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5 Ways to Teach Kids Music 10 Steps to Raising

Nonviolent Boys

The Beauty of Babywearing DO NO HARM

One Mother’s Story

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features Is Your Body Too Acidic? 8 My Mama, my Amma, & Me 55 Shoes at the Door 52 Forever Fitness 68 Quiet Your Soul 66 I am There 74

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cover photo Photo Credit: Jessika Bailey Kiddo: Everett Location: Uinta Mtns, UT

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Contents on the cover 10 Steps to Raising Nonviolent Boys 12 Natural Hospital Birth 18 Do No Harm 28 5 Ways to Teach Kids Music 37 The Beauty of Babywearing 40

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Letter from the Editor 4 Letters to the Editor 6 Editor’s Picks 10 Safety 16 Read Up 24 Make it Yourself 34 Natural Kitchen 56 News Worthy 72 natural mother magazine | summer 2013

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Overwhelmed with Gratitude A Letter from the Editor

Starting a magazine has been a long time dream of mine. And like most, I had no idea where to start, how to begin, what to do. Dreams cannot become reality without action, and a lot of it! I knew there was a demand for a magazine for parents who tend to do things more naturally, who are not supported by mainstream misinformation. A magazine with real people, real pictures, inspiration, everything well-researched in the natural scheme of parenting & health. My dream has been met with more support than I could have

imagined. My inboxes are flooded daily with thank yous, notes of encouragement, words of support. And although I simply do not have time to respond to every one, I hold these emails very close to my heart. When I am struggling, I pull strength from your words. This issue of the magazine is dedicated to my husband who has spent countless hours in the evenings and on the weekends doing housework, getting the kids out of the house, and making dinner. The list of things he has done is never-ending. He knows how important it is for us to be with our children, and he makes sure that one of us is present. I am overwhelmed with gratitude as I sit to type this letter. I could not possibly name all of those who have helped this dream become a reality. I can only simply say “thank you.� With every ounce of my being, and from the depths of my heart, I made this dream come true for me & for all of you.

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I contemplated what to write here to serve as a sort of introduction. But I find myself overcome simply with gratitude. The outpouring of support from my family, husband and friends has been overwhelming. I am not certain their support is of this magazine, but rather, of me and my dream of creating this publication from the ground up in less than 6 months. It has been a whirlwind. I am often so tired I can’t see straight, but more often I am just grateful. The opportunity we have to give back in some small way exists for each and every one of us. We all have something we have dreamed of doing, and I can tell you without a doubt, that the only thing standing between you and your dreams is YOU. Even after I decided to go for it, I had many days of self doubt, days I didn’t know what I was thinking. Instead of listening to those quiet self doubts, I stayed determined and motivated to succeed. It wasn’t easy, it isn’t like me to follow through on big, big things. And this

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Letters to the Editor

Send your letters to naturalmothermagazine@gmail.com “To the mom who’s breastfeeding: Way to go! It really is an amazing gift to give your baby, for any amount of time that you can manage! You’re a good mom. To the mom who’s formula feeding: Isn’t science amazing? To think there was a time when a baby with a mother who couldn’t produce enough would suffer, but now? Better living through chemistry! You’re a good mom. To the cloth diapering mom: Fluffy bums are the cutest, and so friendly on the bank account. You’re a good mom. To the disposable diapering mom: Damn those things hold a lot, and it’s excellent to not worry about leakage and laundry! You’re a good mom. To the mom who stays home: I can imagine it isn’t easy doing what you do, but to spend those precious years with your babies must be amazing. You’re a good mom.

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To the mom who works: It’s wonderful that you’re sticking to your career, you’re a positive role model for your children in so many ways, it’s fantastic. You’re a good mom.

To the mom who had to feed her kids from the drive thru all week because you’re too worn out to cook or go grocery shopping: You’re feeding your kids, and hey, I bet they aren’t complaining! Sometimes sanity can indeed be found in a red box with a big yellow M on it. You’re a good mom. To the mom who gave her kids a homecooked breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the past week: Excellent! Good nutrition is important, and they’re learning to enjoy healthy foods at an early age, a boon for the rest of their lives. You’re a good mom. To the mom with the kids who are sitting quietly and using their manners in the fancy restaurant: Kudos, it takes a lot to maintain order with children in a place where they can’t run around. You’re a good mom. To the mom with the toddler having a meltdown in the cereal aisle: they always seem to pick the most embarrassing places to lose their minds don’t they? We’ve all been through it. You’re a good mom. To the moms who judge other moms for ANY of the above? Glass houses, friend. Glass houses.” ~ Samantha Horn Mommy Molecules & Parenting Particles

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Your Health

Is Your Body too acidic? by Jamie Wolf

I remember as a child visiting my grand-

monster juice handful of kale handful of spinach half an avocado 1 C. coconut milk 1 apple, seeded 1 banana a few ice cubes Place all ingredients into a blender and blend until ice is crushed. 8

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mother’s house almost every weekend and asking for “green” juice long before it ever became popular. Little did I know that grandma was following her instincts and probably the wisdom of her own mother, by providing me with a wide variety of foods that helped make my body more alkaline. Celery, spinach, and parsley were just a few of the greens that I can remember her using. Fast forward twenty-five years, and now I am giving “monster,” a.k.a. “green” juice to my little ones. In my business, in which I train and educate women about fitness, nutrition is a subject that is always being brought to my attention. After recommending my “monster” juice concoctions to many other fellow moms looking for a healthy and quick way to get greens in their children, I started to do a little research on how to reduce inflammation within the body. That is when I first stumbled across pH balances in food as well as acidic versus alkaline. Discovering that different foods were more of one or the


other, it quickly became apparent that the human body functions best at a more alkaline level. Let me break it down in a brief chemistry lesson. Expressed as pH, which ranges from 0 to 14. A pH of 7 is neutral and the lower the level, the more acidic a substance is. Conversely, the higher the pH, the greater the alkalinity will be. Research has proven that the human body best functions at a pH level above a 7. This means that there is a greater level of alkalinity, which allows more oxygen to be absorbed by the blood. How and why does this matter? With the diminished capacity of our blood to absorb oxygen also comes a myriad of health conditions and diseases such as heart disorders, cancer and diabetes. To naturally raise your pH levels to that of the alkaline range, you want to consume the following: raw and leafy greens, wheatgrass, herbs and spices. Foods that are in the high acidic range are those foods derived from animals. These include meat, dairy products, as well as all processed and

man-made foods. It seems that our grandmothers and their grandmothers were early advocates of what we now know is an “alkaline rich� diet. They were led by instinct or better yet, common sense. It is as simple today as it was back then – eat what nature grows, not what man creates. It is only then that we can give our bodies the chance to naturally fight off the offenders and invaders barraging us. I guess grandma did know best! Jamie Wolf is a runner, whole foodie, writer, entrepreneur and mom of three, in no particular order. She is the owner of The J Wolf Group, a strategic marketing boutique. Visit her at jamie-wolf.com. Trying to find time to ignite her blog, you can also check out her progress over at: www.fitforamom. wordpress.com natural mother magazine | summer 2013

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Saving Our Sons

A 10 Step Plan to Keeping Them Non-Violent By Ted Zeff, Ph.D.

