MU Connected Magazine Spring 2021

connected Spring 2021

Transforming lives in 84 countries around the world HOT TOPICS

Are foodbanks a solution to poverty?

Building your confidence online NO MORE 1 IN 3

stopping gender-based violence

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elcome to the first edition of your new membership magazine Connected. We have 48 pages packed with news, views and stories that we hope will entertain, engage and connect us!

Connected has been composed with your feedback very much in mind. Some of the highlights of this issue include our Central Chaplain , Bishop Emma Ineson, reflecting on kindness, with fellow Bishops Roger Morris and Christine Hardman giving their views on foodbanks and whether they are a solution to poverty in the UK. Read how Mothers’ Union’s business training skills helped Monica in Tanzania become self-reliant, and find out why member Emily Brailsford values being part of our wonderful movement. We share information on how partnership work is letting us achieve even more, and in these changing times, share some hints and tips about staying safe online.

We hope you like Connected, this is your magazine, so please get in touch to share your stories or give us feedback on what you have enjoyed or ways we can do things differently.

Happy reading!

From us all at Mary Sumner House Share your news, ideas and thoughts by contacting us via communications@mothersunion.org or 0207 222 5533

DATES FOR YOUR DIARY

WHAT’S NEW IN 2021

14 May 2021 - Thy Kingdom Come Service 9 August 2021 - Mary Sumner Day 25 September 2021 - Annual gathering (virtual) 27 November 2021 - Global Day – to kick start our 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence 15 December 2021 - Carol Concert (virtual)

A reduced audio version of Connected is available to those who require it, please contact us via communications@ mothersunions.org or 0207 222 5533

Editor Sue Royal Sub Editor Claire Musters Art Editor Emma Golten Production Halcyon Editorial office Connected, Mothers’ Union, Mary Sumner House, 24 Tufton Street, London SW1P 3RB T: 020 7222 5533 E: communications@mothersunion.org Mothers’ Union Worldwide President Sheran Harper Chief Executive Bev Jullien T: 020 7222 5533 E: communications@mothersunion.org Published by Mothers’ Union as part of its membership offering © all contents are copyright 2021. The views expressed in this publication are not necessarily those of Mothers’ Union. While every effort is taken to ensure the accuracy of dates and comments, Mothers’ Union cannot accept responsibility for any loss, damage or inconvenience caused through any error or omission.

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WWP Welcome: Sheran Harper introduces you to our new members’ magazine

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Summer of Hope: Our plans to celebrate MU founder Mary Sumner

CEO Letter: Bev Julien shares Mothers’ Union’s global vision

Gender Justice: A look at our work in Uganda, the DRC and Myanmar

Peace and Safety: How we are making a difference in South Sudan, Ethiopia and Hereford

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Self-reliance: Projects making progress in Tanzania, South Sudan and Portsmouth

No More 1 in 3: What we did during the 16 Days of Activism to fight gender-based violence

Stronger together: Mothers’ Union partners who help us to speak out and be heard

MU at the UN: How we are working with the UNCSW to help women globally

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Hot Topics: Two Bishops give their views on the role of foodbanks My Mothers’ Union: Emily Brailsford from the Diocese of Derby

COVID-19 and After: How we aim to survive and thrive in spite of the pandemic

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Burdens lightened: Bags of love that can help people cope with loss

Reflection: Love lights up the dark times along with humour, says Angie Jones

Growing Leadership: MU needs leaders, could it be you, asks Marian Pope

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Adding up: Richard Miller explains how MU is updating its approach to recording funds

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Simply better: A Ugandan project shows how basic tools can transform

Better relations: An Ethiopian group builds a bright future Festive joy: How the Big Give Christmas Campaign will help in the DRC

Create a greeting: Enter our Christmas card competition Faith in action: Persevere when you pray and be close to God, says Catherine Kyte

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Healing nature: members mapping the best route to reach out Speaking volumes: The latest book reviews by members

Online benefits: Getting to know the virtual world can be easier than you think

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Best foot forward: Gozo and Malta members tackle the 5K challenge

Devotional: Bishop Emma Ineson shares her thoughts on the value of kindness

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Online shop: Putting our new products and old favourites on display

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KEEPING US CONNECTED Our Worldwide President Sheran Harper introduces the very first issue of our brand-new membership magazine

DEAR FRIENDS,

It is an absolute pleasure to welcome you to the inaugural edition of our new bi-annual membership magazine, Connected.

As members, we just love a great Mothers’ Union magazine, and this one is extra special because it is filled with the kind of inspiration we need at this time. Thank you, members, for your contributions, which certainly helped to make this venture a reality, and our team at Mary Sumner House, who captured the ideas and created this masterpiece.

Drawing us together

As we have observed the COVID-19 safety protocols in our countries, and continue to do so, members have been expressing feelings of loneliness and isolation, hopelessness and uncertainty. They miss the stability of feeling deeply rooted in a community of faith. I can understand this, because just the thought of a Mothers’ Union gathering creates a surge of excitement that is greatly missed. Social distancing and the fear of contracting COVID-19 has really caused us to withdraw into our own shells and spaces. Well, Connected is here to help alleviate some of

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the isolation, and re-energise the commitment to all that we stand for. It will, of course, also nurture the kind of fellowship we are so used to having, even if it is in a different way.

Connected will be doing exactly as its name implies: strengthening links across provinces, dioceses and branches; and providing opportunities to draw from the strength of others and make a real difference in the middle of everyday challenges.

You can expect each issue of the magazine to be colourful and filled with contributions from our faithful members. These will highlight the impact of Mothers’ Union as a whole, including our work with the UN Women’s Committee, and to carry content that shares information about the projects members are involved with.

Keeping focused

As we journey through the final year of this triennium in faith, and look to our 150th anniversary in 2026 with hope and confidence, it is my fervent prayer that we will keep God at the centre of our priorities and have a clear focus, as CEO Bev Jullien has said: ‘To ensure that MU continues to survive, while sowing www.mothersunion.org

WORLDWIDE PRESIDENT women globally experiencing some form of domestic abuse. Our partnership with the two Christian organisations, Thursdays in Black and Side by Side, will strengthen our commitment to making this world a safe place where God’s love shines through.

In addition to all that is happening in the busy life of MU, it’s time for triennial elections once again. May I ask that we approach the election process prayerfully, guided by the Holy Spirit.

Walking with God

the seeds to thrive beyond the crisis’. Of course, everything we plan and do will be aligned with the extensive work undertaken through Mothers’ Union Listening, Observing and Acting (MULOA) in our zones, and at Worldwide Council (WWC) 2019 in Kigali, as well as the three core areas approved in our Strategic Plan set out in 2019. These areas are: transforming lives by way of a peaceful and safe environment for all, gender justice where all can flourish, and self-reliance so that no one goes hungry.

With the global increase in domestic abuse resulting from COVID-19 lockdowns, members have taken the stand to move campaigning against domestic abuse from 16 days to 365 days. This is essential to bring an end to the alarming figures of one in three

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As Christians we were created to stay connected through prayer and Bible study, and as members in fellowship and service

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Even as we launch Connected, and use it to help build the profile of Mothers’ Union throughout the Anglican Communion and wider community, may we always be mindful that as Christians we were created to stay connected through prayer and Bible study, and as members in fellowship and service.

As I think of this verse from John 15, I am reminded of the eternal bond that unites us with God and with each other: ‘I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing’. John 15:5 (NIV) The thought of many branches getting their sustenance and strength from the parent vine is a beautiful analogy of our total dependence on God, and it gives us every reason to stay connected with him, and through him with each other.

May this Ascensiontide fill us with confidence for the future, for Jesus said: ‘I am with you always, even to the end of the age. Amen’. Matthew 28:20 (NKJV) Enjoy reading Connected. Your feedback is welcome.

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s we enter the 145th year of Mothers’ Union, and very gradually begin to move on from the immediate crisis of COVID-19, we can look with renewed hope and confidence towards the 150th anniversary of MU, in five years’ time.

When MU leaders from around the world met in Kigali, Rwanda, in June 2019, they painted a picture of a time where members were even more united as a fellowship of Christians around the world, putting faith into action in our communities, and working to build a future free of poverty, violence and injustice, where everyone can thrive.

This vision can be made a reality by creating strong, healthy relationships with God, with ourselves, and within our families and communities. It means continuing to help those around us to transform their own lives, by helping build self-reliance (for example, through literacy training and savings and credit groups); promoting peace and safety (with workshops for behavioural change within communities) and speaking up against gender injustice (for example, the 16 Days of Activism Against GenderBased Violence).

To deliver this vision, the Worldwide Board created a

strategic plan, which included four key building blocks: l Transforming Lives: Programme and policy work for long-term community transformation l Nurturing Membership: Ongoing faith support, increasing global connections, supporting current members and reaching out to the next generation l Building Firm Foundations: Ensuring we meet governance requirements l Accessing Necessary Resources: Working in partnership, attracting new sources of income, receiving support from all provinces worldwide.

TRANSFORMING LIVES IS OUR GOAL It has been a tough year, but Mothers’ Union is determined to help create a world where everyone can thrive, says CEO Bev Jullien

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GLOBAL VISION We are working to build a future free of poverty, violence and injustice

violence, in particular domestic abuse, which has increased during the pandemic – this year, we will When COVID-19 struck, Communication across begin to move from 16 Days the Board re-examined the dioceses and continents to 365 Days of Activism, by strategy, and decided that increased, with the first ever giving you practical ideas for the overall direction was online Member Update and speaking up and supporting still the right one. However, Worldwide Gathering, both run others locally, as well as they agreed that extra by members, for members. continuing to work globally focus was needed, to ensure In 2021, the central charity through the United Nations. that Mothers’ Union could is “cutting its cloth” to ensure We will continue to use continue to survive, and that we continue to support virtual communications to thrive, into the future. you, whilst living within our reach as many as possible We cannot thank members means through the difficult centrally, and to give those enough for your generosity times, and starting to build up we can reach the tools and in responding to the Urgent reserves for future rainy days. resources to share more Appeal in 2020, raising more widely with those who than £860,000. The central Savings and Credits cannot go online. team removed over £1m of Our programme work will Safeguarding is more costs. Including reducing be “focused and funded” – important than ever, and staff by one third (there is concentrating on what matters we will be working with the now a team of 27 supporting most, and progressing in line dioceses to ensure that we 4 million members with available funds. We are are managing data in line with worldwide). delighted that the Christmas data protection requirements.

We want to retain a very campaign is enabling the 2021 is the year for strong focus on nurturing work on literacy in the DRC the Triennial Elections to members. The final copy of to be extended – and that the Worldwide Board, so Families Worldwide, and the funds to continue the savings Mary Sumner House will first ever copy of the Annual and credits programme in be managing the process Prayer Diary for 2021, were Tanzania have been secured. together with diocesan delivered direct to the door Make a Mother’s Day and presidents around the world. of all members for whom the Christmas campaign this I believe that, whilst addresses were known. year will focus on enabling exceptionally tough, the Midday prayers were made transformational work – pandemic has given us the available through Facebook and the Summer of Hope is dual gifts of opening up new Live, and are also recorded designed to help you ways of working, and forcing for the Church of England replenish your own funds us to focus on what matters DailyHope phone line, for to support local work, as most. I truly believe that, those unable to access the well as strategic national or together, by God’s Grace internet. Other services were international projects. in 2021, we will begin to also created online, including Our aim is to continue to move towards the vision of the Thy Kingdom Come and raise the voices of members creating a world where Christmas Carol services. against gender-based everyone can thrive.

