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THE BUZZ 11

What everyone’s talking about 20 Marky ponders…

STYLE

35 How to wear silks 38 Arm party 40 The new dress shapes for summer 45 Ooh la lust 46 Sports vibes

BEAUTY 53 62 64

2017 new beauty In my makeup bag Beauty Q&A

31 Cheeky denim

‘He introduced her… as his girlf i nd’

BODY 67 How do you mend a broken heart? 68 The ab sculptor 70 Sleep well wherever 72 Sneaker talk 74 How to have a magical bathroom experience 76 Shake it off

WORK 79 Need some kelp? 80 Is your boss a gendersaurus? 83 Work techcessories

FEATURES 90 The 20something conundrum

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Rise of public revenge 98 10 things we all worry about 114 The secret life of a camgirl

THE LOOK 120 Night fever 130 All wow no work

LOVE & LUST 135 Crush the dating game 142 When your first one is The One 148 Manthropology 150 Ask him anything 152 Sex Q&A

LIFESTYLIST 155 How to have a non-cringeworthy Valentine’s Day

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THE EVOLUTION OF GIRLS Next month we reach the end of an era: we’ll see the first of the last of Girls. We thought it apt to track our relationship with the four main characters from the get-go

MARNIE

sticks a cotton bud in her ear and ends up in hospital.

UP: She leaves

UP: But then they get

Charlie and hooks up with that guy from The Lonely Island.

back together. Woo. That’s until he leaves the show and they have to ‘break up’.

UP: Starts a folk duo with said Desi.

UP: We don’t have to write the word Desi anymore (even though they still have their shitty folk band).

DOWN: She looks like a

JESSA

whiny and has a hot BF, Charlie.

G-damn fool when she performs a Kanye song at Charlie’s office party. We cringe. We still cringe.

UP: She meets

MEH:

Chris O’Dowd. This is really more of an up for her. ’Cos he’s cool.

Jessa marries Chris O’Dowd. OK, his character’s name is Thomas-John.

DOWN: She gets engaged to Desi. We know how this is going to end. Soz ’bout it. UP: She grows close to Adam. And we like it. Sorry Hannah.

DOWN: Jessa and Chris

we’re not sure how to feel. Do we like her? Or is she a grotsky biatch?

O’Dowd break up, some other things happen and then Jessa goes to rehab.

UP: Starts seeing Ray. This makes us like Ray. We now like both of them. The world is OK.

Immediately annoys us. Talks too fast.

UP: Accidentally smokes crack (not endorsing… wait for it) then runs around without her clothes. It’s entertaining. Don’t do drugs, kids.

DOWN: She cheats on Ray with a doorman, in a closet.

DOWN: Jessa and Adam have potentially the biggest fight we’ve ever seen.

UP: She takes a job in Japan and turns all Harajuku. Lives in awesome Japanese house. Awesome.

DOWN: Gets made redundant.

DOWN: Has to leave awesome Japanese house.

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DOWN:

UP: While they’re at a beach house, Shosh goes HAM on the other girls and says what we’re all thinking. Snaps for Shosh.

DOWN: She leaves Desi.

DOWN: Jessa and Hannah’s relationship is strained. Both are annoying. Over it.

MEH: We meet Jessa and

To be continued…

DOWN: OK, she makes Fran leave her on the side of the road, effectively breaking up with him. OK.

DOWN: Nope, she

To be continued…

HANNAH

MEETS FRAN YASSSSSS.

DOWN: Hannah snorts cocaine, fights with Marnie, kicks Elijah out of her house and hooks up with Laird. Not one of her finer moments.

MEH: Marnie is a bit

SHOSHANNA

UP: We last see Hannah getting back into writing and at peace with Adam and Jessa’s relationship.

UP: YASS SHE

To be continued…

UP: Hannah lands an e-book and we finally feel like she’s getting her shit together.

Hannah – broke, wondering where to go in life, trying to bum money off of her parents.

To be continued…

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Beach reads fiction

COSMO SHELFIE We’ve rounded up the best page-turners you’ll be toting to and from the sand this summer holiday as you sit, read and relax. Aren’t we nice? PARIS FOR ONE AND OTHER STORIES,

TODAY WILL BE DIFFERENT,

THE WANGS VS. THE WORLD,

Jodi Picoult Racial tensions hit boiling point when a black nurse is assigned to care for the baby of whitesupremacist parents. They refuse to let her touch their child. So when something goes very wrong, who’s at fault?

Maria Semple One day, cartoonist, mum and grade-A sceptic Eleanor Flood resolves to sort out her chaotic life for good. It just so happens to be the same day that things go further off the rails than they have before.

Jade Chang On the brink of financial ruin, Charles Wang has a plan to start over in his homeland of China. But first, he has to reunite the whole family via a mad-cap, cross-country road trip from their palatial Bel Air digs.

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THE MOTHERS, Brit Bennett Nadia Turner has a big secret – one that she’s kept from even her closest friends since she was 17. Years later, one truth hits home: Burying secrets won’t make them go away but they’ll shape our lives forever.

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Jojo Moyes Can Paris still be the City of Love if you’ve been stood up? Find out in the novella from the author of Me Before You. Bonus: the book contains eight more short stories being published in Aus for the first time.

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8 â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;I was maid of honour at my best friendâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s wedding, and just as the priest was about to lead the vows, I was hit with a sudden intense urge to pee. I couldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t hold it, so I had to walk out right then to ďŹ nd a bathroom. Casual.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; SABRINA, 28

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9 â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;I spend every day at my job pretending to do stuff, but Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m actually reading John Green books on my Kindle.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; JAMIE, 21 10 â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;I spent half an hour meticulously gluing on fake nails before a date. While we were eating, one of them ďŹ&#x201A;ew off and landed in the guyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s mashed potatoes.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; JENNIFER, 27

11 â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;I have three dogs, and I secretly donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t like any of them. I want a cat.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; ELAINE, 22

â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;When I was a nanny, I got locked out of the house with the one-and-ahalf-year-old inside. I had to crawl through the doggie door to get back in. I didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t tell the parents.â&#x20AC;&#x2122;

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12 â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Sometimes at work, I call IT and pretend my computer is broken just to ďŹ&#x201A;irt with the cute tech guys.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; KELLY G, 21 13 â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;The last night of uni I slept with this guy, and afterwards, we couldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t ďŹ nd the condom. When I got home the next day, my mum offered to do my laundry. An hour later, she told me sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d found a condom in my sheets. She looked like she had seen a ghost.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; KIMBERLY, 26

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â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;MY OLD GLITCHY IPHONE ACCIDENTALLY (I SWEAR!) POSTED A PICTURE OF MY BOYFRIENDâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S PENIS ON FACEBOOK. I HAD NO IDEA UNTIL MY SISTER CALLED HALF AN HOUR LATER, SCREAMING WITH LAUGHTER.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; AALIYAH, 20 GUY CONFESSIONS

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17 â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;I was drunkenly hooking up with a crush for the first time and suddenly noticed a strangely rough sensation. I looked down and saw that I had been making sweet love to the space between her and the mattress. The worst part was that she hadnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t said anything.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; WILL, 23

18 â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;One time when I was really, really drunk I fell asleep during a blowjob.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; NICK, 25

â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;At a traffic light, I started dancing around. Someone decided to film me. It wound up all over Instagram.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; DERRICK, 27 COSMOPOLITAN February 2017 17


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the buzz

THIS MONTH’S WORST DATES Look, you can’t win ’em all…

‘He told me he was 6 foot 2. Maybe it was a typo, but when he showed up for our date, he was a solid 5 foot 2.’ – MIKAYLA, 25

‘My date didn’t want to pay for a cab, so we walked – for kilometres! Then he started literally pushing me along.’ – MALLORY, 24

‘We went to a comedy show… where he was a heckler. He thought he was funnier than the comics. Then he tried to explain to me which jokes were no good. I was mortified.’ – HILARY, 23

‘He was 45 minutes late. The first thing he said was “nice titty balls”, and he wouldn’t take his eyes off my chest. At the end, he made a scene, screaming over the cost of our drinks.’ – CALEN, 30

‘A girl stormed over to our table. He told her I was his cousin and introduced her… as his girlfriend.’

‘He picked me up for our date in his car. I looked over and there was a used condom stuck to the side of the centre console. That date ended quickly.’

– JENNA, 25

‘Twenty minutes into our date, he told me that in high school, he and his friends created the Chlamydia Club. They’d tried to give chlamydia to as many girls as they could.’ – AMANDA, 23

– LINDSEY, 26

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the buzz Marky just realised that pawning her ring still wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t land her a deposit.

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SHE’S THE DYNAMO SUPERMODEL SETTING THE WORLD ALIGHT WITH HER OWN BRAND OF BEAUTY. BUT, AS COSMO’S MEL EVANS DISCOVERS, SHANINA SHAIK IS MORE THAN JUST A SET OF SHARP CHEEKBONES; SHE’S GOT A FIRE IN HER BELLY AND SOMETHING TO SAY, SO LISTEN UP >


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‘You can’t beat yourself up for something that’s just not meant to be’

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$220, LNDR at Mode Sportif (modesportif. com)

$90, Adidas (adidas.com.au)

$80, Polaroid (02 9540 0500)

Gym to Sunday sesh

$35, Adidas (adidas.com.au)

$149, The Upside (theupside sport.com)

Embrace stripes, shorts and primary colours for a preppy look TIP: Shirts and dresses with round necklines are great for lots of moving around as they stay firm and don’t shift. Pick skirts with fabric that’s heavy enough so it won’t fly up but light enough to have full range of movement.