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Increased violence by young males is spinning out of control. Since the 1999 Columbine shooting, there have been 31 school shootings in the U.S. Violence and violent images permeate our society. Boys are constantly bombarded with the false information that real boys must always be strong, aggressive, tough, in control, and repress their feelings. Boys are continually saturated with this distorted version of manhood from television and movies, video games, the internet, peers, coaches, and other adults. In the last 15 years, the violent video games and movies children have been exposed to have become more graphic than ever. And now the ubiquitous internet allows our boys to be brainwashed constantly with horrific, savage images of what a man is supposed to be like. One study showed that children in America between the ages of 5 and 18 have watched 20,000 murders and 100,000 acts of violence on television. And violent media does spur real-life aggression. Research has consistently shown that after watching violent movies, children interact in an aggressive manner, while after watching movies about kindness, children treat one another with gentleness and compassion. natural mother magazine | summer 2013

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With these 10 steps, you can help combat the culture of violence and raise a nonviolent son: 1. Don’t tolerate someone shaming your son. Never tolerate anyone shaming your son when he expresses gentle, compassionate behavior. Help your son understand the causes for society’s negativity toward gentleness in males and talk with your son about all of the positive aspects of being a compassionate boy. 2. Encourage nonviolent games and safety. Monitor your son’s exposure to violence as much as possible and provide nonviolent games and activities. Encourage your son to hang out with friends who enjoy less-violent games. Frequently discuss the harmful effects that exposure to violence can have on him. Create safety for your son when he engages in potentially dangerous activities, i.e. establish rules for fair fighting when play wrestling and sword fighting with friends.

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3. Give him a pet. Taking care of a pet not only teaches a boy responsibility, but through cuddling a kitten, for example, he will learn about the sanctity of all life. Caring for a pet will make him less

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likely to mistreat an animal. 4. Have him meet new people. Have your son interact with people of different faiths, nationalities, and races, to learn the commonality of humanity. 5. Embrace beauty. Expose your son to the arts and increase your son’s respect for Mother Nature by visiting an Credit: Candace Roper orchard, orPhoto nursery, spending time at a lake, river, or the ocean, or gardening. 6. Talk about what “being a man” means. For dads, talk often with your boy about what it really means to be a man. Reassure him that he doesn’t need the approval of aggressive boys, star athletes, or the alpha male to feel good about himself. Let your son know that it’s okay for him to express fear and sadness and ask for help. Discuss with your son the detrimental consequences of violent males being so frequently extolled in the media. Read books or watch movies with your son about the lives of great spiritual men, i.e. Jesus, St. Francis, Moses, the Buddha, and discuss how they have created peace on Earth through righteous behavior. 7. Defend him. Make sure you always defend your boy if others shame him


when he expresses his feelings. Teach your son how to respond to aggressive children by role-playing with him. Model setting limits with others so that your son will learn how to set boundaries with violent peers. Let your son know that it’s okay to set personal boundaries with others rather than going along with peer pressure. 8. Increase his compassionate nature. To increase your son’s compassionate nature, it would be good to do activities with your son that help people, animals, and the environment, such as planting trees or cleaning up trash in your community. Volunteer to help out in a hospital, nursing home, or animal shelter. If you have carpentry skills, you and your son could help a neighbor, friend, or relative fix up their house or your own house. 9. Try to make his school more boy-friendly. Since boys learn differently from girls, encourage your son’s teacher to incorporate more movement during instruction and take physical breaks between subjects, incorporating active learning games and more outdoor learning. Creating goals and using games will create motivation. Assemble a team of at least three parents of boys to meet with your son’s teacher and/or princi-

pal (or your PTA) to discuss how to make your son’s class more boy-friendly. 10. Create a class constitution. Encourage your son’s teacher to create a class constitution with the help of the students, detailing how they should treat one another, and ask the teacher and students to sign it. Suggest that your son’s teacher give rewards to students for kindness and good sportsmanship. Ask your son’s teachers to read and discuss exciting tales that promote noble and brave qualities of heroes who help others. You and your son’s teacher should let him know that everyone has different abilities and interests and that those differences need to be respected. It’s tough raising an emotionally healthy, respectful and compassionate boy in a cruel culture that glorifies violence. But by listening to your son, showing him unconditional love and support, and giving him permission to express all his feelings, you can help him transcend the distorted and damaging view of manhood. And by doing so, he will grow into a happy, confident and thoughtful man. Ted Zeff, Ph.D. is the author of Raise an Emotionally Healthy Boy: Save Your Son from the Violent Boy Culture. natural mother magazine | summer 2013

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Summer Safety Summer time brings a new set of safety concerns to all mothers. Bike riding, swimming, camping, fireworks. It is by far my favorite time of the year. But it doesn’t come without concern. Here we will touch on some basic safety measures and actions we should all take into consideration during this season.

WATER SAFETY Summer is almost synonymous with water. And water activites can be one of the most dangerous parts about summer. • Always keep an eye on children. Do not turn your back for even a second. Especially where curious toddlers are concerned. Make sure your children understand the dangers inherent to playing near water. Children who are not yet able to swim should never be near a pool or lake without CLOSE adult supervision. All children, regardless of age should not play near rivers. Often children who fall into rivers are not found for lengthy periods of time. At that point there is no guessing the outcome. • When boating all children should be wearing flotation devices that are approved for boating. Don’t skip on the life vest for yourself. No one ever 16

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plans on boating accidents, but they happen frequently.

• When wading pools are not in use, empty them. Young children can drown in less than 2” of water. And we all know it takes less than two seconds for the kids to escape to the backyard. • If your kids don’t know how to swim, enroll them in swimming lessons as soon as possible. This doesn’t get you, the parent, out of having to supervise them near water, but definitely increases their chance of survival. • Get trained in infant and child CPR which are different from adult CPR techniques. The American Red Cross offers great classes that include basic first aid skills as well. It is much easier to stay calm during a crisis if you have some training. • Use a water proof sunscreen and apply it often. Be sure to apply it about 20 minutes BEFORE getting wet.

SUN & HEAT SAFETY • Learn the signs of dehydration, heat exhaustion and heat stroke & the proper treatment of each.


• Provide plenty of drinking water. A good rule of thumb is half your body weight in ounces per day. This does not take into consideration activity level, sweating or heat. Try doubling that for exacerbating circumstances. • Wear a hat, sunglasses and apply sunscreen often. Or better yet, seek shade during the hottest part of the day. This is usually between 1 p.m. and 5 p.m. in most areas. • Avoid sunscreens which contain Retinyl palmitate or retinyl-A. Federal studies have shown it can speed the growth of skin lesions and skin tumors (cancer) when exposed to sunlight. Yet it is still present in almost 25% of all sunscreens.

BIKE RIDING SAFETY • Require your children always wear a biking helmet when riding. This includes bikes, scooters, tricycles and skateboards, anything with wheels. It doesn’t take much speed to cause a severe head injury. Be certain the helmets fit well and are inspected for wear and tear often. A helmet with a broken buckle will not serve its purpose in an accident.

biking to communicate with motorists and other bicyclist around them. You can find the hand signals at: www.kidzworld.com • Dress your kids in bright clothing when they are going out riding. This makes them easier to see for everyone. • Do not allow headphones while bike riding. This prevents the cyclist from hearing what is going on around them, even a car blaring its horn won’t be heard, let alone a car starting up and backing out of a driveway.

summer safety car kit Keep a bag with the following items in your car so you are prepared for whatever fun may come your way. • Sunscreen • sun hats • bathing suits & towels • first aid kit, stocked • extra water • snacks • extra pair of shoes • sun umbrella • picnic blanket • bug spray

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Hospital 3 s e c r e t s t o a N a t u ra l

bir t h by CynthiaGabriel

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Most women in the United States and Canada say that their ideal birth is

a natural hospital birth. The stark reality is that only about one percent of these women achieve a birth free from the major medical interventions: Cesarean surgery, epidural analgesia, augmentation or induction with a pharmaceutical drug, episiotomy, artificial rupture of the membranes, and/ or constant fetal monitoriting (including internal fetal monitoring). Although each of these interventions has an important place in helping some women, we know that most of the time these interventions are not necessary or life-saving. Instead, they are being done for convenience, routine, and to avoid lawsuits. As a doula, I have paid attention to what works for those women who do achieve natural hospital births. Some simple steps make a big difference. Here are some secrets from women who have achieved natural hospital births.

