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THOUGHT A film fanatic mom holds her breath for her three-year-old daughter’s inaugural trip to the movies
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HEALTH & WELLNESS Dasha Wellness debuts a holistic fitness program just for kids; plus, the mommy-blogger chef behind Weelicious.com shares inspired ideas for deliciously simple school lunches
THE GRAM WITH THE GLAM An afternoon at The Plaza Hotel’s Eloise Suite with Betsey Johnson, her daughter Lulu and her two young granddaughters means tea, tulle and tons of fun
SWEET DREAMS An NYC baby planner brings an expectant couple’s dream nursery to life
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A SPECIAL PLACE Beloved children’s enrichment facility Gymtime Rhythm & Glues’ recent expansion means more room, more classes and more fun
ADULTS ONLY “O” Magazine writer, memoirist and funnywoman Lisa Kogan on the trials, tribulations and joys of single parenting in NYC
WELCOME TO THE FAMILY News from New York Family, including upcoming events, contests and giveaways, and other noteworthy happenings
A GOOD IDEA A whimsical new hair salon for kids on the Upper East Side, Carousel Cuts is a playful and relaxing haven for kids and moms alike
BUZZWORTHY The game of Battleship gets an upgrade; a great city resource for car seat safety; a new play-along DVD allows kids to explore the city without leaving the apartment, and more great ideas for September
TEN IDEAS Our monthly round-up of family-friendly fun in the city
IT’S MY PARTY Birthday fun with Mini Chef, Broadway Babies and Discovery Programs
106 OH, THE PLACES YOU’LL GO! An NYC family’s adventure in Rome; plus, kid-friendly ski resorts near and far
CULTURE CALENDAR The 25 magical, must-see cultural events to share with your kids this season; plus, an interview with the animation director of the new show “The Cat In The Hat” starring Martin Short
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THE COVER: Betsey Johnson with her daughter, Lulu, and granddaughter, Ella, in the Eloise Suite at the Plaza Hotel. Betsey and Lulu’s clothes by Betsey Johnson; Ella’s clothes by Ralph Lauren. Photographed by Thaddeus Harden (thaddeusharden.com).
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Speaking of Champagne... There have been two people featured on the cover of New York Family who have popped open a bottle of champagne after their photo shoot to celebrate our adventure together. The first was Geralyn Lucas, the Lifetime TV exec and breast cancer survivor who wrote the memoir, “Why I Wore Lipstick To My Mastectomy.” The other person, also a breast cancer survivor, was Betsey Johnson, the famed designer featured this month with her daughter, Lulu. There’s nothing like facing death to enhance one’s appreciation of life—and when you read our interview with Betsey I’m sure you’ll agree that this is a person who knows how to live. For all her outward flamboyance, Betsy comes off as a grounded mix of honest, creative, ambitious, fun, and caring, someone who gets as much joy from playing dress-up with her grandchildren as
she does playing it for keeps on the runway. Betsey and Lulu are our first mother-daughter cover interview. We need to do more of these! Lulu is every bit as dynamic and interesting as her mom, and reading their respective thoughts on life and work is a big treat. I wasn’t at the shoot myself, but the next round of champagne is on me. I wish I had a fitting segue that begins “Speaking of champagne…” but I don’t. What I have is a September issue chock-full of stories to help families gear up for fall and winter, including an overview of how a parent can most effectively contribute to their child’s school readiness and success, and a big juicy culture guide to promising family-minded museum shows, live performances, events and attractions. There is also a select but extensive list of cool classes for children from infant to tween, and an annotated list of
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family-friendly ski resorts for those who like Betsey Johnson to plan ahead. On Family, Fashion And I encourage Having The Most Fun Of Her Life our readers who are expectant and new parents to spend some time with our Dream Nursery feature. Jennifer Link of Sweet Pea Baby Planners guided a Manhattan couple through the registry process, and we then sent up a gorgeous model nursery based on their choices, and also called in the artist/muralist Sam Simon to top it off with one of his amazing creations. Check it out: their choices may inform your own. Now if only Betsey Johnson and Sam Simon would make over my apartment.
