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Publisher’s Letter Summer Fun


amily vacations, friends and fresh food are just some of the things that make summer so much fun. This issue of Nesting is packed full of tips for staying connected with friends, spending time with family and enjoying your summer to the fullest. Local writer Melissa Stanton (author of The Stay-at-Home Survival Guide) talks about the importance of having “mom friends.” New mom (for the third time) Jenn Morson shows how the Nesting area’s consignment shops often have the best deals in town. If you’re considering a renovation anytime soon, professional organizer Terry Cooch provides sound advice for readying your


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nest, your “chicks” and yourself. And when you need a family dinner beyond your own the kitchen, check out junior writer Lucy O’Brien’s picks for eateries that serve up fresh, healthy food your crew will love. Lastly, a big thanks to everyone who entered our cover contest. There were so many great submissions it was hard to choose. Congratulations to our first winner, Jennifer Schuler, and her son Andrew, 22 months, from Brookeville, Maryland.

Kim O’Brien

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Nesting’s Guide to Renovating Your Nest

Being organized and prepared is key.

14 18 25 30

Consign Yourself

Save and make money by buying and selling at consignment shops.

Making “Mommy Friends” Why it’s so important to have fellow mom pals.

Nesting Support

Clubs and tips for moms, and more.

Feet on the Street

Enjoy these family-friendly eateries.



publisher Kim O’Brien

Creative Director Molly Zlokovitz Design Contributors Terry L. Cooch, Jenn Morson Melissa Stanton account executive Cassandra Alls, Erin Cassell Distribution Manager Kernan Bussiere editorial Consultant Cory Place Communications advertising Design Consultant Jennifer Goodman, JGoGraphics Published quarterly by Feather Publishing P.O. Box 613, Crownsville, MD 21302 Phone: 410.923.2310 E-mail: Website: The acceptance of advertising does not constitute an endorsement by Nesting of products or services. The publisher reserves the right to reject any advertisement or listing that is not in keeping with the policies or standards of this publication. Feather Publishing assumes no financial responsibility for errors in advertisements. All rights reserved. Reproduction of any part of Nesting by any means without permission is strictly prohibited.

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renovating Your

NEST By terry L. Cooch


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is your home is bursting at the seams? are you dreaming about your dream kitchen? do you wish your house had a master suite? renovating your home can be a satisfying way to improve your quality of life. as your renovation’s project manager (yes, that’s likely going to be you), the key to success is good planning. Here’s how to make sure you’re up to the challenge. Continued on the next page

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1. Know what you want Go ahead, create a wish list. Begin by writing down everything you want to achieve with your new space. • Make note of your physical wants: “I want more closet space. “I want more natural light. “I want a reading nook.” Add to this list as ideas develop. • List your emotional wants: “I want the space to feel cheerful.” “I want to inspire creativity.” “I want to encourage togetherness.” “I want a calming place.” • Collect ideas: Start a folder of magazine pictures, sketches, samples and brochures. Keep designs that you love or you would like to copy. Keep a camera and tape measure with you at all times. Walk through show rooms and model homes and take lots of pictures. Record anything that will


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help you communicate your ideas to a designer or contractor. 2. Determine A Realistic Budget (aka: The Las Vegas Scenario) Pretend you’re going to Las Vegas. You have a dollar amount you’re planning on spending, but then there’s the “I-can’t-bear-the-temptation” amount. There’s also the OMG (“Oh my God! What have I done!?”) amount. Examine this scenario when planning your budget. The temptation to do more than you planned is immense. There are some beautiful and expensive things out there. Know yourself and what you can afford, and plan accordingly. If your wants exceed your budget, talk to your contractor about other ways to reduce costs. You may be willing to give up recessed lighting in order to have hardwood floors, or there might be a great look-a-like that satisfies.

Consider Do-It-Yourself options when planning both budget and contracting. 3. If you pay peanuts, you get monkeys Shop diligently for contractors or designers. The cheapest price is tempting, but it’s not worth the savings if the project is done poorly or left unfinished. Do your homework. Ask friends and family for referrals and be certain they were happy with their results. Internet searches can provide plenty of business names, if necessary, but be sure to interview potential contractors and request a list of past customers. Call those people and verify their satisfaction. And make sure that whatever company you hire is insured and properly licensed by the state of Maryland. To check on a contractor’s license, visit the website of Maryland’s Department of Labor, Licensing and Regulation at and go to the “License Search” page. 4. Understand the process Know what to expect before construction begins. Ask your contractor for a complete explanation of starting time, daily and weekly goals, and how set-backs are handled. Reduce surprises and disappointments by requesting a thorough timetable that includes subcontractor information. For instance, first to arrive is the tear out guy, then the framer, then the electrician, then the plumber, etc. Also, learn the best way to communicate with your contractor. Is he quick to answer calls or texts, or does he prefer email at the end of the day? Avoid frustration by knowing his typical time frame for replies. Continued on the next page