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MEDIA APPEALS SAVE GIRLS FROM ABUSE Using TV and radio in Uganda to raise awareness of gender-based violence gave people the courage to report abuse and 25 young women were rescued, says Barbara Mugisha

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his year the Uganda Mothers’ Union provincial team delivered radio shows and TV programmes to raise awareness of genderbased violence (GBV), and specifically the rise in cases as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic. As the genderbased violence programme began to be implemented across all regions of Uganda, several unreported cases arose. There is a cultural practice of keeping cases of violence silent, since it is taboo to mention anything, or report anyone who is a perpetrator.

This is one of the cultural practices that was dealt with through this programme,

Powerful words: Kedress Mutabazi and Peace Kiconco, spread the word about GBV

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with the aim of having more cases reported and also to increase awareness of violence against women and children in communities. A deliberate effort was made, through the radio shows, to build confidence in people to report any form of violence to local authorities.

After some of the radio shows went out, the Mothers’ Union Community Development Coordinator of one of the dioceses heard of a pastor who had trafficked some girls into his house. As a result of hearing the shows, someone came forward to report what they had heard about the pastor.

The pastor was from one of the villages in the diocese,

and was found hiding 25 girls below the age of 18, violating their rights by not giving them food and also sexually abusing them. He deceived their parents by telling them that he was taking them to good schools to gain muchneeded education, after not receiving any during lockdown in Kampala.

When Mothers’ Union found out, we were able to collaborate with the police officers, who arrested the pastor and returned the children to their parents.

Because we are rooted in the community, we are now able to support the families to overcome this trauma through counselling and psycho-social support.

People have now started to appreciate the importance of reporting cases of violence.

Breaking some cultural norms that promote violence against women and children requires continuous efforts through radio sessions and community dialogues to curb the situation.

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GENDER JUSTICE breaking down the taboos around reporting abuse and working closely with survivors of gender-based violence. We particularly want to focus on working with young boys to educate them about how they should value and treat women and girls, to ensure the men of the future do not contribute to the cycle of gender-based violence.

Barbara Mugisha is the Mothers’ Union Provincial Development Coordinator in Uganda.

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PARENTING COURSE HELPS MOTHERS

Facilitating better family relationships

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others’ Union members in Myanmar have run online zoom training for facilitators as part of their parenting programme, including gender-based violence awareness. Parenting participants have praised the course and explained how it has made a difference in their lives.

For example, one participant has five sons and daughters, and did not have her own house before attending the course.

She has built a new house, and she and her husband have a regular income from his work as a taxi driver. She and her husband quarrel less, and she feels better able to parent her children. As a result, her children are happier at home and respect their parents.

Another participant has four sons and a daughter. She found the parenting course inspiring and it has helped her cope with her son’s drug addiction. Since his mother joined the parenting course, he is fully recovered and is serving in the ministry of the church.

Mutual support: Mothers’ Union courses have improved participants’ family lives over Zoom

Tackling Violence and Abuse in Kinshasa Gender Champions project makes progress in DRC

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uring the COVID-19 pandemic, domestic abuse and violence increased across the globe. From early April 2020, MU coordinators reported increased instances of violence within their communities.

Marthe Vira, MU Provincial Coordinator in DR Congo, put together a project to train Gender Champions to work with their churches and community leaders to help address the problem and support households affected.

This has reduced exposure to exploitation

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and domestic abuse within households.

Francine and her husband have benefited first hand. Peace was restored after her husband attacked her for taking a part-time job to help with the household costs. The Gender Champion was able to help Francine get hospital treatment, whilst other team members counselled the husband and encouraged him to get help and apologise for his actions. The couple now report they are living in peace and Francine is free to do her job.

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AN EAGLE SPREADING HARMONY A ground-breaking peace project is using Bible studies to inspire

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n 2018, five Mothers’ Union Ethiopia representatives travelled to Uganda to understand how the Eagle process works in different dioceses, and how it could be adapted for the Gambella region.

A year later, Canon Alice Adukuru, Provincial Chaplain to Mothers’ Union Uganda, began training Mothers’ Union leaders of the Anuak and Nuer tribes to deliver the Eagle process in Gambella.

In February 2019, on a leadership retreat in Arua, Northern Uganda - Canon Alice’s diocese – 160 MU South Sudan leaders visited seven Eagle parishes and came away full of excitement and energy to replicate all they had seen in Uganda back in their dioceses in South Sudan.

Both countries aim to: l Reduce poverty by increasing self-sufficiency through income generating projects l Increase positive attitudes l Use participatory Bible studies to grow theological understanding l Build peaceful intertribal relationships.

In Ethiopia since December 2019, both the Anuak and Nuer MU have begun crop cultivation to generate income. The MU groups were convinced by the Eagle process Bible study from 2 Kings 4: 1-7 on Elisha and the Widow’s Oil, which focuses on the identification and mobilisation of under-used local resources. MU members have acted on this by identifying those resources, while

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New leaf: the tribes are working together to cement their fellowship

considering how they can make them fruitful through prayer.

Both the Anuak and Nuer MU groups will request land from the government to be used for joint cultivation. All applicants will need a savings balance in a local bank account.

Both MU groups will use some of their maize harvest profits to create enough savings to be eligible.

This is the first time that the Anuak and Nuer MU have planned a joint activity (especially requiring investment of time and resources) that goes beyond a prayer or fellowship day. This is a marked and exciting change in their relations.

One participant said this is part of ‘bringing peace to Gambella’, and that they want their fellowship to ‘bring peace in the community’ and to reach further than the Church.

For MU South Sudan, their Arua retreat helped them to plant seeds, which they have been nurturing, and growing in peace. In the Diocese of Akoba, tribal fighting among the

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PEACE AND SAFETY Dinka, Nuer and Murle was longstanding.

Elizabeth, the bishop’s wife, reports that since sharing what they had learned: ‘We are now free to use our Dinka language in the community. Before there would be fighting and trouble if we used it… The Murle used to take the women and children, but this has stopped. They also took the cattle, but this has stopped too. God has given us peace.

Before we didn’t know people outside of MU. We now know each other. Before they thought the Dinka caused trouble and fighting. People know us now and this is bringing peace and unity. My heart is very happy because I’m there with my people.’

Adua in the Diocese of Twic East shared similar experiences. They mobilised all the women in the community and spread the word about Eagle in a three-day workshop.

This has resulted in restarting their tailoring centre, which had been empty for a long time.

They have helped 100 women graduate.

‘Now all the tribes are meeting, the Nuer, Shulluk, all are one. Women bring

peace together. We have been taught to come together and do good things in our community,’ she added.

Despite low levels of women’s empowerment in Ethiopia and South Sudan, securing their livelihoods and addressing illiteracy are important ways women can create peaceful communities. Through their adult literacy programmes and with the Eagle process, Mothers’ Union are helping to restore peace, and helping tribal collaboration.

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Eagle has created unity and built strong relationships between the once disparate tribes. In December 2020, both Mothers’ Union groups met to mutually encourage one another. They greeted each other warmly, shared the seating rather than sitting separately and had a very congenial discussion — sharing the opportunities unlocked through the Eagle process, as well as their ongoing challenges.

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he Mothers’ Union in the Diocese of Hereford has provided support for more than a 100 people through their Crisis Intervention Fund and Store project this year. In that time, 27 women, 64 men and 28 children have been provided with essential household items, including women and children who have been in the refuge escaping domestic violence.

Referrals are made to the

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Mothers’ Union diocesan office, and grants are then awarded for the goods, or they are donated. The social workers give feedback from the recipients to the Mothers’ Union members.

Regular donations of goods arrive weekly for distribution, ensuring the intervention store is well stocked most of the time.

Prospects look good for the future too. The project has now been awarded

council funding and there are plans in progress to provide longer-term support, including for women and children who use refuge services and need household goods to start a new life.

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TEA STALL HELPS JANE START A NEW CHAPTER Groups empower women to seek business success, says Naomi Herbert

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hrough her membership of literacy and savings groups run by Mothers’ Union, Jane Sida managed to set up a successful tea stall and support her children after her husband left her.

Jane, who lives in South Sudan, has three children aged five, three and one. When her husband left, she had no income and did not know how to manage. She was scared that she would not be able to provide for her children and struggled to buy food. Her fellow Unity group members supported her and prayed for her, which helped give Jane the confidence to learn the business skills she needed.

The Unity group is one of the Village Savings and Loan Associations (VSLA) supported by Mothers’ Union South Sudan. Jane was part of the Literacy and Financial Education Programme (LFEP) in South Sudan since 2010.

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SAVINGSADD UPTO GREATER SELF-ESTEEM

Financial independence has paid dividends for Monica. By Abigail Saidi

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onica has been part of an MU savings group in Tanzania since 2018, which has had a huge impact on her self-esteem.

‘I am more independent. I can pay my children’s school fees and buy medication. I don’t have to rely on my husband anymore.’

Through the savings she has accumulated, Monica has been able

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SELF-RELIANCE become entrepreneurs, increase their families’ wellbeing and become self-reliant.

Once Jane was accredited literate, she and other Unity members formed the VSLA group, whose members save together, support each other and offer small loans to one another to start micro businesses. They also learn business skills, and the group facilitators use Participatory Rural Appraisal (PRA) tools to challenge the participants’ attitudes to fatalism, poverty and dependency.

Jane took a loan of SSP 10,000 (£25) to start a tea stall. She learned through business skills training that she should survey potential customers, to identify and prioritise people’s needs. Jane sells spiced black tea, hibiscus tea and coffee. Each week, Jane makes a profit of about SSP 6,000 (£15). Half of this profit feeds her children, who she now feels have more than enough to eat.

‘We are healthy and have enough to eat, due to my income,’ Jane said. She dreams of expanding her business when there is peace in South Sudan.

Being part of her group and their fellowship has made Jane read the Bible more often. As a result, Jane said she feels closer to Jesus. Since her neighbours have seen her struggle and emerge able to provide, they will come and share their burdens with her, so she can pray for them. to expand her food sales business to make it more financially viable and provide a much-needed second income for her family, relieving financial pressure and reducing conflict in her marriage.

She makes regular payments to the savings group’s social fund, used

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in emergencies like family sickness or death. Social funds are insurance — this puts Monica and her group among the minority of Tanzanians who have insurance – less than 30%. By working together, the group show their love and care for one another.

Through savings, Monica has been able to expand her small food sales business and make it more financially viable

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THETIES THATBIND Every small action creates effects which can be transforming, says Alison Fernandes

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n October 2019, Mothers’ Union’s Diocese of Portsmouth started Metamorphosis - a series of Bible study workshops using drama and art, prayer, games and simple tools to understand communities.

Relationships were built and mini projects planned. As the workshops progressed, a holiday hunger project was initiated and the church started hosting a weekly night shelter for homeless guests. The pandemic spawned new connections. Over Christmas, three churches knitted gloves and mittens and provided presents, chocolates and craft materials for children in two of the local homeless hostels. They made Christmas bags of love for staff in the local care home.

As one of the participants said: ‘I have gone from feeling I can’t do anything, to realising that although my “stone”; is small, it is creating ripples of change in the communities as I use my skills to help others.’

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MAKING I OUR VOICES HEARD

n November and December 2020, Mothers’ Union members globally took part in an action against gender-based violence, with a difference.

We supported 16 Days of Activism, as has happened for the last 10 years, but we also launched Mothers’ Union’s Global Day of Action on 5 December.

Most of the protests and other action took place online because of the worldwide pandemic.