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1. Bring certainty that they WANT a natural hospital birth.

“The truth is that the presence of a doula is the single best technique to avoid a cesarean section.”

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Women do not need to bring certainty that they can labor without an epidural, but they need to bring a deep desire to do so. What first-time mother knows without a doubt that she can handle the pain of labor? None that I know of! Especially in a first-time labor, we are facing the unknown and it makes sense that we are scared and doubtful. In fact, overconfidence is a problem! Nurses are understandably wary of first-time mothers who are “sure” that they can do it. A bit of humility about the unknown ahead and openness to coaching is an attitude more likely to win supporters among the nurses. What we can bring to labor, even to a first labor, is a strong desire to give birth under our own power. You can keep reminding yourself and the hospital staff that this is your goal. You can request their support of your goal. Whenever an intervention is suggested, you (or better yet, your primary support person) can say, “Please help us achieve a natural birth.” This is a good way to deflect interventions without getting into a medical argument.

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2. Hire a doula, even if you are broke. Most women who give birth with a doula agree with Kary Young of Ithaca, New York: “It’s so much easier with a doula. Why wouldn’t every woman hire one?” But if you are first-time mother or a mother who has not previously hired a doula, you may not understand all the hoopla about inviting another person to witness you naked and in pain. You and your partner may worry that a doula will take over your partner’s support role. And you may also feel that you do not have the money for this “luxury.” The truth is that the presence of a doula is the single best technique to avoid a cesarean section. If you think about all the expenses associated with surgical recovery (more prepared meals, medicines, and a higher likelihood that you’ll need professional support to breastfeed), a doula’s fee can easily pay for itself! Around the Internet, you can read thousands of testimonials about how doulas support partners, not just mothers in labor. Many partners need in-the-moment coaching to figure out how to help a laboring mother. Yes, many partners attend classes and learn about back pressure,


massage, the importance of changing positions and drinking water, but how many partners actually remember those tips in the heat of the moment? Before you rule out this option, meet (for free, usually) with at least two doulas and see if you (and your partner) feel some peace of mind in her presence.

3. Have a plan for avoiding an induction if they go past their due date or if their water breaks before contractions begin. Between Weeks 30-35 of pregnancy, you should develop a plan for what you will do if you go past your due date or if your water breaks before contractions begin. These are the two most common reasons that women get induced. Although there are many other reasons that lead to unnecessary cesareans, induction is one of the few that is somewhat under your control. When women are induced, they are often surprised by what doulas call the “cascade” of medical interventions that tends to follow induction. One of the most unexpected but influential aspects of induction is maternal exhaustion. Inductions can take many hours and even days, so many women are

exhausted before active labor has even begun. Being monitored constantly in the hospital leads to more interventions just because you are there. Women who start labor on their own, without induction, are more likely to have natural vaginal births. There are more options available to most women in these two situations than induction, but you have to be ready to ask for them. I advise my doula clients to plan to call me first when their water breaks in this situation. Though I cannot give medical advice, I can help her think through her options and remind her that there are options. Of course there are some medical indications to induce, but only you can prevent an unnecessary induction. You are more likely to avoid an unnecessary induction if you have a plan for this situation (such as, “Call my doula immediately and talk through my options before committing to a plan of action”), than if you face it unprepared. Of all the scenarios to research ahead of time, these are the two that are worth the time and effort. As a doula and medical anthropologist, I have witnessed the power of natural hospital birth across the globe. Here in natural mother magazine | summer 2013

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the United States and Canada, we often look to our care providers for the answer about how to labor and give birth. When you bring your own ideas and power to your labor, when you are prepared to seek out a natural hospital birth, you can make a difference for yourself and for all the women who follow you. Because the more natural births that hospital staff are privileged to witness, the more experience and comfort they will develop with natural birth. We need their medical expertise for emergencies, but I believe that doctors, nurses, and hospital midwives can learn from birthing women, too.

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Cynthia Gabriel has been a doula since 1998 and has assisted laboring women in the U.S., Canada, and Russia. She is the author of Natural Hospital Birth: The Best of Both Worlds. Her perspective on natural birth is greatly influenced by her training and experience as a medical anthropologist. Understanding how women in other cultures give birth today and how women across time have given birth helps us think through our options more clearly.


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When I first learned about this book

and was asked to check it out, I figured it would be a lot like all the other books regarding homebirth, geared toward children, that I had previously reviewed. Much to my surprise this book is an arm and a leg above all the others I have seen, and should be added to every homebirthing mama’s library. Not to mention this book should be in every midwive’s house and office across the country.

whispers something in mama grizzlies ear to encourage her. Later, after the midwife and her daughter leave, Miso asks her mom what she said to mama grizzly to help her. (This is where you need to grab a tissue, don’t say I didn’t warn you!) “Miso’s mama smiled. “Oh, nothing she didn’t already know, “ she answered, with a sparkle in her eye. “I just told her that she could do it. That her perfect, strong body was made for having a baby.”

Written very well, and in a fun style, this book is sure to be a favorite of your child’s. All the characters are sweet animals with fun names. Little Miso (a mouse) is having a sleep over party with her friends, when suddenly her mama (a midwife) has to rush off to a birth. Miso tells her friends a story so they understand what a midwife does, and spend the rest of the night acting out births.

“Then I asked her to imagine that her mom, her grandma, her great-grandma and all of the millions of mommies from everywhere in time were gathered around her in a circle. Together, we imagined that they were sweetly singing a special song just for her.”

I love everything about this book. The illustrations are bright and attractive, the fonts and layout are wonderful, and the overall story is very well written. If your kids nurse their babies, play birth, pretend to have a baby in their belly...this book is for your family without a doubt.

Now you have to read the book to find out how the song went. And take those tissues I told you to get earlier with you to her website so you can read the book for free, right now, from your computer. And don’t forget to pick up your copy while you’re there, available in paperback and hardback. This is a must for your attachment parenting, sweet natural kids’ library.

It wasn’t much a surprise to me that by the end of the book I was in tears. Miso gets to attend the homebirth of a grizzly bear family. She plays with the daughter of the grizzlies while mama labors hard. Grunts and moans are explained as “hard work.” Mama bear leans on a tree. The mouse midwife leans in and

“Will you sing the song for me?” asked Miso.

Christy Tyner, the author, lives in Orinda, California with her partner, Michelle, and their two children, ages 4 and 5. natural mother magazine | summer 2013

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Read Up! Great books to add to your familyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s library < Music Together not only offers

music classes for children in 40 different countries, but they have also ventured into publishing sing-a-long books. These books are well illustrated & feature one Music Together song per book. They were an instant hit with my kids who are familiar with the songs. And if your child isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t, they will soon grow to love the stories these books tell. For children 1-7 years old, these books encourage imaginative play, early literacy, and inspire singing. Available online at:

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THE NIGHT BEFORE MY BIRTHDAY BOOK > This book is an adorable poem that you read to your child on the eve of their birthday, every year. It helps families to create a new tradition surrounding the excitement that comes with our children’s birthdays. “Then in my dream, my birthday comes, on a sparkling new day with a bright smiling sun.” A portion of the sales of this book go to charities that support children’s health, safety, and well being. Available online at:

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< Mama talk about our new baby & MAMA TALK ABOUT WHEN MAX WAS BORN are incred-

ible books for teaching children about homebirth, babywearing, cosleeping, and all things attachment parenting. Written by a work from home mom & ilustrated beautifully. A must have for your crunchy children’s libraries. Available online at:

