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table of contents

Contents 2 Contents Page 4 Editorial Note 6 Valentine Day Special

Ten Romantic Things to do for Your Lover Top 10 Romantic Movies in the Recent Years Keeping Romance Alive as a Couple

12 Pregnancy

A Mom’s Journey through Post-Natal Depression Caesarean Section vs Virginal Birth

16 Your Baby Baby Can Eat!

What’s in a Name? Tips to Choosing Baby’s Names

20 Growing Up

Making Sense Out of Misbehavior Is Internet More Bad or Good for Kids

26 Wellness Snoring in Children Hole in the Heart

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34 Photogenic Baby Contest 36 For the Parent Conscious Connecting


editorial note Dear Parents, The month of cupid – February. The busiest time of the year for florists, restaurants and confectionary shops. The month for lovebirds to profess and display their affections whole-heartedly to one another. For those who have been married for many years, Valentine’s Day may seem just like any other day in your calendar. Why not make this Valentine’s Day a little more special? Touch is a very powerful tool. How can you rekindle your romance through a simple touch? In Conscious Connecting, Dr. Martha Lee explains the four essential types of touch and its benefits. Run out of sweet ideas to do for your loved one? Fret not. We came up with 10 Romantic things you can do for your lover, to reignite that passion when you and your spouse first met again! Can babies have heartaches? Perhaps not the kind of heartache adults experience, but some babies are actually born with a hole in their hearts. Dr Chan Kit Yee from SBCC Baby & Child Clinic tells us more about tells us more about the technicalities of this common condition in babies in the article Help, my baby has a hole in his heart. In other matters, did you know that babies can eat whole foods? Read on and find out more about this latest new weaning approach in Baby Can Eat! Have you ever told your child not to touch something for the 100th time and yet he still reaches out to touch it? Why is this so? Is he doing this on purpose? We answer some of these questions in My Child Just Doesn’t Get It! Making Sense of Misbehavior. Ending off, I would like to wish all the mummies and daddies out there a heartily sweet Valentine’s Day!

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Ten Romantic Things

Lover foR youR

by Leow Kaiwen


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Post-It Notes

Try leaving sweet little notes in hidden places all over the house so that your loved one will be reminded of your love for them whenever they open a shoe cabinet, fridge or dresser! You can even write something which is relevant to the hiding place, like “Thank you for always making me such yummy dinners” in the fridge. No fanciful words, no long stories, just a sincere sentence from the bottom of your heart.

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Breakfast in Bed

Yes, the weekends are really precious for all of you to catch up on our sleeping and peeling yourself off the bed early in the morning to prepare breakfast is really a huge challenge. But love is always a choice, if your partner knew that you specially woke up earlier just to prepare them a lovely breakfast, I’m sure the look on their face is more than enough as the reward for your hard work. You don’t have to whip up a full English breakfast if you don’t want to, just some toast, cereals and milk will do just fine.

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Planned Surprise Holiday!!!

Try planning for a surprise vacay all on your ownchoosing of location, booking of airtix, accommodation, taking leave off for your spouse if they’re working on their behalf, packing of the luggage, EVERYTHING! Preferably on a weekday, when they’re preparing for work, pull out the luggage, throw them their passport and say “Baby, we’re going for a HOLIDAY!!!” Now, THAT is something.

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Massage

A full body massage after a hard day of work something is the best way to convey “I Love You”. Best thing is, this can be easily done

so! No planning nor expenses required.

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Words of Assurance

Sometimes, after being together with someone for a long period of time, it is very normal for us to take the other party for granted. The things which they do for us as something that they should. But honestly, no one is obliged to do anything for anybody, isn’t it? Try telling your partner how much you appreciate them and remember to name exact activities

so they can feel recognized for their effort and hard work all this while!

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Hi dear, the household chores is all done!

Take a half-day off and help your partner to do finish the entire household chores that needs to be done! They will love it when they come back to a spick and span home with the groceries all stock up in the fridge.

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Memory Lane, one step at a time Do

you

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where you guys first met? The first meal or movie? Reminisce the little details about your own love story while being cuddled up in the comfort of your bed with a bottle of red wine by the bedside. Cheers.

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Sending a bouquet of flowers, just because.

Send a bouquet of flowers or any other gift which you think your partner will love, just because. No special occasions to celebrate, just to remind them of your love.

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Hugs from behind Hugs from behind, enough said. DO IT!

Late night dates

Remember those late night dates you have had when you were dating? Relive those days by having an impromptu date night out and just do whatever you want! Go to the beach and enjoy the breeze maybe? Or go to that quirky little café which you always wanted to try.

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Top 10 most romantics movies (in the recent years)

We have consolidate Top 10 romantic movies in recent years, (like from late 80s till now, yes this is our definition of recent) because we got to give the new ones a chance to prove their worth, right? We all know how good those oldies like Gone With The Wind, Breakfast at Tiffany's are, so lets watch something new this year round! by Leow Kaiwen showcases the relationship of the leads realistically, which is refreshing. See how Tom, who believes firmly in soul-mates, tried his best to woo Summer, who does not believe true love exists in this world.

The Notebook

(500) days of Summer "This isn't a love story. This is a story about love." A sentence from the trailer which I remembered most about the movie. Indeed, this isn't your a-typical romance movie. It

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I was crying like a baby at the end of the show. Crying because it is one of the best romance movies I've seen in recent years, crying at the sheer beauty of the story, crying at the courage shown between the both of them to make this relationship work despite the odds. This is the kind of movie whereby you watched it and you are going to remember it for a long long time.

Kate & Leopold One movie not to be missed! Not exactly a hit in Singapore but this is one of my personal favourite. Hugh Jackman, a duke who travels through time from New York 1876 to the present and falls in love with Meg Ryan, an ambitious career woman. Ladies, be charmed by Hugh Jackman's gentlemanly ways and Gentlemen, beware that after this movie your girlfriend/wife might be asking you why aren't you treating her the same way like he did to Meg Ryan.

Up Don't be deceived by the Pixar poster- a grumpy old man, a cherubic boy, a crazy looking bird and a house tied up with balloons. You'll think, what's so romantic about


Serendipity

that? Let me just say... very. This whole adventure begins because of the love of his life and his promise made to her. Along the way, snippets from the past will unfold and you can't help but to be touched by the beauty of their love for each other. Sometimes, the greatest adventure in your life may be by your side all along.

