IS IT ART?
Artists speak on their struggles with self-doubt
IS THE ‘AMERICAN DREAM’ ALIVE IN THE SOUTH?
A look through the lens of immigrants living in the South
| VOLUME 2
A view into how the one percent live
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Volume Two Fall 2019
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A Letter From the Creative Director Over the last few months, our team of writers, photographers, editors, and consultants have been working passionately to see the second
issue of BARE come to life. With the success of the magazine’s launch behind us, we now had a journalistic responsibility to continue with the BARE message.
Enter our second issue; our “Becoming” issue. In this volume, our team pushed to further establish our identity and find our footing in the
world of technology, fashion, new-age, mindfulness, politics, and sex.
It was important that we chose stories and, most importantly, a cover
model who represented the BARE generation—the people challenging the status quo.
This issue’s cover feature is Doug Ta’a. You may not
know him but his story mirrors those of us who have struggled with
depression, self-doubt, and self-love because our identity is trivialized, judged, and discriminated against. His story is one of triumph and empowerment, the kind of story that will uplift
and encourage all who hear it. He is a true representation of BARE’s mission to change the world.
In this issue, you’ll also find a broader scope of global topics. You
can find Moroccan Fashion icon Maison ARTC on page 28, we pay homage to ANSI art (you’re not alone if that was before your time)
on page 38, and artists reveal their thoughts about self-doubt in our feature story “But is it Art?”
Stripped of any concerns of “what people will think,” BARE is here to showcase raw and
uncensored ideas. Let’s strip away any fears or judgment and live our lives BARE.
BARE Magazine Creative Director
“Lion’s Run” A View Into How the One Percent Live Page 57
The Upcycled Style of African Fashion
But is it Art? Page 41
Becoming Doug Ta’a
One man’s journey in finding himself through advocacy and the art of dressing well and how he hopes to help others along the way
CONTENTS 07 Living Forevor
67 Back in Black: Cannabis Pushed
11 Mètier Brewing: Bringing People Together Over a Pint
15 Golden Goose: The Year of the Dirty Sneaker
71 Recipe: Indian Bread
19 Is the “American Dream” Alive in the South
74 The Death Positivity Movement
35 ANSI Art Returns
78 The White Commodification of
39 But is it Art
62 The Power of the Pole
81 Advice Column
Into the Dark, Again
Blackness in the Fashion Industry
Living Forever. How New Tech is Allowing Deceased Actors a Future in Film Story Luna Reyna
n 1993, when Brandon Lee was
questions about how the digital future will
accidentally killed on the set of “The
impact our moral rules.
Crow,” a digital reconstruction of his face was grafted so that they could finish the
For perspective, the GDC is to the gaming
film. When Paul Walker died in a car crash
development industry what South by
in 2013, the film “Furious 7” was finished with
Southwest (SXSW) is to the music industry.
body doubles and visual effects, and Samuel
The conference includes lectures, panels, and
L. Jackson was even de-aged in this year’s
roundtable discussions, as well as an expo
Captain Marvel release. Surprisingly, all of
that exhibits emerging game developments
these examples of how deceased actors are
from leading technology companies. One of
“living on” in the film industry are not isolated.
these companies is 3Lateral, who recently
It’s a practice used far more than known to the
joined the Unreal Engine team, ran by
average movie viewer.
Epic Games, a video game and software development company. During GDC Vladimir
Beyond the examples in film of Lee, Walker,
Mastilovic, the CEO of 3Lateral, gave a
or Jackson this kind of digital rendering is
riveting keynote speech about the future of
becoming more common with companies
digital human technology.
like Digital Domain. Now an actor’s likeness can be saved and used, even posthumously.
This technology allows filmmakers, content
Franchises like Star Wars are acting proactively
creators, and game developers to create
and scanning all of their leads so that filming
real-time photorealistic digital characters
can continue if the actor were unable to film
almost indistinguishable from real humans
for any reason.
that can be used in everything from artificial intelligence and mixed reality applications to the entertainment industry. Chances are
“We will always digitally scan all the lead actors in the film,” visual-effects supervisor Ben Morris told Inverse. “We don’t know if we’re going to need them.”
you have already witnessed some degree of digital human technology in film, but it is the resurrection of actors who have passed on, or even age reversal, that has some rethinking their approach to their careers. These digital clones don’t come easy, or cheap though. Capturing every angle, every wrinkle, every pore and expression takes up to two
This digital future that will blur the lines
days and a full-service scan can cost a million
between reality, virtual spaces, and even life
dollars, but the long term profits for an actor’s
after death can best be experienced at the
family, even after death, could far outweigh
Game Developers Conference (GDC). In 2019,
the costs. “An actor that is alive today can use
there was a record-breaking attendance at
a scanner to get a digital 3D model of their
San Francisco’s Moscone Convention Center.
appearance, and then sell a studio the right to
Each year’s growing attendance highlights the
use their image for, say, five movies after their
ever-growing industry and the interest in the
death,” Mike McGee, co-founder of special
evolution of technologies that bring up new
effects studio Framestore tells Vice.
“Actors who are very young and think they’re going to have a successful career can start scanning their bodies periodically, so they can act in different age ranges, either when they are alive or dead.” This is something late actor Robin Williams was most likely aware of. He restricted any use of his name, images of himself, his voice, or his likeness for 25 years after his death so that he could not be digitally inserted into any films, ads, or endorsements. In 2039 the rights to his likeness go to Windfall Foundation, a foundation that he started to raise money for a long list of charities. This is a whole new revolutionary way of looking at publicity rights.
California law — home of the American film industry — says that for the first 70 years after an actor passes, they have control over their public image. Contracts generally have clauses stating what an actor’s likeness can and cannot be used in and publicity rights in most states don’t allow an actor’s image to be used without consent, but now actors are actively engaging in the conversation about their computer-generated images in movies, television or commercials. “Celebrities are increasingly involved in making plans to protect their intellectual property rights,” Mark Roesler, an attorney, and chairman of CMG Worldwide, an agency representing celebrity estates, tells Reuters. “They understand that their legacy will continue beyond their lifetime.” And at GDC, Epic Games promised that this tech will only become more indistinguishable from real humans.
bringing people together over a pint
Mètier Brewing Company Cultivates a Brewery That Embraces Everyone Story Jacob Uitti
Photography Trevor Boone
Most of the world’s beer industry is comprised of white people. This has been true for hundreds of years, and it’s true today. But that may be slowly beginning to change thanks in part to a new wave of black-owned breweries and other brewers of color. One such pioneer is Rodney Hines, CEO and co-founder of Woodinville, Washington’s Métier Brewing. Rodney is a black man who has often found himself amidst clashes in culture in the U.S.
14 Hines remembers not long ago being in his local pub in Seattle’s Central District — a historically black neighborhood — but he didn’t see anyone who looked like him — not the staff, and not the patrons. He knew it wasn’t so facile and
“The indus has look m like
Community has always been most important to Hines.
Whether going to church with his family or brewing beer
with buddies, the people he keeps in contact with influenced
simplistic that black people don’t drink beer. Rather, he
his moral compass. So, it was only natural that his love of
thought, there aren’t places that seem inviting to communities
community, his passion for social change, and his affinity
of color. So, he thought, he had to create that place. But, of
for brewing, which began after college, lead to him owning
course, diversity and inclusion can’t be the only aims. The beer
his own spot. “I started brewing beer in my early twenties,”
has to be top-notch.
he says. “Brewing is about hanging out, drinking beer, and making beer. I get excited about what can happen when
Hines, who grew up in Philadelphia, graduated from Bates College in Maine and dove into nonprofit grassroots in inner
people come together over a pint.”
cities. “We’re constantly dealing with the history and results
Having worked at Starbucks and Microsoft, Hines knows well
of inequality and social justice,” Hines explains. “I think
what it’s like to make significant changes as an employee
that’s something we all own. We’re dealing with cycles of
inside a big company, Now, with his brewery, Métier, which he
communities being impacted and not given fair access. I feel a
co-founded in 2018, Hines is the top dog in a small business.
responsibility to act on addressing these issues.”
But the change that Métier can accomplish is no less important
beer stry s to more us.”
than what his old employers can accomplish. With Métier,
15 dialogue, conversation and action. Now, I’ve got one.”
Hines can help the brewing business learn to better reflect the
community it ultimately aims to serve. “We are truly guided by a mission,” says Hines. “I want people to understand and
At Métier, Hines says customers of color hang out over a
feel this. We want to produce damn good beer and build a
pint, spend time with their family and enjoy the atmosphere.
stronger community to inspire bigger dreams for all.”