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A great book about planting a garden with your children, and dog if you have one! Daisy is a yellow lab, and hangs out as the garden is planted. The book starts sweetly with the melting snow in spring, and comes full circle at the end with snow and winter, and the anticipation of next year’s garden. A wonderful book to get children excited about gardening! Available online at: www.Amazon.com natural mother magazine | summer 2013

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ONE MOTHER’S STORY nielle M. Steffe

Do NO HARM

by Danielle M. Steffe

I am the mother of two beautiful children, a son and a vaccine-injured daughter. Unfortunately, I too was injured from a 2003 flu vaccination received during the first trimester of my pregnancy with my daughter, Alexis. Risk versus benefit? It seems like only yesterday, the moment that changed our family’s lives forever occured. I was freezing in my ugly blue gown at the OBGYN while waiting for the long awaited heartbeat of my second child. I had an eighteen month old bundle of joy at home, and was full of excitement about giving him a sibling. A friend to build forts with, ride bikes with, go to school on the same bus, and whisper to each other at night when they were supposed to be sleeping. We were all so excited. I wanted to do everything right. I spent my spare time educating myself with multiple books on pregnancy. Therefore, when the doctor 28 natural mother magazine | Summer 2013

that she highly recommended I get this year’s flu shot, I agreed without hesitation. Why would I want to endanger our baby with influenza? I received the shot on November 18, 2003. The next day, I broke out in a series of hives covering every inch of my body. I couldn’t take anything to relieve the discomfort, and my doctor dismissed any notions that it could be due to the flu vaccine. I was told the reaction was from hormones. Really? I had to carry an epi-pen. Moreover, I had a toddler to care for. My husband was afraid to go to work and leave me alone in that condition. The pregnancy was uncomfortable, but the hives subsided somewhat. Alexis was born on June 6, 2004. We were so excited! She was beautiful. Dark hair, dark lips, and the sweetest face. We hardly had enough time to enjoy her uneventful birth when the consent forms for the Hepatitis B vaccine were placed in


front of us. “Sure! We will sign it.” Hours later, we were informed that Alexis had a slight case of jaundice. Although I realize that jaundice is quite common in newborns, doesn’t the idea of stimulating their weak immune systems with a vaccine full of toxins seem harmful? I wish I would have known, before I gave consent. We took our bundle of joy home and placed her by a window in her pink, toile bassinet to help with her jaundice. She cried for twenty four hours straight. My son, Christian did not sleep either. He was so worried about his baby sister. He was only two. I called the Pediatrician and they assured me it was “Colic.” Colic is a red flag for intolerance to food. Also a red flag for mito-

chondrial disorder and weak muscles in the diaphragm. Mitochondrial disorder is more common than you think. The doctor put our newborn on Zantac and a formula that contained rice protein as a thickening agent. Regrettably, what the physician didn’t realize was the fact that my daughter was medically compromised. She had a family history of autoimmune disorders including food intolerances, on top of being jaundiced and recenlty vaccinated. If only I was privy to the knowledge I have today. Countless hours of research and heartache have directed me to this place.

“My son, Christian did not sleep either. He was so worried about his baby sister.”

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developed chronic Otitis Media yet the pediatrician kept vaccinating her during “well” visits. Then she was diagnosed with Torticollis and an innocent heart murmur. Countless antibiotics, tubes, reflux, high fevers, insomnia, ear infections, and eczema began. It became evident that our daughter was not developing meaningful speech. We took her to a Developmental Pediatrician. The initial diagnosis was moderate Autism. What? “She will never go to the prom” he said. “You need to learn sign language now, she will not speak.” I fell apart. My mother was with us at that appointment. My mother is the pinnacle of strength and grace. I don’t think she could even breathe that day. I ran home, and started making phone calls to get more help for her. Alexis needed speech therapy, occupational therapy, as well as ABA therapy. You may ask if it helped and the answer would be somewhat, because unbeknownst to me, her immune system was damaged from vaccines. Her body was reacting to the milk protein, wheat protein, soy and egg in her diet. Alexis’s body would react to those foods by producing excess mucus resulting in ear infections as well as inflaming her gut and brain. She was consuming yogurt as a source of probiotics during antibiotic

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treatment for ear infections. Do you see the vicious cycle? We were told to put her on Clonidine to help her sleep because she never did. We would put her in her bed and she would wake up within minutes. We would have to hold her propped up in our arms most of the night. Despite the pediatrician’s recommendation to medicate, I did not give her the Clonidine and insisted on a neck X-ray. Clonidine is an adult blood pressure medication. They give it to kids to aid their sleep. The xray reveled that her adenoids were blocking her airway. If we had given Alexis the Clonidine, she could have died in her sleep since it would have slowed respiration. Our daughter was crying when we would lay her in the crib not because she had Autism like we had been told by our pediatrician, but rather because she couldn’t breathe. She suffered from sleep apnea. My intuition finally kicked in and I quickly realized that something was very wrong and I need to begin researching a solution. I read an article about removing dairy and gluten from the diets of children with my daughter’s problems. My husband is a dentist, and a very intuitive male. He was on


board. Soon the dietary changes we implemented were beginning to help our daughter. Alexis had her adenoids and tonsils out, a second set of tubes, and the diet was clearing up her eczema and sleep problems. At age three Alexis began talking. We stopped vaccinating her when she was 12 months old. Her Reflux and Eczema completely resolved. She was sleeping through the night and her constipation disappeared. Her pediatrician requested an MRI of her brain because of her Autism diagnosis. The MRI results exhibited delayed myelin. Delayed myelination is frequently a sign of vaccine damage. We had a lot of work ahead of us. I needed to do something!

was damaged. She was labeled “hyper immune”. Her body was so chronically ill from the adjuvants in the vaccinations that she never contracted childhood viruses. She had very few colds, no flu, nor stomach bug. Her gut was damaged to the point that it was permeable. This is called “leaky gut”. Proteins pass through the junctions and cause brain inflammation. Despite probiotics, and meticulous diets, we still struggle with it. She had 21 ear infections starting at two months old. Consequently, she had twenty one rounds of antibiotics resulting in her gut damage. The ear infections produced Auditory Processing Disorder, and her language delay.

We took Alexis to see a doctor who was well versed in vaccine damage. After many tests, it was decided that her best chance at a life was to take her off all processed foods, and test for food intolerances across the board. We also use all natural body products because 60 percent of what you put on your skin absorbs into the blood stream. If Alexis would have a food infraction, she would display autistic traits. If her diet was clean, she just looked like a child with a speech delay. It was when we took her to an Immunologist it was determined that her immune sys-

Alexis’s Autism diagnosis was removed in 2009, but she is far from being recovered. Her immune system is damaged. Like many other children, her genetic structure could not process the multiple vaccinations that she received throughout her first year. Her infant body simply could not battle the assault on her immature immune system.

“Alexi’s Autism diagnosis was removed in 2009, but she is far from being recovered. Her immune system is damaged.”