"If it's meant to be, it will be." A story of fate and love. Sometimes if you're meant to be, love will always find a way to come looking for you again.

When Harry met Sally Sometimes, you got to wait a couple of decades before realizing that this person whom you knew all along is The One. Sometimes, one got to make a few wrong turns, met a few wrong people in life, made a few wrong decisions, to grow from the lessons Life throw it to them before they are finally ready to be with their Special Someone.

I Am Sam A truly remarkable story of a father's love for his daughter. Watch how Sam, a mentally challenged man, goes against all odds in life to fight for the custody of his 7 year old daughter. Sometimes the greatest love of all is the unconditional love a parent will have for their children.

My Best Friend's Wedding It’s about how you realised you’re in love with your best friend all these years and you didn’t realised it/realised it but too proud

P.S I Love You

to admit it/in denial that you’re in love with him or her but when he/she suddenly called you and tell you that they’re getting married, it all became crystal clear. You’ve always been in love, you goon, with your best friend! Now go get your love back and hopefully you succeed.

Love never dies. It doesn't end. When the love of your life pass away and your pillar of strength and support is gone... when you think that you will never hear from him again... when you feel that all you that's left is yourself... help arrived. In the form of letters and tasks set by your loved one, helping you to pick yourself up, to grow and to become a better person even without him by your side. Indeed, true love never dies. Curl and snuggle up. Happy Valentine's Day!

Love & Other Drugs "Sometimes the things you want the most don't happen and what you least expect happens. I don't know - you meet thousands of people and none of them really touch you. And then you meet one person and your life is changed forever." A quote from the movie. Just how beautiful is this?

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Keeping the Romance Alive The New Age Parents: Tell us how long you’ve been married, and how many kids you have. Veronique A. Dawson, 34 : More than a decade with two kids, 14 and 9 Susan Lim, 37: 8 years and 3 children aged 7, 5 and 2. Xiu Yin Tan, 31: 3 years ,with a 10-month-oldbaby, and 9+ year old from a previous relationship TNAP: How would you describe your current marriage? XY: Loving and fulfilling. VA: I would describe my current marriage as a very intimate bond. SL: We are getting closer day by day. With children growing up, we have more time to relate and talk. We don't go on dates but we have couple time, especially when our children are asleep. Sometimes we talk till wee hours and we feel very enriched by each other.

Does marriage and the arrival of children spell doom for intimacy, passion and romance? Three women speak to Sarah Lee-Wong about how they strive to fuel the honeymoon passion in their marriage, and how other women can also do it. by Sarah Lee-wong

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TNAP: What are the most amazing moments in your marriage you wish to remember for life? XY:An amazing moment was when Ian proposed - because he took a while being the gentleman he is. Another is when Ian told me there was no difference between the excitement he felt knowing and watching Joshua grow and knowing and watching Caleb grow- because it showed his equal love for Joshua. He genuinely loves to Josh despite his being Ian's adopted son from my former relationship. SL: Over the years, we begin to quarrel


lesser and make up more readily after fights. That's amazing to me. Last year my hubby surprised me with an iPad for Valentine’s Day. I love surprises. It is not like him to spring surprises but I am glad he took an extra mile to do what I like. VG: The most amazing moments in our marriage have a lot to do with our kids. When they give us a surprise card, thank you notes, sometimes very long letters, those loving gestures make us feel really, really blessed. Also, their hugs. Children give the most amazing hugs. TNAP: Every marriage has its ups and downs. Could you share some of biggest challenges you have had to overcome as a couple, and how you overcame them? VA: In the early years, Michael and I lived at first with his parents, then my grandparents...depending on who was looking after our children. That was our biggest challenge. Getting along with in-laws, respecting them and yet struggling for our independence and need to make decisions regarding our children. How did we overcome that? We finally got our own place. SL: This would be how we pulled through sad episodes when I had two consecutive miscarriages. Our faith in our religion helped us to pull through this gloomy period. We were blessed with another child a year later. XY: I had a miscarriage during my first pregnancy with Ian. It was gutwrenching for me as I hadn't expected it at all. I plunged into a dark place

of grief and he was always there to edify me, to shine a light for me, to pray over me and to love me out of the pain despite his own sorrow. TNAP: What is something special you have done or do with your husband that has greatly impacted your relationship? VA: In December 2010, to celebrate 10 years of marriage, we went for Marriage Encounter. It's a stay-in weekend marriage retreat organised by the Catholic Church.We learnt this tool of "dialogue" where we each write our feelings

some valuable and practical tips with other women struggling with this? SL: Rank your priorities together with hubby e.g. Husband, children, cooking, housework, education. Eat together as a family as often as possible in a week. VA: I’m not sure if this is appropriate but Michael and I practise Natural Family Planning (Billings Ovulation Method). So since there is periodic abstinence, there is a feeling of being on a honeymoon every now and then. We fight, we don't hold back, we're honest, we speak our minds. The inten-

I write him love notes that I hide in his pants pockets and clothes when he travels. on any topic for 10 minutes and share what we've written with each other. We've learnt so much about each other from here. Allows us to be vulnerable... and grow closer. XY: We communicate in many ways as it is the key to having a good relationship. I write post-it notes to encourage him especially during trying times and paste them on the bathroom wall so he can see them. I also write him love notes that I hide in his pants pockets and clothes when he travels. If I have no time to hide them, I buy a notebook and write a letter, together with a prayer and an encouragement for each day, and secretly pack it into his bag.

tion is to be real with each other. We're best friends and lovers. We go on date nights, talk late into the night over the weekends... Date nights are so important! XY: As a Breastfeeding SAHM, it is very easy to just roll over and play dead after an exhausting day of baby caring, tutoring our older child and doing the housework. But I make sure I take the initiative to snuggle up the hubby as men are generally more physical in their love language than women. It is important not just to satisfy our emotional needs but, as crass as it sounds, it is important to also help our husbands satisfy their need for physical intimacy.

TNAP: With kids it can be so hard keeping the passion fresh between couples. Can u share

TNAP: Thank you ladies for sharing such intimate details with our readers.