They seek his place out, he says, even though it’s not located in Seattle proper. Hines has eyes on opening more Métier
Métier brews thirteen beers year-round, including the award-
taprooms in Washington to promote the vision he’s had since
winning American Wheat and Coconut Porter, with a few
day-one as a professional: to help underrepresented people.
other brews made throughout the years in collaboration with local breweries. Métier also recently collaborated with two-
“Our vision is bigger than we are today,” he explains. “My
time James Beard Award-Winning chef, Edouardo Jordan, a
desire is that Métier Brewing Company’s legacy will be its
celebrated black chef making waves in the culinary world. It’s
influence on this industry that does not look like us. We will
these relationships Hines finds supremely valuable in an era
help wake up this industry to understand and appreciate that
when social change seems increasingly possible. “I’ve always
for this business to grow it’s got to reflect and embrace the
wanted to create a space where everyone feels welcomed and
broader society. The beer industry has to look more like us.”
where they see themselves,” says Hines. “A place that sparks
16 Model Rian Iheln
Photography Anthony Ponce de Leon
G O L D EN G O O S E. CO M
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ALIVE IN THE SOUTH? A GLANCE THROUGH AN IMMIGRANT LENS Story Vianessa Castanos
Before “Make America Great Again” was emblazoned on to red bargain-bin hats, there was the American Dream; the unofficial slogan that declared to people the world over that this was the land of opportunity. This was the place where anyone from anywhere could settle in pursuit of happiness. Given the current political climate it can be hard to remember that the United States was once a symbol of endless possibility. Now, in the era of President Donald Trump, it would seem that choosing to come to the U.S. for a fresh start offers more risk than reward. More than ever antiimmigrant sentiment has seeped through the very fabric of American life. But if you look closer you can still find remnants of that American dream in the most unexpected of places — Charlotte, North Carolina has rebranded itself The New South, a moniker intended to highlight its transition into one of America’s fastest-growing and most progressive cities. But just how welcoming has Charlotte been? We spoke with a few immigrant business owners about their lives in the New South.
Manolo Betancur, Owner, Manolo’s Bakery
Tucked into the corner of a small, nondescript shopping plaza
study political science. He later moved to Charlotte in 2005 to work
in east Charlotte lies Manolo’s Bakery, a favorite breakfast
with his ex-wife’s family business. “Charlotte was not as crazy as a
spot among the Latinx and African communities in the city.
big city, but not as boring as a small town...so I moved here and
The street-facing exterior wall of the building is embellished
just fell in love,” Manolo says, smiling broadly. Since buying out the
with a mural depicting immigrant children flying kites, a
business from his former in-laws and ex-wife, Manolo has seen the
landmark painting by local artist and activist Rosalia Torres-
bakery grow from six to 22 employees. They now distribute their
goods to 100 stores in two states, 75 of which are in the Charlotte area. However, the most challenging aspect of being a business
Manolo Betancur, the owner of the bakery, first came to the U.S. to
owner has been Immigration and Customs Enforcement
(ICE). “There are a lot of immigrant kids losing their mothers
Manolo sprung into action, paying nearly $50,000 of his
and fathers. ICE has been very aggressive here on Central
own money for legal services to update Ramon’s status and
Avenue. They have even picked up people from my parking
secure his release.
lot, and whenever the community hears ‘Hey, [ICE is] at Manolo’s,’ people stop coming,” he adds. One of the people
Now Manolo is working with a number of local and immigrants
taken into custody during these raids was Manolo’s own
rights organizations in support of his community. Ramon remains
employee Ramon* who was picked up after a shift at work.
one of his best employees.
Lucia Zapata Griffith, Owner, Poplar
Before leaving Lima, Peru and relocating to Charlotte, Lucia
rather than sell the historic landmark, she partnered with Chef
had already built a career as a successful architect. In 1985
Bruno Machiavello and business-woman Yolanda Johnson to
after visiting a friend in Charlotte, she landed a job with a firm
turn it into the restaurant that it is today. “The house has its
that sponsored her visa, and she’s remained in Charlotte ever
own story to tell, this restaurant is just adding another layer to
since. Once she opened up her private practice her specialty
became designing and building restaurants the evidence
“The house has its own story to tell, this restaurant is just adding another layer to that story.”
of which is easy to spot while strolling through Charlotte’s
The white, Victorian-era house on 10th street, with its broad
airport. Concessions like Wendy’s, Einstein Bagels, and the
umbrellas that dot the front lawn offer just the right amount
large bar in Terminal A are just some of the projects that Lucia
of shade for sipping cucumber-infused cocktails. Inside,
has left her mark on.
the beautifully restored stained-glass windows and dark mahogany accents breathe life into what was once a private
“I did some developments on my own. I’d buy a place, fix it,
home turned bookstore. This Poplar Tapas Restaurant & Bar is
and sell it. And I found this house. But once I fixed it, I just
the upscale casual dining concept Lucia Zapata couldn’t bare
couldn’t sell it because I loved it so much” she beams. So
to sell. Her office occupies the second floor.
Carmen Vazques, Executive Chef & Partner, Yafo Kitchen
At 17-years-old Carmen Vazques and her brother traveled
Now with three locations across Charlotte, Yafo Kitchen has
from Mexico to Charlotte to visit family. Now, 23 years later,
taken Carmen one step closer to her goal of becoming a
she has earned the title of partner and Executive Chef at local
published cookbook author and developing her own healthy
and authentic Mexican food concept. “Being a woman chef is
difficult; they think that because you are a woman you can’t do it, but I’ve proven myself,” she tells me. “Frank has nine
Carmen knew soon after arriving in Charlotte that her dream
restaurants and I’m the first woman Executive Chef, so I feel
was to work in a professional kitchen, so she got an entry-
like I’ve made it. It’s the American dream.”
level job working with Frank Scibelli, a local restaurateur
You would be surprised to learn that while Charlotte is a
who owned nine restaurants in the city. She would quietly
conservative city in one of the most conservative states in
watch and learn from others while developing her own skills,
the country, it is one of the most racially diverse metropolitan
until eventually, after many years being the only woman in a
areas in the South; that diversity coupled with an attractive
male-dominated field and working her way up the ranks, she
cost of living and an abundance of community building
was offered the opportunity to become a partner and run a
initiatives might make it one of the few remaining bastions of
kitchen of her own.
a not forgotten promise.
25 “Frank has nine restaurants and I’m the first woman Executive Chef, so I feel like I’ve made it. It’s the American Dream.”
THE U P CYCL E D ST YL E O F A F R IC A N FAS H ION A NOTE ON THE DIVERSITY OF AFRICAN TEXTILES
Story Love Akinkunle Photography Courtesy of Maison ARTC
N O T
J U S T
WHEN YOU PICTURE AFRICAN FASHION
African authenticity is often questioned. But there is no
WHAT DO YOU SEE?
standard for authentic African fashion.
It feels like African fashion has been tossed into a
The truth is, there is more to the African fashion than
box; a box of predictable, repetitive styles and limited
what exists in pop culture. Africa is a vast continent
expectations. When people hear the designer is African,
with centuries of heritage and culture with influences
they probably expect “ethnic,” “tribal,” or “colorful.”
from Europe and the Middle East, and even modern-
When those expectations aren’t met, the designer’s
day western trends. Although certain narratives
presently dominate the media, it’s important to explore the fashion and its origins beneath the surface. Many designers are doing just that. One such designer is Artsi Ifrach, art director and designer of Maison ARTC, a fashion house based in Morocco. Inspired by human creations, he sources his fabrics from flea markets and vintage shops all over the world. Everything he creates is upcycled, preserving the soul of every textile and garment he works with. For Ifrach, it’s not just about making clothes, it’s about telling a unique story and discovering the soul behind the fashion. He paraphrases Napoleon, “there is a fine line between the ridiculous and the
styles, ornate headpieces, and even masks, he filled the runway with royal purple, bold reds, enchanting
sublime.” Ifrach uses this line as inspiration every
greens, and brilliant golds. It seemed to chronicle
time he creates a piece. For him, the sublime is being
different facets of human existence, from art to
true to yourself, and never questioning who you are.
spirituality. Through his line, Ifrach emphasized the
True to his strong beliefs in individuality, he creates
richness of North African culture, and it’s ties with the
one-of-a-kind pieces. None of his creations are made
to order, rather he creates based on his state of mind. When asked about the future of fashion, Ifrach says, I first discovered Maison ARTC at Arise Fashion
“the future is the past, instead of going forward, we
Week in Lagos. With a range of different fabrics,
need to go back.’’ Perhaps this is true, perhaps the
only way to truly experience and appreciate fashion is to slow down and go back to the time where it wasn’t just about the trends, but the history and the heritage behind the garment. It’s easy to lose the essence and story behind a textile when it’s mass-produced and replicated. Whether this future happens in the next few months, or in a few years, African fashion will soon be appreciated beyond the trends — and instead celebrated for the stories, crafts, and diversity behind the textiles.
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time they have all just weeded themselves out and now it’s just my group of women that totally support me, and
A MOTHER’S JOURNEY Motherhood is a journey. Once it has begun, it never stops and is always evolving, as we do. It is the rawness of motherhood that Amanda shares with her growing Instagram following and it’s her recent advocacy for cannabis that has made her an influencer. “Mamas, it’s not every day that unicorns shoot rainbows out their ass. You had a bad day. That’s ok. Go grab some herb and relax. Tomorrow is brand new.” Sharing so much of yourself and your family online, combined with being an open advocate of cannabis, is an area of contention for many, but Amanda seems unbothered. “I think over
I’m so grateful for that,” she explained. Her focus is on educating herself on medicinal cannabis so that she can be a reliable, informed source for her followers and family, not the internet trolls. On the most basic level, most of us simply hope for a happy and healthy family, and Amanda has found that through the medicinal value of CBD her hope is that through her online advocacy she will impact the lives of those open to plant medicine and holistic living, destigmatizing something that she feels is over-regulated and underappreciated. Photography Courtesy of @supermodemomma
NOSTALGIA FO Story Jennifer Stavros
Nostalgia is the name of the game these days, but in the art world, it’s more than that.
