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YITZHAR, West Bank— Charred tires and boulders pushed to the sides of the road leading to Yitzhar, a West Bank Jewish community near Nablus, were among the signs that residents had made an effort to prevent Israeli soldiers and police from entering the settlement. Patches of grease stains — remnants of the lubricants that had been poured on the narrow road to induce army jeeps, police sedans and backhoes to lose traction — were others. Ha’aretz reported that on Thursday morning, Israel Defense Forces soldiers and border police demolished “two illegal buildings in the West Bank outpost of Mitzpeh Yitzhar”— a

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hilltop adjacent to Yitzhar. The government said the buildings—a settler’s home and a chicken coop—had been built on land said to belong to Palestinians. Just hours after the demolition, arsonists torched a mosque in Burqa, a village about four miles east of Ramallah—a half-hour drive from Yitzhar. The desecrators spray-painted the words “war” and “Mitzpeh Yitzhar” on the wall of the mosque. It was just one in a chain of violent vigilante attacks. In the past few years, radical right-wing

activists, representing a growing fringe, have pursued a campaign they call “price tag” to avenge perceived injustices meted out against them by the Israeli government, such as the demolition on Mitzpeh Yitzhar. Mosques have been burned and desecrated with graffiti such as “Muhammad is a pig.” Palestinian olive trees have been slashed and burned, and other Palestinian property has been damaged. Vandals also have targeted property belonging to Israeli security forces. But a red line was crossed in recent days. Shortly after midnight on Dec. 13, settler radicals—often referred to as “hilltop youths”

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It may have been 800 miles away but between making presentations, providing entertainment and meeting a sitting president of the United States, St. Louisans and the Gateway City played a big role in last week’s Union of Reform Judaism Biennial in Washington D.C. “There was a lot of great representation from our community,” said Rabbi James Bennett of Congregation Shaare Emeth. “I think you are going to see some initiatives over the coming months and years that are going to be a direct outgrowth of some of the learning that took place here.” The five-day Biennial, which concluded Sunday, was the largest in the URJ’s history, hosting some 6,000 participants who attended seminars, heard presentations and went to talks by a Rabbi James dozen big name Bennett speakers ranging from Ehud Barak and William Kristol to Natan Sharansky and Rep. Eric Cantor. Nearly 50 entertainers performed at the massive conference, the 71st in the organization’s history, including St. Louis-based rockers Sheldon Low and Rick Recht. Bennett, who led a dozen participants from Shaare Emeth, spoke to the Jewish Light by phone just after President Barack Obama finished his keynote talk. The rabbi said the speech went over well with his audience. “I’m sure that for many, many people, that was the highlight of the weekend,” Bennett said. “It was quite compelling and powerful. He spoke directly to the entire assembly and his message was beautifully crafted.” It was certainly the highlight for

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A major family mitzvah Sometimes, the smallest things can change your life in profound ways. For Dr. Brian and Amy Gage of Clayton, it was a short email telling of a 5-year-old from the Dominican Republic who needed a place to stay in St. Louis. The email was sent three years ago from Healing the Children (now called the World Pediatric Project), which helps children in developing countries suffering from birth defects, illness and injury. It explained that a host family was needed for Natalia Almonte, who would be in St. Louis for two weeks while undergoing medical evaluation at Shriners Hospitals for Children. The Gages, who have three daughters including one Natalia’s age, decided in short order to open their home to the little girl. “Our family was learning Spanish at the time and she spoke Spanish,” explained Amy Gage. “We thought this would be a wonderful experience for our whole family so we jumped on it.” As Amy and her husband, an associate professor of medicine at Washington University School of Medicine, drove to the

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“Sisters” and best buds Natalia Almonte and Belle Gage celebrate their ninth birthdays together earlier this year. The Gages enrolled Natalia in kindergarten with Belle at Meramec Elementary School in Clayton. They took her to services at Central Reform Congregation, where they are members. Within three months, Natalia, who spoke only Spanish when she arrived here, was fluent in English. The following year, Natalia came back for a month for a follow-up visit and stayed with the Gages. Then, in May of this year, she returned to St. Louis with her grandmother, who is her primary caretaker in the

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Congregation Temple Israel will offer a Cotillion program open to all area sixth graders. Cotillion provides instruction in social etiquette and dance and offers youth an opportunity to socialize with peers from throughout the St. Louis Jewish community. Dances will take place from 6:30 to 8 p.m. on five Sunday evenings: Jan. 15, 22, 29 and Feb. 12 and 26, at Temple Israel, 1 Rabbi Alvan D. Rubin Drive in Creve Coeur. March 11 will be a snow date, if needed. Dances will include games and prizes and will feature music provided by Utopia Entertainment. Refreshments will be served. Applications, along with a non-refundable $90 fee and signed indemnity agreement, must be submitted by Jan. 4. For more information, e-mail cotillion@ti-stl. org or call 314-432-8050.

UH hosts Torah Yoga class United Hebrew Congregation will hold an eight-week Torah Yoga course from 9:30 to 10:30 a.m. on Thursdays, beginning Jan. 12 in the Spielberg chapel. Maxine Mirowitz, RYT (Yoga Alliance Registered Yoga Teacher) makes classes accessible to both beginners and more advanced students. As a Holistic Yoga Teacher, Mirowitz aims to energize participants’ minds and bodies to revitalize emotional and physical well-being. She has developed a series of postures that flow together to warm the body and work the heart. By linking movement and breath, you stretch, and strengthen your muscles while developing stamina, coordination and confidence. The cost is $50 ($40 for UH members) for the sessions. Participants should bring a mat. To register, call Marsha Kunin at 314-4690700.

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several members of United Hebrew Congregation who were part of a group that was actually able to briefly meet the president. For UH Rabbi Roxanne Shapiro, the opportunity to shake the president’s hand reminded her of her high school days as president of the North American Federation of Temple Youth. “I remember hoping then that I’d be invited that year to the White House as the president of the youth movement but never was,” she said. More online “It’s only fitting that at a Jewish program such as Read more about the URJ this I got that opportu- Biennial and view a slideshow of nity.” images from local conference Shapiro said the ser- participant Philip Deitch at www. vices were also a mov- ing moment. “Having 5,000 people • New Reform leader sets sights praying, worshipping, on disaffected youth singing together is just • Can Reform Jews be politically an overwhelming expe- conservative? Yes, say the 1 perrience,” she said. “We’re cent used to having own • Obama to Reform Jews: Don’t community together in let anyone challenge my Israel worship but to bring bona fides people from all over • Eric Yoffie: The exit interview North America and know that all these people, however different we all may be, can come together is something that I think you actually have to be there to understand.” UH’s Rabbi Brigitte Rosenberg was also among the St. Louisans who met the president. She said there was good energy at the conference and that it was the best of the Biennials she’s attended. She found the educational sessions, which talked about methodologies for increasing volunteer and congregant engagement, very rewarding.



“It’s no longer just the traditional ways of just worship,” she said, “but people are looking for different ways to connect in the Jewish community and I think that synagogues can offer a variety of ways in which people can connect but we have to get past old ideas and modes.” The URJ is marking something of a change in mode itself, transitioning to a new president, Richard Jacobs, a Scarsdale, N.Y. rabbi who has held various leadership positions in the Reform Movement. He replaces Rabbi Eric Yoffie who held the post for 15 years. Rosenberg said she felt renewed confidence upon hearing talks by both the incoming and outgoing leaders. “It just gave you a sense that we’re mov- President Barack Obama addresses the URJ Biennial last week. For a gallery ing in a good direction, that people have of images from the Biennial, visit been doing a lot of thinking and a lot of Photo: Philip Deitch work,” Rosenberg said. For Amy Stone, director of development Jewish group but really gave a speech that was truly a D’var at UH, it was her first such event. “It was wonderful to see Torah,” said Kerber. “It was hard to overstate what an hisand listen to so many lay leaders and professionals on their toric moment this was because the last sitting president to great ideas,” said Stone, who also shook Obama’s hand. “I address the convention was Ulysses S. Grant.” took as many notes as I possibly could.” Temple Israel’s Leslie Wolf wasn’t just there as an attendee Steve Friedman, a member and former president of but also as a presenter. Wolf led a session to talk about Jewish Central Reform Congregation, called the event “inspiring,” Parents as Teachers (JPAT), a groundbreaking program she noting that he enjoyed the speakers. “It delivered great is pioneering at TI, which aims to help connect Jewish famiopportunities for learning, networking, and spiritual enrich- lies with young children into the community early on. The ment,” said Friedman, a member of the URJ board. “But, URJ helped fund the program with a grant. perhaps most importantly, it helps remind me that we are all “There were probably between 50 and 60 people I presentpart of something bigger than ourselves.” ed to and it went over really well,” said Wolf, who directs the Rabbi Justin Kerber of Temple Emanuel said he found a Deutsch Early Childhood Center. “I got lots of questions on session by Rabbi Howard Berman of the Society for Classical how we got money for the grants, how we started it and how Reform Judaism to be enlightening. He also was struck by the community has been receptive to it.” Obama’s keynote, which cited Jewish sources and mentioned Engagement with the next generation was a major theme that his own daughters were of the age at which they were of the convention. “What I really came away with from this attending a lot of bar and bat mitzvahs. The speech was “It convention is that especially with youth, everybody has to wasn’t just that he was aware that he was speaking to a look at the big picture and creating Jewish identity,” Wolf said. “Jewish preschools, temples and synagogues all have to work together in engaging young families with Jewish identity.”