You took part in marches, vigils, peaceful protests, reflections and church services – often at

We asked you to take action against gender-based violence - you responded magnificently

IRELAND: Ireland’s prayer diary

TRIO SAY NO: Ireland’s show of strength

ARGENTINA: Family focus: Catherine Le Tissier, MU lead in Argentina

GUYANA: Making a difference before God

STOP GBV: Argentinian MU members protest

SPREADING THE WORD: Ending the silence

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GLOBAL DAY OF ACTION a diocesan level. The day hinged on the statistic that 1 in 3 women and girls experience physical or sexual violence in their lifetime.

The peaceful protests were held around the world on Mothers’ Union’s Global Day with members showing the No More 1 in 3 signs and painting their lips with red crosses. On these pages we are sharing some of the 55 submissions from the 13 countries who took part.

The Global Day Cup of Tea Reflection and service

ENGLAND: Exeter Brew and Reflection

were jointly viewed more than 5,000 times across online and social media platforms.

The hard-hitting Mothers’ Union video of members virtual protests, was watched 14,000 times on Twitter and shared 109 times.

In the UK, because of Mothers’ Union’s work on the Domestic Abuse Bill, Nicola Jacobs, Domestic Abuse Commissioner for England and Wales, launched 16 Days of Activism with a video message, watched by 3.000

people across our platforms.

Through Mothers’ Union’s partnership with the charity Restored, 164 Survivors Handbooks have so far been delivered to refuges.

The handbooks were written

by Restored.

We can’t wait to make an even bigger impact for our 2021 Global Day, which will be held on 27 November - find out more at www.mothersunion. org/projects/16-daysactivism-against-genderbased-violence

PAIGNTON MU: Solidarity

BURUNDI: Power walk: Marching for change

KENYA: Learning the lessons: Educating on GBV

SIGNS OF THE TIMES: Kenya speaks out MADAGASCAR: Praying for change in Mahajanga

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MADAGASCAR: On the march in Toam

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ADVANCING IN HARMONY

With Thursdays in Black, Mothers’ Union is making progress against GBV and sexual abuse in South Africa, says Zonal Trustee Thembsie Mchunu

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nding gender-based violence (GBV) is Mothers’ Unions’ priority, and the South African based diocese is no exception.

The Thursdays in Black campaign, which promotes awareness-raising about GBV and supports victims of abuse and violence, provides support and helps them start a new life.

‘Victims are stigmatised,’ said Thembsie Mchunu, the Mothers’ Union Zonal Trustee.

‘To stop this discrimination, we have educated members about abuse. How people can recognise signs of sexual abuse, for example.’

Thembsie, who joined Mothers’ Union in 1978, said: ‘Our next step was to, where possible, form support groups, and counsel those who are ready to speak out.’

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The Archbishop of South Africa, Thabo Makgoba, and his bishops, supported the campaign to encourage people to speak out openly about GBV and sexual abuse.

People who had witnessed GBV, perhaps among their friends or relatives, felt able to go public about it, and take responsibility, Thembsie said.

In South Africa the extended family often lives together.

Most cases of sexual abuse are carried out by relatives, and the majority of GBV by partners, Thembsie said.

Mothers’ Union members have gone into schools to educate children about abuse and let them know they can speak out and get support. ‘Our members ask permission to work with the school, they go and teach the children about abuse, and then they are able to contact teachers to report

Speaking out: A demonstration against gender-based violence and abuse in South Africa

the abuse,’ Thembsie said.

Change is slow, but Thembsie is determined that they will make a difference.

Citing the 16 Days of Activism campaign, she said: ‘We are campaigning 365 days a year.’

On Thursdays, as well as dressing in black, Thembsie and Mothers’ Union members visit support groups to find out what supplies or help they might need, often toiletries and sanitary pads.

‘Victims of GBV are often not working and they stay at home. Once they feel enough is enough, they will just jump out without anything.’

As well as education, supplies and emotional support, Mothers’ Union also helps the groups to find work for the women, to help them get established in a new life.

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AMPLIFYING OURVOICE

After COVID -19, we need to rebuild our sense of community. Mothers’ Union’s partnership with Together, supports building stronger UK communities

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s the UK a fatally divided country, and if so, how can we heal those divisions? This question has been exercising increasing numbers in the wake of Brexit and COVID-19.

The charity Together was set up in response to the reported rising levels of loneliness and isolation, profound inequality, increasing poverty and divisive political debates.

Mothers’ Union works with Together at the grassroots, to spread a message of healing and partnership working to bind communities.

Together’s message aligns with Mothers’ Union’s main aims of belonging to a movement for change, and helping to build communities where everyone thrives.

Backed by the NHS, the Scouts, and organisations concerned with social cohesion such as the Jo Cox Foundation, and with the Archbishop of Canterbury, Justin Welby, chairing the steering committee, Together has a remit to try and heal divisions with the help of ordinary citizens.

Together wants the UK population to have their say about what will bring people closer, in what is hoped will be the biggest survey since the last census in 2011.

Together will be using the survey results to identify ways of creating a closer and more equal society.

Together launched in July 2020 with a Thank You event for the NHS response to COVID -19, in which an estimated 14 million people took part.

By sharing the survey information, Mothers’ Union is hoping to encourage members in the UK and Ireland to do their bit by joining the people making constructive suggestions.

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STRONGER TOGETHER

LINKSAROUND THE WORLD Joining up with other faith organisations increases reach

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o increase our impact, working with organisations like Side By Side enables us to be more effective, especially around priorities like ending gender-based violence internationally.The Side by Side partnership allows us to join a network of faith organisations spreading God’s word internationally, and it builds cooperation with other organisations at a global level. It helps us to reach more people, more effectively.

Our partnership with Side

by Side informs our work with UNCSW, the UN women’s committee. Joining up with other faith organisations, as well as the Anglican community internationally increases our influence. We are all supporting change together.

For example MU’s lead in Uganda, Barbara Mugisha, is on a Church of Uganda panel advocating to the government with Side by Side, and letting them know about gender injustice, especially during COVID-19, and pushing for change. It lets people know about measures like our radio project (see page 7), which rescued 25 young women from abuse and the need to expand these protective programmes.

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SENDING HOPE AROUNDTHE WORLD Since 2010 Mothers’ Union has worked with the UNCSW to overcome inequality, says Zonal Trustee and Provincial President of All Ireland June Butler

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e as members of Mothers’ Union strive to demonstrate our faith in action and that, in many ways, is similar to the United Nations’ ethos. The UN was established in 1945 to maintain international peace and security, develop friendly relations among nations and promote social progress, better living standards and human rights.

Our global movement, with over 4 million members in 84 countries, has the power to bring about positive change, particularly in the latter three areas.

Mothers’ Union has been sending representatives to the United Nations Commission on the Status of Women (UNCSW) for 10 years. It is a commission of the UN’s Economic and Social Council, and member nation representatives meet each

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March. In 2017 and 2019 I was an observer and you may have read my UN blogs about UNCSW. The concerns of UNCSW fit closely with the aims of Mothers’ Union’s strategic plan to transform lives - a peaceful and safe environment, gender justice and self-reliance. These are reflected in the submission we have made to UNCSW for 2021; its priority is women’s participation and decisionmaking in public life, the elimination of violence, achieving gender equality and empowering women and girls.

Mothers’ Union’s international projects are changing attitudes and starting that transformation.

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facilitators, they lead by example and give others confidence to take on similar roles. In Ethiopia, the literacy programme is about so much more than learning to read – it covers relationships, nutrition, growing crops and hygiene, and this broad approach is typical.

Eliminating violence against women is an ongoing struggle and the COVID-19 restrictions, which too often meant women were effectively imprisoned with their abusers, set back

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WHAT WE DO AT THE UN gender champions, striving pledging to tackle, the issues to end violence and support facing widows who, in many healing. We are working countries, are at risk of with faith charities and poverty and abuse by their organisations aligned with the former husbands’ families.

UN - including many in Britain As an UNCSW observer, I and Ireland - to further their was shocked by the evidence aims and give women control given and this is an area over their lives and provide which I believe Mothers’ legal, health, counselling and Union needs to address support services for those in the future. progress. Mothers’ Union affected by GBV and sexual Working on the ground, made submissions to UNCSW harassment.

Mothers’ Union can make last year, providing evidence Helping women set up such a difference. Our and supporting measures businesses to escape poverty financial support for to tackle this “second and to feed their children and worldwide projects is critical pandemic”. families, also aligns UNCSW’s and everything we do at Mothers’ Union projects aims with what we do as a home, from making scrubs in Africa and south east Asia charity. 32,000 women have for health workers and bags raise awareness of genderhad their lives changed by for prisoners leaving jail, to based violence (GBV) and our new community savings nurturing communities and encourage reporting, as and loan groups. In Tanzania advocacy against domestic well as tackling attitudes in 2019, there were 187 abuse and modern slavery, which drive acceptance groups with nearly 4,000 informs and strengthens and ignorance. During the members starting businesses our movement, and brings pandemic, media - especially and supporting community real change a step closer. radio - publicised COVID-19 projects.

UNCSW will not meet prevention and related Mothers’ Union has also physically in 2021 but MU problems; in Uganda, 25 co-signed the UNCSW will be there - virtually - to young women were rescued statement highlighting, and make our voice heard! from a perpetrator because someone reported concerns after hearing a radio MU is a non-governmental organisation in consultative broadcast. status with the Economic and Social Council of the In partnership with United Nations (ECOSOC) other charities, including We can submit statements in advance of key meetings, UNICEF, Mothers’ Union has and can register as observers at major events - in our challenged practices which case, the UN Commission for the Status of Women. perpetrate GBV, appointing Up to 20 members can be registered for UNCSW. community and national

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ARE FOODBANKS AN ACCEPTABLE SOLUTION TO THE PROBLEMS OF POVERTY IN THE UK? We hear from two bishops who are involved at the heart of efforts to help those most in need Bishop of Colchester, Roger Morris ‘I long for the day when foodbanks have ceased to exist. That is not to take anything away from the staff and volunteers; they do a superb job. However, they are not a long-term solution. They identify the gaps in safety nets in our community life. It points the finger of judgement at the rest of us – it should not happen in a country like ours, that those who are destitute or in poverty should have to rely on hand outs.

‘When I was appointed Bishop of Colchester, I also become a patron of the town’s foodbank.

It is a useful barometer which helps me to understand what is going on for people.

Increasing numbers of children and families are being forced into poverty.

Taking action

‘2020 was the year that child poverty was supposed to be ended in the UK. Some of the measures identified at the time of Every Child Matters in 2003 point the way to action we could be taking now. Now there are rising numbers of people using foodbanks.

‘There are things we can do immediately. For example, locking in the £20 addition to Universal Credit* to give people that guaranteed income.

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We could get rid of the two child benefit limit.

For example, in Essex, the biggest recent rise in unemployment is in Great Dunmow, triggered by job losses at Stansted Airport. Should those people really have thought, two or three years ago, that they shouldn’t have had another child in case they became unemployed? It is utterly wrong to penalise people in that way.

‘Similarly we could raise the Child Benefit element of Universal Credit to better support families and children. All primary school children whose parents are on any kind of benefit should have free school meals. Hats off to Marcus Rashford, he has done an amazing job.

‘We have an education system which perpetuates inequality; it needs root and branch reform. More affluent and articulate parents either fund education for their children privately or pay for tutoring so their children can pass exams and entrance tests – they are better placed to win appeals, or can travel further to schools with better outcomes. Children from poorer homes start out behind in the race and they never make up that distance.