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The journey through

pre-natal depression by Dorothea Chew

Anna Tan* was overjoyed when she first found out she was expecting a child, but her joy took a sudden turn for much unexpected grief and stress when she went through a period of depression. She shares with us what that journey was like for her, and what got her through it. On 30 Dec 2011, Anna gave birth to a healthy baby boy, and mother and son are doing fine now.

* Not her real name

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How did you find out you were expecting? The way most women find out – I missed my period. But before that, my husband and I had been trying for a child for some time. In February 2011, I had a miscarriage very early in the pregnancy, so this time round, I was naturally very apprehensive, and even took the pregnancy test three times to confirm that I was really expecting. Of course I was thrilled to confirm that


pregnancy

I was really pregnant! I was in the office at work at that time, so I immediately called my husband with the good news, and excitedly brought home the kit to show him. When did things start to change? Almost from the start, I couldn’t help worrying if this pregnancy would last or end abruptly, like my previous miscarriage. My excitement, which had been so intense at the start, began to wane in the 7th week, when I began to experience very strong symptoms of morning sickness. I was very nauseous most of the time, and threw up several times every day – even during the night, which severely disrupted my sleep and ability to function at work. I would break out in cold sweat and shiver. None of the medications prescribed by my gynae helped, except for stemetil. I was put on a hydration drip once, but that didn’t seem to be any good either. Eventually, mygynae gave me one month of hospital leave to rest at home. I felt like I was fighting a war, and was losing the battle to the nausea, with no way of defeating it. I hadn’t been able to eat properly, and felt lousy, ugly and sick most of the time. I began to wonder what I had gotten myself into… My husband and I paid a visit to our family doctor, who was very helpful and patient in explaining to us that a lot of the symptoms I was experiencing were due to the stress on my body because of the frequent throwing up. Finally, he told me that I was struggling with mild depression, aka prenatal blues. How did you manage to get better? I was given anti-depressants to combat my prenatal blues. That helped a lot. At the same time, I was taking stemetil and dimenate, prescribed by my gynae. My family doctor was very kind and encouraging to us. He would

sms me now and then to check on how I was doing, and to provide timely advice. All in all, my depression lasted for about five months, during which the people around me definitely made a huge difference in my recovery. My husband was always there with me, as long as he wasn’t at work. He assured me on a daily basis that he loved me, even through all the tears and throwing up. My mum and sister would drop by our place regularly to make sure I wasn’t alone, and texted me daily notes of encouragement too. Even at work, I was lucky. My boss and colleagues understood that I was going

My doctor did inforM Me that i Might be More susceptible to post-natal depression because of My prenatal blues. through a tough time, and gave me the space to be real with how I was dealing with the pregnancy. My cell group in church prayed for me daily the whole time I was in depression. Last but not least, I was blessed to have friends who would meet up with me, let me cry, didn’t judge my tears, and allowed me to pour out my fears to them. What would you like to share with other mums-to-be who might be in similar circumstances as you were then? If you think you have prenatal blues, do seek

help immediately from an experienced doctor or your gynae. Be brave to admit your struggle – it’s not something you need to be ashamed of or something you should be going through alone. I’ve learnt that it’s actually quite common for women to experience some form of prenatal blues during pregnancy, because your body is going through so many changes. Remember that by taking the time to care for yourself, you are also caring for the baby in you ☺ Moving on, what is life like now, as a new mother? Life as a mother I, quite honestly, tough. No one is born knowing how to manage a crying baby, to breastfeed or to withstand the lack of sleep that is part and parcel of the first few weeks/months. I’m still new to the journey, myself. My doctor did inform me that I might be more susceptible to post-natal depression because of my prenatal blues. And sure enough, I did experience some signs of depression those first few weeks after giving birth. However, I’ve learnt to allow myself to cry when I need to. I’ve opened myself up to talk to experienced mummy friends when I need help. With my husband, I’m open about my fears and struggles. And, very importantly, I’ve learnt to allow the people who care for us so much to help with caring for baby at times, so I can have a rest. At the end of the day, as I watch my beautiful son contented after a milk feed, or sleeping peacefully in his cot, I am moved to tears at the intensity of the journey we have roller-coasted through to get here to this moment. My heart is filled with love and gratitude for my precious son, my loving husband, and all who have been there for us along the way. In the end, I know it’s all been worth it.

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Caesarean seCtion vs Vaginal Birth by Dr CLauDine tan, obStetriCS anD gynaeCoLogy SpeCiaLiSt – SbCC women’S CLiniC at ang mo Kio


pregnancy

Since the beginning of time, vaginal birth was the only passage of life. Now with modern medical technology, we have a choice – the caesarean section. So is a caesarean section better than a vaginal birth, a natural process?

risk increases with each additional caesarean section. Pelvic floor dysfunction in itself is a complex condition and up till today, it is still unclear if damage is due to the pregnancy itself or from labour and subsequent vaginal delivery.

Vaginal birTh A natural vaginal birth provides many benefits for both mother and baby but it can be a traumatizing experience for some and contribute to problems in the future such as incontinence. A caesarean section prevents such problems but it creates some of its own and after all, it is major surgery. So how do you decide which is best for you?

Caesarean seCTion Planned caesarean sections avoid certain risks associated with a vaginal delivery. For women who are used to tight working schedules, this fits perfectly into their wellorganized lifestyle with no surprises. The due date is set, everything has been planned ahead and baby will arrive right on time to expectant parents. Furthermore, in certain conditions, such as a low lying placenta, this is the only mode of delivery. Mums who undergo a planned caesarean section also experience minimal pain during the delivery process and do not have problems of perineal tearing or have to deal with an episiotomy wound after the delivery. The risk of incontinence (urinary or fecal) or sexual dysfunction from pelvic floor damage is also minimized. Babies are at less risk of fetal distress from long hours of labour and if he is larger than expected, he won’t have the risk of injury from his passage through the birth canal or by assisted delivery with the forceps or vacuum. An elective caesarean section, which is one that has been scheduled, is safer than one done in an emergency. Having an emergency

caesarean section after long hours of labour may end up with complications such as uterine infection or if your baby’s head is deeply engaged in the pelvis and stuck, it would make the caesarean section more risky. On the other hand, even though complications from caesarean sections have decreased significantly in the past few decades, it still comes with certain risks for both mother and child. The mother may have complications