During the early ‘80s, bullet board system (BBS) message boards were
hot. Nerdy as it may sound, these message boards were a place for online
chatting, gaming and in many ways the beginning of social networking as we know it. Folks running these communities had to get creative to bring
attention to their groups, however, this was difficult to do back in those
days due to early computer’s limited amount of colors. ANSI art is created using ANSI blocks, enhanced text character blocks that produce color to
ANSI art is a time-intensive hand and number oriented form of creating digital artworks. Artists can create via changing individual blocks on a
numeric keypad or can draw via mouse or tablet and stylus. Pieces can take
anywhere from a half-hour to months to make depending on the intricacy
of the piece.
While many folks not in the know might confuse ANSI art for its popular nostalgic pixel art counterpart, the two forms are tremendously different.
Pixel art is created without the block by block techniques that are used with
ANSI. Pixel art is made by using computer-generated tools and techniques that only simulate early computer’s blockiness. Folks within the ANSI
community can recognize when folks use these pixel cheats.
Who are these digital time travelers and why do they continue to thrive?
OR LOW-RES FUTURE Meet Fuel: The artists that are keeping the BBS’s ANSI art culture alive.
Part futurists, part ordinary Joes and Janes, the international group of
artists is an eclectic group that’s giving a nostalgic form of art a current artistic reality.
While there are far fewer BBS boards than in their heyday, the group still creates screens for BBS games and fan art. The spirit of this art, although rooted in nostalgia, is nuanced by the connection of the past with the newfound digital playground of the future.
Some artists are relatively new to doing ANSI art, but others within the team have been creating for decades. The group took a nearly 20-year
hiatus in 1998 only to return in 2016. Pinguino, a professional digital-artist, is one of the newcomers to the scene. According to Pinguino, “millennials
are drawn to it because they grew up around video games.” Many of the
other artists are not professionally trained but are members of the hacker
and computer community and have been doing ANSI art since high school.
While some subcultures have mixtapes, Fuel works to create artpacks.
These artpacks are compiled by numerous ANSI artists and create a
playlist of Fuel’s collected artwork. Artpacks can contain 20 to 30 pieces of various complexity and size. For Fuel, it’s more about quality rather than
quantity.“It’s like an (music) album but with ANSI art,” Pinguino explains as she showed me some of the team’s work.
Art created within them can be found on their site. Art packs in this
digital art gallery come out every three months. Folks interested in ANSI can also get their art at demoparties, hacker-oriented events, or even
conventional art shows.Pinguino collaborated with her international
Fuel counterparts Necro, The Knight, and Burps on a work entitled
“Repaired-Rebooted- Reborn,” which was featured at the Los Angeles art gallery, The Hive, last year.
Subject matter in the ANSI art world has shifted as the artists producing
the works have aged. Television shows like “The Ren & Stimpy Show” and
“Beavis and Butt-Head” are still depicted from time to time, but it’s not
without the addition of cultural references like a portrait of Frank Reynolds
of “It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia” or the character Bubbles from
“Trailer Park Boys.” Nowadays, Fuel and other ANSI art groups are fueling more than just nostalgia with their art. They are creating a digitally hand-
drawn bridge between now and a vibrant past that continues to resonate block by block.
HOW EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT ARE YOU? Story Christina Passarella Are you the friend everyone turns to for advice, or are you more
personal success. Put more simply, people with higher EQ
of a gossip? Are you always calm and collected, or do you hold
maintain healthier relationships, make great leaders, and
it all in until you explode like an emotional Mount Vesuvius?
manage stress better. While some people are naturals,
Emotional Intelligence, or EQ, measures our ability to
most of us have plenty of room for improvement. So, how
understand and manage our own and others’ emotional
emotionally intelligent are you?
responses, and it’s been linked to social, professional, and
IT’S 4:59pm ON FRIDAY AND YOU GET AN EMAIL FROM A CLIENT ASKING FOR A FOURTH ROUND OF EDITS. WOULD YOU:
A) Respond immediately, noting that these are changes they previously declined and definitely aren’t necessary.
YOUR TWO CLOSEST FRIENDS ARE FIGHTING AND YOU’RE BEING PULLED INTO THE MIDDLE OF IT DESPITE YOUR BEST EFFORTS. DO YOU:
A) Hear them both out and choose a side based on what you learn.
B) Ignore the email for now and head to happy hour. It’s Friday, after all.
B) Avoid both of them as much as possible and start hanging out with new friends. Who needs that drama?
C) Send a quick message letting them know that you’ll review their ideas and follow up Monday.
C) Invite them both to brunch and offer to mediate so they can clear the air.
YOU’RE ATTENDING YOUR COUSIN’S BIRTHDAY THIS SATURDAY, BUT YOUR FRIEND JUST SCORED VIP TICKETS TO A CONCERT THE SAME NIGHT. WOULD YOU:
A) Decide which illness you’ll come down with to excuse yourself from the party.
YOUR NEW INTERN COMES TO YOU WITH A GREAT IDEA FOR IMPROVING A PROCESS YOU’VE SPENT YEARS PERFECTING. DO YOU:
A) Use their ideas after their internship is over so you don’t have to credit them.
B) Go to the party but sneak out early to go to the concert.
B) Thank them for their ideas, but keep things the same. New processes are just more work.
C) Turn down the tickets; you don’t want to disappoint your cousin.
C) Acknowledge their contributions to your team and try to implement their ideas.
YOU AND YOUR PARTNER ARE ARGUING OVER WHO DID THE DISHES LAST AND IT’S GETTING UGLY. YOU SUDDENLY REALIZE YOU WERE ACTUALLY WRONG ALL ALONG. WOULD YOU:
A) Stick to your story. Backing down now will only mean admitting defeat. B) Casually work in a change of subject then offer to order take out. No cooking means no dishes in the first place. Problem solved. C) Suck it up, admit your mistake, and offer to do the dishes for the rest of the week as a peace offering.
RESULTS: Award 1 point for each A response, 2 points for each B response, and 3 points for each C response. 12-15: You’re a master of self-awareness. You accept criticism gracefully, keep your commitments, and handle confrontation in a respectful and honest way. You’re a good friend and will make a great leader if you aren’t one already. 7-11: You’re on the right path but there’s room for improvement. Conflicts can’t be avoided forever, so be honest and open to feedback. Accepting criticism is a necessary part of improving your EQ. LESS THAN 7: Self-reflection may not come naturally to you, but all is not lost. Practicing self-assessments, reflecting on negative emotions before reacting, and honoring your commitments will help improve your personal and professional relationships.
BUT IS Artists Speak On Self-Doubt
40 Story Jacob Uitti I often recall the scene in the 1975 Orson
certain piece will be good enough or whether
which the celebrated director recites the famous
present in my work.
Wells film on art forgery, “F For Fake,” during
English poet, Rudyard Kipling, saying, “When
I, myself, am good enough, doubt is regularly
first the flush of a newborn sun fell on the green
More recently, however, I’ve begun to talk
and scratched with a stick in the mold. The first
told them that I play a game to see how long
and gold, our father Adam sat under the tree
crude sketch that the world had seen was joy
to his mighty heart. ‘Til the Devil whispered behind the leaves, ‘It’s pretty, but is it art?’”
This verse, of course, is about self-doubt. It’s a feeling that plays a significant role in the
internal world of any creative person. For many artists, the job requires producing work —
often made in their most vulnerable moments
about the phenomenon with fellow artists. I’ve it takes after my writing is published for me to feel down or become sullen on any number of
topics I am battling with in my head that day:
money in the bank, some idea of social status, or if I’ll get a chance at great work again. In turn,
they have told me about their own struggles of
career comparison, of not getting recognition, or perhaps not being able to make art again at all.
— and offering it to the public, therefore, to
Here are nine accomplished artists from Seattle,
life as a writer living in Seattle, I understand
doubt in their own way.
public criticism, or evisceration. In my own
this dynamic well. Whether it’s wondering if a
all of whom describe their experience of self-
“Doubt is part of the process.” Danny Denial is a front man for several
of being exposed as a fraud is real most of the
publications like Afropunk.
with healthy habits like meditation, staying off
videographer, whose work has premiered in
“I struggle with self-doubt often, which I think mostly stems from impostor syndrome as an
artist, and it famously rears its head at the stage when I’m completing a project and bracing the
notion of ‘presenting’ to the public with a release.
in the photo to hide that I’m a fake. The fear
music projects in Seattle. He is also a renowned
time. But sometimes I can ward off the feeling
social media, exercise, and working on my craft
for self-fulfillment instead of trying to ‘be a real
Martin Douglas is a music writer for KEXP-
FM, a public radio station in Seattle, Washington.
You build it up so much in your head, especially
He loves professional wrestling and chronicling
that comes with showing your work in a public
for the station.
the longer you live with a project, but the dread
forum is very real and can be debilitating. It’s
a necessary wart to confront, and that feeling becomes more numbed over time.”
Kate Voss is the lead singer in the acclaimed
jazz duo, Sundae + Mr. Goessl. She has a buttery
smooth voice and tours the country often singing for gleeful audiences.
