So now there are two things to think about: do I or do I not open up to her? and how can I solve her feelings, either way? Is your wife’s most constant complaint that you never open up to her? This is often heard by men who also hear they are passive aggressive . A quick way to get an idea about your ability to open up now is to think back to whether you could have open conversations, feelings of anger included, when you were a child. http://passiveaggressivetest.com