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Administration gets some of the leeway it sought in new Iran sanctions By Ron Kampeas JTA

WASHINGTON — New sanctions targeting Iran’s financial sector and its sale of crude oil give President Barack Obama leeway to moderate their possible impact on oil markets and to use carrots as well as sticks to sway third parties into isolating the Islamic Republic. The sanctions target any foreign entity that deals with Iran’s financial system or trades in oil with the country. The legislation notably names the Central Bank of Iran as a target. Existing law already bans such dealings for U.S. entities and individuals. The sanctions amendment was wrapped into the $662 billion Defense Authorization Act, a comprehensive mechanism that authorizes defense spending and helps shape policy. The act was approved last week by the U.S. House of Representatives and the Senate, and is almost certain to be signed into law by the president. Weeks of tense negotiations between the Obama administration and Congress preceded the adoption of final language for the Iran sanctions. In House-Senate conference, negotiators modified language to address administration concerns that the tough lan-

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because they tend to be young and live on small, isolated outposts—stormed into an Israeli base in the northern West Bank. They burned tires and vandalized army vehicles, throwing stones and paint at them. Elsewhere in the northern West Bank, settlers also attacked and lightly wounded an Israeli army commander when they forced open the door of his jeep and hurled a brick at him. These attacks on the Israel Defense Forces—one of Israel’s most revered institutions and one to which Israeli families must entrust their sons and daughters —appalled Israelis and sparked intense debate over how best to combat lawlessness in the West Bank. Political leaders on the left and center argued that the current government’s ideological





affinity with the settler movement impaired its ability to crack down on the violence. Tzipi Livni, Knesset opposition leader and head of the Kadima Party, said in a statement that “this government… is laying fertile ground for these tumors. When Netanyahu says that we are dealing with rioters and not ideological crime, it indicates one of two things—either he doesn’t understand what is happening here, or he doesn’t want to deal with this extremist ideology because of his natural coalition partners.” Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and other government coalition members have come out strongly and repeatedly against the vigilante violence. Netanyahu said it must be combated with “a heavy hand.” However, the Netanyahu government continues to support settlement growth; just last week, Israeli Defense Minister Ehud Barak approved a a new neighborhood in the Gush Etzion settlement bloc, near Bethlehem.


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Palestinians from the West bank village of Burqa view the damage to their mosque from an arson allegedly committed by Israeli extremist settlers in a “price tag” attack Dec. 15. Photo: Issam Rimawi/Flash90/ JTA

This week, the whips of all the political parties in the governing coalition except Barak’s Independence faction supported a bill to prevent the demolition of Jewish homes thought to be built on private Palestinian property, like the one destroyed in Mitzpeh Yitzhar. This would be on condition that the house was standing for at least four years and that at least 20 families live on the outpost. The bill proposes providing compensation to the Palestinian landowner instead. At the last minute, Netanyahu torpedoed the initiative. But an appeal was filed, and the legislation might still move ahead. Settlers were quick to distance themselves from the violence. Danny Dayan, chairman of the Yesha Council, an umbrella organization of municipal councils on the West Bank that represents mainstream settlement leadership, condemned radical settler attacks against Palestinians and called the assault on the Israeli army base “a shameful, ungrateful atrocity.” He called on the police and state attorney to arrest those responsible and bring them to justice. But Dayan also warned against lumping together the entire settlement movement

with a “fringe” group of radicals. He argued that though “99 percent” of settlers were opposed to acts of violence, some on the left were attempting to exploit recent incidents to “demonize” and “delegitimize” the settler movement as a whole. Despite the broad consensus opposing violence against Palestinians, however, law enforcement has been largely ineffective. Few suspects have been arrested and even fewer have been indicted. Out of 112 cases of alleged settler abuse against Palestinians that B’Tselem, an Israeli human rights organization, asked police to investigate in the past two years, two indictments were issued—one for rock throwing and the other for torching a vehicle. Sarit Michaeli, a B’Tselem spokeswoman, explained that the total number of alleged cases of settler violence for the period was undoubtedly higher since B’Tselem figures only included incidents in which the organization became involved. According to Michaeli, West Bank police are used to prosecuting Palestinians in military courts where less conclusive evidence is needed to convict. Indictments are often

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based on extracting confessions. In contrast, radical settlers, as Israeli citizens, are tried in civilian courts where more rigorous evidence is needed to convict and basic rights are protected, Michaeli added. Hilltop youths have developed sophisticated legal tools, forming a legal aid group that offers subsidized defense. A booklet called “Know Your Rights,” which has been circulating in the West Bank for years, instructs settlers on how to avoid pitfalls during interrogations. The most common tactic is to simply refuse to answer questions. In an attempt to crack down on the Jewish vigilantes, Netanyahu announced last week that some radicals would be treated the same way as suspected Palestinian militants—

detained for long periods without charge and tried in military courts. He stopped short of declaring the hilltop youths a terrorist organization, as Defense Minister Ehud Barak suggested. Meanwhile, at Mitzpeh Yitzhar, residents are preparing to rebuild the house demolished by Israeli security forces. The land has already been leveled by a tractor, apparently to prepare for an even larger structure, and some of the debris has been cleared. Yehuda Liebman, a Yitzhar settler, told Army Radio last week that the destruction should be seen as a positive thing. Hundreds of thousands of dollars in donations from abroad have poured in, according to Liebman. “The next house will be even bigger than the last one,” he said.

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550 Palestinians released in second stage of Shalit swap JERUSALEM — Some 550 Palestinians were released from Israeli jails in the second stage of the prisoner swap for captured soldier Gilad Shalit. The prisoners, including six women, were handed over by Israel on Sunday night. They left from the Ayalon Prison near Tel Aviv and were bused to four separate crossings in order to be released to the West Bank, Gaza Strip, eastern Jerusalem and Jordan. Family members of the prisoners reportedly clashed with Israeli soldiers at the Beitunia crossing near Ramallah in the West Bank. As they waited for their relatives to go free, the family members threw rocks and firebombs at Israeli security services.

The list of prisoners to be released was posted four days ago on the Israel Prison Service’s website. None of the prisoners reportedly belongs to Hamas or Islamic Jihad, or was convicted of crimes involving the murder of Israelis, according to reports. Most are members of Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas’ Fatah Party. An appeal to delay the swap, filed by Israelis who had been victims of Palestinian attacks, was rejected Friday by Israel’s Supreme Court. Some 477 Palestinian prisoners were released in mid-October in exchange for Shalit, who had spent more than five years held in Gaza by Hamas. — JTA

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Jew vs. Jew During this season of Hanukkah, it is particularly sad to see extremely disturbing acts of violence in the modern Jewish State of Israel by Jews against fellow Jews. While the holiday celebrates the victory of Maccabeans against their enemies, the historic echoes of subsequent internal Jewish strife in ancient Judea pervade the news emanating from the West Bank. Last week, the St. Louis PostDispatch carried a McClatchy story by Sheera Frenkel headlined, “Right wing is new headache for the Israelis,” reporting on the “spate of attacks by Jewish extremists,” which has called into question whether Israel’s definition of the word “terrorist” should include Jews as well as Palestinians (See also the story on page 1). Extremist members of various West Bank settlements have described demolitions by Israel Defense Force soldiers, acting on behalf of the government, as amounting to a “declaration of war.” Frenkel reports on “a young man calling himself Yehudi Tzadik—‘righteous Jew’—(having) picked up a rock and rolled it around in his hand, as if considering pitching it at a police car parked nearby.” Tzadik, who gave his real first name only as David, said, “The State of Israel has lost its moral code. It has forgotten what is at the heart of the Jewish nation... We are reminding them.” The statements by “Tzadik” are absurd.  It is he and other extremists among the Jewish settler community in the West Bank who have lost semblance of a moral code, the code reflected in the laws of the State of Israel.  Israeli police and members of the IDF have been carrying out the orders of the democratically elected Israeli government to remove settler outposts that are clearly beyond the area long understood to be available for the establishment of new communities. Last Thursday morning, Israeli soldiers destroyed several structures on a small outpost near the Jewish settlement of Yitzhar, which is on a hilltop adjacent to the Palestinian city of Nablus, because they had been built on private Palestinian land. Even the government of Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, which has green- lighted a number of previous settlement expansions, drew a line in this instance, only to be met with threats of violence by Jewish extremists among the settlers. These incidents have prompted discussions among Israeli officials as to whether or not the