“I have 20/20 vision,but I wear glasses to hide myself. I remember buying them as, like, a
the most impactful music from northwest bands
“I experience self-doubt fairly often. When I experience it, I try to keep things in
perspective and remember what I’ve achieved,
and the intellectually and spiritually satisfying work that I’ve done. Reading something I’m
particularly proud of always helps. A friend
who is also a writer once told me about writing,
‘Doubt is part of the process.’ I keep that in mind when cycling through self-defeating moods.”
costume thing several years back. When I was
Nozomi Mumsie Momo is the badass drummer
two years ago, I went to the ceremony not
Smith. She’s one of the city’s most captivating
up for vocalist of the year at Earshot Magazine knowing if I was going to win and terrified
either way. I instinctively put the glasses on. I was SHAKING! I was so nervous to even go
to this thing that I put glasses on to hide. I
couldn’t believe I was even up for an award like
for the Seattle goth-prom punk band, Dark
“Even just saying this makes me feel shitty
because I feel like I’m perpetuating the whole
fetishization of female musicians, alas, being
this. I’m not that great of a singer and everyone
a female musician is like being the prettiest
entire community knew and loved. I did not
you’re complimented on how great you are but
else on the list was a seasoned pro that the
belong. But I won. I’m wearing fake glasses
anomaly at the freak show. Eyes are on you and you’re never sure if it’s that you’re great as a
female drummer or if they actually know what
of me wonders about the mental repercussions.
they’re talking about and mean that regardless
When I’m pulling my hair out just before a shoot,
drummer! And I mean that, not just as a female
more smoothly than anticipated and that I’m
of gender. I’ve had guys tell me, ‘You’re a great
I have to remind myself that things tend to go
drummer but in general!’”
doing something I love in support of people that
I don’t want to be ungrateful for the fact that
being a girl does open doors for me but it also
sucks that people will sometimes assume that
you get credit purely for your gender. It makes
inspire the hell out of me — for that I know I am
Kathy Moore is one of Seattle’s most accomplished
guitarists. To whit: she’s currently giving Pearl
“It worked out through 43 tears and the skin of my teeth.” me spiteful when I see beautiful girls that aren’t
Jam’s Mike McCready theory lessons.
I know is shitty, so then I feel both not good
“I usually try not to operate with doubt because
as experienced in playing get recognition, which
doubt makes it so that I cannot play at all.
However, last year I had to learn the album,
Operation: Mindcrime, to play at the Paramount
Theatre in two weeks. Not only did I doubt that
enough and like a terrible person. I think what
I could learn the music in such a short period
with musicians I respect and I feel like I can keep
ask them to replace me. In the end, I buckled
helps me get out of that hole is when I get to play up.”
down and learned that fucking music and had
Jake Hanson is a photographer for KEXP-FM.
through tears and the skin of my teeth.”
He has shot some of the world’s most acclaimed
musicians while also running his own boutique
web design company.
“I’ve wrestled with self-doubt since I was young and have always been self-conscious about my
creative pursuits. The critical voice in my head
inherently compares the results of my work to
photographs of artists that I admire. Part of me
welcomes that criticism, knowing that it’s there in
part to help me hone my craft, but another part
of time, but I called three other guitarists to
a wonderful and thrilling gig. It worked out
Erin Rae Murray is a bandleader whose music has been featured on NPR’s Tiny Desk contest
series and her group, Erin Rae & the Heartbeets, recently played Seattle’s prestigious Capitol Hill
“Self-doubt is present daily for me. I often wake up with a pit in my stomach. But I know I’ve
got a small bunch of friends I can call and say,
‘Remind me of how much of a badass I am, please.
“I will unconsciously begin to devalue and downplay what I’m about to do as a way to protect myself.” 44
I seem to have forgotten. Other times I consult
a friend that’s been doing what I’m doing longer than me to ask for help,or I try to give myself
and led to more positive experiences for me as an artist.”
permission to not create,or maybe I’ll force
Young-Chhaylee is singer-songwriter traveling
result in tears but who doesn’t feel better after
both raspy and golden, both bright and powerful.
myself to create — one line, one word. This can a cry?”
Joel William DeJong is the founder of the
popular Crowdsource Choir, a non- religious
and non-commitment-oriented monthly choir in
Seattle. He founded it after getting a train car of strangers to sing together after a U2 concert.
“Before a performance, I will unconsciously begin to devalue and downplay what I’m
about to do as a way to protect myself from
the possibility that it might not go well. I’ll be
embarrassed, or worse, I’ll feel like a fraud. Over time, I’ve learned to recognize this feeling and
acknowledge it, which has grown my confidence
the country with his acoustic guitar. His voice is
“I wake up at least every other day and doubt my decision to tour, create music, perform, and use music as my sole means of income.”
We all live with self-doubt and it can feel
disabling, but we also try to work to move
through doubt and make more of our best work,
as best we can. So, dear reader, if you too find
yourself feeling down or discouraged, read these
passages, because we’re all in this crazy creative
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ashion is the living expression
When his father fell ill, Ta’a stepped up
Executives of Color (YEC) program.
of art. It is through careful
to help his mother support their family.
There he mentored high school students
curation that fashion is artistically
“My driving force through college was
as a pipeline to UW. Later, Ta’a worked
communicated by people like Douglas
to get this degree, to get a good job,
as the African-American recruiter at UW.
Ta’a. “Creativity and self-expression
to take care of my family,” Ta’a explains.
“Being able to go to these inner-city
through art has always been something
Not only was he putting himself through
high schools, talk to them about higher
that has been super close to home,”
college, but he was helping his mother
education and really be someone to
Ta’a explains. “As I grew older, that
with household bills, medical bills, and
advocate for them, help them with the
expression that came through the form
even helping his younger brother get
application process, and push them and
of painting and drawing, then came
through school. This didn’t leave a lot of
make them believe in themselves, was
through fashion. I just started to be
time for the self-exploration that most
something that was super rewarding
more cognitive of what I was wearing,
college students get— or the artistic
for me,” Ta’a explained. Now, he is
how that made me feel, what that
expression that Ta’a desperately desired.
taking his affinity for art and passion for
would make other people feel.” Fashion
advocacy and is applying both towards
was Ta’a’s path to overcoming adversity
As a Samoan and African American
his job at Nordstrom as the current Sr.
and self-discovery. Although it was not a
man, Ta’a understood from an early
Marketing Strategy Planner. There he
gentle journey, it is an inspirational one.
age what the barriers to entry are for
is able to advocate for diversity and
people of color in higher education.
inclusion both in the company and in
Originally from Seattle, Washington
He also understood how important
how marketing is created.
Ta’a is the eldest of two boys. He grew
advocacy could be in their success, so
up in a lower to middle-income family
he worked as a mentor at the University
where his father was the breadwinner.
of Washington (UW) for the Young
What I wanted in life was never really at the top of the list because I knew I had so much on my plate in terms of taking care of the people who took care of me.
Ta’a spent all of his college career caring
If you follow Ta’a’s blog or any of his
for and advocating for others. By 2016
social media profiles, you know he has
he launched a fashion blog called, The
been open and honest about coping
Need for Expression (TNFE). “What I
with severe depression over the years.
wanted in life was never really at the
“I wanted to take my life many times
top of the list because I knew I had so
because I just felt like I didn’t matter.”
himself and coming out to his friends
much on my plate in terms of taking
Ta’a explains somberly, “...mentally I
and family too. He actually inspired
care of the people who took care of
was drained, I was really sad because I
me to really take the time to listen to
me.” By this time he was working as
felt like I wasn’t doing anything fulfilling
myself, to be true and authentic to
the Marketing Operations PM in Styling,
for myself, and I fell into a really dark
myself, and [he] really coached me and
“TNFE was just a way for me to just
place. I didn’t know who Doug was. I
encouraged me to share that part of me
dump all my thoughts, my experiences,
really felt like I was going through life,
with all my friends and family.”
my creativity all in a place,” Ta’a
just going through the motions.” After
continues. “I’m a huge advocate of
launching TNFE Ta’s creative world
Ta’a came out to his family in
being able to share my testimony and
opened up, even creating modeling and
November of last year, “It was one of
creativity in any way that I can… but at
collaborative community opportunities,
the best decisions that I’ve made,”
the same time, it couldn’t be too raw of
but it was through connecting with
Ta’a explains cheerfully. The constant
a journal. I guess I was a little scared at
someone special that made all the
fear and internal questioning about
first, putting it all out there.”
difference — this is when Ta’a met
being judged, what people would say,
Seth. “When I first met him there was
and if he would lose those close, is
an instant connection. I was able to
something that every person who has
connect, and he really took the time to understand me, which is why I don’t think it’s a coincidence that our paths crossed. He was going through a very similar circle of just trying to understand
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For the longest time I felt like I was ashamed to go to God. I felt like I was disappointing him, and I was so confused. I was like,
‘If this is so bad then why do I have these feelings?’
