LIFEâ€™S GREATEST BLESSING
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“As a husband I will love, lead, and provide:” ISABEL LAMBRECHT
As a husband I will love, lead, and provide ------------------ 2 How to live a happy married life ------------------ ------------------------3 I am a mother of two ------------------------------- ------------------------ 5
Perhaps more than at any other time in history, women today need a clear understanding of how they should relate to their husbands. In fact, the significant social changes brought about by the women’s liberation movement over the last few decades have led to such confusion that the very idea of “roles” is repugnant to some. They feel as if somehow they lose their identity and their freedom if they adhere to some type of “outdated standard.” It’s important for us to look clearly at what the Bible says on this subject. And while the Bible doesn’t apply our modern word “role” to marriage, the Scriptures are clear about the unique responsibilities God assigns to a wife.
True essence of being a woman -------------------- ---------------------- 7 Being Single -------------------- ---------------------- ------------------------------------------8 5 Things I learned at 30 ----------------- -----------------------------------------9 10 Things I learned while ------------------------------------------------------ 10
Never discus about your marriage that your spouse wouldn’t like you to discuss, unless there is an Islamic reason to do so. Some husbands and wives, believe it or not, complain to others about their mate’s physical appearance. This is a recipe for disaster. Information about your intimate relations should be kept between you and your spouse.
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Many of us treat our spouses in ways that we would never treat others. With others, we try to be polite, kind, and patient. With our spouses, we often do not show these courtesies. Of course, we are usually with our spouses at our worst times --- when we are tired and frustrated after a hard day. After a bad day at the office, husbands usually come home angry and on edge. The wife has probably also had a hard day with the children and the housework. Wives and husbands should discuss this potential time bomb so that if they are short-tempered with each other during these times, they will understand the reasons rather than automatically thinking that their spouse no longer loves them.
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How to Live a Happy Married Life 1. Respect your spouse. If you want to have a healthy marriage, then you have to make your spouse feel like your equal and take his feelings into account whenever you’re making a decision or just going about your day. If you treat your spouse like his opinions don’t really matter or like you always have the final say, then you’re bound to have an imbalance in your marriage. 2. Work to keep your relationship in the present. If you care about your spouse and want to have a healthy and productive relationship, then you should avoid getting hung up on past mistakes you both made or keep reminding your spouse of his failures; instead, work on reinforcing positive behavior, enjoying your present time together, and thinking of all you have to look forward to.
8. Be a helper to your husband. While all of us are called to be helpers to others, the Bible places a special emphasis on this responsibility for wives. Genesis tells us that God realized it wasn’t good for man to be alone, and that He decided to make a “helper suitable for him” (Gen. 2:18). It is interesting to note that the Hebrew meaning of the word helper in this passage is found hereafter in the Bible to refer only to God as He helps us. The fact that this same word is applied to a wife signifies that we women have been given tremendous power for good in our husbands’ lives. God has designed wives to help their husbands become all that God intends for them to be.
3. Take the time to listen. Listening is one of the best ways to be considerate toward your spouse. Don’t just zone out when your spouse is talking about his day or wait for him to finish talking so you can say what you want to say; make an effort to really hear him out and to care about what he’s telling you. Respect your husband. In Ephesians 5:33, Paul says, “ … the wife must respect her husband.” When you respect your husband you reverence him, notice him, regard him, honor him, prefer him, and esteem him. It means valuing his opinion, admiring his wisdom and character, appreciating his commitment to you, and considering his needs and values.
4. Give priority to your spouse. Though you don’t need to make your life revolve completely around your spouse, you have to remember that when you and your spouse decided to get married, you wanted to be a priority in each other’s lives. You should make sure to honor that decision and to make all of your big decisions with your spouse.