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Vaccine REsources These are all hyperlinks, just click

Package inserts VAERS CDC SCHEDULES STATE LAWS Vaccine injury lawyers vaccine injury courts vaccine ingredients NVIC Researching Vaccines can seem daunting. Start with some of these resources. No matter what your decision, every parent should have these links on hand. 32

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nurse how many inhalers she has in her cabinet. I am very fortunate, it could have been much worse for Alexis. I have friends who have children still in diapers at the age of ten. My heart breaks for them. There is a book that I support about 24 courageous parents telling their stories called, The Thinking Momsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; Revolution. It is not just about autism, but also the above mentioned afflictions. This is a movement of parents who are saving their children, and enlightening doctors. The book was sold out its first day on Amazon, Wal-Mart, and Barnes & Noble. Between the vaccinations, and the genetically modified foods, our children may not have a life expectancy as long as their parents. Please, the next time you see your pediatrician, ask them to name five ingredients in the vaccines they are giving to your child. I would wager they cannot. If you have a family history of any of the disorders listed above, run like hell from the current vaccine schedule. Please be diligent and question your doctor. Our journey with Alexis will be ongoing, and my health is another endeavor. Autoimmune is my label at the moment. I will never stop fighting for our health. My husband,


Joe, is the most incredible husband and my son, Christian, is a strong advocate for his sister. I am blessed. At times I feel that I know more about genetics than many doctors. If I can draw anything positive from this experience, it would be that I can help others avoid what I and many other parents are going through, parents whose situations are much harder and more emotionally debilitating than my own. My heart and prayers go out to these living saints! I never thought Alexis would say, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Mommy.â&#x20AC;? Now she is using full sentences. She whispers with her brother at night, and jokes around with him. If we had not treated her body as a whole, she would not be where she is today. Her future will be bright, as long as I keep on top of her medical conditions. Autism is a medical condition. There is no such thing as a genetic epidemic. It is epigenetic, where the genetics are changed and altered by environmental toxins. Our children deserve better. Families deserve better. Danielle M. Steffe, RDH is a Dental Hygienist and mother of two, she is going back to school to be a Holistic Health Practitioner. Contact her through Facebook at danielle. spadasteffe@facebook.com

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Make it Yourself

Simple recipes for things we need, with nothing we donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t

Natural Sinus Balm 5 T. Coconut Oil 3 T. shea or cocoa butter 2 T. beeswax 15 drops each of eucalyptus, rosemary, peppermint, & white camphor essential oils Melt coconut oil, shea or cocoa butter and beeswax together over low heat. Stir in essential oils & pour into a repurposed container. Rub on cheeks, forehead, temples, and chest. Relief! 34 natural mother magazine | Summer 2013


by Jenny Deramo of www.storyofapeacefulhousewife.com

Bug Spray

Laundry Detergent

7 oz. witch hazel 1 oz. rubbing alcohol 20 drops each of citronella, lemon grass, Texas Cedarwood, tea tree, and eucalyptus essential oils.

1 C. grated soap 2 C. washing soda 2 C. Borax

Mix all ingredients well, pour into a spray bottle and use liberally.

Use grater or food processor to grate soap, mix all ingredients in a jar. Use 1 to 2 T. per load. Optional: add 1 C. baking soda or 1 C. oxygen bleach.

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enjoy a backyard camp out with your kids this summeR It isn’t always possible to make it to the mountains for a camp out with your family. Summer can be more hectic than the school year for a lot of moms. don’t let that spoil a chance to sleep under the stars with curious children. children are inherently interested in nature, and enjoy being surrounded by its wonders. here we have compiled a list of fun things to incorporate into a backyard camp out. 1. make smores over an open fire, camp stove, or BBQ. 2. use camp chairs or blankets to sit around telling stories or singing songs. 3. create a scavenger hunt for all things natural in your yard or neighborhood. 4. sleep out under the stars, in a tent, in the tree house or on the trampoline. some of my favorite memories are of doing these things as a kid. 5. cook tinfoil dinners in the coals from your fire or on charcoal. 36 natural mother magazine | Summer 2013

6. invest in a book of star charts or astronomy. lay with your children after dark and see how many constellations you can locate in the night sky. look for shooting stars. Every august we enjoy the PersEId meteor shower with our children. this year its peak is august 12th. the meteors come into view near the constellation cassiopeia, which looks like a “w” in the summer sky. 7. plan a short lesson and teach the kids about outdoor and wilderness safety. Things like the buddy system & getting lost, river and lake safety, basic first aid. 8. age appropriate, show your children how to build a campfire and take the opportunity to discuss campfire safety. model responsible behavior by making sure the fire is all the way out before turning in for the night. 9. go snipe hunting. this was a make believe game we played when I was young. we’d take flashlights and pillowcases, and go “hunting” for imaginary ground birds called “snipes.” 10. enjoy some screen-free time.


5 Ways to Teach Kids

Music

Most parents now understand the value of music for the development of young children. It is not only fun for their kids to listen, sing and dance along to, but it also helps children develop a host of important skills, such as language, concentration, social skills, confidence, and self-esteem. According to music education expert Kenneth K. Guilmartin, Founder/ Director of Music Together celebrating its 25th anniversary this year, “All children are naturally musical. Just as they are born with the potential to learn to speak and understand language, they have the ability from birth to learn music. And nurturing this innate talent early provides the foundation for later success with traditional music or dance lessons.” Unfortunately, many adults feel inadequate as music-makers themselves and, as a result, fail to make music with their children in everyday life. Parents and caregivers can contribute enormously to the enrichment of their child’s music development regardless of parents’ own music abilities. Guilmartin explains, “It is not important that you sing or move well; it is important that you model singing and moving for your child.” Here are some tips from Music Together’s Guilmartin, to help you begin your child’s musical journey. natural mother magazine | summer 2013

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“Don’t just put on a CD. Sing, bang a drum, get up and dance.”

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1. Simply sing and dance with your child. The best thing you can do to help set your child on the road to a lifelong love of music is to participate enthusiastically in music activities yourself. Have you ever noticed how instinctively children try to imitate older siblings and grown ups? Imitation is an important part of how they learn. Children learn to talk this way, as well as to walk. If you read books, they’ll want to read. If you sing and dance, they will, too. Don’t just put on a CD. Sing, bang a drum, get up and dance. Your notes do not have to be perfect, and you may miss some words or some steps. It is about showing your child that you enjoy the music you are making.

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2. Sing a lullaby to your child before bed. Young children love to hear their grown ups sing to them. The sound of your voice, even if it is not pitch-perfect, is precious to your child. A lullaby provides a time to be close to your child physically, emotionally, and musically. The lullaby can transform the bedtime hour into an oasis of loving calm. For babies and toddlers, it provides a comforting bedtime ritual. For older children, who are increasingly verbal, it is often the time they spontaneously confide their hopes and fears. 3. Take cues from your child and respond musically. If your baby or toddler “coos” on a pitch, return the sound. If your child sings in the car or when you are out walking, sing with her. If your child brings an instrument to you, try to stop what you are doing and play along. 4. Make it a family affair. Make music as a family. Have a dance party or a sing-along. Get out pots and pans and form a band. Gather around the piano. Imagine sitting around as a family and singing instead of watching TV or playing computer games. As technology increases, the importance of non-technical group interaction also in-


creases especially at home. Family music-making can be a wonderful activity shared by siblings, parents, grandparents, and other members of the extended family, including nannies and babysitters. 5. Bring your child to an early childhood music program. Young children learn best in a non-formal environment free from performance pressure and undue interference with their natural sense of fun. A good class provides children with all the ingredients for music learning. It offers them a rich musical repertoire to actively explore, along with the pleasure and support of being with loved ones in a musicmaking community. A music class is a fun activity that the whole family can participate in. And, attending class might just bring out your inner musician as well as your child’s. Guilmartin adds, “All children can achieve basic music competence -- which we define as the ability to sing in tune and move with accurate rhythm -- provided their early environment supports such learning. It starts with parents’ and caregivers’ active and joyful participation, which is essential to a child’s musical growth. The next time your child is humming the theme to her favorite cartoon and

rocking to the beat, make sure you join in and make some music together.” Celebrating its 25th Anniversary this academic year (2012-2013), Music Together is an internationally recognized early childhood music and movement program for children birth through age seven. The Music Together curriculum, coauthored in 1987 by Kenneth K. Guilmartin (Founder/Director) and Rowan University Professor of Music Education Dr. Lili M. Guilmartin (Founder/Director) and Rowan University Professor of Music Education Dr. Lili M. Levinowitz (Director of Research), is based on the recognition that all children are musical: all children can learn to sing in tune, keep a beat, and participate with confidence in the music of our culture, provided that their early environment supports such learning. Music Together offers programs for families; schools; at-risk populations; and children with special needs, in over 2000 communities in 40 countries around the world. The company is passionately committed to bonding children and their caregivers through music and helping people discover the joy and critical educational value of early music experiences.

