What experts say about preparing yourself psychologically to be a parent: Experts say that through day dreaming you start to make room in your mind before the arrival of your new child in your life (Mayes & Cohen, 2002). This happens in five stages 1. Reflect on your childhood. •
Remember playing house as a child? Reflect on your memories...... as a child you pretended to be a grownup pretending to do grownup tasks that you saw your parents do. This allows you to practice in your mind the major step of parenthood that you are taking.
2. Imagining Parenthood. •
This allows you to take time to reflect on what you hoped starting a family would be like. Think about things you will do with your child. Think about all the fun things that will come your way but don't foget to imagine the challenges that will come your way. So think about how you will handle the challenging situations as well. This will help you better prepare for the new role.
3. Imagining Pregnancy. •
Both man and woman should imagine pregnancy. Man may think of how well he will care for his pregnant wife. While woman imagines how pregnancy will change her body and how she will nurture her baby during nine months of pregnancy.
4. Imagining your baby. •
Create a mental portrait of your baby whether you are going to have a child by giving birth or by adoption. Think about the traits you like and dislike that your child may have. The sooner you start preparing yourself mentally the easier the transition will be from a single (couple) lifestyle to parenthood.
5. Picking a name for your baby. •
Selecting a name for your new baby is a monumental task because this name will be your new child's identity for the rest of his/her life. So think carefully. Do your research. The discussion on the new baby's name can be the most cherished moments but may also lead to many disagreements. But once you have selected a name for your child, things become real. You will feel a bit more confident about being a parent.
Source: Mayes, L. C., & Cohen, D. J. (2002). The Yale Child Study Center Guide to Understanding Your Child. Yale University Press. © copyright 2009 of myindianchild.org. All rights reserved.