HAvINg A cAeSAreAN SecTION ALSO IMPAcTS ON FUTUre PregNANcIeS such as excessive blood loss, blood clots in the legs, longer hospitalization stay, infection and damage to internal organs. The site of incision can also pose a problem of not healing properly and requiring further surgery. Some women find that recovery is much slower compared to a vaginal birth due to postoperative pain and have problems in breastfeeding or carrying their child due to pain over the wound. Furthermore, having a caesarean section also impacts on future pregnancies. There is a small risk of rupture of the uterus at the previous scar and placenta problems and this

A vaginal delivery has been shown to provide benefits to the newborn. Labour triggers the release of certain substances that decreases the risk of persistent pulmonary hypertension, a condition in the neonate where the organs are deprived of oxygen. Infants born through the vaginal route are also less likely to have transient tachypnoea of the newborn, a breathing condition as the pressure of passing through the birth canal assists in squeezing any excess fluid from the lungs. Some studies have also shown that babies delivered vaginally to allergy-prone mums are less likely to develop food allergies, asthma or intolerance to cow’s milk. However, if the labour is prolonged, the baby might be distressed with lack of oxygen and the mother might end up with an emergency caesarean section. Another concern is that with prolonged labour, this will lead to pelvic floor damage, which can result in short-term urinary and fecal incontinence. Sexual dysfunction has also been a topic of interest but no studies have shown any long-term effects.

final deCision If you are still deliberating on which mode of delivery is the best for you, ask yourself the reasons behind your decision. Are you fully aware of the advantages and disadvantages of both a vaginal birth and a caesarean section? Are you aware of all the pain relief methods available during labour if it’s pain that you are afraid of ? Make a list of all the reasons or questions that you have about labour or the delivery & discuss this with your doctor.

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Baby

can eat by Sarah Lee-wong

Weaning a baby onto food is an exciting time in both child and parent. But depending on who you ask, you are likely to get various recommendations for how to introduce real food to your little one. Common weaning approaches include: � Traditional Asian soft-boiled, slowcooked method: Rice or grain is cooked with vegetables and meat till it is very soft � Pureed foods: Foods are often steamed and blended to a fine mush. Many commercial bottled baby food are created based on

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this approach. Chunkier pieces of food are sneaked into the foods in progression as baby ages. These two, time-tested methods are premised on a caregiver-led approach where babies are fed, and often, fed till the meal bowl is emptied. Lately, there is a new weaning approach that is slowly gaining parent fans. Babyled weaning, or commonly referred to as BLW, is an approach that is distinct from the former two mentioned methods. This

technique was founded by Gill Rapley, a healthcare professional from the UK, and she co-wrote a book with Tracy Murkett in 2008, Baby-led Weaning: Helping your Baby Love Good Food. So hoW iS BLW iS different froM the tWo earLier MethodS? � BLW advocates that babies handle all foods. Babies pick up the food themselves and feed themselves. Hence,


the term ‘baby-led weaning’. Through this interaction with their foods, babies are also actively exploring the textures, smells and tastes. There is no spoon feeding, and no adult to be putting foods into baby’s mouth. �Instead of watery gruel or mushy goo, a BLW baby’s first foods are often served up fresh out of the skins like fruit or cooked, and in babygrip friendly sizes like in wedges or chips. �By self-feeding, babies learn to chew their foods first before swallowing. In our rather traditional Asian society, BLW often draws the initial “Won’t the baby choke? Isn’t it going to be really messy? Will the baby eat enough?”a Rina New, mother to 10.5 month-old triplets, shares that she had turned to BLW as a desperate measure to try get them to eat. She had started them on the traditional puree, spoon-feeding approach but every meal soon turned into a struggle and they did not want to eat from the spoon. This was also what led second-time mom, Claudia Sim, to try BLW with her younger girl, Aly. “Aly hated all mushy food, rejected anything on a spoon and seemed to enjoy self feeding,” recalls Claudia. These BLW moms now enthuse about how well their children are eating chunky foods from the family table even before they turn one. “It’s always a great joy to see them having so much fun ! My eldest boy can now hold a whole apple n eat it himself, my youngest gal loves chewing on a corn cob while the other boy, who started eating solids the latest due to sensitive throat, can also chew and eat chunkier foods,” says Rina. However, the BLW journey has its own

challenges. Allowing a baby to explore the food also means mess, and cleaning it up can wear thin a caregiver’s patience. BLW moms also have to contend with the objections and criticisms of naysayers. Finding a lack of local resources for BLW led first-time mom, Elaine Cheah-Yeo, to start up a Facebook support group, BabyLed Weaning-BLW (https://www.facebook.com/groups/babyledweaningblw/). This FB support group has about 240 members who actively share recipes, meal ideas and tips. It also welcomes parents who are keen to find out more about BLW before they make the decision to try it. You can also watch videos of babies as young as 6 months attempting self-feeding. “I would recommend parents read up on the basics of BLW first and decide if they can deal with some paradigm mindset shifts and the mess before they carry on,” Elaine says, “Otherwise, I don’t see anything wrong with traditional puree weaning either. At the end of the day, at age 16, I am sure all kids, BLW weaned or otherwise, will be weaned well.”

BLW tipS & guideLineS (CaLL out Box) While parents are encouraged to have babies share family meals, the usual nutritional guidelines on balanced and healthy meals, salt, sugar and oil apply. Cut foods into wedges for easier handling by baby. Hard fruits like apples and pears can be introduced to young babies but only when given whole. Lay the floor with newspaper or plastic sheet for easier clean-up. BLW Support reSourCeS Local BLW support group https://www.facebook.com/#!/groups/ babyledweaningblw/ Baby Led Weaning by Gill Rapley www.rapleyweaning.com SoMe BLW favouriteS �Fresh fruit �Wholemeal toast fingers �Pasta �Homemade Chicken Nuggets �Oven-baked chicken drumlets

through thiS interaCtion With their foodS, BaBieS are aLSo aCtiveLy expLoring the textureS, SMeLLS and taSteS.