‘This is where the Church can get involved: we have a massive stake in the education system.

‘We could learn from the Oasis Trust, which has set up and run academies in the toughest and most deprived areas of the UK. We should be having high-level meetings with them.’

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Bishop of Newcastle, Christine Hardman ‘I do not think that foodbanks are an acceptable solution to poverty, but it is very important that they are in existence.

‘To eradicate poverty is one of the most significant challenges that we face. Here in the north east, over 30 per cent of children live in relative poverty. Newcastle was a pilot area for Universal Credit. The delay in people being eligible to receive payments, and the relatively low level, is contributing to perpetuating poverty and debt.

‘I think we need to look hard at what’s the right level of benefit people should be receiving. Universal Credit is aimed at those on low incomes as well as the unemployed.

Ending the delay in payment would be helpful, as many families do not have savings, so get into debt. I would also support continuing the £20 increase in Universal Credit beyond April.* ‘I chair the Inclusive Economy Board of the North of Tyne Combined Authority. Its members include businesses, trade unions, industry, universities and civil society, and we use the expertise of organisations like the Joseph Rowntree Foundation. Our aim is to bring together people from different sectors

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to create good jobs with a living wage, and include people who are usually excluded from the benefits of economic growth. The rise in youth unemployment is one of the tragedies of the current situation, and the decimation of the hospitality sector. The Government has provided support, including the furlough scheme and the Kickstart scheme for young people, but I am hoping they will call upon regional expertise to get things right at a local level as we recover.

The Church on the ground

‘The Church is absolutely not called to be party political, but it is called to give voice to the voiceless, the poor and vulnerable.

This is happening at all levels in society, from the Bishops in the House of Lords who can wield some influence, to churches making a difference through the inspiration of faith and the everyday discipleship of ordinary Christians.

‘The Diocese of Newcastle has one of the largest foodbanks in the country, the West End Foodbank, run by the Trussell Trust and based at the Church of the Venerable Bede in Benwell. Not all the volunteers are Christians, but a lot of church members are involved. There are many foodbanks throughout the area, and I am proud of the commitment of local churches in supporting them. In the north east there traditionally has been a lot of hardship, but people have big hearts and there is also a lot of generosity.’ *At the time of interviewing this was still being debated.

The Right Reverend Christine Hardman was installed as Diocesan Bishop of Newcastle in 2015. She trained for ordination at St Albans Ministerial Training scheme and has a Masters in Applied Theology from Westminster College Oxford.

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FINDING HELP

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Emily Brailsford explains she was first drawn to MU for its support, but is now an active leader and can see how her life has been transformed

t was the supportive and caring aspect of Mothers’ Union that drew Emily Brailsford, 39, when she joined ten years ago, but she stayed for the activism and affirmation of faith that she also found. Emily, who is now a branch vice president in the Diocese of Derby and a lay reader, was going through a tough time after the birth of her daughter Eva, and with her son’s diagnosis of autism and ADHD. ‘Mothers’ Union members were so caring and supportive, they really welcomed me and were just wonderful. I felt as if I had gained a community of supportive women friends, like an extended family,’ Emily explains. “I do not know what I would have done without them. I feel very

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close to them all.’ Always a committed churchgoer, Emily has enjoyed that aspect of membership. Godly Play sessions, which involve talking to children about the Bible and helping them learn more about it, have helped her grow in faith.

Getting stuck in

The projects Mothers’ Union gets involved with and runs, which Emily feels need to be shared more widely, have also motivated her to extend what she does and join in with campaigning on a national level.

‘In 2018, our diocese got involved with the Moses Basket Project. We discovered that women in the refugee camp at Calais were giving birth on the bare earth, and they had nothing – no sanitary

pads, or baby grows, or any equipment you need for a newborn baby.

‘We collected baby grows and sanitary pads for the new mothers, and I really enjoyed being part of that.

It was simple to do, and as I work, this was a way to make a difference that I could take part in relatively easily.’

Mothers’ Union’s support and lobbying for the first Bill for free school meals in 2015 really made an impression on her too: ‘My two youngest children were at infant school then and it really brought home to me the impact that it would have on families.’

Passionate About Parenting courses have also had a major influence on Emily. She is now trained to deliver the courses and feels they play an important role in helping families to cope, especially in stressful times. ‘I took part in the programme in 2012 and it has taught me a lot. Parenting courses are really important, especially at the moment

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MY MOTHERS’ UNION with lockdown – there will be a lot of families in difficult situations, and children and parents who need support.’

Working on behalf of domestic abuse victims

In her job, Emily is part of the Willow Project, which raises awareness of domestic abuse in rural areas. ‘There is a perception that domestic abuse only happens in inner city flats, perpetrated by people on low incomes.

People see these idyllic little villages and think

nothing like domestic abuse could possibly be happening there. People are also geographically isolated in rural areas. The truth is that domestic abuse can happen anywhere and affect anyone.’

Emily is part of the Mothers’ Union steering group lobbying about the Domestic Abuse Bill, currently going through parliamentary process on its way to become law. By the time this article appears, the steering group will have lobbied the Lords Spiritual about aspects of the Bill they are hoping to have strengthened. This includes the regulations that exclude women who are asylum

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seekers from support from public funds in the UK: “They are here escaping from abuse, and if they are not eligible for any support, which makes it incredibly difficult for them.’

The Mothers’ Union group will also be lobbying to create a new offence to deal with non-fatal strangulation, which in the past has been used by abusers as a defence, by claiming it was part of a consenting sexual act gone wrong.

My involvement has changed me

With all the obvious negative effects of the pandemic, there has also been some opportunities to bring people together. Midday prayers conducted on Zoom have attracted growing numbers of members and some people have gone online for the first time. ‘Our branch has gained more members over lockdown,’Emily says.

‘Mothers’ Union has definitely changed me,’ reflects Emily. Whether it is motivating people as diocesan vice president or campaigning to change the law, she is passionate about her involvement and feels the breadth of the charity’s contribution is often overlooked. ‘I feel it is time that we all played our part in sharing the amazing work that Mothers’ Union does with as many people as we can.’

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ast year was a very challenging one, so however you were affected

by COVID-19, we are going forward in 2021 with hope.

However, the year did little to dampen the spirits and community feeling of our members. The way you have responded to the challenges of 2020 was nothing short of inspirational. We all believe that is what we are called to do – to be a shining light of God in dark times, to be there for our communities, to provide fellowship and love.

In March, when it emerged that there were significant difficulties ahead, we adapted and evolved, and it was you, in your kindness, who shared hope and gave confidence.

You showed faith in action by producing countless items of PPE for frontline workers and community members.

These efforts helped hold up the spread of COVID-19.

They saved lives.

When scrub bags were needed so that staff could keep clothing safely in a bag, pictured above, to reduce the risk of infection at home, you stepped up. Hilary Castle, Diocesan President of York, said: ‘Luckily, because we use craft in many of our community projects, most of our members have sewing machines and equipment. My branch alone made more than 200 items, everything we produce is washed at 60 degrees and sealed in bags.

Thanks to our existing networks, we could safely deliver scrubs and scrub bags to those in need.’

THE BEATING HEARTOFTHE MOVEMENT You stepped up magnificently to meet the challenges of the pandemic, says Rachael Anderson.

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In Llandaff, members made knitted hearts for NHS hospital coronavirus wards. Visiting restrictions during COVID-19 meant that many patients and their families were separated, but matching pairs of knitted hearts (pictured above), given to the patient and their family, helped people feel more connected. The hearts were posted to each family, with a small greetings card. Having something to hold, knowing that their relative had the exact matching heart with

them during the last hours of their life, was incredibly special and helped people to process their grief.

It has also been a time of what I can only describe as creative reflection. Mothers’ Union members in the Diocese of St Edmundsbury & Ipswich wrote a Book of Comfort - a collection of prayers and poems.

Jeanette Appleton said: ‘This really has been a labour of love for our team, and we believe the words and images can provide calm and peace at what has been a difficult time for so many.’ The book is available to buy and as a free download: https:// bit.ly/3dC8Nln

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We know Mothers’ Union cannot afford to stand still

You also adjusted quickly and adeptly to communicating with each other in new ways. In St Albans, Kim Wilkinson, Diocesan President said: ‘We have been incredibly grateful for the power of communication in these difficult times. Finding ways to be able to keep all members in touch has been vital. We have actively embraced phone calls, WhatsApp groups and even Zoom meetings.

More tech-savvy members have been able to use their skills to support others setting up equipment and downloading apps. The power of connecting cannot be underestimated and we’re continuing to do all that we can to ensure that people are not alone.’

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You work with some of the most vulnerable in society, and know the issue of isolation can affect us all during our lives. Members delivered doorstep gifts to those in need, (see above) When lockdown was enforced across the Britain and Ireland – we responded. In Clogher, Northern Ireland, members continued work to counter isolation. Irene Boyd, Diocesan President, Clogher, said: ‘We have been genuinely concerned about isolation and loneliness, even before COVID-19… Members are making sure they call those who are not online, supporting clergy in ringing around those in their parishes who need to connect.’

We could fill this whole magazine celebrating the work of our members during 2020, and I have shared only a few of the incredible stories. What shining lights you have been in times of darkness, and how we thank you.

As we look to the direction we want to go in this year, we know Mothers’ Union cannot afford to stand still, we must keep well and carry on. What a motivated, devoted, passionate and faithful membership you are.

In 2021 we are already rebuilding, growing, and thriving. We will carry out our work rebuilding hope and confidence in God’s name.

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CRAFTED WITH CARE Mothers’ Union members add love to the bags they make for the bereaved, homeless people and newly-released prisoners

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very year one in four people will experience a mental health problem.

By June 2020, twice as many people as usual reported experiencing depression, according to the Office for National Statistics.

Research by mental health charity Mind showed that traumatic experiences, including bereavement, changes in physical health, social exclusion and discrimination, can increase the likelihood of experiencing mental health issues.

At Mothers’ Union, we aim to stand alongside anyone experiencing a crisis, and

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offer support while working to counter discrimination and social exclusion.

At a recent Stories of Change webinar, Mothers’ Union members from four of our five Britain and Ireland provinces shared the important and transformational impact a simple bag can have. We observe, listen and respond to people’s needs in this small, but significant way. For example, when people are released from prison, they

are given a black bin liner for belongings, or a bag stamped with Her Majesty’s Prison.

In the Diocese of Newcastle, Mothers’ Union and the North East Prisoner After Care Society (NEPACS) provide Fresh Start Backpacks with toiletries, clothes, chewing gum, bus timetables and telephone numbers for those leaving prison.

Branches vary the design of the backpacks they supply, so that former prisoners will not stand out. According to Linda Benneworth, Action and Outreach Coordinator for Diocese of Newcastle, ‘the greatest benefit of our backpacks is for prisoners leaving jail who will be going into a hostel, where they really appreciate having a change of clothes and toiletries.’ They

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PROJECTS THAT MAKE A DIFFERENCE Gathered in: Bags made by members from the Diocese of Ely, Dublin & Glendalough members’ lock of hair pouches, and bags made for the Thorngate Churcher Trust in Gosport

help to restore the dignity of ex-offenders as they begin a new life in the community.

Mothers’ Union’s diocese in Ely, Cambridgeshire, supplies backpacks for homeless people in Wisbech. Members supply empty backpacks, local businesses fill them for people living on the streets. This partnership aims to show love, and to meet the basic needs of those facing adversity.

The Diocese of Ely also craft Blessings Bags, for local hospitals to hold the belongings of deceased friends or relatives. It feels a lot more personal than a plastic carrier bag, and has special pockets for valuables.