Nate Beeler, The Washington Examiner


Jewish Light Editorial term “terrorist” and the lawful responses against terrorism should apply equally to violence instigated by Jews. Israeli Defense Minister Ehud Barak, the most decorated military hero in the history of Israel, minced no words in his response to the attacks and violence. “These things both endanger human life and distract from the Israel Defense Forces’ main mission,” Barak told Israeli Army Radio. “In terms of their conduct, there is no doubt that this is the conduct of terrorists—terrorism, albeit Jewish.” Barak deserves credit for his clear and unequivocal denunciation of actions by Jewish extremists as amounting to “terrorism.” In a workable democracy, there cannot be different standards of tolerance applied based on the identity of the perpetrator. We recall the massacre of Muslim worshippers at the Tomb of the Patriarchs mosque in 1995 and the assassination of Israeli Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin in 2005 as painful reminders that Jews sometimes indeed commit acts of terrorism—and deserve to be punished to the limit of the law. Throughout Jewish history, internal splits have at times been as destructive as outside threats, and the fallout from our Hanukkah commemoration reflects that. The Hasmonean State of Judea, founded by the Maccabees after the first Hanukkah in 167 BCE, was beset in later years by factional disputes and corruption, which ultimately led to its collapse. The period just before the destruction of the Second Temple by the Romans in the year 70 C.E., was an era of deep divisions within the Jewish community, which left it weak and vulnerable to the outside threats which eventually led to its horrific destruction. The modern State of Israel— and the world Jewish community—cannot afford an escalating period of violent attacks by Jews against their fellow Jews or their neighbors. Such behavior fails Jews on two fronts, eroding both democratic principles and Jewish unity. Hanukkah is remembered not only as the Festival of Lights, but as the Festival of Rededication, and Jews in Israel and around the world should re-dedicate themselves to the concept of K’lal Yisrael—every Jew being responsible for the well-being of every other Jew. If Israel is indeed supposed to be “a Light unto the Nations,” it must live up to its moral code and that of the Jewish People.

Ad campaign criticisms were overblown I disagree with those American Jewish groups and individuals who thought that the Israeli governmentsponsored ads, intended to cajole Israelis living in the United States to come home, were intended to insult and offend American Jews (Light editorial Dec. 7; commentary by Danny Danon, Dec. 14). I do not think the ads showed a lack of sensitivity by the Israeli government toward American Jews any more than American Jews display an insensitivity and ignorance about Israelis. Danon is correct when he writes that “not every domestic policy…by Israel’s government is necessarily aimed at the Jewish Diaspora,” no matter how paramount we think we are. No country, even the United States wants to lose its brightest citizens, those who have benefited from the best government programs and initiatives. That includes Israel. The reaction by those American Jewish groups and individuals to these controversial ads was, not for the first time, an overreaction of hypersensitivity. There are far more serious issues dividing American Jews and Israelis: conversion, the definition of a Jew, the outsized role of Orthodox religious leaders in Israel regarding lifecycle events, Israel’s treatment of its Arab citizens, settlements, the peace process, to mention a few. Life in Israel is different. Judaism is expressed differently than in the Diaspora. In the United States, we have to work at being Jewish — we have to think about how we express our Jewishness; in Israel it is part of the air breathed, absorbed in your pores. Was there a little bit of truth in the discomfort experienced by the American Jewish reaction to the ads? Probably. If the relevant departments in Israel need to be more sensitive “to our brethren in the Jewish communities around the world,” the same sensitivity applies also to the Diaspora — in this case, American Jews. Danon concludes with the hope that the “two communities will move beyond this incident” and focus on the issues that are so important to both groups. I certainly hope so. Rosalyn Borg University City

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Connecting the next generation to Judaism I read with great interest David Baugher’s article, “What’s next for the Jewish NextGen?” (Dec. 7). This crucial topic is exactly what the Jewish community needs to discuss, and I was encouraged to read about strategies Jewish organizations employ to engage and strengthen connections with young adults. A troubling and fascinating aspect of Jewish life is the disaffection expressed by young Jews regarding religious observance, and the trend seems to be toward other types of activities.  Though I wholeheartedly support many of the events mentioned, including beer tastings, Shabbat dinners, laser tag and volunteering, I have a suggestion which may prove very beneficial to Jewish young adults. For those young Jews who find religious observance difficult or impossible, I suggest they try some one-on-one Torah study with a learned friend or friendly rabbi.  One easy way to jump in is to join our ragtag group: The Rush Hour Kollel, from 5:30 to 6:30 p.m. on Tuesdays in the Beit Midrash of the JCC Arts and Education Building. You can also find other great learning opportunities by calling Aish HaTorah or the St. Louis Kollel. In college I spent a great deal of time studying Communism and Chinese philosophy, and was completely ignorant of the elegance and utility of Jewish philosophy — my birthright cosmology. Just to make sure everyone understands the difference: you do not need to dress up, this is not praying, not a religious service, not a bar mitzvah, Holy Day, wedding or funeral, not an excruciating seder at your uncle’s house. It is sitting down with a friend or two and discussing some fascinating and practical elements of Jewish philosophy, history, law or mysticism. If you give it a shot, you might discover that Jewish learning is intellectually stimulating, helpful and fun. You may also discover, in the parlance of our era, Jewish philosophy rocks. Donald Meissner, MSW University City





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The story of one organizer of the Muslim-Jewish day of service By Abbas Ali

D’var Torah: Nurturing the soul on Hanukkah By Rabbi Brad Horwitz

Hanukkah is often referred to as the Festival of Lights. We add one candle to the Hanukkah menorah each of the eight nights of Hanukkah to commemorate the miraculous victory of the Macabees as well as the miracle of the small cruse of oil that lasted eight days instead of one. When we look at the candle light and recite the accompanying blessings we are in essence thanking God for these past miracles and for the daily miracles in our lives today. Menachem Mendel Schneersohn, the Lubavitcher Rebbe from 1950-1994, spoke of the connection between candle light and the responsibility of Jews in today’s world. He writes, “A Jew is a lamp lighter on the streets of the world. In older days, there was a person in every town who would light the gas street-lamps with a light that he carried at the end of a long pole. On the street cor-

D’var Torah Rabbi Brad Horwitz is Director of the Helene Mirowitz Center of Jewish Community Life at the Jewish Community Center of St. Louis. Horwitz is also Immediate Past President of the St. Louis Rabbinical Association. ners, the lamps were there in readiness, waiting to be lit: a lamp-lighter has a pole with a flame supplied by the town. He knows that the fire is not his own, and he goes around lighting all the lamps on his route…Today, the lamps are there, but they need to be lit…A Jew is one who puts personal affairs aside and goes around lighting up the souls of others with the light of Torah and mitzvot. Jewish souls are in readiness

to be lit…That is the true calling of a Jew- to be a lamplighter, an igniter of souls.” After reading this parable by the Lubavitcher Rebbe, the Hanukkah candles take on a whole new layer of meaning. The candles now also serve as a reminder that we have responsibility to do good in the world and to be “an igniter of souls.” And while we have responsibility to ignite the souls of others, we also must light our own souls and find meaning and purpose to our own lives. So as we celebrate the Festival of Lights again this year, I encourage us all to find a way to kindle light in our own souls and to shine our light into the world by doing acts of loving kindness and acts of tzedakah for our friends, family and community. Best wishes for a festive and joyful Hanukkah season.

I came to this country as an immigrant, not unlike the ancestors of many in the Jewish community who arrived here around the turn of the 20th Century. One of the greatest families in my extended family, who had been living in the United States for more than 20 years, helped us with the immigraCommentary tion process. My family emigrated to St. L ouis from Pakistan when I was 10 years old. My uncle and aunt hoped what would be Abbas Ali is a membest for our ber of the Islamic f ut u re a nd Foundation of brought us to Greater St. Louis and t he Un ited a pre-med student States — a land at St. Louis of opportunity Community Collegeand freedom. A Meramec. He is a lot of thanks go planning committee to my aunt and member for the uncle. But the Jewish and Muslim timing of our Day of Service (see arrival in event details below). America made our experience difficult. We are Muslim and we came here less than six months after the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks in 2001. My first few years in St. Louis were focused on learning English and adjusting to life in a new country. By the time I was in high school, I noticed that people were trying to pull away from me because my name and the color of my skin identified me as different. People I knew at school blamed

See OP-ED, page 17

During Hanukkah, count your blessings one by one By Rabbi Max Weiman

Hanukkah, the Festival of Lights, comes at a time when the nights are longer providing more darkness. Nothing is a coincidence. The sages also say that Greece is synonymous with darkness, since they wanted to uproot Judaism from the Jews. We celebrate Hanukkah by counting out the days of the miracle of the oil, i.e. each night another candle. Why not just light all eight every night? Because the act of counting one-by-one also reminds us to count our blessings one by one. Give each candle its own night. Count your blessings slowly and focus on each one. Magazines like to print new recipes for latkes. Well here is a recipe for happiness inherent in the lighting of the menorah. Whole Living Magazine wrote an article about Philadelphia psychologist Martin Seligman, the best-selling author of Authentic Happiness, and how he has revised his outlook to five key elements he refers to as PERMA or Positive emotion,