56 “come out” can relate to. Luckily, Ta’a
to me. For the longest time, I felt like
mental illness, to walk through life as
had Seth in his corner who explained
I was ashamed to go to God. I felt like
a queer man of color, and to swallow
lovingly, “Doug, people are always
I was disappointing Him, and I was so
the adversities that are sent your way
going to have something to say about
confused. I was like, ‘If this is so bad
and turn them into opportunities.
you, whether good or bad.” This gave
then why do I have these feelings?’ I
Through TNFE Ta’a was able to create a
Ta’a the confidence he needed to step
would pray about it.”
platform for himself that not only led to
into his truth and shed some of that
leadership roles in the fashion industry,
self-loathing that had been fueling his
Through support from family, friends,
modeling gigs, and community support
depression. “Whether [people approve]
and continued effort to seek support
in his artistic endeavors, but it affirmed
or not, people are always going to have
for his depression, Ta’a was able to
the person he always knew he could
something to say. So I shouldn’t allow
move past a lot of that fear. Now he has
be. “It’s still a journey,” Ta’a tells us
that to hold me back from really living
accepted the love of his God
honestly. “Mental health is not just one
life to the fullest,” Ta’a says.
and his partner Seth, without
and done thing. It’s a journey and you
the guilt, confusion and self-loathing
definitely have to maintain it. You have
that he had struggled with for so long.
to protect your peace, and you have to
But being accepted by family and friends was only the beginning. As a
protect your happiness and your joy.
Christian Ta’a had always struggled
Living authentically is a freeing
That’s why I share my story, and that’s
with coming to terms with his sexuality,
experience, one that not everyone
why I talk about mental health
“That’s been the hardest part because
has the courage to attempt. It takes a
so openly and outwardly.”
I do 100 percent believe in God,” Ta’a
powerful person to admit to needing
explained. “My faith is super important
help in a world that still stigmatizes
*TNFE is no longer up but Ta’a plans on resuming it soon. Stay tuned. In the meantime follow him on Instagram @dougtaa.
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“Lion’s Run” View Into How The One Percent Live Supercars Golden Chalices and Decadent Meals
Story Maren Schwarz
Portopiccolo, Italy. The sun is about to set and creates
of golden chalices, the most expensive watches on their
view of the sea. Some people are drinking Spumante
slippers on their feet and a high-end satisfying concierge
Run members are having dinner on a terrace with a
while a young woman accompanied by a piano sings
Lionel Richie’s “All Night Long.” The setting is
nothing but happy faces, fancy dresses, and elegant
wrists from Pratek Philippe to Rolex, the latest Prada
service wherever they go.
Escorted by the police, we left Rome and headed to the
suits. This otherwise quiet fishing village located on the
Vallelunga race track to let the cars do what they do
beyond what the affluent couples on the terrace could
to their limits under the heat of the Italian sun. Then
Adriatic Sea was about to experience true extravagance begin to muster.
By the afternoon, 40 extraordinary cars entered the
small town. The sound of several motors filled the air —
best: race! Lap after lap the drivers pushed their cars
we went to Porto Ercole to Argentario Golf Resort,
which has been endlessly applauded for its design and landscape architecture. We enjoyed ourselves at the
pool: cocktails with top-shelf liquor in the water and
roaring — showing off their power. A visual and audible
girls in bikinis included. And of course a top-notch
Where are all these privileged people staying? At Falisia,
in golf caddies so we didn’t have to walk because you
cue that the “Lions Run” family had officially arrived.
a luxury resort and spa — with a private parking garage to make sure the cars were in that same lap of luxury as their drivers.
“Lions Run” is a supercar experience based in Munich, Germany. It has grown for the last six years, bringing
service from the hotel. The employees drove us around know, Prada slippers. Later we relished a very scenic
dinner night on the terrace. Some of the members
went to bed early, enjoying their amazingly luxury suits
and some private time. Others stayed on the terrace for some more Spumante, sweet liquor shots and
shenanigans. The literal finale of the night? Stunning
the rich and famous to the most beautiful places all over
fireworks, just for us.
is now a huge event with participants from all over the
I began to realize it was about more than the cars. It was
fee — around $10,500 U.S. dollars — can register.
with your peers in an idyllic vineyard in the middle of
Europe. What started as a trip for friends and family
world. Anyone with a supercar and the €9,450 entrance
about living the lifestyle. It was about spending time
This year’s run was a route through Italy, Austria, and
Tuscany, driving through romantic landscapes on our
Portpiccolo via Velden to Budapest.
displaying the cars and being treated superstar-like
Hungary: From Rome to Porto Ercole, Florence and
We started in Rome with an extravagant dinner,
followed by a banging afterparty at the Toy Room
Club full of neon-signs with phrases like “Bow Down
Bitches.” From that day on, the members of the tour
experienced seven days living large and as glamorous as
they are. Think: Champagne at every turn, drunk out
a warm, rose-gold hue above the sea. The elite Lion’s
way to Florence, parties in the middle of public places, by the onlooking car admirers and curious. We drove
through beautiful Slovenia, took baths in hidden
mountain tarns, had a family-style dinner on the lakeside of Wörthersee and then.
Finally, we drove all the way to Hungary about 310
miles at 95 degrees. I expected it to be very exhausting, but the routes were almost empty, we could race:
Overtakings, fighting for the pole position to lead the
drive their Lamborghinis, Ferraris, and Bugattis to endlessly pricey experiences.
group and collectively breaks with lots of laughter and
Even with the endless indulgences and seemingly no
whether or not the nearby towns had anything to say
that they had connected on another level — one much
entertaining the whole petrol station. Kings of the road,
worries amongst the “Lions Run” family, it became clear
deeper than yacht amenities or where one of their new
The Club drove a couple hundred miles for a
experiences, but even the most far fetched adventure has
phenomenal last dinner at Four Seasons and a wild
party night at the LOCK Club — a night designated
toys would take them. Money can buy a lot of lavish
much less value in life when experienced alone.
champagne a day is fantastic.
“I met incredibly good people at these runs. We all became friends. I really love all of them. That doesn’t mean that new members are not welcome. Quite the contrary! We include new people from day one – and at some point, they are just part of the “Lions Run” madness just like us, like we ‘ve known each other for years,” Dino Sadino, a 36- year- old designer from Germany and proud “Lions Run” member says.
It’s far too easy to get comfortable in this world and
Lions Run is more than just a rally for the wealthy as it
especially for Lion’s Run. The number of Dom Perignon bottles popped could only represent a fraction of the
overindulgence and celebration of wealth that arose at
sometimes mysterious, and mostly newly rich meet to
the end of the trip. The goal: feel like superstars. Goal:
accomplished. We didn’t even need the woman on the
piano to perform Lionel Richie’s “All Night Long,” for us, if you know what I mean.
Let’s be honest, driving through Europe in expensive
cars, sleeping in amazingly comfortable beds in five-star hotels all over the continent, lounging about on fancy boats and beach clubs, along with at least one glass of
lifestyle. The lifestyle becomes a drug. You become
may seem. It’s an experience. It is a way of life. People
of wealth. There are so many highs, so many days filled
show their latest Hermès bag or Gucci slippers, but to
quickly forget about the lows in life.
low low price of two to 19 million dollars for a supercar
addicted to this trip — to the excess and celebration with laughter and joy, and exclusive events that you
Most of what I experienced fit the preconceived ideas about supercar events, where all the glamourous,
join this event every year, sometimes twice a year, not to
spend quality time with those they can connect.. At the and the $10,500 entry fee, you too could be a part of the
“Lions Run” family.
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THE POWER OF THE POLE Volume 02
S tr i p p i n g D o wn T o T h e D i vi n e Feminine With Lux Atl Story Alex Frane Photography Courtesy of Lux ATL
Gregarious and outspoken with a thick Virginian accent, Dr. Lindsay
Byron known as LUX ATL online, began her foray in stripping right after high school in Greensboro, North Carolina. She and her then
boyfriend had a vacation planned in Europe he totaled his truck and
needed the trip funds to fix it. Lux found the solution at an amateur
stripping contest with a prize of $300, which was a decent enough haul
in 1999. But to her, it meant more than that.
Since then, Lux has transformed her long experience as a stripper into a series of programs, retreats, and empowering talks to inspire women
of all ages to explore their own identities, sexuality, and expression. In her day to day, and has a Ph.D. in English with a focus on Fin de
Siècle American literature, and a background in academia. She’s a writer,
educator, mother, wife, and entertainer attempting to strip down to the divine feminine.
“On a very surface level I was trying to win that money and go on our
trip,” she says, “but really I was trying to fix old wounds. I was accused
of being a slut my whole life and was punished for it, and now I was in an arena where I could weaponize it. It made me a local rockstar and a lot of money,” Lux explains.
Lux won the competition and was hooked, so when she moved to
Richmond for college she stripped throughout. Later, her master’s
program took her to Lafayette, Louisiana where there wasn’t much
opportunity for stripping. She had completely quit by the time she
arrived in Atlanta for her Ph.D., where she met her husband and had a son. At the age of 30, she was laden with student debt, and getting ready to graduate with a Ph.D. “I had a shit-ton of student debt, and
the academic industry is fucking horrifying. The reality was coming to
me that I needed to make money.”
So she went back to the clubs, and again, it was deeper than money. “I
had just turned 30, had just become a mom, and I
spent the first year of motherhood sitting on my ass
breastfeeding, and watching documentaries. I wanted
that baby and that family and I don’t regret a bit of it, but I felt like life had ended. This person that I used
to be was a story I told myself about the past. It was
She was stripping in Atlanta, all the while teaching just up the street at Georgia Tech. “Clearly I was trying to
destroy my academic career,” she says both jokingly and
in retrospect. During her time teaching at Georgia Tech the stigmatization of her pole dancing career wielded
its ugly head. Someone had drawn a ten-foot-high
ejaculating phallus on the whiteboard. This class was
almost entirely male. Understanding that this would only be the beginning, she never applied for another term.