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5. Schedule the project accordingly Once you have an understanding of what to expect, it’s important to plan the construction work around your family’s calendar and life. When possible, select a time that will keep stress to a minimum. • Will it be easier to renovate during the school year or will the disruption affect the kids’ success in school and other activities? • Will the change in routine interfere with your ability to get your children where they need to be? • The less demanding months of summer could be a good time for construction if your kids have a pool, camp or friends’ houses to go to. Or will the added noise be too much for everyone? • Do you want to avoid having the work coincide with holidays and vacations? Consider your own work and volunteer schedule. • What time of year can you most easily handle interruptions and added responsibilities? 6. Get ready, get set… GET ORGANIZED BEFORE YOU HIT GO Prepare your home for the disruptions. Your household can still run smoothly, if you make it a priority. • Set up staging areas where needed. If the enter/exit zone of your home will be inaccessible, create a new one. Relocate needed backpacks, coats and shoes. Keep your purse and other necessities in this new launching area. • If your kitchen will be unusable, salvage what you can of the old one and create a small work station in the family room. • If leisure or work areas will be disturbed, create a portable station

that can be set up on the kitchen table and then quickly removed when it’s time to dine. 7. Prepare yourself Acknowledge that, despite your great planning and hiring of the perfect contractor, the construction will be challenging. • Allow more time to do daily tasks and to get out the door in the morning. • Schedule a daily recovery time at the end of each day, making sure all temporary systems are in place for the next day. • Reduce your commitments, if possible, and eliminate all unnecessary appointments. • Simplify meals and rely on carry-out a little more than usual. • Be ready for the phone to ring more and the unexpected to happen.

Prepare your home for the disruptions. Your household can still run smoothly, if you make it a priority. • If possible, double your patience level with your spouse and children; remember that everything is harder for them too. • Here’s a tip: Reduce some stress by including in your budget the cost of extra meals out and a little pampering. You’ll deserve both. N Terry L. Cooch is a mother of six, professional organizer and owner of TLC Home Professional Organization Services. Her website is

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Shopping at consignment stores is good for your wallet, and the environment.

The Nesting area has several consignment stores where you can shop for – or sell – baby gear, children’s clothing, maternity wear, kitchen items, furniture and even building materials. By jenn Morson

greenberries Consignment in Columbia se maternity item lls upscale child s, and baby gear ren’s clothing, . The shop, ow typically carrie ne d by Rachel Bal s the latest in de iff (pictured), sirable baby eq such as Ergo B uipment, includ aby Carriers an ing new items d Moby Wraps and Greenberr . Customers ca ies even holds n register for gi classes in cloth Interested selle fts, diapering and rs should make ba by sign language an appointmen . the selling pric t. Consigners re e for clothing an ceive 40 percen (greenberries, 86 d t 50 of pe rc 40 guilford road ent for baby ge , Columbia, 410. ar. 290.6253, greenb erriescompany.c om.)

scale in Severna Park offers up savvy Consignments ternity ma as ll we ren and men, as clothing for women, child er ign des of ion a huge select items. Savvy also carries s. rve sca d an bags, belts accessories, such as hand , ore & annapolis Boulevard tim Bal 545 (savvy Consignment, .) com nt. me ign , savvycons severna Park, 410.647.1636

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One Petticoat Lane 2 Annapolis Street, Annapolis 410.541.6443

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children’s used maternity, baby and a reduction in clothing. (Volunteers get to the success the consignor fee.) Due d she-sale, a of Wee-Sale, Shear starte nt for ladies, seasonal consignment eve me items. juniors, maternity and ho Wee-Sale (For information about and and She-Sale, go to wee-s ger wee-Cycle Mart is a lar es in sal lds organization that ho sales last e Th es. several local counti and on ay, es nd sal t Su en from Friday through Two of the largest consignm is held nt nt ne eve ma st” per Saturday a “Momsfe in the Nesting area have no products l sel can rs during which vendo storefronts. vices ser ing per pam while offering free four years ago, ed. vid pro is e Created by Mimi Shear car to moms. Free child arly sales in rt is Ma e ycl e-C wee-sale holds twice-ye We mation about for (In all sm a r Fo n. sto .com.) Annapolis and Ea available at wee-cyclemart ir gently fee consignors can sell the