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more than 1000 schools and 63 countries worldwide, the IPC has garnered attention and accolades worldwide for its challenging and theme-based educational concept, proven to accelerate students’ abilities years ahead of their peers. Most excitingly, World Class Learning Academy will be the first New York City school to utilize this innovative method. The youngest children to attend World Class Learning Academy will be in a program called the Early Years (equivalent to nursery), designed for children ages 3-5. Full and half day programs will be offered. Elizabeth Jurgensen, Director of Learning, emphasizes that “the goal of this program is to lead children to be independent and motivated learners.” The IPC is introduced to children during the Early Years program. With daily opportunities for the children to discover, create and express their ideas, World Class Learning Academy hopes to foster a lasting zeal for learning in these young students. The IPC is a topic-based approach that allows the children to connect ideas across various disciplines. For example, with the topic of weather, children can learn science principles as well as math when discussing temperature, social studies while considering different types of clothing people might wear in different climates, and literacy skills and spelling when the children write a postcard from a hot or cold country. This approach not only broadens the scope of what chilwww.newyorkfamily.com
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dren can learn, but also encourages a centralized learning experience, allowing children to make profound connections between classes and subjects. The UK Early Years Learning Goals comprise six key areas: communication, language and literacy; mathematics; knowledge and understanding of the world; physical development; creative development (music and the arts); and, personal, social and emotional development. “In addition to these goals, World Class Learning Academy aims to develop the skills of healthy living, independence and interdependence,” Jurgensen says. “Children are capable of so much more than adults think. When given the space and tools, they can learn so much through exploration and communication.” Of course, it takes a talented instructor to be able to guide children through this innovative learning process, which is why World Class Learning Academy has devoted great time and energy in selecting the members of its teaching staff, all of whom have several years of experience at WCL schools around the US. “Our teachers are all fully qualified and highly experienced,” says Head of School John Taylor, a Durham, England native with over 17 years of experience in education. “It’s not about teachers directing the students; the goal is to lead children to be independent and motivated learners.” Sharon Cox—a Hampshire, England native who has spent the last eight years teaching at the British School of Chicago—is one of the teachers who will teach in the Early Years program. “Three-year-olds come in at very different levels—some know their sounds, some are ready to start reading, some are not,” Cox says. “So wherever they are, that’s where we begin, so we’re not repeating any information, there is always something new.” What’s more, Early Years teachers are also particularly attuned to the different styles in which children process information at this young age. “We tailor every lesson to all the ways children www.newyorkfamily.com
learn,” says Cox. “For example, I might be conducting a lesson and say to the class, ‘If you want to watch me do it, please sit here. If you want to hear me do it, please sit here. If you’d like to do it with me, please sit here.’” “We believe children all have different learning styles,” agrees Jurgensen. “Our primary philosophy is learning through play, and within that, there are child-initiated activities as well as more structured activities set out by the teacher. The idea is for the child to be inspired by what the teacher presents and take it from there,” says Jurgensen.
