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Healing Emotional Abuse: Becoming A Happier, More Confident You

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For more information about healing emotional abuse, please visit this website: http://www.esnips.com/doc/90a5e9aa-e300-43dd-87e8c5a76db481a9/hea_happier.doc-2 Emotional abuse focuses on the need to exert power and control over the life of a partner or relative. ●

Emotional abuse follows a pattern; it is repeated and sustained. Without anything to stop it, abuse grows worse over time.

Emotional abuse is a serious problem that continues to linger and effect much longer than desirable.

Anger and trust problems can arise as a result of emotional abuse, while seeming to be symptoms of other conditions.


Like other forms of violence in relationships, the ones who are most often emotionally abused are also the ones who hold the least power in society, for example, women and children;

Emotional abuse can severely damage a person’s sense of selfworth and perception;

Emotional abuse can also affect a child’s social development and may result in an impaired ability to perceive, feel, understand and express emotions. Later on in life, a stunted capacity to feel empathy can turn a former victim into an abuser of others.

Usually, the victim thinks that healing emotional abuse requires them to make the abuser understand his/her point of view, believing that a misunderstanding is at the root of the problem. However, emotional abuse has deeper roots, including the complex mentality of the abuser and his ideas of a relationship. The abuser never changes just because the victim needs him/her to change, and the victim must realize this. We cannot begin healing emotional abuse without telling the abuser that we deserve respectful treatment and equal rights. Otherwise, we are accepting a toxic relationship with many dangers. Accepting an unhealthy relationship can lead to weak or non-existent ideas of security and support. There are many situations when an abuser will not cooperate, which makes it hard to find a solution. Thus, it’s important to stop participating in an emotionally abusive relationship. This means leaving behind the victim mentality in favor of working on self-esteem issues, in order to strengthen interactions and relations with your peers. Healing emotional abuse cannot start until this happens. Some elements of this transformation are to: ●

Become aware. The journey starts with you accepting your situation.

Avoid self-deception: give up the hope that he will change.

Learn as much as you can about emotional abuse.


There are assertive techniques you can learn for confronting an abuser.

Use community resources as help in planning a better future.

Seek help and share your case with others who can provide different solutions. Whenever you need to, pursue a professional case.

These tips promote self-esteem and happiness, the primary tools needed to start healing emotional abuse. Nora Femenia, Ph.D is passionate about supporting women’s recovery from emotional abuse once and for all. Nora has created a powerful set of tools for helping women break out of the mind-set that keeps them in a toxic relationship by first discovering unconscious beliefs and family blueprints. To know more about her latest book “Recovering From Emotionally Abusive Relationships” please visit Healing Emotional Abuse


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