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At just over a year old, th e Backburner Kitchen Consignments shop in Annapolis offers customers the oppo rtunity to buy and consign gently or hardly used kitchen items. In add ition to carrying appliances, bak eware, cookware, dishes and oth er kitchen dÊcor, The Backburner sel ls aprons handmade by owner An nie Hillard’s mother. (The Backburn er Kitchen Consignments, 915 Bayri dge Avenue, Annapolis, 410.2 16.9124, backburnerconsignments.c om.) expensive Redecorating can be an es and ho ec undertaking, but at niture fur lis, po accents in Anna bank. the ak bre shopping needn’t each ls iva arr y With new inventor as, sof nd fi week, shoppers can ts and dining room sets, cabine People . ms ite unique decorative ure can nit fur n wanting to consig store the to s email photograph and es ho (Ec for consideration. und Ro in uap inq Accents, 224 Ch 00, .88 80 0.2 41 Road, Annapolis, .) om echoesandaccents.c second Chance in Baltim ore, which is run by a non-profit org anization that provides training an d workforce development, salvages an d then sells usable materials from dec onstructed buildings and homes. Se cond Chance offers a wide variety of fur niture, kitchen cabinetry, applia nces and antiques. (Second Ch ance, 1400 Warner Street, Ba ltimore, 410.385.1101, secondcha Freelance writer Jenn Morson lives in Crofton and recently gave birth to her third child. N

Making “Mommy Friends”

Some friends stay, others go, through no fault of yours or theirs. People and relationships just change with time, and they often change with motherhood. 18

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By Melissa stanton


y first-born child was five weeks old before I managed to get the two of us successfully out of the house on my own. I’d had a difficult cesarean recovery and the summer had been too hot to even want to go outdoors. At the time I lived in a very pedestrian-friendly town in New Jersey. So with my son in a stroller, I started on my way. As I walked, I remembered that a man with whom I had occasionally worked also had a new baby. I had met his wife in passing a few times and she seemed nice. Since they lived near me, I decided to take a chance and knock on her door. Karen answered while nursing her infant daughter. Before I could open my mouth to explain my presence, she exclaimed, “Thank God you’re here!” Like me, Karen was a first-time mom who spent her initial postpartum weeks overwhelmed and alone in her house with a newborn. Neither of us was ready for the isolation of being home with a baby. So we hung out at each other’s homes, we went on day trips, we hosted playgroups, and we took our babies to Mommy & Me classes — together. More than a decade later, Karen and I are still friends, despite now living 200 miles apart. We generally see each other once a year and we email quick messages when we can. As my friend Andrea observes, “A day can be a million times less stressful if you and a girlfriend spend a few hours chatting while policing your kids at the park or in your basement playroom.” And as one of my sisters-inlaw, a mother of three, confessed to me, “Without friends, I would be paying for expensive therapy.” The friends you have as a mom may or may not be the same friends you had Continued on the next page

“As a mom, you no longer get to see, as often, your old friends, and you’re having to choose friends from the people you see as a result of your child.” Continued from the previous page

before your child or children arrived. You might have had a baby before your girlfriends did. You and an old friend might have children of similar ages, but you quit your job and became a stayat-home mom while she hired a nanny and returned to the workforce. Or, the exact opposite occurred, and while you’re crazed by juggling responsibilities at home and in an office, your longtime pal is struggling with the isolation and exhaustion of being home alone all day with small children. Due to time constraints and very different schedules and realities, the friendship dims. The experience of becoming a mom is “not unlike going to college,”

says my friend Pat, a licensed clinical social worker who’s now home with two school-age children. “As a mom, you no longer get to see, as often, your old friends, and you’re having to choose friends from the people you see as a result of your child.” Pat’s advice: “Keep yourself open to the whole lot of them. You may find that the women you might not have opted to hang out with initially may in fact be the ones you remain friendly with for the long term.” It’s not uncommon for a firsttime mom to see every woman with a child the same age as hers as being her new best friend. (Even her BFF!) Continued on page 22

Places for Making Mom Friends Although mothers today can meet and spend time with one another via momand non-mom websites and blogs, it’s important to have some “live” friends and acquaintances in your circle of mom pals. If you don’t already know such women, you may need to be proactive about finding them. Mom friends can be made at… • Local mothers’ organizations and newcomer clubs • Childbirth or parenting classes • Parks, playgrounds and pools, sidewalks or malls while you push a baby in a stroller • Library and book store story times 20

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• Preschools and “Mother’s Morning Out” programs • Child-friendly attractions, activities and classes • Doctor’s office waiting rooms • Exercise classes • Events held at a child’s school or sports activity • Sales and vender parties. (You may not need a new lipstick or any kitchen gadgets, but attending a neighbor’s Avon or Pampered Chef party might land you a new pal.) • Social events you’re invited to. (Friends help friends make friends.)