And because the teaching staff at World Class Learning Academy is attuned to working with children of all different learning styles and educational backgrounds, they look forward to welcoming a diverse group of children, says Taylor. “At this young age, children have so many different interests; there are so many things they want to explore. We want them to enjoy coming to school, and we’ll do our best to make it a place of enjoyment, learning and fun.” In a newly refurbished, state-ofthe-art school building in the East Village, children and parents will find a stimulating learning environment with indoor and outdoor facilities designed to foster learning and play. The nursery is on the first level, with an indoor gymnasium with bikes and climbing structures, and modern class-
rooms with interactive whiteboards and materials to foster 21st-century learning. The rooftop playground is another unique and modern space for the children to enjoy. What’s more, parents can be assured that students at the World Class Learning Academy will be well-cared for, and that each student will receive the attention and support that he or she requires; small classes will facilitate individualized learning, and the entire staff is CPR- and First Aid-certified. Both full days and half-days are available to cater to different children’s needs and capabilities. The administration is also eager to take learning outside the classroom and into what they consider to be one of their greatest resources—the city. As the arts are an area of great focus in WCL Group schools, the administration intends to use the city’s cultural landscape to foster creative study with frequent trips to museums, theaters and concert halls. “Creativity is so important,” says Jurgensen. “We want creativity to flow through every subject area that the children learn. These early years are the stage for future learning, and we provide an environment where the curriculum is accessible to the children, and they can grow into curious, independent learners with skills to last a lifetime.” Why should parents consider World Class Learning Academy for their children’s early education? “We have a pedigree and a history of success,” says Taylor. “We are a school that does not gamble with children’s education, and we know what we can deliver. If parents in the city are looking for this type of specialized education for their children, I believe they would do well to put their trust in us.” To learn more about the World Class Learning Academy, New York, visit wclacademy.org. September 2010 | New York Family
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THE CAT IN THE ZOO [All Ages]
The Bronx Zoo hosts a weekend of family fun in honor of PBS Kids’ new animated series, “The Cat In The Hat Knows A Lot About That,” which will teach children about natural science, featuring the voice of Martin Short. The weekend celebration will feature story time readings, screenings of the premiere episodes and a scavenger hunt in Astor Court. Kids will be given a handout outlining the day’s events upon entering the zoo; events take place from 11 a.m.- 4 p.m. throughout the weekend. 2300
Southern Boulevard, Bronx, 718-220-5155; bronxzoo.com. September 12
A LITTLE BIT COUNTRY [All ages] Country fun comes to Manhattan with “Summer on the Hudson: 8th Annual West Side Country Fair.” Bring your family to celebrate the seasons with music, carnival rides and games,
a petting zoo, greenmarket and square dancing! Families can also learn about the environment at the “Green Acre” environmental corner with interactive activities. 1p.m.-6 p.m. Riverside
Park South between 68th and 72nd and the Hudson, 212-408-0219; nycparks.org. September 16 - 26
LITTLE ITALY’S BIG FEAST [All ages] Head down to Little Italy for the “83rd Annual Feast of San Gennaro,” the longest-running religious outdoor festival in the U.S. This 11-day celebration of faith is known for its amazing parades and processions, arcade games, free live music and delicious food! On opening day (9/16) families can see the famous cannolieating competition, and catch the festival’s grand procession on Saturday (9/25), complete with colorful parade floats and marching bands. Little Italy, Opening Day begins at 2 p.m. at
Grand and Mott streets, 212-768-9320; sangennaro.org.
8th -9th September 19
PARK ROCK [All ages] Families can catch the final show of Carroll Park’s free concert series, which combines three of kids’ favorite things—music, crafts and delicious treats! On the 19th, kid-favorite singer Audra Rox will perform her new song, “Being Green,” as well as hits from her albums, “I Can Do It By Myself” and “Too Much Fun.” Concert starts at 4 p.m., shine only. Crafts and food for purchase from 3:30 p.m.-5:30 p.m. Carroll
Park at President Street and Smith Street in Carroll Gardens, Brooklyn; carrollparkbrooklyn.org/concerts. September 19
SWEET HARMONIES [All Ages] At the “Harmony On The Hudson” festival at Robert F. Wagner, Jr. Park, kids can enjoy lawn games, face painting and arts and crafts—like creating their own musical instruments from recycled materials—and choose from an array of delicious snacks. Families will also love watching performances from the 16-piece Harlem Renaissance Orchestra and Bash The Trash (a group that performs with unique instruments made from recycled materials) and the energetic jump roping team the Double Dutch Divas. 1 p.m.-6 p.m.; free. Robert F. Wagner, Jr. Park.