Local Commentary Rabbi Max Weiman is Director of Kabbalah Made Easy and author of ‘A Simple Guide to Happiness,’ available on More of his articles and may be found online at Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Accomplishment. One tip he gives is to write down three things that went well each day, whether from luck or skill. Being aware and reflecting on positive events lifts our mood. Focus on your blessings. Most people agree this is a necessity to happiness. Our mind often turns over and over our problems and worries because they are unresolved. Yet reviewing problems and worries wears us down and keeps us focused on negativity. We need to focus on positive things to

be happy. Every problem has a silver lining. Every bad thing could have been worse. A person hurt in a car accident can be thankful it wasn’t worse, thankful friends and family care about her and wish her well, thankful there are medical emergency people and equipment to help deal with the pain and injuries, etc. This doesn’t mean ignoring problems, but focusing on blessings will give you the best advantage for dealing with problems. In a positive upbeat mood you are in a better position to find solutions to difficulties. So try Seligman’s tip. Keep a journal and add three things every day. And over the course of time you just might train your mind to always think about positive things and be thankful for blessings. If you can accomplish that, you will definitely have a happier life. And if you thank the Almighty for your blessings, you’ll not only have a happier life, you’ll have a more spiritual life as well.

About the Jewish and Muslim Day of Service - Dec. 25 The Jewish Community Relations Council of St. Louis (JCRC), the Islamic Foundation of Greater St. Louis and the National Council of Jewish Women-St. Louis Section (NCJW) are sponsoring the first ever St. Louis area-wide “Jewish and Muslim Day of Service” on Sunday, Dec. 25 at 21 area agencies (three sites are still open for volunteers). Jewish and Muslim volunteers will be working side-by-side. The event begins at 9 a.m. at the Jewish Community Center in Creve Coeur with a volunteer welcome breakfast, followed by service projects at the various sites from 10 a.m. to noon. The program includes a toiletry donation drive with six drop off points: B’nai Amoona, Central Reform Congregation, Shaare Emeth, Daar Ul Islam Mosque, JCC Early Childhood Center-Creve Coeur and Temple Emanuel. For a list of supporting organizations or to sign up online, visit or contact the JCRC’s Gail Wechsler at 314-442-3894.



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features Out and About: Dec. 21 - Dec. 28 CHILDREN’S THEATER WHAT: “The Elves and the Shoemaker” WHEN: 11 a.m. Wednesday and Thursday, 11 a.m. & 3 p.m. Friday WHERE: Heagney Theatre at Nerinx Hall High School, 530 East Lockwood Avenue, Webster Groves HOW MUCH: $6 THE 411: When a kindly shoemaker gives his only remaining pair of shoes to a cold and hungry beggar woman, he finds his good deed rewarded in very unexpected ways. The shoemaker is shocked by the appearance of magic elves who turn his simple shoe shop into a great success, thrilling customers with their special creations. Based on the tale by the Brothers Grimm ans presented by the Rep’s Imaginary Theatre Company. MORE INFO: 314-968-4925 or WHAT: “Disney’s Beauty and the Beast” WHEN: 1& 7:30 p.m. Wednesday and Friday, 7:30 p.m. Thursday, 11 a.m. Saturday WHERE: Fox Theatre, 527 N. Grand Boulevard, St. Louis HOW MUCH: $20-$75 THE 411: Based on the Academy Awardwinning animated feature film, this musical love story is filled with unforgettable characters, lavish sets and costumes, and dazzling production numbers including “Be Our Guest” and the beloved title song. This 21/2 hour show, with one intermission, is best enjoyed by children 5 and older. MORE INFO: 314-534-1111 or

FAMILY FUN WHAT: Ice Skating WHEN: 10 a.m.-10 p.m. school holidays and Saturdays, noon -7 p.m. Sundays, 4-9 p.m. weekdays WHERE: The Rink Monsanto Grove at the Peabody Opera House, across from 1400 Market Street, St. Louis HOW MUCH: $6 THE 411: Nestled in the park directly opposite the newly re-opened Opera House (on Market Street between 14th and 15th Streets), the specially designed rink will operate seven days a week, featuring skate rentals, music, and light food and beverage. Folks visiting the city from near and far during the holidays will now have a brand new destination for frozen winter fun, with the breathtaking Opera House as a backdrop. MORE INFO: www.peabodyoperahouse. com

Planning ahead WHAT: David Sedaris WHEN: 7:30 p.m. April 25 WHERE: Peabody Opera House, 1400 Clark Street, St. Louis HOW MUCH: $35-$55 THE 411: With sardonic wit and incisive social critiques, David Sedaris has become one of America’s pre-eminent humor writers. The great skill with which he slices through cultural euphemisms and political correctness proves that Sedaris is a master of satire and one of the most observant writers addressing the human condition today. MORE INFO: 800-745-3000 or

“The Artist” staring Jean Dujardin, left, as George Valentin and Bérénice Bejo as Pepper Miller.

Holiday season delivers films for every taste By Cate Marquis Special to the Jewish Light

With kids on winter break and Hollywood delivering some of the year’s likely Oscar contenders, now’s a great time to take in some movies. Films for everyone abound this time of year. While many excellent ones such as “The Descendants” and “My Week with Marilyn” are already playing in St. Louis area theaters, more will open today, Friday and Sunday, Christmas Day. For purposes of this story, we are focusing on the justreleased and opening-soon films, with suggestions of ones appropriate for younger kids, for families and for adult evenings out.

“Adventures of Tintin”

Opening: Today (Dec. 21) Running time: 1:46 Rated: PG for adventure action violence, some drunkenness and brief smoking The 411: This rollickingly fun, glorious 3D animated film is based on the old comic books about a boy adventurer and journalist. But “Adventures of Tintin” is best described as an Indiana Jones for kids, with humor, adventure and a mystery to solve. The film deftly mixes interesting characters with a juicy plot so that it appeals to youngsters

without leaving adults bored. The animation is breathtaking, mixing computer generation with motion-capture shots, all in 3D. The characters’ faces and proportions are cartoony but much of action or close-ups of hands and objects are done in the hyper-real motioncapture, which is a very effective combination. Jewish flourish: Directed by Steven Spielberg

“War Horse”

Rooney Mara, left, as Lisbeth Salander, a young computer hacker, with Daniel Craig as journalist Mikael Blomkvist in David Fincher’s remake of “The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo.”

Opening: Sunday (Dec. 25) Running time: 2:26 Rated: PG-13 for intense sequences of war violence The 411: The World War I drama “War Horse” tells a young adult story about a teenaged British boy and his beloved horse. Visually and stylistically, the film is classic Hollywood as it harkens back to big-screen classics like “Gone With The Wind,” with lush photography and an epic feel. While not overly graphic, the backdrop here, at least partially, are the battlefields of WWI, one of the bloodiest wars in history, which makes it better suited to preteens and teens than the very young. However, the story is inspiring and focused on courage, persistence and human decency of the boy, of civilians caught Matt Damon, as Benjamin Mees, explains his plans to purup in the war, of individchase the most extraordinary gift of all — a zoo — in “We ual soldiers and of the

Bought a Zoo.” Photo: Neal Preston

horse itself in the face of the horrors of war. Featuring rising stars such as Benedict Cumberbatch (Sherlock Holmes in the new contemporary “Sherlock” TV series) and Tom Hiddleston (Loki in “Thor”) “War Horse” is likely to resonant with teens while appealing to their parents as well. Jewish flourish: Also directed by Spielberg

“We Bought a Zoo”

Opening: Friday (Dec. 23) Running time: 2:03 Rated: PG for language and some thematic elements The 411: Based on a true story, this family friendly comedy stars Matt Damon as a widower who decides to move his young daughter and teen son to the country to escape the constant reminders of his late wife. As it turns out, the perfect property is an animal park fallen on hard times. Goodnatured humor abounds with the animals and the zoo’s staff but the film has true heart and more quirkiness than you might expect. Jewish flourish: Stars Scarlett Johanasson, who is of Ashkenazi Jewish descent on her mother’s side.

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Feeling crafty? An edible menorah project for families

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If you’re looking for a holiday craft project with your family, consider making this edible Hanukkah menorah. It costs about $15 to $20 for the first menorah, but that includes several items you can keep for Hanukkah next year. For the candles, I used Presidor Cannolis (available at Kohn’s)—they’re simple, elegant and their delicious taste appeals to all ages. You can create this menorah by putting the candles on a tray—or directly on the table—but for a more sophisticated look, you can have a glass cut to size to use as the base.


