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NLP Cause and Effect - “How do I get empowered?” Who is driving your car on your journey through life? People talk about a journey through life, donʼt they? Why would you want to feel empowered to drive your own car? Think about it. Have you ever been in a car with a backseat driver? Yes? Noooo, what a nightmare!! First of all you would want to be the one who decides when you set off on a new journey. Liken it to making decisions in life. You would want to be the one who decides when you decide wouldnʼt you? You wouldnʼt want to make a decision until you had finished considering all of your options, and when the time felt right to you. I for one would definitely like to decide how fast i go, wouldnʼt you? Wow, Iʼve been in the 85 mile per hour queue in the outside lane of the motorway, itʼs a scary place to be. If there is a shortcut then I want to be the one who decides whether or not I take it, and if we need to stop to refuel then i want to be in charge of what grade of fuel i put in, thank you very much. Itʼs your car, why would you let anyone else drive? Think of two positions A and B. I can spend time in A, and I can spend time in B. A is at cause and B is at effect. Which position do you think most people spend the majority of their time in? Thats right, they are mostly at B, effect. Effect is where it is always someone elseʼs fault. “I didnʼt get that job done because someone made me angry with what they said to me and then I wasnʼt in the the right frame of mind.” “I canʼt concentrate on getting this job done properly because the workmen are making too much noise....” These are just reasons!!! Excuses!!! How much better to be at cause. “Iʼve had a great day, I managed to get that job done despite someone trying to wind me up earlier. I brushed that off because I have more important things to use my energy up on than to be annoyed at someone.” “I am so proud of myself, I had a challenging day. I had to concentrate really hard since the workmen were making a racket. Once I had decided that I was going to concentrate on the job though, itʼs funny, the noise didnʼt bother me.” These are results. Empowering results. NLP Cause and Effect


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Looking back in the future, do you want to say, “if it wasnʼt for this or it wasnʼt for that then I could have made a lot more out of my life?” When you are on your deathbed, do you want to be looking back blaming other people for not having realised your potential? On which position do you think that most successful people spend their time? Yep. Position A..at cause... You have a choice... I was struggling with a new job once.....My boss said to me “successful people make things happen”. I thought about that a lot at the time and thought that he canʼt be right in the situation I am in because I do not have enough sales prospects to make a success of myself... I was sitting by the pool in Darwin Australia on the last week of my three week trip and I was considering my career back home in England. ʻBig time for me coming upʼ I am struggling in my current sales career. Should I leave my current company of should I stay with them? I decided “better the devil you know.” I thought, “I really need to take my life by the scruff of the neck, get my head down and work really hard for a while.” I decided that I was going to do as many sales appointments as I could, I told my boss that I was aiming for ten sales appointments per week. Bearing in mind that the top sales person in the company at the time was only completing five per week, my boss said that I couldnʼt do ten a week, it would kill me she said. I told her that I was going to do the ten anyway and see what happened. So, I worked hard for a few weeks. I did the appointments and as a result I got the sales. In fact I got lots of sales. By the end of the year I had averaged 7.5 sales appointments per week and I was the top sales person in the company. In fact I had a record year in terms of sales for the company. I had decided not to play the victim and to put myself at cause. Top mountaineers are at the extreme of cause and effect. They put themselves at cause in that if they succeed they can be recognised throughout the world as a top athlete and they can be pioneers in adventure. If they fail and they fall to their deaths then we can conclude that they were at effect. They put themselves in the position where they lost their footing, they were at effect since they lost concentration momentarily and that caused their foot to slip. At the moment that they lost concentration, they were at effect. That moment could have had a different conclusion if they had maintained their concentration and been at cause over the mountain. They could have decided to turn back and go down because they knew that they were getting tired and may start losing concentration, or they may have decided to turn back because the weather was looking bad. These are results, they are empowering themselves in an extreme way by taking responsibility for their future. Luckily for us it is not always as serious a situation as that. We get to make mistakes and have another go. Be at cause, keep the cause inside of you, make sure that you get results, empower yourself by taking responsibility for your future. NLP Cause and Effect


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Take responsibility for your feelings as well - how many times do we say, ʻhe/she made me feel....ʼ How can other people make you feel anything? Are you not in control of your own feelings?” You decide..”I am in charge or things happen to me and I am the victim.” I challenge you to experiment with being in charge and see what happens, listen to how you feel about the results that you get. Have you heard the phrase ʻyou get what you focus on?ʼ Itʼs true.. Focus on solutions not your perceived limitations..drive your own car and control your destiny. This is an extract from our NLP Training series. NLP Practitioner certification training with Excellence Assured

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