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$154.95, Topshop (topshop.com)

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$55, Nike (nikestore.com.au)

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Gym to PM cocktails

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$190, Adidas by Stella McCartney at Mode Sportif (modesportif.com)

$45, Adidas (adidas.com.au)

Monochromes mixed with metallic pieces give edge to a classic look $42, Missguided (missguidedau.com)

TIP: Layer shorts over funky tights for those afternoon gym sessions. Remove shorts and don a long top for post-workout drink meet-ups â&#x20AC;&#x201C; just add shades.

$244, Fenty X Puma by Rihanna (au.puma.com)

$430, Oliver Peoples (oliverpeoples.com)

$115, Swatch (shop.swatch. com.au) $79.95, Stussy (stussy.com.au)

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$60, Puma (au.puma.com) $29.99, Running Bare (runningbare.com.au)


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Crop: $89, We Are Handsome (wearehandsome.com). Shorts: $69.99, Rip Curl (ripcurl.com.au). Bangles: $30 each, Odisya (odisya.com). Watch: $115, Swatch (shop. swatch.com.au). Bag: $79.99, Adidas Stellasport at Rebel Sport (rebelsport.com.au). Skateboard: Stylistâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s own.


style $139, The Upside (theupsidesport.com)

STYLING BY CASSIE LONGWORTH. PHOTOGRAPHY BY PAUL SUESSE/BAUER. STILL-LIFE PHOTOGRAPHY BY RODNEY MACUJA/BAUER. HAIR & MAKEUP BY JOEL PHILLIPS/VIVIEN’S CREATIVE. MODEL: LUCY BLAY/CHADWICK MODELS

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$69.99, Roxy (roxyaustralia. com.au)

$25.99, Roxy (roxyaustralia. com.au)

$99, We Are Handsome (weare handsome.com)

$86 for set, Triangl (australia. triangl.com)

Gym to the beach

$79.99, Adidas Stellasport at Rebel Sport (rebelsport. com.au)

$140, Puma (au.puma.com)

Tropical and floral prints will pop in the gym and look right at home on the beach TIP: Look for tights with ankle zips and slip-on sneakers for on-and-off ease when you need a quick dip. Thick-strapped swimsuits are supportive when swimming and look great with a pair of denim cut-offs.

$129.99, Reebok (reebok. com.au)

$95, Duskii (duskii.com)

$80, Polaroid (02 9540 0500)

$59.95, Bonds (bonds.com.au)

$129, Kamuka (kamuka. com.au)

$19.95, Cotton On Body (cottononbody. com.au)

Top: $43.10; bottoms: $30.17, Asos (asos.com/au)

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BEAUTY IT’S ALL ABOUT…

Semi-matte lips After spending 2016 slaving away for a perfectly matte, Kylie Jenner-inspired pout, the newest lip texture is ultra-comfortable to wear and bang on trend – no flaky lips in sight.

PHOTOGRAPHY BY ADAM FRANZINO

2017

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Rimmel London Wonderâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Full Volume Colourist Mascara, $18.95

Smart foundations Whatever your skin craves, thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a new formula thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll deliver

YOU WANTâ&#x20AC;¦

Major mascara Score perfect lashes with Rimmel Londonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s lash-tinting mascara. It gradually darkens your hairs with semipermanent dye (itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s made with natural caramel, so wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t irritate eyes) for smudge-free definition youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll love waking up to. For healthy hairs, Mavalaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s restorative lash serum uses natural proteins to build stronger, longer lashes.

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NARS Velvet Eyeliner in Black Moon from Mecca, $35

Estee Lauder Pure Color Envy Vinyl Lipcolor in Ripe, $52

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Mavala DoubleLash, $26.95

ModelCo Perfect Pout Semi-Matte Lipstick in Bossa Nova, $25

SOCIAL STAR TO KNOW

Huda Kattan With over 15.8 million followers, Huda Kattanâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Insta page (@hudabeauty) is a mecca for all things makeup. Her ultra-coveted makeup range, Huda Beauty (known to have wait lists of 50,000 pre-launch), is finally hitting our shores, stocked exclusively at Sephora. We canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t wait to get our hands on her Textured Rose Gold Eyeshadow Palette!


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COOLEST KOREAN IMPORT Developed by K-beauty pioneer and celeb makeup artist Chosungah, her namesake line is based around one thing: fun! The brand takes everyday staples and turns them into Wonka-esque textures â&#x20AC;&#x201C; like these shadows that feel like jelly, and this lipstick that tastes like peach tea. >

Out-ofthisworld makeup Call it the NASA effect: celestialinspired makeup that transports your look to the next level. For a subtle pop, try this pearlescent OPI polish, or make a major statement with a holographic lip from MAC.

Want perfect brows, 24/7? Enter microblading, a tattoolike technology that uses superfine needles dipped in pigment to create hairlike strokes. Different from the permanent makeup of the past, this â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;featherâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; tattooing allows the brows to be built up subtly. This treatment costs from $895 at Amy Jean Eye Couture but can last for up to two years. (To see the incredible results, scope out @amyjeaneyecouture on Insta.)

MAC Cosmetics Frost Lipstick in On and On, $36

Chosungah 22 Dong Gong Minn Jello Color Eye Shadow Palette from Mecca,

OPI Nail Lacquer in Breakfast at Tiffanyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s, $19.95

Chosungah 22 Flavorful Lipstick in Golden Peach Tea from Mecca, $28

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HAVING A MOMENT…

Masks! A good one can change the state of your skin in 10 minutes. Here are three: Vacuums pores Alpha-H Balancing and Pore Refining Mask, $41

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Customisation Your skintone changes colour throughout the year and there’s no worse look than a base that’s a totally different shade to your body. Enter foundation customisation drops. Add darker or lighter pigment to your favourite coverage to make it work for you all year round. Try Australis Match Maker Shade Adjusting Drops, $19.95.

MASK SELFIE! BELLA HADID (RIGHT) AND A BUDDY

Gets you glowing Paula’s Choice Radiance Renewal Mask, $55

THE NEW

SKINCARE Glotions, dry face brushing and an erotic new line: here are this year’s fearless innovations

Plumps fine lines Lancôme Énergie de Vie Nuit The Overnight Recovery Sleeping Mask, $85

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Cleanse smart Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s no longer just a choice of foam or cream. These new-gen cleansers do double-time and double-duty.

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Neutrogena Deep Clean Micellar Gel to Foam, $16.99

Vanessa Megan Cryo Facelift Ice Cube Treatment, $179.95

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Single-dose skincare

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Portion-controlled products have not only recalibrated how much you should be using (so thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a pea size!), theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve also lightened our travel bags. A dream for flights, single-serve skincare gives you just enough product to apply.

Estée Lauder Advanced Night Repair Intensive Recovery Ampoules, $168 for 60

Onne Skin Sparkling Sponge, $15

Souped-up serum Start giving your skin exactly what it needs. Get assessed by a specially trained Kiehlâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s expert at David Jones stores, and take home a concentrated serum with two potent actives. Kiehlâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Apothecary Preparations, $140

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Bobbi Brown Instant Confidence Stick, $60 Dr Dennis Gross Alpha Beta Daily Glow Moisture from Mecca, $61

KENDALL JENNER

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Confidence! INTRODUCING… GLOTIONS Everyone knows that moisturising gives you immediate radiance, but ‘glotions’ (that’s glow lotions) have a longer-lasting effect. Infused with weightless pearly particles, they blur imperfections and even out skintone… without making you look Tuned. If you’re after a little extra coverage with your glotion, go for Dr. Jart Radiance BB Beauty Balm from Sephora, $63, or Nude by Nature Sheer Glow BB Cream, $29.95.

Synergie Skin EnvIroshield Pollution & Infrared Defence Spritz, $89

Aveda Tulasara Radiant Awakening Ritual Kit, $104

FOCUS ON

Fresh way to glow

Pollution

Heard of dry brushing? Aveda’s twist on this 3000-year-old detoxifying ritual is simple. Buff the soft, nubby brush onto dry, clean skin, then massage in the blend of natural oils, chosen to boost circulation and radiance.

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Of course you’d expect better skin from a skin treatment or foundation, but a spike in self-esteem? ‘Confidence’, whether a promise or a reminder, is the mantra on Bobbi Brown and It Cosmetics’ latest line reducers. Here’s hoping a good ’tude might boost their effects. It Cosmetics Confidence in a Cream Transforming Moisturizing Super Cream from Sephora, $68


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Hair perfumeâ&#x20AC;¦ Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a thing! These style-friendly spritzes are weightless formulas so they wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t mess with your strands while adding extra nourishment and hydration. We love Byredoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s hair perfume offering, which smells just like its classic EDP namesake. Byredo Gypsy Water Hair Perfume from Mecca, $63

ITâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S ALL ABOUTâ&#x20AC;¦

Texture

PHOTOGRAPHY BY ADAM FRANZINO. ISTOCK; FILMMAGIC; WIREIMAGE

Born-this-way spirals, bendsâ&#x20AC;¦ even a little frizz. This is what hair looks like now. Rather than forcing straight, smooth styles on models, many fashionweek stylists (at shows including Zac Posen and DVF) embraced individuality. Hereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s to celebrating, not suffocating, your style!

THE NEW

HAIR

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Your MVPs this season: hairtoxing, good-enough-to-eat colour, hair perfume, and more

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beauty Strand saviour Aveda Invati Exfoliating Shampoo, $49.95 Redken 5th Avenue NYC Scalp Relief Oil Detox Shampoo, $29.95

Fudge Detox Shampoo, $21.99

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SUPERFOOD FOR HAIR The staple in your go-to bowl is now the It ingredient behind many superstar hair treatments. â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Super-foods tend to have more active ingredients and provide more benefits,â&#x20AC;&#x2122; says hair expert Kevin Murphy. Protein-rich quinoa helps repair brittleness and prevent breakage. â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Protein extracted from quinoa acts as a natural and gentle coating, which protects and nourishes the hair follicles from within,â&#x20AC;&#x2122; says Murphy. Get your daily dose with Paul Mitchell Ultimate Colour Repair Shampoo, $27.95, or use this incredible concentrated mask once a week.