5. Maintain strong communication. If you want your marriage to be a happy one, then communication is key. 6. Don’t break marital confidences or use them as a weapon during an argument. If your partner trusted you with something very private and important, then you shouldn’t undermine that trust by reporting it to someone else just because you didn’t really think about it. 7. Be attuned to your partner’s moods. If you sense that something is wrong with your partner, take time to embrace him and ask what’s the matter—maybe that’s the time he or she needs your attention the most. http://www.huffingtonpost. com/2014/06/23/marriagea d v i c e _ n _ 5 5 2 3 5 8 8 . h t m l
1 1 . L o v e y o u r husband. Titus 2:4 calls for wives “to love their husbands.” A good description of the kind of love your husband needs is “unconditional acceptance.” In other words, accept your husband just as he is—an imperfect person. Love also means being committed to a mutually fulfilling sexual relationship. I realize there is a whole lot more to love than sex, but we are looking at how to fulfill God’s command to love our husbands. Therefore, we must look at love from their perspective, not just our own. 12. Submit to the leadership of your husband. Just mention the word “submission,” and many women immediately become angry and even hostile. This controversial concept has been highly debated and misunderstood. Some husbands and wives actually believe submission indicates that women are inferior to men in some way. I have known women who think that if they submit they will lose their identity and become non-persons. Others fear (some with good reason) that submission leads to being used or abused. http://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/wives/what-should-be-the-wifes-role-in-marriage
I Am A Mother Of Two Children And I Cannot (And Will Not) Support Feminism Tara Kennedy-Kline I’m a wife, mother, sister, daughter, business owner, sports nut and beer lover, but I am not a feminist. I may have been at one time, but then I became the mother of two boys and I realized that I cannot align with a message that has changed into something degrading, offensive, accusatory and opposed to the morals and messages I am teaching my kids. You see, I’m kind of psyched to be raising my boys as gentlemen. I am proud to raise them to be hard-working and dedicated providers. I am raising them to treat the women in their lives like princesses, and to make eye contact with, and say hello to, everyone they meet. I am raising them to appreciate the beauty in a person based on what that person believes and how that person makes my boys feel, not on what that person is wearing or how much of their skin is exposed. I want my boys to be chivalrous, to open doors and carry heavy loads, to ask a girl out on a date and pay the bill without expecting anything in return. tell girls when they think those .girls .look beautiful. I love that 5
Teaching my boys that they are somehow wrong, perverted or bad if they look at what is being flaunted in front of them is also making the job of parents a thousand times harder to have that conversation about steering clear of “easy” girls. And, let’s not assume for one second that there aren’t plenty of them. When the term feminism turned from being a message of empowerment and gender fairness to basically a list of rules, restrictions, idiosyncrasies, offenses and grievances directed at all things male, I tapped out. I do not believe that opposite sexes can ever be completely equal, as there are very specific limitations for each gender.
Respect is earned, not demanded. There will never be a time when I will tell my boys not to treasure, protect and admire the women in their lives because “Women don’t need a man to feel valued.” I say, “Value all people and the gifts they bring.” Only then will the world be truly fair and equal.
The True Essence of being a Woman For me, the true essence of being a woman aside from maintaining the beauty inside and out is having a courage to face life being a mother and be strong enough by nurturing another human being to live in this world and willing to carry out the responsibility beneath it. Conceiving a life into a womb for 9 months isn’t easy plus to consider the discomforts and back pains during the entire pregnancy, more so if it’s a time to bring him into the real world while going through a so called “laboring pain”. makes you realized that it’s all worth it. I haven’t experience all those things because I’m not on that chapter of life yet I know in God’s perfect time it will come to let me experience how great it is to be a mother. Though as a Nurse, I have assisted a lot of mothers in bringing out a new life and have seen them in tears of joy as I always observed and realized how grateful and blessed they are of having a gift of life. In fact sometimes, i feel so empathetic that I would just noticed some tears falling down from my eyes when I see and hold the baby and put into the mother’s tummy to facilitate a bond. Maybe it’s just a happiness for other people and been excited for them. Or maybe at the back of my mind, I’m excited yet with fear for myself when it’s about time for me to face a new chapter of my life and see myself lying on the bed at delivery room in pain yet someone is there beside me while comforting and assuring me that life could be as wonderful as it is if it’s complete. Indeed, having a child and raising http://purplekhaye.blogspot.com/2011/03/for-me-true-essence-of-being-woman.html 7
What Being Single Is, Because It’s Not Just Feeling ‘Lonely’ Lauren Jarvis-Gibson Being single is having the freedom to do what you want, when you want. It’s having the ability to focus on yourself, to focus on your career and your personal goals. Being single is finding the strength within yourself to be happy on your own. To force yourself to find happiness in who you are as an individual. To know how to laugh by yourself and feel content. To know how to smile to yourself alone in a cafe. To know how to live your life. Without leaning on anyone else. Being single is enjoying free time with your amazing friends. It’s feeling the joy of having great and nourising friendships around you. It’s finding comfort and solace in the connections you make with new people along the way. It’s feeling perfectly blissful staying in on a Friday night with a few of your best friends, just talking about life. Being single is taking care of yourself. It’s making time to exercise or to take a quiet walk when it’s nice outside. It’s taking the time for yourself when you need to. It’s knowing when to go, and knowing when to stop. Being single is feeling lonely and confused one night and the next day calling your girlfriends to talk about it. It’s tearing up It’s having and experiencing ups and downs. But it’s empowering as hell. Being single is dancing alone in your room getting ready for a night out, and then dancing with a cute boy or girl at your local bar. It’s kissing different lips and exploring different options, loving the fact that you don’t have to be tied down to anyone. It’s being able to mingle if you want to, but also being able to just take a break from dating for however long you want to. Being single is learning how to be a happy individual without asking for help. It’s being brave when things go wrong and being confident when people try to tear you down. It’s walking to your local grocery store and making dinner for a table of one. It’s looking at yourself in the mirror and confidently smiling back at your reflection. It’s reflecting and learning and growing. Being single isn’t a curse. It can be a blessing, if you really want it to be. It doesn’t have to be a death sentence or something to be ashamed of. Being single is a time of growth and a time of change, not a time of self-pity. Being single isn’t anything to look down upon. Being single is living your life according to you and on your own terms.
