THE GLOBE, CAMP LEJEUNE, N.C.
JULY 28, 2011
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Chaplain’s Corner
Ten ways to ruin marriage CMDR. KENNETH COUNTS
Marine Corps Base Camp Lejeune
When you said “I do,” there was fire and enthusiasm for that fantastic person you married. What changed? What made the fire go out? 1. Letting divorce become an option. Couples who stay married deliberately refuse to consider divorce. Once you get married, stay married. Marriage is a commitment to stay together no matter what. You do not give yourself any escape route. Marriages work out because the husband and wife do not give up or leave. This is also the reason you should not get married in a hurry. Never threaten to divorce your mate. Do not even say the “D” word. Threatening to leave sends the message that you only love them when they give you what you selfishly want. 2. Creating a Facebook account so your wife/ husband cannot see your secret relationships. Marriage is a “members only” club for one man with one woman. No intruders are welcome. That means stop talking to other girls except in open conversations in public places when your wife is right beside you. 3. Going out with the guys to a bar to flirt. (You too ladies, don’t do this). It seems like everybody does this. But that does not make it right for you. Save it all for the one you say you love. Be a one-woman man, or vice versa. 4. Telling your mother your complaints about your wife. This is back stabbing and treason. Yes, every husband and wife has complaints and disappointments with the one they married. But you solve those by talking to each other, not by telling it to others who will take sides with you against your spouse. Don’t betray them. Don’t talk about them behind their back. 5. Asking the other lance corporals for advice about how to get your wife to stop being angry with you. Unmarried Marines do not know how to solve marriage problems. They have one solution and they always say the same thing. “Get rid of her.” Please read #1 above if you are not clear on this. 6. Failing to act like a man. Stop spending all your time playing XBox and computer games when you come home from work. Are you a man or a child? If you have a wife or a husband you cannot ignore them. You have to spend time together talking and getting to know one another. 7. Spending too much time with your hobbies, your old buddies and your sports. Now that you are married, and especially after you have children, you cannot spend as much time on your personal pleasures and recreation. The more your family needs you the more you need to give up and make time to be available for them. You should have realized that a “partner” demands care and maintenance every day. That should not be a surprise. 8. Viewing porn. Lots of porn. Looking at women or men, in a sexual way, even on a computer screen, can be extremely detrimental to the trust in your relationship. 9. Frowning and pouting because your spouse does not agree with everything you want to do. You married a human being with a mind and will of their own. All husbands and wives have to learn how to cooperate. They do not automatically agree on everything. Just because you have different opinions and preferences does not mean that you married the wrong person. But you do have to learn how to get along. 10. Thinking that marriage is easy. Marriage is work. When two individuals get married they have to learn how to become one. Don’t give up. It’s worth it in the end.
Photo by Cpl. Damany S. Coleman
Kindergarten through fifth grade teachers and children from schools aboard Marine Corps Base Camp Lejeune and Marine Corps Air Station New River pose for a group photo during the End of the Summer Celebration at the Tarawa Terrace II Elementary School, July 22.
Students, families celebrate end of summer with songs, dances CPL. DAMANY S. COLEMAN
Marine Corps Base Camp Lejeune
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indergarten through fifth grade children who are enrolled in an area summer enrichment program held for students aboard Marine Corps Base Camp Lejeune and Marine Corps Air Station New River hosted their End of the Summer Celebration at the Tarawa Terrace II Elementary School, July 22. The program is a summer enrichment program designed to keep the children active and academically challenged over the summer. “We have this enrichment program once a year in the summer for the children enrolled on (MCB Camp Lejeune and MCAS New River),”
It’s enrichment, not a remedial program, so we’re hitting all levels of all subjects ... Singing, dancing and moving keeps them going. Costa Constantinou, music specialist, Delalio Elementary School said Vanessa Coleman, an area teacher in charge of the summer program. “We had a lot of volunteers, such as the Swansboro Young Marines color guard, (who) helped us get the summer program going, with about 85 kids from kindergarten to fifth grade who performed.” She continued, “It’s good for the kids, and it’s good for the parents to see their children perform.” Teams of children performed various patriotic and Disney songs for their parents and school staff. Coleman added that however fun and exciting
TEA FROM 1D Shannon let her imagination run wild when creating her costume. “I love the Mad Hatter, so I decided to be his assistant who is a really cool, crazy character named Scissors,” she explained. Besides tea and food, the event offered card games, pin the smile on the Cheshire Cat and a “Fudderwacken” dance off. The “Fudderwacken” was a dance created for the Tim Burton movie. Victoria Todd, a member of TAG, understood the difficulties they would face when planning the event. “It’s hard to get something both guys and girls will like,” she explained. “There are elements for both. It’s a little weird so the guys like it and it has a fantasy theme, and, of course, Alice, for the girls.” Todd admits that not everyone in the group is an avid reader, but they all step up their efforts for the SRP. Wonderland, however, seemed an appropriate theme for the group. “I’ve always liked Alice in Wonderland, and honestly, it can get a little mad around here,” Todd said. As a fan of Lewis Carroll’s books, Kory Overtree was hopeful that the party would inspire some to look into the story. “I feel bad not everyone has read the book,” he said. “It’s a fun read, as long as you can get passed some of the Old English, you’ll really enjoy it.” As the teens danced the night away, the signs decorating the walls of the room said it all, “We’re all mad here.” For more information about the Summer Reading Program, visit www.mccslejeune.com/libraries.
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more you can expose them to. It’s really good to get the kids engaged in something else.” Costa Constantinou, a music specialist with Delalio Elementary School aboard MCAS New River, said at the end of every summer program, they all work together to put on the End of Summer Celebration. Constantinou added that aside from other academics during the summer program, he had the opportunity to teach the children the various songs and choreography in the celebration. “I just try and bring the gift of music,” he said. “It’s not in the curriculum, and I wasn’t hired to teach it, (but) I feel like I should bring that gift to the table for the children. Singing, dancing and moving keeps them going.” He thinks the program offers a respite to parents, especially those with spouses who are deployed. “It’s enrichment, not a remedial program so, we’re hitting all levels of all subjects,” said Constantinou.
Photos by Cpl. Damany S. Coleman
(Above left) Annalise Coleman, a gymnast and dancer, performs an interpretive dance for teachers, parents and children in attendance during this year’s End of the Summer Celebration at the Tarawa Terrace II Elementary School, July 22. (Above right) Manny Tatum, another area talent, put on a cup stacking presentation at the celebration, July 22.
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the program may be, it still helps keep the children academically sound. Songs like “The Star Spangled Banner,” “Let’s Sing America” and “God Bless the U.S.A.,” were just a few patriotic songs to get families on their feet and singing. “Zip A Dee Doo Dah,” “A Spoonful of Sugar,” “Under the Sea” and “A Whole New World” were a few Disney favorites that both parents and kids enjoyed singing along to. Several area talents also presented their skills to the audience, to provide interest and expose the younger crowd to something new. Children showcased their talents in a number of acts including cup stacking, a duet with instruments and even interpretive dancing. Coleman said next year’s theme, Kaleidoscope, will bring a lot of poetry and art. “Kids need to see that,” said Coleman. “They don’t need to just get used to their own bubble or just what’s available on base. There are other things they can be doing and there is
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