• One 8-ounce container of non-dairy whipped topping (like Rich’s-brand) • 2 tablespoons instant vanilla pudding mix • Leaf chocolate mold to be used as flame (available at Karen Ann’s Supplies, 11553 Gravois Road for $1.99) • Orange royal icing (you can purchase Wilton ready made icing at Michaels) • Sanding sugar (available at Michaels)

Optional items for a display base • 2” by 15” piece of glass (custom cut by your local glass cutter for about five dollars) • Small square glass vase (can be purchased at dollar store or Pier 1 Imports • Glue dots (Michaels)

Assembling the Base Turn square vase

upside down Place a glue dot in each corner Lay cut glass on top Place 9 cupcake holders on glass.

Assembling Candles Melt chocolate in double boiler or microwave To create the shamash, dip the rim of one cannoli in melted chocolate and attach it to the bottom of another cannoli, thereby creating a larger candle Dip one side of each cannoli (shamash included) in melted chocolate Make the flames using chocolate mold When chocolate is hard and ready to use you may decorate the flames using orange royal icing (shown bottom center) and sanding sugar (show bottom right) Allow to dry over night Beat whip till firm—add vanilla pudding Fill a pastry bag (or freezer Ziploc) with star tip and pipe whip into candles Place flames on top of the candles Place cannolis into cupcake holders on base

Opening: Friday (Dec. 23) Running time: 1:40 Rated: PG-13 for a disturbing image and a crude gesture The 411: Perfect for lovers and lovers of old movies, this entertaining film centers on a silent movie star, a la Douglas Fairbanks, who resists the transition to “talkies” and a rising actress who finds her opportunity in the new medium. Shot in old-time Hollywood black and white and mostly silent, “The Artist” cleverly combines elements of the early sound and silent era with comedy, romance, action and drama. It taps into much of what makes films of the era entertaining while lampooning them a bit, plus that little dog is a true scene-stealer. Jewish flourish: Producer Harvey Weinstein, co-founder of the Weinstein Company, threw his weight behind this film in the United States and is leading the campaign to see it win the Oscar for Best Picture.

“Girl With the Dragon Tattoo” Opening: Today (Dec. 21) Running time: 2:32 Rated: R for brutal violent content, including rape and torture, strong sexuality, graphic nudity and language The 411: Director David Fincher’s Englishlanguage adaptation of the Swedish novel by Stieg Larsson focuses on journalist Mikael Blomkvist (Daniel Craig) as he tries to solve the mysterious disappearance of a young woman 40 years ago with the help of young, tattooed computer genius Lisbeth Salander (newcomer Rooney Mara). Though this U.S. version doesn’t dwell as much on the Nazi connections involved in the mystery as its 2009 Danish predecessor, it’s still a heck of a pulsepounding thriller. Jewish flourish: Nazi connections of the wealthy family involved in the mystery



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costs for Iran occasioned by the difficulties of bypassing traditional markets would force Iran to discount its oil, he said. “The goal is to reduce the price companies are willing to pay for Iranian oil, thereby diminishing the oil revenue Iranian companies receive,” he said. Sen. Mark Kirk (R-Ill.), a co-author of the sanctions amendment, said its provisions allow Obama to moderate, or even bypass, the sanctions. Kirk said the amendment includes two waivers: one if the president determines that waiving the sanctions will spur a country or an entity to more closely cooperate with U.S. policy; the other is a standard all-encompassing national security waiver. Heather Hurlburt, the executive director at the National Security Network, a group oriented to the realist school of foreign policy with ties to the Obama administration, said that “uncertainty” still dogged the administration’s perception of the amendment, despite the compromise. “It leaves the administration some flexibility on the timeline” for sanctions, Hurlburt said of the amendment, but it was not so clear what discretion the president had on whether or not to administer them in the first place. A complicating factor, she said, was that much of the leeway accorded to the president was conditioned on his reporting to Congress that implementing the sanctions would negatively affect oil markets, which are notoriously unpredictable. The volatility of the oil market was a key administration argument for greater executive prerogative. In early December, Treasury Secretary Timothy Geithner warned that the amendment as then framed could drive up oil prices. The amendment, he said Dec. 1, when the Senate was set to pass a tougher version of the bill, “threatens to undermine the effective, carefully phased and sustainable approach” that is favored by the administration. A spike in oil prices would drive away nations they had hoped to co-opt, administration officials said then, and would create more funds for Iran to advance its suspected



nuclear weapons program. “Iran would in fact have more money to fuel its nuclear ambitions, not less,” Wendy Sherman, a State Department undersecretary, was quoted as telling CNN at the time. The administration had hoped, but failed, to head off the sanctions legislation by issuing an executive order in November placing Iran’s interlocutors on notice that they could face sanctions for dealing with the Central Bank, and getting some Western allies to take similar steps. The executive warning was not enough; Congress wanted sanctions enshrined in law. Kirk, who co-authored the amendment with Sen. Robert Menendez (D-N.J.), said the president could now use the time it gave him before he activated the sanctions to nurture other markets that would supplement the loss of oil to some of Iran’s biggest buyers. “Oil suppliers like Saudi Arabia and Kuwait and Libya and Iraq could enter those markets,” Kirk said. “If run well by an active U.S. administration, we could be encouraging countries like Turkey and Sri Lanka to sign long-term deals with those countries.” Trita Parsi, a founder of the National Iranian American Council, a group that favors sanctions on Iranian human rights abusers but has tended to oppose broader economic


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sanctions because of their effect on ordinary Iranians, said Iran still had options in reserve to counter the sanctions. Iran’s leaders could shoot up risk premium on oil—the value the market attaches to the potential for interruption of supplies—simply by making belligerent statements, or more substantively by taking actions, he said. Oil prices spiked for a short period earlier this week based on rumors that Iran planned to close the Straits of Hormuz, a key passage for many of the world’s oil carriers, for war games. “If they manage to drive up the price of oil, we will have repercussions,” Parsi said. The Obama administration, he said, would “lose Russia and China,” two major trading partners of Iran that have, at Obama’s urging, made some concessions in recent years toward isolating the Islamic Republic. Rep. Brad Sherman (D-Calif.), a senior member of the U.S. House of Representatives Foreign Affairs Committee who helped draft two separate bills passed by the House sanctioning Iran, discounted such fears. The sanctions “will not reduce the amount of oil Iran sells but the price at which it sells it,” he said. “The world will be getting Iranian oil at some discount” as Iran seeks to circumvent the new bans.

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continued from page 9 the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks on Muslims in general. To please my American friends, I spent my first few years in high school assimilating and pulling away from Islam. Then, after attending a program in Chicago with my brother and father focused on spreading the word of Islam, I realized I had to be true to who I was and what I believed. I knew I had to talk to others about my religion. I had to show them that Muslims are not all terrorists. I wanted them to know that the Muslim faith teaches the importance of helping others in need and that it teaches other values similar to the tenets of other faiths. Islam has turned on a light in my heart to do good things for other people when they need help and it made me realize that I should put others first before myself. When I learned earlier this year about a project focused on Jews and Muslims volunteering together on Christmas Day I had to get involved. I am a member of the Islamic Foundation of Greater St. Louis, one of the co-sponsors of this event (along with the Jewish Community Relations Council and the National Council of Jewish Women). It excited me to know that I would get to meet others of different faiths and help plan a day of community service over the holiday season. As part of the planning committee for this project, I have made many friends in the Jewish community. By working together to identify 21 community service sites, we have gotten to know each other and have strengthened our bonds. I personally have come a long way from the days when I was afraid to identify myself as Muslim. I now know I can embrace my faith and also reach out to others in the region who may not look like me or practice the same religion as me, but who share my values. This is what is needed the most in western society: working side-by-side, holding hands together to make the world a better and understanding place. On behalf of the planning committee of the Jewish and Muslim Day of Service, I invite you to come to one of the three on-site projects that are still open for volunteers on Christmas Day (the remaining sites are now closed). Get to know your Muslim neighbors and help make the world a better place.

