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Healing Emotional Abuse by Overcoming Your Childhood

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For more information about healing emotional abuse, please visit this website: http://www.esnips.com/doc/5f2a92ff-6ee4-4352-8fb7e86dc058186a/hea_childhood.doc-2 If you want to start healing emotional abuse, you may want to start with your childhood. Emotional abuse and the reactions to it are often learned in childhood. Emotional abuse of children can result in serious emotional and behavioral problems, including depression, lack of attachment, low cognitive ability, and poor social skills – all things that affect adult life and especially adult relationships. Some studies suggest that children who were emotionally abused are found to grow up into angry and uncooperative adults, lacking in creativity and enthusiasm.


Modeling is especially important here, because the child may either imitate violent behavior, or learn that being abused is normal. Once gained, these roles are very hard to unlearn, and set the tone and model of behavior for their adult relationships. Angry and violent verbal abuse will always have long-term negative effects on not only a woman's self-esteem, but her mental and physical health. Witnessing or experiencing emotional abuse in the household would have taught her how to react to abuse. If you want to heal from emotional abuse, recognizing and learning how to reverse this behavior is extremely important. Emotional abuse can result in serious physical and mental issues for the victim, including digestion problems, bone and muscle conditions, frequent migraines, and severe depression/anxiety. In healing emotional abuse we need to bear in mind the following: ●

Become aware of your situation, call abuse as abuse and stop accepting his “tough love”.

Realize that change will only arrive if you're really working for it. Nobody is going to rescue you if you don't want to be.

Gather information about abuse and what it looks like from books and websites.

Learn from books, websites, professionals, and your own experiences to determine why abuse starts and how to avoid it.

Your community probably has resources to help you accept and overcome your abusive relationship.

When in doubt, find your best resource: a professional adviser educated in abusive relationships.

Where does healing emotional abuse begin? In order to live a happy and peaceful life, we need to learn ways to achieve and meet our needs and goals in an ethical and healthy manner; we need to receive sound affection, we need to be accepted and respected for who we are, we need to be able to meet our basic needs (material, emotional, spiritual, professional, etc.), we need to feel we can reach our goals in life successfully, and achieve every task we carry on (study, work, career, etc.) without feeling threatened by others. In order to move forward after emotional abuse, grown adults must first confront and accept their own childhood abuse. In other words, it is hard to


know where you’re going if you haven’t come to terms with where you’ve been. Nora Femenia, Ph.D is passionate about supporting women’s recovery from emotional abuse once and for all. Nora has created a powerful set of tools for helping women break out of the mind-set that keeps them in a toxic relationship by first discovering unconscious beliefs and family blueprints. To know more about her latest book “Recovering From Emotionally Abusive Relationships” please visit Healing Emotional Abuse


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