Battery Park, Lower Manhattan, bpcparks. org. September 20
HIGHFLYING FUN [All ages] Families can fly the friendly skies at the fifth annual “Fashion District Kite Flight” on the roof parking lot of the Port Authority! Enjoy kite flying, kite making, free music, food, games and crafts, plus performances from stilt-walkers, jugglers and more. Kids can also learn kiteflying techniques from experts and watch fantastic demonstrations. 1 p.m.- 4 p.m. Eighth
Avenue at 40th Street rooftop parking lot, Port Authority Bus Terminal, 7th Floor; Fashioncenter.com/ kites. September 25
GREEN DAY [Ages 3 and up] The whole family can play games and learn ways to go green at “Long Island Naturally,” the annual environmental fair hosted by Starflower Experiences, a not-for-profit educational orga-
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husking competitions, taste delicious fair food or dance to the sounds of Irish and German bands. The fair also offers hayrides, a petting zoo, carnival rides and more. From 11a.m.- 6 p.m. $7 for adults, $4 for children 12 and under. Queens
Farm Museum, Queens,718-347-3276; queensfarm.org.
Manor Farm, 210 Manor Road, Huntington, LI; Starflowerexperiences.org.
demonstrations and crafts, as well as educational exhibits and interactive booths from various environmental organizations and neighborhood groups. The festival takes place from11a.m.- 3 p.m. Alley Pond Park Nature Center & Trails,
nization. Kids can decorate cloth napkins, play games, paint pumpkins and enjoy live music, all for free! Environmental demonstrations will also take place throughout the day. 10 a.m.- 4 p.m.
Alley Pond Park, Queens; alleypond.com.
September 25 & 26
ONE WITH NATURE
BLUE RIBBON FUN
GOOD MUSIC FOR A GOOD CAUSE
[Ages 5 and up]
Get back to nature and celebrate National Estuaries Day at the annual Little Neck Bay Festival at Alley Pond in Queens. Sponsored by the Alley Pond Environmental Center, the event will include free canoe rides, games, hands-on
The Queens Farm Museum hosts the 28th annual Queens County Fair, where kids can try their luck in the amazing Maize Maze (an interactive cornfield adventure) and make their own scarecrows, participate in pie-eating and corn-
Your family can rock out to children’s music superstars and Nick Jr. favorite, The Laurie Berkner Band, for a great cause. Join them for a “Birthday Party” Concert-kids are invited to wear fun birthday hats and can even design their own birthday cake! Best of all, the concert will benefit Soles4Souls, a charity that provides shoes to those in need. Families can also bring along their own gently-used shoes to donate to the cause. Rock at 11a.m. or 3p.m. Tickets $25, $35 via Ticketmaster. Town Hall, 123 W. 43 Street; laurieberkner.com.
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LUNCHES TO LOVE Catherine Wheeler, founder of Weelicious.com, with her children.
s kids head back to school, it helps to have a few inspired lunch and snack ideas to incorporate into the weekday rotation. Here, California-based mom and home cook Catherine Wheeler, who offers up nutritious, kidfriendly recipes on her website, Weelicious.com, shares a few of her favorite lunchbox staples:
4. Add the pureed beans, cheese, carrot, salt, garlic and onion powder to cooked bulgur and mix thoroughly. 5. Form into patties. 6. Heat oil in a large saute pan over medium heat and cook the burgers for 3 minutes on each side. 7. Serve with bread, lettuce, tomato, ketchup, mustard, mayonnaise, and pickles. * Patties can be made ahead and frozen on a baking sheet for one hour and placed in a large zipper bag or individually wrapped and frozen. Defrost to cook.
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(Makes 4 Burgers or 8 Mini Burgers)
1/2 cup bulgur wheat 1 cup water 1 15 oz can pinto beans, rinsed and drained 1/2 cup Monterey Jack cheese, grated 1/2 cup carrots, grated 1/2 tsp salt 1/2 tsp garlic powder 1/2 tsp onion powder 1 tbsp oil
1 pint cherry tomatoes 1 tbsp olive oil 1 tsp fresh thyme, chopped or Âź tsp dried thyme 1 clove garlic, minced 1/2 tsp salt 1/3 cup kalamata olives, pitted and halved 8 oz farfalle (bowtie) pasta (about 1/2 a bag or box) 1/4 cup Parmesan cheese
1. Place the bulgur wheat and water in a pot. Bring to a boil, then reduce to a simmer and cover for 13 minutes. 2. After the bulgur has cooked, place in a bowl and let cool. 3. Place 1 can of rinsed and drained pinto beans in a food processor and puree.