5 Things I Learned At 30 About Growing Up Ashley Nicole
As my 30th birthday approaches, I look back on five things I’ve learned in the past year. 1. Not every year will be great or memorable. Most of my 20s were filled with ups and downs, but each year at least one life changing event happened. I’ll always remember those years in terms of the year I…graduated from college, got a dog, broke up with my college boyfriend, traveled, finally got an awesome job. 2. Growing up doesn’t mean the same thing for everyone. This has been the year where the last of my friends and acquaintances are getting married. The rest are on their second or third kid (or their first divorce.) Big city dwellers will scoff at marriage before 30,
3. Things get harder. This is the first year I’ve really noticed that my body is not the same as it was when I was 21. I now need to make room in my schedule for hangovers because I can’t just chug a bottle of water and go on with my day like I used to. Losing weight is no longer as simple as eating salads for a few days. Speaking of salads, kale is now a major food group. Just looking at chocolate gives me heartburn and please, please don’t even talk to me about tequila shots.
4. Age doesn’t matter when it comes to friendship. We spend most of high school and college with people around our same age. This year I’ve discovered that age means less and less when it comes to the people I surround myself with. Many of my friends are younger, but we share specific interests that bond us. 5. Saying goodbye to my mid-20s is terrifying. My boyfriend and I argue about whether 29 is considered mid or late 20s. I think it’s late 20s, but he says it’s not. Either way, I have spent much of this year thinking about how close I am to 30 — my scary age. 9
10 Things I Learned While Everyone Else Was Getting Married Rania Naim 1. Your ‘type’ changes drastically as time goes by. Especially in your mid to late twenties. You start looking for deeper and more solid qualities like responsibility, honesty and integrity instead of someone you can just have fun with.
2. Finding the right career is more important than getting married. Finding the right career for you is the most rewarding gift you can give yourself. It will give you something to look forward to and will always motivate you to grow and learn new things.
3. Modern dating sucks but it really teaches you a lot. Modern dating sucks but with every dating disaster that happens to you, you learn one more thing about yourself and about the person you are looking for. 4. Invest in a few good friends. Your friends will be your support system forever. 5. Don’t single for
settle. Don’t date someone so long or because all
you’ve been are married.
6. You have to know who you are before getting married. Getting married when you’re in an unsteady place in your life makes you count on the relationship as the main source of your happiness and makes you follow your partner’s footsteps without stopping to ask yourself if this is what you really want. 7. Kids are not the answer. Having kids does not mean you secured a spot in marriage paradise, if anything, it’s the ultimate test to determine how strong the marriage is. 8. You will not ‘lose’ your married friends. I think this is the biggest misconception – that you will not be talking to your friends who got married. 9. You can make things happen alone. You can get your dream job or buy that house or travel to this country without anyone’s help or approval. 10. Marriage is also not the answer. I mentioned earlier that kids are not the answer but marriage is not the answer either. If you didn’t learn to find your happiness alone, you won’t find it in your marriage, if you didn’t learn to love yourself when you’re single, you won’t love yourself when you’re married, if you didn’t find yourself before marriage, you won’t find yourself after marriage.
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