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Kevin.Murphy Angel.Masque, $49.95

Sex sells

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New lazy-day look

CARRIE UNDERWOOD

Accent your usual look with a microbraid. Try one at the root to punctuate a pony or tucked behind the ear to contrast your texture â&#x20AC;&#x201C; no one will notice that youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re recycling your style.

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Lightening your hair has always been a bit of a risk and is often followed by unhealthy hair that desperately needs a good chop. Enter Olaplex. A complete gamechanger in colour, â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Olaplex is a bond multiplier that generates and repairs broken bonds, usually the cause of damagedlooking hair,â&#x20AC;&#x2122; explains Tarryn Cherniayeff, co-founder of MOB HAIR. If youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve been considering giving lighter hair a go, now is the time. â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Olaplex allows us to push boundaries with colour without damaging hair. We are able to go that little bit lighter or get that undeniable shine we couldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t get before,â&#x20AC;&#x2122; she says.


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1. Eleven Australia Sea Salt Texture Spray, $23.95 ‘I love spritzing on salt spray when I’m having a bad hair day!’ 2. Loving Earth Cold Pressed Coconut Oil, $14.95 (450ml) ‘I don’t know what I’d do without coconut oil! As my hair gets a lot of heat styling, I use it as a heavy-duty overnight treatment. Coconut oil is also amazingly hydrating; I use it on my face and body to get a healthy glow. I also use it as a natural makeup remover, body scrub and frizz tamer.’ 3. Ultraceuticals Ultra Moisturiser Cream, $76 ‘Every day I use Ultraceuticals Ultra Moisturiser. This moisturiser is great because it is super-thick but doesn’t clog my skin or make it feel oily.’ 4. ulta3 All About Eyes Eyeshadow Palette in Nudes, $13.95 ‘Coming into summer I am a big fan of a nude-based smoky eye. This eyeshadow palette is super-pigmented and the perfect colour selection to keep in my beauty bag.’ 5. ulta3 Ready to Glow Illuminating Primer, $8.95 ‘I apply this primer before my foundation to get a glow that radiates from within. It’s also lightweight, which makes foundation glide on effortlessly.’

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6. ulta3 Nail Polish, $2.30 each ‘A coat of nail polish finishes off any look. ulta3 has over a hundred nail polish shades so I can match pretty much any outfit to a shade. I keep Purple Fusion and Lavender Fields in my bag for touch-ups.’


MY (hair) STORY Q&A

WITH HEATHER Q. What makes youu feelstrong? A. I feel strong when Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m in touch with my emotions and embracing exactly who I am as a person.

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STEP 2Twisting sit-up

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Anywhere accoutrements CURL UP WITH THIS PILLOW Look slightly silly but be uber-comfy with an Ostrich Pillow ($132, thatiscool.com). WEAR THIS MASK This Shhh Silk Silk Eye Mask ($39, shhhsilk.com.au) shuts out the world. SNIFF THIS SCENT Sniff yourself into a deep, luxurious sleep with Eco Aroma Dream Drops ($16, ecoaroma.com.au). LISTEN TO THIS PODCAST Sleepwithme is so perfectly boring; you wonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t know what hit you.

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In a single bed To keep from rolling off, tuck a pillow under the sheet at the edge, suggests Breus. Liz Krieger #

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SNEAKER TALK HIIT For all high-intensity workouts, you can wear a running shoe. If you’re doing your workouts on concrete, make sure you have more cushioning and support.

BOXING Your shoes should have a low ramp, meaning the height from your heel to your forefoot, keeping your centre of gravity lower to the ground for balance and stability.

$170, New Balance Fresh Foam Zante V2 (theiconic.com.au)

$200, Puma Ignite Evoknit (stylerunner.com)

CROSSFIT

RUNNING

$170, Adidas Pureboost X (stylerunner.com)

$230, Asics GT-3000 4 (theiconic.com.au)

RUNNING Latest research has shown that if your big toe joint doesn’t bend effectively when you’re pushing off the ground (toe off) your gluteus won’t activate – so this means bending the big toe is super important. Look for a flexible shoe. $180, Nike Air Zoom Pegasus 33 (nikestore.com.au)

WEIGHTS Support (if a biomechanical assessment indicates you need it) makes it easier to keep your knees out and maintain good lifting form. $149.99, Reebok CloudRide DMX (reebok.com.au) #

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Ideally you should get biomechanically assessed by a podiatrist for your foot function and running technique before choosing shoes.

Think stability and support (a certain level of shoe) for weights and jumping. The materials are more dense and sometimes plastic supports are used to help reduce the shoe from twisting at the heel.


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YOUR NEW BATHROOM BESTIE While most of us will feel perfectly satisfied by sitting on the loo to relieve ourselves, some people may find using a foot stool a more effortless process. Thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s because the tube that leads from our digestive system to our anus has a natural kink to help us hold our waste product in, and preliminary studies have found that squatting may better straighten the kink to reduce the time and effort required to relieve yourself. While Australian bathrooms certainly arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t set up to promote squatting, putting a foot stool under your feet could have a similar effect. â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;This certainly applies to women who have had children as they are most at risk of defecatory problems in later life,â&#x20AC;&#x2122; Professor Young says.

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CALLING ALL YOUNG ARTISTS! Are you between the ages of 16-25 with a passion for painting? With a major prize of $10,000, we are hoping to discover Australia’s next art sensation. F O R D E TA I L S A N D T E R M S A N D C O N D I T I O N S , P H O N E S A R A H H AY E S O N (02) 8267 9572 O R E M A I L B E L L E A RT S TA RT@ B AU E R- M E D I A .C O M . AU. $ 50 E N T RY F E E A P P L I E S (I N C LU D E S E N T RY K I T).

The competition commences 15th August 2016 and final entries must be received by 5pm (AEDST) on 10th February 2017. Entry fee payment of each entry must be finalised by telephone only with promoter by 5pm (AEDST) on 6th February 2017. Entry is open to residents of Australia aged sixteen (16) years to twenty-five (25) years and are not currently represented by a commercial art gallery. All Artwork must be available to be displayed and sold to the public (at a set price determined by the promoter) by the Promoter at the Belle ArtStart Event. The entry must be on 36” x 24” inch canvas only. Canvas or paint supplies will not be supplied by the Promoter. The judging will begin at 11.00 am on 22 November 2016. Winners will be announced at the Belle ArtStart event on 21 February 2017. For full terms and conditions and details of requirement of entry (artwork) call Sarah Hayes on (02) 8267 9572 or email on belleartstart@bauer-media.com.au. Please see contents page for location of privacy notice. The Promoter is Bauer Media Pty Ltd (ABN 18 053 273 546).


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HOW TO LOOK FORW ER START H

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O H O W DE E L YOU F YOUR A B O URTR E N T CU B? JO YES

YOU’RE ON HOLIDAY: THE SUN IS SHINING AND YOU’RE FEELING FANCY-FREE. SO WHY NOT YOU FANTASISED ABOUT ALL 2016? WE’VE DONE THE HARD YARDS AND SPOKEN WITH

‘Meh’

HAS TIME OFF HELPED?

‘Something’s gotta give’ NO

HAVE YOU BROUGHT THIS UP WITH YOUR MANAGER?

YES and I was

IT’S THE PEOPLE

WHY?

IT’S THE ROLE

NO

HAVE YOU ASSESSED YOUR STRENGTHS AND LOVES OF THE ROLE?

DO THAT, THEN RETURN HERE

WHAT IS YOUR MAIN GRIPE?

I’ve grown out of it

I’m overworked

YES

NO

promised X, but it wasn’t delivered

I don’t like it

Nothing to be done

Time to change jobs

Well, sort of. You can always be looking at ways to better yourself in your 9-5er. Use this break to reflect on what you’ve achieved, what you love about the job and the areas you want to grow in – the best time for creativity is when you’re not at work. As well as having space to sit back and get out of the business of ‘doing’, a break gives you that space to think of different ideas. While you’re chilling in a hammock on some tropical island (or on a chair in your folks’ backyard) draft up an action plan for the next 12 months. List everything you want out of your job and how you envision getting it. To keep you on track, motivated and feeling like you’re achieving things, break it into a month-by-month plan, ticking each win off as you go. Set a reminder in your phone for the end of each month to go back over the plan, reframe and reinvigorate your ambition.

But before rushing the resignation, draft up a pros and cons list of the role. If you have gaps in which you are more unhappy than happy then I would say it’s a good indication for you to start looking for another role. If you’re unhappy with the people you work with but you enjoy the job, an ultimatum of ‘it’s me or them’ won’t always work in your favour – it’s on you to sort the situation out yourself. If you enjoy the work, you don’t have to have a huge career change – you probably already have the right contacts, so hit them up for some intel on who may be hiring in your circles, or approach your favourite companies knowing what you want out of your next role. At the same time, look at any in-office personality mismatches as an opportunity to grow and enhance your emotional intelligence so you can respond in different ways to others. I call it CIA: Control, Influence, Action.

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work

WORK AGAIN HARNESS THAT FEEL-GOOD POWER OF THE SUMMER AND CHANNEL IT INTO MAKING THAT BIG CAREER MOVE CAREER COACH JULIE ALEXANDER TO GET THE LOWDOWN ON WHAT TO DO NEXT. THE TIME TO ACT IS NOW

‘Hate it’ OFTEN/ALL THE TIME

DO YOU STILL HAVE PASSION FOR THE INDUSTRY OR LINE OF WORK?