1. Preheat oven to 400 degrees. 2. Toss the ďŹ rst 5 ingredients together on a sheet tray to coat the tomatoes. 3. Bake for 25 minutes or until tomatoes start to burst. 4. While the tomatoes are baking, cook the pasta in salted water according to the package directions. 5. Combine the tomatoes, pasta, olives and cheese and toss to combine.
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RASPBERR-WEE SAUCE (Makes 1 1/2 cups)
1 bag frozen raspberries (about 12 oz) 1/4 cup water 1 tbsp cornstarch 2 tbsp honey or Agave nectar 1. Add one bag of raspberries and 2 tbsp of honey (or agave) to a pot, stirring to combine and smashing raspberries with the back of a spoon. 2. Bring the mixture to a boil and then reduce to a simmer. 3. Whisk 1 tbsp of cornstarch and 1/4 cup of water in a separate bowl. 4. Add the cornstarch mixture to the raspberries and stir until the sauce thickens (about 2 minutes). 5. Cool and serve over plain Greek yogurt.
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Returning To Work After Maternity Leave? Here’s How To Set Yourself Up For A Smooth Transition
Back After H Baby eading back to work after maternity leave is one of the most difficult transitions in the life of a new mom. After all, in addition to the stresses of a full-time job, there’s the added adjustment that comes with having to leave your little one with a caregiver. For advice on making the transition from home to work as smooth as possible, we spoke to experts Mary Quigley, NYU professor and co-author of “Going Back to Work: A Survival Guide for Comeback Moms”; Ellen Galinsky, founder of the Family and Work Institute and author of “Mind in the Making: The Seven Essential Life Skills Every Child Needs” and Laura Deutsch, founder of babybites, a social and educational community for moms in the city.
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FEELING GUILTY IS NORMAL New mothers often feel like the only person who can take care of their child is them, which makes heading back to work a constant battle with their conscience. Experts maintain that the feeling is normal. “You’re going to have to realize that guilt is just standard operating procedure,” says Quigley. “You have to understand that leaving is normal,” says Galinsky. “Worrying about leaving is normal. There’s
very little that you can do to make it go away.” Both experts suggest that the best way to overcome that guilty feeling is by finding childcare that makes you feel safe, secure and comfortable. On the other hand, says Deutsch, moms she talks to often struggle with the fear that their baby will grow to “love the nanny more than them.” While this fear is common, it’s largely unfounded. “Nobody takes the place of the mommy,” Deutsch says.
ALLOW TIME TO TRANSITION INTO YOUR CHILDCARE ROUTINE Your baby will need time to acclimate to his or her nanny or daycare, and you need time to grow comfortable with the new routine as well. If you’re hiring a nanny, Deutsch recommends starting your search eight weeks before going back to work, and having a one- to two-week trial period. “You want to know your nanny,” Deutsch www.newyorkfamily.com
says. “You want her to be someone you trust and love by the time you have to leave your child with her.” Quigley advises moms to “try and establish a routine so [your child] knows what’s going to happen.” Plan to have your nanny arrive at a specified time, or drop your child off at daycare at the same time every day. Start building the routine before you have to head back to work. “Leave for a very short time at first, and then a longer time and then a longer time,” says Galinsky, who also recommends leaving “transitional objects”—familiar things that may smell like you—to help your child adjust. Finally, make sure that you and your caregiver discuss how the first day will go so there are no surprises.
MAKE A PLAN THAT WORKS FOR YOU If you know you’ll be returning to work after maternity leave, “do as much advanced planning as you can,” says Quigley. Discuss your maternity leave with your boss months in advance so that expectations are clear. Galinsky points out that because of the Family and Medical Leave Act, “there’s the allowance for what’s called ‘intermittent leave,’ and that’s designed to help you get some flexibility in easing back.” You can create flexibility by returning to work early and spreading out your leave, or by not vacationing during the months before the baby is born and using that time later as an extension to your leave. Most importantly, establish a routine that enables you to focus on work while at the office and focus on family at home. “Research says that kids don’t resent parents for working, they resent them for bringing work home with them,” Deutsch says. “When you come home, be ready to play and engage with [your baby] when you walk in the door.” Finally, don’t feel like you have to have everything figured out from the beginning—instead, Galinsky says, “Take it a day at a time.”