It is a way of showing care and respect. Hazel Williams, Deputy President of the Diocese of Ely, said: ‘Nurses in the hospital who give grieving relatives the bags feel much better about passing on something handmade, rather than a plastic carrier bag.’

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Bags are crafted from cream cotton with a drawstring and the daisy motif, Dublin Children’s Hospital’s end of life symbol. Bereaved families fill them with mementos of their loved ones. The Dublin City Mortuary recently asked Mothers’ Union to supply Bereavement Bags, with a knitted teddy and blanket, to place next to any infant or child in their care. A morgue staff member said: ‘Care and dignity are of utmost concern for us with every person we treat… I saw your bag and thought it was very nice.’

Dublin & Glendalough members also make Locks of Hair Pouches. They were requested from the End of Life team in Tallaght University Hospital, Dublin. Families

keep a lock of hair from the person who has died. They are mostly accident victims whose families have taken the decision to donate their organs.

Bags of Love or Comfort Bags are given to adults dropping children off at school or nursery for the first time.

They usually include a tea bag or coffee sachet, biscuits, tissues and two prayers – one each for the parent and child.

It’s a way of Mothers’ Union saying that they are standing alongside families at this major milestone.

So whatever the life event, Mothers’ Union members are there to step in to show love and thoughtfulness at a difficult time, give people dignity, and help individuals to feel cared for. They make what seems to be a simple everyday bag mean a great deal.

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THE QUIET STRENGTH OF

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Our MU Central Chaplain, Bishop Emma Ineson, urges us to show kindness to those around us – as well as ourselves

he Mothers’ Union theme of this year is “Rebuilding hope and confidence”.

How we need to rebuild after recent events! As I write this, England is in another national lockdown due to the COVID -19 pandemic. Who knows where we will be by the time you read this article? I hope we will be in a much better place, and that vaccines will mean that the virus is on its way out, but the experience of the last year or so has taught me that it’s dangerous to hope too definitely for things about which we may well be disappointed. As we live though turbulent and unpredictable times, it can be difficult to know what to focus on, or how best to live our lives, because we have so

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little apparent control over our external circumstances.

But one thing we will always have control over is our internal landscape and our choices about how to interact with other people.

We can decide which values and qualities we wish to see coming to the fore in our own lives, and in our own attitudes.

And one of the things we can choose to be is – kind.

Reflecting God’s character

Kindness is an underrated quality in our society. We tend to admire people who are intelligent, decisive, courageous, strategic; people who get things done. And at different times and for different reasons, those qualities might be very necessary. But I wonder if what we most need to cultivate, in these strange and unusual days, is kindness.

Whatever state our country

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and forgiving towards each other, even those we most disagree with, not because we feel like it, but because in so doing we will be showing one of the family characteristics of our Father God: ‘Love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked’ (Luke 6:35).

Kindness is, after all one of the fruits of the Spirit: ‘love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control’ (Galatians 5:22–23, NASB).

Kindness is right at the heart of what it means to love.

When St. Paul wrote about the qualities of love, he mentioned kindness as part of the package: ‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs’. (1 Corinthians 13:4– 5). Kindness is also one of the hallmarks of community and a sign of how Christians are to treat each other: ‘Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you’ (Ephesians 4:32).

So I wonder what it might look like for you and I to express this undervalued

yet crucial quality in our own lives? Perhaps it might begin with simply committing to be more kind in our interactions, conversations and dialogues.

So much of our public debate is shrill and critical, and entire entertainment shows are based on people saying unkind things to and about each other. Let’s be different, and season our comments with kindness – even towards those who most wind us up!

And don’t forget one very important thing: take time to be kind to yourself too.

Mothers’ Union members are invariably great “doers”. Sometimes we need to remember to take care of ourselves in order to be able to take care of others. What act of kindness could you show yourself today?

‘Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart’ (Proverbs 3:3, NASB).

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is in, wherever we are with the vaccine rollout, whatever challenges we are living through, one thing that will never be unwelcome is a little kindness. Far from being a weak and pathetic quality, to be kind is to show great strength.

When we are kind to one another we reflect the character of God. In the book of Ruth, a key theme is the faithful, loyal loving-kindness of God towards his people.

This kindness is reflected in turn in the way the characters in the story, particularly Ruth, Naomi and Boaz, treat each other (see Ruth 1:8, 2:20, 3:10). Jesus encourages us as his followers to be kind

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e are so excited to tell you that our new online shop is open - with a range of fresh, exciting collections ready for Spring 2021.

You will find over 400 gift and greeting card products to choose from. Sign up to our monthly eNewsletter for our latest promotions and updates.

It’s super easy shopping with us online, but if you prefer receiving a mail order catalogue you can order your FREE copy (SKU CAT2021SS) at www.mueshop.org today!

We can’t wait to see you there!

We are very active in supporting our members’ needs through our retail channels with branded and non-branded merchandise.

In 2020, we saw a year of change in the way we shop and what we shop for. As Mothers’ Union events throughout the world changed, we saw a shift in what our members were buying.

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Check out Mothers’ Union’s new online shop for old favourites and exciting new products, says Online Retail Manager Andy Summers

VIRTUALLY THE BEST! Some of the key trends for 2020 were the joy of sending greeting cards, keeping us together although very much apart. We saw a wonderful uplift in sales and have since introduced a new small notelet and blank greeting card range to help our members stay in touch.

BLUE TIT CC0521 £2.00.

100mm x 100mm.

Pack of 5 cards.

POPPIES CC0524 £5.25.

150mm x 150mm.

Pack of 5 cards.

MOSAIC BIRD MIX CC0525 £4.75. 105mm x105mm.

Pack of 12 cards.

WATERCOLOUR BIRD CC0514 £5.50. 150mm x 150mm.

Pack of 5 foiled cards. www.mothersunion.org

ONLINE SHOP Another trend all around us, which will continue into 2021, was the importance of outdoor space and how we came to appreciate it. This spring we introduce a range of products which you can enjoy outside.

BIRD OUTDOOR MUG GL1102 £10.00. Keep your drinks warm whilst relaxing in the garden or on a walk.

BIRD FEEDER HANGER GL1103 £3.00. These adorable bird feeders are perfect to hang on a tree or bush to encourage birds into your garden.

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BUTTERFLY BANANA FEEDER GL1104 £4.50.

Butterflies love the colour yellow and are attracted to bananas, hang this in your garden and watch.

You will find more than 400 gift and greeting card products for every occasion

FLOWER FIELD CC0526 £5.25. 150mm x 150mm.

Pack of 5 cards.

We have also welcomed our new Blue Tit Collectable adorned with his Mothers’ Union branded scarf by popular supplier Ravensdale.

These beautifully soft collectables will be released with each catalogue, collect them all or send as a perfect, comforting gift.

BLUE TIT COLLECTABLE: SPRING 2021 MUC001 £10.00. 100mm x 135mm.

Limited stock – don’t miss out

TOO MANY CANDLES. CC0518 £5.25. 150mm x 150mm.

Pack of 5 cards.

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LIFE ISALWAYS SORROWAND JOY In a time of sadness and loss, there can be profound moments of spiritual happiness too, says Angie Jones

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n the midst of the turmoil in 2020 my mother-inlaw became ill. She was in and out of hospital and for much of the time we couldn’t see her. Then in December we had the telephone call we’d half expected. The doctors didn’t think she had long to live. Margaret had been moved into a side room and we were allowed to visit.

The next day we drove the 130 miles to Chichester, preparing ourselves for we knew not what.

Margaret was sitting up in bed and recognised us as we approached. Initially she was cross because she had to be in hospital and she demanded that we ‘get her out!’ But it wasn’t long before

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we were talking about old times and she relaxed into the conversation.

Now it’s confession time.

I haven’t always found my mother-in-law easy to get along with. There have been some difficult moments over the years. But that afternoon became a holy time.

She asked me to read Psalm 23 and when I got to the last line something quite beautiful happened.

‘Yes, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil….For You are with me….’ I read, ‘Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life,’ I continued with a faltering voice and as I paused, Margaret whispered:

‘And I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever.’

It was as if the Holy Spirit of God came for she began to say deep, important things that we’d never heard from her lips before; affirming words: an admission she wished she’d known us better; and a thanks for all we’d done.

Tears flowed with the healing of hurts.

We had three hours together and as I left my husband to have a final time alone with his mum, I kissed her forehead and thanked her for all she’d done for us too.

Later as we drove home, windscreen wiper swishing away the rain, I said: ‘Now we can start again. The past has been dealt with and when we www.mothersunion.org

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It was as if the Holy Spirit came for she began to say deep, important things that we’d never heard from her lips before

meet in paradise it will be a new relationship,’ and I felt a surge of joy bubble up within me.

A few days later when my husband phoned to speak to her she said: ‘Thanks for being my son. Bye for now, speak to you soon.’ Shortly after, she died.

I guess many of you will know sadness and loss at this time. Families and neighbourhoods have been devastated by the virus. How people need to know the love and forgiveness of God! This life is only part of our story – eternity awaits. Perhaps you need a conversation, as we had, to put the past right, while you still can?

All the days of our life on earth are a gift from God, to be accepted with thanks and used well.

Psalm 90:12 reads: ‘Teach us to number our days, so we can apply our hearts to wisdom.’

In the uncertainty of these times as we give the passerby in the street a wide berth

and hide our smiles behind face masks, how can we bring God’s blessings upon those around us?

We need to seek His prompting as we begin each day. Perhaps a telephone call to someone who is lonely?

Or a letter (remember them)!

Or an email?

Isaiah 50:4. Adonai, The Lord has given me the tongue of those who are taught, so I would know how to speak a word in season to him that is weary.

Or perhaps more time in prayer? The workers in the NHS need God’s strength and protection and those we know who are ill or bereaved.

People seem so grateful when you say: ‘I’ll pray for you.’

Challenging times. But not all sad. There have been some funny moments to treasure too.

My mum is 89 and proud of it. Although I’m not able to enter her house (which was fine in the summer, but not so good now), I’ve called regularly to check she’s OK

and take groceries which she can’t get in her village. When I telephoned yesterday she said: ‘I was up ‘til ten to twelve last night, watching snooker on the telly.’

One day she offered me some yoghurt, as she’d got a lot. I noticed it was well past it’s best before date. ‘Mum, it’s way out of date!’ I said, horrified. ‘I know,’ came her reply, ‘that’s why I’m eating it!’

She’s quite a character, my mum. My niece makes knickers for her family. She gave mum a pair of drawers for Christmas. She’s given me permission to share a photo of mum modelling them on Christmas Day to bring a smile to your face!

As 2021 unfolds, look for laughter and know the joy of the Lord in your hearts – whatever it brings!

Psalm 30:6 Weeping may endure for a night, but a ringing cry of joyful praise comes in the morning (NIV).

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SUMMER OF HOPE

CELEBRATE AND LOOK FORWARD WITH US

Unite in Mary Sumner’s name - let’s make this year the best Summer of Hope campaign ever!

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ope – something most of us have called on over these last 18 months – more than ever before.

We have rallied to do all we can to keep spirits high and support those who need us. As a global movement we responded (see p22-23 for Mothers’ Union’s COVID-19 response). Now, as we turn to the next chapter of this pandemic, we are reminded of how the impacts of this virus have, in many cases, exacerbated pre-existing issues around equality, justice and poverty – from our own doorsteps to our sisters and brothers round the world, especially in some of the world’s poorest countries.