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New motherhood is a stage of life that’s essentially like dating. But over time, the initial infatuation wears off, and you and your new pal either develop a friendship or you go your separate ways, and that’s fine. What’s important is that you engage, and that you have among your friends women who make you feel good, and who support you, and you them. While you shouldn’t isolate yourself within a cocoon of people who are exactly like you, neither should you endure the attitudes of, say, nursing moms who look down on you for bottlefeeding, nor should you stress about keeping up with a group of moms who are backed by financial and child care resources you just don’t have. As one veteran mom told me, “Friends are so important that choosing them wisely is vital. Don’t waste your time on ‘friends’ who are competitive or make you feel bad about yourself.” Don’t worry if a mom friendship lasts for only as long as the two of you have kids at the same pre-school. And don’t feel that you and the fellow new mom down the street need to become as close as sisters. As Kara, a mother of two advises, “Just because someone has kids and lives near you doesn’t mean you have to be friends.” (Friendly and courteous, yes. Best pals, maybe.) With every new friendship and acquaintance comes the potential for a lifelong pal — or not — but as you keep moving through the different stages of your life, you’ll be presented with new opportunities for making new friends. N


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Melissa Stanton is a mother of three and the author of The Stay-at-Home Survival Guide: Field-tested strategies for staying smart, sane, and connected while caring for your kids (Seal Press/Perseus Books).


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Nesting Support

Featured Mother’s Helper By Kim O’Brien

A Helpful Toy: “Kleynimals” Clean Key Animals Eli the Elephant, Gus the Giraffe and Leo the Lion are a trio of toy keys that will satisfy your teething child’s desire to gnaw on your metal keys. (Albeit without the sharp edges and grime of real keys.) Annapolis “momtrepreneur” Kirsten Chapman is the inventor and owner of Kleynimals — pronounced Clean-Ih-Mals — which she launched after noticing her own child’s fascination with metal car and house keys. Kleynimals are made of food-grade stainless steel and are non-

toxic and lead-, BPA-, phthalate- and cadmium-free. The key set can even be engraved with a child’s name. Another Continued on the next page

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good thing: To help with assembly, Kleynimals has teamed up with the local Providence Center, which provides work opportunities for adults with developmental disabilities. (Price: $24. Where to Buy: A Helpful Book: Only the Good Kids Get Broccoli If you’re the parent of a picky eater and struggle to get your child to eat vegetables, help is on the way. After more than 20 years running a day care center in Glen Burnie, author Ruthi Claytor has compiled some hilarious, sweet and inspiring stories about teaching children healthy eating habits. She also shares tips and recipes for busy parents and kids who want to spend time together in the kitchen. Only the Good Kids Get Broccoli is sure to get your child off of his or her mac and cheese diet. (Price: $24.95. Where to Buy: N Kim O’Brien is the publisher of Nesting.

Provide nesting support! do you belong to a club that’s fun and useful for local moms? if so, tell us about it in 150 words or less. Email nesting at submissions will be considered for publication as space allows and may be edited for clarity and length.

Groups & Clubs Annapolis AP Moms Group

For moms who practice attachment parenting (i.e. co-sleeping, breastfeeding, etc.) Email:

Annapolis Hip Mama Meetup Group


Anne Arundel Moms Group Phone: 410.551.2345

Chesapeake Moms Club

From the Bay Bridge to Centreville Website:

Columbia Area Mothers of Multiples

Serving moms in Howard and Carroll counties and the surrounding Baltimore metro area Location: Christ Episcopal Church, Columbia Website:

DC MetroMommies (Anne Arundel County Chapter) Phone: 410.867.6854, Email:

Isabel’s Gift NICU Support Group

Location: Anne Arundel Medical Center Contact: Kari Barcome, NICU social worker, 443.481.6114

MIS (Miscarriage, Infant Death and Stillbirth) Support Group St. Andrew’s United Methodist Church, Edgewater Contact: Ann O’Sullivan, R.N., 443.481.6114

MOMS Club of Annapolis

Website: Email:

MOMS Club of Pasadena, NW Phone: 410.863.1125 Website:

MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) of Severna Park Support for all moms of preschoolers. Phone: 410.544.5013 Website:

Professional Moms at Home (PMAH) Serving full- and part-time stay-at-home moms throughout Anne Arundel County Website:

Subsequent Pregnancy Support Group

Location: St. Andrew’s United Methodist Church, Edgewater Contact: Ann O’Sullivan, R.N., 443.481.6114

Parenting Resources AA County Birthing Circle

Meets the last Tuesday of the month. Baltimore-Washington Medical Center, Tate Center 1st floor conference room. Contact: Cheryl Gilman, 410-353-6834 Website:

Annapolis and Glen Burnie Family Support Center

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parenting and childbirth classes. Child care is offered for parents attending the programs. Phone: 410.269.4478

Better BedRest, Inc.