WORDS BY MEL EVANS

NO

YES

HOW OFTEN?

‘Love it!’ MOVE ON, THIS ISN’T FOR YOU…

SOMETIMES

WHEN DO YOU MOST OFTEN FEEL DOWN ON YOUR GIG?

When I’m doing admin and boring things

When I’m doing my actual job

Meet with your manager

Switch your career

Put together a list of your strengths, another of all you’ve achieved and added to the company in the past 12 months, then think about what it is you’re not enjoying about your job. Think about what you want to achieve – it’s no use if you walk into a chat expecting your manager to have all the answers. Meet halfway. If you’ve got a good value match, but there’s a lot of stuff you’re not enjoying about the role, ask your manager if there is something you can do to move into a different role where you can use your strengths, or whether there’s a role that will give you the opportunity to grow more and get the experience to drive you ahead. If you feel down about your gig only when you’re doing the boring admin tasks, your manager can’t change that. Neither can you. Everyone from the office junior up has a part of their job description that is less than glamorous.

This is pretty much the career equivalent of it’s not you, it’s me. You may love the company and feel happy with your co-workers, but if the thought of doing what you do for the next 20 years destroys your very soul, you’ve got to do what’s good for you. Speak to someone in the industry you’re thinking of making a leap to before you do anything. Before spending money on a new degree you think you’ll need, ask whether you’ve got transferable skills. Assess the tools and support you need. This includes the financial aspect, if you find you need to take a role slightly down on the ladder (no career is a straight line to retirement). If this means you have to stay in your role a little bit longer while you put plans in motion, then do it. Allow yourself three months’ salary in your bank account and set a date to make the leap, or you’ll never do it. #

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Do you have

PORN FACE? A strange Instagram army of tumescent-lipped, Lego-browed, contoured clones seem to be gathering all the ‘Likes’. How did we get here – and is there any going back, asks Ingeborg van Lotringen >


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THE GREAT TWENTYSOMETHING CONUNDRUM:

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cosmo question

Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a debate thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s plagued humankind since planes were invented. Do you take time out before jumping into a job? Or do you work your way up the ladder post-haste? We spoke to women from each side of the argument >

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IN ONE CORNER:

T H E T R AV E L L E R S Sally-Ann Williams ENGINEERING COMMUNITY & OUTREACH MANAGER FOR GOOGLE AUSTRALIA

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Claire Askew EDITOR OF COSMOPOLITAN AUSTRALIA

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you decide to do next. And you are also prioritising yourself â&#x20AC;&#x201C; for women, we need to learn to introduce more time into our lives to look after our needs. In terms of making the decision to travel, there is much to be gained from it. However, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s never easy.â&#x20AC;&#x2122;


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IN THE OTHER CORNER:

THE KNUCKLERS Emma Isaacs

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â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Shall we write down what we do like about our sex life?â&#x20AC;&#x2122;

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6. YOUR SOCIAL LIFE

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7. YOUR HEAALTH

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‘Stress can be a motivator, something that drives you,’ says Dr Carbone. ‘There is good stress, like when you are preparing for an important interview; you want to be a bit psyched up and ready to go.’ Worry can be a catalyst for change, learning and growth – if you manage it correctly. ‘It’s about stepping back, putting things in perspective and approaching each problem one at a time, breaking things up into small, doable things. Worry is normal; it’s OK. It’s when it becomes overwhelming and stops you from being the best you can be – that’s when you need to step back and say to yourself, “what can I do to not let worry dominate my life?”’

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COSMO PERSONALITY TEST

HOW WELL DO YOU KNOW YOU? Want to know what really makes you tick? Learn your sex IQ? Suss out your compatibility with that man on Tinder or your other half? Or simply know where the hell you’re headed? With a little help from our experts, your answers await… >


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‘Getting to know you, getting to know all about you’… Let’s crack out a pen and see what your subconscious is telling the world through your artwork YOUR PERSONALITY AS TOLD BY A TREE

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NOW LET’S DECODE...

‘Artistic interpretation of a tree is believed, by some therapists, to reveal latent information about [a person’s] emotions and personality,’ says psychologist Angela Bradley (angelabradley online.com).

Branches These indicate your relationship with the outside world. Chatterboxes draw thick branches. Fewer or no branches may indicate someone who feels they must hide part of themselves from the world.

What your doodles say about you

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Nathan

YOUR NAME: Suggests you are self-centred in some way and enjoy being the centre of attention.

SOMEONE ELSE’S NAME: You’re preoccupied with someone else – maybe you’re in love or maybe they’re the cause of a problem.

CHESSBOARD: You’re grappling with a complex life situation or are confused by which direction your life should take.

CROSSES: Biblical crosses – you’re longing for protection. Straight-lined X crosses – you feel frustration about something.

HEARTS: Purely and simply, your focus is on love, being in love or just wishing you were.

STARS: You have ambition and optimism.

CIRCLES: You feel a connection to the universe at large and a sense of wholeness, balance and completion.

STEPS OR A LADDER: You want to get places and are not afraid of doing what it takes. You can be determined and very patient.

ARROWS: If they’re facing up, your focus is on others; down, yourself; left, the past; right, the future.

A HOUSE: Neat and simple = you have a happy home life. Asymmetry or messiness may indicate you are feeling trapped and unhappy.

FLOWERS: Traditional, rounded, childlike flowers tend to suggest a strong sense of home. Flower doodlers tend to be sociable, sensitive and feminine.

SWIRLS: You feel discontent and worry. The tighter the swirl, the more complicated the problem seems.

Leaves Fluffy leafiness shows a warm and caring nature, as opposed to leaf detail, which suggests a well-organised person. No leaves may indicate someone who’s not afraid to be themselves.

Trunk This reflects your personal/life foundation. A thick trunk can indicate strength in the home or in your self. Timid introverts draw small/slim trunks.

Roots Indicate connection with the past. No roots can show an impractical person or someone going through uncertainty or anxiety. Additions People who add flowers, fruits or animals to the tree are home-focused, while outgoing people or those yearning for a larger life are likely to add objects to the space around the tree (e.g. the sky or ground). Size If your tree takes up most of the space, you have a lot of self-confidence. If it doesn’t? Then you don’t.

What if you DON’T doodle?

It’s not a sign of mood problems or mental dysfunction. But simple doodling is believed to help with focus, free up the deepest recesses of the mind and even enhance memory processing. > COSMOPOLITAN February 2017 105


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OK, you could probably know a little more about how the female body works when it’s getting down, but that’s alright. Learning is fun. And trust us, not knowing much doesn’t mean much in the grand scheme of things. ‘Having little sex knowledge could mean many things but I wouldn’t pin it down to being unwilling, or not up for the challenge!’ says psychotherapist and relationship therapist Amanda Joy Robb. A fan of vanilla sex? Ain’t nothing wrong with that, either! ‘It all comes down to individual libidos and sexual preferences,’ says Robb.

You’ve got some stuff and things going on. You know your boobs from your… things that aren’t boobs. But there’s room for improvement and a bright future for you, kid! ‘There are ebbs and flows with sexual interest, dependent on sexual partners and life stages,’ explains Robb. Sexual fantasy is totally common with a recent study discovering 64.6 per cent of women are keen on domination fantasy. What if you’re one who wants to get a little more exploratory? ‘Watching raunchy sex scenes, reading erotica or experimenting with sexual partners and solo helps,’ says Robb.

Slow claps for you. Would you like a job at Cosmo? Because your sex IQ is seriously top rate. The more risqué the snippet, the more you like it. In fact, you could say you aced this testes! Geddit, testes?! Of course you do. But a high sex IQ doesn’t mean you’re some Red Room fetishist! ‘If someone knows A LOT about sex, it doesn’t automatically translate to their sexual practices,’ says Robb. Still, liking a little light choking could come in handy! A 2006 study compared those who practice BDSM and found they had lower level of depression, anxiety and PTSD.

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Who should you date? According to psychic and astrologer Amanda Hall, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s written in the starsâ&#x20AC;Ś

Aries

Taurus

Gemini

Cancer

Leo

Virgo

21.03-20.04

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22.05-21.06

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24.08-23.09

A GEMINI will share your thirst for knowledge and breaking new ground.

Empathetic and sensitive CANCER shares your need for security and comfort.

A LIBRA will share your appreciation for art, music and culture.

SCORPIOâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s passion will encourage a shy Cancer to come out of your shell.

With a SAGITTARIUS, the fun never stops. Youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re both robust and ďŹ ery.

Your perfect match is homebody TAURUS. You both love to chill.

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cosmo personality test Eye colour BLUE: People with blue eyes are idealistic and very independent. They tend to be more focused on themselves than others.

Hair

GREEN: They’re emotional, intelligent, natural leaders.

THICK AND COARSE

HAZEL: These people

This person loves the ourdoors and isn’t afraid to get down and dirty. They don’t get offended very easily, but are less emotionally intuitive.

are great at making and maintaining friends; they are not easily led astray by others.

BROWN: They are magnetic and warm. They’ll make you feel like you can tell them your life story upon meeting.

FINE These people are gentle, emotional and highly empathetic.

DARK BROWN/BLACK: They’re polite, respectful and self-sacrificing. They have a very responsible nature.

Philtrum (the vertical groove between the nose and upper lip)

Lips

LONG: These people have a dry sense of humour, are laid-back and aren’t too fussed about their appearance. They’re also more physical in nature.

THIN They’re very concise. If you ask for directions, they’ll be very brief.

FULL If you ask someone with a larger upper lip for directions, they will give you the whole tour! They’re more verbose.

SHORT: They’re fussy and have a good eye for detail; they’re usually dressed immaculately, making them great interior and fashion designers. Be warned: they’re likely to take jokes personally.