Done with academia and not wanting to spend the
rest of her life stripping, she wondered how she could
“combine the stripper with the Ph.D,” as she puts it.
While earning money dancing she was developing the online presence for Lux ATL, including a Facebook
page where she posted pole-dancing videos, meditations
on the industry, politics, and sexuality. All of which gave people a glimpse into her charismatic personality. At
the time, pole dancing was a burgeoning hobby, and a
number of her videos went viral in the community. She knew that pole dance teachers could make a business
of it, and that these women were hungry for something
more, something affirming and liberating. Lux knew she
could provide that and developed a program to do so: Stripcraft.
One part discussion, one part dance and performance class — Stripcraft quickly took off. Lux would tour around the
country, driving up to 100,000 miles a summer to bring her
Stripcraft to pole dance studios and other areas for classes of around a dozen women. The
“Lux wanted to create a space for women to escape to so that they could explore their own identities and sexuality free from the oppressive judgment of a patriarchal society.”
first half would be a discussion or lecture on shame,
feminism, sex, passion, and society. In the second half,
the women would dance for one another. “It’s stripper-
style dance, what I learned in the strip clubs,” she
explains. “These women are dying to do this shit, they’re dying to get sexy, they’re dying to get their tits out.” Stripcraft was the start, but Lux wanted to create
a space for women to escape to so that they could
explore their own identities and sexuality free from the
oppressive judgment of a patriarchal society. She wanted to take everything she loved about the strip club — the
sexiness, the movement, and passion — and take
Out of this Stripcabin was born in 2016 with a dozen or so
women paying $300 each for a stay in a cabin where they could safely explore these things. Stripcraft remained the foundation of it all, but Stripcabin allowed for a more in depth learning space. It included dance classes, discussions, socializing, and workshops.
Lux knew Stripcabin needed to grow. She hired a business
manager, raised the price to $3,000, and rented a lodge with three buildings, pool, movie theater, catering, and other
teachers to lead workshops. That too has expanded with trips to an actual Scottish castle for Stripcastle, Costa Rica for
Stripcabana, and New Orleans for Stripcoven. She would often host six retreats a year.
Her guests are fairly diverse, with ages ranging from the midto-late twenties into the fifties, though her largest age group
of clientele is women in their early-to-mid thirties. Many are
repeat customers, sometimes six or seven times. Stripping, both metaphorically and literally is an aspect of the retreats. “The
literal [act of stripping] is a good way to have people in their
bodies, feeling good, and being vulnerable,” says Lux, while the
“the metaphor ical [act of strippin g] is about strippin g down the walls that women build up”
out the things she didn’t, namely the male consumptive gaze.
metaphorical [act of stripping] is about stripping down the walls
that women build up around themselves. “They’ve got all this real shit going on inside, and they close the door on it, and for good
reason because there are very real consequences in this world. The point is a connection with self, connection with each other, and
being present in the moment; there’s an element of sensuality, and an embodiment of divine femininity.”
Resorts in Scotland and Costa Rica aren’t cheap, and Lux admits that one aspect of her clients’ demographics is that they have
enough to afford it, so her next plan is Stripcamp in tents and cabins at more accessible prices. And while she is in no way
planning on abandoning her retreats, today her focus is on her
memoir, which reflects on the integration of the two parts of her
life that once were at odds: her passion for stripping, and her place in academics.
Lux explains, “At the heart of my memoir is that I spent so much time thinking that I had to be one or the other and that I was
fucked up and wrong. I thought I had to kill one side of me for
the other to exist. I’ve gone full ho and full nerd to try to be to the
‘right’ kind of person, but the person who brought me the most joy
and success is the two of them together.”
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They say there’s never been a better time
and regulations, the government bodies
into or taking over an existing cannabis
to get into the cannabis industry. With
leading the effort still have very little
company then strip that company from
more and more states legalizing cannabis
knowledge of what they are dealing
any personality it had and cookie-cut it
use and with a new proposed bill that
with. The effect of the drug war has
into another white-labeled brand that
will federally decriminalize cannabis, it
left scar tissue in multiple areas. One of
focuses on what’s trending… If I hear
appears a new gold rush is upon us. If
those areas is education and the lack of
one more investor say a company should
so, why are so many cannabis businesses
proper enlightenment. Much like talking
focus on gummies I’m going to drown
being pushed out and returning to the
about sex, the use of cannabis is still an
myself in a ebb-and-flow!
uncomfortable conversation filled with misinformation and outright lies. This has
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created a major issue for those states
PRICE GAPS, EMPLOYEES VS. CEOS
that have allowed counties and cities
WHEN THE BIG COMPANIES TAKE
For many states, the legislative path
to decide if and where cannabis can be
OVER, WHO REAP THE BENEFITS?
to legalization, whether medical or
sold, manufactured and grown. Elected
Definitely not the patients, nor the
recreational, has been an upward battle.
officials attempt to design a legal
employees. If MedMen is any indication,
For those states that have achieved
program yet have little to no experience
those that profit are ones at the
changing the state law, the battle is still
in cannabis. The lack of quality, up-to-
top. With just a quick scroll through
real. Constantly changing regulations,
date information is still slow to reach
cannabis jobs on Indeed, it won’t take
erratic enforcement, and overly
those designing the details of these laws.
long to realize that the open jobs for
barrier to entry for many. The high-cost
SHARK INVESTORS IN THE TANK
a fast-food franchise. Cannabis positions
along with the slow-road and stagnant
One of the most unfortunate aspects of
being offered barely cover a living wage,
process has made it almost impossible
the evolution of the cannabis industry is
many of them hovering the minimum
for the mom & pop shops and boutique
the flood of investors that have trampled
wage, in the cities where jobs are
cannabis companies to survive.
and crushed an industry built on a
located. Cannabis CEO salaries, however,
movement of compassion for patients
are 45% more than the national average.
over profits. For investors looking to
You do the math.
In the states that have accepted
cash-in, cannabis seems like an easy
cannabis and are working out their laws
gig. They can find their way in by buying
bureaucratic processes build a large
employment pay less than a manager at
THE DISPENSARY DILEMMA & LACK
generational growers who have been
have a whole other story that dates
struggling to get licensed, jumping
back to the lates sixties in the Bay Area.
As a small business, getting your product
through regulatory hoops that can take
I began collecting pot seeds in ‘96 when
to market is always a huge concern. The
years to process, now having to deal
I was twelve years old.” But it wasn’t
concern becomes a panic if you live in
with new and approved government
until high school that he was successful
a region with few dispensaries because
threats and raids. Today, satellite
at started some seeds, and over the
of heavy regulation. To add to this
images can easily let law enforcement
last decade that he really started
panic, most dispensaries that do sell
know where and who is growing. With
getting serious about producing quality
legal products lack variety, carrying the
cannabis in the collective conversation
sun-grown cannabis flower using only
major brands that focus on low price
more than ever, communities are finding
points over quality. For some reason,
ways to make sure the indoor grow or
dispensaries also like to fill their shops
backyard garden is reported due to the
Langhoff also got serious about his
with open space instead of products,
smell or just plain fear. Even though
role in the medical cannabis industry
leaving little shelf space for small
statistics show that legal cannabis has
of California. “I was a cannabis grower
cannabis companies just starting out.
been safer than the illegal market, the
who supplied medical cannabis to
But wait, it gets worse! Many of those
fear of cannabis is still real for most
dispensaries, concentrates makers and
dispensaries are now charging brands
communities with legal cannabis use. It
edible companies.” Which I personally
to be on the shelves. Pay-to-Play has
seems everyone wants a piece of the
can attest to. During the life of my
become the norm in states like California,
financial cannabis pie, but “not in my
medical cannabis edibles company,
once again increasing the barrier to entry
backyard” continues to be the loudest
Langhoff produced the flower we used.
for smaller companies.
voice in most communities.
TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING?
THE STRUGGLE TO SURVIVE
Once a scarce commodity, cannabis is
now being mass-produced and industrial
The drug war is far from over. Even as
cultivation has only just begun. When
the treaties are being drawn in states
Sonoma County [California] would not
this happens, an overabundance allows
with legal cannabis, landmines are still
grant vested permits to people who
those few dispensary buyers the ablility
exploding and the cannabis warriors
started businesses. Meaning that if the
to demand a bottom of the barrel
just trying to save lives are still catching
regulatory system changed and banned
price, which is seldom passed on to
shrapnel. Shockwaves of this new legal
production then my business would not
the consumer. This also pushes out
industry continue to produce painful
be protected and grandfathered in. This
the smaller companies who don’t have
collateral damage. The new cannabis
caused me to want to watch from the
the margins that the larger corporate
industry still has massive hurdles to
sidelines and observe before plunging
cannabis companies have. So what is the
overcome with the lack of diversity and
into this unknown new business model.
small cannabis company to do with their
inclusivity, so the struggle continues.