Advocacy, public awareness and volunteer driven non-profit providing support, resources and information to pregnant women who have been prescribed bedrest by their physicians or midwives Phone: 410.740.7662

Holistic Moms Network

Resource for holistic parents and individuals interested in becoming one Phone: 877.HOLMOMS Website:

International Cesarean Awareness Network (ICAN)

Non-profit working to improve maternal-child health by preventing unnecessary cesareans, providing support for cesarean recovery, and promoting Vaginal Birth After Cesarean (VBAC) Phone: 800.686.ICAN Website:

La Leche League

Serving Maryland, Delaware and the Washington D.C. metro area Website:

Milk Share-Breast Milk Donation Clearinghouse for parents to learn about milk donation and connect with other families Website: N

The Stay-at-Home Survival Guide Field-tested strategies for staying smart, sane, and connected while caring for your kids By Melissa Stanton Seal Press/Perseus Books

“Perfect for ... any mom who has felt she has the best job in the world, and the worst job in the world, all within a two-minute timeframe.” — “A terrific resource [with] plenty of practical advice.” — Washington Parent

Don’t Stay Home Without It!

Featured by the Associated Press, The Baltimore Sun, ABC News, and other media. Available at bookstores and on 28

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“The Stay-at-Home Survival Guide speaks volumes without being preachy, overtly tongue-in-cheek or feeding the ‘Mommy Wars’… There’s support throughout the book that is relative to all aspects of motherhood, whether you are a SAHM (stay-at-home mom), WAHM (work-at-home mom), or a mother re-entering the workforce.” — Mom Writer’s Literary Magazine

“Becoming a stay-at-home mother shifts your entire world, and Melissa Stanton gets it. This intelligent, sensible, hands-on guide will help at-home moms navigate the rocky waters of time, money, self-image, self-esteem, sex, friendship, and everything else.” — Ericka Lutz, author of On the Go With Baby

“Thanks to this book [stay-at-home moms] have somewhere to turn whenever [they’re] feeling a little lonely, under-appreciated, or overwhelmed.” —

Feet on the Street

Nesting’s column about fun stuff to do with kids, as recommended by a kid!

Eat Out for a family Treat By Lucy O’Brien

I love to eat! And I especially like to eat out with my family at fun restaurants. Here are some of my favorites. Boatyard Bar & Grill in Eastport has great food. The kids menu is reasonably priced and it has lots of choices, even for the pickiest eaters. I like the fish and chips and my brother loves the crab cakes. Boatyard is a fun restaurant if you like fishing, sailing and boating. It’s one of my mom and dad’s favorite places to


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take the family. Look closely at the pictures on the walls and menu. You might see someone you know. When First Lady Michelle Obama and daughter Sasha visited Annapolis they ate at the Boatyard and they loved it too! (400 4th Street Annapolis, 410.216.6206,

Grumps Café is right next to Quiet Waters Park in Bay Ridge, and it’s a great place to go after a bike ride through the park, taking your pooch to the dog park, or ice skating in winter. The decorations are cool and the waitresses wear their PJ bottoms as part of their uniform. And instead of getting a number when you order your food, you get a silly toy (like an alligator or rubber duck) that tells the waitress which table you’re sitting at. Grumps serves breakfast all day. I like “Chelsea’s Cheesy Eggs” and the quesadillas. Grumps has a kids story time with Sarah Bright every other Tuesday with singing and music, so the restaurtant isn’t grumpy at all. Everyone at Grumps is really friendly! (117 Hillsmere Drive, Annapolis, 410.267.0229, BB Bistro is in the West Annapolis shopping district. The restaurant has a funky décor and all the chairs and tables are different (as in they don’t match). BB Bistro has PBJ and other kid favorites on the menu. The restaurant serves breakfast and lunch until about 4:30. The food is very fresh and most of it comes from nearby. BB Bistro raises its own vegetables and gets its eggs from chickens at a local farm. You can even pick up a dozen eggs to take home. The people who work at BB Bistro are super kid friendly. Little kids get their own tables and chairs. Unfortunately, I don’t fit in the chairs now that I’m in third grade! (112a Annapolis Street, 410.990.4646, N Lucy O’Brien was assisted in writing this article by Nesting publisher Kim O’Brien (aka: her mom).

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