HAVE A BACK-UP PLAN “Things fall apart and that’s inevitable,” says Galinsky. There will be unforeseen circumstances—the nanny is sick, you have to work late—that require a back-up plan. “That’s when you may have a mother, mother-in-law, a sister or a friend who doesn’t want to be relied on for [regular] care, but is willing to say, ‘If you have a crisis, I will be there,’” says Quigley.
ACCEPT HELP “Your whole life has changed—you’re getting up at night and you’re working when you’re exhausted,” says Quigley. “Take any and all the help you can get.” Let your partner wake up with the baby, let a family member help you with laundry, allow friends to cook for you. If you need an hour alone to relax, take it. Talk to someone you trust about how you are adjusting. “You need someone you can turn to when you’re going crazy, who will listen and help you figure out what to do,” says Galinsky. Deutsch recommends joining a support group for working moms. “You want to be around other people who are going through what you are going through,” she says. “You need to take care of yourself.” G
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Thinking About Returning To Work After Being A Stay-At-Home Mom?
owadays more and more women are looking to re-enter the workforce after taking time off to stay home with their kids. These moms face a host of challenges, from explaining gaps in their resume to brushing up on advances in their industry to negotiating for salaries comparable to what they earned before. Here, experts share their tips for stay-at-home moms looking to return to work: Engage In “Smart Volunteering.” Balance your time at home with volunteer work outside of the home. Pamela Weinberg and Barri Waltcher, founders of Mind Your Own Business Moms (myobmoms.com), an organization (m dedicated to helping moms explore de their career possibilities, say that th when volunteering, moms should wh “be sure to focus on activities or “b participate in organizations that p would further your professional w interests and career aspirations.” in This will allow you to update your T rresume with relevant experience and examples of functional skill a development. Stay Current Technologically. Falling behind on technology will become a competitive barrier for your return to the workforce, particularly when it comes to social media tools like Facebook and LinkedIn. Use these tools to stay connected and expand your network. Use the Internet to ﬁnd the latest updates on your target industry—familiarizing yourself with sites like Crain’s New York Business can come in handy when networking or interviewing. Stay Connected. Stephanie Levey and Lisa Morse, founders of MomsWorkNY (momsworkny.blogspot. com), an organization focused on helping moms transition back to work, encourage women to network—no matter where they are. “Every meeting is an opportunity to network, from people in your ﬁeld of employment to playground interactions,” they say. Attend lectures and industry events, and join organizations for other women with similar career goals. Weinberg and Waltcher suggest printing up business cards and bringing them with you to networking events. Set Realistic Expectations. You might have to take a step back to go forward in your career. Take small steps and think long-term, accepting that the ﬁrst step may not be that “perfect” position. Keep an open mind and maintain a “can-do” attitude. More Resources For Moms. Check out the books “Going Back to Work: A Survival Guide for Comeback Moms” by Mary W. Quigley and Loretta E. Kaufman, and “Womenomics: Write Your Own Rules For Success” by Claire Shipman and Katty Kay. Organizations like Mind Your Own Business Moms (myobmoms.com) and MomsWorkNY (momsworkny.blogspot.com) offer local resources, advice and support. —Lanchi Venator
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f you’re exhausted from the seemingly endless array of “momoirs” written by women who seem to have it all together all the time, you’ll rejoice in the refreshing new book of memoirs from Lisa Kogan, the writer-at-large for “O, The Oprah Magazine”, entitled “Someone Will Be With You Shortly: Notes From A Perfectly Imperfect Life.” In her book, Kogan—a 49-year-old single mother who lives in New York City with 7-year-old daughter Julia—admits that she does not have it all together, and instead finds the humor and joy in the trials and tribulations of imperfect, though nevertheless wonderful, motherhood. Here, Kogan chats with us about the nature of the book, motherhood in the city, and how exactly she’ll deal with her daughter’s upcoming adolescence.