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WHAT HIS FACIAL FEATURES SAY ABOUT HIM

Face shape

CELEBRITY FACE PROFILER ALAN STEVENS BREAKS DOWN THE PERSONALITY TRAITS (GOOD AND BAD) THAT SHINE THROUGH OUR FACIAL FEATURES

NARROW: People who tend to be more vigilant have a face less than 60 per cent as wide as it is long. It takes them time to build their confidence; they’re quiet achievers.

To learn more about facial reading, download Alan Stevens’ app Profile Match for $4.49 at the App Store.

WIDE: If their face is at least 70 per cent as wide as it is long, they have an innate confidence, which shines through.

Libra

Scorpio

Sagittarius

Capricorn

Aquarius

Pisces

24.09-23.10

24.10-22.11

23.11-22.12

23.12-20.01

21.01-19.02

20.02-20.03

With an AQUARIUS, your social life as a couple will be rich and rewarding.

When it comes to sexual chemistry, nothing beats a match with CAPRICORN.

With AQUARIUS you’ll enjoy an active and exciting sex life.

Like you, TAURUS is passionate and values money and security.

When SAGITTARIUS and Aquarius come together, it’s an explosion of energy.

Natural leader SCORPIO will be perfect for you as you like to be cared for.

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What do the cards hold for you?

LOVE

CAREER

SEX

DESTINY

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PER CENT OF YOU RANK FINANCIAL SECURITY AS YOUR NUMBER ONE GOAL

79

PER CENT OF YOU LOVE TRAVELLING AND WANT TO DO MORE OF IT

THE LOVERS

KING OF WANDS

DEATH

TEN OF CUPS

Are you ready for THE love of your life? If you’re single, a soul mate is coming into your life soon. You’ll instantly feel an intense, passionate connection with them. Coupled? You’re most likely already with your Twin Flame.

A partner who’s creative, charismatic, confident, has their life in order and will love you and let you be will be entering your life soon. Coupled? This suggests that the man you’re dating possesses, or has great potential to develop, these qualities.

This card doesn’t literally represent death, but endings. It doesn’t always mean a separation, but instead an ending that has to happen in order to strengthen your relationship. Single? Your lonely days are soon to be a thing of the past.

A universally blessed love life is on the horizon. Single? Get ready to meet The One in the very near future, and you’ll know when you do. Coupled? You’ll soon be taking your loved-up status up a notch, whether that be moving in together, marriage or kids.

THE KING OF SWORDS

THE HANGED MAN

QUEEN OF PENTACLES

THE CHARIOT

This card has shown up to get you thinking about how disciplined you are about your work and finances. For whatever reason this King has appeared for you, it’s speaking about truths. He’s here to inspire you to rise to the challenge.

You feel you’re so close to landing the perfect job, but just as it appears to be within your grasp, it slips right through your fingers! Don’t let these setbacks steer you off course. You are on the right path, but just need to go about it differently.

Got a great business idea that you know would be a huge success if you just did it? This card says if you trust yourself, remember who you are and know that you’re deserving of this success, it’ll happen. It also wants you to try to save your pennies.

This card assures you that you’re on the right career path or that a change in direction, propelling you towards the fulfilment of your purpose, is possible now. The world anxiously waits to see what you’re going to do with all that drive and determination.

THREE OF CUPS

ACE OF WANDS

THE EMPRESS

THE DEVIL

The party season is upon us, so expect lots of fun, sun and, of course, sex. This card also says there is a tendency you might get carried away and do something you may later regret. So go ahead, lap it all up, but just keep your wits about you.

If there hasn’t been much action in the bedroom, this card suggests that will all change as you’re about to meet someone who has an insatiable sex drive. If you have a partner and your sex life has been a bit humdrum, expect things to heat up.

Regardless of whether you’re in a relationship or not, you will be having lots of sex – that’s if you’re not already. You are oozing a grounded sensuality that’s irresistible to the opposite sex. You’re also extremely fertile at this time so take precautions.

With such strong, lustful sexual energy going on, it’s a wonder you’re able to leave the bedroom! You can’t keep your hands off each other. If your bed bud has some far-out fantasies you’re not so sure about, know you want it before getting the whips out.

THE WORLD

THE HIGH PRIESTESS

THE TOWER

WHEEL OF FORTUNE

You’ve arrived at the end of a cycle in your life and have accomplished the goals you set out for yourself. It hasn’t always been easy along the way, but you made it! Now you can take a break, go on that well-deserved trip and revel in your success.

Quieten your mind and listen to what your intuition is trying to say to you now. You’re very sensitive to the gut feelings you’re getting – you should trust them. If you’re wondering whether you could be a psychic healer, this card’s giving you the thumbs up.

A surprising turn of events that’s happening, or about to happen, is going to shake up your world. It’s not life-threatening but it is life-changing. Whatever this sudden change is, it may come as a shock. But later on you will realise why this had to happen.

Been down on your luck lately? Don’t worry, things will start looking up if they haven’t already. If you’re wondering whether you’re going to get that job, meet your soul mate, have the money for that holiday, this card says things will turn out in your favour.

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CAREER

SEX

DESTINY

READINGS BY PSYCHE TAROT (PSYCHESTAROT.BLOGSPOT.COM.AU)


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WHAT ARE YOUR PALMS TRYING TO TELL YOU? COSMO ENLISTED THE HELP OF PSYCHIC MEDIUM AND PALM READER ELIZABETH WILDE TO SHOW US HOW TO READ OUR PALMS. CHECK YOUR DOMINANT HAND FOR THE FOLLOWING LINES…

WORDS BY SHARI NEMENTZIK; MEL EVANS; EMMA MARKEZIC. PHOTOGRAPHY BY AARON RICHTER. ISTOCK

Heart Line The heart line shows a person’s emotional makeup and how they express love. An upward curve indicates an idealistic person who is passionate, spontaneous and romantic. The lower the heart line is, the more idealistic the person is. A straight line shows that the person is much more private and reserved, but they are understanding of others’ feelings. A short heart line indicates a cynical, unsentimental or aloof person. A wavy heart line indicates a person with inconsistent emotions. The deeper the heart line the more intense the emotions are, and the longer it is, the more responsive to others on an emotional level a person is.

Fate Line Runs from the base of the hand up through the centre, towards the middle finger. This line indicates career. If it’s broken or non-existent, it can indicate a person who has changed jobs a lot or someone who doesn’t have a permanent occupation in life. Breaks and lines running across the line indicates interferences and changes. Chaining (tiny lines woven around the main line) on any line represents difficulties and challenges. A double fate line shows a complex personality. A short fate line indicates crisis points where important decisions must be made. Lines running together near the fate line indicate different jobs at the same time. Lifespan-wise, the spot where the fate line intersects the head line is indicative of age 35. FOR YOUR OWN READING, GO TO SPIDERLADY.COM.AU

Head Line Shows the mental approach and independence of a person. A short head line indicates living for the moment with an excellent memory and great powers of concentration. A longer line indicates a wide range of hobbies and interests. They tend to plan ahead. They also read more than a person with a shorter line. The length of the line shows the ability of the person to learn and understand and integrate knowledge. A person with a long line has the ability to think outside the box. A coarse, thick line indicates a blunt and abrupt person. Broken or wavy lines indicate a person with poor mental focus, and a straight line a practical person with good common sense. The more curved it is, the more creative the person.

Life Line

LONG OR SHORT? Trying to figure out how your lines measure up? The average lengths of each line are shown above.

A deeply etched, clear life line running from the index finger and around the base of the thumb indicates endurance and vitality. Most people have line defects like breaks, islands or lines running across, which indicate a loss of power due to ill health or challenges in life. A short life line does not mean the end of life. Some life lines can hardly be detected and this often indicates a loss of health and vitality. If it swings out extra wide it can indicate you’re an extrovert, who sees things from both sides, while a narrower line indicates introversion and narrow-mindedness. The closer the line begins towards the thumb, the more practical, emotional and sociable a person’s attitude to life is. If it’s closer to the index finger they will be more idealistic, logical and a perfectionist.

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The camgirl gig is often not a glamorous one, rife with scams and potential risks.

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Writer Mel Evans now has a colourful browser history after investigating the world of camgirls. Follow her on Twitter @melevans.

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RELIVE THE LAST DAYS OF DISCO WITH A FRESH, MODERN TWIST – SLIPS, PLEATS AND A DISTINCT LACK OF SYMMETRY. HOW VERY CHARLIE’S ANGELS OF YOU, DARLING! STYLING BY EMMA READ PHOTOGRAPHY BY MIKE NAUMOFF

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the rendezvous All that glitters is gold â&#x20AC;&#x201C; shine on all over. Lydia wears Dress: $899, Carla Zampatti (carlazampatti. com.au). Earrings: $230, F+H Jewellery (fandhjewellery.com). Bangle: $119, Nicole Fendel (nicolefendel. com.au). Levi wears (throughout) Jacket: $349; shirt: $99, both Ben Sherman (bensherman.com.au).

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the waiting game Radiate after dark in all-white silk â&#x20AC;&#x201C; an homage to Bianca Jagger. Top: $270, Aeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;lkemi (aelkemi.com). Skirt: $499, Rebecca Vallance (rebeccavallance.com). Necklace: $210, Dinosaur Designs (dinosaurdesigns. com.au). Bangle: $490, Natalie Marie Jewellery X Daniel Avakian (natalie mariejewellery.com). Ring: $124, YCL Jewels (ycljewels.com).