Our commitment to giving families and communities hope for a better future is needed more than ever, and our 2021 Summer of Hope campaign is one page of this next chapter.

This year our Summer of Hope campaign will be bigger and better than ever. For the first time we are planning Summer of Hope to run for three months, starting in June with the launch of MU on the Move, to engage members across Britain and Ireland to take part in 145 themed walks, runs or other forms of exercise, raising funds to spread hope around the world.

In June and July, many of our branches hold wonderful events to celebrate and raise vital funds. Being optimistic, but not

Faithful service: the Diocese of North Eastern Caribbean and Aruba, Antigua, mark Mary Sumner Day in 2020

taking anything for granted, this year we are producing resources and providing support to compliment any in-person events you run, including virtual and at-home activities and ideas.

The Summer of Hope campaign will draw to a close with a month of fellowship and praise to mark the centenary of our founder Mary Sumner’s passing. So do look out for the service ideas and resources too.

This will all be wrapped up with wonderful stories and pictures of the difference you have made through supporting Summer of Hope over the years, as well as ideas for focusing your support and prayers in 2021.

All these campaign materials will be coming direct to your door in early May, so keep your eyes peeled. We will also be adding further ideas and resources to the website www.mothersunion.org, just click the Summer of Hope article on the home page.

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GROWING LEADERSHIP

ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO BRANCH OUT

You could be the next leader in your diocese, or you could be the one to give a fellow member the confidence to step up, says Marian Pope

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ast year was one of unforeseen challenges and firsts. Joining a meeting using Zoom or coping with wearing a face mask. It’s amazing how we have adapted to so many things outside our comfort zone.

In 2021, as well as the global pandemic, Mothers’ Union members have the added challenge of helping the charity move forward into the future.

During this year, the process of nominations and elections will be taking place in dioceses, provinces and worldwide, to uncover those with the passion to contribute to the development of Mothers’

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Union in the new triennial period, starting in January 2022.

You may think this has nothing to do with you. But it has. Everyone who belongs to Mothers’ Union, who wants to see the movement flourish and increase its impact, can be involved.

Voting for Change

Mothers’ Union is a leading Christian movement for change, active at the heart of communities, sharing God’s love through practical action, spiritual support and emotional care. We want to build communities where everyone thrives, but especially women and girls, and encourage others to

join us. What can you do in the election process in your diocese? It may seem obvious, but the first thing to do is to pray. Take some time, either individually or with a group of members, to listen to God. You can find a reflection focusing on the election process on the Mothers’ Union website here: www.mothersunion. org/2021-theme-rebuildinghope-and-confidence or take time to read and reflect on Bible passages such as 1 Samuel 3:1-10 (NIV) or 1 Peter:10-11 (NIV).

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run. They play a vital role in identifying the needs of their local communities and identifying appropriate ways in which members in their diocese can respond. Between them, trustees should bring a mix of skills and experience, as well as their individual commitment to the charity.

Would you consider being a trustee for Mothers’ Union in your diocese?

To find out what is involved, speak to your diocesan president or a current diocesan trustee. Asking for information does not commit you to anything, and it’s important to know what you are taking on. Being a trustee can seem daunting – and while it is a role with legal responsibilities that need to be taken seriously, it can also be immensely rewarding to help shape Mothers’ Union in your diocese.

Finding potential trustees is the responsibility of every member who wants to see Mothers’ Union flourish and continue transforming lives.

Do you know someone who would be an asset to the development of Mothers’ Union in your diocese? Some people don’t recognise their

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own abilities, perhaps because of a lack of self-belief, and so they don’t realise the value of their contribution. Others may think they have something to offer, but don’t have the confidence to put themselves forward. Perhaps it is your challenge to affirm, persuade and encourage others whom you see as having the potential to be an effective part of the leadership team in your diocese.

It’s possible you may find one person to do this – but is this the best approach? Isn’t it better to find a group of people who can each take on a little?

This has so many benefits.

Sharing responsibilities allows more people to be actively involved in Mothers’ Union. It Positive Contribution enables everyone to give what Sometimes encouragement they can and to experience isn’t enough. There are many the fulfilment of making individuals in Mothers’ Union things happen – whether in weighed down with so many their local group, or more tasks and responsibilities that widely in the diocese. As St. either prevent them from Paul was so fond of reminding taking on roles in which they the early Church, the body could excel, or that would limit is made up of many different their effectiveness to carry parts and each has its own them out. vital contribution to make to And this presents another the whole. challenge – if you see The challenge to us all is to someone who has a positive consider what we can offer contribution to make to to Mothers’ Union in this Mothers’ Union in your election year – whether diocese, what can you (and to volunteer to take on a others) do to support and diocesan leadership role, to enable them to do to get encourage others to fulfil their involved? Can you free them potential, or to offer to take of all or some of their current on a little more and create the responsibilities in your local space for others to flourish. group, to take on new ones?

If 2020 has taught us anything, it is that we can Do you know someone who could rise to any challenge –so there’s no excuse not to rise be an asset to the development to this one.

of Mothers’ Union?

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MONEY MATTERS

Head of Finance and Services Richard Miller explains how we are following charity sector best practice

HOW MOTHERS’ UNION MAKES THE SUMS ADD UP

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s part of Mothers’ Union’s ongoing efforts to increase members’ understanding of its aims, and how it spends its money, the Board of Trustees is updating Mothers’ Union’s approach to fund accounting, in line with charity sector best practice.

Three longstanding restricted funds* of an indefinite and non-project specific nature, were closed to donations on 31 December 2020, and three new replacement designated funds** opened to receive future donations. The festricted funds involved are: l the Overseas Fund, l the Britain and Ireland Development Fund. l the Relief Fund.

What does this mean for members and donors?

There are no implications

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for Mothers’ Union’s current spending plans, or future donations. All monies in the restricted funds at 31 December 2020 will be spent in line with the funds’ governing terms of reference.

All monies received from 1 January 2021, with nomenclature or accompanying instructions akin to the old restricted funds, will be placed in new designated funds of those names, with identical terms of reference to the restricted funds they are replacing.

The immediate changes are administrative.

In the longer term our fundraising asks will encourage support for the charity in general, or for specific projects or initiatives, to provide

members and donors with greater clarity about what Mothers’ Union wants to do, and how money has been spent. The Christmas campaign for the Democratic republic of Congo, with funds raised allocated to a new, project-specific restricted fund, took this approach.

Those interested in learning more can speak with their diocesan president, or find a more detailed write up of the changes on our website. www.mothersunion.org/ global-membership-renewal GLOSSARY: *Restricted funds: can only be spent on a specific project or a particular area. **Designated funds: unrestricted funds earmarked for particular purposes.

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MODEL HOMES

AN EAGLE HELPS YOUNG WOMEN’S LIVESTAKE OFF

tops, measuring cups and kitchen spoons.

Focus on God

The aim is to restore God’s land to its original state.

Those taking part have Life can be hard in Uganda, but a Mothers’ reported improvements on modern farming techniques.

Union project is helping. Barbara Mugisha Bible verses accompany the and Ruth Segane report process, such as Ecclesiastes oung women’s lives Valuing women 3:11 – ‘He has made everything are taking flight thanks This can be applied to any appropriate in its time’ and to Eagle, Mothers’ aspect of life. If genderColossians 3:23 – ‘Whatever Union’s flagship programme based violence is prevalent, you do, do your work heartily, in Uganda, which began in facilitators work towards as for the Lord rather than 2013. It has reduced teenage changing perception of for men’. pregnancy, early marriage, gender roles.

Crops produced include and gender-based violence.

Many Ugandans face food cabbage, green peppers, Using Church and poverty and insecurity daily. carrots, rosemary, tomatoes, Community Mobilisation Eagle trainer Ruth Segane onions, garlic, lemon, fennel (CCM) based methodologies, it (pictured), helped set up and coriander. tackles harmful beliefs around model homes to show simple Ruth also demonstrates how self-worth, dependency and tools can produce food for the to create washing methods. the availability of resources. family, the local community, or The tippy tap (pictured) is The programme encourages to sell. The model homes also made from a bottle, wood and imagining a better future and provide washing facilities light string. A pedal tilts the bottle, shows how to achieve it. and heat. There are 38 model so that the tap and the bucket Bible studies encourage homes in Ruth’s diocese of of water can be used more the understanding that God Luwero, and MU has provided than once because people created us with unique gifts seeds, demonstrations and don’t have to touch it. and by working together as training.

The model homes are a a church and/or community, One technique is ‘Farming great way to use everyday that potential is released for God’s Way’, invented in the objects. However, crucially, the common good.

1980s by Brian Oldreive in when combined with the Eagle Zimbabwe. It uses inexpensive teachings, they demonstrate items like rope, bottle how we do not need to seek external help to bring God’s love to those around us.

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EARLY MARRIAGE

LIFE LESSONS

OVERSEAS PROJECTS

Saturday group in Ethiopia helps young girls build a bright future

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ach Saturday morning, young women aged 11-18 gather in groups across Gambella town. Led by Awar Othow Odol, MU Coordinator and graduate of the local Anglican theological college, it focuses on preventing early marriage by teaching about puberty, menstruation and sex. Orphans or those in vulnerable circumstances are prioritised, to avoid them being forced into arranged early marriages.

Traditional culture teaches girls they should not leave their house if menstruating.

And in Gambella, like the majority of Ethiopia, girls cannot attend school without

underwear. So sanitary pads and underwear are provided.

Early marriage and pregnancy commonly results in obstructed labour and increased risk of death in childbirth. Early marriage also contributes to girls dropping out of school, especially if pregnant.

Awar was forced to marry at 17. ‘I use my life as an example.

I didn’t get an education and dropped out of school when young, got married and got diseases,’ she said.

‘This group helps the girls learn and that is very important to me. If I got training like this I would have been different, my experience

makes me volunteer with all my heart. I give Saturday to them so they have the best future and a good life, and avoid experiencing all that I did.’

These Saturday meetings are treasured times. The girls love learning new skills, gaining knowledge and making jewellery and handicrafts.

Nuch, aged 17, said: ‘I thank God for this opportunity to learn as I didn’t get it in school.

I have learnt many things and I now know myself — who I am. Some of my friends are married, some with children and some have HIV. I want to give thanks to Awar — the training she has given me I didn’t even receive from my mum. I want it to continue and I want more for my life’.

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CHRISTMAS CAMPAIGN SUCCESS

THE BEST PRESENT: A BRIGHT FUTURE

Our record-breaking Christmas campaign will help thousands of women in the DRC escape the poverty trap – Thank you

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n 2020, Mothers’ Union decided to take a fresh approach to its annual Christmas campaign and raise money to fund a twoyear project to support 1,800 women in the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC) in accessing life-changing literacy and skills training workshops.

To help us reach our fundraising target in an increasingly challenging economic climate, we took part in the Big Give Christmas Challenge, which enables charities to reach new audiences online and maximise donations through match funding.

‘The opportunity to secure match funding for members’ donations, making each pound you donate go twice as far, was an opportunity we could not pass up, especially after the way you all so generously

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responded to our Urgent Appeal earlier in the year,’ said Adam Sach, Mothers’ Union Head of Fundraising, Communications and Retail.

Our Christmas campaign was a resounding success, raising more than £124,000 to transform lives in the DRC.

which displaces local people, contributes to poverty, particularly in the north western and Kasai regions.

Our literacy and skills training project in the DRC is about so much more than that.

As well as literacy, business and agricultural skills training in the community, the project How will your helps reduce sexual and donations help? gender-based violence, and The DRC is one of the poorest bring about improvements in countries in the world, coming health, hygiene and nutrition.

