EXPRESS YOURSELF by: Cristin (Mystic Wonder)
Sometimes in life we ﬁnd ourselves in compromising positions and situations in which we feel trapped or vulnerable. Events can occur, leaving us stiﬂed and rejected. Our emotions tend to control our thought process and sometimes even our ability to express our true intentions, heart-felt desires or even our dismay toward someone or something. Have you ever found yourself in a relationship in which it seems as though the other person has no concern for your opinions or desires? Have you ever been in a conversation with someone who literally controls the dialog and when it comes time for your input, they just disregard it? Have you ever loved someone and was too afraid to tell them for fear that things would change? Have you ever been in a situation where someone has made you feel belittled, and you didn’t have the courage to stand up for yourself? Have you ever chosen to not express your true feelings or intentions because you’re afraid the other person will think you’re stupid? If you answered yes to any or all the above questions, it’s time to sprout some balls (yes, females too, hehe) and be who you ARE! Feelings Are Never “Wrong”:
It’s perfectly natural to feel as though you
can’t say what you want to say for fear that you’ll cause more damage than good. To constantly ridicule someone or criticize someone’s life because of his or her situation or the way they look is just ridiculous! There’s nothing WRONG with expressing dismay toward a family member, friend or lover regarding wrong doing or being treated badly. You HAVE to let them know how their words and actions are affecting your self-esteem and the relationship. Remember that your feelings are NEVER WRONG. They may not be in alignment with other people some or all the time, but if you hold them inside nobody will be able to understand your point of view. Being OPEN and UNDERSTANDING to other people’s thoughts and opinions is the ﬁrst step to having great communication. We’re not telling you to CHANGE the way you feel to appease someone else’s Ego, but we are saying that you need to be open to their opinions, just as you’d like them to understand yours in effort to compromise. Fear Fear is the #1 reason why people CHOOSE to not express their emotions and desires. My mother always used to say, “Try it; you might like it” to my sister Laura who is EXTREMELY picky when it comes to food. If she doesn’t like the smell or look of it, she won’t even bother because she fears the taste will be exactly how it looks. As silly as it sounds, the same goes for expressing emotions. It’s important to take the chance that someone may not agree with your point of view, just so you’re not stuck with the negative energy that holds you back from reaching the next step on
Metaphysically infused art and culture. Winter / New Year 2008.