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What’s in a Name? by Dorothea Chew If you’re a dad or mum to-be, you’ve probably been spending a good deal of time scouring the bookshelves and internet for that special name for your little one. Especially if he or she is your first child! It depends a lot on how you look at it. Some of us choose names based on how we feel about them. For example, does the name “Rosabelle” make you feel all sugar and spice and princess-like? Or how about “Hector” – does it make you think of a grumpy, old man who bangs on the floor with his walking stick? Others of us choose names based on what they mean. It could be something related to our faith, such as “gift of God” or something especially meaningful to the parents. And then, some of us are just happy to leave the naming rights to our parents or in-laws to go figure out! Whichever category you fall into, here are a couple of practical suggestions for you to consider before you decide on the name that your child is going to go through life with: #1 What it meaNs is importaNt While a name’s meaning may not be your main criteria in choosing what you will call your child, it’s far from irrelevant. Even if it doesn’t matter too much to you, it might matter to your child down the road. And furthermore, if school teachers or friends pick up on the meaning, and it’s not a flattering one, your child is in for some rocky times at school. Not sure how to check? It’s simple: do a google search with the key words “meaning of name” and your desired name.

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tip: Check out more than one site for the meaning of your name. Sometimes different sites have slightly different variations of meaning for the same name. In general, the more sites have that meaning, the more likely that’s the real meaning for your name. #2 thiNk about What it caN meaN Little children can be pretty cruel at times. For that matter, even tactless adults can make fun of certain names too. Do consider the possible ways that people could mispronounce or misuse your child’s name as part of your selection process. For example, you wouldn’t want to call your child Zhen Dao Mei (chinese name that translates to “so unlucky”) Of course, as you’ll come to realize, there are many names which can be fodder for teasing, so you’ll just have to weight the likelihood of that with all the other factors why you like the name.

iNvolve your pareNts While you want to have the final say in what your son or daughter will be christened, it would be foolish to completely leave the grandparents out of the whole process. After all, you don’t want to choose a name that they absolutely detest (for whatever reason). As with all family discussions, some compromise might be mandatory. Do spend time sharing and discussing your options with your parents when possible. You might not agree with alltheir input or ideas, but it could be a valuable opportunity for family bonding, and you might be surprised #3

by some of the insights and suggestions they can offer! kNoW What’s iN at the momeNt With every generation of children, there are a few names that stand out as very popular for a certain period. Again, a simple google search for “popular baby names 2012” will do the work for you! That doesn’t mean you have to steer clear of those names, but at least you’ll be prepared that your son might be one Jayden or Asher out of three in his class. #4


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Making sense of misbehavior Ah the joys of parenting until your little one decides to keep touching the button on the TV and for the 1000th time you tell him or her no and s/he still doesn’t get it. by tammy Fontana Why is it? Is your little one doing this on purpose? The answer is usually no… this is a process of how children learn. Learning and child development are all tied to the brain’s growth. A child’s development represents an increase of complexity of the maturing brain systems that adaptively regulate the interaction between the child and their social environment. The brain grows from the “bottom up.” At birth, the brain stem is functional and then the other brain structures follow. It takes roughly 25 years to grow a human brain and 90% of brain growth occurs prenatally through age 4. The prefrontal cortex is what separates us from other mammals and helps us to make sense of our emotions. The prefrontal cortex is where all our advanced brain functions or executive functions such as problem solving, abstract thought, the ability to think forward and back and perspective taking are stored. The prefrontal cortex is what allows adults to understand that if I don’t eat I’ll get hungry or if I don’t study I’ll fail my exam. This are all very advanced brain functions that you won’t see in children independently until closer to age 12. So as you can guess this difference between an adult’s and young child’s brain

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functioning makes parenting more challenging. Too often parentsassume their child has the same brain capacity to understand and learn as an adult…as nice as this would be it’s unfortunately not true and leads some parents to great frustration because they are have age inappropriate expectations of their child. Children learn through experience and consistent repetitive behavior. There are over 5 different types of memory and most of these are not functional for a child under 5. Children cannot easily take information, stored in short term memory and transfer it into long term memory rapidly without many consistent repetitions. Hence the importance of parents consistent and positive behavior to securing a healthy pathway in a child ‘s brain on a new rule. This is also why young children do things “wrong” over and over because to the child, s/he is testing out every possible variation of a new-to-them situation to learn what the rule is- although this can be incredibly frustrating for the parent. Knowledge of child development is important for par-

ents so they do not take things personally, have age appropriate expectations and use positive not punitive corrections for children…it helps their learning. Parenting skills that incorporate child development can be exceptional helpful to teach parents age appropriate expectations and corrections. All in the Family counselling provides these types of services. Visit www.allinthefamilycounselling.com Tammy M. Fontana, MS, NCC 90307239


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Weighing The Odds:

is the internet More

good than Bad for our Kids?

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by eFFenDy ibrahim, internet SaFety aDvoCate & DireCtor, ConSumer buSineSS, aSia, SymanteC “With great power comes greater responsibility” and this saying applies to the impact the Internet has in our lives.In the two decades since the Internet was made public, we now have the ability to stay connected 24/7 and hold conversations instantaneously to people halfway across the world. All of this ‘power’ is held, quite literally, in the palm of our hands with the invention of mobile devices like smartphones, tablets and other connected devices. As our children are born into a world where information is easily within reach, we as parents have to make sure that while they enjoy this easy access to information,precautionary measures need to be in place and kids must be encouraged to be accountable for their actions online. For example, pop-ups on websites target anyone and everyone who visits that site,it won’t know or care if the person in front of the screen is an innocent fiveyear-oldand will, nonetheless, bombard users with pictures of scantily dressed people or trick users to click to ‘claim their prize’. Unfortunately, not all children are as aware as they should be of the dangers on the Internet and as parents,weneed to educate our children about the dangers that lurk online. The Internet is a playing field for cybercriminals and children are not only at risk of infecting their computers withviruses but also fromstrangers who try to befriend them online.

