCLED PAPER // 02.12.14 - 02.19.14 // MUSIC 21
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hard to come by in the music world. Special guest Butch Clancy tackles many different genres, making his name in the remix game. Be ready for a melting pot of sounds, from trance to trap, as you take a ride along the electronic music spectrum at this show. Old National Centre, 502 N. New Jersey St., 9 p.m., $25, all-ages BLUES Anni Piper Only for the Blues would someone like Anni Piper venture away from the warm February weather in Australia to make US clubs toasty with her brand of blues music. She is known in her home country as the “First Lady of Blues,” and she’ll be stopping by Indiana’s oldest bar on her winter tour. The best part? It’s $5 at the door and drinks are half-price on Thursdays. Slippery Noodle Inn, 372 S. Meridian St., 8:30 p.m., $5, 21+ CLASSICAL Jean-Yves Thibaudet with Bahia Orchestra Project He’s an insanely talented and wideranging concert pianist. But JeanYves Thibaudet also makes times for the kids, notably doing residencies at places like L.A.’s Colburn School. This time around, Thibaudet is the soloist on a program with the Youth Orchestra of Bahia, a group modeled after Venezuela’s famous “El Sistema,” which notably launched Los Angeles Philharmonic music director Gustavo Dudamel. Palladium at the Center for the Performing Arts, 355 City Center Dr., 7:30 p.m., prices vary, all-ages
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Choices abound at this Valentine’s celebration; first, pick your seating and room. Bill Lancton and Co. are in the main dining room and Everett Green’s inside the B-Side. You wouldn’t have to choose your menu though – the Kitchen is offering a prix fixe menu, which includes a champagne toast, gratuity and tax. Jazz Kitchen, 5377 N. College Ave., times vary, prices vary, 21+ VDAY Smiley’s Wheel of Men, 16 Candles In the Matriarchy, Smiley’s Wheel of Men is the ultimate misandrist toy. Spin the wheel, claim your manprize, take him home and put him to work. In real life: WZPL host Dave Smiley will once again strap eligible bachelors into a spinning man meat parade. On the wheel: Jason, the 25-year-old software engineer who
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Big Band Valentine’s Day A concert and dance with your favorite classic Valentine’s songs, including “Heart and Soul,” “My Funny Valentine,” “I’m in the Mood for Love,” and more.
Indianapolis Chamber Orchestra plays The Strong Man We’d argue that you really haven’t given silent film a fair shake until you’ve seen it in a theater with live accompaniment. The Indianapolis Chamber Orchestra annually collaborates with the Indianapolis Museum of Art on just such an endeavor. This time around ICO music director Kirk Trevor will lead his forces in accompanying The Strong Man, a 1926 film directed by Frank Capra (a bit before he settled into his sentimental style) and starring Harry Langdon, one of the era’s top comedians.
Athenaeum Theatre, 401 E. Michigan St., 7:30 p.m., price varies, all-ages
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Dinner and a Suit, Weeknight The Sun King Concert Series at DO317 is back once again with a little rock and a little pop. American rock band Dinner and a Suit is currently on its Where We Started tour supporting the new record, Since Our Departure. And, since their departure, the band has toured all kinds of venues in colleges and college towns. The dark pop duo known as Weeknight will join the performance as a special guest. SUBMITTED PHOTO
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Lockstep’s Farewell Show See Barfly for a look at Lockstep’s last show (Wayne is sad). They’ll play with Coolidge, Black Cat Mambo and Floating Caskets.