“Make music as a family. Have a dance party or a sing-along. Get out pots and pans and form a band.”

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The Beauty of Babywearing

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Shoes at the Door by Melanie Moore

It’s something that most of us in Ameri-

can culture don’t think about doing. But, one of the simplest ways to keep our homes naturally clean, is to make it a shoe-free zone. One of the main reasons to go shoe-free at home is that most environmental toxins enter our bodies through our feet. So, when our shoes track contaminants into our home, our bodies absorb these toxins through our bare feet. This explains why putting vapor rub on the bottoms of our feet works like magic to instantly stop even the worst coughs; the vapor goes right through our bodily system. Just think of all the toxins that our shoes come in contact with: Public rest rooms, parking lots, gas station pumping areas, restaurants and retail stores, especially ones with carpeted floors. Even when we stay home, we pick up toxins outside in the yard from pesticides, pollen, and urine and traces of feces from pets and wild animals. 52

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Leaving your shoes at the door when entering your home is the simplest way to keep toxins from entering it. Wearing shoes inside, makes the flooring in your home be, essentially, public flooring. And, how would you feel if your baby put their mouth on a public floor? In a shoe-free zoned home, you don’t have to cringe when your baby puts toys into their mouth that have been on the floor. You don’t have to make sure they are always on a clean blanket, so they don’t roll over and touch their face to contaminated carpet. You don’t have to make sure that no one has walked on that blanket with shoes, or that the blanket is turned up on the same side every time. You don’t have to constantly say “no” when your toddler drops her cracker on the floor and eats it anyway. You don’t have to worry about shoes on a bed, contaminating pillows and sheets that rub against our faces while we sleep. Shoe free-zones bring cleanliness and peace of mind.


Sure, we can mop our hardwoods and shampoo our carpets every day, but that isn’t realistic and it’s a lot more work than removing shoes. Besides, to truly keep up with what shoes bring in, we would have to clean floors every time we walk in. And, even the cleaning process can be harmful because most carpet cleaners have toxic chemicals and steam cleaners pose a risk of under-the-carpet mold. Have I convinced you yet, that it really is much easier to simply leave your shoes at the door? Once you do it for 10 days, a habit will be formed and you’ll take off your shoes as automatically as you put on your seat belt. You won’t think twice about doing it and you might actually have anxiety if you choose not to now, because you are more aware of the effects. If you’re still not quite on board with the idea and make the excuse that we need bacteria to build immunity: well, our homes are filled with plenty of germs without purposely bringing them

in. And, bacteria aside, our shoes bring in plain dirt! Not to mention mud and dog manure! And, no one wants to track that around the house, for sure! So, you think your family will jump on board, but wonder how you get your guests to comply? There will always be those who get offended, thinking “My shoes aren’t muddy!” Others might not understand, thinking “the host wants me to feel comfortable, but I feel just fine in my shoes.” Others might be confused, thinking “But this isn’t a Japanese family.” And some may find it rude, thinking the host should make an exception for guests. However, when you get used to having no shoes inside, it can be bring anxiety when it happens. When I have guests, even though I know I can make an exception and clean the floors right afterwards, I shouldn’t have to. natural mother magazine | summer 2013

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The solution to entertaining a group of people in a shoe-free home is to offer a brief statement with the invitations; this way, guests know what to expect ahead of time. It also prevents the awkwardness of having to tell them at the door when you greet them. Guests will also appreciate the advance notice, so they know to avoid wearing holed socks and worn toe nail polish. A brief statement can be, “Our home is a shoe-free zone, so please remove your shoes at the door and thanks for understanding.” For large groups of guests, having stackable shoe racks in the foyer would be ideal, but a more economical option, and a less conspicuous one, is simply using your staircase to hold the shoes, if it is located by the front door. For my stairs, I bought a couple yards of fabric and spread it across a few of the steps, leaving the bottom step uncovered, as a place to sit and remove them. It is convenient and out of the way. Another option would be, to hang a shoe organizer on the door of a coat closet. It is important to designate an area for the shoes because with, say, twenty guests, that would be forty shoes that need to be put somewhere, so that guests won’t trip on, or have to step over them. A door hanger sign on the front door knob is a nice reminder. This is perfect for guests who come by with too short of notice to have an email sent. It can be worded in a fun way, with “Please be sweet and bare your feet.” Or, “In this house, we do socks and bare feet only, please.” Or, a picture with a shoe with a diagonal slash through it would work, similar to a no-smoking sign. 54 natural mother magazine | Summer 2013

A hospitable touch to offer your guests would be, to keep a basket in the foyer filled with various sizes of socks or slippers. When a service technician comes into your home, most companies equip them with shoe covers that they do not hesitate to wear upon request. To make sure you always have some on hand, you can purchase a box of disposable ones at any medical supply store, just look for surgical shoe covers. When you need some in a quick pinch, disposable hotel shower caps work. When you have movers or repair people who will need to go in and out of your home multiple times, for instance, to get tools out of their truck, you can lay sheets down in the hallway to give them a protected path. Tossing sheets into the washing machine afterwards is much easier to do than shampooing the carpet. My husband and I, and now our toddler, have kept a shoe-free zone home for years. I’ve only received positive remarks from guests about our “policy.” Plus, it has encouraged plenty of them to do the same for their home. It’s a really good and effortless habit, and, most importantly, it’s the one single task we can do to keep our home more healthy, clean, and natural. Melanie Moore is a freelance writer who lives in Atlanta, GA where she recently formed a Natural Parenting Moms Group for like-minded moms to get together with their children (ages newborn to preschool). Atlanta area moms are encouraged to join by visiting: www.Meetup.com/NPMoms


My Mama, My Amma and Me When I was not even born yet and was growing in my mama’s womb I so often heard two voices talking in a quiet and darkened room One I knew was my mama’s voice it vibrated right through me the other was my Amma, my mama’s mama and this was my family, we three In the comfort of Amma’s cozy room before bed each evening we’d lie me in me mama’s warm wet womb my Mama, my Amma & I Mama & Amma would giggle and laugh and in my womb-bed I’d jiggle like jelly then my Amma would lay her hand gently upon my Mama’s big round baby belly “Hi baby,“ my Amma would softly say and she was talking to me! So I would reach toward her touch with a tiny foot or a hand or a knee “Hi baby,“ my Amma would then exclaim when she felt my answering touch “Hi baby,” she’d croon, when I’d reach out again ‘cause she loved me already so much From when I was not even born yet through all this time together we three we are a family of three generations my Mama, my Amma and me. ~Lisa K. Sigurgeirson Photo Credit: sxc/Bongani

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Natural Kitchen

A collection of delicious & healthy recipes to spruce up your summer gatherings

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Recipe Credit: Cecilia Rodriguez-Marzo Photo credit: Earthside Photography

Greek Salad Ingredients:

3 medium tomatoes, diced 2 cucumbers, sliced 1 C. Feta Cheese 1/4 C. diced red onion 8 oz. bottle of Kalamata olives 1 T. extra virgin olive oil 1 t. Italian seasoning

Directions:

Dice tomatoes & cucumbers into bite-size pieces, cube 1 cup feta cheese and place in a bowl. Add in 1/4 cup diced red onion, if desired. Season with 1 t. Italian Seasoning. Pour over Kalamata olives including liquid they are packed in, drizzle 1 T. extra virgin olive oil and toss. natural mother magazine | summer 2013