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the grand entrance Discoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s favourite colour duo? Cherry red on black. Lydia wears Dress: $379, Fame & Partners (fameandpartners. com.au). Shoes: $169.95, Tony Bianco (tonybianco.com.au). Necklaces: choker $86; circle $120, both YCL Jewels (ycljewels. com); cross $210, F+H Jewellery (fandhjewellery.com). Earrings: $29, White Label (thedarkhorse. com.au). Ring: $129, Samantha Wills (samanthawills.com). Bangle: $155, By Charlotte (bycharlotte. com.au). Bag: $39.99, Colette by Colette Hayman (colette hayman.com.au). Levi wears (throughout) Jacket: $349; shirt: $99; bow tie: $59; pants: $199, all Ben Sherman (bensherman. com.au). Shoes: $79, Asos (asos.com.au). Opticals: $497, Dior Homme (02 9540 0500).

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the ice breaker Echo the days of Studio 54 in head-to-toe metal. Dress: $299, Fame & Partners (fameand partners.com.au). Shoes: $79.95, Novo (novoshoes.com.au). Earrings: $199, Samantha Wills (samanthawills.com). Choker: $16.99, Colette by Colette Hayman (colettehayman. com.au). Bangle: $99, Nicole Fendel (nicolefendel.com.au).

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the cheeky getaway Metallics partner perfectly with tactile fabrics like velvet â&#x20AC;&#x201C; luxe and uber-touchable. Top: $39.99, H&M (hm.com/au). Skirt: $300, By Johnny (byjohnny. com.au). Earrings: $159, Sollis (sollis jewellery.com). Ring: $150, By Charlotte (bycharlotte.com.au). Bag: $32, Boohoo (boohoo.com).

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after hours Leggy playsuit + thigh-high boots = game, set, match. Playsuit: $390, Alice McCall (alicemccall.com). Boots: $249.95, Tony Bianco (tonybianco.com. au). Earrings: $80; ring: $65, both Pastiche (pastiche.com.au). Necklace: $199, Pandora (pandora.net).

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the dramatic exit Make strides in the most unexpected head turner: ruffles. Top: $169.95, Cooper St (cooperst.com.au). Bralette: $85.85, Porte Ă&#x20AC; Vie (porteavie.com). Skirt: $600, Michael Lo Sordo (michaellosordo. com). Shoes: $210, Mollini (mollini.com.au). Earrings: $12.99 for set, Colette by Colette Hayman (colettehayman. com.au). Bag: $169.95, The Daily Edited (thedailyedited.com).

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the cooldown Accessorise a plunging neckline with our new obsession: the mismatched earring. Lydia wears Dress: $595, Zhivago (houseofzhivago.com). Earrings: left: $80; right $80, both Ginger & Smart (gingerand smart.com). Choker: $110, Pastiche (pastiche.com.au).

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the wrap-up Channel siren in nothing more than a ďŹ ery cherry red â&#x20AC;&#x201C; pool optional. Dress: $299.95, Rodeo Show (rodeoshow.com.au). Stylist assistant: Ana Zupanoska. Models: Lydia Collins/Chic Management; Levi Neufeld/Chadwicks Models. Hair and makeup by Kristyan Low using MAC Cosmetics and O&M Hair. Shot on location with thanks to The Langham, Sydney (langhamhotels.com).

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Throw some shade Can’t deal with the whole mascara, liner and shadow thing? NBD. Retro sunnies scream statement eyes! Finish up with a bright lip (we love Burt’s Bees Lipstick in Sunset Cruise, $19.95).

Get glowing Forget self-tanner. Smooth, hydrated skin is naturally radiant. Apply Jergens Hydrating Coconut Moisturiser, $6.99, to damp skin post-shower or after swimming. It absorbs so fast, you can just towel off and glow on with your day.

Put some flowers in it Mini blooms + beachy waves = #HairGoals! Work some mousse (try Toni&Guy Prep Volume Plumping Mousse, $9.99) into strands – the slight texture will keep the Pinterest-y petals in place – then add small flowers.

Ditch the foundation Naked skin is in… but not an option if you need coverage. Enter lightweight tints like Urban Decay Naked Skin One & Done Hybrid Complexion Perfector from Mecca, $52. One layer evens up your tone and gets you glowy.

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Nina Agdal THE BEACH BABE SPILLS ON BEAUTY, BIKINIS AND MORE. Lazy-girl beauty staple? ‘Laura Mercier’s Radiance Foundation Primer, $50. It gives you a natural glow instantly.’ Signature summer beauty look? ‘Beachy waves (with a little sea-salt spray), plus bronzer and mascara.’ Any tricks to feeling confident in a bikini? ‘It’s all about the fit.’ Go-to summer drink? ‘Rosé.’ Perfect summer date night? ‘A picnic on the beach with a barbeque.’ Snapchat or Instagram? ‘Instagram! I’m still figuring out Snapchat.’ Go-to summer anthem? ‘“One Dance” by Drake.’

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Wash and go Put down the blow-dryer and let hair air-dry up high. Work a 10-centpiece-sized drop of conditioning oil (like Wella Luminous Smoothening Oil, $38.30) through strands to prevent frizz, then pull it all into a pony on top of your head, twisting the ends into an undone bun (wisps welcome!).

Hide it with a hat Solve a bad hair day in seconds by topping two messy braids with a straw hat. Before styling, mist ends with Mr Smith Sea Salt Spray, $37, for salty-hair-donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;tcare texture.

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61 THE PERCENTAGE OF GUYS WHO ARE MORE EXCITED FOR A SECOND DATE THAN A FIRST DATE.

‘IF YOU HAVE A NONNEGOTIABLE, TEASE IT OUT A BIT. YOU’RE DOING THE PERSON A FAVOUR IF YOU SAY, “YOU KNOW, YOU’RE TERRIFIC, BUT IT’S NOT GOING TO WORK BECAUSE I BELIEVE THIS INSTEAD”.’ – PETER HERMANN

11.25

The average number of days single men are willing to wait for a second date before writing you off. 

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WHAT TO SAY WHEN...

CHANCES ARE, YOUâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;VE HAD GUYS SAY SOME WEIRDARSE STUFF TO YOU ON DATES AND WISHED YOU HAD THE PERFECT RESPONSE READY. COMEDIAN JORDAN CARLOS HELPS YOU DEAL HE SAYS

YOU SAY

â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;SO WHY ARE YOU SINGLE?â&#x20AC;&#x2122;

â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;BECAUSE ITâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;D BE STRANGE IF I WERE OUT WITH YOU AND HAD A BOYFRIEND.â&#x20AC;&#x2122;

â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;YOU LOOK DIFFERENT FROM YOUR PROFILE PIC.â&#x20AC;&#x2122;

â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;YEAH, I HAVE LEGS.â&#x20AC;&#x2122;

â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;SO WHATâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S YOUR LONG-TERM PLAN?â&#x20AC;&#x2122;

â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;YOUâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;RE IN LUCK! I HAVE MY VISION BOARD HERE!â&#x20AC;&#x2122;

â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;HOW MUCH MONEY DO YOU MAKE?â&#x20AC;&#x2122;

â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;IN RUBLES?â&#x20AC;&#x2122;

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WHATâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S APP-ENING?

Customisable dating We tried the buzziest dating apps Down Under so you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have to expend the thumb energy 1

TRY: THE GIST: Swipe right, match, and you, the woman, need to send him a message within 24 hoursâ&#x20AC;Ś and then he can continue the convo (within another 24 hours, that is). THEGUYS: A good mix of professionals, men with bikes and marathoners. EXCLUSIVITY: Low. Anyone with Facebook can join. PRICE: Free, with a $12.99/ month option to see who swiped right on you and to rematch with expired connections.

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TRY: THE GIST: Popular amongst city dwellers, it suggests guys who have crossed your path (and says how many times) via your phoneâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s location settings. You can Heart them. THEGUYS: The Drake-lookalike youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve stood behind at Starbucks, the cute briefcase-toting bro from the bus, and yeah, the hottie in accounting. EXCLUSIVITY: Low, anyone can join. PRICE: Free, but you can buy credits to send â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;charmsâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; to let someone know you like him.

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TRY: THEGIST: The app taps into Facebook and only shows you guys in your extended network. And no swiping! Scroll through an in-depth proďŹ le before choosing to comment or move along. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s been redesigned with relationships in mind. THEGUYS:That friend of a friend you maybe saw one time at a party? EXCLUSIVITY: Low. Anyone with Facebook can join. PRICE: Basic membership for â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;earlyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; members is free with 10 people to discover a day, then $7 a month. 5

TRY: THEGIST: Zoosk is a superpopular dating site in the US. Here theyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve got a pretty good app that mirrors the others in Aus now. But with veriďŹ ed photos, it gives it a more credible edge. THEGUYS: More likely not to be there for a hookup, youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve got the more serious guys who are looking to settle down or at least try a relo. EXCLUSIVITY: Lower. Anyone with Facebook or Google+ can join. PRICE: $31.95 for a onemonth subscription.

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TRY: THEGIST: The classic that we all have memberships to (donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t lie). The original that kicked off the whole swiping obsession, this is your stock-standard â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;all-inâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; vibe. THEGUYS: Every type youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve ever dreamt of â&#x20AC;&#x201C; which means there is a lot of riffraff to sort through. EXCLUSIVITY: Low. Anyone with Facebook can join. PRICE: Basic is free, Tinder Plus is $30.99 for one month, $20.99 a month for six months, and $13.33 a month for 12 months. 6

TRY: THEGIST: Your proďŹ le is a slideshow of pics set to a song of your choosing. You see only a limited number of people a day, and they arenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t edited by location. THEGUYS: Actual celebs â&#x20AC;&#x201C; think disgraced fratboy Olympians, buzzy DJs and sitcom stars â&#x20AC;&#x201C; and non-famous guys with man buns. EXCLUSIVITY: High. You have to apply, and then an â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;anonymous global committeeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; reviews each application. PRICE: $11.43 a month.