How did the book come about? It’s a collection of things that I’ve worked on for years at “O Magazine”. I wanted to do it for a long time, and one day I had lunch with an old friend who said, “You’ve got to learn to get in the way of chance.” And I thought, here I am with a platform, my Sirius radio show [“The O Magazine Show”] and column [“Lisa Kogan Tells All” at “O
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In Her New Book, “O Magazine’s” Writer-At-Large Lisa Kogan Takes On The Trials Of Single Parenting With The Wit, Poignancy And Resilience You’d Expect From An NYC Mom
Misadventures in Motherhood Magazine”]; why am I not taking advantage of it? Some of it was that there are only X number of hours in the day. Some of it was probably fear. I like to fly under the radar, but you’ve got to fly in the way of chance, so I decided to just sit down and do it.
always something to do with your kid. But things move fast here, things are tough here, and it’s very aggressive. And Manhattan comes with its own set of challenges; you aren’t really a parent until you can say the wheel has come off your stroller in the middle of rush hour on Lexington Avenue.
Your book is about living your life, not the perfect life. What’s being a single mother in New York really like? Nature isn’t stupid.
How do you balance work and family? What are the biggest challenges? Some days
Two people getting together to make a third person and take care of them is a pretty good plan. I find that the dirty little secret of being a single parent is that you don’t have to answer to anybody—you don’t have to explain why you put her in those clothes or why she can’t have an ice cream cone 26 minutes before dinner. And New York City is a double-edged sword. There are so many amazing things going on; there’s
I do it better than others. I think one of the keys for me was to say early on, “I can’t always be the good mother.” So there are going to be days when I have to be the good-enough mother. My rule is no matter what is going on through the day, I have to stop when I come home. When I come home, I’m all Julia’s. I’m not checking my email at work, I’m not on a cell phone, I don’t answer my house phone, I don’t www.newyorkfamily.com
Blackberry. When I come through the front door work stops, and my life with my daughter takes priority.
I also give myself permission to screw up once in a while. I talk about that in the book. We love our hardest and try our damndest, and at the end of the day we make our kids wear their coat over their Halloween costume and all hell breaks loose. Youâ€™re not going to get it right 100 percent of the time. Iâ€™m happy to shoot
A lot of parents forget to take care of themselves. In your book, at one point you mention that youâ€™re â€œdying for a make-over.â€? How do you make time for yourself? Itâ€™s really hard. Itâ€™s actually a big challenge for me. Maybe I donâ€™t do it quite enough. I remind myself that Iâ€™m modeling behavior. So if Iâ€™m eating a slice of pizza over the kitchen sink, I ask myself whatâ€™s the message Iâ€™m sending my daughter. So when I canâ€™t take care of myself for myself, I remind myself Iâ€™ve got to take care of myself because thereâ€™s a 7-year-old depending on me and watching me. That keeps me on the straight and narrow most of the time.
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How do you feel about sharing so much of your life with your readers in the book and in your column? I find that the more you give, the more you get back. I cut to the chase pretty quickly. I donâ€™t have time for a lot of small talk; I want to know whatâ€™s going on and what people are doing. The best way to do that is to let
them know whatâ€™s going on with me. There are corners that are private. But I have to force myself to say, â€œOk look, youâ€™ve got one long black chin hair and youâ€™ve named her Audrey. Just say it. People will get it.â€? And what you get is people stopping you on the street and saying, â€œIâ€™ve got one named Lucille!â€? Thatâ€™s how you build a community.
What do you hope mothers can take away from your book? I hope they have a good laugh. I hope they relate. And I hope they know that at the end of the day weâ€™re all in this together.
What do you hope your daughterâ€™s reaction will be when sheâ€™s old enough to read the book? Itâ€™s funny because right now Julia just assumes that everyone is in a book or in a magazine. I hope she looks at it the same way she looks at old photo albums. I hope she goes, â€œOh, yeah, I remember that.â€? Just as it says in my acknowledgement page, â€œIâ€™m her witness, sheâ€™s my mutineer.â€? I hope she knows how madly in love with her I am. G
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