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WHAT WILL you be


grow up?


At Sunday brunch with Aunt Linda, at family gatherings, in the school cafeteria, and maybe even in line at the grocery store, you were probably asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” And I bet you’ve asked this very question of at least one child in your life. And like most, the answers probably run along the lines of fire-fighter, nurse, veterinarian, or maybe rock star, superhero, famous actor, or President. Funny. When you think about it, no other member of the animal kingdom worries about what it will be when it grows up. No one ever asks the family puppy. Everyone knows he’ll grow up to be the family dog. No one asks the goldfish, swimming in the tank what it will become someday. It doesn’t even cross anyone’s mind that the fish will be anything but a bigger fish when it’s fully grown. If Fido never becomes the cover model on the dog food can, or never dons a cape to play Underdog in the movies, no one is disappointed that he never reached his full potential. And Fido and Goldfish never bother themselves with a question that potentially weighs their self-worth. They’re just happy in their “dog-ness” and “fish-ness”. So, although the question is fun to ask of kids and sometimes yields amusing answers, it could be possible that we’re putting unnecessary pressure on our kids (and ourselves) to live in the future, instead of just being who we are. Maybe we could shift the focus a little. Maybe if we’re taught that the goal in growing into adulthood is to become Humans, that would be better. The focus will no longer be on a job, fame or power, but it will become staying in touch with our humanity - no matter how famous or ordinary, powerful or common, rich or poor we end up. The message could be emphasized that no matter what we choose to do in life, we are inherently valuable just as we are – and we don’t need a job, a profession, or career to define us. So whether we become doctors, presidents, CEOs, police officers, teachers, stay-at-home-moms or dads or entrepreneurs, our humanity is the priority – not the letters after our name, our income, the number of Twitter followers, or political power we hold. And if we are taught that our humanness is what we all share, and with that, each of us as a human is valuable, maybe we won’t become politicians who subvert rights for our own gain, employees who cheat on our time sheets, famous athletes who abuse others, CEOs who value dollars more than lives, or parents who push our kids to accomplish what we never did. We will see ourselves as Human first. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” This is known to most of us a The Golden Rule, attributed to Jesus Christ, but it’s not only a Christian value, it’s a human value that reminds us that no one’s humanity is more or less important than anyone else’s, and by extension, the rights of a very powerful person is no more or less important than the rights of seemingly insignificant one. And there are many forms of power we can aspire to that empower others as well. When we base our self-worth on how we treat others, we all win.

Sisters Rachel, Bo, and Allie are singer/songwriters who host a syndicated music, arts, and lifestyle talk radio show. The Mulberry Lane Show airs in Omaha on Saturdays, The Mighty 1290 KOIL, 10am – noon. The show is sponsored by Elisa Ilana Jewelry. For more information visit


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