The Norton Online Family Report 2011foundthat 35 percent of children in Singapore have had achild or teenager that they don’t know try to add them as a friend on a social networking site. Children may think it is safe to chat with a stranger online as it’s behind a computer screen, but this could translate to real-world danger if private information is shared or if kids are lured into meeting with these strangers in person.Nonetheless, social networks are a good way for all of us to keep in touch with friends and family, as long as privacy settings are high and strangers aren’t accepted into the network. The vast reach of the Internet can be daunting and as parents it’s tempting, not to mention easier, to pose a ban on the use of the Internet. However, we should keep in mind that

there are ways to make the Internet a safer place.Aside from having comprehensive security software, like Norton Internet Security or Norton 360, and a parental monitoring tool like Norton Online Family in place to protect our online activities, having regular, open conversations with your children and their Internet use is also key to ensuring their safety.

parenting tipS Keen to know what your kids are up to online? Here’s a list to get you started: @ Do you really know everybody on your friends list? @ Do you ever get messages from strangers? How do you handle them? @ Do you know anyone who’s gone to meet someone offline they’d been talking to online? @ Are people in your group of friends ever mean to each other online or on phones? What do they say? Have they ever been mean to you? Would you tell me if they were? @ Sometimes children take nude or sexy photos and send them to others. Has that ever happened at your school?

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Snoring in Children WHy Do We neeD to Worry? by Dr Jenny tang, paeDiatriCian – SpeCiaL intereSt in paeDiatriC aSthma, Lung, SLeep & aLLergy


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What is Snoring? Snoring is the sound caused by vibration of soft tissues of the airway as a result of turbulent airflow due to increased airway resistance or obstruction.

How common is snoring in children? Approximately 30% of children snore, 10% have habitual snoring and 1 to 3% have sleep apnoea.

Who snores? Children with a family history of snoring, narrow airway structure, male gender, obesity, asthma, pharyngeal problems e.g. tonsillar hypertrophy, recurrent URTI, nasal obstruction and allergies are at risk of snoring. Muscle relaxants, and smoking (active or passive) increase the incidence of snoring. Snoring is also a cardinal symptom of sleep apnoea.

Why do we need to worry about snoring children? About one in five of habitual snorers may have undiagnosed sleep apnoea. This prevalence increases in high risk patients e.g. obese patients. Untreated sleep apnoea may result in developmental delay, impaired learning and memory, cognitive dysfunction, persistent bedwetting, behavioural and mood problems, impairment of growth, metabolic disease, hypertension and heart failure. Some of these consequences may not be completely reversible.

What is sleep apnoea? Sleep apnoea is a condition whereby there is intermittent obstruction or prolonged partial obstruction of the

airway resulting in disruption of gas exchange and thus reduced oxygen or raised carbon dioxide in the blood.

How do we know if a snoring child has sleep apnoea? Night time symptoms suggestive of sleep apnoea include habitual snoring often associated with snorting, gasping or choking in sleep, witnessed apnoeas, mouth breathing and restless sleep. Excessive daytime sleepiness, morning headaches, behaviour or mood disturbances may also be present. Children with habitual snoring and symptoms or consequences suggestive of sleep apnoea should be evaluated by a paediatrician with experience in treatment of sleep disorders. An overnight sleep study is usually required to confirm the diagnosis of sleep apnoea.

What is the natural history of primary snoring? In most children, primary snoring does not progress to sleep apnoea over the course of several years. About half may have resolution of the snoring. Consequences suffered as a result of untreated sleep apnea may persist even with resolution of disease over time. Children with persistent or progressive snoring with symptoms suggestive of or children previously treated for sleep apneoa with persistence or recurrence of symptoms should be re-evaluated for presence of sleep apnoea.

Is there any treatment for snoring or sleep apnoea? Adequate total sleep time appropriate for age, avoidance of smoking, optimal treatment of asthma, allergic rhinitis and nasal obstruction

if present and reduction in obesity helps to reduce snoring. Tonsillectomy +/- adenoidectomy and or nasal CPAP is the mainstay of therapy for sleep apnoea in children. Alternative surgical treatments, dental medical treatment may be indicated in selected cases. Dr Jenny Tang obtained her Bachelor of Medicine and Bachelor of Surgery from the National University of Singapore. She obtained her specialist qualifications of Master of Medicine in Paediatrics and membership to the Royal College of Physicians (United Kingdom) in 1995. She has also been conferred Fellowship by the Royal College of Paediatrics and Child Health and is a member of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. Prior to joining SBCC, Dr. Tang held the position of Deputy Head of the Department of Paediatric Medicine, Head and Senior Consultant of the Respiratory Medicine Service and Medical Director of the Sleep Disorders Centre, KK Women’s and Children’s Hospital. She was also Adjunct Associate Professor of Duke NUS Graduate Medical School Singapore and Senior Clinical Lecturer at the Yong Loo Lin School of Medicine, National University of Singapore. SBCC Baby & Child Clinic asthma, Lung, Sleep and allergy Centre 6 napier road #07-05 gleneagles Medical Centre Singapore 258499 Tel: 6475 0820

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hoLe in the heart

by Dr Chan Kit yee, paeDiatriCian SpeCiaL intereSt in CarDioLogy

Congenital Heart Disease Congenital heart disease (CHD) is the term used for any abnormality of the heart due to faulty development before birth. With an incidence of about 1% of live births, CHD is one of the most important and common congenital malformation and the leading cause of birthdefect related morbidity and mortality especially during infancy.Heart defects

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originate in the early weeks of pregnancy when the heart is forming. Not all cases of CHD take the form of “hole in the heart”. Practically any component of the normal heart can be abnormally formed.

What Causes CHD ? Most CHDs are due to a combination of genetic and environmental factors during pregnancy. Other causes that can account

for a small number of patients include rubella infection during pregnancy, genetic syndromes like Down’s anomaly (where half of the babies have CHDs), consumption of certain medications during pregnancy, and some rare genetic disease. Oftentimes, it is not possible to identify the specific cause. Heredity may play a role in some heart defects. A parent who has a CHD is


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slightly more likely than others to have a child with the problem (risk of about 1 in 30) and more than 1 child in a family can be born with a heart defect (risk of about 1 in 50). The news that your child has a CHD will probably make you anxious and worried about your child’s immediate and long-term health. Rest assured that most CHDs are simple, can get better on their own or eventually heal and themajority do not need treatment. Only a quarter of babies with CHD require some form of treatment in the first year of life.