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Recipe Credit: Jessika Bailey Photo credit: Earthside Photography

Simple Slaw Ingredients:

1 head green cabbage 3 large carrots 1 bottle organic poppy seed dressing

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Cut the head of cabbage into quarters, and thinly slice each quarter. Using your fine grater, grate the carrots and toss with the cabbage. Pour dressing over the top and toss. Recipe Credit: Jessika Bailey Photo credit: earthside photography 58

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Quinoa & Black Bean Salad Ingredients:

2 C. quinoa chicken or vegetable broth 2 C. cooked black beans 1 C. grape tomatoes, halved 1 bunch cilantro, chopped 4 green onions, chopped 1 C. frozen organic corn, thawed 1 can sliced olives

Directions:

Cook quinoa according to package directions. Use chicken broth or vegetable broth in place of water for a better flavor. Let cool. Prep all vegetables and add to the quinoa in a serving dish. Mix together, and salt & pepper to taste! Recipe & Photo Credit: Jessika Bailey

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Garden Pasta Salad Ingredients:

10 oz. of your favorite pasta, cooked & drained 2 carrots sliced into round pieces 1 1/2 C. grape tomatoes, halved 1 zucchini, sliced into half rounds 1/4 C. white wine vinegar 1/4 C. olive oil

Directions:

Cook, drain and rinse the pasta with cold water, place in serving bowl. Add all prepped vegetables and toss together. Whisk olive oil and vinegar together, add salt and pepper to taste, pour over salad and toss again.

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Recipe & Photo Credit: Robynn Goldberg-Whiting

Purple Cabbage Salad Ingredients:

1 1/4 C. Organic shelled edamame 2 C. sliced red cabbage 1 orange or red bell pepper, sliced 1 C. diced pineapple 1/4 C. golden raisins 1/2 C. sliced smoked almonds 1/4 C. chopped fresh mint 2 T. fresh lime juice 2 T. honey 1/4 t. chile-garlic sauce

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Cilantro Pesto Photo Credit: Sommai

ingredients: 1 bunch cilantro 1/3 C. pine nuts 2 t. olive oil 4 cloves of garlic 1/4 C. Parmesan cheese 1 t. lime juice

DIRECTIONS: Place all ingredients in a blender or food processor. Blend until pasty but smooth.

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Basil Pesto Photo Credit: James Barker

ingredients: 2 C. fresh basil leaves, packed 1/2 C. Parmesan cheese 4 oz. olive oil 1/3 C. pine nuts 3 garlic cloves salt & pepper to taste

DIRECTIONS: Combine the basil and pine nuts in a blender or food processor, and pulse a few times. Add the garlic, and pulse again. Slowly pour in the olive oil until blended. Add the Parmesan, and blend again. Add a pinch of salt and pepper,

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HONEY LEMONADE

SUN tea

Ingredients: 8 C. hot water 8 lemons 1/2 C. raw honey 1 small bunch of mint leaves 1 tray of ice

Ingredients: 6 - 8 teas bags 2 lemons 8 C water 1 tray of ice

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Directions: Place tea bags of your choice and water in a glass container and set in the sun for 4-6 hours. Bring inside the house and remove tea bags. When the tea has cooled to room temperature, slice up two lemons an add them to the tea with a tray of ice.


Photo Credit:Chelsea Stevens & Earthside Photography

Citrus Cucumber Water Ingredients: 1 grapefruit, sliced 3 tangerines, sectioned 1 cucumber, sliced 1 small bunch of mint leaves 1 tray of ice 1/2 gal - 1 gal purified water Directions: Wash grapefruit, tangerine, cucumber and peppermint leaves. Slice cucumber, grapefruit and peel tangerine. Combine all ingredients in a pitcher and serve! into a large pitcher.

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Quiet your soul by Heather Forrest

Finding out you are pregnant and planning for the birth can be an exciting and overwhelming time in your life, regardless of the fact that this is your first or your seventh baby. Emotions, questions, fears, excitement are all things stirring around in your mind, heart, and soul. Opinions and birth stories are being thrown at you whether you want to hear them or not. Exploring your options for this birth can be confusing and regardless of what you choose, someone will have their two-cents to throw in. Researching the decisions that will need to be made for your little one after the birth is mind numbing. One thing that can be lacking during this time in your life, as you are sorting everything out, is encouragement. Researching and informing yourself in order to make informed decisions about your pregnancy, birth, and parenting is vital. You will make some amazing choices and you will make some not so great choices, we all have. Reach out for help and wisdom from those who have made similar decisions in the past. Take care to not get lost in the whirlwind. Be sure to stop every now and then and quiet your mind and your soul. Find that place of solitude inside your soul and rest. There are not many expecting women who do not have moments when a myriad of â&#x20AC;&#x153;What if...?â&#x20AC;? questions fly through their mind. Maybe they have caused you to lie awake at night after the fifteenth time you have been up to use the rest room. As you approach your due month a

number of other worries and thoughts of joyful expectations crowd your mind. Any woman preparing for birth and parenting has been overwhelmed with worry and joy. Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Let your mind rest. I cannot promise that someday you will look back and not regret some of the choices you made. I cannot promise that the journey from here on out will be an easy one. What I can promise you, dear sweet Mama, is that you can do this!!! Remember that you are not alone. There is someone out there who had to make the same choices you are facing and knows how hard this life transition is. Take a moment right now and quiet your soul. Place your hands on your belly, full of life, and take a deep breath. You CAN do this!! You were wonderfully made to grow and birth your precious baby. Out of all the women on this planet, you were chosen to be the mother of this child. No matter where or how you choose to birth your baby and no matter what parenting decisions you make, this is your unique story and adventure. Embrace it and enjoy the ride! Heather Forrest is a Certified Professional Midwife in Oklahoma and has been involved in birth work since 2006. She and her husband have four children, ages 15, 13, 10, and 7. The first two were born in the hospital and the last two were born at home, in water. In addition to midwifery, Heather home schools her children. You can contact heather through her website: http://madellmidwifery.com/

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forever fitness

passing on a love of exercise by Crystal Kupper

In the early-morning Big Apple light, most runners were stretching and re-lacing their Nikes for the ING New York City Marathon, but Anna Stein had other issues to worry about. The Queens bookkeeper stared at the strange contraption in her hand, wondering how it worked. During her training runs, she had always pushed her infant son in his jogging stroller, stopping to breastfeed as needed. This marathon, however, had a firm no-stroller rule. Stein, creator of www.runningmom.com, knew that nursing mothers like herself could not run well with swollen, leaky breasts. So with some girl 68

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friends’ help (and surrounded by 40,000 other runners), she clumsily worked a breast pump only minutes before the marathon “There was no privacy at all,” Stein remembers. “My girlfriends and I kept laughing and laughing. The harder we laughed, the more everyone kept staring like we were completely crazy.” Despite the awkward situation, she knows it was just part of a lifetime of physical fitness for both herself and her son. “It set a great example of fitness for my baby,” she says. “Running will be second nature to him because he sees me doing it all the time.”


Fle x ibl e F a m i l y F i t ne ss Once a child begins toddling around, he or she can learn to love physical activity. Jessica Drummond, a physical therapist from Houston, Texas, often took her young daughter Claire to the playground with some friends. While one or two moms watched the kids climb and slide, the others ran on nearby trails, switching off as necessary. “When families enjoy a run or bike ride with the baby jogger and then end at a playground, it teaches the children that exercise is fun and that the parents value their own health and their children’s health,” Drummond says. “When parents continue to exercise with, around or even without their kids, it sets a good example to maintain a healthy lifestyle.” Flexibility, however, is key. Without it, fitness buffs can abandon their fixed exercise routines altogether once children show up. Drummond, who once raced for speed but now exercises for general body maintenance, believes a toned physique is entirely within reach. Yet it requires some mental adjustments.

kid friendly tips • Lift canned goods together in the kitchen before you unload the groceries. Try three reps of five bicep curls each, encouraging each child to participate. • Be a kid again – with your kids! Race to the mailbox and back, run through the sprinklers, climb trees in the backyard, jump rope, hula hoop and break out the pogo stick! • When one child has a soccer game, get fit with another while you watch. Take laps around the field, encouraging both children to excel.