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mitzvot from the heart ­ Samantha Mishkin Congregation Shaare Emeth Rainbow Village is a very special organization to Samantha and her family. Co-founded in 1967 by her late great-aunt Marlene (Jebe) Kopman, Samantha, daughter of Joanne and Jeff Mishkin of University City, chose to support it for her mitzvah project. A non-profit organization, Rainbow Village provides safe, comfortable, and affordable homes in the St. Louis metro area for people with developmental disabilities. Working collaboratively with others, the village currently houses more than 240 people in 54-plus homes. Its goal is to allow residents to live in the community,

be part of a neighborhood, and enjoy their lives to the fullest. In prior years, Shaare Emeth included landscaping the gardens at Rainbow Village as one of its Mitzvah Day projects. Since it was not part of Mitzvah Day this year, Samantha decided to step in and make it her own project because she knew it would make a huge impact on the lives of the Rainbow Village “families.” With the help of her family and three of her close friends, they spent over three hours doing yard work and planting flowers for six houses. One of Samantha’s friends remarked that the project was “life changing.” “We planted flowers and in the end, everything looked stunning,” said Samantha. She has decided to continue landscaping on her



own at Rainbow Village next spring. A student at MICDS, Samantha also stuffed envelopes for Rainbow Village’s annual fundraiser. “Stuffing envelopes and gardening and landscaping did not feel like work to me,” she said “Seeing the gratefulness from everyone and the joy just from planting flowers put a smile on my face. It made it all the more special that this project took place at Rainbow Village, the non-profit organization that I have grown up with. I am so excited to do it again. It made me feel so, good.” Samantha’s great-aunt Marlene co-founded Rainbow Village because her adopted son was developmentally disabled. She wanted a residential option instead of institutionalizing him. Rainbow Village is the only nonprofit in the St. Louis area that focuses solely on providing long-

Samantha Mishkin, second from left, works with friends at Rainbow Village term, affordable, quality homes for people with developmental disabilities. If you would like additional information about Rainbow Village or would like to make a donation in Samantha’s honor,

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YAMBRA-LOURIE ENGAGEMENT Lauren Beth Yambra, daughter of Judy and Ronnie Yambra of Houston, Texas and Jason Thomas, son of Ellen and Steve Lourie of St. Louis, are delighted to announce their engagement. She is the granddaughter of Betty and the late Milton Freedman of Houston, and the late Sophie and Aaron Yambra of Galveston. He is the grandson of Ruth Satz and the late Eddie Satz of St. Louis, and the late Ruth and Henry Lourie, also of St. Louis. The bride-to-be is a graduate of Lamar High School in Houston, Texas and a graduate of Indiana University, where she earned her degree in early childhood education. She is currently teaching third grade at Bernard Zell Anshe Emet Day School in Chicago. Her fiance is a graduate of Parkway Central and Indiana University, where

Justin Tyler O’Neal, son of Melody L. O’Neal of Fairfield, Ill. and Dr. Robert Jay Schneider, son of Jerome D. and the late Betty Schneider, were married Nov. 26, 2011 at Central Reform Congregation, where Rabbi Susan Talve officiated. A wedding reception followed at the Louis Spiering Room at the Sheldon Concert Hall. O’Neal received his bachelor of science in mass communication from the University of Evansville. He is currently Marketing and Events Manager for Food Outreach. Dr. Schneider received his M.D. from John Hopkins University School of Medicine. He is currently a physician with Rheumatology and Internal Medicine Associates-BJC at Missouri Baptist Hospital. For their wedding party, the couple chose O’Neal’s friends, Dr. Anne Kitchens, Nathan Brendal and Carrie Nenonen along with Schneider’s daughter, Sarah Carlson, and his sons, Dr.

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chailights Ongoing Mishna learning with Assi Gastfraind Assi Gastfraind, shliach of Torah MiTzion will be teaching an ongoing class 7:30 p.m. on Tuesdays, beginning with Mishnayot from Masechet Megilla. Classes will be held at the home of Janet Weinberg (the learning will be in memory of her mother, the late Esther Ruth Goldenhersh). Call Bais Abraham at 314-7213030 for the address or for more information.

Ending Friday, Dec. 23 Canned food drive at Cedars The Cedars at the JCA is having a canned food drive Dec. 19 to 23 for the Harvey Kornblum Jewish Food Pantry. The Cedars is located at 13190 South Outer 40 Road in Chesterfield. Drop off cans between 8 a.m. and 7 p.m. at either the Hillside or Arborview main entrance. There will be a barrel just inside each door near the receptionist. Call 314-434-3330 for directions.

Saturday, Dec. 24 Jacob’s Pillow at Neve Shalom Jacob’s Pillow celebrates our teachers, inspirations and influences with poetry, music, visual arts and sacred story. Our next ceremony takes place at Congregation Neve Shalom, led by Rabbi James Stone Goodman and his conventicle of intentional musicians. This session will be dedicated to the music and poetry of the mystical masters of chant and melody, including the last of the Jewish Sufis at the intersection of mystical Judaism and mystical Islam. There will be music, storytelling, poetry and ceremony. A modest donation will be requested at the door. Neve Shalom is located at 1240 Dautel Lane in


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In the spotlight JCC’s Hanukkah Hooplah The JCC’s Hanukkah Hooplah will offer myriad fun and interactive Hanukkah activities for young Jewish families from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Sunday, Dec. 25 at the Staenberg Family Complex in Creve Coeur. Decorate 3-D Judaic pieces, make Hanukkah candles, see an olive press at work, take family photos with a green screen backdrop, listen to Hanukkah stories and songs, participate in a Dreidel Probability Lab and join in on a Jewish and Muslim Day of Service project. The cost is $10 per family for JCC members and $15 per family for the public in advance, or $15 and $20 at the door. Latkes, jelly donuts

the Rainbow Village (off of Olive Boulevard, one mile west of Lindbergh Boulevard — turn at the Walgreens, go a half mile north, turn right into the Rainbow Village and follow the signs to Neve Shalom by the woods in the back). Call 314-8634366 for more information or visit

YPD party at Atomic Cowboy Jewish Federation’s Young Professionals Division will hold its annual Lollapajewza party starting at 9 p.m. (DJ Uptown starts at 10 p.m.) at Atomic Cowboy, 4140 Manchester Avenue in the Grove neighborhood. Guests bringing unopened toiletry for the Jewish and Muslim Day of Service will have access to drink specials. The featured drink is the “Jew Blue Shot,” though

Jewish and Muslim Day of Service

and a hot dog lunch will be available for purchase. For more information, or to register, contact Marianne Chervitz at 314-442-3454 or The program is coordinated by the JCC’s Helene Mirowitz Center of Jewish Community Life and partially funded by J Associates. Batya Wertman and Valeska Zighelboim are chairs. Community partners include PJ Library, Torah Mitzion, Chabad of Greater St. Louis, Aish HaTorah, Lisa Mandel Photography, Saul Mirowitz Jewish Community School, TICK Congregation, Epstein Hebrew Academy and Dave Simon’s Kidzrock. Batya Wertman and Valeska Zighelboim are chairs.

The Jewish Community Relations Council of St. Louis (JCRC), the Islamic Foundation of Greater St. Louis and the National Council of Jewish Women-St. Louis Section (NCJW) are sponsoring the “Jewish and Muslim Day of Service.” Jewish and Muslim volunteers will be working side-by-side. The event begins at 9 a.m. at the Jewish Community Center in Creve Coeur with a volunteer welcome breakfast, followed by service projects at the various sites. The program includes a toiletry donation drive with six drop off points. For more information, visit or contact Gail Wechsler at 314-442-3894.

Family Hanukkah event at Aish

a full bar and restaurant menu will be available. No cover charge. Event details available on Facebook: at For more information, contact Lee’at Bachar at 314442-3817 or

Aish HaTorah, 457 N. Woods Mill Road in Chesterfield, will offer a bagel breakfast and “smorgasbord” of learning from 10 a.m. to noon. Enjoy a delicious breakfast featuring bagels, latkes and donuts followed by a class on Hanukkah for adults with Rabbi Shmuel Greenwald and a fun and educational show for kids by Mad Science. The cost is $5 per person. RSVP to Claire at 314-862-2474.

Sunday, Dec. 25

Monday, Dec. 26

Kollel offers ‘Hanukkah Family Fun’

Movie musical at Covenant House Experience the music and mayhem of the award winning movie, “Chicago” at 1 p.m. at 8 Millstone Campus Drive, lower level of Covenant House II Apartments, in the Helene Mirowitz Theatre. Free and open to the community. For more information call 314-432-1610.

St. Louis Kollel presents Hanukkah Family Fun from 2 to 4 p.m. at the Brunswick Zone XL in St. Peters. Bowling is free for all two hours. In addition, $15 game cards are available to cover laser tag, arcade games and air hockey. Game cards can be bought at the event or purchased at the St. Louis Kollel, 8200 Delmar Boulevard (at Old Bonhomme Road) in University City. For more

See CHAILIGHTS, page 22

HANUKKAH WORD PUZZLE By Daniel and Noah Weisz

Visit for this week’s crossword puzzle answers.





