ly. Mothers do so much and I do what most moms do just not the sensitive side. I do try. But its just not who I am and they do have their mother still too.
you need or expect and he said sometimes you may have to do this or that and we agreed on it. Even what church we go too which is Bethel World Outreach in Brentwood, TN. They have things for them Zephanie: What are you thoughts on their biologi- like a group adolescence program and when they become teenagers they have that for them too. cal mother? It’s a lose interpretation because she's not responsi- Zephanie: Sounds like you have a spiritual foundation that you would like to have for the kids. Is that ble for them. Sometimes we may have to beg for also undergoing in your marriage as well? the little she does. Natasha: Oh yeah, we did six weeks of marZephanie: How does that make you feel for the riage counseling through Bethel. girls knowing their biological mother is lacking in the typical standard of a mother? Natasha: Of course, everyone was angry about it. Regardless, I always try to view her positive aspects but I say look despite how you may feel of her. She is still their mother at least give them what she does right. I don't react like "Oh Finally", when she does something. I say " Oh, that's good", because honestly she could be worst. As, I said before though their grandparents and so many other people in the family give them the nurturing side they need. Zephanie: So, it really does take a village? Natasha: Yes, ma'am it absolutely does and I've told my husband and his family that I would not be here if it wasn't for them "the village". I feel they need that nurturing part and I can not provide it. I couldn't come in knowing they would not get that kind of support. Zephanie: How did you communicate with your husband to have common ground on how you would rise them together? Natasha: I was very specific about organizing who will do what and when with them. Like doing their hair maybe taking them to a salon, giving them chores to do because their were none at first, who's going to pick them up from school. I asked what do
Zephanie: Tell me some key concerns you had before you came into marriage with an established family. Natasha: The main things were not measuring up to what the expectations are. Judgment from others because someone always had something to say about someone else's kids. Especially ones who don't have any or someone not in my situation. Naturally when you have children of your own there is a undeniable bond if its not your naturally one its harder to create it. In my case, their older I didn't see them through that baby phase. It's difficult to make that bond, but it takes time and its getting better and better.
Zephanie: How old are the girls? Micha is 11 years old, and Angela is 8 years old. Zephanie: What are you looking forward too with the girls? Natasha: Seeing Micha and Angela how they are going to develop. What it will look like when they get older. Being respectable women and not doing what everyone else is doing. Every now and then they will mess up, but just setting themselves apart and stand out on their own. I want to see how that happens.