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“Parenthood brings two big changes: lack of sleep and lack of time,” she says. “Exercise requires time, and when you are not feeling well it is hard to exercise. Once someone becomes a parent, it’s important to re-prioritize. And, if a healthy lifestyle is one of your priorities, it needs to headline the top of the list, or it will fall off the list!”

sociate professor at the University of Wyoming and Board Certified Specialist in Sports Nutrition, “and family-oriented fitness is even better.”

This flexibility may mean some give-and-take with your partner. Drummond’s husband Mark, an ultra-marathoner, never liked using the running stroller. So they devised a schedule where they could both get their runs in, sometimes without their daughter.

The mother of three believes this progressive attitude toward physical movement can happen at any age, but only after continual parental demonstration that not exercising is not an option.

Claire still plays an important part in her daddy’s fitness lifestyle, though — there’s nothing he loves more than seeing her cheer him on at races. T h e i r O w n T hi ng As your child learns from a healthy, example-setting lifestyle, he or she will naturally discover their own physical fitness plan. Perhaps your son or daughter will gravitate to your favorite workout routine, but they also might choose something different. “Any direction toward fitness is a positive one,” says Enette Larson-Meyer, Ph.D., an as70 natural mother magazine | Summer 2013

“If they’re interested, your kids will just fall into your physical lifestyle naturally,” she says. “Let them decide when to run, when to walk, when to move or rest.”

“By bringing them along to your workouts, you show them that this is important to mom and dad and that it is fun,” Larson-Meyer says. “They pick up your attitude.” There’s more your kid can do than watch you sweat it out, however. Look for local community events that combine kid and adult activities. Many triathlons, road races, swim clubs, aerobics classes and dancing competitions also feature a kids-only event prior to the adults’ activity. If your child dislikes your preferred sport, don’t feel discouraged. When Drummond’s daughter participated in local kids’ races, she felt un-


comfortable being watched by a crowd. “Yet she loves to run for fun and have friends chase or race her informally,” Drummond says. “The important thing is to let them decide.” In the end, Drummond knows her workouts physically benefit more than her own body. “The most memorable part of a race is seeing my husband and baby cheering for mommy at the finish,” she says. “I know my actions will teach her more than my words ever will.” Crystal Kupper is a freelance writer, Air Force wife and stay-at-home mom to Jack (5), Jude (2) and Avinly (2 months) in Salem, Oregon. As a diehard believer in mommy fitness, she has run marathons or half-marathons during all of her pregnancies. Thanks to her double BOB running stroller, Crystal will continue exercising with her kids and a black lab named Klaus when she and husband Nickolas move to the U.K. this November. She blogs over at www. crystalkupper.blogspot.com.

take the work out of famiLy fitness • Invest in quality gear, such as high-end jogging strollers, bike trailers/seats, life jackets, two-person canoes and child hiking backpacks. If your equipment is a drag, you will never want to use it. • Bring along healthy snacks and beverages (like bottled water, dried fruit, nuts and granola) to avoid the mid-routine whine. • Replace your child’s and your own athletic shoes every 500 miles or six months to avoid injury. If shoes fit well and comfortably, they are more likely to hit pavement.

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News Wor thy

happenings worth taking note of....

MRSA responds to a protein complex in breastmilk

Methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus (MRSA) becomes respondent to antibiotics again after being introduced to a protein complex in breastmilk. This protein complex called HAMLET increases the bacteriaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s sensitivity to multiple antibiotics. It made these antibiotics effective again, when once the bacteria was able to beat them. This, of course, was in a laboratory setting. Promising news. Again, nature knows best, add another point for breastmilk! Source: University at Buffalo News Center

Serotonin levels in the brain are directly related to healthy gut bacteria in early life

Researchers have found that serotonin (the happy hormone) levels are directly related to gut bacteria in early life. I could go on and on about what this may mean on so many levels, but lets chalk up another point for breastfeeding babies, which supports a healthy gut and immune system. Every system in our bodies depends on every other system. You cannot bypass any of them if you want good health, but rather balance them all. Source: Neuroscience News

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circumcision stance by the aap is culturally biased

In 2012 the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) released a statement and policy on routine male infant circumcision, stating the health benefits outweigh the risks of having the surgery. Physicians from many other parts of the Western World reached a completely different conclusion from the same studies the American Physicians looked at. Canada, Europe, and Australia are a few of the countries included in this review. The international task force that reviewed the AAP’s policy stated that the claimed benefits of protection against HIV & AIDS, genital herpes, genital warts, and cancer were weak and likely to hold no weight in a western world context. Source: Pediatrics, the official journal of the AAP

BED SHARING DADS have lower testosterone LEVELS WHICH MAY LEAD TO BETTER PARENTING

Researchers tested mens testosterone levels before having children, and then again four years later. They found that dads who slept on the same surface as their babies had lower testosterone levels which they concluded may lessen their chances of participating in risky behavior and competition with other men. Source: Scientific America

you can train your brain to be more compassionate

Researchers at the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds at the Waisman Center of the University of Wisconsin-Madison have found that indeed you can become more compassionate toward others when you take the time to train yourself. Researchers found changes in the parts of the brain that help in compassionate feelings. “The fact that alterations in brain function were observed after just a total of seven hours of training is remarkable,” explains UW-Madison psychology and psychiatry professor Richard J. Davidson. Source: Science Daily

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I Am There As you gather strength to begin the birth of your son, I am there, giving you my strength. As you put all fears to rest, knowing you and your baby will be fine, I am there, to calm any last doubt that may arise. As you think of your sisters, your mother, and all the mothers before us, I am there, drawing upon their strength to help you through. As your body contracts, pushes your baby down and that much closer to being in your arms, I am there, telling you, “You can do it!” As your baby opens his eyes and your gazes lock for the first time, I am there, telling you, “You will be the best parent this child could have.” As your son turns from baby to child, then child to man, looking to you for all direction and guidance, I am there to grow old with you. As God puts the finishing touches on your son, He readies you and your baby for the wonderful experience of birth about to be, I am there, however you need me to be. ~Ginger Horsburgh

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Tips for Conserving Water ~ Learn how to read your water meter to determine if you have any leaks which need repair. ~ Install covers on pools and spas to minimize evaporation. ~ Spread a layer of mulch around plants and trees to help retain moisture. Collect rainwater and use it to water your garden. ~ Adjust your sprinkler heads so only your lawn is being watered, and not the driveway, street, or sidewalks. ~ Water your lawn in the early morning or late evening when temperatures are cooler to minimize evaporation. ~ Use sprinklers for large areas of grass, and hand water smaller areas to avoid waste. ~ Use sprinklers which deliver big drops of water close to the ground. Mist and small drops of water often evaporate before ever reaching the ground. ~ Check the root zone of your lawn or garden for moisture by using a spade, trowel or â&#x20AC;&#x153;moisture meter.â&#x20AC;? If it is still moist two inches under ground, you still have enough water. ~When letting the kids play in sprinklers, place the sprinklers strategically over dry areas as well. ~Do not use your hose to clean off your driveway or sidewalk...invest in a push broom. ~Aerate your lawn annually. ~Adjust your lawn mower to a higher setting. A taller lawn shades the root and holds soil moisture better than a short lawn. ~Wash your cars and pets on the lawn in areas which need a little extra water.

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