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‘I THINK IT’S IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP TO HAVE TWO INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE KILLING IT ON THEIR OWN AND THEN THEY COME TOGETHER INTO THIS SUPERPOWER TEAM. IF THERE’S A WEAK LINK, IT DOESN’T WORK.’ – NICO TORTORELLA

THESE TIPS ARE DESIGNED TO MAKE

WHEN YOU’VE BEEN DATING FOR...

Y SEND A STRATEGIC TEXT Anticipation is half the fun, so on the morning of your date, text what you’re most looking forward to – like, ‘I just want to feel you on top of me’ – using emoji as needed. He won’t be able to think about anything except what he wants to do to you.

KISS LIKE YOU MEAN IT Crank up the sexual tension with fluttery, innocent, mouth-closed pecks. As you get to the makeout zone, suck deeply on his tongue for a couple of seconds, then let go. Not so innocent! He’ll die to see what else you have in store.

SLO-MO YOUR SEX Start with a sultry strip-down one item at a time, until he’s got a look in his eyes that can only mean Must. Have. You. Now. Studies show doing ‘everything but’ primes your brain and makes you more likely to orgasm than without a warm-up. So guide his hand and show him how you like to be touched, then reward him with a handjob to remember.

SCHOOL HIM ‘APPS CAN BE PROBLEMATIC. THE PERSON I’M DATING NOW – I DON’T THINK I WOULD HAVE LIKED HIM FROM JUST A PHOTO ON AN APP. BUT HIS SPIRIT IS SO HOT.’ – MOLLY BERNARD

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Welcome to Turn Me On 101: Straddle your eager ‘student’ while he sits in a chair. Stay upright, keeping your knees wide for shallow penetration, which will tantalise you both – the first few centimetres of your vagina and the head of his penis are sensitive. Encourage him to pay attention to your clit, the girls, and your booty, and show him how to earn an A+!


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WORDS BY EMILY C JOHNSON; JILL HAMILTON; JULIE VADNAL. ADDITIONAL REPORTING BY MEL EVANS. EDITED BY MARINA KHIDEKEL. PHOTOGRAPHY BY ERIC RAY DAVIDSON. SHOT ON LOCATION AT THE JANE HOTEL. FASHION EDITOR: JAMES WORTHINGTON DEMOLET. HAIR BY ITALO GREGORIO FOR WELLA PROFESSIONALS/BRYAN BANTRY AGENCY. MAKEUP BY CHRISTIAN MCCULLOCH USING DOLCE & GABBANA PASSIONEYES MASCARA. MANICURE BY BERNADETTE THOMPSON FOR THE BERNADETTE THOMPSON NAIL COLLECTION. GROOMING BY LOSI AT MARTIAL VIVOT SALON/HONEY ARTISTS

YOUR NEXT SESSION STEAMY AND SATISFYING, WHETHER YOU’RE NEWLY HOOKING UP OR LONG-HAULING IT

SEND A SEXY PIC

USE CAT POWERS

PLAY WITH POWER

While he’s texting you en route to your date, reply with a picture of your knickers around your ankles and a simple ‘can’t wait’. Trust us, he’ll never be more on time for anything in his life.

The next time he’s on top, try out the Coital Alignment Technique – O-worthy because it combines penetration with clitoral stimulation. While inside you in missionary, he’ll move his body up a few centimetres and gently rock his pubic bone against your clit in a grindy action. This adjustment ups your orgasmic potential by about, oh, a billion per cent.

With time comes trust (yay!) and… familiarity (womp). Introduce novelty and adventure with some light-hearted BDSM. Tie him up and/or blindfold him, and run your tongue along his body, starting at his ears, and working your way down to his Calvins… and below.

HUM ALONG You’ve graduated from the basics, so bust out this advanced move: while you’re going down on him, hum as you go. High-pitched mmms add faster vibrations, and lower ones are deep and throbby. Mmm mmm, good!

ROCK THE LOVE BOAT While he’s entering you from behind (already a great move for your G-spot) keep your back straight, and rock your hips from front to back so you’re the one steering the ship, meaning controlling his thrusting and those aforementioned G-spot feels. Up your speed right as you’re about to… O Captain! My Captain!

GET BUZZY It’s time to introduce him to your little friend! The next time you’re in missionary, hand him a pebble vibe (which has a nonthreatening, nonphallic, round shape in case he’s a toy newbie) to hold against your clit as he moves. When he sees how much it enhances his thrusting, he’ll want the three of you to be together forever!

FACETIME WITH A TWIST While he’s away on a trip, FaceTime him instructions on how to touch himself while you watch in your sexiest lingerie. (A hot, nearly naked woman telling him what to do is an image he won’t soon forget.) Wayyy better than whatever the two hotel channels are showing.

BE A SEXY VALENTINE

PLAN A SEXY GETAWAY

It’s a present-giving time of year, so splurge on the We-Vibe Classic ($159.99, we-vibe.com/ australia-cosmo-retailers), a vibrator that fits inside you, leaving room for his package too (sharing is caring!). Have fun unwrapping it (and each other) when your present arrives.

After a vino-fuelled dinner, lean against your hotel-room balcony’s sliding-glass window (or leave the blinds open and lean against a wall). Wrap one leg around his lower half as he enters you. The upward angle means Gspot stimulation, and there’s nothing hotter than the chance you might be spotted.

SWEETEN UP SUNDAY Turn a morning spoon sesh into something worth waking up for. While you’re both lying on your sides, keep your legs close together as he thrusts from behind. It’s super intimate, and he’ll feel bigger than a breakfast sausage.

GO REMOTE Even a grocery-store run gets hot when you slip a panty vibe into your cottontails and let him toy with you from the produce aisle via smartphone. See if he can make you lose your %#@& in public.

TRY TANTRA STYLE For slow and steady awesomeness, he slides inside you with long, lazy thrusts. Touch his chest and neck, making sure you maintain eye contact – instant intimacy! It’s the kind of sexy afternoon that’ll remind yourselves why you work so damn well together. #

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L E G E N DS O F T H E M A L L

WHAT HE’S THINKING WHEN HE SHOPS FOR CLOTHES Finally, the answer behind his perplexing wardrobe choices SHOPPING ALONE

50% I need a

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shirt. Where can I find one?

hope this store sells pants.

SHOPPING WITH YOU

25%

Are you saying that people actually buy new singlets?

35% But these

are formal sweatpants.

15%

Button fly? Really?

15%

What do you mean by ‘no fedoras under any circumstances’?

10%

If I buy slim fit, will I have to switch to Diet Coke?

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THE PERCENTAGE OF MEN WHO SAY THEY’D SHAVE SOMETHING THEY USUALLY DON’T IF THEIR PARTNER ASKED THEM TO. OH THE POWER!


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Five Years Fresh pairs enter the rotation. Is he trying to impress someone new? Don’t freak. Even clueless dudes eventually invest in some new crotch covers.

N EW S B R I E F S

First Date He puts on a fresh pair of boxer-briefs just in case he gets some. A quick sniff test and he’s off! J U S T. G R O S S.

HIS UNDERWEAR EVOLUTION One man explains what’s in his drawers.

WHY DO GUYS SPIT? Ballplayers spit. Cowboys spit. And what little boy doesn’t want to be a ballplayer or a cowboy? So we hawk loogies. Then it carries over to adulthood. The Sandlot Kids did it instead of shaking hands. The Peaky Blinders siblings spit and shook hands to seal a deal. Sending our saliva sailing is a way of marking territory. Sure, it’s all posturing, but we do it so much that it feels natural. Plus it has all the illicit thrill of littering, without environmental consequences. It safely communicates: I don’t care what you think. But mostly, it says, I’m trying to look cool.

Fourth Date There hasn’t been sex yet, and the stakes are high. Tonight he’s feeling confident wearing his most ‘mature’ pair: paisley-print boxers.

Three Months At this point, undie patterns are erratic. Skid marks might appear one week… and clean, starched whites the next.

One Year Hello, tattered wisp he’s had since high school. You won’t judge him for it… right? At least it shows commitment!

Three Years His favourite superhero undies make an appearance. He’s trying to show you his true self. (Awww…)

D I S A P P E A R I N G DU D E S

THE ACTUAL REASONS GUYS GHOST You ain’t afraid of no ghosts but sometimes they’re afraid of you. Here are the (often cowardly) reasons many guys date and dash

40%

30%

15%

10%

4.99%

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He’s just not that into you. The most obvious – and exasperating – answer is a cliché for a reason.

He’s busy exploring other options. Dating apps foster the illusion of infinite possibilities… infinite chances for us to act like arseholes.

He’s overwhelmed with work. Aren’t we all, bro?

He doesn’t want to rule you in – but he still doesn’t want to rule you out – so he leaves you hanging in his personal purgatory.

He met someone else or got back with his ex and wanted to spare you both (but mainly him) that conversation.

He was killed in a tragic accident while planning an elaborate surprise date and is now an actual ghost.

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ask him anything

LOVE ADVICE FROM OUR GUY GURU, LOGAN HILL

Q.

I FINALLY HOOKED UP WITH THIS GUY. WE WEREN’T EXCLUSIVE YET SO I FELT LIKE I COULDN’T BE MAD WHEN I WOKE UP THE NEXT MORNING AND NOTICED WOMEN’S EARRINGS ON HIS NIGHTSTAND. IS THAT SOMETHING I SHOULD’VE CONFRONTED HIM ABOUT? AND WHAT’S A COOL WAY TO BE LIKE, ‘WTF, WHO DO THESE BELONG TO?’