179th out of 189 countries Naomi Herbert, Mothers’ in the Human Development Union’s Regional Development Index, with 76 per cent of its Lead for the DRC, said: population estimated to be ‘Thanks to your generous living below the poverty line on donations, we are able to less than $1.90 (£1.40) a day. support individuals through Repeated conflict and literacy and savings skills outbreaks of disease, plus training to grow businesses economic and political and build their confidence to uncertainty, coupled with take on leadership roles in the illegal mineral extraction community.’

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CHRISTMAS CARD DESIGN COMPETITION

DRAWING ON OUR MEMBERS’TALENT C alling all artists, would-be artists and designers among Mothers’ Union members! Here’s your chance to create a Christmas card for our 2021 range.

What do you think makes a beautiful card to celebrate this important Christian festival?

Why not have a go at producing something special?

The competition will run from 15 April until 1 June 2021. All artwork styles and themes are welcome. Please see below for further details.

We will feature the winner in our catalogue and you can have the thrill of seeing your design reaching a wide audience and becoming part of the Mothers’ Union Christmas celebration.

If you are interested in taking part, here are some pointers to help you get started with creating a card: l What attracts you to one Christmas card over another? l Do you prefer traditional images like the nativity or something more abstract such as a peace dove? l Would you choose a snowy scene, or something decorative with a verse from the Bible?

Mothers’ Union celebration cards to mark Christmas festivals are many and varied – from cards to colour in, or those showing angels, robins and Mary and the baby Jesus.

The most popular Christmas cards in our catalogue last year depicted winter woodland, robins, angels and Nativity themes.

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l The winning design will be turned into a greeting card to be sold online and in the Autumn/Winter Mothers’

Union mail order catalogue from July. l The artist will receive 10 free packs of cards of their design. All profits will be used to increase the impact of Mothers’ Union’s work around the world. l Please ensure the design is no bigger than A4 (29.7 x 21cms). l We are unable to return artwork, you may wish to send a copy and not the original. l Please post your entries to: Retail Team, Mothers’ Union Mary Sumner House, 24 Tufton Street, London, SW1P 3RB or email to communications@mothersunion.org Terms & Conditions l One entry per person. l Full copyright to Mothers’ Union. l Your name will be printed on the greeting card reverse and in articles relating to the winning design. l No entries will be accepted after the closing date. l Artwork may be slightly modified to fit.

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he Archbishop of Canterbury, Justin Welby, once said of Mothers’ Union: ‘The Mothers’ Union campaigns excellently, it nurtures wonderfully, but above all and beneath all, it prays – thank God’.

And he’s absolutely right – we do! Everything we undertake in the name of Mothers’ Union; our projects and initiatives, our campaigning for social justice, our care for one another, all are built on a foundation of prayer. And once up and running, are supported by an ongoing reliance on prayer.

So far so true! But if we’re honest, many of us would admit to finding it hard to always know what to pray and to know how to pray, whether in our own personal times or with others. When we read in the Bible directions such

as pray continually, or pray and don’t give up we can sometimes see this as an impossibility rather than an inspiration! It’s not that we don’t believe in the power of prayer or the willingness of God to answer, it’s just that the actual mechanics of engaging meaningfully in the process can often prove to be a challenge. Or am I the only one who has surreptitiously looked at my watch during a time of prayer, finding to my dismay that only five minutes have gone and I can’t think of one more thing to say?

Of course, we all know people who seem to have a real gift of praying and whose prayers are inspiring and effective – and I’ve met many of you through my work with Mothers’ Union.

But God values every faltering attempt as much

as the articulate offerings of the gifted.

So the aim behind Praying with Purpose is to make it as easy as possible for everyone to naturally engage in prayer, and to find it encouraging and meaningful. It does this by offering different ways for both groups and individuals at home to create a prayer time which is accessible and enjoyable.

Praying with Purpose consists of a number of resources which you can use to select prayer suggestions to put together a “bespoke” prayer time for a particular need. At the heart of these resources are templates for prayer times into which you can incorporate your chosen ideas. These follow a pattern, which starts by building faith, giving thanks for answered prayer, intercession for

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particularly apt to use the answer Jesus gave to the disciples’ plea for him to teach them how to pray current needs and ends with given a number of creative – a plea we still make to blessing. The emphasis is ideas for intercessions. For him today. on variety in praying so that example, you could write We hope that as groups everyone who participates prayers for your community and individuals become can feel both comfortable initiatives or concerns on comfortable to pray in and inspired to pray! post-it notes and stick them these ways, and experience At the beginning of on a map of your local area. answers to their prayers, the prayer time, there’s If possible, display the map faith and confidence to pray opportunity to encourage as a reminder to pray – and will flourish. Also that you each other with Bible verses as a prayer is answered you will feel free to adapt the and quotes about prayer as could replace the post-it resources provided and to you get ready to bring your note prayer with a prayer of use your own prayer ideas. specific prayers to God. (I thanks. If you use different Praying with Purpose is especially like the quote from colour notes for requests intended to be a “living” Martin Luther who said that and answers, the reasons resource; growing and prayer is not overcoming for thanks will be even changing as new ideas from God’s reluctance, but laying more noticeable! those who use it are included. hold of His willingness).

To end the prayer time A prayer insert is free with The next step makes space there are some examples of this edition of Connected, and to share any answers to Biblical blessings to choose you can find the Praying with prayer from previous times, from (or use your own), which Purpose resources on the and new and ongoing prayer you could expand to reflect Mothers’ Union website: needs. If you’re praying for the specific work or situation www.mothersunion.org/ a project or initiative, it’s you’ve been praying for. praying-with-purpose good for those involved Another prayer template in it to provide up to date in the resources is based on information, especially if the Lord’s Prayer. It seems they’re not able to join you for prayer. Keep a note of answered prayers and you’ll have the joy of seeing the list grow over the weeks.

Step three is where you get down to actually praying for specific needs of the moment. Here we’ve

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CREATING A COMMUNITY OF WALKING FRIENDS

The wellbeing benefits of the countryside are no secret, and Redmarley member Becky Phillips wants to make sure they are available for everyone

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ountry walks have been vital to people’s routines during COVID-19, and that has continued since lockdowns have been eased. Becky Phillips, a member of Mothers’ Union Redmarley branch in north Gloucestershire, is keen to bring the benefits of communing with nature in the Herefordshire borders to more than her immediate circle.

Taking shape

Becky was inspired by Mothers’ Union’s series of webinars in autumn 2020. ‘We asked people what they were concerned about – worry about those who were lonely and isolated came up frequently,’ Becky said.

A walking group idea took shape, but Becky and her fellow members decided emphasising companionship and the pleasure of the walk was less daunting than asking participants to join because of isolation or loneliness.

Becky, who has been a Mothers’ Union member for two years, and is a part-time archivist at Gloucester Cathedral, said: ‘We are hoping to grow the walks in a pyramid format

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– two or three Mothers’ Union members trying out a walk, and then asking a friend or two to join. Then they invite a friend, the friends invite another friend, and so on. That makes it more personal.’

Becky joined Mothers’ Union after she moved back to rural north Gloucestershire, and her mother and grandmother were members. ‘I found such a warm welcome and felt so comfortable, it really worked for me,’ she said. ‘I love the fact that that we start each meeting with worship and Mothers’ Union is overtly Christian, which is important to me.’

Grow a community

Becky hopes to appoint walk leaders to try out routes, embrace all age groups and make links with groups like the Ramblers.

‘Some people will want a short stroll and others will prefer a four mile hike through the woods,’ she said. ‘Nature knowledge and interests would be welcome too. Someone could say, ‘let’s go for a walk in the forest and I can show you some gorgeous trees’, or spot different bird species.’

The restrictions of 2020 have left people with a hunger for interaction, Becky said.

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FINDING PEACE IN THE COUNTRYSIDE Coming together to enjoy nature is important, says Zonal Trustee and Provincial President June Butler

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etting your head showered - as they say in Northern Ireland when talking about a country walk - has always been a bit of compulsion for Mothers’ Union Zonal Trustee and Provincial President June Butler.

Walking is something she has always enjoyed and this year she is putting her interest to good use by doing a sponsored 21kms in each of Ireland’s 12 dioceses.

‘Over three days I will walk three lots of 7kms in different parts of the diocese,’ said June, who lives in Saintfield, County Down. June, a former civil servant, who during her career, organised elections in Northern Ireland, frequently walks with friends and fellow MU members, or on her own.

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Portballintrae and Bushmills, and she cites the Portrush to Portstewart area, including Whiterocks beach, as particular favourites.

The Mountains of Mourne are also a treasured spot, but June also confesses to adoring city walks. She attended the United Nations as an observer for Mothers’ Union in 2017 and 2019, and walked extensively in New York at the weekends during her visit.

Rambling became a special solace during the pandemic, and like many people, June will keep that up once restrictions become less rigorous.

In summer 2020, one of the winning poems in the All-Ireland Mothers’ Union competition celebrated getting away from the hurly burly and finding peace in the countryside.

June will be walking 21kms in each diocese in Ireland in 2021

‘My dream is that we can get to the point where we are reaching out to the parents at the school gate, and we would be able to say we have got a pushchair friendly walk that they can join. We can let it evolve and we will be open to everyone.’

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WALK AND TALK

DISLOCATION

I walk unyielding pavements by the roads past nature clipped, pruned, mown, confined by hedges, fences, walls and wire past soaring trees with tarmac round their roots their seeds adrift on stony ground.

I think about a dark brown path soft underfoot that leads me up the hill through lush wild woods the brackish ponds the smell of green all round the sun that spotlights curling ferns through leafy gaps in beech and thorn and then legs aching breathing short the top is reached, the fallen tree its roots exposed, the bench nearby and there the open country stretched away and Strangford gleaming in the mist-filled light.

A car goes roaring past too fast exhaust fumes linger, air is stale I turn for home on dusty paths.

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BUT WHERE ARE YOU REALLY FROM?

Amanda Khozi Mukwashi SPCK Publishing I found this to be an intriguing book in which Amanda Khozi Mukwashi talks about her family, her upbringing and the role her faith has played in making her the person she is today. The question ‘But where are you REALLY from?’ opens a pot of emotions that she shares with her readers. This challenges our own perceptions and gives an insight into how black African women are seen by the countries in which they live. Amanda is an inspiring, dignified woman, who shares her upbringing and faith with the reader, taking you along with her as she travels to become the successful woman and leader of Christian Aid that she is today.

She explains how her quest for racial justice, gender equality and support for all those facing domestic violence has not finished, that she feels God still has work for her to do.

This book made me look at myself and how, through faith, I could relate to Amanda. She writes in a way that carries you along on her journey with her. I find myself returning to the book in my mind and trying to analyse my feelings. An intriguing book, interesting, thought-provoking - and one I would recommend to readers.

Kim Wilkinson, Diocesan President, St Albans

CANDLES IN THE DARK FAITH, HOPE AND LOVE IN A TIME OF PANDEMIC

Rowan Williams SPCK Publishing This book is a collection of 26 weekly meditations written between March and September 2020 for Rowan Williams local church in Cambridge. The contributions of thoughts and conversations from that community enhance the style of writing. I read the book straight through as we came to the end of 2020, but will re-read it at a slower pace. It is an easy book to read and encourages discussion of one’s faith. The period covered included many Christian festivals, and the deeper insight into, for example, the Assumption of the Virgin Mary, which was interesting and thought-provoking.

