When Was the First Time You Talked Dirty to Your Partner? Can you remember the very first time you talked dirty to your partner? Some couples may have to think back a long while especially if you’ve been married for some years. How did it make you feel when your partner said those first dirty words? It could have been a little awkward hearing those things. Did you instantly get the feeling that you wanted to touch yourself, did you get hard or wet? You probably couldn’t wait for your partner to get home to do all the things he or she mentioned on the phone and by then had lots of dirty thoughts on your mind of what you wanted to do to them. Has the dirty talking faded away because you’ve run out of things to say? If it has then it’s time to learn how to dirty talk new things to say so you can feel what you felt that very first time. Is there anything sexual that you haven’t tried with your partner such as anal or maybe licking new places? If there is than you could approach them with the idea through a dirty texting or over the phone dirty talking. Maybe dirty texting is the better way to approach the idea if you feel it’s too out there and are afraid of the reaction. You could start your dirty text by sending” Was hoping you’d be up for trying something new sexy” they’d really be interested to know what that new thing is. Then you’d send” It’s sexual but I’ve been really hoping you might give it a shot because I’d love to see you get off doing it”. The closing dirty text message would be like” I’m getting hard or wet just thinking about it now, are you up for it” your partner wouldn’t know what to text back but they’d definitely be more open and turned on wondering what that sexual thing is.
One Hot Dirty Talking Conversation Can Feel Like Sex You just don’t know how turned on I was seeing you in that little black dress that was riding up your waist. That was the start of the dirty talk conversation last night with Joe that left my bed soak and wet. Wearing that dress got me exactly the type of response I was looking for from him plus we talked for a while and the conversation got hotter and hotter with time. I never knew Joe was as freaky as his dirty talking let out but I wasn’t offended because my thoughts were just as freaky as his were. Everyone should be so lucky to be able to enjoy if not a private evening alone with the person you’re attracted to then a private dirty talking phone call or dirty texting night of pleasure. It’s actually not that big a difference from sex except there is no psychically touching each other but it really feels like there is. I had sex with Joe last night even though I didn’t but it was awesome for our first time. Now when we actually do have sex I’ll know exactly what interests him such as dirty talking, sound, and movement and I feel we’re going to be together for a long time because of our mutual interest.
That was one example of how talking dirty to a guy can improve relationships whether old or new if one party initiates it and it’s acceptable to the other. Instead of wondering what a new partner might like as sexual pleasure ask the actual questions through a little dirty talking and teasing if you can get your partner to participate. It’s fun for the both of you and you don’t have to be in the same room or even the same city at the time. If your partner is really into you there’s no doubt they’ll enjoy your dirty talking plus more.
Author Box: How To Talk Dirty Blog site is for women who want to learn how to talk dirty to their husbands, boyfriends, or partners. We tackle women’s concerns about dirty talk, look at examples of dirty talk and dirty texts, dig down into what men really want on this topic, and recommend resources for further exploration. Our goals here at How to Talk Dirty are simple: to empower women to take charge of their relationships; build their confidence to be awesome in and out of the bedroom; and to make these issues discussable without judgment. It hasn’t been easy. But it’s totally worth it.