What is “Hole in the Heart” ? A hole in the heart is a type of simple CHD which changes the normal flow of blood through the heart. Most babies are born with a single small hole. The normal heart has 2 sides, separated by an inner wall called the septum, and 2 upper chambers, the right (RA) & left atrium (LA) and 2 lower chambers, the right (RV) & left ventricle (LV).The right heart receives oxygen-poor blood from the body and pump it to the lungs. The left side of the heart receives oxygenrich blood from the lungs and pumps it to the body. The septum prevents mixing of blood between the two sides of the heart. The normal heart has 4 valves – mitral (between LA & LV), tricuspid (between RA & RV), pulmonary (outflow to lungs) and aortic valve (outflow to body). A hole in the septum between the heart’s upper chambers is called an atrial septal defect (ASD) and one in the septum between the heart’s 2 lower chambers is called a ventricular septal defect (VSD). An infant born with ASD or VSD may have a single hole, more than one hole or a combination of the two types. Other anomalies can co-exist such as

problems with the heart valves and blood vessels of the heart. ASDs and VSDs allow blood to pass from the left side of the heart to the right side, causing oxygen-rich blood to be pumped to the lungs a second time.

Atrial septal defect There are 4 types of ASDs – 1. Secundum defect situated in the middle of the atrial septum forms about 80% of this type of defect. At least half of all secundum ASDs close on their own, less likely if the defect is large. 2. Primum defect situated in the lower part of the atrial septum often occurs along with abnormalities in the heart valves that connect the upper and lower heart chambers. 3. Sinus venosus defect is situated in the upper part of the atrial septum, near where a large vein brings oxygen-poor blood from the upper body to the right atrium. 4. Coronary sinus defect is located within the coronary sinus, a structure where the heart veins drain into the RA. Primum, sinus venosus& coronary sinus defects are not common and do not close on their own. Many babies born with ASDs have no signs or symptoms. A heart murmur when present is the most common & maybe the only sign of an ASD. The hole can be small or large. Small defects do not affect the way the heart works and therefore do not need any special treatment. Many small ASDs close on their own as the heart grows during childhood. Medium to large ASDs are less likely to close on their own. Children with significant ASDs may not have any symptoms when they first present. However, the extra blood flow to the right side

of the heart can eventually damage the heart and lungs, causing heart failure, resulting in easy fatigue during exercise or activity, excessive sweating, shortness of breath and a build-up of blood and fluid in the lungs& peripheries. They can also be more prone to frequent respiratory infections. Over time, the right atrium can stretch and enlarge and lead to problems with the heart’s rhythm. Rarely, in adults, a blood clot formed on the right side of the heart can pass through an ASD to the left side and be pumped out to the body and travel to an artery in the brain, blocking blood flow through it and causing a stroke. A build-up of pressure (pulmonary artery hypertension) can also damage the arteries and cause scarring of the delicate blood vessels in the lungs. They thicken and become stiff, making it hard

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for blood to flow through them. These problems develop over years into adulthood and do not occur in children. They are also rare in adults because most ASDs either close on their own or are already repaired in early childhood.

toms. However, a moderate to large VSD often cause symptoms in infants and children such as heart failure, difficulty in feeding and poor growth. When left untreated for too long, rhythm complications and pulmonary artery hypertension can set in.

Ventricular septal defect

How is a hole in the heart diagnosed ?

VSDs are classified based on size of the defect, location and the number of defects. There are 4 main types of VSDs 1. Membranous VSDs located near the tricuspid valve. These can close with time by developing aflap of tissue (aneurysm) on the septum that growsover the defect. 2. Muscular VSDs located in the lower part of the septum are surrounded by muscle and most close on their own during early childhood. 3. Inlet VSDs located close to where blood enters the ventricles are less common. 4. Outlet VSDs found in the part of the ventricle where the blood leaves the heart is the rarest type of VSD and have very little chance of spontaneous closure. A VSD usually have a very distinct heart murmur and is usually the first and only sign of this defect. This is often present right after birth in many infants, but it may not be heard until the baby is 6 to 8 weeks old. In a VSD, oxygenated blood flow from the LV, where the pressures are higher, to the RV, where the pressures are lower. The mixed blood in the RV recirculates into the lungs. This means that the RV and LV are working harder, pumping a greater volume of blood than they normally would. VSDs can be small or large. A small VSD doesn’t cause problems and may often close on its own. Most new-borns who have VSDs do not have heart-related symp-

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Holes in the heart are usually diagnosed based on clinical signs from physical examination and special tests. The diagnosis can be made from presence of a heart murmur, rhythm irregularity, effort intolerance, failure to thrive, or incidental discovery of an abnormal ECG and CXR. They can also be detected during pregnancy from an abnormal fetal heart scan. In some, physical signs may not be apparent and the diagnosis may not made until later childhood or even adulthood. The electrocardiograph (ECG) detects and records electrical activity of the heart by showing how fast the heart is beating, whether the heart rhythm is steady or irregular and give an indication of any heart muscle stress. Chest X-ray shows the size & shape of the heart and whether the lungs have extra blood flow or fluid which can be a sign of heart failure. Confirmation of the structural defect is carried out by ultrasound examination which uses sound waves to create a moving picture of the heart. In echocardiography, a complete anatomical survey of the malformed heart is worked out from cross-sectional imaging. This allows the cardiologist to clearly examine any problem with the way the heart is formed or the way it’s working, and how the heart is reacting to these defects, and guiding whether and when treatment is needed. Cardiac catheterizationis carried out


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under general anaesthesia to provide additional information on special cardiac structures and provide information on oxygen content and blood pressure profile of the heart. A thin flexible tube or catheter is put into a vein in the groin and threaded into the heart. A radio-opaque substance (dye or contrast) that can be seen on X-rays is then injected through the catheter into a blood vessel or a chamber of the heart forming X-ray images of the heart structures. Rarely, computerized tomography and magnetic resonance imaging are performed for further diagnostic details.