27. Zaidy’s Deli in Cherry ___, Colorado 28. Cartoonist Feiffer 29. Profits 30. Toys in a house 31. Hasidic title of respect 32.“At Seventeen” Singer Ian 33. Jet black 34. Holocaust survivor and German-language poet Paul 35. BlackBerry, e.g. 38.“A Wild ___” (cartoon in which Mel Blanc first has Bugs Bunny say “What’s up, Doc?”) 39. Bernstein and Reiner 40. Bellow in the bookstore? 41. Palindromic town in


1. Dogear mark 2. Tries to join AEPi 3. French region with a long Jewish history 4. Takes a turn? 5. Musician and Holocaust victim Nadel

6. Women’s Bible in Yiddish 7. Nighttime noisemaker 8. A moon of Saturn 9. In a frenzy 10. Black goo 11. Employs 12. eBay specialty 13. Madonna’s Kabbalah name 15. Biblical enemy of Israel 19. Bob Brozman’s kind of music 23. Matzo ___ (soup ingredients) 25. Dan, e.g. 26. Talmudic tractate about slaughtering 27. Where to find Larry David 28. Vaccine pioneer and virologist 29. Matzo that has ab-

sorbed liquid 30. Dawdle 31. Israeli city, literally “fresh” 32. Teaneck locale, for short 33. Writer Asch 34. With caution 35. Chinese temple 36. Fought over honor, maybe 37. Bloom and Sherman 39. Doctor, one would hope 40. Transition 42.“Dan ___ and the International Jewish Banking Conspiracy” (folk group) 43. Privy to 45. A-U linkup


Judea 42. Gangster and Vegas pioneer 44. The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame is next to it 46. Zambia’s neighbor 47. Completely 48. Turn up the volume 49. Work with Jerusalem stone, e.g. 50. Prepares challah dough


By David Benkof, 2

Last week's crossword answers

word one letter longer than the previous word. We have given you the first word, and the letters O, I, and L have been filled in for you in all the rest of the words as well. For each candle in the Hanukkiah, choose the necessary number of letters from the Shamash letter-bank to complete each word and “light” the candle. You may only add any letter from the Shamash once to each word, but each Shamash letter may be used in more than one word. (Note: although O, I, and L are already in each word, you may still add one O, I, and/or L from the Shamash to each word if necessary.) If you’ve correctly completed all the words, filling in the numbered letters in numerical order at the bottom of the puzzle will reveal the answer to the Hanukkah riddle below!

The Bais Abraham Brigade of Kiddush Anagramists (BABKA) is a group of devoted wordsmiths who meet during Kiddush after Shabbat morning services at Bais Abraham Congregation to play “anagrams,” an engrossing and suspenseful word game played with Scrabble tiles. We welcome new members, so if you’re curious or would like to learn, stop by one week for a game! BABKA is pleased to bring you this Hanukkah puzzle. After the Maccabees defeated the Greeks, they wanted to rededicate the Temple, but had only enough oil to light the Menorah for one night. Miraculously, the oil lasted for eight nights. In commemoration of this Hanukkah miracle, this puzzle challenges you to form eight words containing the letters O, I, and L, each


1. Ascot cousin 7. Importance 14. Tsar Nicholas II and Herod the Great 15. Works on an AshmanMenken film, perhaps 16. Dead Sea sect 17. Taxicab driver, e.g. 18. Israeli Supreme Court President, 1995-2006 20.“Well ___-di-dah” 21. Ticks, say: Abbr. 22.“The Five Books of Miriam” author Frankel 23. Antisemites spew it 24. Hamburg-to-Berlin dir. 25. More loyal 26. Humiliating frat brother


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Beginning Monday, Dec. 26 Dave Simon offers Kidzrock classes Dave Simon’s rock band program for 4 to 8-year-olds, Kidzrock, is expanding west and will now be offered at the JCC’s Marilyn Fox Building in Chesterfield beginning in January. Simon has been teaching children rock music for more than 10 years at his school in Olivette. Kidzrock teaches kids how to play as a real rock band using modified instruments and a colorcoded note reading system. Students learn the basic mechanics of drums, guitar and piano as they take turns on each instrument. Children learn to play as a band and they perform a concert at the end of each eight-week session. Simon will be conducting free Kidzrock trial classes at 4 p.m. the week of Dec. 26 at the JCC. Visit for more details.

Friday, Dec. 30 Last story time for Fall for Books Fall for Books, a reading program at Shirlee Green Preschool in partnership with Einstein Bagels, has its last story time at 4 p.m. Barb Hoffman from Shirlee Green Preschool will be telling special stories to the children. Fall for Books is a new reading program designed to encourage children to read. Each child is given a reading log to record their efforts. With every book they read they earn points to exchange for prizes at Einstein Bagels. For more information, call 314-569-0010.

Shabbat at the Aish Firehouse Join Rabbi Yosef David and his family for a Shabbat at the Aish Firehouse, 457 N. Woods Mill Road in Chesterfield. There will be candle lighting at 4:30 p.m., followed by a 5 p.m. educational service in English where all questions are welcome and a 5:45 p.m. Shabbat dinner featuring Mimi David’s homemade challah. The cost is $15 for adults, $8 for children 5-11; children under 5 are free. For more information,

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all got to be very comfortable with each other.” Since mid-July, Natalia, who is now 9, has been living with the Gages, attending school in the same third grade class as Belle, going to physical therapy at Shriners several times a week and most recently, celebrating Hanukkah with her American Jewish family. Despite still wearing an external fixator on her leg to keep the healing bones stabilized, she’s physically very able. “P.E. is her favorite class,” reported Amy. “She can do everything except roller skating and jump roping.” When the fixator is removed, most likely in February, Natalia will go home to the Dominican Republic. “Initially, we thought she would be able to go home for Christmas but her leg is healing a little more slowly,” said Amy. “When she was told this I thought she would be disappointed but instead she said, ‘You mean I’m going to see snow? I get to have Hanukkah?’ She’s so excited, it’s unbelievable.” Of course what had initially been a twoweek commitment has turned into a mitzvah of multiple years. The Gages receive no financial compensation for housing Natalia. They’ve even paid for school for Natalia in the Dominican Republic. “We look at this as our big charitable donation of the year,” joked Amy, adding that in truth, Natalia is a big, joyous part of their family. Still, the old adage “it takes a village” has taken on new meaning as friends, family members, neighbors and CRC congregants pitch in to take Natalia shopping,





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` Tuesday, Jan. 3

Mystical Tour of the Hebrew Calendar Take a trip through the days of the year from a Kabbalistic perspective with Rabbi Max Weiman during this free class at 3:30 p.m. in the Crown Center Library.

Thursday, Jan. 5 NHBZ Yiddish Club The Nusach Hari B’nai Zion Yiddish Club invites the community to its monthly (first Thursday) meeting at 7 p.m. at NHBZ, 650 North Price Road in Olivette (use the north entrance, lower level). Attendees are encouraged to be prepared with a Yiddish anecdote, song or text. Light refreshments will be served. For more information and/or help with transportation, contact Dr. Ethan Schuman at 314991-2100.

Wednesdays, Jan. 4 & 18 Yiddish Group Schlep on over and practice your Yiddish with others at 1:30 p.m. at Crown Center’s classroom. The free class is taught by Thelma Edelstein and all levels are welcome.

Sunday, Jan. 8 Jewish Community Blood Drive Young Israel is hosting the St. Louis Jewish Community Blood Drive from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Visit (code YUS) or call 1-800-RED CROSS to make an appointment. Walk-in donors are welcome, but appointments take priority. The event is endorsed by the Jewish Social Action Network. There is also an accompanying food drive for non-perishable items for the Harvey Kornblum Jewish Food Pantry, including soup, canned tuna, peanut butter, rice and macaroni and cheese. Young Israel is located at 8101 Delmar Boulevard in University City.

to dinner, to doctor and therapist appointments, even to see Santa. Perhaps the one person who has been the most generous with her time and energy is Belle Gage. “It’s been wonderful but it also provides many challenges for her,” said Amy. “We are so amazed and proud of Belle. She shares everything with Natalia from her clothes and socks, to her parents’ time and time with her sisters, to her home and her friends. “Natalia doesn’t like to be by herself and she doesn’t yet have the tools to read or sit by herself. Belle loves to be by herself and read and have quiet time. We are really aware of this so we try on weekends to have friends take Natalia on outings so that Belle can have some personal space and alone time.” Currently, Amy says her family’s big goal is to get Natalia reading. “That’s been going slowly,” Amy explained. “She very bright, with an amazing sense of direction. She’s worldly, has a witty sense of humor and she learned English so quickly. But she learned to read in Spanish and English at the same time and I think that slowed her down. We are hoping that by the time she goes home she can read a book to her family.” This Hanukkah, Amy said she and her family have much to celebrate, not the least of which are the many lessons learned from Natalia. “Having Natalia has given us a keen sense of gratitude for all the blessings, the comforts, the opportunities we have in our lives—especially the opportunity for a wonderful education and for advanced medical care,” said Amy. “We have also learned some amazing lessons from her about tackling adversity with courage and resilience.”