I read the book at a time of personal despair, but the hope and love of the title did shine through, strengthening my faith that, no matter what we face, God is with us.

Most, if not all, of the meditations could be used for discussions or conversations. For anyone who leads a group, it is an excellent resource for a meditation, with or without discussion. The conversational style lends itself to thoughtfulness, and I felt as if I were continuing a conversation with a friend.

Mary Marshall, Diocese of Leeds

WORDSTHAT SPEAKVOLUMES

Mothers’ Union members share their views on the latest faith titles

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BOOK REVIEWS

WE ARE SATELLITES: HOW TO PUT GOD AT THE CENTRE OF YOUR LIFE

Martin Saunders SPCK Publishing This readable book is aimed at young people - nevertheless, this mum of three “youngish” adults found much to ponder and enjoy.

Martin Saunders is Director of Innovation at the wonderful Youthscape, and clearly knows a thing or two about communicating God’s good news. Comprehensive guidance for those who acknowledge God’s reality is the main substance of this text. Packed into nine themed chapters, all the topics you would expect to find in a discipleship manual are explored with ample reference to Biblical authority and context.

The author uses the illustration of people as satellites, constantly orbiting around God at the centre of his creation. To live the fullest lives possible, just as satellites must receive signals before they can broadcast them, Christians require spiritual “input” through engagement with prayer, worship and belonging to the family of the Church.

Signal “output” is achieved by getting involved in God’s saving work through the creative promotion of justice and sharing our faith.

There is a pleasing balance between personal testimony, gently self-deprecating humour and profound truths about God. It is accessible without compromising depth of content and would make an excellent gift to any young person ready to deepen their relationship with Jesus.

Dianne Scott, Diocese of Durham

HOW CAN YOU LOSE AN ELEPHANT?

Jan Fearnley Simon and Schuster The title made me want to read the story, I thought it would be about a boy losing an elephant in a small place! I think it’s a good story because it tells you what’s important in life. I liked the end bit where Oscar lost his trousers - Oscar reminded me of me! The pictures are funny and helped to tell the story. Hugo’s message is try not to lose your temper - we won’t find an elephant in real life but hopefully we’ll remember what Hugo taught us.

THE INVISIBLE

Tom Percival Simon and Schuster Looking at the front cover it makes me think the story is about someone who turns invisible. I don’t think Isabel was really invisible, I think she just felt invisible because of what happened to her. I like the pictures, the colours sort of represent her mood. It makes me realise what some people feel like sometimes, and that we should always be kind to everybody.

These books could be read to three or four year olds, so they grow up knowing what’s important. Children my age (seven years old) could also read them themselves to remember how to behave.

Chloe Herrington, aged 7

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I felt as if I were continuing a conversation with a friend

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ast year was a challenge – not least learning how to stay in touch safely with loved ones. However, meeting virtually hasn’t all been negative and many people who nervously took the leap online, often found it enriched their lives, whatever their previous views.

Two Diocesan Presidents, Sue Rivers of Llandaff in

Wales and Christine Sharp from Manchester, have been helping Mothers’ Union members join the digital revolution.

The Diocese of Llandaff started twice weekly devotions during the first lockdown in March 2020. ‘We were thinking: “how can we support our members”, and initially ran phone circles,’ said Sue. ‘We discovered quite a few people

were not on social media and started looking at how we could get people online.

‘The problem was that in the first lockdown, people without a computer or a smartphone usually just had a landline and a TV, and the news was so depressing,’ Sue said. She and fellow members in the diocese were worried about people becoming depressed and isolated.

THE REVOLUTION IS COMINGTOA SCREEN NEARYOU Going online doesn’t have to be intimidating, it can enhance your life, say Sue Rivers and Christine Sharp

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ONLINE LEARNING We want to reach out to as many people as possible

have been particularly popular, with last years’ Harvest getting 140 views, November’s Sue contacted the Welsh They also invited a bank Remembrance had 115, and Minister for Care, who manager to talk about how to the Lockdown Poetry series signposted support via Digital avoid online scams. reached 600. Compared Communities Wales and For safeguarding, for previously to an average of Wales Co-op. With their help, members and the diocesan less than 20 people attending Sue started training virtual volunteers, no members’ services at the Mothers’ Union volunteers. Initially the group financial or personal details are chapel in Manchester. asked for donations of old or put online and only free apps ‘It has been good to meet reconditioned laptops but are allowed. However, once people in different ways and found they were too slow, so people were able to it has been bringing people obtained a grant for iPads access Zoom and join together from all over the with 32GB of data and some branch meetings and diocese – and all over the mobile devices with wifi and services, devotionals and country,’ Christine said. data storage. The mobile midday prayers, it increased The Diocese of Manchester devices are the size of an their confidence and they plans to start a monthly online iPhone and fitted with a SIM made contact with relatives group for new mothers so that card and a small amount of online too. they can meet virtually after data, too.

‘We put the iPads and mobile they have had a baby. They also plan to run online talks They negotiated a shortdevices with wifi and data term broadband connection storage back to factory settings and arts and crafts sessions for members. for participants, who borrowed when people return them, so ‘We have also noticed that the iPad or mobile devices they are wiped clean,’ Sue said. with wifi and data storage to ‘The aim is to roll the project younger members are keen to get involved in projects,’ see if they could use them, out to other parishioners after Christine said. ‘They can do then returned them, and Mothers’ Union members,’ that without needing to meet looked into buying their own. said Sue. ‘There is also a face to face. For example, ‘We found some relatives Caerphilly centre where members supporting a local of members were protective people can sign up for virtual about them going online, so training or develop their online domestic abuse service can get the word out that someone we got the families involved skills further. needs new school uniforms, from the beginning,’ Sue said.

‘We want to reach out to as and that can easily be sorted ‘We wanted to set people up many as possible. It is not just out through text or WhatsApp. on YouTube and Facebook, older people, there are lots of ‘It makes it easier for because they could follow live families who haven’t been able someone who is working and broadcasts of services in their to get online for one reason or has three children for example, church, which they hadn’t another,’ said Sue. to get involved and help. It been able to see for months.’

In Manchester, Diocesan also means we provide up to President Christine Sharp date information for people found that gradually more people have been reconnecting more easily if they can access with others online. Services it online.’

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STEPPING OUT

BEST FOOT FORWARD

Main event: Tracy Ann Clifford and Lydia Whitmore at the Xhajma racetrack

Malta and Gozo Mothers’ Union branch has raised money by completing the 5K challenge in their indomitable way - in spite of the pandemic

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alta and Gozo Mothers’ Union branch have broken a record, in spite of COVID-19. Susan Warner, the branch leader, and her members, managed to raise more than 1,000 euros by creatively repurposing their annual 5K sponsored walk.

The branch had to stop face-to-face meetings for the first time in 2020 because of the pandemic. Susan, who joined Mothers’ Union when she lived in the UK, has been supporting members by meeting them individually and facilitating Zoom use.

In spite of the circumstances, the members were determined to keep up their annual tradition of the 5K walking challenge.

The money raised is used to support local community projects, including providing basic necessities for people in the migrant camps on the islands.

to wear masks, a requirement outside on the islands. One circular walk on Gozo began at the Church of Ta’ Pinu, a national shrine to Our Lady of Ta’ Pinu, containing mosaics depicting the mystery of the rosary, then took in the tiny village of Ghasri before heading back towards the church.

Other walkers used local routes such as the Xhajma racetrack at Xewkija, where branch treasurer Sue Hilton, member Tracy Ann Clifford and supporter Lydia Whitmore were regularly lapped by the horses using the track to exercise, as they completed their walk.

Some members wanted to do the 5K in stages. One woman walked to the end of her road and back repeatedly over several days and completed the distance, measuring it on her mobile phone.

A variety of approaches

In total, seven branch members and four of their friends and family completed the challenge and raised 1,046 euros, double the amount of their first walking event.

Along with helping local projects, the funds will also be used to support 12 families who receive food parcels, put together and distributed by the branch.

In the past, the 5K walking challenge took place on one day, and larger groups walked together, but in 2020 pandemic restrictions curtailed that. The branch extended the challenge over a few days, and allowed smaller groups.

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MEMBER DEVELOPMENT

WE WANTYOUTO BE PART OF OUR FRESHAPPROACH You can help us make a difference, says Membership Support Manager Marian Pope

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very member can be part of this exciting leadership conference to shape the future of our unique organisation.

At Mothers’ Union we are committed to building our membership and release potential, so we can all move forward as a campaigning Christian community.

To do that, we need your help. If you are excited by the potential of Mothers’ Union to flourish, you can help us.

Starting in the autumn, there will be the opportunity for every member to be involved in this project and to have their say about direction of travel. If you have any thoughts or opinions about Mothers’ Union – this is your opportunity to make them known.

There will also be the chance to meet other

members to share ideas and experiences - of Mothers’ Union and other similar membership organisations - to help shape the content of our weekend conference scheduled for January 2022.

Look out for more information in the next edition of Connected.

We want as many members as possible to be part of a transformational process that will reimagine Mothers’ Union, in Britain and Ireland, building on our strengths, and to move ahead with confidence.

And if you want to see Christ’s kingdom growing through the outreach of Mothers’ Union, then contact your local MU office NOW and see how you could get involved – no need to wait until the autumn.

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elcome to the first edition of your new membership magazine Connected. We have 48 pages packed with news, views and stories that we hope will entertain, engage and connect us!

Connected has been composed with your feedback very much in mind. Some of the highlights of this issue include our Central Chaplain , Bishop Emma Ineson, reflecting on kindness, with fellow Bishops Roger Morris and Christine Hardman giving their views on foodbanks and whether they are a solution to poverty in the UK. Read how Mothers’ Union’s business training skills helped Monica in Tanzania become self-reliant, and find out why member Emily Brailsford values being part of our wonderful movement. We share information on how partnership work is letting us achieve even more, and in these changing times, share some hints and tips about staying safe online.

We hope you like Connected, this is your magazine, so please get in touch to share your stories or give us feedback on what you have enjoyed or ways we can do things differently.

Happy reading!

From us all at Mary Sumner House Share your news, ideas and thoughts by contacting us via communications@mothersunion.org or 0207 222 5533

DATES FOR YOUR DIARY

WHAT’S NEW IN 2021

15 May 2021 - Thy Kingdom Come Service 9 August 2021 - Mary Sumner Day 25 September 2021 - Annual gathering (virtual) 27 November 2021 - Global Day – to kick start our 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence 15 December 2021 - Carol Concert (virtual)

A reduced audio version of Connected is available to those who require it, please contact us via communications@ mothersunions.org or 0207 222 5533

Editor Sue Royal Sub Editor Claire Musters Art Editor Emma Golten Production Halcyon Editorial office Connected, Mothers’ Union, Mary Sumner House, 24 Tufton Street, London SW1P 3RB T: 020 7222 5533 E: communications@mothersunion.org Mothers’ Union Worldwide President Sheran Harper Chief Executive Bev Jullien T: 020 7222 5533 E: communications@mothersunion.org Published by Mothers’ Union as part of its membership offering © all contents are copyright 2021. The views expressed in this publication are not necessarily those of Mothers’ Union. While every effort is taken to ensure the accuracy of dates and comments, Mothers’ Union cannot accept responsibility for any loss, damage or inconvenience caused through any error or omission.

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Aprayer for rebuilding hope and confidence We will walk in hope and confidence, trusting each other, loving each other and together we will rebuild the hope and confidence of families and communities everywhere always reaching forward as God’s hands and feet and reflecting a life filled with purpose and meaning, grace and love, peace and joy.

Sheran Harper