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LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): Making eye contact is essential for building potent links with people you care about. It bypasses rational thought, stimulating chemical reactions in your bodies that enhance empathy and intimacy. In practicing the art of love, it’s one of the most potent moves you can make. This Valentine season would be an excellent time for you Leos to explore the frontiers of what’s possible through prolonged eye contact. Start here: Cultivate a sincere desire to know what’s simmering inside the souls of your dearest allies. With that as your driving force, your gaze won’t be clouded by shyness or self-consciousness. Leo
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): “I prefer an ecstatic orgasm to a lot of angst,” says Filipino artist David Medalla. I hope you consider making that your battle cry during this Valentine season. It would be in rapt harmony with the current cosmic omens. There really is no need for you to get sidelined by anxiety or distracted by stress when the natural remedy is so easily available. In every way you can imagine, Virgo, fight off sourness and dourness by engaging in acts of joy and pleasure. Virgo
er / and still they sing wild songs in new keys,” she writes. What’s their secret? It’s “timing, chemistry, magic and will and luck.” What I wish for you this Valentine season, Libra, is that you will have access to all five of those ingredients as you reinvigorate your relationship to love. More importantly — based on the current cosmic omens — I predict you will have access to them.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Jesuit priest Pedro Arrupe
touted the practical value of being totally in love. “What you are in love with, what seizes your imagination, will affect everything,” he said. “It will decide what will get you out of bed in the mornings, how you spend your weekends, what you read, who you know, and what amazes you with joy and gratitude.” Are you in love, Scorpio? With either a person, a beloved animal, a certain patch of land, your creative work, or life itself? If not, there’s no excuse! Astrologically speaking, it’s an excellent time for you to be stupendously in love with someone or something — anything! If you are already in this state, trust your intuition to make it even smarter and finer. Scorpio
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Borrowing the words of
Rumi (translated by Coleman Barks), I’ve prepared a love note for you to use as your own. Give it to a person whose destiny needs to be woven more closely together with yours: “You are the sky my spirit circles in, the love inside love, the resurrection-place.” Would you like even more inspirational words to deliver to your chosen one? I hope so. Be greedy for lyrical bonding. Lust for springy intimacy. Feed your churning yearning. Try saying this, lifted from the book The Last Unicorn: “We are two sides of the same magic.” And be sure to say this, paraphrased from Buddhist teacher Thich Nhat Hanh: “I love you in a way that will always make you feel free.” Sagittarius
One Plus One,” Marge Piercy marvels at the way she and her long-term partner keep finding new nuances in their love-making. “Ten years of fitting our bodies togethLibra
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit,” says author Elizabeth Gilbert. “But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back ... They tear down your walls and smack you awake ... shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you ... transform your life.” Does that sound like the kind of person you want in your life, Capricorn? Or do you prefer someone who likes what you like, appreciates you just as you are, and makes your life more secure and comfortable? This Valentine season is a good time to make or renew your commitment to one choice or the other. Whatever you decide, you’re likely to experience it on a richer, deeper level during the next 12 months. Sagittarius
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Do you feel oppressed by Valentine’s Day? Maybe you’re single and reject the cultural bias that says being in an intimate relationship is the healthy norm. Or maybe you’re part of a couple but are allergic to the cartoonish caricatures of romance that bombard you during the Valentine marketing assault. If you’d rather consecrate love and intimacy in your own unique way, untainted by the stereotypes flying around, I invite you to rebel. Make this the year you overthrow the old ways and start a new tradition: Valentine’s Day 2.0. Mock sappy, sentimental expressions of romance even as you carry out futuristic experiments in radically slaphappy love. Aquarius
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): In her poem “Implications of
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): “I have come to be fasci-
nated with the messiness of desire,” writes novelist Ashley Warlick, “with the ways people fit themselves together, take themselves apart for each other, for want of each other, for want of some parts of each other.” Your assignment, Pisces, is to celebrate the messiness of desire; to not just grudgingly accept it as an inconvenience you’ve got to tolerate, but rather to marvel at it, be amused by it, and appreciate it for all the lessons it provides. Your motto this Valentine season could be, “I bless the messy largesse of my longing.” Pisces
Homework: Write yourself a nice long love letter. Send a copy to me if you like: FreeWillAstrology.com. Aries
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