Help For The Grieving Process
For a lot of people, the new year is a time when they look forward with hope and happiness, and possibly also when they look back at the year that has been with a trace of satisfaction, or maybe a lot of satisfaction.
However, for some people, the new year can be a bit bleak, especially if the previous year was when they suffered a bereavement or went through a divorce or some other situation that involved loss and the consequent grief.
For these people, the new year may well bring recovery, but for these people, the year ahead is also full of pitfalls.
The process of recovering from grief is never a smooth one, and it goes in cycles.
Deep fountains of grief are likely to well up on significant dates: birthdays, anniversaries (either of a marriage or the anniversary of the death), Christmas and other special days.
Even several years after a bereavement or divorce, people can feel twinges of sorrow or regret on these days.
It also doesnâ€™t help much if wellmeaning but misguided people try to cheer you up and have the attitude that you should carry on as usual and put a brave face on it.
While they are trying to encourage you not to wallow in grief and be consumed by it, these friends may not allow you to express the grief you feel.
Itâ€™s not healthy to bury your grief and leave it unexpressed. We get a lot of people coming for a session of hypnotherapy to deal with grief-related issues.
In many ways, society in the past had ways of recognising that the grieving process takes time and can take years.
In the Victorian era, when hypnosis was pioneered for clinical use, people were allowed to take their time to mourn and grieve â€“ hypnotherapy was usually used for repressed feelings of other kinds.
Some people may find the Victorian code of mourning dress and behaviour a bit macabre and over the top, but if you have suffered grief and loss, you probably understand that there was a need to acknowledge that a person who has suffered loss is a bit fragile for a year or so afterwards.
It might be helpful for you to adopt some of the old customs of this era as a way of signalling to your friends and to yourself that you still feel the loss.
Thereâ€™s no need to go into full Gothic rig or wear black for a whole year, but you may like to wear a black wristband (traditional for widowers) or to wear black and purple hair accessories and jewellery.
You could also order blackedged stationery and write on that.
Or come up with your own modern equivalent of going into mourning (could you come up with something on your computer desktop?).
If you come to the point when you donâ€™t feel like doing that any more and you want something brighter and more cheerful, youâ€™ve taken a new step.
Dealing with grief can also be easily addressed through Hypnotherapy Brisbane.