The hardest part of ending my large-
goods when there are no outlets to sell
Maintaining or becoming a boutique
scale production is that I enjoy being a
and no one to subsidize a commodity
cannabis company gets more difficult
student and there is still so much for me
So what kept Langhoff from entering
the recreational cannabis market? “There is a myriad of factors. The number one reason is undoubtedly that
that quickly begins to lose value? With
each day. Even smaller companies who
to learn and ways for me to grow as a
the inability to sell direct to consumers
finally got licensed and have survived
under the current regulations, that leaves
the difficult, painful, confusing, and
them in a bind.
at times, impossible process, are still experiencing vertigo.
BACK TO BLACK
Langhoff points out, “The black market is booming in California and healthier than ever. The irony of prop 64 is it has
In Northern California, the historical hub
Jake Langhoff was born in Northern
actually reinvigorated the unregulated
of quality cannabis, CAMP raids are now
California are grew up around the
market like I haven’t seen in my adult
referred to as the Campaign Against Mom & Pops. Those
redwoods and cannabis grows. “My
life. This is mainly happening because
Dad and Uncle Artie were both guerilla
many of the high-quality large-scale
gardens in the pygmy forests. [They]
flower producers’ product is tied up in
the regulatory maze of the legal market,
Digital. “Filmmaking is something I have
and the Reaganesque drug war era style
been involved in for almost as long as
raids are targeting the unpermitted
cannabis and it rivals my passion for
farms all over the emerald triangle. As
growing.” Langhoff even co-created a
a result, wholesale cannabis prices are
feature narrative film about the weed
shooting back up to where they were
industry called “Green is Gold” (2016),
which chronicles some of the intricacies of the medical cannabis world in
Where does Langhoff see the cannabis
culture heading in the near future? “The biggest threat to the health of the
cannabis community isn’t government
Don’t believe the hype. The dust has
regulation but the folks in the community
yet to settle and the cannabis industry
not working together to define what we
continues to take in casualties every
want the cannabis industry to become
day. It’s no wonder the black market is
in this country. I’ve seen shops selling
on the uprise again. As they say, when
10 packs of seeds for over $300, I’m all
the system fails you, you create a new
for making money from your work, but
system. The legal cannabis market is
this is just plain greedy and unethical.
being designed for those that can afford
The sense of entitlement over cannabis
to play the exclusive capitalist game.
strains is disheartening, and cannabis
Leaving behind people that fought for
genetics and the ability to grow and
legalization, and many of those that
consume herb should be more accessible.
have sacrificed everything to build the
The idea that a bunch of white guys in
cannabis industry, in the dark.
northern California is the reason there is quality cannabis genetics is historically wrong and just another example of our country’s amnesiac insistence on white exceptionalism. If we’re going to really be honest about where these genetics originated then give credit to the great cannabis cultures that have survived centuries of political change, war, and upheaval. This also makes me think that today many of the people in this country that are receiving the harshest sentencing for cannabis-related infractions are people of color. The racism in the cannabis industry is easy to see and as a community, we can’t lose sight of how hostile many areas in this country are towards cannabis users, especially those of color.” No longer in the legal cannabis industry, Langhoff and his wife Califa run a full-service video production and digital media company called Witsch
Find Jake Langhoff and Witsch Digital on Instagram @witschdigital or witschdigital.com
SPICE UP YOUR MORNING TOAST Story Awanthi Vardaraj Photography Jay Schober The smell of bread bhajis seeped through the walls of
my bedroom located above the kitchen of our home in Southern India. The scent of bhaji and vadais
• 2 eggs
frying would rise up to my room and make me stop
• 4 tablespoons milk
dawdling and hurry downstairs for breakfast. On
Sundays, eggs were served sunny side up — but on
• 3/4 teaspoon chilli powder
school days — we’d eat a variety of carefully spiced
• 1/2 teaspoon garam masala powder
dishes such as bread bhaji, Bombay toast, bread
• 4 tablespoons finely chopped onions
vadai, and bread upma, in which bread played a
• 4 tablespoons finely chopped coriander leaves
starring role. These dishes are glorious, and also fairly
• Butter for frying
simple to prepare, which is why they landed on the
• 4 slices of bread cut into triangles
breakfast menu on busy school mornings. It wasn’t until I traveled more as an adult that I really began to appreciate bread for breakfast, and in turn found ways to get my fix wherever I woke up that day. Indeed, bread bhajis are my favorite bread-based dish; gram flour (also known as besan) is combined
1. Break the eggs into a bowl and whisk them with the milk, salt, spices, onions, and coriander leaves. 2. Soak the bread in the egg mixture and then cook on a skillet or in a frying pan with a knob of butter. 3. Serve hot.
with spices such as chili powder, coriander powder, and turmeric, and made into a batter with soda water. Slices of bread are cut into halves and each half is dipped into this batter until the mixture thickly coats the bread on both sides. The bread is then fried until it turns a golden hue. It is served plain and piping hot, but as a child I enjoyed dipping it in tomato ketchup. I once madly hunted for gram flour in Amsterdam because I was craving a taste of home. I struck gold when I found an Asian supermarket that had an aisle dedicated to Indian ingredients. I pounced on the package marked “besan Indian flour” and carried it back to the hostel along with assorted spices and red chili flakes (they didn’t have the chili powder I wanted). That night I treated myself — and several
new friends — to bread bhajis that almost tasted as good as the ones my grandmother made. It was a moment of utter bliss and sharp sadness for me. There is nothing quite like food to render you homesick and help you appreciate the simplest reminders of home. During my travels, I found myself consistently reaching into fond childhood memories for those comforting breakfast recipes. Another craving that needed satisfying on my travels was Bombay toast. I’ve never seen it on a menu, but almost every Indian home has their own recipe for Bombay toast. You’re familiar with French toast, of course, but what about Bombay toast? Bombay toast is the Indian equivalent of French toast, but instead
of dipping slices of bread in a sweet eggy mixture, it’s dipped in a savory eggy mixture instead. Eggs are beaten with chili powder, turmeric powder, and salt, then coriander leaves are chopped fine and added to the mix. Slices of bread are soaked in the mixture before being cooked in a skillet with a little butter. I cannot begin to tell you how delicious this is. When I was traveling in Italy I so badly wanted bread vadai like the ones I’d eaten growing up, but I had never made it before, and I didn’t have the recipe. I bought a phone card (this was in pre-mobile days) and called home, desperately wanting the recipe. I still remember standing at the payphone and writing instructions down in my travel journal, as my mother told me how to grind the bread until it resembles coarse crumbs, and how to add yogurt, chopped onions, chopped mint, and chopped coriander to the mixture, before shaping them into flat discs that would then have to be deep-
BREAD VADAL • 6 slices white or whole wheat bread • 2 medium onions finely chopped • 2 green chillies finely chopped • 1 teaspoon garam masala powder • Handful of mint finely chopped • Handful of coriander finely chopped • Salt to taste • 1 teaspoon grated ginger • 1/2 teaspoon cumin • 4 tablespoons corn flour • 2 tablespoons yogurt • 2 tablespoons water
fried. I recreated the recipe as she instructed, but
had to leave out the coriander because I couldn’t
1. Break the bread up into pieces and then blend
find any. But I was so pleased with how the vadai
them in the blender until they resemble coarse
turned out; I made myself some hot tea to sip and
crumbs. Set aside.
settled down to watch the rain outside while I ate
2. Fry the onions until limp and transparent.
my vadais. It was a comforting evening, and one that
3. Add the chillies and the ginger to the onion
made me feel closer to the home I’d left behind.
mixture and sauté well. 4. Combine all the ingredients together in a large
But there was a glorious weekend in London where
bowl. It should bind well together, but in case it
everything I needed for bread upma — including
doesn’t, sprinkle a little water and gather into a
freshly chopped coriander leaves — came together
beautifully. An upma is usually a thick porridge-like dish made out of dry-roasted semolina or coarse rice
5. Tear off small pieces of dough and flatten them into discs. Do this until the dough is all used up.
flour, but my grandmother’s bread upma combined
6. Heat oil in a fryer or in a wok and fry the vadais
the best of both worlds and was cooked “dry,” but
(the discs) until they are golden brown on both
coated with a mixture of yogurt, tomatoes, and fried onions. It was one of my favorite comfort foods growing up, and it was a pleasure to make it for friends in London, who had never eaten bread in quite that way before. It was a lovely revelation to them, and I was pleased that I was a part of it. Want to try your hand at eating bread the Indian way no matter what side of the globe you wake up on? Check out the recipes for Bombay toast and bread vadai, and have fun recreating it in your own kitchens.
sides. 7. Work in batches and don’t overcrowd the wok or the fryer with the vadais. 8. Serve hot.
movement Volume 02
around death and dying 76
Story Jennifer Stavros People love to talk about the journey
religion, or politics. Death, after all,
death cafes in 65 countries. Each of
of life. The tougher, often more taboo
is associated with pain and loss and
these are completely nonprofit and
topic, is the discussion of the end of
run by volunteers. Some are one-offs,
that journey. Death. It’s happening though at death cafes across the U.S.
others are ongoing and have been Death Cafes are making that journey a
operating for many years.
bit easier. “Our objective is to increase Death Cafes are places that give folks
awareness of death with a view to
The death positivity movement is an
of all ages the opportunity and forum
helping people make the most of their
inclusive and eclectic menagerie of
to discuss end-of-life wishes and
(finite) lives...an accessible, respectful,
characters and backgrounds. They are
anything related to death and dying.
and confidential space with no intention
all looking to peel back the taboos and
While Death Cafes are not meant to
of leading people to any conclusion,
conversation about death that Bernad
be a replacement for therapy, they
product, or course of action,” the Death
Crettaz called the “tyrannical secrecy.”
are a safe space to discuss death
Cafe website touts.
