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mike & mary New Year’s Resolutions: Good Idea or Bad Idea?

~ Mike DiGiacomo bad idea.

good idea. ~ Mary Nelson

Mary Nelson may view New Year's Resolutions as a positive way to improve your life. However, she is misguided. 44 percent of Americans made New Year's resolutions last year. Most of them will fail to meet their goals. Why? Because most of them are just like me!

How can you reach goals that you never set? After all, a resolution is just a goal. The problem is that we tend to pump them so full with expectations, that we’re almost bound to disappoint ourselves, and possibly worse, the people who care about us.

Just because the calendar is turning a new page doesn't mean you are ready to make major life changes. It takes an understanding of yourself, a real plan, and an inner "desire" to change. Most people who create New Year’s resolutions just aren’t ready.

A few years ago, I resolved to lose weight. I didn’t resolve to lose a set number of pounds or inches. I didn’t resolve to do it within a certain amount of time. I just woke up each day with the attitude that I’d chip away at the number. If I ate things I knew I shouldn’t, or didn’t exercise when I knew I should, I’d just try again the next day. This was the first time that I gave myself permission to mess up, but decided this goal was important enough to keep working on it.

Let’s take “spending” for example. Some people may decide they want to spend less time at the department stores at the turn of the new year. But, you really need to figure out why you like to spend, what comfort does spending bring to you, and what things would you have to give up?

Experts will say that our “Why?” has to be bigger than the problem itself. So, instead of focusing on the challenges, remember the motivation – often the people whom we love, and who love us.

After you reach a certain level of understanding, you might decide that you're not ready to stay out of your pocketbook. It all leads to a premature resolution, thus leading to failure.

If you resolve to rob a bank in 2014, I must caution you, I think that’s a really bad idea.

Let’s get real about this folks. The new year should be all about fun and freedom, not failure and fatigue. Don’t set a New Year’s resolution this year. Instead, simply try to live a little better. Instead of “lose 20 pounds”, choose “eat more fresh fruits and veggies”. Don’t just focus on the end result, look for positive actions.

But, if you resolve to eat better, quit smoking, spend more time with your family, learn a new language, get your finances in order – If you resolve to do something that leads to a healthier, happier you – then I think it’s a great idea! Just make it doable, and allow yourself to be human along the way.

If there is one resolution to consider, to rediscover the difference between wants and needs. May you have all you need and want all you have. Happy New Year!

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metroMagazine • Jan 2014

metroMAGAZINE's January 2014 Issue  

metroMAGAZINE's January 2014 Issue is online now! metroMAGAZINE is published monthly by ALH Publications, serving the Omaha/Lincoln/Council...

metroMAGAZINE's January 2014 Issue  

metroMAGAZINE's January 2014 Issue is online now! metroMAGAZINE is published monthly by ALH Publications, serving the Omaha/Lincoln/Council...