How is a hole in the heart treated ? Many holes do not need treatment. More than half of ASDs &VSDs eventually close or get smaller. Management depends on the type, location, and size of the hole/s. Other factors include the age, weight and general health. Medications are given to help the heart work better when there is heart failure and heart rhythm abnormalities. The hole/s can be repaired by open heart bypass surgery or device closure via an interventional catheterization. Closure of medium to large ASDs are done by the time the child is 2 to 5 years of age. Trans-catheter closure of holes in the heart with septaloccludershave been available in Singapore since 1997. This method can be performed on most secundum ASDs and can also be done for certain types of VSDs. An umbrella-like device is folded up and pushed out of the catheter and positioned so that it plugs the hole between the atria. Within 6 months, normal tissue grows in and over the device. Catheter procedures are much easier than surgery because they in-

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volve only a needle puncture in the groin where the catheter is inserted. Recovery is faster and easier, with no scar. In the right candidates, closures are successful in 9 out of 10 patients, with no significant residual leakage. Some defects can increase the risk of a serious infection of the heart valves or the inner surfaces of the heart (infective endocarditis). Prevention of this by appropriate antibiotic prophylaxis is important before surgery or dental procedures that could allow bacteria to enter the blood stream and cause endocarditis.

Living with a hole in the heart Many children do not need any special care, active intervention or treatment except for regular checks with a cardiologist. There is no activity restrictions on those with small defects.The general rule is that babies and children should be treated as far as possible, as if they are normal. All the usual immunisations and vaccinations should be done and at the recommended scheduled time. The outlook for children

with ASDs and VSDs is excellent. Early and accurate diagnosis with advances in treatment and low risk of surgery mean that most children with these heart defects have normal, active and productive lives with no decrease in lifespan. Dr Chan KiT yee, Paediatrician Special Interest in Cardiology Dr Chan graduated from the National University of Singapore with a Bachelor of Medicine and Bachelor of Surgery degree in 1981 and obtained her Masters of Medicine (Paediatrics), Singapore, in 1986. She was a Consultant Paediatrician and Senior Lecturer with the Department of Paediatrics, National University Hospital, until 1993 when she joined SBCC Baby & Child Clinic and has been the resident paediatrician and paediatric cardiologist in its Mount Alvernia Centre for the past 7 years.


Congratulations to the Finalists of

tHe PHotogenIC BaBy ConteSt! FALISHA NADYA


photogenic baby contest

BeNjAMIN LUcA HALLer

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conscious connecting It’s February – the romantic month. Rather than getting caught up in buying lavish presents, which might actually mean little in the long run, how about going within yourselves and reconnecting with each other consciously? by Dr martha Lee

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t’s February – the romantic month. Rather than getting caught up in buying lavish presents, which might actually mean little in the long run, how about going within yourselves and reconnecting with each other consciously? How would you like to rekindle your romance through authentic touch? Through mindful touching, your flames of passion can burn once again this Valentine’s. There are four essential types of touching: gIvINg – In this touch, you are essentially delivering the kind of touch, which your partner likes based on their explicit request – to the right part of the body and how it should be done; including the grip and strength. This may be a back rub, shoulder massage, or body cradle. The giver’s intention is to be generous and to nurture the recipient. Givers can solicit feedback from the receiver, so they can improve their techniques.

receIvINg – Conversely the

other person is being given touch and actively receiving touch. The receiver’s role is to be open in experiencing pleasure through being touched. Expressions of pleasure, such as smiling and making noises, as well as gratitude to the giver, will reinforce that the touch is desirable and wanted. It is important the receiver learns to understand their own body’s responses. Receivers may give feedback to the giver so the touch can be even better next time.

ABSOrBINg – With this touch, the absorber is the one doing the

touching, while the one being touched is the allower. The absorber is focused on what he or she can feel through touching, rather than giving what the allower wants. There is still authentic consent while the absorber is activating the muscles of their body through for instance, the use of the back of the arm, wrist, hand, palm and fingertips. The absorber’s role is to enjoy the range of pleasure possible through the physical connection.

give the touch we like and to experience pleasure through the touches we enjoy giving our partners. In practising absorbing touching, we are nudged into remembering the joy of an exploratory touch.

ALLOWINg – The person being

TO cOMe ALIve: Absorbing and allowing touches allow us to feel more sensation in our bodies. When we feel more, and when we can also feel the pleasure of touching our partner, this is when the “magic” happens. Practising these four different types of touch will clarify how you relate with your partner. Conscious connecting will bring a new level of presence and sensuality to all your touches together. Go reach out and touch – today.

Benefits of Conscious touching TO ASK: We become fixed in giv-

Attend Conscious Connecting, a two-hour workshop for couples on Fri 17 Feb 2012. Eros Coaching is also running a Yin and Yang conference on 11 Feb, as well as a series of other workshops in February. For details, check out: www.eroscoaching.com/2011/12/ febulove-workshops.

touched is allowing to be touched by the absorber without judgment or evaluation. In surrendering, the allower can effectively “melt” into taking the touch right into his or her body, and essentially be able to attain an even deeper state of relaxation. This surrender may takes place not just physically, but also mentally.

ing the type of touch which we think our partner likes, wants, or had asked for before. We forget that needs, wants and desires can change. Sometimes, we ourselves, get caught up with what we are used to – and forget to ask.

TO receIve: One partner is usu-

ally more comfortable giving than receiving. Through deliberate practice, it is possible to become more comfortable with receiving and asking for what is a more pleasurable touch.

TO exPLOre: Absorbing re-

minds us that it is also important to

Dr. MarTha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching in Singapore. She is a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), as well as a certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists). She holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, as well as certificates in practical counselling, life coaching, and sex therapy. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com.

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editorial team

Group Editors: Elaine Lau, Michelle Ang Contributors: All in the Family Counselling, SBCC Baby and Child Clinic, Thomson Paediatric Centre (Novena Medical Centre), Sarah Wong, Leow Kaiwen, Eroscoaching, Dorothea Chew

Art & Design Art dirECtor: Elaine Lau

Marketing & Advertising businEss dEvElopmEnt mAnAGEr Jess Tee

Web Administration WEb dEvElopmEnt dirECtor Seow Poh Heng

If you wish to contribute to the magazine, we will love to hear from you. Do email us at mailbox@todaysmotherhood.com For advertising enquiries, email us at advertise@todaysmotherhood.com While every care is taken in the production of the magazine, the publisher, editor and its team assume no responsibility for any inaccuracies and omission, which might arise. Opinions by the contributors and advertisers are not necessarily those of the publisher and the editor. The articles in the magazine are for references only. If you have any queries on any health condition for you and your child, you should seek professional medical advice.

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