obituaries Martha Herrmann Cornfeld, died December 12, 2011.  Beloved wife of Dave L. Cornfeld; dear mother of Rick (Marcy) Cornfeld, Jim (Jann Fowler) Cornfeld and Rabbi Yosef (Ellen) Cornfeld; dear grandmother of Li and Sari Cornfeld, Emily Fowler-Cornfeld, Moshe (Ariela), Shifra (Muli Segev), Avraham, Efrat, Shimon, Eliyahu, Bat Sheva and Yiska Cornfeld; dear great-grandmother of Ashira and Ronia Cornfeld and Amalia Segev; dear sister of the late Berthilde (the late Ted) Horowitz; our dear aunt, cousin and friend. She was a member of the  Washington University Women’s Club and a former board member of the B’nai Brith Hillel Foundation at Washington University. Contributions to United Hebrew Congregation or the Scholarship Foundation of St. Louis. Berger Memorial Josephine Feldman, died December 12, 2011, six weeks short of her 100th birthday, in Frederick, Md. where she had resided for 58 years. Beloved widow of Harold Feldman; dear mother of Gail (RD) Wilson and Kathleen (Bill) Sitzer; loving grandmother of Gerri (Scott) Metzger, Michael (Erin) Good, Joshua (Amy) Sitzer, Scott Sitzer, Sara (Richard) Sitzer; adoring great-grandmother of Whitney and Ellie Clark, Georgia and Matthew Good, Abby and Hallie Sitzer, Eli and Zoe Sitzer. Contributions to Central Reform Congregation, 5020 Waterman Ave., St. Louis, Mo. 63108, New Jewish Theatre, 2 Millstone Campus Dr, St. Louis, Mo. 63146 or a charity of your choice. Valerie Feldman, died December 11, 2011. Beloved mother of Synthia Brown, Donna Rodgers and Mark (Julie) Kaplan; dear grandmother of Michelle (Brian) Cechowski and Melanie (Robert) Root, Benjamin Kaplan, Bailey Kaplan and Bethany Kaplan Rodgers, Todd, Timothy and Tyler Kaplan, Rachael and Greg Creel; dear great-grandmother of Ashlynn and Brandon Cechowski, Shayla Lee WilsonKaplan and Mason Creel-Tiller; dear sister of the late Marvin (the late Rita) Kyman; dear aunt of Alan (Susan) and Steve Kyman; dear great-aunt of Katherine and Emily Kyman. Berger Memorial Loren K. Hilch, died December 16, 2011. Beloved husband of Myra Hilch; dear father of Allyson (John) Ewing, Jarrod Hilch and Taryn (Stephen Brand) Hilch; dear son of Rosella and the late Norman Hilch; dear brother of Gary (Peggy) Hilch and Bruce Hilch; dear grandson of the late Jacob and the late Jennie Hilch; our dear brother in law, nephew, cousin and friend. Contributions to the St. Louis Heart Association or the charity of your choice. Berger Memorial Barbara German Linder, died December 16, 2011. Beloved wife of Solomon Linder; dear mother of Aaron (Deborah Rosecan) Linder, David (Lisa) Linder and Burton Linder; loving grandmother of Jerry Linder, Zak Herner and Max Linder; beloved sister of the late Steve German; dear sister-inlaw of Myron (Leila) Linder; beloved aunt of Debbie (Jordan) Kimberg and Julie German; our dear great aunt, cousin and friend. Contributions to the Multiple Sclerosis Society, 1867 Lackland Hill Parkway, St. Louis, Mo. 63146, the Lifelong Learning Institute at Washington University, Campus Box 1154, 7425 Forsyth Blvd., St. Louis, Mo. 63105, or to the charity of the donor’s choice. Rindskopf-Roth Frank H. Newman, died December 10, 2011 at age of 98 in Indianapolis. Husband of Dorothy Selig Newman for 65 years; father of Robert (Jan) of Hillsborough, Ca., Terry (Richard) Bernstein of St. Louis and Nancy Reiter of Indianapolis; grandfather of Lauren, David and Julie Bernstein and Jessica and

Katie Reiter. He was a World War II veteran. He was a longtime Executive Vice-President of the Jewish Federation of Indianapolis. His tenure’s accomplishments included the building of the Jewish Community Campus. Born in 1913, Newman graduated from George Williams College and received a Master’s of Social Work from the George Warren Brown School of Social Work at Washington University. He began his Jewish community service in Yonkers, N.Y. and  moved to St. Louis to be on the staff of the Jewish Community Center.   He spent eight years in Gary, Ind. as Jewish Federation director. He later served on the administrative staff of Jewish Federations of the Chicago and New York metropolitan areas.  He came to Indianapolis in 1959. He served on the boards of Inter-Faith Housing, Visiting Nurses, Planned Parenthood, Indianapolis Repertory Theater, Dance Kaleidoscope, Ballet International, Girls Club of Indianapolis, United Way, Community Credit Counseling, Legal Aid Society and FBI Citizen’s Academy.  The Newman Award is given each year to the outstanding community professional of that year.  He was a longtime member of Indianapolis Hebrew Congregation and Broadmoor Country Club. Contributions to the Frank H. Newman Charitable Fund, c/o  Jewish Federation, 6705 Hoover Rd., Indianapolis, Ind.  46260. Lester Milton Rosenblatt, died December 10, 2011. Beloved husband of Juliette Stein Rosenblatt; dear father of Jamie Lefkowith and Ellen (David) Polak; dear grandfather of Cori  Lefkowith and Drew Lefkowith, Samuel (Lauren)  Polak and Sydney Polak; dear great-grandfather of Darcy Polak; brother, uncle and friend. Contributions to the National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke, Financial Management Branch, Building 31 Room 8A34, 31 Center Drive,  MSC 2540, Bethesda, Maryland  20892, giftfunds@ Please specify in the memo “For NPH Research”.  Berger Memorial Stanley Shapiro, died December 17, 2011. Beloved husband of Sylvia Shapiro for 61 years; dear father of Paul (Dianne) Shapiro and Richard (Jan Bischoff) Shapiro; loving grandfather of Andrew (Darcy), Risa, Tyler, Dustin and Mykel Shapiro; dear greatgrandfather of Emmett Shapiro; our dear brother, brother-in-law, uncle, cousin and friend to many. He was a graduate of the University of Miami, served in the US Navy during WW II and had a 40 year career in the footwear industry. Contributions to the American Diabetes Association, P.O. Box 11454, Alexandria, Va., 22312. RindskopfRoth Richard Stang, died December 14, 2011. Beloved husband of Susan Hacker Stang and the late Sondra Selvansky Stang; dear father of David Stang, Elizabeth Stang Anton and Sam Stang; loving brother of Judith Stang Kaminstein; beloved grandfather of Ben and Maya Stang and Sondra Anton. Contributions to the American Parkinson Disease Association, Patient Services, Campus Box 8111, 660 South Euclid Avenue, St. Louis, Mo. 63110. Rindskopf-Roth Shale Yorke, died December 10, 2011 in Las Vegas, Nevada; Beloved husband of Beth Yorke; father of Rebecca Lynn Yorke and Angela Beth Yorke; dear brother of Robert Yorke; beloved stepfather of Michele Schatz; loving grandfather of Michael and Joseph Schatz; dear uncle of Lisa (Lenny) Williams and Jeffrey (Dawn) Yorke; favorite cousin of Judy (the late Harry) McCown; our dear great-uncle, cousin and friend.  Contributions to the St. Louis Peregrine Society, 2343 Hampton Avenue, St. Louis, Mo. 63139 or to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital, 501 St. Jude Place, Memphis, Tenn. 38105. Rindskopf-Roth





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Richard Stang, 86; W.U. English professor admired by his students BY ROBERT A. COHN Editor-in-Chief Emeritus

Richard Stang, professor emeritus at Washington University, and a recognized expert on English literature, died Wednesday, Dec. 14 of pancreatic cancer. He was 86 and a resident of University City. Professor Stang was considered a leading authority on Ford Madox Ford, an English novelist, editor and literary critic in the early part of the 20th century. Among his many grateful former students is Howard Schwartz, professor of English at the University of Missouri-St. Louis and author of numerous books on Jewish literature, poetry and folklore. “Richard Richard [Stang] was a really wonStang derful teacher,” Schwartz said. “I learned more from him than from any other professor, and did independent work on Blake and Yeats while I was one of his students at Washington University. He was very demanding and had unusually high standards. Some of his students found him to be challenging, but all of us admired

and appreciated what we learned from him.” His most recent scholarly work, published Professor Stang’s wife, Susan Hacker in 2002, was “Critical Essays: Ford Madox Stang, a professor of photography at Webster Ford.” University, said that her husband had written A graveside service was held last Sunday numerous books and articles, “but what he on Long Island, N.Y. In addition to his wife, really loved was to teach.” The couple married in 1992. Professor Stang grew up in Brooklyn, N.Y. Among his cousins was the late character actor Arnold Stang, who frequently appeared on popular radio and TV shows and films during the 1940s and 1950s. When Professor Stang was 18, he joined the U.S. Army and became an infantryman, fighting in the European Theater of Operations during World War II. After his military service, Professor Stang enrolled at Columbia University, where he earned his undergraduate degree as well as master’s and doctoral degrees. His Ph.D. work was done under the supervision of the noted literary critic Lionel Trilling. He taught at the University of Washington, City College of New York and Carleton College before joining the Washington University English Department in 1961. He became professor emeritus in 1997. While at Carleton, Professor Stang wrote “The Theory of the Novel in England: 1850-1870.”

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