Attending a Death Cafe is a warm Jon Underwood started his first Death
experience. It is part of a movement
Most young people have no plans in
Cafe in 2011 in East London. He
towards bringing positivity to the
place because, seemingly, they have
was inspired by Cafe Mortel, run by
inevitable. The path to death is a
their whole lives ahead of them. As
sociologist Bernard Crettaz for several
journey that the death positivity
time catches up, it becomes harder
years in Switzerland and Paris. By the
movement firmly believes should be
and harder to have that inevitable
time Crettaz stopped organizing Cafe
met with understanding and calm.
conversation. Talking candidly about
Mortel in 2014, Jon Underwood had
Death Cafes are not exclusively held
death with loved ones is often more
helped create a worldwide movement.
in actual cafes. They can be hosted
uncomfortable to discuss than sex,
These days, there are more than 8,227
anywhere. Death Cafes can be small
and intimate or vast and spread out in
in Pasadena, California explained the
Despite the different formats, locations,
one big venue with massive numbers
surprisingly open-ended nature of
and participants, each Death Cafe
of people. There’s no set format. They
discussions. “As a Death Cafe facilitator,
provides an array of heartfelt stories
differ depending on who’s hosting
it’s always a wonder to see how each
shared from folks exploring and coming
them, how they’re programmed, and
Cafe will manifest: Who will attend,
to terms with their own mortality. They
where they’re held.
who will share, who will leave feeling
are not necessarily religious or spiritual,
better for being at that table. One Cafe
instead, they are about finding ways
Because death is perceived differently
that remains with me is one where 3
to survive, and when the time comes,
depending on your place of origin, each
millennial women who did not know one
perhaps plan their last moments as best
Death Cafe can be radically different
another were there for the same reason:
as they can.
as well. A death cafe in London where
They are all terrified and obsessed with
The founder of the Death Cafe
they originated, for example, might look
death. My Job: What can we do to shift
movement, Jon Underwood, died
very different than one in Los Angeles.
that? Let’s talk more!”
unexpectedly in 2017. The events
In London, you might see a Death Cafe
continue on as a result of his desire
hosted in the woods near a famous
While many death cafes are hosted
to open up discussion about death in
cemetery or in a historic church. In
by death industry professionals such
a healthy, positive way. These Death
Los Angeles, however, you might see
as death doulas, psychiatrists, or
Cafes and Underwood’s surprising
a Death Cafe hosted in an office of a
caretakers who work in the space, there
death have affected people of all ages,
is no requirement as to who can host or
and are a way to remember, embrace,
attend them. This often brings forth a
and cherish the fragility of life.
Margaret Yenoki, a death industry
dynamic group of guests.
professional who hosts monthly cafes
“There’s a power in this energy. I don’t have that fear of death anymore. I can’t control everything. I’m going to go with the changes. I don’t want to fear whatever is going to happen.” ‑Anonymous
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exploring and coming to terms with their own mortality. They are not necessarily religious or spiritually linked but they can be...â&#x20AC;?
C O M M O D I F I C AT I O N O F
‘BLACKNESS’ IN THE FASHION INDUSTRY
A N D W H AT Y O U C A N D O D I F F E R E N T LY Volume 02
AS A CONSUMER
Story Laura LeMoon FROM KIM KARDASHIAN TO FASHION NOVA, take a look at mainstream clothing producers current clothing lines and you’ll notice many high-fashion pieces that appropriate black fashion. Black fashion often seen as baggy and athletic in a clothing style referred to as “streetwear” (a moniker for fashion derived from Black culture and the culture of various communities of color in urban cities) have historically been worn by people of color living, and are now being sold for hundreds, if not thousands of dollars by white people to white people. It’s a style previously scorned by white Americans. White people — who if not profiting from producing the style — are wearing it out in public without the same consequences as a person of color may potentially face.
The Kardashian women, especially Kim and Kylie (the latter who is now the largest earning person in the family) have built careers off of producing streetwear for an absorbent amount of money, that people living in poverty very likely don’t have access to obtain. Even mega fashion online shopping conglomerates like Fashion Nova have been sued for ripping off fashion designs of up and coming women of color designers and then simultaneously selling that fashion back to WOC for an increased profit. One could call it
fashion colonization. Rich white people are pillaging people of color, specifically black women and their abilities to form businesses and thrive economically. One way to combat this “fashion colonization” is to support fashion designers of color. Get to know these five fashion designers, many who incorporate street wear without appropriation.
Left to right: Romeo Hunte FW16 Women’s Collection, Pyer Moss ‘Prequel to Resurrection’ Collection, and Telfar’s most popular women’s bag.
Telfar by Telfar Clemens is truly an innovative brand for creating gender-neutral styles. As reported by
Teen Vogue, Telfar was creating gender-neutral fashion at time when no one else was, not even the wealthiest of fashion brands. Telfar takes a minimalist and simplistic approach that looks both effortless and
highly couture. telfar.net PYER MOSS Pyer Moss “aims to use its voice and platform to challenge social narratives and evoke dialogue,” according to its website. Known for telling important and unheard narratives of what it means to be a Black person in America and a child of the Caribbean diaspora, founder Kerby Jean-Raymond is creating
ROMEO HUNTE Romeo Hunte is streetwear for the twenty-first century. Romeo brings us a world where androgyny rules and gender binaries drool. This is what fashion will look like across the board in another fifty years, but until then Romeo Hunte will stay way ahead of its time with futuristic Neoprene pieces and wraparound jackets. romeohunte.com
fashion with something to say. pyermoss.com
This brand is F-U-N — from T-shirts with the funky and colorful Lyfestyle logo — to hoodies for your
pup, you can support a brand fully producing and
headquartered in Brooklyn, NYC. Lyfestyle is street-
Venture into the world that Bonner creates through
wear by the people, for the people. T-shirts and shorts
their designs and it is clear that this designer
start at around $50, making it affordable to support
is creating space for Black spirituality, racial zen and
black New Yorkers making fashion for folks of color.
general new age awakenings without all of
the cliched patchouli, crystal deodorants and white appropriation of dreadlocks. Wales Bonner is a fresh,
It may be inconvenient to change your shopping
elevated approach what we think of as spiritually
habits, which to avoid buying into appropriation
“woke” fashion. walesbonner.net
means to have to do prior research on the designer and producers. It might also mean you have to forgo the status symbol of buying the standard Coach, Prada, Louis Vuitton, and Gucci. We buy into, eat and touch racism and economic oppression everyday. The least we can do as consumers is be aware of it in the fashion industry.
PREQUEL TO RESURRECTION /
here was a time that I thought having
a confident man would be amazing. I wanted a guy who would order my food at restaurants and someone
who would make me feel protected. I had that
“Intention” is a word that isn’t used much in relationships, unfortunately. If you really think about it, how many times have people been offended by the WAY that words are used? Quite
with my man for a long time. For the most
often, if we’re being honest. If you find that you
he’s perfect. But lately, he has started pointing
each other, there’s no shame in reaching out to a
part, he’s a great guy, and everyone thinks
out everything I do wrong. I now feel like I’m
have a hard time articulating your thoughts to relationship counselor.
walking on eggshells all the time. From my
account, he’s never really taken responsibility
excessive interest in their own image and self.
the crazy one. If I tell him something he said or
as egocentrism. A narcissist is far more extreme.
relationship. I am tired of being made out to be
did that hurt my feelings, he places the blame on me for interpreting his behavior this way. I am starting to question my own sanity. Am I
crazy? I don’t know what else to do. It’s hard to
But, what is a narcissist? Narcissists display
for the problems that we have had in our
make things right with a person who thinks the
world revolves around them, and they do no wrong. Is my relationship over?
Now, this is different from a similar concept known In layman’s terms, a narcissist is someone who loves themselves first and foremost to the point of only doing what will please themselves, and their image. Therein lies why you might question your sanity. Are you really overly offended and interpreting things in a negative way, or is your partner thinking only of his own image? Based on the way things are headed, you may never get to the bottom of it but the relationship may be well worth the extra effort if overall he
does make you feel protected and secure. And, if he truly turns out to have narcissistic tendencies,
You certainly have a lot on your relationship plate!
a professional could have some much needed
First, let me assure you that you are not crazy. In
insight for both of you.
fact, it’s quite normal to second-guess yourself when the one person whose opinion matters the most makes you feel as though your feelings and needs are inferior. It seems like you both have some pent-up emotions that have led to some bitter feelings. First things first: talk. Don’t wait until you’ve had an argument. Having an argument often leads to acts of defense, which usually exacerbate an already emotional situation. When our reactions are to defend our position in an argument, the messages we are trying to convey often don’t come across as intended. Stay away from blanket statements. Talk about how you feel about certain situations. If he says you took things the wrong way, ask what he intended by what he said. That gives him the opportunity to explain what his intention was.
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