A. You don’t have to make a choice between ignoring the obvious and starting a fight. Instead, tease him: ‘Oh, I didn’t know you wear women’s earrings…’ Better yet, just call it like you see it: ‘Whose earrings are those?’ Either way, do be sure to ask him the most important question of them all: ‘Do you have a girlfriend?’

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Q. Is it OK to feel jelly

over your male best friendâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s new girlfriend? I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want to date him, but I do follow her on social media to see what sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s up to.

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Q. I gave my BF of six

years an ultimatum, as Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m ready to get engaged. The problem is, we blew past my deadline. How long do I wait before I bring it up again?

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A. Keep it simple:

make sure your girlfriend tells her family in advance. Then just mind your manners. Politely turn down offers of burgers â&#x20AC;&#x201C; and donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t get frustrated when they ask you â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;are you sure?â&#x20AC;&#x2122; Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t bring your own meal, but do consider bringing a dessert for everyone. Remember the basics: ask questions, thank everyone for hosting you, and compliment the cook, even if youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re only eating salad.

Q. I was a dating app

hold-out but now Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve ďŹ nally joined. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not what I expected. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m uninspired, and have no idea how to master the witty banter. How can I become a better app ďŹ&#x201A;irt? I crush it in person, but online Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m forgettable.

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SEE WHAT MADE OUR SHORTLIST THIS MONTH SPARKLING SEASON!

SPORT THE LOOK

SMELLS LIKE SUMMER

Sports luxe just kicked itself up a notch, sporting the fanciest of fabrics. Feel lush, thanks to Novo, in soft pink velvet sneaker heaven! RRP $69.95, novoshoes.com.au.

Spoil your partner with a scent for both of you! This set of Zadig & Voltaire fragrances creates a meeting of two timeless scents. RRP This is Her! EDP $70 (30ml); This is Him! EDT $62 (30ml); 02 9695 5678.

Can you hear the corks popping? Of course you can, because it’s party season! Cool down with Henkell Trocken’s crisp and refreshing liquid gold sparkling wine. Available in 750ml or a cheeky, handbagready size! RRP $17.99.

VITALLY GOOD Vital Protein is an all-natural complete protein that is the perfect choice for toning muscles and supporting weight management. Available in leading pharmacies and supermarket stores. RRP $34.95 for 500g.

FABULOUS & FORTIFIED Let your hair shine in 2017! Pantene Pro-V Sheer Volume Shampoo and Conditioner helps take your fine hair to full-volume fabulousness, with a summer-ready shine. RRP $7.99 each for 350ml.

FESTIVAL SEASON No festival outfit is complete without a killer mani-pedi combo! ulta3 has you covered with a vibrant collection of creamy, chip-resistant nail polish in fun, festivalinspired shades. Available in all good pharmacies. RRP $2.30.

A STROKE OF GENIUS Don’t compromise your hair health this summer. Use ghd’s platinum styler, featuring tri-zone technology, which maintains a safer-for-hair heat from root to tip. Leave the sizzle for the beach, not your hair. Available in the finest salons and at ghdhair.com, RRP $315.

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BEE KIND Burt’s Bees Colour Intense Lipsticks provide you with full-coverage, vibrant colour in 14 shades and are made with 100% naturally moisturising ingredients. Bee kind to your lips and grab one today. RRP $19.95, burtsbees.com.au.


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LETâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;SGET LOVEDUP Ditch that overpriced set menu for these fresh V-Day twists

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COSMOâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S FIVE SINGLE GIRL MOVIE PICKS HOW TO BE SINGLE â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s the obvious frontrunner for singles but it has a powerful message about falling in love with yourself. Cute!â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; DENIS TODOROVIC,

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JUST FRIENDS â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;This is my go-to any time I need a laugh. Ryan Reynolds in a fat suit and Anna Faris with toothpaste drooling out of her mouth. Need I say more?â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; CASSIDY LOANE, BEAUTY & LIFESTYLE EDITOR

KILL BILL â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;Just to be thankful Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m not getting hunted down by a deranged lover.â&#x20AC;&#x2122; â&#x20AC;&#x201C; EMMA READ, ACTING FASHION DIRECTOR


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HOROSCO About face! A pair of eclipses this month brings plenty of change for everyone 21.04-21.05

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Time to focus on you! Pay close attention to your health right at the start of February. The sun enters your sign on the 18th, making it easier than usual for you to express your technicolour vision. Ready for change? Make a move after the solar eclipse on the 26th.

That creeping feeling something is off? Listen to it. When Jupiter goes retrograde on the 6th, consider the right direction for you. Time with people you trust will help you focus. When your ruler Mars unites with Jupiter on the 27th, feel free to move forward.

Mix yourself a business-andpleasure cocktail, then toast to all aspects of your life moving in sync. As Mars shifts into your zone of privacy on the 3rd, get centred and ready for the limelight. You’ll be buzzing with the VIPs by the 20th.

Your future is calling – pick up! Seize any chance to travel, because moving out of your comfort zone will inspire a brilliant idea near the lunar eclipse on the 10th. When Mercury moves into your fame zone on the 25th, share it with the world.

Be honest with yourself about what you want now. Venus will enter your zone of success on the 3rd, sending well-deserved kudos your way. A stressful sitch near the 22nd presents what looks like a nowin choice, but trust your heart.

YOU NEED: To walk a new path.

YOU NEED: To network!

YOU NEED: To express yourself.

YOU NEED: To let go of the old.

Months of hard work are finally paying off! A stack of planets in your zone of routine helps to conquer lingering to-dos. Ask for that promotion or payrise on the 16th, then shake your other moneymaker on the 26th to emerge from your booty blackout.

YOU NEED: To be assertive.

You’re in for a close encounter of the sexy kind! On the 10th, a rare Full Moon lunar eclipse brings single Leos an epic chance for love – which may mean saying ‘boy, bye’ to a stalled relationship. For new perspective, get a change of setting when Mars opposes Jupiter in your travel zone of the 27th.

PISCES GUY: Mixed signals don’t mean he’s ghosting. Check in with him after the 18th to see if he’s worth your play time.

ARIES GUY: He’s secure enough to welcome advice. Help sort through the options on his plate and he’ll prepare a five-star dessert spread.

TAURUS GUY: He needs a vote of confidence as big opportunities head his way. Cheer him on and he’ll go b-a-n-an-a-s for you when you’re alone.

GEMINI GUY: One of his offthe-wall ideas just might stick. Give him your honest take and he’ll clear a little space on his desk for two…

CANCER GUY: His emotions are getting the best of him. Showing him it’s safe to open up may take your connection to the next level.

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YOU NEED: To indulge. LEO GUY: He thinks it’s makeor-break-it time, so go for the grand gesture and get it, girl.

YOU NEED: To stay calm. VIRGO GUY: He’s focused mainly on his job now. But after the 26th, he’ll remind you why his talents are in high demand.

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Ease off the gas. Jupiter brought you win after win over the last six months, but when the lucky planet goes retrograde on the 6th, you must reassess what is working and what isn’t. Share your POV on the 21st. If you’re single, get ready to swipe and score.

This will be a key month for you at work if you tune out distractions and drama. Near the 10th, a lunar eclipse brings the spotlight to you. Stay true to your core crew and shrug off haters on the 22nd, when your ruler, Pluto, tangles with Mars.

It’s like you have your own personal disco ball hovering over you now. Everybody wants some of your shine! Look to make lasting friendships when the Sun influences Saturn on the 14th. Love sizzles near the 23rd. Whether you’re single or a couple, you need to bring the heat!

Cosy up, Cap. Venus moves into your home zone on the 3rd. Nuzzle close to the people and pursuits you lovee most to replenishh your spirit, and stay Zen if any conflict arises. Someone’s hurt feelings may stand between you and your needs. Move gently to find the best solution.

YOU NEED: To let loose.

YOU NEED: An A+ massage.

SAGITTARIUS GUY: He is a busy, busy bee this month. Propose a fly-by quickie he can’t refuse.

CAPRICORN GUY: He’s dying for a low-key night. Have a bath, then take it slow in bed…

YOU NEED: To trust your gut.

SCORPIO GUY: He’s all work, no play until after the 18th, when he’ll make it up to you during an all-nighter…

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LIBRA MAN: Cupid’s arrow hit him hard. He practically has emoji hearts in his eyes! Gaze back during a long weekend trip.

YOU NEED: To balance going hard and going home.

THE AQUARIUS GUY The Weeknd 16.02.90 LOVES: Women who inspire him and can take charge (in and out of the sack). HATES: Mind games and sneaky behaviour that test his trust. DREAM DATE: A day-crawl to his favourite spots, where he can show off his good taste and learn what makes you tick along the way. WIN HIM OVER: By letting him see the real you.

Stellar gifts: You’re determined and never let conventional rules hold you back, often making you a trailblazer in your chosen field. Blind spots: Your stubbornness and defiant nature can sometimes leave others frustrated. Fashion faves: Modern looks, featuring sporty and minimalistic styles, help you shine. Indulgence: Getaways with your ride-or-dies where you can create lasting memories. Seduction style: When someone holds your interest long enough, you can’t stay away – and your fun streak keeps them coming back too. Your month: Don’t get stuck in indecision quicksand! Revolution is in the air, so seize opportunities that come your way. The Full Moon lunar eclipse in your zone of relationships on the 10th will spur you to widen your circle. It may be a bummer, but now is a good time to cut ties with people or put a stop to bad habits that leave you unhappy or unfulfilled. Your year: Learn to mix vision with strategy and you’ll be unstoppable, especially if you connect with people who can help make your dreams come true. Don’t neglect those warm, fuzzy feels – romance is an outlet for you. You need: To say what you want.

BEST MATCHES ARIES: You adore his can-do attitude, and he draws comfort from your unwavering support. LEO: You feed off each other’s energy and encourage each other to reach for the stars. #

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